Jada's Surprise 50th Birthday Celebrations

Both bie just move on by. Just have to say you look, Oh my god, oh my gosh, this is amazing. This is so awesome you guys, beauty for the beauty. That tree looks so enchanted. It's just so beautiful. Happy day, Happy fifty birthday, Thank you birthday. Oh I hate even saying that I know your baby's fifty. That's crazy, that is that's crazy. Oh this is so beauty, isn't it beautiful? Are you get so special? You are special? And let me tell you look spectacular. Thank you. Okay, well, I

have officially joined the fifty club. I have no idea what's going to unphone today, but I do know that gave me a willow. Have been conspiring with my Red Table team, and I was just told to just show up so happy. You are gonna turn the Red Table on you long in honor of your fifties. We have some beautiful people and friends coming to have some burning questions for you. That's gonna be fun. I can, let's go.

Let's roll it, Jada. I'm talking to you from inside my closet, because outside my closet there are twins with plastic swords that are bashing each other in head and it just it didn't seem like an appropriate way to celebrate your birthday. Now, they tell me that you're turning fifty, which, uh, that's impossible because that would mean that I'm sixty, and that's not possible. So you're thirty nine, happy thirty nine, and I'm forty nine. I like it a lot better now.

They asked me to ask you a question. I do have a question. I've been wanting to ask me for a long time, and it's pretty simple. Um, how do you put up with will? I mean, really, look, you're intelligent and talented and successful and beautiful, and you have all of these qualities that quite honestly, Will doesn't have and I want to know how, after all these years you do it? How do you do it? How do

you do it? Anyway? Listen, happy birthday. I hope you have a great nine birthday and and stay safe and I hope to see you soon. Mr Clooney, the one and only my God. He looks great. He does he does? He looks great. No, I'm just saying it looks great. I think that what you really have to learn is how to have a friendship, you know, because really, how do you put up with anybody? How do you put up with you know, yourself, even yourself, you know. And once you learn how to put up with yourself, you

really learn how to put up with all others. And I think for me, I had so much emotional maturity that I had to do. I really had to take the time to learn how to love myself. Because how we love ourselves is how we show people how to love us. I'm sorry, can we run that back? How we love ourselves is how we show people how to love us. Absolutely I had been weak in that area. Yeah, we're going to go with another question. Let's roll it. Hi, Judah, Happy birthday, I'm so excited for you. Oh my god,

I just love you so much. Oka us all look good, woman, So I think of you as such a deeply, deeply courageous person. So my question for you is do you have any fears that you're looking to conquer in its next decade of your being on this planet? That's my question. Okay, happy birthday, Happy birthday. That's actually it's a good one, Carrie. So she's amazing. Um, fears to overcome. Sure, I have a lot of fears. Just the state of the world is so uncertain. So I'm really trying to work on

my control issues and just let go. Do you think that letting go is like one of the biggest gifts of growing older? I do. It's the greatest gift. I swear that is the part that I've really been feeling at fifty. I just I'm not feeling the stress of being so worried about everything. Yeah, that's a process. These questions are amazing. Yeah, shall we do another Happy birthday? Jada. Thank you for leading, Thank you for showing us the way. Thank you for advocating and showing the world how much

you care for us. Thank you for being Okay, my burning question for you. What is one place that you traveled in your lifetime that changed your world perspective, that changed you somehow? Um, I want to know. I love your mom. That's a great question too. With that smiling Vietnam, I went there by myself. I got an opportunity to meet one of my mentors, which is Tick, not hant Um. He was ill, you know, but I got to give him honor and be in his presence. It is a

gorgeous place. The spiritual rejuvenation that I got there was I didn't want to leave, and you can really feel that energy there. It was such a magical experience. I need to go with you next time. Okay, who's next? What's our next question? Happy birthday, lovely, lovely, beautiful jad I'm adding my voice to your course of a murderous wishing you a happy birthday. I'm I'm happy forever. Here's my question. What has been the most difficult thing for you? Wow?

That woman there, Okay, I can't wait to have her come because I know she's got some wisdom. I know she's got a angela. I love her. She is also I love you. It's good. Can we get some tissue? Shoot? Up overcomes so many difficult, many things. Can I tell you one of my favorites, tell me dealing with me and Jaden? We were not easy children. You actually were maybe Jaden was. It weren't difficult raising children don't care

who they are. That's challenge, That's what I'm saying. I'm raising Being a mother is challenged because you sacrifice a lot. But I tell you what sacrificing for you, guys was sacred. There's a difference between sacrifices that actually empower your life versus sacrifice that steal life, that pulled away, pull breath out of your life. And I had to learn the difference between the two. Still doesn't make it easy. It

doesn't make it easy at all, you know. But you guys have been the greatest gift of my life, the greatest. Maybe you guys have been an amazing treasure for me. That was you and Will's gift to each other. H m hmmmm. I guess I've been so loving and supportive. And you guys just see me, You and Trey and Jaden, all three of you see me. You really do. You're the toughest times. I would say being a mother wasn't easy but it was worth it. M hm. You know

I would saying. Another challenge was smoothing out my thoughts around you know, the relationship with Sharia. That was a real process. You basically let me know I don't really appreciate your tone, and I was like, I ain't domatic, and you hung up on me. Girl. I called back, and I happened to say, quote, bitch, you living in a house I picked out. You said, it's my house. Now, who I love it when I think about our relationship. Now, there's a real sisterhood there. But it took I was

going to say it took years. It was really a transformation for all of us, having a blended family and getting to a place where there was ease, there was ease with it, and having complete utter acceptance, you know, like Ly has acceptance for me and all my nonsense. I have acceptance for her and all her nonsense. There's a real beautiful sisterhood there. Some special people just wanted to send some birthday love, Hygiena. I just wanted to wish you eight happy birthday or as I call them,

happy anniversary, have the best day ever. Sending you so much love, whether it's me, me or Ran whatever you wanna call me and Molly, what's up, Jada, it's the error here and I'm wishing you the happiest birthday. You are timeless, you are ageless, you are classic. You are the epitome of the ultimate woman. Sending you all the love and it's really awesome to have someone like you to call a friend. Congratulations to you on your success

with the Red Table. Um, it was really fun to also be on the Red Table and talk to talk with you. I look forward to catching up and talking some more until then. Happy birthday, cec Hi Jada, Jimmy Kimmels, I really can't believe you're fifty years old. I should be like a hundred and eighty five by that measure. You really are a terrific person. I'm very fond of you, and I want to say that seriously. I am fifty three.

I turned fifty uh three years. I've never been great at math, but it was I think it was about three years ago. And um, if there's one thing I've learned over my fifty three years on this planet Earth, it's that me eat yogurt. You know, the fruits on the bottom, but it really should be on the top. Happy birthday, Jada, that's hilarious. Oh my goodness, yogurt, Jimmy, I can't. I love Jimmy so much. How about that wallpaper where Sara was I couldn't get over it, Ryan wallpaper.

And then Maria she she just looks like she has not aged one bit. She looks fantastic. Oh that's awesome. Okay, we have a fabulous at fifty. Who wants to welcome you to the club? Okay, Bethany Frankel, Hank, Beth, I'm so honored. What a special day. How does fifty feel for you? Fifty feels liberating. You just value time differently. You just want to only really do the things that are important that means something to you. Yeah, that's real talk. That's exactly how I'm feeling. And I get it now.

I wasted too much time, I guess. Yeah, I'm just focusing on the relationships that are really important. I don't have time for all the little relationships that have had around before. That's interesting because it's sort of like in business, you decide how to build vertically or horizontally, whether you want to go deeper or what to go wider. So you're saying I'm going deeplyper vertically with these people that are my people. My circles kind of basically closed. That's

how I feel. So I want to really nurture that and let those people know how much they mean to me and invest in that, versus spreading yourself so thin with superficiality. Yeah. Yeah, that's That's a great way to put it, Bethanie, because that's where I'm at instead of going what I'm definitely going deeper. You know. So you found love and got engaged at fifty, Bethany, tell us about your guy. Tell us about this whole fifty swag. Uh,

Paul's incredible. Uh, it's great. And we've both been married before and we both have made mistakes, so we don't take it for granted. And we didn't walk in just thinking this has to be this lifelong, unrealistic fantasy rainbows, unicorns, love and flowers. So it's been a beautiful thing for me to work through a lot of my stuff from my childhood and my lack I've ever really seeing a

positive relationships. It's great to be learning and be really involved in what it takes to be successful in a relationship when I've only been successful in business and philanthropy. I love that, Bethany. Let me tell you that sounds really adult and grown yess that comes with exactly know. Let's do a little fill in the blank game. One of your birthday wishes for fifty is to take a breath, take a second before I act and said you and

just like think about it and digested. Years ago, I had a terrible situation that I was going through and the therapist at the time said, you see the email, you know, wait six hours to respond. So even in situations when you think if you waited six minutes to respond, it just means like not to get so activated because it could pass, not to be so reactive to everything. Just chill, just give it an That's a good one. Thank you so much, Bethany. And I just gotta say

you are goals, Henny, were sure. Thank you. What a great experience. I have loved this. Congratulations on all your success and happy happy fifty year. Thank you. Yeah, but one of your besties wants to know, Hey, Boom, it's your best friend me. No, anyway, happy birthday. I love you so much. You are just one of the most genuine people I have ever met. You are a blessing in human form. You are my spiritual sacred sister. I am so blessed to know you. Congratulations on being fifty

and the riving and being ageless. I want to ask you, because you're such an inspiration to so many, what genuinely inspires you? Lauren? Yes, Lauren and I we've been on a deep healing journey together. We have really connected on a deep spiritual plane. She's been working through some of her traumas and I've been doing the same. You guys have such a special relationship. I just love it. Yeah, I just love it. She's a joy. She's a joy, is a joy, and she's she's special. Chance. What inspires you?

Was her question? Lately, the Great Supreme. My journey to find a relationship with the Great Divine has been long, you know, and now that I found it, and really I found a gait that really works for me. That's where all my inspiration comes from. It has changed my life for the better. And it's just been a beautiful journey through and through. That's beautiful. Well, that was a really really good question. Who's next? Hi, Jada? I just

wanted to say, happy birthday, my God. I hope I look like you, and I'm wise like you when I turn it fifty. My question is what would your advice be when it comes to parenting and raising children in the industry? M M, yeah, that's a good one, and I love the red what I read. I really tried to keep you guys in understanding that you're really privileged and that you've got to use your privilege to help

people who are not. You guys started doing your charity work at a very young age, you know, three or four or five, six, seven, eight nine. I would physically take them to the orphanage so they could see not every child lives like you do. I think that really helped. You always made that very clear, which was very helpful.

I wanted you guys to work early, and I thought that was a good idea because you guys understood early the value of money and things, you know, and you understood that it didn't just come out, and we understood that you work to get the thing. All right, you want a new game, you're gonna don't earn it. It wasn't just and you would always tell us, actually you and Dad both would tell us, um, this is this is our money, this is this is our house, not

not not yet for you guys. You live here, you're here, you were inspiring us to create something for ourselves. Let's roll some more. Okay, Jada Pinkett, you are a rare black diamond, strong, beautiful and illuminating. I hope that your birthday is filled with love, laughter, joy. I do get a lot of pleasure out of Red Table Talk and every anything else that you do for the world. I love you, sister. Happy birthday, Like Queen today, I wish

you the happiest birthday ever. This new chapter Red Table Talk is something that was so critical, so badly needed, and the most magnificent gift to the world. You as a mother those incredible gifted won't children, and you've just done an amazing job. You're a beautiful daughter, a beautiful wife, and just a gift to us. And may God grant you all of the peace and love and kisses and hugs that you can handle. I should have known you are a virgo. It's your birthday, fifty. My god, I

can't believe that. I can't believe that in your thirty she's timeless and ageless and we love you so much. Happy birthday, Queen, Love you, Happy no mouth don't make My question is someone at the miniature is you Philip? That was like gosh yam. And Miss Tina she got a nerve that was beautiful from one mother to another. Dude, you've done a beautiful job as well. Absolutely, and Miss Octavia she is just a golden soul. Blackwere black Dad. That was luminous and shining. I just love her to death.

We've had such good times together. Um and Stefans, I mean they got there and only Red Table Talk comments September. I just love you. We got more questions for you, honey, Let's hit that. Jada Pinkett Smith, what's happy fifty birthday? Congratulations on another year on this planet, and thank you so much for making our lives so much better with everything that you do. My question is you talk about how you and Will have to learn about inspiring each

other's happiness but not being each other's happiness. So how do you know when you're expecting Will to make you happy? And how do you know when Will is adding to your happiness that you've already created. Yeah, that's that's a really question. Do you know it's Trevor. Trevor's gonna ask something real real. Yeah. So the idea of when you're expecting someone to phil your happy place and be your happy place versus you creating your happy place within, you

have to be your cake. You're grateful when somebody wants to be you know the sing or the cherry on topic. But you got your cake because you're that that you are that and so when you you know when you're out of pocket, when you are looking for someone to bring you a sense of joy, when you have your own happiness within and you have more understanding that a nobody owes you anything and be that anything anyone decides

to offer you is a gift. Miss Jadob Pickett, Miss Jacob, I want to tell you happy birthday, May you be blessed with more? Was the more knowledge is? So you already know what they say, Black don't crack. We always stay in text. But I got a question for you as you enter this new era, what you're gonna leave behind, what you're not tolerting, what's gonna be new for this new decade? Yeah, yeah, that's a good one. They love us a missing Oh my goodness, she said, think this

year too. So what am I leaving behind and not tolerating? I'm just not tolerating nonsense from myself. When you don't tolerate nonsense from yourself, then you definitely nobody else, nobody else.

So that's what I'm leaving behind. I just want to keep leveling up a lot of times, like when we want to play victim in our lives, and I think I spent a lot of my life playing victim, right, And yeah, people do things to you, there's no doubt about that, but you have the power to make the decision on how you're going to move through what is happening to you. You want to sit there and start pointing fingers at everybody all the time and stay in

victim when now you're giving your power away. You stay on this merry go round or you did this to me, You did this to me, and you did and that's all you're doing all day long. It's always somebody else another situation, right, instead of what part did I play? I think the biggest change for me at fifty is like I had to really look at it all and take responsibility for every piece, because that's how you take your power back. I had to lay my whole life out,

every bit of it. I had to look at every piece of pain, and I had to go what part did you play in that? Because at the end of the day, pretty much everything you bring into your life you invited it, ex suffered, people victimized when it comes to physical and physical you know, all that kind of stuff.

You know, people that we decided to bring into our lives, circumstances that we decided to bring into our lives, how we decide to think about things we invited all I had to look at that and I had to start uninviting things. I had to take responsibility on how my unhealthiness brought in a lot of unhealthy dynamics. Instead of me paying attention on how to change other people, I started focusing on how to change myself. And that's when

my life changed. That's when I got happy. Coming in hot another burdening question for you, Let's roll it, hey, Jada, that's right, milestone birthday. I'm right there with you, and I know you know you you get older, you realize what you just when you want to get impact on the world, like you want to make people better. You want to make the world better. And I got to say, you have more than done your share of that. So

I'm proud of you. I'm happy for you, and I want to ask you, when you look back at your career, what is the one thing that you realize now that you wish you knew when you were younger. Yeah, that's a good one. Michaels so funny. First of all, Michael, I gotta get him back on the golf course. I'm not competing with Michael, because Michael is a real deal athlete. Yeah, you don't want to turn that dragon, but he is fun to play golf with. I tell younger Jada to

be a little bit more nice. I was very edgy. I really had a big chip on my shoulder. My attitude was like, I'm not the one that edging. This kept you safe because you didn't have people coming at you with the nons exactly. I think I was just really mean, definitely coming with that Baltimore Street. I'd never forget more in Baby, more Baby, and I love war. He was interested in me doing a certain project. He said, you know, Jada, it wouldn't hurt you just to to

just to be a tag more kind, so sweet. He was trying to let me know then just you know, it's okay, you're doing down. Just a middle You're in l A. The one thing that I didn't realize until very recently was that you never wanted to be a star. No, I didn't. I never realized that because I would always be like, she doesn't participate, that she didn't not going out. He will had a hard time understanding that too. He would say, you don't want to be He was like,

why don't you want to be the number one? Act like he thought I was crazy. I just wanted to do what I love and pay my bills doing I think I'm the same way with you. I'm like, well, I'm always you could be doing this, you could be doing that, and your damn, I'm good. Jada. I love you so much. From the bottom of my heart. I want to wish you the happiest fiftieth birthday. You're such an amazing spirit. Thank you for shining your light on

all of us. Thank you for being a part of my journey and for inspiring me from the very beginning, and for making me want to live a happy and joyful life, not just a productive one. Happy birthday, it is light wishing you a very, very happy birthday. We have all been just rooting and waiting for you to get to the fifty club. So welcome, welcome, welcome. I'm just happy to be your sister in this thing called life.

Have a one deerful, wonderful birthday celebration. Since we've done over thirty plus of these birthday things, I mean, like I wanted to say, happy birthday. I love you. We're maxed out. I can't love you anymore. It's been amazing watching you just be this magnificent freedom fighter, just bright light in the business, and it's just been incredible. And it's like you always think, like what where do you get Somebody just got everything and I said, ah, so

I got you this. It's from the Wonder Woman collection. It's the only thing that you don't have right now. Enjoy those fitties. He was one of the first people I met when I came to l A. So he met me when I was eighteen. Yeah, that's my dude, Jada. So it's your birthday. We love you, we appreciate you. You are a treasure, and thank you just for all the light that you instill and everything that you do

for everybody. My question for you is you said that everything changed when you turn forty, So what advice do you have for this woman who has just turned forty? Megan has turned forty. Wow, for me, forty was harder than I actually got depressed. I went through a bit of a depression and I got the stupid ass at too, that thing on my leg, the peace and Love sign. When you're turning forty. Don't make any drastic changes. Just sit with it for a minute. I just remember at

forty feeling like what the hell right? I hit a wall. I was like, what do you want? And I didn't know. I couldn't answer the question. Make sure you can answer the question. That's the first step. Look at your life and look at what's happening, and see what you're happy with, and see what you're not happy with, see what needs change. Most of the time, you're gonna find that it's stuff that you have to change within yourself. And that's the

most difficult part. You're gonna realize that the stuff that worked before you turn ford, it's not gonna work anymore. Be gentle, Yeah, I think there's more. Let's let's hit it. Jada Will jumped out of a helicopter on his fiftie. What's on your bucket list? What's gonna do. Happy birthday. Oh my goodness, that's funny. Do you have a bucket list? That's a good question. I actually do, but it's it's

not not physical. It's just not physical. Yeah, exactly. No, I get I'm not there with you, and I absolutely have a bucket list. I really want to learn how to love, but I know what it isn't Yeah, you know, And I'm just on the journey of really understanding what love is. So everything on your bucket list right now is just part of your spiritual journey in your path,

right yeah, yeah, Okay. When we were talking about who turned fifty this year, my mom fell out the chair when you heard our next guest was on that list. He's a legend and making fifty look amazing and he is here massagement. Goodness, Oh my goodness. So in light of it being your fifties and fifty supposed to be the golden h I got you a gift to express that.

Open it up, okay, talk about it. Yeah, okay, all right, Okay, you gotta you gotta put it right there, yes, man, So now you can just road through life care free when your skates man skate road. Happy birthday, queen. Actually wow, I feel like y'all just drank from the fountain of youth or whatever. I want to talk about. The transformation, it's a maturity and growth is when you look in the mirror and get tidy own b s. As soon as I have for you, it was like, what am

I doing? You know? Things weren't going according to the way I felt they should. After going overseas in the same year about the fifth time, because uh, the money here was drying up for nineties artists, you know, I said, what else is there for me to do? What else can I do? Um, you know, for myself? So I decided to take things one step at the time. What can I improve on? What am I in control out? First? Control of my body? Yeah, let's do that. Yes, and no, lie,

this is no cap whatsoever. But I've seen a picture again yea, bless you, sister, bless you my gosh. And I was like wow, yeah, yeah, than for real. And I was like, um, you know what, it's never too late. Before your transformation, you had insomnia and xiety. Yeah. Yeah. The anxiety part of it was, well, if we're not getting enough sleep, and then you always worried about, um, you know where the next check is going to come from,

especially when you're an entertainment business. You're creating your own jobs. At times, the insomnio was really kicking my butt at the time, and I had this membership at the gym, small clock in the morning. I was saying, the gym's open, Oh it is. We got the gym. Three days turned into four, four days turned into five, and I've been going at it since then. This for me was my saving grace. And I think, I'm I'm getting there, and you've grown so much. What would you say to your

younger self now? I would look at my youngest self. I've grabbed myself by the ears. You're not saying you're good enough. Oh, there you go, you're good enough. Everybody to tell you, yeah, remember that, grab yourself by the ears right now? Good enough? Yeah, don't wait. And you've been married for how long I've been with her years? We got married in a one okay, yeah, so we're twenty. That's that's putting in. That's putting in work. It's work.

And she would agree, I'm sure absolutely. What is your relationship advice? Oh? Man, um, respect this first and foremost. Yeah, that's real respect? Is that it's essential. That's essentially going to come at it with the most light. One more. My birthday wish for fifty is I say more. Yes, thank you for coming. You're making fitting look good. I'm striving for perfection. Thank you, guys, any place anywhere. This was great. That was fun. I loved having him here

because it's like we grew up together. I mean I watched him, he watched it me and then just to see where he is right now, I am. It's just like that. Oh, happy birthday, long time. I love you guys. Happy birthday. You can't have a party without a cake. You gotta have it. When they take to this beautiful good different, they are beauty, They're very beautiful. It is I'm really pretty. I think you should have a seat

on your throne. Queen. Well, Mom, I'm gonna I'm gonna start by confessing my love and giving a speech to mom. Right now, I'm gonna kick it off. Um. Honestly, Mom, I just want to say thank you so much for the way that you raised us, in the choices that you made. I know that a lot of people may have said, hey, you know you shouldn't be doing this. Why are you're doing this like this, and you made those choices. You decided to raise us the way that you felt like you needed to, and it's really made

me the person that I am today. You and Dad have always taught me like, oh, you have to build a team. You have to create a team. You were the first person on my team, you know what I mean. You were the first person that was that was there for me in that in any type of capacity. I look back now and I see how difficult that that was for you. On this day, I just want to say thank you to you and everything. And you're just such a strong, amazing person. So it's beautiful. Listen, the

road has not been easy. It has not been easy at all, and you have been a rock for me like my whole life, and you know, so much of who I am today is because of you. You were such a big force in molding me and all of us. It's an honor and a privilege and just a divine blessing to have somebody like you in my life and our lives. We just want to celebrate you, you know how. These kids are your greatest joy. You are mine and

I'm so proud of you. I love you so much and I'm just grateful in honor of your special day. Our sister and seven time Grammy winner. It's beautiful. Tony Braxton's too happy, bastard chine a girl, it's your day, happy too. You mean the world man you are may I swear the only things that my That is soy baby, baby, baby Jane, happy baby two mm to every birthday, says, I love you, Oh day, welcome to the that was the best club, sess she looks so beautiful. Thank you.

Oh you kept that under wrap. That's I couldn't come over the other day. Happy Birthdays. I love you. I love you too, Mommy. Was a special shout out to event designer extraordinaire Melissa Andre for creating this spectacular birthday setting. Thank you and Tim her pastry chef. You are an incredible artist. Yes, these cakes are masked of pieces and the gorgeous. To join the Red Table Talk family and become a part of the conversation, follow us at facebook

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