This week I spoke with Debbie Reber, author, and founder of TILT Parenting which offers resources to parents of neurodiverse “differently wired” humans to help navigate these uncertain waters in a world where everything is biased towards “normal”. We speak about how ADHD is considered neurodiverse, and often oversimplified as someone who experiences challenges with their focus when in reality it includes challenges with emotional regulation, impulsivity, misreading social cues, and rejection sen...
Sep 27, 2022•59 min
Have you ever been advised by friends or family not to “settle” in your romantic partnership? Did you ever consider why you may be settling, or have settled in the past? Do you believe in not settling because you’re waiting for “the one”? In this episode, I unpack “settling” and offer three essential ingredients I think it takes to make a relationship work day-to-day and in the long term. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/rct https://www.gettingtozerobook.com...
Sep 20, 2022•14 min
Have you ever noticed how grief needs to be acknowledged? Have you experienced denying grief, running from it, or pushing it down? Can you identify the importance of role modeling for your kids to be grief-literate? This week on the podcast we chat with Sherry Walling, a clinical psychologist, author, and occasional circus artist enthusiast. Professionally, Sherry specialized in traumatic stress, but when her father passed away and her brother committed suicide, her professional and personal wor...
Sep 13, 2022•58 min
Are you someone drawn to helping others? Do you have codependent-ish tendencies? Have you always wanted to join a career that draws on your passion for helping others? Have you ever truly turned your pain into your purpose? Check out this episode as we explore these possibilities. Apply here: https://relationshipschool.com/rct Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/rct https://www.gettingtozerobook.com...
Sep 06, 2022•23 min
Do you know the difference between covert and overt narcissism? Did you know that it's possible to resolve a personality disorder via relationship? Are you familiar with some of the dynamics in a partnership where one or both people have a personality disorder, and what is there for me to learn about myself and reflect on if I suspect I am such a partner? In this week’s episode I spoke with Carolyn Bankston, a clinical social worker who works with people with personality disorders. Bankston expl...
Aug 30, 2022•1 hr 12 min
Ellen and I build on what we discussed in last week’s episode. We chat about the single most important family value to have and how it comes into play in how to get your kid to do what you need them to, without resorting to fear, manipulation, or bribery (whether you’re dealing with toddlers, teens, or any age in between). Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/rct/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com...
Aug 23, 2022•23 min
In this episode, Family Values Part 1, Ellen and I discuss the most important family value to have as parents while also remembering to factor in your kid's values, interests & nature. We speak to the relational dynamics that the avoidant family and the emotionally-oriented family struggle with, and share how holding this value in mind can positively impact everyone's experience on a day-to-day basis, and big-picture as your kids grow into contributing humans. Useful Links: https://relations...
Aug 16, 2022•32 min
This week I speak with Dr. Stan Marlan, a Jungian psychoanalyst, clinical psychologist, and author. He writes on Jung, alchemy, the philosopher’s stone, the art of illumination, and speaks to individuation, the individual and collective unconscious, archetypes, psychedelics, and how we introject our parents into the depths of our unconscious… Plus he offers up a little taste of psychoanalysis in action by doing a dream interpretation of a dream I recently had! Useful Links: https://relationships...
Aug 07, 2022•1 hr 4 min
“What are some pointers you’d offer someone who feels unmet in their emotional needs due to their husband’s avoidant emotionally unavailable tendencies?” “What do you do in between counseling sessions when something even more hurtful has just been revealed?” “In an avoidant-insecure partnership, is compromising simply a reframe to keep the peace, and am I denying my need for a healthy, working relationship?” Our TRS Support Group is ripe with like-minded people doing their work, asking hard ques...
Aug 02, 2022•40 min
This week I spoke with Jeff Salzman about Integral Theory (the idea that culture and consciousness have been, and will continually evolve) and how it applies to what’s shaping our world right now. If you want another frame to help you understand turbulent times, this will be helpful. Listen here for the full episode. Useful Links: https://www.dailyevolver.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/DailyEvolver https://twitter.com/dailyevolver https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relat...
Jul 26, 2022•1 hr 16 min
Join Ellen and I for a special ‘Ask-Me-Anything’ episode where we tackle some listener questions: What Do I try talking to my husband about something that bothers me and his first and continual reaction is anger and defensiveness? What are your thoughts on dating someone with addictions? Is it reason enough to leave, should people be given grace, Is it a big enough issue to stay away entirely? Is there a situation where refusing to get an STD test isn’t a red flag? When kids grow up watching the...
Jul 19, 2022•31 min
Do you know the difference between neuro-diverse, neuro-divergent, and neuro-typical? Did you know 1 out of 48 people identify as neuro-divergent, and that nowadays the terms ‘aspergers’ and “high-functioning” are outdated? Are you confident you’re using language such as ‘the spectrum’ respectfully and accurately? Join me this week while I speak to Grace Myhill, a couples coach who specializes in working with neuro-diverse clients and learn some of her tools that will help all couples (and ourse...
Jul 12, 2022•1 hr 6 min
What do you do as a parent when your child won’t do what you want/need them to do? Are you evoking healthy boundaries as part of your parenting practice? If being honest, have you ever heard yourself pathologizing your child as a means of justifying your parenting choices (i.e. my kid is strong-willed…)? Does your kid call the shots, and you feel you need some direction on how to take the leadership reins back? Join Ellen and I to discuss the types of challenges parents face today and pick up so...
Jul 05, 2022•42 min
Have your thoughts been circling around prenups before you get married? Or, are you on the edge of a separation or divorce Want to learn a bit more about meditation, child support, spousal support, alimony, asset division and schedule collaboration? Take a listen to my recent conversation with family lawyer Evan Schein. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relationshipschool.com/rct/ https://relationshipschool.com/community/ https://relationshipschool.com/get...
Jun 28, 2022•59 min
This week we celebrate our 400th episode with a special “Fam Jam” episode. Join Ellen and I as we chat with our kids, about what it’s like in our family and what they notice about other families. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com...
Jun 21, 2022•26 min
What do you do if you and your partner don’t have a baseline (a place of ease and security to which you can return post-conflict)? Have you ever felt you’ve ‘given up everything’ for a partner? Do you and your partner have shared values? Have you made a fierce, deep commitment to one another? Jayson and Ellen tackle some of your questions in this AMA episode, drawing on their knowledge and experiences of ups, downs, and reconnects that go hand in hand with long-term relationships. Useful Links: ...
Jun 14, 2022•37 min
Do you ever feel defensive, blamed, angry, or hurt when someone says, “you make me feel….”? Have you heard of “spiritual cock-blocking?” This week Ellen and I talk about the potent and simple “I feel” statements and how we impact one another and influence each other’s feelings and experiences by simply co-existing in the same space, both positively and negatively. Learn how to navigate these difficult conversations by sharing ‘Impact Statements’ (a communication technique that leads with empathy...
Jun 07, 2022•22 min
Here are my thoughts on the latest school shootings. This one hit me hard. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/masterclass/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow
May 31, 2022•19 min
This week my wife Ellen and I tackle a couple of your questions that got a lot of heat online. Sarah wrestles with how to realistically reassure her partner that she’s not going anywhere when she doesn’t actually know this for a fact (she’s no psychic). Linda wonders about how to reinstall trust and move forward after her partner breaks into her phone and reads a private text conversation. We discuss how our relationships are the strength that can help us deal with the unknowns of tomorrow and a...
May 24, 2022•33 min
What would you do if you got 51 text messages from your partner if you needed space? What would you do if your partner took space and continued to be distant with no return time? These are very normal anxious/avoidant relationship dynamics. In this episode I coach a couple through their anxious avoidant dynamic. I hope it serves you. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/masterclass/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com https://relationshipschool...
May 17, 2022•1 hr 10 min
Do you find yourself often at odds or in conflict with your partner/co-parent? Have you agreed to disagree and compartmentalize parenting responsibilities? Are you stuck in your familial-parental roles (one parent = primary breadwinner, the other = primary parent)? If yes, this episode is a great listen for parents (or aspiring parents, parents-to-be, and separated-co-parents) who can relate to desiring more cohesive collaboration in their parenting game. If you get a lot from this episode, head...
May 10, 2022•27 min
Do you ever wonder if or how your kids experience your anxiety/stress levels? How does your nervous system and theirs inform one another? Do you take time to reflect on where you are in your journey as a human and how that may affect your capacity to develop resiliency? Join my wife Ellen and I to discuss how being mindful of our nervous system can help us build resilient children. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow htt...
May 03, 2022•33 min
How do you manage triggers and share emotions at the same time? Ever keep score in a partnership? Ugh. Do you feel like you are disagreeing too much? Join my wife and I as we help you address all of these as it relates to your questions. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relationshipschool.com/rescue/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com my.community.com/JaysonGaddis...
Apr 27, 2022•27 min
How do we help each other feel safe and secure? Tune in to listen to Ellen, and I's experiential conversation series “Rando Chat" over a cup of coffee. In this week's episode, we discuss our day, our family, and how we co-regulate just by existing in one another's orbits as a couple and family. Enjoy the episode, and let us know your thoughts and feelings about this experimental episode in the comments. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com...
Apr 20, 2022•35 min
In this week's episode of The Relationship School Podcast, we speak with my former spiritual teacher Dr. Reginald "Reggie" Ray. I was also his TA in an undergraduate course on Tibetan Buddhism. This guy completely changed my life. Reggie is the @DharmaOceanFoundation's co-founder and spiritual director, a university professor (retired) at Naropa University, and a highly respected meditation/dharma teacher. Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including how being spiritually minded is not nec...
Apr 14, 2022•1 hr 13 min
In this week’s episode I unpack a recent Instagram reel I posted that went viral. Here are the 5 kinds of people to avoid in partnerships: Narcissists Gaslighters Stonewallers Defensive assholes People who won’t take responsibility. Listen in to hear more.
Apr 05, 2022•25 min
How do we raise boys in a good way so they become adult men that we want to be in a relationship with? In this week’s episode we connect with Larry Hagner, founder of @thedadedge and father to four boys. Larry shares his unique childhood story, and dives into the challenges and rewards of raising boys differently in a culture that tells boys to hide their feelings, suck it up, and not be relational. Take a listen to learn about raising your kid(s) with more connection, curiosity, and psychologic...
Mar 30, 2022•55 min
Do you know the fastest way to get back to connection? Or how about how to feel accepted and not judged by your partner? Listen here as I offer you a few tips to get both and share details about our upcoming virtual event ‘Accepted & Connected’ coming up on April 8-9, 2022. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ https://relationshipschool.com/masterclass/ https://www.gettingtozerobook.com...
Mar 23, 2022•23 min
There’s no doubt it’s difficult to get on the same financial page with your partner. Differences in mindset and approach are likely, but that doesn’t mean you can’t create a plan. In this week’s episode, I connect with life hacker extraordinaire, Chris Hutchins, who’s full of tips and wisdom. Plus, ever thought of going on a trip around the world to “vet” a partner? Chris did just that. Take a listen. Useful Links: https://chrishutchins.com/ https://www.instagram.com/chrishutchins/ https://relat...
Mar 15, 2022•57 min
We could all focus on becoming more resilient during these stressful times. Here are a few tips on how to develop resilience in yourself. And, if you are a parent, here are some tips for building resilience in kids. What is one way you build resilience in yourself? Drop a comment below. Useful Links: /https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://relationshipschool.com/connected/ https://relationshipschool.com/masterclass/ https://www.gettingtozerobook.com...
Mar 09, 2022•35 min
