Sound too good to be true? Well...depending on the state of your relationship, you may not fix EVERYTHING in 15 minutes, but this episode will put you well on the path to a happier relationship. Listen and learn the steps to Dr. Black’s 15 minute relationship fix exercise. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the 15 minute relationship exercise that guides you and your partner through an ‘emotional conference’ to share your emotions and better understand each...
Sep 12, 2018•45 min•Ep. 164
It’s easy to become complacent in our relationship. The longer we’ve been with someone, the more we often take them for granted. This can feel terrible for both partners and can lead to relationship dissatisfaction and worse. Don’t let feelings of monotony and under appreciation seep into your relationship. Use the simple tips in this episode to make a lasting and positive impact on your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to compliment you...
Sep 05, 2018•45 min•Ep. 163
Who doesn’t want to have better sex in their relationship!? The path to better sex doesn't have to be confusing and difficult. You have the power to initiate the changes you want for better, hotter more intimate sex. Listen to today’s episode to learn the exact steps to make these changes. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to ask what you want in bed and how to tolerate sometimes not getting it Understand that it’s your job to share what’s on your mind...
Aug 29, 2018•49 min•Ep. 162
Taking out the trash, washing the dishes and cleaning the room all sound like pretty normal household tasks. However, when you share a house with a partner, these tasks can lead to arguments, resentments and problems in your relationship. Listen to today’s episode to learn how to best communicate and navigate the division of labor in your household. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why you need to be clear about each partner’s roles in the household Being...
Aug 22, 2018•42 min•Ep. 161
Are we ever really ready to get married or have kids? It’s a big question! There are some key things we need to ask ourselves in order to make a well informed, smart decision regarding these big life decisions. Listen to today’s show to learn how to ask the right questions. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why it’s important that you not seek a partner to ‘complete you’ Falling for the narrative of your life rather than the reality The importance of aligned val...
Aug 15, 2018•50 min•Ep. 160
Understanding our romantic personality can help us find the love of our lives or better navigate an existing relationship. In today’s episode, Dr. Alex Avila takes Chase and Sarah through exercises to determine their own personality types, and show how they match (or don’t!). Listen to today’s show to better understand yourself and your current or future partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The four personality types and how to determine which is yours and...
Aug 08, 2018•42 min•Ep. 159
Conflict is an inevitable and necessary part of every relationship. It can eat away at the love or it can help your relationship flourish. Knowing the key tools for conflict resolution can help us all navigate arguments in a way that will be productive and positive. Listen to today’s show to learn valuable conflict resolution tips. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to get a partner who is not willing to work on your relationship to care and put in the work U...
Aug 01, 2018•56 min•Ep. 158
Research consistently found that it takes four positive comments to recover from one negative comment from a partner. That ratio means that criticism is a highly ineffective way of communicating in your relationship with your partner. In this episode, Dr. Julie Colwell teaches how to shift out of toxic relationship patterns such as reactive brain, blame and criticism and instead, show appreciation for our partner. Dr. Julie Colwell is a psychologist based in Boulder, CO. She has spent her career...
Jul 25, 2018•53 min•Ep. 157
Exciting Announcement: Our new online course, Spark My Relationship, has launched! Learn more and enroll here: SparkMyRelationship.com Spark My Relationship is designed to infuse your life and relationship with fresh passion, skills and wisdom. This self-paced journey is perfect for turning up the heat, having some fun together and revolutionizing your intimacy and communication. We’ve collaborated with 15 psychologists and therapists to create a comprehensive relationship course that not only t...
Jul 18, 2018•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 156
Trust is one of the hardest things to earn and easiest to lose in a relationship. If you’ve been lied to or if you have lied to your partner, this episode is for you. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why trust is so hard to get back in a relationship The three important stages for rebuilding trust How to create accountability in your relationship Forgiving your partner and moving forward in the relationship White lies and the negative effects they can have And ...
Jul 12, 2018•53 min•Ep. 155
Forgiveness is a key skill for all of the relationships in our lives. Our ability to forgive has a direct impact on our personal happiness and the success of a relationship. Listen to today’s episode to learn how to forgive and reconcile with others. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why forgiveness is an individual process The four key steps to forgiveness Letting go of a transgression that continues to nag at you The amazing health benefits of not holding a gr...
Jul 04, 2018•52 min•Ep. 154
Addiction is a disease that can be incredibly difficult on a relationship. It’s hard to know when you are enabling or helping your partner. Navigating the world of addiction is a difficult prospect for even the strongest individuals. Listen to today’s show to learn how to deal with the addict in your life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The key distinction between supporting or enabling and addict Allowing the addict to experience the consequences of their ad...
Jun 27, 2018•51 min•Ep. 153
No relationship or marriage is perfect. You probably already knew this. However, you might not know which of the four phases of marriage you’re in, and what it means for you and your partner. Listen to today’s show to create a thriving marriage by understanding the importance of each phase you might go through! This show is worth listening to even if your single or dating! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The thriving, working, detached and conflictual stages o...
Jun 20, 2018•41 min•Ep. 152
Do you really know what you or your partner likes in the bedroom? Many of us have not asked key questions around sexuality in our relationships. Understanding you and your partners sexual personality type can help take your relationship and sex life to the next level. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Questions to ask in order to understand your sexual personality type How to avoid a ‘vanilla’ sexual relationship — Learn how to spice it up The details of monogam...
Jun 13, 2018•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 151
No one wants to think about divorce or death. Deny it all we want, one happens 50% of the time and the other 100%! Understanding the legal financial side of relationships is an important part of creating a successful relationship or marriage. Listen to today’s episode to learn how to get your finances in order! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding a prenup and it’s legal details Avoiding the unromantic stigma of prenups and doing what is practical for...
Jun 06, 2018•45 min•Ep. 150
Why do so many good people end up in bad relationships? Today’s episode will help answer that and give you the tools to improve yourself to attract the right kind of partner, find love, or help determine if you're currently with the right partner. Whether you are single or in a relationship, this episode will give you great relationship advice with topics that include: How to use practical spirituality to maximize your current or future relationship Why our partner should be a catalyst for our o...
May 30, 2018•56 min•Ep. 149
We’ve all been in a situation where we’ve let our emotions get the better of us. We snap at our partner, stress ourselves out and react negatively to the smallest transgressions. Worry no more. Today’s episode will give you amazing actionable tips to help control your emotions, feel better and improve the relationship with yourself and your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to take control of your mood and emotions Finding an emotional grounding to ...
May 23, 2018•42 min•Ep. 148
Cuddling on the couch is a favorite activity of many healthy relationships. Cuddling is very much in mainstream culture, and yet it can be complicated and filled with nuance. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the comfy, cozy and sometimes sexual world of cuddling. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understand the general differences between male and female desires from cuddling. Find out if cuddling should always lead to sex? Learn the science of cu...
May 16, 2018•42 min•Ep. 147
Have you caught your partner looking at porn? Maybe browsing pictures of scantily clad women or men on Instagram or Facebook? This doesn't need to be an issue in your relationship if you know how to talk and deal with it! Our culture largely creates a negative narrative around these issues that can hurt our relationships. Listen to today's episode to learn how to talk to your partner about porn, social media 'stalking' and your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics ...
May 09, 2018•48 min•Ep. 146
Our lives our busier than ever. It's easy for one partner in the relationship to feel like they no longer are a priority to the other partner. Work, hobbies and technology are just a few things that can begin to take priority over a partner. Listen to today's episode to navigate the emotions of not feeling like a priority in your relationship, and learn how to proactively make your partner feel important. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of under...
May 02, 2018•46 min•Ep. 145
Want to learn how practicing mindfulness can lead to better sex? Instead of thinking about the emails you need to respond to or the kid's lunches that need to be packed — think about the amazing orgasm you're about to have! Sex with your partner should be incredible, and mindfulness can help with just that. Listen and learn for a better sex life full of passion, connection and mindfulness. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to put your head and body in the sa...
Apr 25, 2018•53 min•Ep. 144
You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family! There's a reason this cliche exists, but it doesn't have to be that way. Going over to the in-laws doesn't have to be the excruciating experience it is for so many. Listen to today's episode to learn how to navigate the minefield that is family! Whether it's getting along with the in-laws or your own family, this is the episode to help you end the family discomfort. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: ...
Apr 18, 2018•45 min•Ep. 143
Jealousy is a common feeling that many of us have or will experience. With the pervasive use of the internet flooding our brains with sexual images, past lovers and other temptations, jealousy is an important issue to address in relationships. Learn how to deal with your own or your partner's jealousy in today's episode. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the difference between emotional and sexual jealousy and how each sex may experience them diffe...
Apr 11, 2018•45 min•Ep. 142
We've all felt the need to blame our partner for something going wrong in the relationship. Why do we retreat to negative emotional habits so easily? Dr. Steven Stosny explains how our toddler brain takes over and can cause us to react with blame, denial and avoidance during conflict. Listen to today's show to avoid falling into that trap, and learn how to better react to improve your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why we retreat to our 't...
Apr 04, 2018•57 min•Ep. 141
Intimacy is an area of our relationships that can often be overlooked, especially if you've been together for a long time. The spark does not have to fade! There are simple and easy steps to take to create more intimacy and have more satisfaction in our relationships. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why checking in with your partner on a daily basis is a profoundly simple way to greatly improve your relationship. How to create and maintain the new and novel fe...
Mar 28, 2018•47 min•Ep. 140
There can be many areas in our lives and relationships that can cause frustration and disappointment. Your sex life shouldn't be one of them. Learning how to communicate your needs and desires, understanding your partner's sex drive and confronting sex life negativity are just a few ways to prevent some of the common troubles many couples run into. Listen to today's show to prevent these common sex life pitfalls from wreaking havoc on your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship ad...
Mar 21, 2018•49 min•Ep. 139
Creating the change you want in your relationship starts with one person: YOU! Don't wait around for your partner to change (hint: you won't be able to change them on your own anyway). Listen to today's episode and use these actionable tips to get your relationship out of a rut or to take it from good to great! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to pay more attention to your partner with some simple exercises. How to express gratitude toward your partne...
Mar 14, 2018•39 min•Ep. 138
Feeling anxious? Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. That sense of uneasiness, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don't let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner any longer! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How anxiety can manifest as reactivity to your partner and how to chan...
Mar 07, 2018•52 min•Ep. 137
One of the benefits of being in a relationship is helping your partner become their best self. We can achieve this by empowering our partner through words of affirmation, validating their feelings and many other simple exercises. Listen to today's show to learn how to help your partner become the best version of themselves! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How creating a 'best self' nickname for your partner can give them a huge boost and benefit your relations...
Feb 28, 2018•47 min•Ep. 136
We all have weird pet peeves that our partner's seem to always break the 'rules' on. Chewing too loud, not squeezing the toothpaste out of the tube correctly, leaving dirty clothes on the floor....the list goes on. These little things can create conflict in a relationship, especially over time. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate with your partner, and not let small things annoy you. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to step back and ask ourse...
Feb 21, 2018•50 min•Ep. 135
