Hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to think about, what happens when you choose to stay down? What happens when you choose to stay down? Because let me tell you, you can get down, you know, feel sad and blue, but you should never want to give up. So what happens when you choose to stay down? Because it's a choice, it's a choice. The first thing you need to do is understand how you got there? How did you get
to that point? Now, I'm gonna tell you what I've seen over the years, and I've dealt with many, many people, young children, teenagers, adults, the older population. I've dealt with all types of people, good and bad. You have to think about how did you get there? A lot of people know exactly how they got there, but they don't do anything to change their mindsets. I mean, be honest with you, they do not do anything to change their mindsets.
So people go through bad experiences, trauma, difficulty and things happen. They go through life struggling mentally. Because let's be honest here, traumatic things can affect your mindset, your thought processes, depending on who you are as an individual and how you allow things to affect you. Some people are resilient, some are not. A lot of people have that mindset wadling. When I say wadling, I mean just staying in the same place, allowing things to affect them. I mean. No
one in life is exempt. No one on the face of the earth is exempt from trials and tribulations, exempt from the troubles of this world. No one. Money can't buy you out of it. Your beauty can't buy you out of it. What you have, your titles, can't buy you out of it. We all go through the storms and the rain. We all go through, but the mindset that you have going through makes all of the difference in the world. You have to have that positive mindset
before you ever get into it. So that's why I want to talk about when you choose to stay down, what happens when you cannot see beyond your pain, beyond your suffering, beyond your storm, beyond your trial. You can put yourself in a bad position mentally worse than what you already was in. And this is what's happening to people you choose to stay down. Many of you know the issues that you're fighting right now. You know without a doubt it stems from your childhood, but yet you're
still holding on to it. Why why why are you still struggling as an adult with what happened to you as a child. Why are you doing that to yourself? Why are you causing yourself this self inflicted pain? Because we all have a choice to move on, all of us. I went through things as a child that my mom went to her grave never knowing, and I'll go to mind taking it with me because it happened, but it didn't destroy my life. It just made my eyes open to people. I have dealt with tragedy since I was
a little kid. When I was eleven years old, I saw my cousin get ran over and I could still see when I think about it. Only when I think about it, and it's very seldom. I could still see him underneath the wheel of the car. I could still remember the clothes he had on, the color in his shirt. I can still remember all of that. I was the oldest person in that group, and I was only eleven years old, So I could have went through my life
feeling it was my fault. You know, I really could have been that person, but I chose not to because I knew it wasn't but still yet I could have had the mindset to let that destroy my life, like other things that happened before that. So all I'm trying to say to you is it does not matter your tragedy, your trauma, your pain, your suffering. What matters is how you allow it to affect your life. Some people as adults are depressed because they had one or both depressed parents,
and normally it's one. They've seen this person depressed all their life, and so they adopt that behavior and then adapt to it and it becomes a part of their life. It's reality, it's reality. They was not born that way, they learned that behavior and it became very real in their lives. All they saw was Mama depressed on medication, laying around sad. Or it could have been dead who became that way because he was trying to say mom
and it ended up losing himself. I mean, there are many different scenarios that could have occurred, but I know for a fact a lot of people are that way because of their upbringing, not because they were beat or abused sexually, but simply because of what they saw. What I'm trying to say is we can all choose a better route. We can always choose a better path. We can always choose a better life for ourselves, all of us. You take tragedy and triumph from it. You don't have
to let it dictate your life. You do not have to let it sabotage and destroy you. You don't have to stay down. That is a choice. How do you come out of it? You come out of it by wanting to come out of it. You come out of it by choosing change. You come out of it by doing something different. But the first thing you have to do is be real with yourself and say, hey, I've been this way for so long. I can't do it anymore. I want better. I don't want to do to me
what's already done. I don't want to keep going through the glooming, the doom. I want a better life. I want to be better mentally. You have to choose that for yourself, and you have to accept what has already happened, and you have to choose for yourself to love you and move on. Let it go, because you've seen it has caused you nothing but suffering and self inflicted pain. You've projected that pain into your children lives, into people who have came into your life. It's time to let
it go. And when you choose to stay down, it totally affects your life. You're the only person can change it. When you choose to stay down, it causes you trust issues, It causes you insecurities. I mean, you can't love yourself. You don't know how to love anyone else properly. I mean, it causes you all types of issues because of unhealed hearts and minds. And because it is a choice, you're
choosing to stay in that negative state of mind. You're willfully choosing that medication is not gonna take it away. Drugs and alcohol is not gonna take it away. A significant other is not gonna take it away. A child is not gonna take it away. A friend is not gonna take it away. Success is not gonna take it away. Money is not gonna take it away, none of it. You have to deal with that one on one. You have to face that. You have to be the one
to let it go. A lot of people choose to stay down, and they go further and further and further trying to dig dig dig dig, when really you just remain where you are. But really, the only way left is up. All you gotta do is choose it. All you have to do is choose it. But a lot of people don't. Most people don't because they're so comfortable. They have become so comfortable with all the negativity that it's normal to them. This is a sad reality for
millions of people. Just think about this. Look at all of the millions of people around the world. Now, I want you to think about this. That's claiming and I've talked about this before a little bit, that's claiming they have mental illnesses. Most of it is PTSD, anxiety depression, people have fleeting, suicidal and homicidal thoughts. But I want you to think about that. Think about the many people who are claiming mental illnesses. They were not born that way.
They were not People developed those things from stress, different medications, environments, all kinds of things that you allow in your life and to affect you. I'm just saying they weren't born that way. Unmanaged stress can lead to mental illnesses. Your bad relationships can lead to mental illnesses. All of the stress from it, trying to carry the weight of the world and your shoulders can lead to that. All of
that stress leading to mental illness. People can even develop bipolar and schizophrenic symptoms and things like that because of all the stress in their lives and the trauma and bad experiences they're holding on to. Mentally, when you hold onto those things, it affect your body. Totally affects your body. You have pain and all kinds of things going on in your body because you're holding onto all of that trauma,
your tents. A lot of people hold their shoulders up and don't even realize they have their shoulders up because they've been in that position for so long it's normal to them. They don't know how to relax. You make a choice every day, every day you get out of bed or wake up, you make a choice to be better or remain the same. It's nobody's decision but yours. And from what I'm seeing, a lot of people are choosing to remain the same when you don't have to.
Everything we do is a choice. I don't care what curveball is thrown at you, how you perceive that, how you deal with that. It all comes from how you think feeling that. That's why I tell you all of the time, our mindsets are everything. If you don't have that, if you don't have a good, healthy mind, it's gonna affect you mind, body, and soul, point blank of the period. It's gonna affect you mind, body, and soul in some way to some degree. How we think is everything, whether
you're faking or pretending, it's everything. You do what you do for a reason, and that reason is because of that unhealed part of you that you need to face, heal from, let it go so you can become the best you that you can be, because when you don't, you get those negative thoughts in your mind. Nothing ever works out for me. Bad things always happen to me. You feed that fuel, you give more to throw on
that fire. You feed it more and more fuel you give it, and you really believe that about your life, and you draw that negativity to you. You don't have to stay down. It's a choice too, just like it's a choice to get up, dust yourself off. They keep it moving. With some of the things that I've gone through in my life, the tragedies and the recent tragedies I've gone through, people don't just don't understand, girl, how can you do it? It's not me, It's the Jesus
in me. My faith is so strong, and like I've told you, I don't care how it sound to you. I don't give power to people or things to dictate my life, to uproot my mental health and my peace because they didn't give it to me. I just don't do it. I just don't do it. And if you don't understand that, I can't make you understan stand it. All I can do is recommend Jesus, because that's who gave me the peace that a pass is all understanding. I just don't look at people and things in the
world like the average person. I just don't. Things don't mean that much to me, not like on that level. It don't. They really don't. Sometimes I have to say, Okay, you need to make some phone calls because I'm telling you I can move on like I'm in the world by myself. And it's not that I'm disconnected from people, because I'm not. I love my family, I love my friends, but I just don't let my love for them dictate my life. I'm not going to lose my peace because
I love someone so much. No, I'm not. I love me more. So it's up to you every day. Do you want a better life, if you want a better life. You have to do better things, You have to do things differently, you have to face reality of Hey, I can't keep letting my past ruin my right now. You just can't, because, like I've told you a million times, and I'll keep telling you, your past is gone. Yes,
you lived it, but it's no longer there. It's the memories that you give power to me and that old, comfortable, familiar way of thinking. That's why you stand where you are mentally. So that's all I have. I'm leaving it right there. Thank you so much for listening much less. I hope all of you are doing well. Please reach out to me. What are my podcasts page to have my email? You're welcome anytime. I will respond. Please share this episode I in all episodes are same, and I
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