This week we talk about the difference between settling vs accepting, and how that helps us live our best life during the precious time we have left in this life. Plus I’ll give you some ways you can begin to change your mindset from shifting to accepting, starting right now. You’ll also learn how to spot BS when you think things are “good enough” but know in your bones that’s far from the truth. You will learn: // How settling relates to fear and scarcity // The key to leaving fear + scarcity b...
Dec 27, 2024•26 min•Ep. 241
In this week’s episode, we’re diving into the arrival of Winter Solstice (in the Northern Hemisphere, at least!) and the importance of embracing and becoming familiar with the inner and outer darkness it brings. We explore remembering the light we all carry within no matter the season; our ziji, our radiant inner confidence, and set the intention that this Solstice be a time of connection - to yourself, your light, and to the gifts that the dark can bring. You will learn: // How to use your ziji...
Dec 20, 2024•17 min•Ep. 240
This is a replay of one of my favorite episodes, because if you’re anything like me and you have a tendency toward some major FOMO with a dash of perfectionism, you can spend some serious energy debating all the options for any decision that comes your way. And we have a lot of decisions to make this time of year! In this episode you’ll learn: // The key differences between maximizing and satisficing // Why too many choices can be a bad thing // How to make decisions and avoid regret // Why sati...
Dec 13, 2024•30 min•Ep. 239
This week we’re diving into the difference between intellectually understanding concepts and knowing them in our BONES. We’ll talk about how we can find true realization on our own path, and the importance of applying it to the real world. We’ll also explore one of the trickiest parts of this all: being radically honest with ourselves about how embodied our wisdom really is. You will learn: // The sneaky ways not being honest with ourselves can sabotage our path // How to bring your wisdom out o...
Dec 06, 2024•15 min•Ep. 238
This coming weekend is the anniversary of my mom’s passing from this life. I have a lot of grief around our relationship in the last couple years of her life.I was impatient and bitchy, sleep deprived and in the throes of postpartum depression, while also getting my doctoral degree and going a shitton of solo parenting. You Will Learn: // Why we often believe we aren’t good enough… and why that’s absolutely NOT true // What “the best you are able” means for you and your practice // How to accept...
Nov 29, 2024•21 min•Ep. 237
This week is for those of us who feel a sense of grief that we may have started our spiritual journey “too late.” Who feel we’re way late to the party. I’m going to help you rethink that by showing you why right now is the perfect time for you to begin your path. We’ll also be busting a few myths about what we often think our path should look like, versus what it really is. You will learn: // Why it’s never too late for you to dive into your spiritual journey // What we think spirituality and th...
Nov 22, 2024•19 min•Ep. 236
This week we'll talk about what's possible when we drop our stories. We'll ask ourselves, “Is this STILL a story that applies to me?” and "Who am I without my story?” We’ll revel in what freedom from the past feels like, how redefining personal narratives can impact the collective, and how this is especially relevant in these times. You will learn: // What is the difference between facts and a story // The top reasons we hold on to our stories - even when they’re painful // The importance of mea...
Nov 17, 2024•33 min•Ep. 235
This week we’re going to explore what we can do as individuals and as a community when we feel ungrounded during uncertain times. I’ll give you an important first step toward healing and action, lessons from 4000+ year-old trees, and reminders that help keep the spark of hope alive and well. We’ll zoom in and out to make current events more manageable within our hearts, minds, and spirits. You will learn: // Why it’s so important to mourn when dealing with challenges in our lives // How to focus...
Nov 08, 2024•15 min•Ep. 234
This week, we dive into those unforgettable moments when we realized, “Holy shit—I have it in me!” Together, we’ll explore the times life called for a strength we didn’t know we had, and how reconnecting with these hidden resources can empower us for whatever comes next. Through reflection, storytelling, and a bit of awe, we’ll uncover the courage and resilience that have always been a part of us, ready to rise to any challenge. You Will Learn: // The importance of remembering times when we surp...
Nov 01, 2024•23 min•Ep. 233
This week is all about why we ALL belong… no matter how different we might feel from the world around us. I’ll break down why we often feel out of place with the world around us when we’re on our spiritual path and why that can actually be a GOOD thing. Plus we’ll jam on some great ways you can help to remember and feel connected with your inherent belonging in the world, and how the very thing that might have you feeling isolated is the very thing that will connect you to all that is. You Will ...
Oct 25, 2024•18 min•Ep. 232
This week is all about the power of a self-generated ceremony. I’ll open up about my own recent experiences while on a 4-day, 4-night wilderness solo fast and how I created ceremonies right there for the major moments throughout my life. I also share how my heart was cracked open, and jam on some ways you can create your own ceremonies, including questions you can use to get started. You will learn: // How ceremony can help us get unstuck // What a self-generated ceremony is and why it can be mo...
Oct 18, 2024•20 min•Ep. 231
This week I talk about my recent wilderness solo fast and all of the clarifying moments I had about living a life of no BS and no regrets. We’ll jam on the top 5 regrets of the dying that Bonnie Ware wrote about, and what we can do to work on preventing them. Plus I’ll give you some tools for overcoming the fear and doubt that’s keeping us from making changes right now. You will learn: // How my wilderness solo fast helped me come to terms with my regrets BEFORE it was too late // How to prevent...
Oct 11, 2024•29 min•Ep. 230
In this week’s episode, I share my story of when I got diagnosed with kidney cancer and what it was like having to face the reality that we all will die, and we NEVER know when. I’ll also give you some ways we can stop putting off the things that give our life meaning and a sense of integrity, and start living a life of no regrets, making the most of whatever time we have. For some this means more adventure. For some it means forgiving (including ourselves). There are so many ways this can look....
Oct 04, 2024•28 min•Ep. 229
This week I sit down with Cathy Raven Toldi, an instinctive meditation teacher, Zen priest, and sacred Eros guide. We jammed about expanding our concepts of Eros and sex and how that connects us with our own deep spiritual practice and the wild world around us. Plus, Raven shares one practice that we can all try right now to tap into our own Eros energy from a more wholistic perspective. In this special Episode, you will learn: // How Cathy became so connected - and dedicated - to reshaping conc...
Sep 27, 2024•43 min•Ep. 228
Welcome to a VERY special episode of the podcast… this week I interviewed my first ever GUEST, Spring Washam. Spring is one of my beloved Buddhist teachers, but also a real pioneer in terms of offering entheogens, along with the Buddhist spiritual path. And she’s been an inspiration for me in many ways. In this interview, Spring and I talked all about what she’s learned about plant medicine and altered state experiences in the jungles of South America and how that’s translated to her work here i...
Sep 20, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 227
You know how sometimes you feel tired for no apparent reason, or maybe you want to check the f*ck out, or run away from it all? Me too. Thing is, these things are all signs that we might be at a personal “growth edge.” This week we’re going to jam on how to know you’re at an edge, and why it’s SO important to identify what your “edge behaviors” are. You will learn: // What a growth edge is - and how knowing how we react to one helps us more effectively move through them. // How to identify our g...
Sep 13, 2024•23 min•Ep. 226
This week we explore ideal things to look for when choosing a psychedelic sitter - facilitator - guide, or professional psychedelic-assisted therapist. We consider the different needs that arise around journeys for consciousness exploration and personal growth vs therapy, as well as things to think about if there is a significant medical or psychiatric history. You will learn: // Specific questions to ask when interviewing a potential guide // Why it’s important for a guide to have both a techni...
Sep 06, 2024•30 min•Ep. 225
This week we’re talking about the Deep Seeing of others - and ourselves. Deep Seeing helps us create more authentic and connected community, and a more enriched daily life. We’ll debunk the idea that what we DO is who we ARE, and jam on how to get to the core of other peoples’ essence (and our own). Plus, I’ll give you some ways you can practice deeply seeing and understanding others starting today. You will learn: // Why we often reduce others' identities (and our own) to what we DO, and how we...
Aug 30, 2024•18 min•Ep. 224
This week, we’re going to dive into the most common insecurities that keep us from letting go of our beloved STUFF and declutter our physical space and minds. I’ll talk about my own experiences and insecurities when it comes to getting rid of things - despite my years of work on trying to let go of attachments to it all. Plus, we’ll talk about some ways we can reframe our thoughts around our possessions, keeping only those items that bring us true joy and freedom. You will learn: // Why so many ...
Aug 23, 2024•25 min•Ep. 223
In this week’s Episode we jam on a daily practice we can do to decrease unnecessary suffering - which is what this podcast is all about! It’s completely natural that things end - relationships, careers, objects we adore, and more. Yet we have so much resistance when things do come to an end, often feeling like it wasn’t supposed to happen. We’ll talk about the concept of “little deaths” that we experience in everyday life, plus the difference between when an ending is more easily accepted vs whe...
Aug 16, 2024•32 min•Ep. 222
This week is a Greatest Hits throwback to one of my fave topics: death and impermanence! We’re gonna jam on why we often avoid thinking about death… and what acknowledging it can teach us about living now. I’ll also open up about one of my own biggest regrets in life and how it pushed me to create the life I wanted and live in integrity. In This Episode You’ll Learn: // How to stop avoiding thinking about death – and how to instead acknowledge what facing it can teach you about living now // A f...
Aug 09, 2024•23 min•Ep. 221
This week we talk about why we feel obligated to finish everything we start - even if we’re miserable in it. Careers, relationships, even small things like movies and a bad meal. Often it’s because we think changing our minds equals failure or some sort, but there are many others I’ll cover in this episode. I also share how we can make every choice worth it... even when that means walking away from something we’ve put a lot of time, money, and energy into. You will learn: // Why we force ourselv...
Aug 02, 2024•20 min•Ep. 220
This week we dive into the concept of Self-like parts - those parts of us that SEEM like well-intentioned, wise, compassionate parts of us, but that ultimately still feed the immature ego and false sense of self. We also explore the concept of Self in Internal Family Systems and how Buddhist philosophy can help us know when we’re driven by our True Self vs our Self-like parts. You will learn: // What the Self is and how it relates to the theory of Internal Family Systems… and our core essence //...
Jul 26, 2024•26 min•Ep. 219
This week we explore radical and authentic communication, and how things can shift when we show up defenseless and in our true power. I’ll give you some ways you can enter into communication with the intention of growth and understanding, and explain the dangers of “right vs wrong” thinking. You will learn: // The problem with entering into communication with a right vs wrong mindset // How to enter into communication to share our experience instead of prove a point // The ways that defenseless ...
Jul 19, 2024•14 min•Ep. 218
In this episode, we talk about our (very) human need to have healing move quickly… and how any person who has suffered and made a lot of progress can tell you that it takes patience and time. We’ll talk about how to hold realistic expectations for any “quick-fix” approaches you may try and the dangers of a quick-fix mindset. I’ll also give you some great ways we can all work to cultivate that necessary patience! You will learn: // Why it’s important to not give up hope if our old patterns recur ...
Jul 12, 2024•15 min•Ep. 217
In this week’s episode, we talk about the culture of BIG manifestation, and how it can turn toxic. We’ll look at the importance of finding and accepting our own “enough” and how to sit in the moment and be present with the preciousness of life, exactly as it is right now. Plus, I’ll reveal an essential step to taking effective, healing action in these times - for ourselves AND our more-than-human world (hint - it’s not hustling or burning out on activism). You will learn: // How the culture of B...
Jul 05, 2024•22 min•Ep. 216
First, know that this episode is for people of all ages, because we are all elders to someone (there are always people younger than us!) and we are constantly having opportunities for growth in our spiritual maturity throughout our entire life. The concepts I introduce in this episode help shape how we age and the choices we make at all stages of life. Too often we believe that as we age, we should try to look, feel, and act as young as possible. But the truth is, that’s not the freaking point. ...
Jun 28, 2024•16 min•Ep. 215
This week is a very special episode to help us continue to reduce the unnecessary suffering in our own lives - and in the lives of those we love. We’re going to talk about something we all find difficult in our relationships: the radical acceptance of other people’s shit. I’m going to share my own personal struggles with this and give you some ways that you can learn to accept how others act in a way that will bring you more compassion, love, and alignment. You will learn: // Why our loved ones ...
Jun 21, 2024•18 min•Ep. 214
This week we learn from Native Hawaiian wisdom in the concept of “pau kahana,” which means “the work is done” (most people simply say, “pau hana”). The concept of pau kahana is more than just stating a fact, like “I’m off work now.” I’ve noticed that my kanaka - Indigenous Hawaiian - friends create a very distinct separation between work and personal life. So it’s not just about stopping work, but also engaging in practices that help us release the day’s burdens and shift gears. It’s a holistic ...
Jun 14, 2024•20 min•Ep. 213
This week we talk about how privilege allows us to take risks when pursuing our spiritual path and enlightenment, and how to mitigate that when we don’t have a lot of it. We also explore why privilege is not a guarantee of enlightenment - nor the lack of privilege an insurmountable barrier. I open up about my own privilege and hardships, and give some tips on how those who lack privilege can still proceed on their path with mindful, calculated risks. You will learn: // How privilege influences o...
Jun 07, 2024•14 min•Ep. 212
