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Episode 435 That Negativity Inside Affects Your Life And Relationships

Oct 03, 202329 min
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You can never be the best you can be by remaining the same! When you know that you have issues but refuse to work on them, your life will consist of traveling the same road. You will continue to live a cycle. You will continue to blame and complain because of your place of comfort. Most people don't understand until they choose to deal with what's inside, and is causing dysfunction in their lives (regardless of what it is), they'll continue to have that void inside. Mindsets are formed from experiences but most people allow the negativity to dictate their lives. All the trauma and other bad experiences is what people hold on to, which is leading them to go through life unfulfilled and unhappy. No matter the accomplishments or the lack thereof, they're never satisfied. No matter the relationships, the possessions, money, success, people, etc., none of it will satisfied a person who is unhappy inside. Until people learn to love self, the void will remain!

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Hey, hey, I'm back. Oh, yes, with something for you to think about. Listen, real talk for you. If you don't get to know and love yourself, you will always have that void inside of you always. Many of you have listened to me, and you know that I believe in Jesus. I believe in God, so that is the ultimate. But I know a lot of people don't, and I'm not sitting here trying to push it on anyone. Outside of that, I don't think anyone's life

will ever be exactly what it could be without Jesus in it period. However, I do understand that many people don't believe. For those who don't and those who say they do, but they're ways of living shown something else. If you do not get to a point of loving yourself and knowing yourself, you will always have that boy, You will always feel that place that is unfulfilled. You will never have a peace of mind because people are constantly,

constantly, constantly on the chase. They're constantly looking for things and other individuals, thinking that other individuals will fulfill them, only to find out it's not the truth. If people would only exert the time and energy investing in self, getting to know and love self. Oh my goodness, their lives would be so much better, so much better. Not the best that it could be, because I don't believe you could get to that point without Jesus,

without God, but it would be better. The problem is, I've said it many times. People look outwork to those people who they feel can fulfill them, those people who they believe can feel the void inside them, only to find out it is not the truth. I guarantee you I could talk to a million of people today and every last one, if they are honest, will tell you that they have not been fulfilled, that void has not been filled. That's why so many people, more than you could ever imagine,

are walking amongst you who are miserably unhappy. They so they are so unhappy and sad inside. Many are in relationships mirrorsable because they're desperately wanting their significant other to love them, to support them, to be there, for them, to feel about them the way they feel about their significant others. But it just don't work that way. You cannot get in a relationship with someone who have their own issues and expect for them to love you like you

want to be loved, like you deserve to be loved. You will never be loved the way you deserve it until you love yourself, and you will never figure that out. If you don't try, you will never figure it out. If you keep going through life the same exact way, you'll never figure it out. You will never receive the love that you deserve, that you want, that you crave for it, you will never receive even it's all imitation, all of it. It's all imitation because you have to love

yourself first. You must. When you love yourself, you see the signs and the red flags that you need to see. When you love yourself, you're not quick to be bamboozled and fooled and deceived. He's just not. But until people understand that knowing and loving self is very important, many would go through life still chasing after love, after material things, possessions, money, all types of things that they think will bring them happy, only to

receive it and realize they're still miserable. They're still hurting you. It's because you have not dealt with what ails you. You have not dealt with the pain inside. You have not let go of those horrible traumatic memories that you keep giving power to. You think it's more important to try to figure out someone else, get to know someone else, than to figure figure out yourself

and get to know yourself. With that type of mindset, you will never have peace within With that type of mindset, you will never ever feel as if you're fulfilled, you're satisfied within your soul. If you will never get to that point ever feeling good about yourself, truly feeling good about yourself, loving yourself, you will never get to that point until you stop looking for things and other people that you should possess within yourself first and without a doubt.

This is why we see what we're seeing in the world today. We're seeing all of these behaviors and actions from individuals all over the world because they have not dealt with that unresolved inside of them. People are doing all types of things, murder, suicide. Nothing is worth that, No one is worth it. If you're that angry, If you're that angry, go off

by yourself, go off by yourself somewhere. You should not get so into your own head, being a prisoner of your own mindset, letting demons take over your mind because you have given them interests, you have allowed them to enter. When you do that you lose all control. Then you start just meditating on those bad, negative thoughts. I'll take them out if I can't have her or him, I'm taking us all out. Or this world is so horrible, I don't want us to live in this world. You make

the decision to take out everybody. Those are demons speaking to you because that is what you've given power to. You have not chosen to become better. So what you do is you give in to the negativity. You give in to the demonic forces. You give in to all of that chatter because of that mental warfare that's going on inside of you. You give into it. You succumb, it overtakes you because you allow because instead of choosing to become

better, you you dove deeper into the darkness. And that is what's wrong with most people of today. Love is at the window. Hearts have waxed cold. The Bible tells us is gonna happen. Hearts have waxed cold within relationship ships, love relationships, within friendships, within family ships, workmanships. There's no passion. Come passion. I mean, hearts have wax cold,

cold, up, really really really cold. It's all about self. Although self is messed up people still seeking gratification in all types of ways that flesh, and because of it, they are not fulfilled. They are not at peace. That's why you see some people. They cannot sit down for nothing. They are doing everything for everyone all of the time. They have no peace, no peace, just cannot sit down and enjoy self, cannot sit

down and enjoy life because they're living through others. They're codependent through the life of others because they are really dissatisfied with self. They have no peace with them self, so they live vicariously through others, or they're so co dependent on others to feel good about self. They want people to pump them up, to give them accolades for all the things that they do that makes them

feel good. But they cannot spend time by themselves every day just ripping and running, ripping and running, ripping and running every day, no peace. You have individuals who will go along with anything. They will follow people who they know are doing wrong just because they want to belong. People who try to course you into rome. They ain't mean you no good. I don't care if it's your husband, your wife, your boyfriend and your girlfriend,

your family member or someone else. They mean you no good. Anyone who tried to invite you into doing wrong. They are not right for you. I don't care what you feel about it. They're not right for you. People going and join some of the most terrible groups because they think, oh, these people showing me love. We have a brotherhood or we have a sisterhood, or we're family. No, that makes no sense logically. When someone is is making you do the wrong things, breaking the law, committing

all types of crimes, they don't love you. They're using you. They're taking advantage of your vulnerability you have. Some people do all types of things to gain notoriety, when all you really should care about is loving yourself, not what other people think about you, but what you think about yourself,

what you feel about you. But people got it all backwards. They're just searching, searching, searching, search been searching for years and years and years, but never looking that self, never dealing with why they have the mindset that they have. Until you know yourself and love yourself, you will never be fulfilled. You will always, always, always stay on the wheel, living that cycle. This is what people do, This is what families do. Then they say, oh, it's a generational curse. It was in

the bloodline. Get out of here with that. It's habitual lifestyles that people pass down from generation to generation. It's not a generational curse. It's habitual lifestyles that people pass along and instead of breaking chains, people just continue doing the same things. You go through life the same way, carrying all of the bitterness to anger, being mad, sad, depressed, suicideal, homicidal. I've said it a billion times. You go through life day after day,

week after week, month after month, year after year. I mean, the same way, still angry at yourself, still manage yourself, Still cannot love yourself because you're not giving yourself the opportunity to become better. No one and I mean no one that includes me and you, everyone. No one can become better by remaining the same. You must do something about it. You must be willing to work on you. I can't work on you. You have to work on you. Your significant other can't work on you.

You have to work on you. Your therapists can't work on you. You have to work on you. Your pastor can't work on you. You have to work on you. I mean it takes you to do the inside work. I've told you many times. People can influence you, motivate you, encourage you, and all of that inspire you positively, but you still have to do the work. And what I found is many people don't. They don't choose to do the work, and therefore they remain the same,

taking all of that negativity everywhere they go. I mean, some people are just flat out angry. It is so very, very sad to see how some people just I mean, you see them and they just talking noise, just mad, just have attitude, thinking they're bad and all kind of foolishness and getting knocked out at the very first chance because they think people are gonna

take it, but instead people knocking them out left and right. Just crazy because you're messing with the wrong people because you think you can carry your attitude to everyone, and some people are just not having it. Some of you. As soon as you lay eyes on someone, you're falling in love. Don't know the person from anything, but you're falling in love. Oh you want him, you want her. You don't know them, you don't know

yourself, and you don't know what love is. If that's all it takes for you to see someone Because ninety nine percent of what you see is not what it is. Until people deal with self become better, I'm telling you for a fact, they will forever have that void. They would never have peace, and they will always feel that they need more. I've told you on several episodes, how you see rich people filthy rich, but they can't sit down. They still want more and more and more and more. That

is a problem. Something is wrong, something is terribly wrong inside of them. When you have all of the money that you could ever spend, but you want more, it's not enough. You should be giving away money to help people. I mean, with no problem, I just say give it all. But you definitely should be helping people because you won't spend all of that money in a lifetime. But yet you have no peace within that you

feel that you have to keep grinding, grinding, grinding, RND. No, it's not that, oh, you such a lucrative businessman or businesswoman, entrepreneur or whatever. It's not all about that you have no peace within. You can't sit down and enjoy your life because you have no peace within, just doing everything, don't care who you step on at oh, because you're still trying to make money. And not only rich people. Some people would

do it to get money, and I mean anything. If you're willing to do anything, you have no peace within you none, And unfortunately this is the truth about most people. When you know yourself and love yourself, it changes you. It changes how you see people in the world and yourself. You realize that the things you thought were so important they're not as important as

you you actually think they are. You won't worship people and things, you won't chase after the flesh, because you know most people are not who they pretend to be any ways. You know that people have their own issues. Therefore, they love for you to worship and praise them because they're getting something out of it. They're getting monetary benefit, or they're getting their egos stroked.

They're getting something from you worship and praising them. But if you feel that you need to worship and praise any man or woman, you got an issue about yourself. That's the problem with a lot of people in the world. They're chasing after the Beyonces and the Rihannas and the Drakes and all of these people who have clearly their own issues. Those people shouldn't be more important to you. Than yourself. You should love and care about yourself far greater,

But unfortunately some people don't. They live and breathe other people who know nothing about them, care nothing about them. They just tell you they do because they're getting something from it. When you're willing to get on a social media platform, life deceive, fake, pretend for subscribers, views, money. You have an issue inside. If you're a person that all day long all you doing is scrolling, scrolling, scrolling, you have an issue with

yourself. I see it every day, you see it every day. I've told you many times. The person that's that is neglect them the most itself because people make other individuals way more important. But I'm here to tell you will no doubt. Until you know yourself and love yourself, you will always have that void. You will always be seeking more and more and more. You will never be satisfied. You will never be happy. All of your

happiness will always be short lived because you're not truly happy inside. Yes, people can make you smile, laugh and feel good and happy for a moment, but it will not last because you're not happy inside. It starts on the inside of you. You have to change your mindset to change your life. Some people just don't want to do the work, and without doing the work, change will not occur. Period. I don't care who you are, I don't care how powerful you think you are or what you have.

You will remain the same inside. And let me tell you what's inside of you has formed that mindset. They go hand in hand. Your mindset and what's inside of you, they go hand in hand. How you think determines your thoughts, your feelings, your actions. How you think came from all of your experiences. And most times it's those bad ones or those traumatic ones that people hold on to. People don't hold on to and gravitate towards the good ones, because if people did, lives would be so much better.

People wouldn't think if someone left them or wanted out of the relationship it would be the end of the world. People won't feel if their mom, dad, sister, brother, child, grandparent, friend die that it's the end of the world for them. You wouldn't feel like that. You will know better. If people love self, they wouldn't do any and everything for love to be a friend to someone. If you loved yourself, you will not allow people to do any and everything to you. Until you love yourself and

know yourself, you will always have that void. You will always feel something is lacking, something that's missing. You're never satisfied, and you will continue to chase Some of you will stay in relationships for years and years and years. Some people have died in their unhappy relationships because you have not fixed you. It's clear these types of people haven't fixed themselves because there is no way on this earth that they will be in unhappy relationships if they fixed self.

No way, no way. So they stay in the relationships, hoping, praying, wishing, doing rituals, all kind of stuff for the person to love them. It's never gonna work because Bill loving you is not more important than you loving yourself. And that's all I'm gonna say on this. Let me say it one more time. Until you know and love yourself, you will never be fulfilled. You will always have that. Boys, you will have no peace. You will continue chasing other individuals, money, all types

of things. You will continue chasing that because you have no peace within, You have no self satisfaction, you have no self love. You still holding on to negativity. So please share this episode. People need to hear it around the world. Thank you in advance, much much much much love to each and every one of you. If you want to talk about it further, please reach out to me. Go to my podcast page you to tell you exactly how to reach me. I will return every every single email.

Thank you so much again. Stay safe in this world, Be vigilant. Know that I love you. God loves you the most. I end every episode the same. Before I go, please check out relatable life chronicles and share it. I end every episode the same, and I hope you do it. You better do it. It's time for a change. Think on it.

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