Episode 531 It's Not Your Fault They Cheated

you allow it in your life. Those things fall solely on you. But what a cheater does That don't fall on you. Because a cheater cheat because of who they are. Now, mind you, many of them will blame you. They will blame you. I did it because you don't pay me attention, you don't love me, you don't treat me right. You this you that blame, blame, blame, But they know it really is them. They know they're the problem, they know it,

they know exactly who they are. But see, a lot of times we just love so hard, we love so hard that we're just blind. I'm saying we, But I'm talking to you. I'm not in that boat. There was once upon a time I fell into it myself, but that's been many, many, many moons ago, so I can talk about it now. A cheat or cheat because of

who they are. When individuals are seeking or chasing after something, whether it's they need their ego stroke, self gratification, satisfaction of the flesh, they feel that they need someone to validate them. I mean, it's a plethora of reasons, but the main issue is the individual, the cheater. You cheat because that's who you are. Some people have cheated all of their life as an adult. That's all they've ever done was cheated. Some people have seen their mama cheat

or they've seen their daddy cheat. I mean, it's terrible, but it's the truth. Then some people are individuals who didn't see that, but something happened in life and they chose to be a cheater. People cheat for many, many reasons, but the problem is within self. A cheater cheap because of who they are, not because of the person they're with. Individuals are always investing, They're always overlooking the truth. They are always acting as if they don't see the red

flags and the signs all the time. Some of you knew he was a cheater, you knew she was a cheater because they cheated with who they were with to be with you, So how do you think it's gonna be any different for you? See, that's a foolish way of thinking. That's an immature mindset. But many of you, most of you know exactly what you're getting into. You know, if they didn't cheat on you, you know someone that they cheated on, you know the history. It's no mystery,

you know. But you still chose to get into that relationship. So you have to look at yourself. You have to look at yourself. Why did you get involved with someone who you knew was a cheater. Some of you think you got it so good. You think you got it on lock so hard that they'll never cheat on you. Some of you, I think you're so pretty, you got it going on so much that they will never cheat on you. I mean, that's a that's a very immature way of thinking. Because a cheater don't care how beautiful

you are, they don't care how handsome you are. A cheater will cheat. So stop fooling yourselves into thinking that you can change him or her, because you can't. The only person who can change a cheater is the cheater. Some of you feel I invested all of this time. I did this for you. I did that for you. I gave birth to your children. I was there for you when you had nothing. I did this, I did that.

They don't care. They don't care. And guess what a Cheaterah will say, I love you, I love you so much, I'm so sorry, I love you, even love his own self. They just think they love you, but they don't really know what love is, because when you love a person, you're not cheating on them. You're not. You're just not. It's something missing. It's something missing within that individual. They're

not getting. They're trying to fill a void. There is something inside of that individual, which is why they cheat. Unhealed hearts and minds. And I'm telling you it's going to always affect you. If you don't allow yourself to heal, if you don't allow yourself to grow and mature, you're gonna keep finding yourself in similar situations with similar people. You can't change cheater, you just can't. But some people, I mean just go off the deep end. Some people

to the point of murder. It's not worth it. No man or woman is worth it. If they cheated on you, they're not worthy of you. To do something foolish is foolish. You have to look at yourself, who you are as a person. If you sit there and take a person cheating on you all the time, you gotta look at yourself because again, a cheater is gonna cheat because that's what they do, that's what they're familiar with, that's what they know. You can give them the world, I mean

literally the world, and they still will cheat. It does not matter what you give them, what you do for them, what you say to them, none of it matters because they have unresolved inside of self internally. So you can be as sweet as you want to be, you can be the best of the best of the best. A cheater still a cheat because it's not about you. It's about who they are, what's inside of them, what they're lacking,

what voice they're trying to feel. But some of you, you lose your minds because you feel.

and do it. You cause that self inflict the pain in your life by opening yourself up and allowing that person in your life. You because they're gonna do what they do. A cheater will cheat because of who they are. So so many people in life. They just feel that they can change who they're with, only to find themselves changed. And a lot of times it's for the worst because people get bitter, they become angry, they feel bad about self because they don't think they're good enough. That's why

he or she has cheated. They're not good enough, they don't look good enough, they've gained weight, they've lost too much. Whatever. People start feeling that it's them if I did this, if I would do that, if I look this way up. No, no, and no. They cheat because of who they are, And you know, you just have to stop investing so deeply into people you feel you can't make it without them. Oh, I can't live without you, I'll die without you. That's stupid,

it's stupid, it's an immature way of thinking. That's foolishness. And a lot of times that's why people treat you any kind wing because they know, no matter what they do, you love them. No matter how bad they treat you, you want to be with them. So that's two is why people continue to cheat because they have no repercussions, no consequences, nothing, because you welcome them back with open

arms because you yourself have unhealed inside of you. So really, when you're in a relationship with someone and you're opening yourself up to all of these things, you just causing drama in your own life. Because a cheat are gonna bring it, trust and believe, but when you accept it, you're just causing unnecessary drama in your life. You have to figure out why do you feel that that's who you need to settle for? A cheater? And as I said,

most times, you know what you got. You know when you are so caught up in what you want, feel, desire, When you get so caught up in those things, it literally blinds you because you can't see anything else. It's about you. So that's too, is why so many people are with cheaters and abusers and and people like that, because you're going off of your emotions, how you feel, what you want, what you desire, and it's it's blinding. Because you know the old saying, and I've mentioned it

many times, people say, oh, love is blind. It's not blind at all. People are blind. People who think they're in love, they're the blind one. Love is a blind truly, it isn't. I wanted to talk about this topic again because it's never ending until the day Earth no longer exists. People gonna be in relationship with cheaters. That's just life. I'm not saying you have to accept it, you have to allow it. I'm not saying that at all, But I'm saying as long as we live, people gonna go

through it. As long as we live. So when you think about your situation and who you are with, don't allow yourself to become angry and bitter because a lot of times people change for the worst because they have taken in so much of the mess, They have so much stress. Now they're angry. People don't allow any one to cause that cause you to become that person. You trying to change them, but you're the one who end

up changing for the worst. Let me mention it's not all about a person changing for the worst, because sometimes people do change for the better. They realize they deserve better than that. They realize it's not their fault. They realize that that individual have issues that are unresolved that has caused him or her to have the mindset that they have. So people wake up and they realize they

deserve better, and they change for the better. They realize they can't change that individual, and some people get to the point they're not trying no longer. They don't care because now they see things for what they really are. And you know you'll never be able to change him and him or her. I just have to come back to it, and I may come back to it again and again, because people are living this every day all day. I mean, your life is what you allow into it,

it really is. You teach your significant other exactly, hear me, You teach them exactly how they can treat you. If you allowing accept a cheater who's constantly cheating on you, guess what they gonna keep doing It? They can see you hurt to the core, they can see it, they can see you broke down, crying sad about it, and they will say, forgive me, I'm sorry, I love you, this and that, and they will turn around and do it right on again. This is the cycle. Until individuals

choose to change, you can't do it. You cannot change them. I just wish people would understand that and stop putting themselves in situations where they are so hurt, they're so crushed. Some people can't hardly go on. They go to work just full of sadness and depression over someone who's doing them wrong. Now, that's one thing I've never been. You do me wrong, that's it. Gotta we gotta figure out something here, and more than likely it's bye bye. Because

I understand giving a person another chance. I really do. I'm not against second chances. I'm not even against third chances. But after that, come on, now, come on, you're just gonna keep putting yourself through it. Some people only give you one chance. That's me. Now, no more chances, because listen, when they know you're not dealing with their foolishness, and they still try you. No second chance, that's just me though,

in my grown up, mature mind. Just know that you can try all day, every day, you can't do it. You can't change him or her because cheating is not about you. It's about who they are, absolutely about who they are. Individuals have so much, so much unresolved, so much unresolved, and it affects them in so many ways, so many, so many ways, because they are full of hurt, and that's why they're seeking love. They're seeking, you know,

self gratification. They're seeking to have their ego stroke. They're seeking all types of things, all types, and they gonna seek it here and there and everywhere because it's about self gratification. It's about that lack, it's about filling that void inside. Many people have lost themselves in their relationships, and it's a very sad thing, but it's reality. Many people lose themselves in their relationships because your mindset is unhealthy.

How you think feel an act is unhealthy. When you get in a relationship and you are led solely on your feelings, you're led wrong. That's why people cannot handle who want to cheat or cheat. Many people can't handle it. They lose themselves because you invest all of that energy into that individual, and when they hurt you, you act

as if you can't function. So if you've noticed, I'm talking kind of about the individual who allow the cheater, and I'm talking about the cheater as well, because sometimes individuals you're the same mindset. You have unhealed, they have unhealed, and it's just a mess, it really is. So that's all I'm gonna say on this. But just know, a cheater cheats because of who they are. They may blame you, but it is because of who they are, just like you allow it in your life because of who you are,

what you lack, the void inside of you. So i just want you to think about this, really replay this in your mind. Listen to this, especially those of you who are in these relationships. Listen to this episode and think about what I've said. I'm leaving it right there. Thank you so much for listening. Much love to each and everyone. I appreciate you for listening. Please share this episode. I also want you to listen to relatable life chronicles.

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