Hey, hang back with something for you to think about. Many, many people put everything before their relationships and then expect for their relationship to last. Let me say it again, many people put everything before their relationship. Everything else is more important, and then they expect for their relationship to last.
You may still be in it, you may not go anywhere, but it's dead, dead, dead, because when you're not putting anything into it, when you're not put born into it, when you're not nurturing it, then it's like you're strangling, you're suffocating, you're killing it. It's dying because truly it suffocates because you're not putting into it. You're not putting kindling on the fire, you're not doing anything to help nurturing the relationship. When this
happens, it fails, and many people stay together. But that don't mean the relationship is good. Most relationships are not. You must get to a point of understanding that you have to let your significant other know they are priory in your life. They mean something to you. But some of you are so deep in hardcore on the grind that you fail to show your significant other
what they mean to you. You ignore them, You ignore the relationship as a whole and it will definitely open the doors to things that you did and not you just didn't want, but it will happen because you're not poured into the relationship. You're not giving him or her the time that they need and deserve. Some of you are worker Holly. Everything is work, work, work, work. Then you come home or when you're around them, you're exhausted. You don't wanna do anything, you don't want to go anywhere.
You are causing problems for yourself and the relationship. You must it's absolutely necessary to make your relationship matter. It's crucial. If you want a relationship that's lasting, that's healthy, you have to nurture it no other ways. You have to pour into it. It's like having a child. So many people have children, but they don't pour into their children at all. And as a parent, you should, just like as an individual in any relationship,
you should pour into your relationship. You should make sure you nurture it. You should make sure your significant other knows that they matter to you. And I know people don't like to hear it, but if you don't make them matter to you, if you don't let them know that they're important in your life. I guarantee you somebody else will. And I'm not saying that your significant other will do something such as cheat on you or anything like that.
I'm not saying that. But what I'm saying is you definitely can open the doors to other people coming in because sometimes when you don't give compliments, you don't give time, you don't pay any attention, somebody else will and when they do, your significant others will like it. They will like it, they will appreciate it. That's the last thing you need, and it's the last thing you want in your relationship. There's no room, none, whatsoever
for outsiders. So whatever it is, whatever it is, it does not matter if it's your work, your children, outside, things that you're doing, extracurriculum things, it don't matter what or who. You absolutely positively must let your significant other know. They need something to you. They matter to you. You're important to them, the relationship is important to them. You must let them know. You must show it, they must know it.
But some of you are way too busy and you know something else. Some of you will give that attention and time to someone else, But you're not even giving it to the one that you say you love when it comes to them. You're exhausted, you just wanna sleep, you just wanna rest, you just wanna chill out. But you're willing to give time and attention to other people. It's not right and it will cause you problems eventually, because no one that's in a relationship wants to feel as if they don't matter.
No one wants that. So many people are in relationships, but they are lonely. They're desperate for love, they're desperate for attention because they're not receiving it in their relationships. So it's important that you show them. You can't just say it, I love you, or you cannot just say words. You have to show action. And as I say it, if you don't, somebody else will badly do it. And your significant other just may like it. I'm not saying they may cheat, but they just may like the
attention that someone else is giving them because you're not giving them any. So I'm just saying, be careful, be mindful, don't be so busy that you don't have time for your significant other. Don't be so busy that your significant other is yearning for attention, yearning, yearning for time and to be shown love. Don't ever put them in that situation, or they feel that they're yearning for it, that they're feeling lonely, that they're feeling heartbroken because
you don't ever give them time or attention. Don't put yourself in that situation. Don't put them in that situation because, like I said, someone else will, and then you won't like it. You'll feel upset, betrayed when they haven't done anything. Who doesn't like a compliment? Who doesn't We all like compliments sometimes, and it's very important to give compliments to your significant other, to show them, not just provide lip service, but to show them
what they mean to get. Take time because it's important. Be willing to communicate some of you. You're so exhausted you you can't muster up the energy, but you must. You must. Don't go dragging your tail home or to see your significant other with no energy. You think they wanna spend time with you when you have no energy, you're too exhausted to communicate, You're too exhausted to do anything with them. They're gonna feel like, well, why bother? Why bother? If you're gonna come here, or if we
see each other and you're totally exhausted. You're sitting trying to watch a movie or do something, and you follow in a sleep. No one wants to be subjected to that, but unfortunately this is the story for many, many people. Many people are dealing with this in their relationship. So mine suggestion to you is get it together. Get it together before your significant other has had enough. Stop putting everything and everyone before your relationship. Stop acting as
if you don't want to be with who you're with. You say you love him or her, but you're not acting like it. You setting your self up for problems. And that's just the honest truth, because people will only take it for so long before they start saying something or before they start acting concerting way, Because people can only take so much if you don't love them and treat them the way they want you to or deserve. Sometimes people get fed up and want to move on, But you have to remember the role
you played. You have to remember the role you played. You think that you can push your significant other to the side all of the time and think they're not gonna feel some type of way about it, they most certainly will. Eventually they will. Eventually they will get to a point where they have had enough. I don't care what it is. Hey, I understand people have to work. I get it. I totally understand it. But if
you're in a relationship, you must make time. You must. There's no excuse whatsoever for a person to neglect the individual if they say they love, there's no excuse for it. And I'm telling you when you do that, it's gonna come and bite you. Eventually, your significant other is gonna get sick and tired of it. They all feel, well, hey, I'm mighty as well be by myself, or maybe even be with someone who really wants to spend time with me, who's not all about lip service. I
don't know. I'm just saying it's possible because people get tired of being pushed aside. They get tired of being treated as if they don't matter. It comes back to you, So just be aware of what you're doing in your relationship. You have to always put kennel on the fire to keep the fire going. If you let it burn out, you may not be able to at night it anymore. So take time and show love. Don't just say it. Some of you don't even do that. Some of you don't even
tell your significant other I love you. You don't tell them, you don't show them, what do you think it's going to happen? They're gonna get tired of that. So again, my suggestion is that you be aware of what you're doing. You be mindful of what you're doing, because it's going to eventually be right there in your face, but not in a good way. Because you're significant other. It's going to have enough sooner or later.
So just do the right thing. And the right thing is letting them know that they matter, that they need something to me that no matter what or who, they gonna have time for you. They have to know it. You have to show it, because when you don't, all it does is causes problems. I promise you sooner or lady. Now, if you don't care, that's a whole different story. If you don't care, and you
know you don't care, why play games? Why play games? Just move on so they can move on. I did an episode months ago that said people are committed to the relationship, but not till their significant other, and that is the truth. Some people, yeah, they committed to being in the relationship, they feel obligated once they get in it. But they're not committed to the person that they're with. Makes no sense at all for people.
Some people do this makes no sense. So if it don't mean anything to you, if it don't matter to you, don't waste another second. But if you're saying that it does matter, then you better get it together before it's too late, and you don't have anyone to blame but of yourself, you and you alone. Sometimes your significant other is trying desperately to get you to act as if you care. They shouldn't have to do that. They should not have to do that, twist your arm for you to show
that you care about them. No, that's not how it's supposed to be. So be very aware and careful of what you're doing, and if you're not doing the right thing, you better get it together before it's too late. Because sometimes when it's too late, that means your significant other has gotten sick and tired and you can do whatever. It won't even matter anymore. They're done, So don't be that individual who have to go through that.
Sometimes people don't miss the water until the whild runs right. So just be very very mindful and aware of what you're doing in your relationship. Be mindful and aware, because if you love who you are with, you should be showing it. You should be spending time, You should be showing affection, You should be willing to communicate, and many other things to help that relationship to flourish and grow. It takes nurturing. Okay, you got that.
Some of you needed to hear that on today because you have gotten comfortable with doing nothing, very comfortable. Some of you are to the point that you even reject your signing with another. You reject them. How do you think they feel, especially on top of the fact you don't give them attention anyways, mind what you are doing before it's too late. Sometimes people open their eyes when it's too late. Now you have an attitude because they don't want
you anymore. They tried and tried and tried, and you ignore them, dismiss them, and now they've had enough. So don't let it get to that point. If you love who you're with, then you'll do what you're supposed to do. You'll do right by him or her. And remember, if you don't, someone else would definitely be willing to. And that's all I have on that. I'm leaving it right there. Please share this episode people need to hear so many are in these types of relationships. Please share.
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