Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad. Listen with something for you to think about. All right, I gotta ask you a question. And I'm asking this question because honestly, I can only shake my head to some of the things that I'm hearing people say. I remember when the podcaster I forgot his name, really he passed away, a black guy, so many people gravitated towards him. But his information was just wrong.
And people are continuing to give misinformation. And I've always told you that it's two groups in this world, the mature and the immature, point blank, the mature and the immature. And let me tell you it is a difference. It makes a difference in a person's life. So when it comes to relationships, what do you consider a ten? Many people consider a tend as a person who looks good, have a good job, have a nice salary, a person who has positioned him or herself nicely. That's what they
look for, things of that nature. But I'm telling you that is all right, it is okay, But those things are superficial. They will not make a relationship. They will not help you endure in whether you're storm's in a relationship. They will not People looking at the superficial. Listen, having a nice looking person, a person who has money if you have money, a person who have their own a person who who you know doing the thing that's great.
I do not knock anyone for that, but what I will say is, if you don't have it to bring to the table what you're looking for for, all you gonna do is cause yourself problems. You want something that you don't possess. I've always told you be who you want in your life. If you cannot give it, then why are you looking for it? It's gonna cause you problem. So people are looking for a ten when you're not a ten. To me, that makes no sense. You're looking for a ten. No one should be looking for a ten.
If you get a ten, that's fine, but that shouldn't be your goal looking for a ten because guess what, you just may get a ten according to what you think is a ten, but they really are too because they're tore up from the floor up internally, which is gonna spill out sooner or later when you get to know that person. You all got it wrong. You're looking for the wrong.
Things as a woman, as a woman who is a person who have worked hard, for everything I've ever had in life, I've always worked.
For what I have. I'm not looking for someone that is gonna drag me down. I'm looking for well, I'm not looking for anyone, but if I were, it would be someone to enhance my life, not to cause me problems and bring me down. So if you're looking for that, I understand that. But when you're putting labels on things, oh, he has to build ten or she has to build ten, that's ridiculous. And you will never find true happiness that way.
It's not in the looks. It's not in the titles and the positions and the status and the houses and the cars and the six or seven figures. It's not in that. You will never find love in that. Sof that's what you're looking for, you will always be looking. You will always be looking. You have to look for something that's sustainable, something that has substance. For me. Number one, I don't care how fine you are what you will have,
because hey, I got my own. I don't care. And I've always been that way, even when I didn't have anything. I've always been that way. I don't look at that. Well, let me rephrase that. That matters to a degree, because, like I said, you have to enhance my life, not bring me down, no doubt about it. But I've never been a person old. He has to be fine, and he has to this and that and blah blah blah blah. Because for me, as a woman and who I am right now, the first important thing to me, the most
important thing is is he a man of God? Do he live as a man of God? Do he want to talk? Because I believe if he's truly a man of God, he loved the Lord and he's serving the Lord. He's living for the Lord. God is his master. Let me tell you, I believe everything else is gonna fall into place. Yes, you're gonna have your issues here and there, but two people who are of equal yolp. They can
ride that storm together. But see when you're looking for oh he got he has to be fine and have the money and and the honey and this and that and and that and this. You're gonna always fall short. You're gonna always fall short. You can have arm candy all day, loan, but they are a terrible person. They're a terrible person. They're not a good person. They're not a mature person, So you have to look at things that has substance. Do they believe like you believe? Do
they have integrity? Do they know how to communicate? Do they know how to show love? Do they love themselves? Are they respectful? Because I've heard a lot of guys talk and they think they're all of this and that, but then they talk ignorant, they use the N word, and you know, just just talk just totally ridiculous and immature. A woman on that level, I think that is cute. But for me never, never, ever, ever, ever, And I'm
not trying to put anyone down. If that's what you like, that's what you like, but it's definitely not what I like. I will never be attracted to a man who talk like that. Never, That's not attractive to me at all. In word, is in worth that or shorty? I mean mm hmm, no, thank you. But but that's a pelling that russ Nick that that that what they call it, that bad boy. Some women love it, and some women who have lots of money, well known, they love it,
and I'll say they can keep it. That's not for me, no way, no, how never, never has even when I didn't have anything out, I never wanted that. No, no, no, no, no. But a lot of people do a lot of men want women who are rough around the collar. But when you look at individuals and you're looking at the superficial, you're always I promise you, you're always going to have problems. You're always going to feel unfulfilled always, because that holds
no substance. It has nothing that will keep a relationship together. It has nothing that will help you weather your storms together. Nothing, nothing at all. So people are looking for the wrong things. You have to look at compatibility. Who that person really is, not who they pretend to be. Is he a provider? Is he loving and kind? But like I said, for me, most of all, do he believe in Jesus? Do he believe in God? Do he live for him? Do we
serve God through Jesus Christ. That's what's the most important to me. And then things follow behind that. You know, being a mature person that's very important. Being a person to know how to communicate, that's important. A person of integrity that's important. You know, things that has substance. So you have this guy, he's fine, he's six 'y three, he has his own business, he have a nice car, home, nice title. He have all the things that society says
is you know what I'm saying. He has all those things, but he's a freaking jerk, disrespectful, manipulative. Think he's all of that and some. But that's what you wanted. You wanted that person because you were looking at the superficial. People are crying their eyes out, their hearts are hurting so bad right now as I speak, because they're in relationships with those superficial those superficial things that they thought
was it. I mean, it's just ridiculous. I mean I can only shake my head at the lunacy because it is crazy. People just look for the wrong things. I saw this guy and he was just, Oh, I'm the exception, I'm this, I'm that. Shut your face because you're looking and sounding very immature. If you're all of that, it'll speak for itself. You don't have to be chauvinistic about it, you know, I mean, it speak for itself. Some people just settle for anything because it's about show and tell.
That's what it's about for most people. Show and tell. That's why people go under the knife getting plastic surgery looking different, looking looking plastic, literally looking face looking plastic, but they doing it because it's showing tell. I want to look this way because society says I should look this way. I want to have this type of body because society said, that's what's going on. That's what's up that type of body. You know, that's what's in It's
show and tell. That's how people live their lives. Oh I have this, I have that. Well, I just saw my neighbor get this well, and I gotta be up on him or up on her, so I'm gonna get something else. You haven't even enjoyed what you had, because life for most people is about show and tell. And that's exactly how it is in relationships. Show and tail. Men want the women. And I'm gonna say I will I'll say immature men and immature women. They want the
eye candy. They want the eye candy, the eye candy. They want the status, they want all of those things that they can show. They want to show it off. And these are immature people who happen to be individuals who have accomplished things, but they're still immature because normal people don't think like that. When I say normal, let me be very specific. I mean when I say normal. Let me take that word retracted. Mature people they don't
think like that. When they were immaturity, they probably did, but when you become mature, you don't think like that anymore. You know better. So when I hear people talking, oh, she has to build ten or he has to build ten, he haves to have this and that, because hey, that's what I'm about, That's what I'm on. Look at me, blah blah blah blah. In maturity, that's what it is. That's what it is. So I can instantly spot it instantly.
All I have to do is hear them speak, and I know if that's a mature man or a mature woman. And some people they're very good. You know, they can gap really good. Some people they can manipulate and play the game really good to try to chemousfly at you who they really are. But truly, when you understand people, you can see right through that fluff. That's why so
many people are hungry, hungry for love. Even individuals who are already in relationships, who've been in relationships for a long time and some for not so long, they're hungry for love. Although they are in relationships, they're still hungry for love because they're not receiving what they need. Two immature individuals, they're gonna have all kind of problems because they're never gonna see eye to eye. It's always gonna be something that one is gonna be up on the
other on. It's always gonna be something. And now you gotta struggle because he's fine, so you gotta struggle to continue to look how you look, or vice versa. It's just craziness. Stress. It brings about stress. When you hear people say, oh, I don't care if my man do this or that, as long as he bring the money home to me, or as long as she bring the money home, I don't care what she do. That's because
you immature and you don't care a period. You don't love that person, you love what that person do for you. Because a man that love his woman, he's not having it. A woman who love her man, she's not having it. She'll never feel like that and he will never feel like that. Those are mature people, And I'm telling you those are the people who are in this world. The
mature and the immature. We don't think the same. Maybe once when we were immature, maybe, but when you become mature and you know who you are, You love yourself. You don't think like that anymore. Those things you thought was so important don't even matter really anymore. They're not the main thing, you know. They're not the things that's
going to keep a relationship together. You looking deeper, way deeper than the superficial and right now a lot of people don't understand that because they only can see beyond their eyes. They can't see any further than what they're visually able to see. They can't see beyond that, they can't see deeper. It's just what's in their face, is what I'm trying to say. They can't see beyond what's in their face. That's the best way I can I can describe it or say it, because it's all superficial.
And like I said, you can have a person who has it, Oh they have everything you can name who check the block, but they're horrible individuals, conceded, nasty, full of attitude. Think they're all of that. I mean, So you have to be careful. You have to know what you need because if you get what you need, it's gonna also be what you want and what you desire.
It's a package deal, because you should never settle for something that you don't You don't want or desire something that you need, but you don't want or desire it. That makes no sense, and you will never never settle for that. A mature person will never settle for that, because if you want it and desire that, you also need that. Some people are polar opposite. They will want and desire something they definitely don't need. And that's almost
always the case because they're looking at superficial things. And really, that's all I'm gonna say on that. You take it in however you choose to. I'm just giving it to you. Thank you for listening. Please share this episode. I appreciate you, I love you. If you want to be the best you can be, that fall solely on you. You have to want it. No one can give to you what you need. No one can give that to you until you do it for yourself. Until you do it for yourself.
And let me say this before I go another thing. People feel that, oh, this man, he can't have any children, or she can't have any children. And if that's what you want, that's fine, if that's what you want. But if that's what you want. Let it be for the right reasons, because you can be with the man, a mature man or a mature woman who know how to handle that situation if they have a child or if you have a child, because it's more than that. The relationship is more than you having a child or not.
You have to be able to understand it's far greater than that. A mature person who loves you, they're gonna accept your child, and you're gonna accept their child. I'm talking about mature people now, I'm not talking about immature I'm talking about mature, mature people. Other than that, you're gonna have a mess, baby mama drama because they won't ever it's gonna be It's gonna be two ways. They will never put their foot down about it, or they'll
be an individual who go to the next extreme. The extreme. The extreme that they go to would be almost frightening because they don't want they don't want anyone around their child. They're not having it. They have an issue with everything, everything, and most times it's one extreme to another. But mature people know, hey, this is my new relationship and this is my old relationship. What we had is what we had. We got a child or we have children. That's it.
That's it. We're gonna be co parents. But I got this over here going on, and your foolishness is not going to interfere with it, bottom line, And that's it. On that they handle their business, but that don't happen in a lot of relationships. It's baby mama drama, baby daddy drama all the time. But those are immature people. So that's it. I'm leaving it right there. Please share this episode, Thank you for listening. Next week, God's will is Thanksgiving. I hope you all have a good holiday.
Be safe. I in every episode the same, and I hope and I pray you do it. Stop listening to people. Also, stop listening to the fooleryth stop listening to it again. I in every episode the same, and I hope you do it. I hope you do it. Think on it.