SIBLING'S partner EXCLUDED me from their marriage CELEBRATION because I declined to partake

the age gaps between some of us. My older siblings are both married, and so am I. The wedding in question is my younger brothers. My younger brother, Luke is engaged to his gf of a year, Emma, twenty eight f. She is nice. I guess we have never really clicked and are just polite to each other. Something important is that we are all Catholic, but not really hardcore ones, and some of us are even lapsed. I do believe this whole situation started just when I met her for

the first time. I look younger than Luke, and it has always been a sibling joke that I am truly the baby of the family. Most people that meet us assume he is older than me, but nobody has had issues with it until Emma. The day I met her, she kind of scoffed when I said I was happy the baby had a proper girlfriend. She has this weird thing about being the eldest in her family and refused to believe I was older than her until I showed

her my ID. She has been hot and cold with me since then, often in fanalizing me or trying to have a sort of boss attitude. I just let her be and usually ignore her since I have no time to try and beg for her friendship, so I am just polite and civil, always include her when planning stuff, but don't really make an effort. The family knows about it, but we just shrugged it to different personalities. Then the

wedding planning started. Emma decided I could not be in the wedding party since I was not married in a church. Fine by me. Then she requested that immediate family submits their dress planning so she could check it fits the wedding dress code. Fine. Whatever you see where this is going, I hope you'll see I have not gone to confession or have communion in more than a decade. If I go to a Mass for whatever reason, I am respectful and simply sit or stay standing during the rites I

don't participate on. Well, this is not good enough for her, and she says I need to take communion during there. I said no, and she has not taken it well for the most part. One avoid her as I said before, but this time I wasn't going to say yes or risk an issue. I told her, for taking communion, one needs to go to confession and I didn't want to. She said, all immediate family is doing it and it

will look bad if I don't. I told her, sure, fine, then I'll just go f communion in front of everybody, but won't do confession. She said, if this was going to be my attitude, I was uninvited from the wedding because I clearly wanted to ruin the day for her. I turned to my brother and told him thanks, gave him a thumbs up, and went home. My family understand my reasoning and said they respect everybody's choices, but I

shouldn't have said what I said. I told them I really don't want to go to the wedding any more, and I don't owe Emma explanations on my life. I only called my grandma because she heard what happened and asked me not to disrespect the church by doing the communion without confession. I promised I wouldn't do it, and she is fine with me. Now. I got a text from my brother wanting to compromise, so I replied by asking if the other lapsed people are being made to

take confession too. He said no, because it was only nuclear family members. I find it funny since all the others are clearly older than her, and she just behaves like this with me and the youngsters. Ada comments Whereop has replied Lucky Effective fifteen sixty four NTA who died and made em a pope, Goop l O L. I will share this particular one with my grandma next time we talk. She is gonna love it. Beautiful Report fifty eight. You should alert the priest to her behavior. He will

insure that she stops with her actions. She cannot make rules that do not exist in the church. I would send a quick e mail to him and let her deal with the consequence of her own actions. Oh O P. I actually considered it, but I don't think I will since my grandma might be doing it herself. She has lapsed herself, but didn't want me to be disrespectful. But she knows the priest that will be officiating and is not really happy with all the shit show. Update one

October twenty sixth, twenty twenty four. Things have moved, but I wouldn't call any of this a positive progress. I would like to clear something I kept seeing in the comments. I won't request a special blessing or go in the queue for communion. It isn't about the blessing or the compromise, but the singling me out. I often just stay quiet or take a general family blessing if we go to weddings, et cetera. I have no issue with compromises. I have

an issue with Emma and her ridiculousness. I don't know why she has this thing with me. I do look young, but not like a teen or a child. Obviously, she has two younger sisters and is very authoritative with them. I have witnesses her being very my way or the highway with younger people, so she has issues for sure. The confrontation from the last post was on Tuesday, and

today we had lunch at my grandma's. I think you should also know that my brothers have a tricky relationship, as in they are not as close with each other as they are with other siblings. My older brother Robert is very no nonsense and he has never been a fan of Emma, but he didn't think he should have to intervene because Luke is an adult and capable of navigating relationships. All this is going to be relevant. I promise we visit Grandma a lot, since she lives by

herself and we truly enjoy her company. Today, we were all there because she is over this drama already. After a lunch that was more like snacking to be honest, she asked us all to clear the air. Emma continued with her rant about me being a disrespectful person and that she was asking the bare minimum for me. My grandma asked her why she had no issue with her not taking communion, and Emma said that she was her elder and for sure her reasons were more than a

tantrum like it was in my case. She also repeated that she was asking this of all the siblings and I was the only one that was being difficult with her tiny request. This is where everything crumbled for her. I mentioned in the comments that Robert is also lapsed and he was already exhausted by this situation. He asked her why she had no issues with him not taking communion, and she looked like a kid that was caught. She didn't have a proper answer. Robert then asked her if

she even knew why he and Grandma became lapsed. She shook her head and looked at Luke for help. Luke, on the other hand, was staring angrily at Robert and I but said nothing. Robert explained to Emma he was the reason Grandma became lapsed. When Robert was a teen, he came out as gay and was so worried about our grandparents reactions since they were very active in the Catholic Church. Grandma felt awful about it, and even worse when she went and spoke about this with the then

priest of her church. That priest was super old school and told her that Robert was committing sins, he was going to Hell. He needed to find his way the whole nine yards. Grandma didn't take that so well and simply stop going to church and started spending that time with her grandchildren. Over the years, she started getting into the whole community again, but she decided she was done taking the sacraments. She respects parts of the church, but

can't fully reconcile with it. Emma was a bit confused since Robert is married to a woman, and he explained he is bisexual and ended up with a woman just as he could have ended with a man. He also commented they are not married in the church, but that didn't matter to her, like it mattered when it came to me. He asked her directly, what was her problem with me? Long story short, She said, I was rude since the beginning and kept treating Luke wrong. Oh and

I also was very snarky about looking younger than her. Crickets. She is a beautiful, successful woman, so I still don't understand her obsession, but it seems like she wants people to see I respect her and what she says. I just started laughing. She started crying and saying, I turned my grandma against her. My grandma told her to stop blaming people for her being a negative person, and she

was always going to side with me over her. Luke got upset at that and asked her why she was not supporting him, and she simply said she doesn't support him being a lap dog for a crazy woman. Moore was said, nothing got truly resolved. I was kind of invited again, but declined going. Grandma is undecided if she even wants to go at all. My older siblings told Luke they will go to the ceremony if he seeks

couple's therapy or at least therapy. My parents are having headaches and now dislike Emma so much they can't hide it. Oh and yes, Grandma spoke with the priest and he wants them to do extra primarital counseling or he won't officiate. I hope they don't get married, but he is old

enough to derail his life if he wants. I thank you for letting me vent and my grandma love the pope joke where o p has replied k Irony l O L Well, I hope for your brother's sake that the extra primarital counseling results in him rethinking his plan to marry mis entitled and controlling. Good luck to you, tripadwire forty eight. What's ironic is that the Catholic Church has a mandatory course or consultation called precana the couples

must complete before marrying. In the Catholic Church. The course helps couples prepare for the sacrament of marriage by reflecting on the spiritual, emotional, and practical aspects of marriage. The priest or deacon also weighs in on the compatibility of the couple. At least those I know who went through it had that happen. I think it varies by dioceses, but I know my cousins was six months long. Update

October second, twenty eighth, twenty twenty four. My brother has gone too far and I decided to be done with him. He made our grandma cry, and I think permanently damaged a lot of his relationships. I want to mention some of my cousins and other family members thought I was just stubborn in creating drama, but now there is no longer my side or Emma's side. Maybe he always felt this way, but the issue he has with Robert is

absolutely ridiculous. He was so upset with what Grandma said about him being Emma's lap dog that he called her dea speak about it. I was obviously not present for the conversation, but Grandma told me what happened, and Luke confirmed it. He told her that it was unfair of me to ask Robert for help, since he was her favorite grandchild and would get her to side with me

no matter how wrong I was. He also told her that many of the cousins believed this and that it was so obvious since she even left her religion for him. He claimed. The other lgbt Q plus members of the family, most were not even born when Robert came out by the way, doubted if she would do it for them. So Grandma explained to Luke and then call every single one of her grandchildren to ask them how they felt,

and explained to each a part we didn't know. She said that when Robert came out and she spoke with the old priest, he hinted about knowing of places to set Robert straight. Grandma had heard horror stories from this places, and so had Robert, and they both spoke with my parents together about that not being an option at all. My parents never intended to send Robert there and are very casual Catholics, but Grandma wanted to cover the basis

just in case. I was told. Grandma sounded like she had been crying on the phone, and after the first couple of calls, which went from oldest to youngest. The group chat started to blow. Robert is livid. Our lgbt Q plus cousins are livid and say Luke lied. Even the cousins that were telling me to stop being a stubborn head are livid. By the time I was up for my call, I was already on the way to Grandma's.

Two of my cousins were already there, and the youngest one, Sarah sixteen f was ready to literally fight Luke for a bit of levity. Sarah is about thirty five centimeters smaller than Luke. In the image of her swinging at him made me laugh a bit. She asked if I was making fun of her, and I just explained the whole mental image of her trying to hit him, and she admitted it was kind of funny. What I didn't tell her is I would love to slap some sense

into Luke. My grandma has been through so much in her life and this is not what we want for her. She looks puffy faced and kept asking everybody if they truly felt unloved by her, saying she would do everything for any of us, explaining how Robert was the oldest grandchild but that didn't mean she loved the rest any less. She is a strong woman, but I think something inside her broke a little with the thoughts she heard her grandchildren. It was a shit show, a big one, and I

was just so done with Luke. My parents have been passive towards the situation so far because I asked them too, but after they heard what happened, they told them they need time away from him. Robert is simply disgusted and decided to not speak with him any more, which he communicated through the cousin group chat, with Luke's response being that this is why Emma's help on reigning all us

would be so beneficial if we just let her. He also added how Robert never cared for him or anybody really, and he just tried to be the center of attention all the time. He cited his coming out, his announcement he was going to marry a woman the birth of his child. It was ridiculous. He came out when Luke was a toddler, and for many years only our parents

and grandparents knew. He announced he was going to marry his now wife through a text, but didn't interfere or took from any His child was born four months before Luke's graduation, and apparently that was a big issue for Luke that he never commented. Maybe I am biased, maybe I am selfish like Emma claims, but I call bullshit on his tantrum. Every single one of the cousins has been helped, baby sat, tutored, gotten out of trouble, you name it by Robert. He isn't perfect, but he isn't

the conniving ass Luke is claiming. Maybe Luke has always felt inadequate and we didn't notice. Maybe it was his last ditch effort. Maybe Emma has manipulated him so far that he can't come back. It doesn't matter any more. If he does marry Emma, I wish him the best. If he doesn't, I hope he goes to therapy. Regardless of what he decides, he burns so many bridges and hurts so many people. I don't see this resolving any time soon. For now, I will focus on my grandma

and making her feel better. I feel extremely guilty because it was Emma's situation with me that opened this can of worms. I know I shouldn't, but it's hard. Lizard Girl twenty five. While it sounds like it is self projection from Luke. He is the conniving asshole he is saying. Robert is edit internet stranger here also sends hugs to your grandma and your family in general. Goop. Robert is the type of older cousin Sarah would call if she is drunk at a party and needs a safe ride.

He also did it for Luke, which is why I don't get his deal Ghost thirty twenty two. Irrational behavior is called that because it can't be rationalized. Luke is exhibiting very irrational behavior, which is why you'll never understand it. The best you can hope for is that he gets some serious therapy and pulls his head out of his ass sooner rather than later.

this is too much pride of Cape Town. Was this really Luke's inner feelings coming out or is this Emma poisoning him into isolating himself from his family and support system. Either way, he's a gigantic asshole. You, your grandma, and all your cousins should boycott this wedding. Oop so far, nobody is going to his wedding. My parents are undecided about attending the ceremony, but they lean more on not attending.

Up date three November fourth, twenty twenty four. I want to start this by saying that Grandma is in better spirits now. I am overwhelmed by the amount of people supporting her and very grateful for it, even if it's online. I have talked about this on some chats and d ms, but please know the situation with Emma is not about her being parenified or her family being strict Catholics. It's just her being her. They were already going to get premarital counseling and extra was added.

Some of our paternal cousins from Grandma's side have relented and feel a bit bad on excluding Luke from things, so the compromise was met on he can be invited to everything, just don't force people to interact. These cousins are mainly on the older side and have soft spots for the youngsters. My youngest cousin, Sarah, said she was okay with it all, but she wanted them to keep him away from her since she can't stand him any more. Our maternal side was a shit show, because of course

we need one. Some of them were very upset, but others told me I should try to understand where he was coming from. My mom was the one that told them everything in Some told her she is at fault for making Robert the star of the family. This was so uncalled for but brought some issues in my family, particularly when one of my maternal cousins asked me if I could behave enough if I am seated at the

same table as Luke for his wedding. It makes us doubt ourselves, but really, this is a cousin that Robert has bailed from almost bankruptcy two times, and he's the problem. I haven't said much about my sister Lucy, since she voiced nothing different before. She was always very close to Luke and even had a great relationship with Emma before the debacle. She decided to be out of it because she was so disappointed. While she was never made to babysit or anything like that, she was always so into

Luke since he was her baby brother. She loved him the most, and I know that because she literally told me when I was a kid. We have a good relationship now because her kids are my buddies. But it was rough for a while before that. She was upset about the whole thing. But when our maternal family, or at least a part started excusing Luke, she lost it. She is a very calm person, the type you don't expect of bad word out of, but she lost it, and I think it was the last straw on the

cold bucket for Luke. She sent a massive message about what has been happening, detailing every single thing and daring people to kind of comment her if they disagreed. She made sure to include every single nasty thing, every bad word, every I roll. She sent it to so many people because she was tired of the half information telephone game. She is upset at me because my refusals made this happen, and she said she knows she shouldn't, but she needs time to fix her feelings, so she is not speaking

with me right now. My parents decided they were out of the wedding and told Lukey is on his own. There was never a monetary issue. They were willing to contribute, but both Luke and Emma are pretty well off and was no need for that. Now. To what maybe most people want to know, and the only conflict I am interested about any more, my grandma is feeling better. Sarah being with her was very positive. It was lovely to see the eldest and youngest of our family so in tune,

but then again, they have always been. She requested that Sarah invited Luke to her birthday party December, and after a lot of back and forward, he is going to be invited. We will see if he comes or not. A small parenthesis, I showed my grandma the joke of the knife sword, et cetera. She was so giddy, thank you. I mentioned before that Robert would pick up Sarah if

she needed It is still true. What I might have not mentioned is that she, of course gets a weird lecture from him, and an even weirder lecture on how he rates certain drugs l O L As I said, he is no saint, but he is not a shit either. Lastly, yes, he has photos, even with my sister or me in the newborn wall. People loved to take picks of him holding the new family members, and he collected them and put them together when he got his own house.

together for three years. Despite being together that long, I just met my girlfriend's parents for the first time a few weeks ago. She is an only child and said she didn't want to introduce anyone she dated to her parents unless she knew this was the person she wanted to marry. Her parents also live abroad, and due to COVID and her dad's health problems, they didn't visit her

for a while. She usually went to visit them. It was a big step for her to tell me she wanted me to meet them, and I did my best to make a good impression. I was raised by my grandmother. When she passed, my older sister took over caring for me. My girlfriend has had a stable upbringing. Her parents are wealthy and she's led a privileged life life. We don't have the same life experiences, and it was never a problem until I met her parents. If anything, for some reason,

the difference is between us added to our relationship in ways. Unfortunately, I got the impression her parents were scrutinizing every aspect of my life over the dinner we had on our first meeting, and this included my family. I stayed true to myself and maintained my confidence, but left the interaction feeling like I bond a test. My girlfriend reassured me they liked me, but her mood over the few days afterwards suggested otherwise. I called her out on it and

pressed her for an explanation. I learned she's been upset because of a fight she had with her mother following the dinner. Her mother thinks I'm just having fun with her daughter, that I will get bored and leave her, and she's too old to be wasting time with me. Apparently her mother got this impression entirely from the way I look in this judgment about me. Trump's anything else I shared about myself. My girlfriend and I decided to have me spend more time with her family over the

coming holidays. So I have been going over every day and involving myself in shopping trips, et cetera with my girlfriend and her mom, hoping that she would get to know me and overcome whatever skepticism she has. I even spent hours getting a crash course in a strategy board game her dad plays, and started playing with him to continue learning it as a form of bonding despite feeling like I wont her dad over I felt like her mom was constantly evaluating my loyalty in subtle, unrealistic ways.

Examples include over analyzing how I interact with others in public, reading too much into the way I smile, and the way I show affection toward my girlfriend. According to my girlfriend's mom, the fact that I have a motorcycle makes me extra sludy, and that's how this escalated. My sister and I have an eighteen year old dog. It's been a tough few months for him. I think he's approaching the end. For that reason, usually one of us is always with him. He's on the smaller side, so he's

easy to bring along anywhere. I've had to leave to give medicine to my dog at certain times of the day because he's on a schedule, and I guess my girlfriend's mom found even this to be suspicious. The other day, I left my girlfriend and her family to go give my dog his medicine, and on my way there, my phone alerted that an air tag was traveling with me. When I reached my place, I searched all my pockets and stuff and eventually found it on the motorcycle itself.

It was connected to my girlfriend's mom's number. I told my girlfriend, and my girlfriend said she put her mom's air tag on my bike to prove to her mom that I was not lying about where I was going. I get that she was trying to defend me, but I feel angry at her. It's hard to articulate, but ever since I met my girlfriend's family, microaggressions by her mom are really getting to me, and it's hard to

separate them from my girlfriend. Hoping I'm just over stimulated by all this and things will get better after Christmas is over. I'm not sure if I'm in awe for being cold toward my girlfriend about the air tag, though, but it's a frustration that I'm having trouble letting go of. Update. We've been together for a few years and have discussed getting married. Unfortunately, ever since I met her parents last year, their behavior, specifically her mom, has made it difficult for

me to see a future any more. Her mom mistrusts me, and it's all based on superficial impressions and assumptions about who she thinks I am. I have tried to show her parents patience, and I've been extremely respectful, giving them opportunities to get to know me and overcome their prejudices. Everything came to a head when I went to visit my home country. I have a place here, and I came to see a friend get married. Her parents showed

up unannounced and requested a ride from the airport. I immediately called my girlfriend, despite the time difference, because I was in shock. She claims she had no idea about their plans. They claim it was all impromptu, cheap flight, last minute at SA. I just don't buy it anyway. I pick them up and they're currently staying with me in my apartment. They've got no itinerary but want me to arrange them to see X y Z. And of course they need me as translator. Everything is apparently too

foreign to them. They're lost without me. They refuse to go anywhere without me as an escort. My girlfriend is apologetic, but I just don't see her supporting me and dealing with her parents, especially her mom, who is the instigator. The dad has no backbone, is forced to move to follow her. I posted another issue a while back too. My girlfriend doesn't support me in setting boundaries, so as her partner, I fall into a rock and a hard

placed type situation. I can't tell if I'm being cold and uninviting or if these people are crazy and my girlfriend is so afraid of them she didn't even warn me about something like this. I feel like I can handle anything if she's on my side, but it doesn't feel like she is. Maybe I can't be with someone like that. Update one January nineteenth, twenty twenty five. I just wanted to clarify some things. I only met my girlfriend's parents for the first time late November twenty twenty four.

The reason I picked them up from the airport instead of abandoning them or telling them to go find a hotel, et cetera, was out of respect for my girlfriend and the relationship I wanted to have with her and her parents. After the first meeting I had with her parents in late November that I shared in my first post, I confronted my girlfriend. She apologized, and eventually her mother did too. Basically, I thought we were past whatever suspicions and mistrust her

mother had about me. Then this happened. In the last few days since this began, I have realized some things about my relationship. My girlfriend has been trying to play both sides. She'll tell me one thing in her parents another thing. She's been hiding some deep trust issues about me and insecurities about our relationship, mostly her fears about me being unfaithful. I want to be clear that these fears are not because of anything that I've done. It's

just how she feels. She used her parents to convince me it wasn't her craziness, and I am pretty sure she told her mom how she felt, and her mom was willing to be in on it. I broke up with my girlfriend and asked her parents to leave the friend's wedding. I went to hit different because of that, but it also made me realize how unhealthy and toxic my relationship was. I haven't disclosed a lot, but I

think I was in an abusive relationship. I am still struggling to accept that, and there is some shame creeping up that I don't understand. Why is it there? Anyway? Thanks for all the messages. I'm sorry my writing skills aren't that great. I'm so drained from this situation. I

feel like I need to sleep for a month. I don't even feel like writing about any of this, but I felt I owed you the conclusion update two January twenty seventh, twenty twenty five to those who were worried my ex girlfriend would trash my place, nothing like that happened. I talked to her in person. She said I was misunderstanding everything. She began to cry, which was difficult for me. There was a moment where I wanted to forget all of it so I could hug her. I held back

because something felt different. She asked me if I hate her, Obviously I don't, I said, I am tired of feeling like the person I love is not who I thought they were. Ever since she introduced me to her parents and close friend circle, which I didn't talk about, I have seen a side of her I don't recognize. After meeting her parents for the first time and the strange behavior started to add up, I gave her an opportunity to come clean. I asked her to tell me everything.

I told her, I can't help you if you leave me in the dark. I even warned her, if I find out later, it's over. Because of the way she chose to answer me during this conversation, every action I took I held back. All she had to do was tell me what was going on, I would have helped her take on everything. Instead, she chose to trick me in cruel ways while acting helpless and innocent. When I questioned her about it, I shielded her. All this time,

she manipulated everyone around her, including me. Everything is confusing now I look back at all of our time together and feel crazy. I can't differentiate any more her true feelings about anything. She tried to explain the stress of pleasing her friends and family made her act this way, but she doesn't share their views or doubts about me. She said, she's never loved anyone the way she loves me, and her feelings scare her. I wish she would just

admit she had too much fucking pride. I understand she is the way she is, probably due to how she was raised, but some of the things she has said and done are unforgivable. The conversation went on, but everything was still other people's fault. She wasn't taking any accountability, so I stood by my decision to stay broken up, to be honest by hesitating for even that singular moment when I wanted to hold her, she showed me the side of her that comes out when she doesn't get

her way. For the first time, I felt like what I was seeing is actually her true self. We were having this conversation while walking outside. We had stopped walking and she was wiping her tears. When she realized I wasn't going to comfort her, she started to say degrading things about me. I also brought it up again that my life is easier than hers because I grew up with no parents. This comment was so fucked up it

made me laugh. I told her she's so privileged, she has no idea what it even means to have a hard life. Because I I laughed, I could tell she wanted to throw her coffee at me. She didn't. Instead, she said some more things about me, and I realized I don't care any more because I don't even recognize this woman who is yapping in front of me. Since then, she has emailed me an Excel spreadsheet of all the

money I owe. The things she has itemized are things like all the time she upgraded me on a flight, luxury gifts she has bought me on birthdays, Christmas, et cetera. She also included ridiculous things like estimated cost of gas X amount of times when she was my designated driver and pregnancy tests. I think she added this just to mess with me. I'm not going to bother explaining my contributions. This email made me sick. I packed her things that were in my apartment. I had a friend come over.

When she came to collect them, she didn't know this. I answered the door and she pushed against me and tried to initiate I didn't return her advance, and she got angry and scratched me. I think maybe she was trying to slap me but couldn't reach I'm not really sure because it happened too fast, and I restrained her. My friend came out and began calling her on it. He made a show of taking a video and threatened her with assault. I think it embarrassed her, so she

probably won't do something like this again. The only downside to his presence was I think she will try to convince herself. I rejected her in that moment because he was there. I have people asking about my dog. He's happy and comfortable and still alive. He eats well, unlike his age. My priorities are to improve the quality of his life, not unnecessarily prolong it, but every night I check on him before I fall asleep, and every morning I wake up with this feeling of dread. He has

Cushing's disease and chronic pancreatitis. He is high risk for developing cancer. The medication routine is a bit complex, but I am learning everything else can for him. Take care of your pets and check them often for lumps. A lot of animals hide their pain. I guess we have that in common. Ah. Maybe I shouldn't have ended the post like this. Anyway, I'm really okay. I posted this update because I got a lot of messages and it's easier than answering them separately. In case I don't feel

like answering comments, I will just leave this here. There is a lot I haven't shared. There is a lot I haven't even admit to myself yet. I am not saying I am perfect. It's not about being right or wrong anymore. I have a lot of flaws too. I'm sure I handled some things poorly, and I know I was a fool. I also still experience moments where my heart aches and I question if I'm wrong about everything, wanting to just get back together. Hopefully this will get

easier with time. Anyway, writing here counts as therapy, right, I'm going to go drink a cold beer in the shower. Next story made my entitled step daughter pay for destroying my daughter's computer after she got jealous of her room makeover. But now my husband and his ex are furious with me. I thirty f have a fourteen year old daughter. Leah. Married my husband Mark forty six m six years ago