Episode 526 It's Not Over Until the Divorce is Final

to everybody that's listening. What I know is right. I'm not here the sugar coat for anyone, whether I know you or not. I'm gonna tell you what I know is right. It's not over until the the voice is fire. So don't set yourself up. Let me say it again. Oh, I know some of you don't like this, but I'm gonna say it again. It's not over until the divorce is final. So don't set yourself up. Some of you get into relationships with individuals who are still married. I

don't agree with that, but it's not my call. You do whatever you want to do. But you know, when a person is not divorced, anything could happen. They could go back to having a relationship with their spouse. Some of you are in relationships with individuals who live in the same house, but they're saying that they're not together. You know, they're telling you they're not together, they live in a separate room, and this and that. You really don't know what's going on on the inside of that house.

So when you get in a relationship with someone who is already married, it's not over. Into the divorce is final, that's when it's over. I don't care if people are living separate in their homes or if they have not had any type of affection or intimacy or anything like that going on they're still married. Who knows. Someone may get an epiphany and realize, well, I don't want to lose my spouse, and then they could come back together. Whether where does that leave you? Where will you end up?

And you can't be mad at no one but yourself, because really you set yourself up getting into the relationship with the person in the first place. I know that people don't like hearing this. People never like hearing the truth. Ever, Oh, tell me the truth. Yes, I want you to tell me the truth. Until you tell them and then they're mad about it. But you know whatever, because for me, I'm gonna tell you the truth. It's to help you,

it's never to hurt you. So when you set yourself up like that, you are the one to blame because you willfully gotten into a relationship with someone that you know was married. Some people are just too trusting, and people are too trusting because of what they've gone through. People yearn so for love, They yearn so for validation and companionship and love and things like that because of past experiences, and it causes people to just believe anything

someone tells them. It could be the truth or it could be a lie, regardless of which. You should never get into a relationship with someone who's married until they are not. And I mean that's just what I believe, because a person can tell you anything, and a lot of times most times they are telling you anything because they don't take a person that long to get a divorce.

Some of you've been with people who staying in the house with their with the individual they're married to for years and they're still telling you, oh, we're getting a divorce, we're not together. But I bet that other person don't feel like that. That other person think they're still together

because they're lying to you. And I'm not saying that every person is lying, but they're wrong because anytime you get in a relationship when you're married, you're wrong, and the person that they got into the relationship with, they're wrong too, because it is actually adultery. He or she, the married one, is committing adultery on their spouse, and

you're for dedicating with the person who's committing adultery. So I mean, it's not a good situation, and that especially it's not a good situation for people who profess Christ in their lives because we already know you don't supposed to do that. We already know you don't supposed to be with anyone intimately. I mean when I say intimately, i'm talking sexual outside of marriage, and you definitely don't supposed to be with anyone in that way, and they

are married already. It's just wrong. God has nothing to do with that. There is no blessings in that at all. Now you can believe it is all day long, but I'm telling you, according to the Word of God, there isn't. You should love yourself more than that. But as I said, some people are just so wanting love and companionship and all of those things that they open themselves up to. Individuals who are married and living with their spouses, and

a lot of times you're setting yourself up. I've known women who've done it, and I try to tell them and they're like, no, but he said this, he said that, And I'm like, they be out together, they be out as a family with the children. Come on, now, you got to be smarter than that. But you could not tell this nothing. She did not want to listen because she wanted what she wanted. She felt what she felt, and she wanted what she wanted, and she would not

listen until she saw for herself. When she saw the dynamics of the relationship for herself, that's when it sunk in. He was lying to her and she was all in her feelings about it, And I said, why are you all bent out of shape when you should have never been in a relationship with them anyways, You set yourself up, that's what you know. It's just baffling to me how people cried and they saw hurt over something that they saw coming one hundred miles away, but they did not

want to accept it. How are you hurt over a relationship that you should have never been in in the first place. But people allow us all of the time. They open themselves up to be let down all of the time. But people do it because of what's inside that mindset and that unresolved inside. People are seeking, they're chasing their yearning for love, and they just end up in a mess, heartbroken and just hurt when they set

themselves up. I mean, if you allow a person into your life, they didnet just bombard their way into your life. You open yourself up to that individual, you let them in. And any time you meet someone and you find out that they're married, I don't care how much you're feeling towards them, I don't care how the chemistry is or the attraction. You should never allow it. You should never

entertain it. Ever I've met along the way, I've met a couple men that I could have had attraction towards them, But once I found out that situation, I never thought about it again. For what what am I gonna sit around thinking about a guy who's in a relationship with someone ridiculous, And especially if he's a guy who's trying to get with me while he's in a relationship with someone else. Are you kidding me? To me, that's a

total insult. Total, that's an insult to me that you approach me thinking I will have a relationship with you when you already married to somebody. No, I wouldn't want that ever. But so many women fall forward and men too. See a lot of times people want to just you know, talk about the women through all the fiery darts at the women. But men do it too. And guess what, unless they're gay. Every time the women do it, they're doing it with a man. So men do it too.

But people want to talk about one side versus the other. No, talk about both sides because do the same thing. You go through life and you open yourself up to things that you shouldn't. You know, you shouldn't anybody in life, anyone who goes through life and you get involved. You have intuition, you have these feelings and these thoughts. You

know when you're doing wrong. But see, people can't see past what they want, what they desire, what they feel, and all of those things that they are blind to because they want what they want when they wanted, and they find themselves else in this situation and they only can see when it goes bad, then it's like, well, I know I shouldn't have done it, but I was hoping that it would be different. No, think about it. Think about the situation you're in. Just think about it.

You're getting into a relationship with someone who's already married. Tell me, please tell me what good you think is in that? Just tell me. I want you to think about that. What good is there to get in a relationship with someone who's already married. And some of you you just believe it and everything. Oh, we don't sleep together, we don't have no type of affection. She do her thing, I do my thing. Blah blah blah, blah blah. It

should not matter. You should not want to be in a relationship with someone who's married, because it's not over until they are divorced. Period. And the Bible already told us about divorce. There's only a few little reasons people can get a divorce. And if you're the person who's committing adultery, uh, you're not it. You're not one she or he maybe, but you're not one that could get a divorce. But I don't want to get too much

into that because that's another topic. And I've talked about it a little bit in some of my other episodes. You have to be mindful and be mindful of the theme you allow in your life, the people you allow into your life, the situations you put yourself in. You have to be mindful of those things, and you also have to guard your heart. Stop falling for any little thing. Oh he made me smile. Oh he's so funny, he's so nice. Stop falling for things that are superficial. Some

people are masters of manipulation. They know everything to do and to say. Stop falling for those things. See. That's why you have to know who you are, and it's why you have to love yourself because when you do, you can see past all of that stuff. You really can. When you can't see past your heart, oh my gosh, it can lead you into some terrible situations with some terrible people. When you have all of these feelings and emotions going on, you miss things that you should be

able to see. Some of you don't want to see them because you want what you want. You like what you're feeling until it goes bad. I don't care if the person eventually gets a divorce, you still have already defiled that relationship. So it's bad from the start because you got into it the wrong way. You know, when you open yourself up to things, you have to suffer the consequence consequences of your decisions, of your choices, and eventually we all do. So I just came on here

to tell you do the right thing. Stop allowing your heart to lead you into bad situations. And it's a bad situation to get into a relationship with someone who's already married. And that's for anyone. I don't care who you are, i don't care if you know me or not. I'm gonna tell you the truth. I'm never going to be okay with that because it's wrong. And think about it.

If they got into a relationship with you and their marriage, if you eventually married them, they'll get into a relationship with someone else and then you and tell that other person the same stuff they were telling you, Oh we're not together. I just want you to think about it. I'm not saying these things to hurt you or to make you upset. If it does, I mean that's on you.

I'm saying it to help you and for people to open their eyes and understand why they find themselves in bad situations in unhealthy relationships because you open yourself up to it because you can't see past your feelings and wants, your desires, that self gratification of the flesh. You get bamboozed, bamboozled because of your feelings and emotions, and you think

it's all good what it is. And I'm not gonna sit here and beat a dead horse, as they say, because no matter what I say, people still gonna do it. People still gonna be hurt, they gonna still be crushed. But it's all self inflicted because it is you who open yourself up to it. It is you who allowed it in your life. And no one, no one, I don't care who they are, they are not worth it. You deserve better, period, point blank. And the end, you deserve better. So that's all I'm saying on it. Thank

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