Our response to stress, anxiety, depression, and the myriad of challenging dynamics we face in a relationship is a physiological response. Developing the ability to respond to difficult times healthily and productively is a skill that can be learned. But unfortunately, individuals often rely on their instinctive responses in stressful times, which can lead to internal suffering and destabilization in their relationship. In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Teresa Jansen, a therapist and breath...
Aug 12, 2022•34 min
Every moment offers the opportunity to begin a new trend in your life. But unfortunately, it is tough to break behavioral patterns because they are often rooted in unconscious negative core beliefs. In this episode, Tarah and EJ interview Victoria Rios about her inspiring emotional and physical transformation story. She shares her journey of confronting her negative and limiting thoughts and how this led to a wellness journey and becoming a social media influencer impacting thousands of individu...
Aug 05, 2022•29 min
Curiosity and playfulness are two qualities that are over-abundant at the beginning of most relationships. But as time passes many couples get bogged down in the heaviness of life and lose their playful connection. This leads to negative communication patterns which drain the love and fun out of their interactions. In this episode Tarah and EJ speak with Renay Burger, LMFT a therapist who focuses on creative and playful ways to reconnect couples. They discuss the importance of creating connectin...
Jul 29, 2022•31 min
Curiosity and playfulness are two qualities that are over-abundant at the beginning of most relationships. But as time passes many couples get bogged down in the heaviness of life and lose their playful connection. This leads to negative communication patterns which drain the love and fun out of their interactions. In this episode, Tarah and EJ speak with Renay Burger, LMFT a therapist who focuses on creative and playful ways to reconnect couples. They discuss the importance of creating connecti...
Jul 22, 2022•26 min
One of the primary reasons couples come to counseling is that they feel that their intimate relationship has deteriorated. Intimacy is the expression of love to your partner in various ways. To cultivate a satisfying and connected intimate relationship, couples must understand that intimacy and sex are not synonymous. If you measure your connection with your partner exclusively by your sexual connection, it will be difficult to remain emotionally and physically connected. In this episode, Tarah ...
Jul 15, 2022•27 min
Creating a healthy and functional family unit is challenging. Extended family relationships often create conflicts of loyalty that slowly erode trust and intimate connection. By understanding the complications of family dynamics from a holistic perspective couples have the opportunity to be more intentional in how they communicate and create systems that minimize conflict and encourage empathy and loving support. In this episode, Tarah and EJ interview Cristina Piastrini, LPC. Cristina shares in...
Jul 08, 2022•36 min
It is the small things that you do every day that enrich your relationship with your partner. When couples intentionally try to "Follow Through" on the commitments they make to their partner, it builds trust and a solid and loving bond. By understanding what is essential to your partner and creating a consistent effort to be there for them, they tend to be more expressive of their love and more patient. In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss why "Following Through" can be difficult without intent...
Jul 01, 2022•21 min
The mental health system is a confusing and often frustrating system for many patients to navigate. Once an individual breaks past the stigma of seeking mental health support they begin a journey without a roadmap. They struggle to understand the difference between therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists and a myriad of other mental health providers. . In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Dr. Warren Kane, a board certified psychiatrist. Dr. Kane discusses the struggles many individuals face w...
Jun 24, 2022•32 min
40% of families in the U.S. are blended with at least one partner having a child from a previous relationship before marriage. Per the U.S. Bureau of Census, 1300 new stepfamilies are formed each day. The process of blending a family is a significant stressor on new relationships and profoundly effects the children in the family system. Unfortunately many couples in blended families do not address the challenging dynamics until the problems become chronic. By normalizing and addressing many comm...
Jun 17, 2022•41 min
Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States aged 18 and older. Anxiety symptoms can range from restlessness, fatigue, difficulty concentrating, irritability, headaches, stomach aches, overwhelming worry, and sleep problems. Anxiety profoundly affects individuals, which can also create significant strains on relationships. In this episode Tarah and EJ interview couples therapist Gabe Lobato. He shares his story of managing anx...
Jun 10, 2022•50 min
You ask, we answer! Couples across the spectrum struggle with similar stressors and relationship dynamics. They find themselves stuck in patterns that leave them feeling frustrated, alone and unsupported. In this episode Tarah and EJ answer a few questions from their Social Media Audience. They address subjects like division of labor in the household and making your relationship a priority. Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-...
Jun 03, 2022•30 min
Psychedelic treatment of mental health issues is re-immerging as a powerful tool in treating mental health struggles. Ketamine is a very safe pharmaceutical that is now becoming available in many states. A growing body of research demonstrates that ketamine treatment incorporated with a robust psychotherapy integration program can be a powerful tool in treating depression, anxiety, PTSD, grief and loss, substance dependencies, and other psychiatric conditions. During a ketamine session, people o...
May 27, 2022•1 hr 7 min
When couples first come together, the thrill of meeting someone new combined with attraction creates a honeymoon period. By the time they exit the initial charge of getting together, they have often made unconscious systems of conflict resolution that are not sustainable in the long term. Individuals within the couple come in with separate and often divergent coping mechanisms that create obstacles to secure and loving connections. In this episode, Tarah and EJ normalize the struggles couples in...
May 20, 2022•27 min
Couples fall into repetitive emotional reactivity and communication patterns that leave them feeling lonely, isolated, and frustrated. But frequently, insights and practical coaching can create a significant shift in their relationship, especially if both couple members decide to act with more intentionality. In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Relationship Coach Lisa McFarland. Lisa's journey to coaching began when she and her husband took the step to receive support from a professional, and...
May 13, 2022•34 min
Maintaining a satisfying sexual connection throughout a long-term relationship takes intentionality and empathy. There will inevitably be times when you and your partner have discrepancies in your sex drive. But unfortunately, couples are unprepared, and a naturally occurring dynamic can metastasize and pull them apart in all aspects of their relationship. In the second of a two-part series, "Low Frisky" and "High Frisky," Tarah and EJ share their own experiences of maintaining a loving relation...
May 06, 2022•34 min
Maintaining a satisfying sexual connection throughout a long-term relationship takes intentionality and empathy. There will inevitably be times when you and your partner have discrepancies in your sex drive. But unfortunately, couples are unprepared, and a naturally occurring dynamic can metastasize and pull them apart in all aspects of their relationship. In the first of a two-part series, "Low Frisky" and "High Frisky," Tarah and EJ share their own experiences of maintaining a loving relations...
Apr 29, 2022•37 min
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT , is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT). He is the author and co-author of numerous best-selling books exploring individual and relationship wellness. Tatkin’s work, based on a social-emotional capacity model, focuses on what partners can and cannot do to mitigate threat reactions during stressful interactive sequences. Tatkin is known for integrating various theories and models to form the foundation of ...
Apr 22, 2022•48 min
When couples are stuck in patterns of conflict and hostile interactions, they begin to feel hopeless. They become emotionally guarded, and their intimacy dwindles. They find themselves feeling lonely, desperate, and frustrated. But, magical things happen when couples take the brave and vulnerable step of looking inward and committing to personal growth together. Tarah and EJ discuss their experience of guiding hundreds of couples through their Relationship Renovation program. They discuss the he...
Apr 15, 2022•22 min
Couples struggle with communication and the ability to resolve conflict. They find themselves in repetitive patterns where they lose confidence in their ability to stay connected and solve problems in challenging moments. They find themselves feeling frustrated when it comes to expressions of intimacy. When these patterns repeat, they often conclude that they are “just a bad fit.” Or that one or the other person is “unwilling to change.” They fail to realize that many of the negative dynamics ar...
Apr 08, 2022•37 min
Therapy can be an intimidating process to begin. Some individuals believe that it means that there is something wrong with them and that the stigma of going to counsel will negatively impact how others perceive them. For some, it is a scary thought to address issues from their past that they have purposely avoided addressing. Couples' therapy often ends up being the last resort, and by the time they arrive, they feel as if it is their last hope. In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss the process ...
Apr 01, 2022•25 min
Pets play a central role in our lives. They are members of our family that enrich our lives, provide joy and break our hearts when they pass away. In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Cristina Piastrini, anthropologist and therapist. The three discuss pets' significant impact on individuals, couples, and families. The episode is informative, exploring the biological, cultural, and evolutionary history of pets in human society and a free-flowing open-hearted, and fun delve into how pets can inf...
Mar 25, 2022•44 min
Couples struggle with work/life balance. They often comment that their relationship doesn't feel like a priority, pulling them apart and leaving them feeling like roommates or even co-workers. They manage their lives day-to-day and forget how important it is to cultivate a loving and tender connection. When this happens, intimacy dwindles, and frustration rises. This, coupled with poor communication, can lead couples to a crisis. Nowhere is this dynamic as prevalent as couples who work together....
Mar 18, 2022•30 min
Accountability is choosing to look at your behavior and take responsibility for your actions. Unfortunately, being accountable is not an intuitive step in many relationships. Instead, couples tend to focus on their partner, which pulls couples apart instead of bringing them together. When individuals within a couple take the brave step of looking inward and owning ways they contribute to negative dynamics, it is the path to healthy conflict resolution. Tarah and EJ interview Jessie Krall, relati...
Mar 11, 2022•31 min
Forgiveness is the process of letting go of negative thoughts and feelings from a past event or series of events. Throughout the course of a relationship, it is inevitable that individuals within a couple will have moments where they hurt one another. When couples are unable to forgive one another they build a backlog of resentments that create obstacles to feeling deeply connected and loving. In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss the process of forgiveness. They help their listeners develop ins...
Mar 04, 2022•24 min
Movement is our first language and most basic form of communication. It is a metaphor for how we think, feel and relate to the self and others. There are many ways to connect with your partner, but often couples get stuck in communication patterns that pull them apart intimately. Finding creative ways to understand your feelings and using that information to create vulnerable and connecting moments with your partner can create significant shifts in your relationship. In this episode, Tarah and E...
Feb 25, 2022•29 min
Couples often come to therapy because they are fed up with patterns of conflict that leave them both frustrated, alone, and hopeless. When couples end up in repetitive arguments, they increasingly lose confidence in their ability to stay connected in a difficult time. They build resentment and eventually become more emotionally and physically distant. When couples learn to listen, become aware, and empathize with their partner's experience, moments of conflict can become learning experiences whe...
Feb 18, 2022•22 min•Ep. 56
Trauma profoundly impacts an individual’s daily life and causes significant dysregulation in their nervous system, especially in times of distress. 70% of adults in the United States have experienced some form of trauma, which amounts to over 220 million individuals suffering from the effects of a traumatic event. With such a substantial amount of people having suffered from a traumatic event in their life, trauma and its’ effects have a profound impact on couples and families. Because of the co...
Feb 11, 2022•40 min
Throughout an intimate relationship, couples face challenging times. Many of the burdens you face as a couple, result from difficult times, external stress, and how you and your partner cope. Oftentimes, the stress you face is a direct result of your partner's choices and how they succeed and fail to adapt to the ups and downs of life. Resentment is the uncomfortable emotion that individuals in a committed relationship feel when they blame their partner for the emotional discomfort they are feel...
Feb 04, 2022•34 min
Throughout an individual’s life, they have experiences that shape how they see and interact with the world. Our prior experiences create the way we respond consciously and unconsciously in our relationships. When couples come together, they have entirely different ways to adapt to their environment. When you enter into an intimate relationship, you respond to life simultaneously. Unfortunately, you and your partner will inevitably respond in asymmetrical ways that lead to conflict. By understand...
Jan 28, 2022•36 min
The beginning of a relationship is often a time of excitement and immense pleasure. You and your partner stay up late talking, kissing, and more! It’s almost like you can’t get enough of them. You can face the next day of work or school with little to no sleep and show up with the high of love exuding out of every pore on your body. This “honeymoon” period of love and attraction can last weeks, months, or even years. But when it ends, there can be a tremendous letdown, and suddenly the love of y...
Jan 21, 2022•27 min
