Hey, hey, I'm back. Oh, yes, with something for you to think about. Nothing changes until you choose you. Let me say it again, nothing changes until you choose you. Many people in this world are choosing everything and everyone other than self. Many people. I've told you many times on my episodes, how people are putting everyone in everything before self. Because that person that people ignore ain't neglect the most it is self. It's a fact, it is seen. There is evidence in how people choose to
live their lives. Nothing is going to change, nothing until you choose you, until you matter in your own life. Many people, they get into relationships based solely on how they feel, how they feel about the person, and not what the person is doing to them, how the person is treating them. It is solely based on I love him, I love her. They make me feel good, they look good. You can't see the truth until you choose you. When you choose you, your eyes open. It's
the truth. You cannot see the truth until you choose you. So many people are in unhealthy relationships, completely miserable, sad, crying their eyes out every day because they have not yet chold self. Your mindset cannot change if you don't choose change. You will continue to get into relationships, you'll bad relationships. You will continue to go back to bad relationships that you got out of. You will continue to believe that you're the problem, which you are.
But most times in relationships, when you're in those one sided relationships, it's the other person. They're treating you the way they treat you because you left them. So you are a problem in that sense, but you're not the reason a person cheats. You're not the reason people make the choices they make. They make them because of what's inside of them, the same reason you choose to put up with it. Your life will not change until you
choose you. How many people have you heard about, or you may even know, who got into relationships and just gave everything to that relationship, lost a sense of who they were. Their path was the same path as their significant other, who was not reciprocating anything. They were just receiving They wasn't reciprocating anything. How many people you know or have heard of who got into relationships with these types of people and they're miserable and they finally finally decide enough
is enough. Their eyes open and they say, finally I found myself. I finally loved me. I love my life. I want to make a difference for myself. Plenty of people wake up and get to that point. I've told you so many times, and I'll take it to the graves. People treat you how you have taught them to treat you. They treat you exactly how you allow, no matter what it is, and really no matter who it is. We've seen it with parents, children, friends, family
members, other people. They treat you how you allow. So many of you are intoxic relationships. Allowing that toxicity. You're allowing it because you cannot see the real deal. You can't see beyond your feelings. You want your desires to the truth. Until you choose you, things remain the same. No change can occur until you make change happening. You have to want it. It's not gonna happen on its own. I've told you also before.
So many people are worried about their significant others. Oh he's doing this or she's doing this. Yeah, they're doing exactly what you let them do. They bring in chaos and drama into your life because you open yourself up to it. No one can hurt you unless you give them power to hurt you. Munsters are created in your life because you create them. You create them when you let your significant other do whatever they want to do to you, talk to you, any kind of way, whatever it is, you create
that munster. How many times do I have to say it before people understand what I'm saying. Whatever you let a person get away with, you're creating a monster. Change will not occur in your life if you don't embrace change and make change happen. Too many of you are looking for your significant others to change. When I've said many times, you are the one who needs to change because your significant other may never change. You certainly won't change him
or her. So it is you who needs to change. When you change, you change your situation. When you change, that means your mindset changes and ultimately your life. Too many people looking for their significant others to change. Oh, he needs to change. He needs to change this. He needs to change that. She needs to change this, she needs to change that. No, you need to change because when you change, you won't put up with the crap that they're doing. Some of you cannot move forward
in life because you're holding on into negativity. You can't let go because you're holding onto the negativity. You're giving power to it. You're giving power to that negativity that's holding you down mentally. Some of you physically, you're emotionally tore up. Some of you are tore up physically. You're tore up mentally because all of the mental stress have turned into mental illnesses. You wasn't born that way. You wasn't born with those mental illnesses. You develop those things.
Most mental illnesses people develop over time through trauma, bad experiences, and things of that nature. They develop mental stress that's so heavy that it turns into mental illness. Everybody, everybody, Oh I got this, I got that, just labeling themselves with all types of mental illnesses. Oh I have this, I have that, and a badge of honor or something. You hold that in. You gravitate towards that negativity. You allow it in your
life, You label yourselves. You believe that. Some of you use it as a crutch. Some of you use it as a way to get sympathy from others. You can never grow like that. You keep bringing it up. I have this, I have that. You keep bringing it up because it's a crutch in your life. Some of you you feel that's the only way you're gonna get attention. But you're holding yourself back. When you label
yourself and you embrace that label, you're holding yourself back. Just like many of you in your relationships, you allowing your significant other to pull you down with them. I just recently did an episode. If your life isn't better with them, you sure don't need them. Because people should come into your life and make your life better. Your significant other should enhance your life,
compliment and not make it worse. But too many people are settling for making it worse, and I mean they really, really, really give everything to that relationship. That's horrible. I mean, you cannot ever grow and become the best you that you can be if you continue to hold on to all of the negativity that has bound you, all the negativity that has caused you a life of dysfunction. You can never ever grow and be the best you
possible. When you do not implement change in your life, you just won't. And sadly, so many people around the world have allowed their significant others to totally reak having in their lives. So many people, so many people, and it's all because people are not given time to figure it out self. Knowing self, loving self, getting past their pains, and it's really really awful, But most people live their lives this way. You can't become
better by remaining the same. No one can. And if you go through life giving all your power to your significant other thinking they're the best thing for you, when they're clearly the worst, your life is never gonna get better. It will never get better until you choose you, until you make your life imported, until you matter to yourself. You have to choose you. If you don't choose you, why do you think he or she should choose you? Why should you should should they feel you matter to them when you
don't matter to yourself. I'll venture to say most people don't even know who they are as individuals. They don't know self. And that's that's a sad truth. It's a hard peal of swallow, but it's the truth. You don't know yourself. You never try to become better because people, as I said, they adapt to the behavior that they've always had. They adapt to it, and that's how they live their life. They live their lives the same way, cycles going through the same exact experiences for a lifetime, for
a lifetime. That maladaptive behavior that they're accustomed to, they're comfortable with. You choose individuals to love who are like you because they don't know what love is. Either you don't they don't. So you go through life choosing people who are similar to you with the same mindset I told you several episodes.
You're either the prey or the predator. If you do not heal from your past pains, if you do not learn who you are, you learn to love yourself, fix what's broken inside of you, you will always either be the prey or the predator. Some people are both. They're the prey and they're the predator. You get into these relationships really seeking love, really with everything. You give all of yourself to your significant others, but you don't
know who you are. You allow your past pains to sabotage your life, sabotage your potential for good, wholesome relationships because you don't love yourself. Until you choose you, your life remains the same. And that's for anyone, anyone. It does not matter who you are or who you think you are. Until you choose you, your life remains the same. And we see it, we see the evidence of it in how people just relationship hop the
rich and the poor, relationship hop in relationship with terrible people terrible. Everybody knows he treats you wrong, everybody knows she treats you wrong. But you're still there taking it because that's what you become comfortable with. You're so comfortable with the uncomfortable. You're so comfortable with the abnormal because to you, you're so comfortable, it appears normal to you. And the bottom line is people treat you how you let them. You teach them how to treat you.
People want to go off on individual saying well, he shouldn't have done this, he shouldn't have done that, or she shouldn't have done this, she shouldn't have done it. They've done exactly what they were allowed to do exactly. That's what people do. Whatever you let them get away with, that's what they'll do to you. Until you choose you, your life will remain the same. People are always talking about social media. Social media have done
this to people. Social social media have not done anything to people. People have done it to themselves. Social media only affects you according to how you let it, and that is done because of what's inside of people. That's how people respond to social media. It's how people respond to others according to what's inside of self. Yes, some social media's great, some social media's horrible, But how it affects you depends on you. Period. You get
into your relationships and no one can tell you anything, no one. You don't want to listen to everything because you love him so much or you love her so much. You don't want to listen to anyone about anything. But you choose according to what's inside of you. You choose according to your mindset. Because people are blind to the truth, they can't see reality. In that moment, so many people said, I didn't see the signs, there was no red flags lies. There are always signs and red flags always,
but you can't see the truth because of what's inside of you. What is in your mind, what's on your mind, what's in your heart. You cannot see the truth because you're blind by you're unresolved. All you know is you want what you want. That's all you know. You can't see anything else. That's why so many people have lost themselves in their relationships, completely lost themselves. Everything that they once really wanted to do in life, They
gave it up chasing him or her, that man, that woman. You used to love certain things, you don't love it anymore because you have opened yourself up to so much negativity and drama that you've lost sight of the things you want loved. You have no energy because you put everything into him or her. You're trying to fight in every way you can think of to hold the relationship together. When it's a horrible relationship. It makes no sense. It's no good for you. He's no good for you. She's no good
for you. But you can't see it because you just want what you want. You're crying your eyes out, you're having physical pain, you developed mental illnesses, but you still want that man, you still want that woman. Because of your unresolved inside of you causes you to have insecurities, lack of confidence, lack of self esteem. You think you're the worst of the worst because of what's inside of you. Until you choose you, your life remains
the same. You continue that vicious cycle. People continue to mistreat you because you open yourself up to it. Your significant others totally take you for granted, abuse, you mistreat you, just do you wrong, but you still want them because of what's inside of you until you choose you. You'll keep taking what you've been taking until you choose you. You will continue to go along with any and everything. Until you choose you. You won't be able
to see the signs. You won't acknowledge them until you choose you. Your significant other will always be the person that you think is the greatest thing, when in reality they're the worst. They're the worst for you, but you can't see it because you want what you want. You feel what you feel, You desire what you desire, even though it's all wrong, just complete toxicity, but you want it. You still want it. It's negative as negative can be, but you still want it. Come on, now,
come on. You know it makes no sense. You know it makes no sense to be with a person who's treating you wrong in any way. It makes no sense, you think, being with someone who is causing pure havoc in your life. Every day you're just full of anxiety. Some of you don't want to go home. You do everything to prolong going home. You think that's good, but you're so comfortable with it until it's just second nature
to you to be a mist that mess a second nature. So so many people in life all over the world are just totally settling, and they're totally putting themselves in situations that they shouldn't be in because they have yet to choose yourself, having grown mentally, having matured mentally, Because they've not ever made a decision to choose self. You have not dealt with your unresolved. If you haven't dealt with your unresolved, you're still plagued by all of those things
that you've through, anger, bitterness, all types of negativity. You haven't chosen yourself. If you're letting a man or woman treat you any kind of way, you haven't chosen yourself. If you haven't chosen yourself, you certainly don't love yourself. But this is the situation for many people, and I wanted to bring it to your awareness so you can really, really, really
really really think about what I'm saying. Just think about your life. You don't have to lie to me, you don't have to tell me anything. You do it for yourself. Think about your life, what you're involved in right now as I speak, Who you're involved in, what you're allowing and accepting if it's crap. You don't love yourself because you haven't chose you yet, So that's all I'm gonna say. I've said at what I said. I stand on what I said. If anyone want to talk about it,
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