Hey, Hey, I'm bad with something for you to think about. So today I want to talk about something that is obviously a touchy subject for men and women, some men and women. I have told you so many times, all of these referencing women and referencing men, you're not talking about all men or all women. You cannot put all women in the same category. You cannot put all men in the same category. But people continue to do it. You know why people continue to do it because they are immature too.
The people that they're talking about, they're immature. But the people who are putting people in the same category all women, all men, they are immature too, because a mature person would know better. That's just fact. So what am I talking about today? Keep listening. There have been an awful lot of talk about men not opening the door for women. There's been a lot of talk about men not paying for dates or meals on dates. There's been a lot of talk about women taking care of men. Listen.
I don't care what you believe. I don't care how you feel or what you do. How you choose to live your life is on you. I don't care what other people think in reference to how they live their life. I just don't. Everybody is entitled to believe what they believe. I will knock you for how you believe, and I hope you don't knock me for how I believe. That's just how it is. But too many people in this world are too invested. I mean, you take things way too seriously
when they don't even pertain to you. You spend so much time minding other people's business, minding other people relationships. Will you need to be tending to your own. It's not the end of the world. If a man don't open the door for you, would it be nice for him to do so. Yes, Personally, I wouldn't consider it as a terrible thing if he did it. You have two arms, you can open the door for yourself. That's just how I feel. It would be nice if a man did,
but I wouldn't count it against him if he didn't. Now, if he stood there waiting for me to open the door, that would be a different story. But if I'm opening the door, If I'm going to the door first and I open the door and he grabs the door and come in behind me, I'm cool with that. If he opens the door, I'm cool with that. I'm not that penny. It does not mean that much to me. I don't put that much stake in that. I really don't. Maybe it's me I'm the different one, but I just it's not that
serious. It's just not that serious. Some of you are just thinking about the wrong things. You need to put more time and energy into other things and leave the petty things along. If you don't open the door for you and you don't like it, just say something instead of going off, say I like for men to open the door for me, but be prepared because it may say, well, you could open the door for me. I'm just saying he may. I don't think that would be the correct answer,
But I'm just never know. I'm just saying women are putting too much on things that really it's not that important. It really isn't. What gets me is when men don't open the door for their women, but they are eagerly glad, they're very glad to open the door for other women. Now I will have a problem with that, definitely, but those are two different situations. But sometimes men do that. They don't open the door for their own women, but they'll open the door for someone else, another woman, I've
seen it with my own two eyes. But if you have an issue with that, be an adult and talk about it. He may not know it means something to you, so talk about it. Don't go off on him, because that's a very ingrature way to handle any situation. Okay, enough about that. The next topic is go it out to dinner. I believe if a guy asks you out to dinner, if he asked you out, he should be willing to pay for the meal. But in casey don't always
be prepared to pay for your own. Don't get upset about it. He's not obligated to pay for your meal, so don't get upset about it. Pay for your own meal, and don't go out again with him. That's how you handle it. You don't get crazy because he didn't pay for your meal. After all, it's his money. He can do whatever you want to do with it. If you don't pay for your meal, pay for
your own meal and be done with it. Don't go out on another date with him if it bothers you that much, but finish that particular moment like an adult. How do it like an adult? Some women just go off or they're just running their minds, and the guy said, well, you pay for your own meal. Now she really really married. Always always be prepared to pay for your own meal. Be prepared because you never know what may happen. Stop automatically thinking, oh, he's gonna pay for my meal.
He got me. Although, as I said, if he invites you out to dinner, he should pay for the meal. That's just courtesy. But be prepared to pay for your own just in case. You should always now if you both decide together to go out. I don't see nothing wrong with splitting a bill show me anywhere. What it says is show me anybody where. It says a man must pay for the meal. That's not written in any book. That's not a law. That's just what society make people
think. That's what that is. Society make people think, oh, he has to pay for the meal. I just don't. It would be nice, and I think a good and butture man wen'll pay for the meal. But they're not obligated. The right thing to do will be paid for the meal if he invited the woman out. That's just curtesy and coming sense. But a lot of people aren't courteous and have no common sense. So that's why we always seeing people arguing about it on these social media platforms. Always
be prepared to pay for your own meal. If you don't have money in your own pocket. Let me say it again, if you don't have money in your own pocket, in your pocket, your own pocket, if you don't have money to pay for your meal, how in the heck you're gonna get mad if he don't pay for your meal? If he say, I don't have any money to pay for your meal, how are you gonna get mad when you don't have money to pay for your meal? Think about that?
Think about it. That's what you do. Think about it. A lot of women, and I'm gonna say, immature women they get on this how horse for some reason don't have two pennies to work together some of them. But they think the man is supposed to do all of this and that for them, society have bamboothed you. A real grown and mature woman, she knows the deer, She absolutely knows the deal, and she definitely is not going to get out of character. She's gonna pay for her meal and
keep it moving. That's what a real adult, mature woman will do. So putting all women in the same category is just wrong, It's absolutely wrong. So let's move on. A lot of people are also talking about women who are fitting the bill for everything. Who's taking care of a man? Now, listen on that scenario. Count me all the way out because I don't believe in taking care of a man. I don't believe in carrying a
man like you would carry a child. What I need for? What do you need a man for who takes from you and does not enhance your life? You don't need that kind of man. You do not need that kind of man. And I will say a man don't need that kind of woman. If all she's doing is taken taking, she needs this, she needs that all the time. You don't need that kind of woman. You need a woman who enhance your life as well. That goes both ways. And
betore people understand that. I've heard so many women say, oh, I want a man with this and that and blah blah blah, but they don't have anything themselves. Make it make sense, as they say, because it does not. It simply does not. There are many women who take care of men and then they get to the point of resentment and regret. They can't stand them because now they see he's slothful, They see how lazy he is, they see how he's draining them in every way possible. They see
it, and now they're sick and tired of it. But that's what you chose, that's what you've signed up for. But oh, you couldn't see past the looks. You cann't see past fine he was. You can see past those words sweet like a honeycomb. You just had to have him, You just had to have him. And now you're miserable because you're stuck with a bomb. You're stuck with a slowful bomb. That's not a mature man, and you are not a mature woman because you would have never chosen him,
you would have never allowed him into your life. Now you're stuck with someone who you can't get rid of because now he's spoiled by all the things you have done for him. You created that monster. You we are the ones who create the monsters in our lives. We are we are the ones who open the door and allow people in. We are the ones who do that. You're the one who allow and accept things that you should have.
So a lot of people find themselves in relationships unhappy because you can't keep anything because you're always given, given, given, given, given, whether it's the male to the female or the female to the male, you're always given. And now you see how much you've been given, and now you're resentful and regretful. That's why I tell you all all of the time, you have to go into relationships with your eyes wide open. Not why shut,
why shut? Mean your eyes are open, but you can't see nothing because you're too caught up in you. You're too caught up in what you want, what you feel, what you desire in your thoughts, but you can't see past it to the truth. I've told you several times. Most people get into a relationship based on how they feel. When I say they, I'm talking about you self, the individual. You get into relationships based on how you feel, but you don't look at what's actually going on. You
don't look at what you're actually getting me. You only look at how you feel. You base everything on how you feel because he or she gives you enough nuggets and nibblets to make you want to be in a relationship. Even though they don't want to be in a relationship with you. They just like what you do for bending and specially those who don't have their own laying under
your room see under your table. You know, it seems like it's great in the beginning because they're making sure they're rilling you in or they rilled you in. Oh, they make sure they please you enough to want them around. But they're not bringing anything to the table. They're just sexing you up or filling your valley with the food that you could buy if they're not really bringing anything to the table. So a lot of people fall from these types
of individuals. Then you have people on social media putting all women in the same category, all men in the same category because they made bad decisions and choices. Now you're generalizing things over all population of women or men because you chose bad. Now you feel that every woman is the same or you feel that every man is the same. That's an immature mindset, because anyone with any kind of sense know that all women are not the same and all men
are not the same. But when you're talking from a bitter heart, when you're talking from negative experience, when you're talking from trauma, then that's the mindset that you have. You think everyone is the same and they are not. So I wanted to talk about it because I've been hearing so much about it on social media. I mean, it's appalling, absolutely appalling, the things men are saying about women, especially black men, about black women.
It's appalling that men will say those things about women, and some men just about women in general. It's appalling. It's really really frightening really that men think so harshly of women. But again, those are immature men who are speaking from a place of hurt, a place of bad experiences. That's what that is. Because an adult, grown, mature man, he knows better. A grown, adult, mature woman she knows better. And there is
a difference between the mature and the immature, definitely a difference. But all I'm hearing is this negativity lay and it's really terrible, it really is. So I wanted to talk about it again. If you get in a relationship with someone who has nothing to bring to the table, that's on you. That is totally on you. But believe me, you will suffer the consequences of your choices. If you go out on a date, make sure you talk about are you paying or do you expect for me to pay? Are
we splitting the bill? Talk about it. Don't eat the food first and then have the dilemma. Talk about it. Listen, you asking me out on a date. Are you paying? Are we splitting the bill, or are you paying for yours and I'm paying for mine? Talk about it. Don't be embarrassed. You're not embarrassed to go off, So just talk about it. Get it out the way before you get to the restaurant. That way, when you eat your meal and you're finished, you don't have to
worry about any drama. You'll already know how it's supposed to go down. You're all ready no communicate it could say so much drama from a current if you really really can. And lastly, if you want the man, ladies, that does not open the door for you. It is not the end of the world. I don't care what your mama said, or your daddy said, or your grandmother or grandfather said. It is not the end of the world. If he does, great, But if he doesn't, that
should not be a game changer. And it does not dictate that he's gonna be a terrible guy. It don't. But if it's that important to you, express it that simple. That's all I'm saying. I hope you get it. Thank you so much for listening. Much love to each and every one of you. Please check out Relatable Life Chronicles and share Share this episode of Relationship Chronicles. In every episode the same and I heard you do it. You really really need to do it. Thank God, it