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Episode 250 Focused On Who Loves You When You Should Be Loving Yourself

Jul 15, 202320 min
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Many people are in bad situations because their focus is on the wrong thing. They're more concerned about being loved by someone or loving someone than loving self. When people are this way they make bad choices/decisions and they allow and accept the wrong things. This doesn't pertain to only romantic relationships, it's all relationships.

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Hey, hey, I'm back. Oh, yes, with something for you. I'm talking to you for you to think about. Don't go through life worrying about who love you. You should care about loving yourself. Let me say it again. I hope you let this resonate deep inside of you because many people need to hear it. Don't go through life worrying about who loves you. You should care about loving yourself. I really believe that so many people have this problem. That's why you have people who are in love relationships.

Romantic relationships, is what I'm saying. They'll take any and everything. They will take any and everything they get into them with the wrong people for the wrong reasons. I mean, people find themselves in bad situations. They put themselves in horrible situations. People have been murdered in their relationships, murdered because they chose to be in relationships with individuals who loved them the wrong way. They thought it was loved, but it really wasn't. That's why you

gotta stop being overwhelmed with people. When I say overwhelmed, I mean like over the moon for them. You want them so bad, you care about them so much that you're over the moon for them. Hoping and praying that they love you, when you should be worrying about loving yourself and not really worrying because that's the wrong word. There's no benefit to worrying, but you

should be caring about loving yourself. You have friendships. There are people who will do anything anything to have a friend, do stuff they know they don't like, just to have a friend. And half of the time that person is the last person that should ever be called a friend. They will stab you in the with a knife and then take another one out of somebody else back and stab you with that one too. So called friends, they're in your corner, but they're not on your side. They're looking at you acting

like they love you so much the whole time. They want to take your place. They want what you have. And I'm not saying everyone is like that, but I'm saying to you, when you're worried so much about a person loving you, you should be caring about loving yourself. That would prevent

so many issues people have in their lives. If you loved yourself, you get on your jobs and you try to put everything possible, everything possible, You try to put it right there for your supervisors and those who are leading

you to see. Some of you go along with anything you find yourself in inapproper relationships, you find yourself being talked to, any kind of way, You find yourself in all types of bad predicaments because you went there with that individual because you wanted that person to care about you so much, and now they're taking advantage of you and using you. If you cared about yourself, if you loved yourself, you wouldn't be in the situation you're end many many,

many, many people. That's why I tell you sometimes, and I've done an episode, the first person outside of God, outside of Jesus, the first person you should fall in love with is yourself, your self, yourself. If you truly learn how to love yourself, it would change your life completely. It would totally change your life if you learn to love yourself. But some of you are so mean and bitter that you just you just can't focus on that. You're angry, and you shift the blame to everyone

else other than yourself. Many people do this. Many people live this way because of that mindset. Your mindset make you look at things the wrong way, think about things the wrong way, feel things the wrong way. So many people if you go through life just focused on loving someone, you're gonna always, always, always, always find yourself in a bad situation sooner or later. Never fail because people see what you do to yourself. People see

the desperation, People see the eagerness. You're just so eager. People see it. They see that you will do anything. They see that you will allow an accept anything. They see that you're so willing to go alone because you want that person or those people to love you so much when you should be caring about loving yourself. People fail themselves daily because they look outward for

love when you need to be looking inward for love. You have to start dealing with yourself, dealing with what ails you, dealing with what causes you to think the way you think, because if your thoughts are distorted, you're gonna develop these negative feelings behind your distorted thoughts. I'm telling you you have to want to change for yourself and stop worrying about, oh, do we love me? Do she love me? Love yourself, that's what's gonna change

your life. That's what's gonna change your world. Loving yourself. So many people don't because they're too fixated on other people loving them When most times, people don't care. They do not care. They really don't even want to have nothing to do with you because they don't appear. Yet. Many just been over backwards, trying to please and appease. It's very sad, but it is what people choose. People are choosing this, People are choosing misery.

People are bringing self inflicted pain upon self because of those conditioned minds. You can never become the best version of yourself by remaining the same. It's not happening. Change must occur, it must. You can go through life saying this, saying that, doing this, doing that, but of change has not occurred. There's only one option. That is you remain the same. And no one should ever I mean, no one should ever, ever, ever feel like they just have to have someone, no matter what they

go through or is put through, they got to have that. No one should ever feel like that about anyone. No one. Yet, many, many, many, many people do. All they want is that significant other. When that significant other is not deserving, not deserving, but you will give everything, all of your time and energy, you focus it on that other person or those people or that group when they don't care about you like that. I mean it's reality. They are benefiting some type of way,

or they will benefit some type of way. But you think it's old. This is it. They love me? Okay, people put themselves in this situation every day. But as I said, this thing called life is not that hard. But you just have to have the mind. You have to have the mindset to be able to sit, observe the truth, acknowledges, acknowledge it as the truth. You have to be willing to do that. Some people don't want the truth they say they do until you give it to

them. It's a different story than I don't care how much you think a person love you. Most times it's not like how you think. That's why you got to get to know yourself. That's why you have to learn to love yourself. Because it's a weird stuff going on in this world today. Weird people are not the same. You know why, because nowadays anything and everything goes, nothing is off limits, any and everything goes. So that's

why we're seeing so much of things that we're seeing nowadays. People are doing so much more than what they used to Nowadays, it's everything is more open and more accepted, so people are doing all types of things but what they're not doing is dealing with self, dealing with that unhealed heart, unhealed mind. They're not dealing with that. They're not dealing with their past pains so they can live a life without dysfunction. Dysfunction is all they've ever known.

So you are the person you know the old saying, you're the captain of your ship. Yes, so many people's ship is at the bottom of the ocean. It sunk because of the power you give to people or the power you give to things to change your life for negative. You're doing all types of things for love. When it's not love, you get everything. But that so when you so worried about, oh, if he loved me, or if she loved me, or they loved me, that shouldn't be your

focus. Your focus should be on you. Do you love yourself? Are you still an angry person? Are you still mad at the world? Are you still vindictive? Are you still bitter? Are you still a person who's full of spite? Because if you are, you haven't dealt with You're unresolved. Do you still think every day about your bad past that was full of trauma? If you do, you haven't debt with you're unresolved. Many people haven't, and because of it, they're not living the lives that they could

leave. They're not because they're still given power to their past. And it's terrible because you wasting all of that time worrying about somebody loving you when you should be loving yourself. That's who you should be, loving your self. And I've told you many times. When you learn to love yourself, honey, honey, honey, things change. The way you used to look at the world, at people, you see it differently. Now you see them

differently. Now, it's just the way it is. When that mindset change, everything changes, everything changes, You see things differently, you see people differently, you see the world differently. I mean, people make life,

living life so much harder than it should be. Then it has to be because people spend so much time trying to love others or word about it they love them, when you should be caring about loving yourself, When you should be caring about how you think of yourself, not what others think of you, because they're always going to have something to say always. But when you love yourself, no one can pull then, okay, dough on you. Because you love yourself, you can see the truth. You're not blind old.

I talk about things a lot, and I hit on I revisit things a lot. But that's because of all the things that's going on in the world that clearly, clearly, clearly tells me people still looking outward when they need to look in need to look inward. If you don't want to be better, I sure can't make you better, no one else can. You have to want it for yourself. And I really hope and pray that people want to change. I do. I hope and pray because we're not getting

any younger. Every day we're closer to death. And I'm not afraid to say it because it's the truth. Yet people want to remain the same. But it's your life. Live it how you feel you need to live it. But just remember one thing. When we close our eyes for the last time, there's no do overs. It's a done deal. It's a done deal. So if you go through your life worrying about who love you being loved and you have not dealt with your own unresolved, shame on you.

Shame on you, because no one or nothing it's going to give you what you need. No one will be able to fulfill that void inside of you until you deal with what ails you so you can heal from it. So that's all I'm gonna say on this. I'm leaving it right there. I hope and I pray that you got something out of it. I truly do. Thank you for listening. So much. Much love to each and every one of you, from my heart to yours. Listen. I end every single episode the same, and I hope you do it. I truly,

truly, truly hope you do it. Think on it.

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