Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you to think about. I definitely wanted to talk about this episode for a minute. When the chord isn't cut. Now, I'm just gonna be blunt with you. Some of you parents out there, shame shame, shame, shame on you. Some of you parents out there, you think you're helping your children. You think you're doing it the right way. You think it's a way to nurture your child. But all you're doing is hurting your child. When you don't cut that cord,
all you're doing is hurting your child. Now, let me say this. Some of you cut the cord out the wound. Shame on you too. Some of you cut the card the cord when the kids are.
Toddlers. Shame on you.
That's not what I'm talking about, but it does definitely happen. You cut the cord when they're teenagers. You cut the cord way too soon. You say you're a man, you're a woman. Some of you tell your children this. Some of your children are acting in the roles as the parents. It's reversed. That's not who I'm talking about in this episode. I have talked a little bit about that in other episodes. But I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about parents
who don't cut the cord. They have adult children who have no responsibility or accountability because the parents haven't cut the court.
That's who I'm talking about.
You make your children unfit to be husband, wives, girlfriends, and boyfriends. You make them unfit to be leaders, unfit in all areas of their lives because you didn't cut the court. You think it don't affect your child. It affects them greatly. It's the most pitiful thing you've ever seen. When you have an adult who court isn't cut.
It's pitiful.
These types of individuals ruin their relationships. They ruin their marriages, They ruin their relationships between them and their children, their family members, their friends. Because some parents just want to rule their lives.
Matter of fact, they rule.
Their lives, but they don't know how much they are ruining their lives.
Both are at fault, the adult child and the parents. Some dads, oh, my son or my daughter, they.
Don't never have to leave home, and the mom's the same way. The moms want their daughters sometimes to.
Stay home and they let them bring in their men.
And they do the same with some of the some of the sons, they let them bring in their women.
I mean, it's crazy. No respect, none, no respect. You teach your your children the men.
You teach them to go through life depending and mooching off of women and vice versa. When you're at the rescue of every single thing your child does, you don't teach them. When you feel your child can do no wrong, when half the time that's all they do, you.
Inhibit their growth. You teach them the wrong things.
And let me tell you this, Loving your child is what you're supposed to do, but you have to know when to cut that cord.
And I'm not saying kick them out and don't help them.
But you're the one supposed to instill into them.
How to maneuver through life.
You're the one supposed to instill them in them how to dream and want goals and ambition. But they never ever can reach that level. When you do every single thing for them. Many of them get in trouble and you come rite and rescue them when they should have learned a lesson and getting in trouble, but no, you come right to their rescue. They learn nothing. Some of them won't work, don't want to work because you're always coming to the rescue.
Oh, I can give it my baby whatever they want.
Your baby is thirty five years old, ma'am, or sir, your baby is thirty five years old, your baby is fifty. It ruins your children's lives. It causes them to be dysfunction dysfunctional. And I'm telling you what I know. I've seen it more times than I can count on my fingers and my toes. I've seen the problems it causes. I've seen it.
I've heard it.
When you don't cut that cord, it causes dysfunction. And the reason you don't cut that cord because of who you are, unhealed heart and mind. These parents are co dependent. They must have their children under their wing. These people are adults. You live vicariously through them. You are co dependent on them, not that they are giving you anything, but you're codependent because you're dependent on.
Them to be happy, for you to be happy. It is ridiculous, it really is.
And if you've never experienced it in your own life, meaning you you got involved with someone that you thought was you know, all of this and all of that, only.
To find out that the.
Court was never cut oh man, not a good situation to be in. So I want parents to understand you are to love your child unconditionally, but you also must allow your child to grow, and when they become an adult, you're supposed to cut that cord. Some of you, your children never left home, still live in your house, good and grown. Some of them drinking drug and got their significant others in there, just everything under your roof.
It's terrible to me.
That is not a proper way to parents, and I'm telling you it causes dysfunction in these adults lives. Everything Mom or Dad, I need?
Can I have? Will you? And you're right there?
Boom boom boom boom boom. No matter what, you're right there. They never learn anything, they never grow, They're still immature because if you because of what you taught, shame on you. And I mean it, I absolutely mean it, because the results are lasting, lasting effects, which leads to dysfunction. I've seen men who have never had the chords cut. It's ridiculous. They want the women in their lives to do everything for them, and some.
Of these women do.
Because of the unhealed part of who.
They are, because of their mindsets. It's just a mess.
All they do is bigger and fight, chaos and drama, self inflicted pain because that cord was never cut.
They never learn to stand on their own.
Some of these people have their own places, but they don't pay anything because a lot of them don't even have jobs. The parents take care of everything. Grown parents taking care of their I.
Mean grown children.
Parents are taking care of their car payments, their insurance, their mortgages.
Their rent.
Come on, now, what is that teaching your child? They know you love them, but they're using you. They're taking you for granted as their parents. But many parents don't care because of the mindsets that they have. It's terrible. It really is inconceivable. What people don't get it. Mothers and fathers think they're doing the best thing for their child. They think they're doing the best thing. Oh, I'm taking care of my baby, But you're not. You're not giving
them what they need. You're not telling them what they need to hear. They're not learning, they're not growing because you don't give them room to do so. And some don't even know how because you've never taught them.
The only thing they know is to be dependent on you. And guess what.
Some of them end up with children who they do the same thing with same behaviors. The cycle continues. Horrible. They have children, they don't even take care of the children. The parents take care of the children because the love.
That that grandparents.
Have for their children is different from the love that they have for their children. So now the parents taking care of the child, the adult child and the grands.
Ludicrous.
It's crazy. Those are them mama boys and them daddy girls.
Tough relationships to be in. Tough, tough, tough.
Because some of them parents, they will go to the death with you for them adult children. And nothing is wrong with being there for your child at all, but you have to cut that cord. It's necessary to cut that cord. You cannot be at the rescue of every single situation. They have to learn how to maneuver through.
Life on their own.
Adults are supposed to adult, but adult children can never get to that point when their.
Parents have them under their wings and.
Still have the chords attached. I just wanted to talk about it. This episode is not too long, but it's a necessary topic because I see it way, way, way, way too much and I think it's very pitiful. I really, really do to see grown adult children who still acting like children because they never had their chords cut. I don't care if you're from a wealthy family or not.
It does not matter.
I've seen it in all situations. Parents who do it, you cause dysfunction in your children's life.
That is fact.
I'm leaving it right there. I'm not saying anymore. I hope you understand. Please share. I end all my episodes the same, and I.
Pray you do it. Thank on it