In this week’s Episode, we’re going to jam on how to disagree... because we humans kind of suck at it. I’ll talk about the art of disagreeing, including two great questions you can ask yourself and others when you’re involved in a disagreement. Plus, I’ll get into the importance of staying curious in all of this, and how we can use these tips to help make our interactions with other humans a little more compassionate and kind – which is something we could all use these days. Resources: // Check ...
Nov 03, 2023•36 min•Ep. 181
This week’s episode is a word of encouragement for those of us who are highly sensitive… and love letter for all they do for us. I’ll open up about my own experiences as a sensitive person and how I’ve learned to love and care for that part of me. Plus we’ll dive into how we can support those who are more sensitive than us, not only for their own good, but for the good of all of us. Resources: // Episode 152 : Sensitivity and Addiction // Episode 179 : Medicine for These Times // If you’re looki...
Oct 27, 2023•20 min•Ep. 180
In this week’s episode we’ll talk about the medicine we can use for these times of intense suffering in the world. Our planet is literally - and figuratively - on fire, and the current crisis in Israel and Gaza, as well as other parts of the world with ongoing war and displaced peoples and genocide, has heightened this awareness. While our natural instinct might be to harden our hearts, numb out / dissociate, or spiral into a state of hopelessness, this episode dives into what we can do to softe...
Oct 20, 2023•20 min•Ep. 179
For me, a lot of my adventures and career shifts came while wandering, being open to what the universe showed me and the serendipitous events that arose. Some of you know I was a climbing guide for a decade, and that would have never crossed my mind as an option I’d come up with thinking about careers in my head ! I was on track to get my degree in psychology then go to grad school for my PhD. But one day, a guy I was teaching a beginner’s rock climbing course with said, “Hey, you should apply t...
Oct 13, 2023•26 min•Ep. 178
This week’s episode is about why we fall back into our old ways, even after experiencing potent transformation and growth. We’ll chat on what many types of spiritual regression signifies, why it happens (to ALL of us), and why it’s important we see that it’s a normal part of ANY transformational process. This is essential to help us prevent falling into hopelessness on our path. Plus, I’ll give you some steps we can take to make those moments easier when they happen… because they WILL happen! Yo...
Oct 06, 2023•27 min•Ep. 177
This episode is all about MDMA-assisted couples therapy. We’ll demystify MDMA and how it works on a biochemical level to help us change our ways of thinking. I’ll explain how its therapeutic potential can help us address past traumas that affect our current relationships, and we’ll chat about what the future holds for MDMA-assisted couples therapy. Plus, I’ll go over the most important step to see lasting results. You will learn: // The three common areas challenged in a relationship, and what h...
Sep 29, 2023•38 min•Ep. 176
In this episode we talk about the two wings of freedom: wisdom and compassion. I’ll explain the importance of cultivating a balance of both, and what can happen when we are practicing one without the other (HINT: often, more harm than good). We will also go over some tips to help us cultivate both wisdom and compassion in our daily lives. Resources: //To cultivate compassion, try this guided Tonglen Meditation audio (30min) // Episode 28: Practical Emptiness // Episode 51: Self-compassion // Epi...
Sep 22, 2023•19 min•Ep. 175
This week, I want to share a story about my mom and me. How I misunderstood her dreams for me… and the joy of lifting an intergenerational burden that wasn’t just mine. How I began to decolonize my mind. I’ll share a recent experience that showed me that I had been secretly feeding into my fears all along, and the moment of realization which helped me break free. Plus I’ll help you begin to change your own mindset from one of fear, unsafety, and unworthiness to one of love, protection, and FREED...
Sep 15, 2023•29 min•Ep. 174
This week’s episode is all about the hidden superpowers we can find in our trauma. We’ll talk about our ability to dissociate, and why it’s so critical to our development as children and our ability to survive. I’ll also dive into how our left and right brain communicate and how they can help - or hurt - us in moments of trauma or activation. I’ll give you some good tips on how to heal from our self-alienation and show ourselves more love and compassion. Resources: // Episode 51 : Self-Compassio...
Sep 08, 2023•41 min•Ep. 173
This episode is all about the myth of there being anything remotely “normal.” We’ll talk about How modern industrialized society has created the concept of “normal” and how that’s hurt the way we view others and ourselves. Plus, I’ll dive into where mental health issues often stem from in the first place (hint: it’s not in our biology), and how changing our mindset can help us begin the healing process as individuals and as a society. Resources: // Episode 50 : When Someone You Love Has a Mental...
Sep 01, 2023•29 min•Ep. 172
This week’s episode is an extra special one, as we talk about how we can help each other during a crisis or disaster AND touch on how we can continue to support and donate to Maui - and what we can do when invited to visit again. We’ll jam on some super practical tools to use when others are processing a recent crisis, and I’ll tell you some things NOT to do.. and why. Resources: // You can donate to the Hawai’i Community Foundation that spreads out the funds to different organizations: https://...
Aug 25, 2023•32 min•Ep. 171
This week’s episode is all about, as Langston Hughes said, “What happens to a dream deferred?” We’ll jam on what happens when we push our dreams off, and why a lot of us don’t even try to dream in the first place. Plus I’ll give you some insight into how we can allow ourselves to believe in our dreams and overcome our oppressive thought patterns. // This episode was released in the aftermath of the Maui wildfires. Hawai’i has been a life-saving, healing place for me and many of my clients. I don...
Aug 17, 2023•19 min•Ep. 170
In this week’s episode, we’re going to continue our talk on betrayal and dive into what to do when others betray us. I’ll talk about why we feel betrayed in the first place, and what the antidote to any betrayal is. Resources: // Episode 16 : How to Improve Any Relationship // Episode 51 : Self-Compassion // Episode 168 : When We Betray Ourselves // If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com . It has all you need to start creating a life of more fr...
Aug 10, 2023•18 min•Ep. 169
In this episode, we’re diving into the root cause of why we commit the greatest betrayal - when we betray ourselves. We’ll jam on how people pleasing and imposter syndrome can develop in us in the first place and talk about how we can tell when we’re being inauthentic. Plus, I’ll give you one practice you can do to bring yourself back into a place of clarity and trust. Resources: // Episode 11 : How to Stop People Pleasing // If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created ...
Aug 03, 2023•19 min•Ep. 168
In this episode, we’re going to talk about the 4 boundless qualities in Buddhism, and how to spot their near (and far) enemies, which can subtly take us away from our integrity and our path. We’ll also look at ways we can discover and address the near enemies in our own lives. Resources: // Episode 43 : Jealousy and Sympathetic Joy // Episode 83 : Vulnerability & Lovingkindness // Episode 106 : Empathy vs Compassion // Episode 107 : Equanimity in Everyday Life // If you’re new to the squad, ...
Jul 27, 2023•21 min•Ep. 167
On this episode of the Rebel Buddhist Podcast, we talk about the Internal Family Systems Model of Richard Schwartz, and how it helps us integrate the various parts of ourselves - especially the more challenging aspects of ourselves that we may have been trying to ignore. I’ll show you some exercises we can do to help learn about your parts, and begin to heal our wounded self, and we’ll touch on the importance of self-compassion as we do this courageous work. Resources: // No Bad Parts by Richard...
Jul 20, 2023•24 min•Ep. 166
This episode is all about how to do relationships YOUR way. A lot of the time, we compare our relationships with others to how we’ve been taught they “should” be, instead of considering what we truly want. This week I give you full permission to design your relationships how YOU want… as long as it’s aligned with what you want and your rebel purpose. Resources: // If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com . It has all you need to start creating a ...
Jul 13, 2023•15 min•Ep. 165
On this week’s episode, we jam on anxiety: why we get anxious in the first place, how it can affect our brains, and the power we all have to rewire those neurons to reduce anxiety altogether. Plus, I’ll share 3 of my fave techniques to help stop anxiety in its tracks when it does arise. Resources: // Episode 58 : How to Manage Anxiety // If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com . It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adven...
Jul 06, 2023•26 min•Ep. 164
Did you know that adventures - big or small - help rewire our brains? In this episode we talk about the ways doing adventure our own unique way can help bring more resilience and joy to our lives. From climbing mountains to take a new route to work, adventures of all sorts help make us happier humans. Listen to her some ideas for ways you can bring adventure to your own life - everyday. Resources: // For the geeks, you can check out the 2011 study by Ben Fletcher here. // If you’re new to the sq...
Jun 30, 2023•25 min•Ep. 163
This week’s episode is all about three key teachings I learned from Ram Dass… without having even read any of his books. ;) We’ll jam on the three lessons that have meant the most to me, and how we can all find a little more time, acceptance, and kindness for all beings… no matter how we’ve suffered. Resources: // Episode 128 : Bearing Witness - Who Did You Tell // “ Walking Each Other Home ” Elephant Journal Article // If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at Reb...
Jun 22, 2023•19 min•Ep. 162
Often my mental health patients or Adventure Mastermind clients will ask me if they can be cured of their depression, anxiety, or complex emotional experiences. I’ve also noticed that many of us use “healing” and “curing” interchangeably, which doesn’t really work since they’re actually quite different. Remember, not everyone has the option to cure whatever dis-ease or ailment they have. So, it’s important to not just live for a future cure, but to also be fully present with the healing that’s p...
Jun 15, 2023•20 min•Ep. 161
This week’s special replay is about how to figure out what freedom means for YOU and how that can help us live a more meaningful and fulfilled life. In This Episode You’ll Learn: // How to figure out what ‘freedom’ means to you – and how to design a truly rich life, right now // What the many different levels of freedom can look like – and how to choose where you want to be // Why my parents realized that giving me options – the freedom of choice – was the best gift they could have ever given me...
Jun 08, 2023•24 min•Ep. 160
This week’s episode is about how we can improve any relationship in our lives. We’ll begin to understand our own expectations and learn how to manage our minds so we can stop trying to control others to help us feel better. Plus, we’ll be talking about how to turn love and compassion inward to help us meet our own needs. Resources: // Want to know more about how to create boundaries like a Buddha? Grab this free training on how to set boundaries that actually work – and how to do this from a pla...
Jun 01, 2023•41 min•Ep. 159
In this episode we will talk about why people make the choices they do, and how we can learn to move away from judgment and towards curiosity to show them - and ourselves - a bit more compassion and love. We’ll explore giving the benefit of the doubt in tough situations, and how that leads to less suffering for all of us. Resources: // Episode 51 : Self-Compassion // Episode 128 : Bearing Witness - Who did you tell? // This American Life episode: Switched at Birth // If you’re new to the squad, ...
May 25, 2023•21 min•Ep. 158
In this Episode, we talk about Old Souls - the qualities they hold, how they form relationships, and their approach to spirituality. We’ll also dive into some of the pitfalls, like loneliness, and the shadows of elitism and nihilism, and how to address these to feel alive and connected in this life - even as an Old Soul. Resources: // Episode 107 : Growth and Equanimity in Everyday Life // Loner Wolf website with Alethia Luna and Mateo Sol - a great resource for soul exploration with great tool ...
May 18, 2023•32 min•Ep. 157
In this episode, we talk about why it’s important to notice when we’re not suffering as part of our practice. We also discuss savoring - what it is, and how it can lead to more pleasure as well as resilience during stressful moments in our lives. We’ll discuss how we can make savoring easier to practice and give some tips and ideas to help you create your own regular savoring practice. Resources: // If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com . It h...
May 11, 2023•21 min•Ep. 156
This episode is about the importance of pausing to stop and look at the world around us so we can see the tiny miracles that exist in our lives. We also dive into connecting with nature around us and how it can help us heal - especially if we’re lonely. We’ll talk about how to practice mindfulness in action and ways we can begin to find magic in our daily lives. Resources: // Episode 31 : Why We Need to Adventure // Episode 96 : Unplugging in an Uncertain World // Episode 134 : What You’re Meant...
May 04, 2023•19 min•Ep. 155
This week’s episode is on how to step off the cushion and into the world, interweaving our spirituality with activism. We’ll be exploring compassion in action and how to take our practice from our internal work out into the world. Because our world IS what we are. It’s living through ALL of us. Resources: // Episode 4 : Anti-Racism + Radical Mindfulness // Episode 5 : Try Allyship and the Willingness to Be Uncomfortable // If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at ...
Apr 27, 2023•27 min•Ep. 154
This week we talk about the idea of “psychedelic exceptionalism” - what it means, how it’s affecting the War on Drugs, and even whether we should be concerned about it at all. Resources: // Episode 52 : How to Live in Polarity // Episode 97 : Psychedelics and Spiritual Practice // Episode 122 : Come See for Yourself - Ehipassiko // Episode 152 : Sensitivity and Addiction // Harvard Law’s Bill of Health , “ The Myth of Psychedelic Exceptionalism .” // Interview in Psychedelics Today: “ Psychedeli...
Apr 20, 2023•24 min•Ep. 153
In this episode, we talk about sensitivity and its relationship to addiction. We’ll also look at how we can begin to heal ourselves and build resilience as sensitive people in a world that can feel very overwhelming. Resources: // Episode 2 : How to Not Care WHat Other People Think About You // Episode 13 : How to Quit Buffering // Episode 15 : How to Drink Less // Episode 144 : Your Wild Mind - The East and Our Need to Escape // If you’re new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I crea...
Apr 13, 2023•31 min•Ep. 152
