Body Confessions! Jada Tells All At The Table

a beautiful body. Then you think to yourself, what if I had that body? And then you're like, but I don't a lot of people have been asking about why I've been wearing turbans. Well, I haven't talked about it. It's not easy to talk about but I am going to talk about it. I just talk to something, your broashop your that's fine, whatever you need to do, it's fine, Okay, are you might? Okay again, let's do this and clear's up.

So we are here at the Red Table, and I thought we could talk about the things about ourselves that we might not like that we have to accept. I don't care how beautiful of a woman. We all have stuff that we something like we're unhappy exactly. For older women,

youth is everything. So everything that you see on television, everything that you see everywhere, is everything about staying young, and so it really becomes challenging as you become older to try to not get obsessed with we're trying to stay because sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and I don't like I say, the worst part of my body for me are my legs, you know, my thighs. Like I'm thin and people think it's ridiculous, but I

have mad cellulite and I hate it. So I hate my legs and all that stuff about well muscle will take it over. That's a bunch of crap. And I love that you've gain weight. I love so that, Rodney, But I put on some extra pounds. But in my mind I feel fat. I know that that's not true. I know I'm not fat, but I certainly am bigger than I used to be. But that's not a problem. But it feels like myself a certain way. The rest

of me looks pretty good. Look, let me tell you give me putting me to shame on the beach, So give me that. Yeah, straight up, honestly, what's one part of your that you disliked the most. Well, I'm going to tell you what. I've been getting a lot of questions about why I've been wearing this turk bent. Yeah. Well, I've been having issues with hair loss. And I'm gonna tell you it was terrifying when it when it first started.

You know, it's in the shower one day and then just handfuls of hair just in my hands and I was just like, oh my god, am I going bald. It was one of those times in my life where I was literally shaking with fear. That's a really scary experience. Yeah, that's why I cut my hair and why I continue to cut, just to keep it. Like I just had like another like okay, I think we're gonna do another layer of cutting, you know, And my hair has been

a big part of me. Taking care of my hair has been a beautiful ritual, you know, and having the choice to have hair or not, and then one day to be like, oh my god, I might not have that children anymore because you had a lot of a lot of hair, really thick, beautiful hair, to the point that people always thought I had weaves. They're like, that's not her hair. I'm like, yes, it is right, Yeah, And I've gotten every kind of test there is to have. Yeah,

So they don't really they don't know why. People said stress. People say, oh you got you have you know you do have alopecia. Even in my terror and even in my fear and in the moment of just going oh my God, like why are you so terrified that you might lose your hair? Right? I really had to put it on a spiritual perspective of like, the Higher Power takes so much from people. People are out here who

have cancer, people who have sick children. I watch the Higher Power take things every day, and by golly, if the Higher Power wants to take your hair, that's it. God, you want my hair. When I looked at it from that perspective, it it really didn't settle me. Yeah, Like because if when I had to think about, well, what else would you what else would you lose? What else would you put on the table for God to take take the hair? You know, take it. When my hair

is wrapped, I feel like a queen. And I love having a wrapped head. You can teach me a thing or two, because I don't know how to rap determine at all, this is one of my favorites. Then not it looks so tight. Did you get a headache? You have to be really careful not to do it too tight. Yeah, I love that right front, and I always look so cheek to me. I really love it. And then you can do this one. Yeah, this is the one I

usually know how to do. I just like sometimes you just have it hang so I can pretend like I have hair, my pretend hair that looks amazing with locks. It's like, oh yeah, now that's cute because it's like a little butt. Yeah, so there you go. That's okay, give a little these three different ways. If you have the bad hair, right, I love it too. Coming up? Do you always get on me from my underarm hair? Gammy always like want me to trim it for you. We could braid it. No, it's getting a lot. It's

getting a lot. Hey, Jen, can we get glammed down for gam last looks? Come in your way. We're rolling, we're fitting. I in my own life struggled with curve your women and curve your girls have always gotten more attention from the boys that I've liked and have ended up dating the boys that I've liked and that constantly happening in me, you know, being their friend, but not really like seeing them look at me in a certain way. They always see you as like the little sister exactly.

They did the same to me, And then you start to wonder like, dang, like am I just not desirable? Like is my body just like not what society like? So it does just get really hard for for a lot of girls. Yeah, I said will all the time. She's beautiful, like all the time. But you always get on me from my under arm hair. Yeah, yah, me always like what me to trim it for you? Yeah? I just think that you can trim me because at this point, No, it's getting too much. We could braid it. No,

it's getting a lot. It's getting a lot. Yeah, we're getting a lot. When you put pictures and your stuff on your Instagram with your arm hair, how do people feel? I used to look through my comments and be like, oh my god, everyone's saying I'm a lesbian, And now you've learned to just ignore that. So why did you make the decision and not to shave? Yeah? I mean I didn't really make the decision not to shave. I just kind of didn't shave. It takes too much time.

I just want to get in the shower and then get out of the shower. I get it. It was so the upkeep is just see you gave me over here, and I'm like squinted up my face and not understanding at all any of this. I'm gonna be like my ancestors and just do what I need to do. And my whole thing is she had the choice. It's her body. It is. But you know, there's some people that are going to be accepting open and some people that are honestly, and at the end of the day, you have to

be comfortable in your own skin. That's why I always tell people. I'm like, we all experience self hatred to a certain degree. And I told Willow I've had every shape of body there is to have, from being super muscular to being thin but curby thin and straight up and down, like I've done it all, you know, because she asked me, she was like, mom, will you work me out? And you're an amazing trainer, Thank you, babe, And she was getting her little booty. Yeah, and I'm

still doing it. I remember you having a conversation with Dad that I think really stuck with you in regards to your body. What did what did he spoke was that conversation? What did he say to you? He was just saying that he was so happy that, you know, I wasn't curvy because guys look at girls, guys objectify women so much. So he was glad that you didn't have a curverybody because he was like, guys will look at your brain more if you're not curvyer. And that

kind of just solidified all of my experiences. But you know, it's just so funny that you would be dest because there's so many people who would die for that body, for that body. But you know, I had the same struggle. We yeah, because weird little people. Little people. And when we were both of us, when we were really young, we were like streaming. Yeah, when I was young with this thing about wearing two pairs of socks. Did you go through that so your legs legs look Yeah, that

was that was the stupid Yeah we did. We were two pairs of those thick socks. Well, I used to hate wearing shorts. I used to think my legs were so skinny. I remember you going, Jayda, you have beautiful legs. And then I seem. I hear myself telling will are

the same thing. Will you've got beautiful legs? I hear you know, my friends that are curvy, they are telling me it's so great that you can just like wear some shorts on the tank top and not feel like overexposed or feel like people are looking at you differently, or feel like people are looking at you in a sexual man exactly even more than they usually would. You know, everyone wants what they don't have. Yeah, we want what we don't have. Absolutely that if that will ever change though,

I really don't. I don't know if they has always been like that. Well, we've got some Facebook questions for my Facebook family. Everybody picked a question. No, no, no no, no no. Why are girls so mean about looks because they wish they had what the other person has or something? You know, and it's all about envy? Envy? Honestly, whenever another girl tells you something about your body or your looks,

like she's really just talking to herself. I remember a girl telling me if you ain't have them light eyes, you wouldn't be Wow. Yeah damn. When that young lady said that to me, I was like, man, is she right? Because people only ever talk about my eyes. Yeah, okay. The next question, sexiest part of a woman's body, but the curve between the waist and the hip is Oh, it's the sexiest part. God, I think the whole body of a woman is just Yes, it's just gorgeous. I

don't know if there's like one part. What was your question? Gam name three things you love about the way you look? Run it. I would start out with my hair, because my hair can be long, short, down, they're bald, any color, and I've worn it all those different ways. I like experimenting with my hair, with my hair color. Can other people add things? Yeah? I love your lips. You love my lips, Yeah, it's pretty lips. And I also love you have a really nice bottom. Yeah. I like your

shape yeah yeah. And it's interesting they ask what are the three things that you can say you love about yourself? Because it was much easier for me to name three things that I didn't like like about myself. Yeah that's sad. Yeah, because they came to mind like that. I had to really really think to think about what do I love? You know what I mean? Maybe we should do that as a ritual. You wake up in the morning and then you give yourself three things that you love about yourself.

You look in the mirror first thing to start your day off, and you know, do it for a week and see if there's a change, you know, like oh, I love that mold extra pounds, or you know, like I love this car on your forehead. I remember how it happened, and I almost passed out when it did. When Willow was about three or four years old, she was going off to karate and she ran into the bedroom to give will a hug, and then she cracked her head and I remember literally fall into my knees.

You can't and will was like, Jada, She's like I need for you. Come on, we gotta take it to the hospital. And I remember having Willow in the back seat with me and she looked up at me and she said, Mommy, can you fix me. I'll never forget that. And I was just like it was terrifying, Like even to this day to think about it, it was terrifying. But yeah, that scar is h has history history. Yeah, and why don't you can't deny there's too much emphasis

put on looks. But you've grown into that, Willow, because when you were little, you didn't feel that way. We were constantly. It's particularly about your hair. You really went where you're like, welcome, Jaden, Yeah, Jazz, that hair and I was always you wanted and you wanted your hair to be long, you wanted you you have beautiful hair, beautiful hair. It just wasn't like my hair. But you went through such a time and embracing that. That was. That was ru Yeah, that was and it's painful. Are

you learning to embrace your cute little body? I mean slowly, but surely. It's a process. But more so I'm learning to just appreciate myself as a whole. That's a process. It's a constant process. It's a constant process. Wow, this was a really beautiful conversation. Well, facebookers, our Facebook family. We love hearing from you guys. So if you have any questions or any comments that you want to share with us, please do so. We love hearing from you.

Thanks for being here with us and love yours all that you are and all that you are not can we're out there? You go? Thank you, Hi, thank you? Okay, thank you sweet everybody. Yes, for seventeen years we have not really spoken. You don't even know what you meant about we're gonna walk on over here to the Red Table. You were walking up and there was that moment of like, do I hate hugger? There's some girlfriends who wants to

squash you to watch you be miserable. I had to just apologize and just thinking to myself, Damn, Jada, that was petiot. I want to try to do something on mine. When we try to do a turpin on me, Nick material this is like a soft cotton. You don't want any material that's gonna pull your hair exactly. Oh what mc light new stuff that's a fast wrap it is. I just wrapped her head. I did. I showed them how many different little raps out and it kind of

takes the pressure off. I'm so happy I showed Willow how to wrap her hair. Today she looks so great and I hope it makes her feel like a queen to Alright, Yes, let's do us do this right. To join the Red Table Talk family and become a part of the conversation, follow us at facebook dot com slash red table Talk. Thanks for listening to this episode of Red Table Talk podcast produced by Facebook, Watch, Westbrook Audio, and I Heart Radio.