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Episode 261 Holding On to Anger is a Choice

Sep 12, 202321 min
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No one has to live life as an angry person. People succumb to anger. They accept and embrace it, without ever chosing change. People are very comfortable with how they've chosen to become. It's a sad shame, but it's the truth! Anger ages a person, inside and out! It's not healthy for a person's mind, body, nor soul. Choosing to remain angry is a bad and unhealthy choice. It not only affect the life of the individual, it affects the lives of others. People can change if they choose.

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Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad. It's something for you to think about. This episode is for you individuals who are mad all the time. You individuals who do not think that you have time to think before you act or react. This is for individuals who get so mad you don't care what you say or do. If the shoe don't fit, Hey it doesn't fit, but if it does, it's for you. If it's not for you, or maybe for someone you know, because we all know people like that.

Individuals who have this mindset definitely are people who need to look inward. They need to deal with whatever it is to make them so angry. See the problem that I've found what people is so many people have been the way they are for so long until they it's it's just to them, it's just who they are. It's normal. They've been that way for so long until they just accept being, you know, being that angry person. That's what

they accept. But it's not a good look at all. When you are a person who's so angry that you don't care what you do, you don't care what you say, sometimes that comes back to bite you. And also sometimes people don't want to be around you because they know you flip out at the mouth, or you flip out out period. People don't wanna be around

angry people who are this way. So sometimes individuals will go through life and they never choose change, and because of it, they have a hard time in life, just angry and mad all the time saying things to people thinking

because hey, I can do what I wanna do. You know, they developed that reputation that other people when they see them coming, they're like, oh Lord, here she come or here he comes, or they're like on eggshells because they don't know what you're gonna say or what you're gonna do. That's not good. These types of individuals need definitely to work on self.

These type of individuals definitely need to try and be those individuals that choose change, because you know, you should get to a point as an adult that you want better. You can't take back things that you say, you can't take back things that you've done. You just cannot take them back. Some people think, hey, I'm bad, I'm tough, no one would mess with me. You think that's a good thing to have that type of of behavior. You think that's great that people look at you like that, Oh

she'll do anything or she mad. That's not good. Some people would kill their own family members out of anger. That's not good. You get so angry, you will harm your own family member, your sister, your brother, or someone else because you're so angry, because you have lack of control. That is not good. That is a very dangerous person. Someone who's willing to hurt anyone when they're angry. That's a dangerous and irrational person.

Very dangerous and irrational. So this episode is for those types of people. Seek help. And if you don't want to seek help, you must be willing to become better. Look at yourself and know that it be in that way. It's not a good thing. It is not a good thing at all. And if you wanna be better, you have to choose to be better. If you wanna be an individual who is no longer living your life an angry person, then you have to get to the bottom of it.

While you're angry in the first place. You have to get to the bottom of it. What happened that caused you so much anger. Sometimes people didn't have a bad childhood, it's other things that they got involved with. They got involved in relationships with individuals who were mean, who had insecurities, who were obsessive and possessive, and all of those things, and that person began to turn bitter. They become that, they begin to turn angry. Every

thing is not from childhood, not everything. Most are, but not everything. So sometimes people learn to be that way because that's their defensive mechanism. But then they get to a point of being comfortable and complacent with being like that, so they treat everyone like that. They treat everyone with that same type of behavior. It's not right. It is wrong, and no one should do that. No one should embrace that type of behavior. When you

know you're doing wrong, you should want to be better. You should want to be better when you know you're doing wrong. You should absolutely want to be better. But most people don't. They so complacent and comfortable with their own negativity. You don't have to live your life man already to snap at any moment. You wanna pop off at the mouth at any moment. You shouldn't wanna live your life like that. That is what you need to work on, So quick to jump the gun, that's what you need to work

on. Don't choose to be the same. And like I said in the beginning. It's not a good look at all. It's not a good look. People may love you, but they really don't want you around because they don't know how you're gonna act at any given time. And that's terrible. It is terrible when you don't care what you do or say, or you get so mad that you'll do anything to anyone, to include your loved ones. That's horrible. It is horrible. But there are so many people in

the world this way, but they don't choose change. Choosing change is a choice, just like not choosing Choosing change is a choice. Unfortunately, so many people make those choices, not choosing to change, instead of going through

life the same way. We see it every day. People committing murder because they're so angry, people committing row, rage, rage because they're so angry, people doing the unthinkable on their jobs because they're so angry, when you could have dealt with your anger and move on, became a more humble, docile, calm individual. Anybody can change if they choose change, whether it's for the good or bad. People can choose change. I'm talking only about

choosing positive change to be better. I'm never gonna talk about choosing negativity. If people choose change in their lives, I'm telling you, the world would be a much better place to live in right now, it's not because of all the brokenness, all of the people who are not choosing the change, all of the angry individuals. This world is a tough place to be right

now, and I don't I only see it getting worse. Some of you just you're stagnant, the walking dead, literally, the walking dead, because you choose to stay on the wheel, you choose to remain the same. Then you wonder why your children are angry because that's all they see in you, anger, the behavior you display, that's all they know because that's what you show them all the time. Now, because they're showing you anger towards you, you wondering why they're so angry? Uh the uh duh? Because

you've shown them anger over and over and over again. You've shown them how you flip out on their dad or their mom. You've shown them how you flip out on other people. So they have developed the same characteristics as you, because that's what you've taught them, and more than likely they'll be just like you, an adult, still angry and mad, still easy to go into a rage. That's not good. I don't think I was ever that bad. I used to be a hot head, and I'll tell you right

now, I'm taking I'm not taking anyone's crap right now today. But I'm not that hot head that I used to be. Oh man, I used to be a person. We might as well go nothing of get it on over with. That's the way I used to be. I'd rather slap your face, get it over with. I'm not trying to argue with you or none of that. But even then as a hothead, I still was always mindful of the words that came out on my mouth. I was still mindful of my actions. I didn't go crazy with it ever. I could have

easily gone crazy with it, but I never chose to do that. Person. But I know plenty of people who are. I just always stood up for myself and I never took anyone's crap, even as a kid. So I'm saying a person can be better, a person can control that if they choose. You have to want to be a better individual. And I was admit I was a hot head, but I still hey, I was a hot head with standards. Can you believe that I was a hot head, I still was aware of what I said to people and what I've done because

I always cared about how I presented myself and I'm the same today. I care about how I represent myself and most of all, my Lord and Savior. So I can't be walking around easily being out of shape and ready to pounce. Now. I stay ready, but that's only because we have to

in this world we're in today. But I'm still aware of what I do and what I say, and that takes maturity, it takes self control, because as I said, I ain't want to represent myself as being the best that I can be, because I am the best that I can be, not for safe in pretense, but because that's who I am. It means something to me. But unfortunately, for some people that don't mean anything. And some people aren't nice individuals until they feel like they're pushed in that corner,

when really they're not pushed in the corner. It's just who they are. It's their way of acting or reacting because they never chose to act or react better. Some people have taught me, oh, you don't think, you just don't. You don't even have a second to think personally, I don't believe that. I don't believe that people never have a moment to think. When that lady jumped in the in the river to say that that baby, she may have a split reaction, but she still thought to jump in

the river. When that person jumped in front of the the bus to push their child away, they they acted swiftly, but they still chose the action that they took. When you reach in your pocket to pull out a weapon, whether it's a nice or gone or whatever, you still I don't care how angry, what split second, you still chose to reach in your pocket because you knew that that's where the weather was. So I don't believe that people don't think, oh I blacked out. I don't think, yes you

did. You thought to do whatever you did, You thought to do it. I don't care how quickly you still thought to do it. So I just don't believe that. If anyone could prove me wrong on it, please please do. But I don't believe it. I think we have the time to think. Like I said, it does not matter how swiftly, how quickly a person do whatever it is, they still thought to do it. Just think about it. If you were so angry you pulled out your gun.

You you didn't. You didn't reach in the cabinet to get your gun. You didn't reach out in the bed and get your gun. You didn't reach it in the glove box to get your gun. You reach wherever your gun was, and you retrieve your weapon because you wanted to shoot somebody out of anger. That's the problem, lack of control, because when you lose focus, you lose control. If you don't have focus, you don't have

control. And unfortunately, so many people lived their lives this way, just ready cocked and loaded, ready any second to cause habit because they they they don't know how to control their anger. They never chose to. They still put kindling on their angry fire. They like that people are afraid of them. They don't understand why people don't want to be around them. I mean, it's a whole lot of things that are in play. If you wanna be better, that's your choice. If you don't, that's your choice.

But because a person does not choose to become better, don't project your pain and crap on to other people. Go to the mountains, then the caves in the bottom of the ocean, whatever, and deal with yourself. But don't inflict your pain and your immaturity on someone else because you refuse to deal with you. It's not right. It's not right. Anybody can change if they choose change. You have to choose it. You have to willfully and

intentionally choose change and work on it consistently. And that goes back to self love too. If you don't love yourself, you don't care how you could present yourself. You don't care. You'll do it whatever. And like I said, some people think they're so big and bad. That's an ugly look ugly. I don't care how beautiful you may up here. It's ugly and

it makes you ugly. So what you choose and how you choose to be it's your choice, your choice all I'm trying to tell you, as an adult, you could choose to be better, but you have to want it. You have to want it. Somebody else may want it for you, but you have to want it for yourself. And on that note, I'm leaving it right there. We don't need these angry people. We don't want these angry people. We want you to change. We want more love.

That's what we want in this world, that's what we need. Thank you for listening. Please share this episode. Also go check out Relationship Producals. Good stuff over there, Please share. Thank you so much for listening. You know are in every episode the same and I hope you do it. Thank on it

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