Hey, hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to think about. I feel good. I just finished doing a long walk. I wanted to sit down and do an episode. Many of you who are listening to my voice right now are in relationships you don't want to be in, you shouldn't be in. Many of you are in relationships where you got warnings from people. You got warnings from friends, family, other people. You saw your own red flags and signs, but you refused to take heed.
You absolutely refused to take heed. Now you find yourself in an unhealthy and unhappy situation. So many people go through life refusing to acknowledge the truth. You see the truth, but because of your mindset, because of who you are as an individual and the things that you have not resolved within you, you are blind. You cannot see the truth. You do not see reality as it really is. You see your version of it, but it's not necessarily the truth. People try to warn you, you didn't want to
hear it. Some of you got so angry you even severed the tie to the relationship. Some of you walked away from family and friends because of your significant other. Now you're in a bad situation. Some of you totally cut the tides and didn't want anything else to do with your family or your friends. And that was great for your significant other. They wanted to ostracize you
anyway, but you helped him or her to do it. You allowed yourself to be in that situation, and then you found yourself totally totally alone and afraid, sad, unhappy because you allowed yourself to be pulled away from your family members because you got upset because they tried to warn you about your significant other. Unfortunately, many people have died in their relationships because they did not take heed to the red flags. They did not take heed to the wounds
that was right before them. They failed to take heed, and because of it, they end up losing their lives. I had someone to email me one time about their situation, and they were upset because I always talk about if you stayed, if you're afraid to go, you stayed too long. If you're afraid to stay, you stayed too long. So they were a little upset because they told me that they got out. They walked away.
But that's great, But the thing is if when you walked away, this was this was a female that emailed me when you walked away, you still had all types of problems from that guy. That guy was stalking you. That guy was still causing you all types of problems. So you still stay too loan. You stayed too long. Anytime you walk away and you're still having problems from that individual, you stay too long. So don't come at
me with an attitude, because I'm telling you the truth. Some people do get out and they still lose their lives because they had stayed too long. I will stand on that. I mean, come on, it's obvious.
That's why I tell people love yourself enough to walk away. Too many people are trying to figure out their significant others when you need to be understanding who you are dealing with, who you are dealing with, who you've allowed yourself to become, deal with your unresolved issues, and love yourself so you can love yourself enough to walk away. People are seeking love in all the wrong ways from all the wrong people, and you get into these relationships. No
one can tell you anything because you know every thing. When you know nothing, you don't want to listen because you got it, You got it together. You know that's mister Wright. You know she's missus, right, You know nothing. You don't even know yourself. You don't even love yourself.
That's why you make all of the bad choices and decisions. That's why you allow and accepted things you allow and accept in your life, in many of you, in the lives of your children, because you bring that garbage around them. Children have lost their lives because of the decisions you made, or because of decisions parents made. Children have lost their lives in relationships that their parents or parents it was a part of because people failed to and heed to
the red flags and signs or the warnings from others. People failed to to take notice, to acknowledge, take heed. Sometimes people they are so blind, but they won't even accept the fact that they're blind. They just won't because they want what they want. They desire who they desire. They have these starts and these feelings, and that's all they're chasing after because they want that person totally totally disregarding all the red flags and signs. When you do
not heed to the warnings, you suffer the consequences. You will feel the effects in your life. So many people already are dealing with their own issues because they have unresolved issues inside of them. So they're already dealing with their own situations, their own drama, their own problems. Then they get into relationship with someone who's bringing even more. People try to warn you or you
saw the red flags. You saw them, but you refuse to take heed, you refuse to acknowledge them, because you want it who you want it, And that's that you didn't care about anything else. You didn't care what people was trying to tell you. You didn't care about what you saw because you want it who you wanted, And unfortunately it has really caused people many,
many issues. You find yourself very unhappy in an unhappy situation. Many people, many people settle for this sin what's before them, but they still remain where they are. You were warned, you saw the red flags, you saw the signs. People tried to tell you. You were warned, but you chose to ignore the warning. And now you're in a bad situation. Some of you are angry at your parents, angry at your friends because they tried to tell you. Now you're looking like a deer in a headlight,
because you know you're in a volatile situation. You're in a very unhappy situation. Now you feel like you don't have anyone you can go to because you pushed everyone away. I don't care what your situation is. There is always a positive way out, but you cannot see it up. You don't have that mindset. Some people believe that what they're in that's as good as it get. But that's a lie. And I know anyone who feels like that don't love his or herself. The only way you're gonna have better in
your life, you have to want better. You cannot look at your significant other to find better. You have to want better for yourself. You have to make it happen for yourself in your life. I've always told you people come to your into your life to compliment you c O M P L E M E n T. They come to enhance your life. But well, let me let me retract that, let me rephrase it. They should come into your life to enhance your life. But the terrible truth is most people
are choosing individuals who are doing just the opposite. You're choosing individuals who are bringing drama and chaos, toxicity into your life, nothing but toxicity. Those are the individuals many of you are choosing, or you know people who have chosen those types of people. That alone tells you something about yourself. If you're in a toxic relationship, if you're in an unhappy relationship, that individual is not one who is enhancing your life. So I want you to think
about that. If they're not complimenting you, enhancing your life, making things better, better, you've chosen wrong. That's what I believe. I believe significant others should make your life brighter, better because they're bringing just as good to the relationship as you are. Anything less, you're failing yourself. But so many people are because they get into relationships with people who have nothing to
bring to the table. They get into relationships with people who are controlling everything. If from the start, if your eyes are not able to see the truth, you will find yourself in a relationship that you're very unhappy with. Too many people settle because they rather have some person than no one at all. That's a terrible mindset. That's an unhealthy mindset. That's a mindset that has not grow or matured into an individual whom understand self and love self and
understand what love is. You can't understand what love is when you don't love yourself, You just cannot. I don't care how much you think you can. You cannot understand love when you don't love yourself. You just can't. But people struggle every day in their relationships, trying to work it out, trying to work it out with someone who has the same mindset as you. How are you going to do that? They have unresolved You have unresolved chaos,
drama, turbulence all of the time. But you keep struggling, trying to make it work. You trying to make something work that's not workable. Some of you even believe that you don't deserve better. When you're done wrong by your significant other, you take the blame for it, You take the fall. You're the scapegoat. You believe you caused it. But that is because of the insecurities and the unresolved inside of an individual who thinks like that.
And I will tell you significant others who have unhealthy mindsets, they will feed off of it. They will feed off of it. I've always told you you're the victim, or the victimizer, the prayer, the predator, however you want to characterize it. If you have not dealt with who you are as an individual, know yourself, love yourself, have let go of all of the things that made you have that negative mindset and grew immatured into a better person. If you have not gotten to that point, I'm telling
you you will be blind. You will not be able to see the truth right in your face. You will find yourself in bass situations with individuals you should not have been with. But there's no one on earth who cannot As long as you have breath in your body make your situation better. You can make your situation better. You have to want to. You have to make in your mind. There are very tough decisions, but they're really not tough. But okay, we can say they're tough for you to walk away from
an abusive relationship. For some people, it's still tough to walk away because of insecurities within selfs. So if it's tough for you to walk away, is it worth you stand? You have to think about those things, because you will talk yourself into remaining where you know you shouldn't be. You will talk yourself into it stand in an unhealthy relationship. So you have to make up your mind for yourself that you want better. Then make a decision on
how to obtain that. Your significant other is not going to give it to you. You have to want it for yourself. And as I said, if they're not making things in your life better, they're taking from you. They're making the situation worse. Come on, that's not the one I'm telling you. That's not the one. People shouldn't struggle all the time and their relationships. Yeah, you're gonna have some issues that come up because you're two
different people. But when you're grown, mature people who know who they are as individuals and love self, things are gonna be different. Especially when Jesus, when God the Father is the center. Now I have to put it in there because if you've listened to me, you know my faith. So I believe everything is Jesus first, Jesus the Son, God the Father first. But I know a lot of people don't believe. And I'm not knocking you for not believing. That's on you. That's on you. I just
know what he's done from my life. I know how he's opened my eyes. I know how he's changed my life because I see things that oh I did not see before, clearly, clearly, clearly. But that's me. You have to choose for yourself like you choose everything else for yourself. So even if, even if you go through life and you never choose God at least, choose yourself at least. And what I mean by choose yourself is want to be the best you can be, want to have a better mindset,
a better heart. So many people just go through life the very same, expecting a change. It's not gonna happen. If you go through life
the very same, you get the very same. Shenanigan's trouble, problems on top of problems, constantly bickering, bickering and fighting, constantly, drama, chaos, unrest, because that's what people are opening themselves up to, that's what they're settling for, because they just want to be with who therewith see the red flags and signs, have been warned many times, but refuse to
take heed. We only have one life to live, and so many choose to live it miserably, a free will, miserably, just unhappy, facing happiness. It's never ever gonna get better when you're not working on getting better. Sometimes you just have to walk away. Sometimes walking away it's the best thing you could have ever done for yourself. That's why I'm always telling people, have your own get your own. You don't have to depend on nobody
else. You don't have to depend on their money, their shelter, their food, them clothing you when you have your own. But so many people are lazy. They don't want to work. All they want to do is gain the benefits of other people. They want to gain the benefits of someone else. Hard label. Sometimes that comes with a price. Oh you want my money, then I'm getting ready to put you through some stuff. You want me because I look good. Oh, I'm gonna show you some drama.
You want me because I have these possessions. I mean, there are consequences for your choices and decisions. I'm telling you. Sometimes you have an agenda and sometimes they have an agenda. How is that gonna work? Or sometimes you have no agenda but they definitely have an agenda. It still won't work. You have to be on the same accord, and when you're not, drama will pursue. So all I'm trying to say is, you were
warm, you did not take heed to the warnings. Now you're dealing with the consequences them, the after math of not taking heed, because sooner or later, your significant other is gonna show you who they really are, You're gonna show them who you really are. And when you've already been warned or you've seen the warnings but you didn't take heed, all you do is in power, and you also create that must. Always tell you about when you let people treat you any kind of way, they will, and as they
do, you're creating that must. It happens every day, every single day in someone's life because people refuse to take heed to the warnings. If you want better, you have to make better for yourself, whatever it takes. Positive, always positive. That's how you have to think. When people come at you crazy, positive, Remain positive. Don't let people try to knock you off of your stupid stay positive. You can't be positive in a relationship
with someone that's going nowhere. If you want better, you have to do something different. In order for better to become a thing in your life. You have to want it for yourself. And so many of you are searching and seeking better in someone else, some of you not even seeking better because you're going and get the worst people ever. You want to get. People you know don't have nothing a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of it. They have nothing. They're not trying to get nothing.
How you're gonna have better with someone who's just taken taking taking taken from you. You're getting in relationships based on the wrong thing. How people look, what they have, their titles and positions. None of that is gonna help you. You're gonna have drama behind all of that. If you do not take you to the warnings, you will suffer the consequences. I'm not saying it anymore. That's all I'm saying on this episode. I'm leaving it
right there. Thank you for listening. I hope you get enough out of this to understand what I'm saying. When you're warn take Heed because if you don't, you will wish you had of taking Heed, because you will suffer the consequences of not taking Heed. So many people have died in a relationship because they didn't take Heed. So many and so many will die because no matter how much you tell people, they still gonna do what they want to
do. So thank you for listening. Please please share this episode. I appreciate you much. Love to you, you and you if it's your first time here, thank you so much. Please come and listen again. I also listen to my other episodes. I have a a podcast also called Relatable Life Chronicles. Check it out. Also share thank you again. I end every episode the same, and I hope and I pray you do it, think on it,