We keep saying we have mother wounds, but what if the real injury is deeper than our mothers? In this episode, we ask the question no one wants to touch: Who are our mothers, really? Not the role they performed. Not the fears they passed down. But the person underneath all that patriarchal survival. Christabel and Kachi crack open a deeply personal conversation about rage, abandonment, girlhood, queerness, and what it means to love our mothers without excusing the harm. From forced obedience to ...
Jun 17, 2025•47 min•Season 5Ep. 2
Love & Rage — What Did You Inherit and What Are You Choosing? This is our first video upload. Let us know what you think! Should we do more videos? How do we honor our rage without becoming who harmed us? In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties , we talk about love and rage, what we inherited, what we’re choosing instead, and how we’re learning to hold both without abandoning ourselves. We speak as African daughters, as queer folks, as partners learning to fight fair, and as children unlearnin...
May 29, 2025•48 min•Season 5Ep. 1
In this raw and reflective episode of Rich Queer Aunties , Christabel and Kachi use the hit show Severance as a powerful metaphor for the emotional fragmentation many of us endure, especially queer, Black, immigrant, and formerly religious folks. Through deeply personal storytelling, they explore themes of reintegration, rage, community, grief, and the courage it takes to reclaim your full self in a world that rewards compartmentalization. From family estrangement to navigating therapy, medicine...
Mar 27, 2025•50 min•Season 4Ep. 4
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties , we dive deep into why relational skills are essential for our collective liberation . We explore the tensions between individualism, collectivism, and interdependence, unpacking how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy have shaped the way we relate to one another. Christabel and Kachi reflect on their personal journeys with repair, conflict resolution, and deepening relational skills , not just in friendships and romantic relationships, but also in ...
Feb 25, 2025•45 min•Season 4Ep. 3
Spirituality should bring us closer to ourselves, to each other, and to the land. But too often, we see people leaving oppressive religious structures only to recreate the same hierarchies, dogma, and isolation in their spiritual journeys. In this episode, we ask: Are we truly decolonizing our spirituality, or are we just replicating the same patterns with different language? We explore: ✨ How indigenous wisdom offers pathways to healing beyond Western individualism ✨ The ways colonial trauma sh...
Jan 30, 2025•43 min•Season 4Ep. 2
Healing Beyond the Master’s Tools: Therapy, Queerness, and Rediscovering Indigenous Wisdom In this deeply reflective episode, Christabel and Kachi dive into the layered complexities of healing as queer African immigrant women navigating Western therapeutic tools, cultural inheritance, and the longing for ancestral wisdom. They explore questions like: • Are the tools we’re using to heal truly liberating us? • What happens when therapy and mindfulness no longer feel like enough? • How do we reclai...
Jan 07, 2025•37 min•Season 4Ep. 1
In this heartfelt end-of-year episode, Christabel and Kachi sit down to reflect on 2024, its challenges, triumphs, and transformative lessons. From navigating healing journeys and embracing authenticity to setting bold intentions for the year ahead, this conversation dives deep into vulnerability, creativity, and the power of showing up fully in our lives. Join us as we share personal stories, honor growth, and explore what it means to let go of fear, lean into courage, and build a life rooted i...
Dec 25, 2024•30 min•Season 3Ep. 8
In this deeply personal episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we confront a difficult and often unspoken question: What do you choose when both anti-Blackness and homophobia are constant realities? As queer African women navigating these harsh truths, we share our stories of living between worlds - Christabel a nurse, and writer who immigrated to the U.S. from Ghana, and Kachi, a healer and Nigerian artist. As two queer women, we’re in Ghana right now, facing the challenges head-on to build a youth emp...
Nov 11, 2024•16 min
Show Notes: In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we bring it all together - how our personal journeys of healing and self-discovery are deeply connected to yours. After sharing our own vulnerable stories in the last two episodes, today we reflect on what it all means for you, our dear queer babies, and why your healing matters. Christabel and Kachi discuss the importance of storytelling in the healing process and how being open about our struggles can help others feel seen. We share lessons le...
Oct 08, 2024•30 min
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel's partner, Kachi, returns to the podcast to interview Christabel. They delve into Christabel's journey of healing through therapy, navigating complex PTSD, and embracing her authentic self. Christabel shares personal stories about her struggles with anger and emotional outbursts, her challenging experiences growing up in an abusive household, and her journey to self-worth and acceptance, despite the lack of support from her religious community. T...
Sep 17, 2024•52 min
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel welcomes a special guest, their partner Kachi, who shares their personal journey of self-discovery and healing. Kachi, an Igbo-American Nigerian artist and recovering engineer, delves into their transition from conforming to societal expectations to embracing their full, authentic self. They discuss the influence of culture, family, and identity on their path, including the pivotal moments of moving to California, growing their facial hair, and e...
Sep 03, 2024•1 hr 9 min
Welcome back to RichQueerAunties, I'm Christabel, your host - nurse leader, writer, and African auntie. Today's episode explores boundaries within the unique context of diasporic origins. Boundaries are often discussed but not in ways that fit our lived experiences. For many of us from the global South or with parents from there, boundaries are intricate. We grew up valuing community and family over individualism. So how do we begin to own our individuality while respecting our roots? Unhooking ...
Aug 13, 2024•24 min
Is a Lack of Authenticity Keeping You Stuck? Raise your hand if you're tired of feeling disconnected despite your success. You might think the problem is just about needing a break or figuring out your personal style or whatever else that has you feeling disconnected. But what if it's deeper? You've been told that these parts of your life are separate—your style, your career moves, how you should handle relationships. They sell you on quick fixes: “Use this outfit formula in order to curate your...
Aug 02, 2024•31 min
Hello, wonderful listeners! I’m excited to announce that the Rich Queer Aunties podcast is back! After a year-long hiatus, I’m returning with fresh insights and a renewed focus on empowering Black queer women to embrace their most authentic selves. In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey and the challenges I’ve faced, including my high ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) score and how it’s shaped my path. We’ll dive into the importance of authenticity and how to overcome societal condi...
Jul 21, 2024•21 min
This episode is sponsored by Rich Queer Aunties. Visit Rich Queer Aunties for all your fly RQA merch. In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties podcast, host Christabel invites guest Dan to share their journey from being raised as Jehovah's Witnesses and their spiritual journey afterwards. Dan, a multi-dimensional being who is an organizer, spiritualist, sorcerer, and abstract visual artist. Dan also uses sound and music as tools for healing and celebration. They discuss topics such as religious tra...
Jul 24, 2023•1 hr 27 min
Join me for a candid conversation on overcoming the fear of rejection and achieving self-actualization as a former Jehovah’s witness who came out as gay. Learn how embracing authenticity can lead to true fulfillment in life.
Apr 24, 2023•27 min
Please don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW and SHARE this little podcast of mine. It truly makes all the difference. Welcome to the latest episode of Rich Queer Aunties, where I'll be exploring the complex relationship between collectivism and individuality. Through personal anecdotes and cultural observations, I'll delve into how collectivism can both bind and liberate us. Join the conversation on this fascinating topic with me today! At 04:37, I'll be sharing a powerful example from Ghana, where coll...
Apr 07, 2023•34 min
Uncovering Authenticity: A Solo Episode on Love, Loss, and Learning to Heal Please remember to rate and write a review. It goes a long way to producing a successful podcast and we want nothing but success for my baby. •Don’t forget to visit www.richqueeraunties.com/shop for exclusive RQA merch and original art from Ghana. •follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/ Welcome back to the podcast, where we dive into all things authenticity, community building, and the luxurious lifestyle. But befor...
Mar 25, 2023•36 min
Is meme repost culture gaslighting you into thinking you’re doing the work? Doing the work irl and finding your people. In this episode, I talk about: Examining our beliefs Doing the work to figure out what’s yours and what’s not. Showing up fully in all our messiness to find our people instead of faking it till we make it Reposting mental health memes alone does not the work make. Listen, share, and let’s discuss.
May 25, 2021•24 min
Capitalism and pay me for my work: My struggle with the nuances therein. > How I broke my ankle > Feeling less alone by listening to the stories of others > How much I make as a nurse > I started a Patreon https://www.patreon.com/Christabelmintahgalloway. Become a patron if you’ll like to support me monetarily. > Why I priced/tiered my Patreon the way I did and why I need to keep my 9-5 job > Can I make a living doing what I love > Are these questions as a result of my indoc...
Feb 17, 2021•28 min
I’ve had many relationships over the years all with trials but none has been as impactful as my current one with my partner and that with my mom over our lifetime. I believe that our relationships can be outstanding teachers if we are in the right space to be a student. Otherwise, it becomes about blame game. Focusing on the other person’s shortcomings or how they’re toxic or and anything else that is not how we can learn about ourselves from that relationship. Disclaimer *this is not talking ab...
Dec 29, 2020•38 min
Back Like I never Left Here’s a quick update on what I’ve been up do in the last three months. To include: COVID- 19 emergency relief work in southern Texas I turned 35 during first hurricane ever! In Mexico!! Not being sure of who you want to be when you grow up Dealing with self-doubt, a different brain and a world that demands productivity Healing from religious indoctrination in order to find my voice (ps. still searching). And so many more...30 minutes of just chatting it up. I'll be back t...
Oct 08, 2020•32 min
Q&A : Coming out, skin care, organized religion, and more. In my first Q&A, I tackle questions asked on IG about how I came out, what my skin care routine is, what I think of organized religion after being an active participant in one for two decades. I loved all the questions that came through! I do think I missed a couple that we’re sent in my DMs because I couldn’t find it but there’ll be other opportunities to do this again in the future. Resource: @ihartericka on IG for antiracist e...
Jul 02, 2020•48 min
Aberrant Behavior - Black joy, white fragility, and everything in between An episode where I just ramble about a few things weighing on my mind to include: New white activists, I need an explanation on why you never saw racism until now. In fact, don’t answer that, it’s rhetorical. I believe you’ve always known, you just didn’t want to sacrifice that promotion by speaking up. While it’s great for the collective human race that you’re choosing to be co-conspirators, just know that there’s a menta...
Jun 16, 2020•24 min
Not Racist? Not Enough! - How to become anti-racist. This is from my perspective as an African who wasn’t always anti-racist. Being Black wasn’t enough for me, I had to become actively anti-racist. Many Black activist resist the idea of teaching anti-racism to white people and NBPOC because they are tired. I still have some energy so let’s go! Not being racist is the bare minimum, you don’t get cookies for it. And this goes for all Africans or non American Black people, people of color and other...
Jun 03, 2020•35 min
Aberrant Behavior Episode 5 - Liberation from Subconscious Conditioning In this episode, I talk about how most of our behaviors and what we consider our personalities are as a result of subconscious conditioning. As always, I draw from my experience. When I wanted to change behavior patterns that were no longer serving me, I thought it was a matter of willpower but after that failed me time and time again, I decided to dig deeper. Some of the things I talk about are: How I got to a place where I...
May 23, 2020•42 min
Aberrant Behavior Episode 4 - Spankings and Slavery In this episode, I talk specifically to black parents, guardians and caregivers. I wanted to facilitate a conversation about the devastating effects of spankings within the black family. I talk from my perspective as a kid who received many spankings growing up and how that affected me detrimentally. I was only able to identify said detrimental effects when I started doing the work of healing from my many traumas. This is my attempt to start a ...
May 16, 2020•31 min
Aberrant Behavior - Religion and Internalized Homophobia In this episode, I delve into my long and complex relationship with religion and why I had to let it go if I was ever to love myself deeply. I have nothing against religion as a whole because I recognize it’s role in providing comfort and hope to many people as it did for me. Plus, faith and belief is a deeply personal thing that I don’t really think I have room to comment on another person’s faith walk. My mental health required that I le...
May 05, 2020•27 min
*Trigger warning: Domestic Violence, Self harm, suicidal ideation and other traumas* In my most vulnerable share to date, I talk about how an abusive childhood and a tumultuous teen years and early adulthood led me to seek help. The pitfalls along the way and how I came to have a deep understanding of my innate goodness and worth.
Apr 30, 2020•32 min
In this episode, I tell you my "why", why did I decide to start a podcast in a world with a million podcasts?
Apr 29, 2020•21 min
