When couples start therapy they often tell me they want to communicate better, have tools for how to communicate, want the relationship to be more peaceful, and want a level of respect and kindness. Do you relate? I know I want a peaceful relationship with respect and kindness. What wonderful goals for these couples. In this episode, we cover 3 reasons you’re having conflicts. This podcast is for informational purposes only....
Nov 28, 2024•12 min
A cheat sheet of loving phrases. In this podcast, I cover sweet-nothing examples. I give you a list of 21 sweet nothings you could try to see if they work for you. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
Jul 22, 2024•9 min
If you and your partner want to improve your communication in 2024, here are 4 common sticking points that you will need to overcome. January is a time of New Year resolutions, commitments to do better, and learning something new. Here are 4 things to consider if you and your partner want to improve your communication in 2024. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
Jan 02, 2024•16 min•Season 1Ep. 122
If you are wondering if you and your partner are compatible, or if you should break up, Alexandra has questions to consider to help you decide if you want to continue in your relationship. This podcast is for educational purposes only.
Dec 19, 2023•52 min•Season 1Ep. 121
If you are looking for a sustainable, long-term relationship, this is the episode for you. Dr. Gottman reviews how to find safety and security in a love relationship. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
Dec 06, 2023•7 min•Season 1Ep. 120
If you are looking for a sustainable, long-term relationship, this is the episode for you. Dr. Gottman reviews how to find safety and security in a love relationship. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
Nov 14, 2023•53 min
After being sleep-deprived, I was reminded about how important sleep is to a happy, healthy and harmonious relationship. At risk of sharing overly simplistic suggestions, in this podcast we are talking about the importance of good sleep hygiene and the impact on a relationship. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
Nov 01, 2023•12 min•Season 1Ep. 118
Tanner and Anne found themselves disconnected and hopeless as Tanner struggled with chronic pain. In this episode, they share how Tanner healed from his pain, and how their relationship healed too. Both Social Workers, Tanner and Anne share a unique perspective how pain impacts not only the person suffering but also the relationship. In this episode we cover: - Relationship healing - Structural pain vs. somatic pain - Mind-body concerns - How understanding led to healing - Communication as a cou...
Oct 03, 2023•45 min•Season 1Ep. 117
Have you tried to raise an issue to your partner and rather than hear you, they whine, make excuses, or worse – they turn the issue on you? Maybe you are the person who responds in these ways, and you don’t know why you do this. In this podcast I will cover the common reasons people are defensive, and how to overcome it. In this podcast we discuss: - 5 reasons people are defensive - The role of criticism - What to do if you’re defensive - Tools to change defensiveness - Tools to decrease the cha...
Sep 19, 2023•18 min
Do you and your partner struggle to communicate? Have you ever experienced… - Things you thought were small issues turn into a blowout fight. - Your partner tells you they feel criticized. - You see your partner walk away in conflict and it makes you upset. - You’re unsure what is going wrong and why you are fighting so much with the person you love. In this episode, we are going to cover what Drs. John and Julie Gottman studied relationships and identified what they call the Four Horsemen of co...
Aug 22, 2023•15 min
This authentic conversation about struggles, triumphs and the courage to be selfish with herself left me compelled to be more vulnerable and braver in so many areas of my life. If you are looking for a story about overcoming incredible odds to overcome challenges, breaking multi-generational cycles and healing this is the podcast for you. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
Aug 08, 2023•50 min
Yesterday I sat down at the dinner table with my husband, and we ate in silence. We were both tired, it had been a long day, and I thought “what if this is what our relationship was like?”. I would probably feel lonely, disconnected, and bored. I can imagine over a series of silent dinner eating, I might feel like we are drifting apart. Or I might even get mad on the inside that he wasn’t talking to me (even though I could have initiated the dialogue). I have clients tell me that at first the si...
Jul 18, 2023•11 min•Season 1Ep. 112
The episode is a deep dive into how understanding your instincts (and your partners, too) can help you increase connection and reduce conflict in your relationship. In this episode we discuss: - Different types of instincts - Your spiritual makeup - Energetic systems - The different ways people take action - How a deeper understanding of yourself can improve your relationship Website: drveronica.com Relationship Mistake Quiz: https://quiz.drveronica.com/sf/4187cf4e This podcast is for informatio...
Jul 04, 2023•58 min•Season 1Ep. 111
If you and your partner have felt disconnected, are getting stuck on conflict, or just want to rekindle the spark in your relationship, this episode is for you. Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill cover how to use the Connection Codes framework to help couples connect emotionally, and even overcome conflict in as little as 4 minutes. Core Emotional Wheel Freebie Click here . https://www.connectioncodes.co/amber Discount code: amber20 Book The Connection Codes click here Website click here https://www.co...
Jun 20, 2023•55 min•Season 1Ep. 110
After working as a couple’s therapist for the last 10+ years, I know that one of the hardest skills to master in a relationship is listening. And as a person, I too can be guilt of being a poor listener. Maybe I pick up my phone when someone is talking, jump in when someone is talking and tell them a related story about myself before they are done, or try to solve my partner's (or friend’s problem), when they haven’t asked for advice. This podcast is all about gaining the skills to help you beco...
Jun 06, 2023•15 min•Season 1Ep. 109
Discovery how stress can impact your relationship and how you can calm your stress. In this podcast we discuss the role of stress in the body, how to take care of yourself, and simple activities to promote stress recovery. Dr. Doni Wilson is a Naturopathic Doctor, certified professional midwife, certified nutrition specialist, and bestselling author of Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health. For more than 22 years, she has helped thousands of patients overcome health challenges and achieve wellne...
May 23, 2023•40 min•Season 1Ep. 108
If you aren’t feeling as loved, appreciated, or valued as you would like in your relationship this episode is for you. In this episode, Ricky talks about how to make people feel valued and happy, what it takes to feel more like a team, and what makes relationships work. Book women are superior to men: https://drrickyarenson.com/book/ Website: https://drrickyarenson.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only....
May 09, 2023•53 min•Season 1Ep. 107
If you and your partner are feeling more like roommates than lovers, and you want to reconnect, listen to this podcast. In this podcast, we discuss how to talk so that your partner wants to meet your needs, how to create uncompromising intimacy in your relationship, and what gets in the way of being physically intimate in relationships. Alexandra Stockwell’s website: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only....
Apr 25, 2023•53 min•Season 1Ep. 106
Have you ever wished to be heard, that you felt safe to bring up difficult topics, or maybe you just wanted you and your partner to be good role models for your kids when it comes to how to fight? If you have, this episode is for you. In this episode, we cover a sensitive topic that comes up in relationships. We cover 3 essential skills for managing conflict. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
Mar 28, 2023•17 min•Season 1Ep. 104
Have you ever found yourself behaving in the same way as one of your parents? Or Maybe you find yourself acting as if you are back in your family home even though you are a grown adult who has created a life of their own? If you relate to either of these, this podcast is all about breaking cycles and living with intention. In this podcast we discuss: - What cycles are - How to become aware of your patterns - How to collaborate with your partner - How agreements can help you and your partner make...
Mar 14, 2023•46 min•Season 1Ep. 103
If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is lacking connection, you feel ignored, or your partner dismisses you, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we talk about what a bid for connection is, and how understanding them and turning towards them can create emotional intimacy, connection, and increase relationship satisfaction. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
Feb 28, 2023•12 min•Season 1Ep. 102
If you’ve wondered if you're loveable, if there is something about you others wouldn’t like, or if you were vulnerable others wouldn’t like you, this episode is for you. In this episode: · Tanya shares how she overcame her limiting beliefs, and how that lead to finding her husband · How to find alignment in your life · How to let go of energetic clutter · The power of group therapy · How group therapy helps Tanya’s website: https://www.tanyacole-lesnick.com/ This podcast is for informational pur...
Feb 14, 2023•49 min•Season 1Ep. 101
If you are struggling with conflict in your relationship Figs provide insight into how couples get into fights, and how come it’s hard to get out of the conflict. Topics covered in the podcast: - Couples conflict - Changing from a me vs. you to us vs. the problem - Raw feelings that lie beneath the conflicts - Attachment - Wounds in relationships To learn more about Figs: www.Empathi.com Link for course: empathi.com/psych To get the course: Create an empathi.com account and visit to redeem our f...
Jan 31, 2023•48 min•Season 1Ep. 100
Having a new bundle of joy is truly a delight for many, but it also comes with predicted and unexpected challenges. Between navigating feedings, sleep schedules, diaper changes and showering yourself, you are left to navigate the relationship with your new baby and your partner. In this podcast we discuss: ● Common challenges new parents face ● How come parenting issues can be so hot ● How to get in touch with your needs ● How to express your needs ● What attachment is ● Attachment Styles ● Secu...
Jan 17, 2023•54 min•Season 1Ep. 99
Have you ever thought, I want to feel · Liked · Loved · Respected · Cherished · Appreciated If you answered yes, you are wanting to strengthen or maintain your relationship fondness and admiration system. In Gottman and Silver’s 1999 book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work they outline one of the 7 pillars is the fondness and admiration system. In this podcast we cover: · What the fondness and admiration system is · Why the fondness and admiration system is so important · Why contempt...
Jan 10, 2023•12 min•Season 1Ep. 98
If you and your partner are struggling because one of you peruses connection and desires intimacy, but the other one of you pushes away and highly values autonomy, you might be falling into the anxious-avoidant trap. In this episode we talk about: · What the anxious-avoidant trap is · How to get out of the anxious-avoidant trap · What attachment is · What attachment styles are · Fears that underly different attachment styles · Examples of protest behaviors · How to start to change your patterns ...
Dec 27, 2022•53 min•Season 1Ep. 97
I know how much it sucks to be distant from your partner, to walk on eggshells wondering if your next step is going to set off a landmine, feeling hurt frustrated abandoned overwhelmed and not sure how to repair. All couples are going to have fights and it's important to learn how to make things better after these fights happen. In this podcast, we talk about · Ways to increase the chances you will talk about your fight without fighting again · That you can both be right · Listening to the reaso...
Dec 13, 2022•9 min•Season 1Ep. 58
I have been obsessed with Love is Blind. Reality TV about Love is my jam. I think I work with couples because I love love… so this show tugs at every heartstring. It is easy to point out things they have done wrong, you don’t need to be a couples therapist to watch and go “ooooofffff bad move”. And if you’re struggling to understand some of the moments that maybe could have gone different, just go on Instagram and look at the memes… In this episode we are looking at 6 moments that went right. TH...
Nov 15, 2022•13 min•Season 1Ep. 94
In this episode, we look at how sleep deprivation and poor sleep health could be negatively impacting everything from your relationship to weight loss. We look at how to improve your overall functioning and relationship through sleep. We cover: · Conditions for your bedroom to sleep better · How much sleep do you need · The relationship between sleep and illness · The relationship between sleep and weight loss · The impact of sleep on your relationship Terry’s website: https://terrycrallern.com/...
Nov 01, 2022•53 min•Season 1Ep. 93
Long distance is hard. · You are lonely. · You do miss each other. · You fight over silly things because you miss each other and you’re sensitive. · You have different expectations for how connection looks, texting, phone calls, and what your in-person time should be like. I get it, my husband and I dated long-distance for 14 months. We would fight about things like: · The appropriate amount of time it takes to text back · When to schedule longer calls · How often we should talk on the phone · W...
Oct 18, 2022•8 min•Season 1Ep. 92
