Not Your Average Momma!

my kids and I had to Uber some places. Uber drivers in New York are in their own world. I was at a restaurant. It was very late at night, and I saw I watched all my Uber app, the Uber driver drive around the restaurant about three times. He just drove around and then drove around, and I couldn't. I was like texting him, like sir, stop, like I'm front the restaurant, but he just ignored me and kept

driving around, and I said, cancel. That might have been his first day and he was trying to figure out how to work that app or something. I thought so, And then the next day I drove out to or I needed to go out to my girlfriend's house in Jersey. I was in the city, so that's like, you know, a nice uber that I got the extra, the special to v ip or whatever. And he drove so slow. I sat behind him and I wanted to put my

hands around his neck and strangle him. I was so angry, and I was like, dude, if you draw thirty one more time, okay. Then I had to come home from my girlfriend's house and the Uber driver was like the reject from k pop you know, have your oh yeah, the Korean Yes. He had like his hat to the back, he had like five gold chains on adiita sweatsuit tattoos all over him. He was ready. He was blasting the music and he I guess it was too cool for school and could not sit in traffic, So that meant

he was always like changing even in and out. We even in and out, and he was changing the route. He changed the route about seventeen times, and he literally went over. I went over, like five bridges. Does not take five bridges for me to get back to the city from Jersey. I was angry. I was mad, and I said, to hell with all you Uber drives. Y'all shady. Oh my god, that's why I actually whenever I have like a special event to go to and the organizer it's like, would you like us to send you a car?

I'm like, no, I want to drive myself because I want to drive my speed, I want to play my music. I want to go my route. Like I hate driving in like I hate letting other people drive. Yes, hate it, or they drive too slow? You want to strangle them, right, it was so good if you strangle them, though, No, I would know he I definitely I would have gotten a zero rating. Um did you give your drivers? I did not. I decided to be a nice person. But I am over Uber. I'm over y'all. Over y'all. What

is with that? I don't know something going on with New York. Uber's Okay, Well that's annoying and frustrating. Um So, my reasonably shady moment once again goes to myself of the word and the worst. It's more of like just a ridiculous moment. So this past week we went to Florida. We were in South South Miami or South Florida for a basketball tournament. So the tournament, I saw you on Instagram live with your bikini on looking that was like suck and tuck. Okay. Anyway, so we were there at

the tournament itself. The games were Friday to Sunday, but we went from Wednesday to Wednesday. So from Wednesday to Wednesday I checked in. We checked into five different hotels. Why Robin for what? Who does that? Why would you do that to the kids? Why would you do that? Okay? We played musical hotels, so like the first one, okay, first when we decided to go to the Fountain Blue

Miami Beach, lit it up, have fun. Nice. So then the second one we checked into was actual the tournament where the hotel where we were going to spend the rest of our time. Okay, that hotel was like the Bates Motel. I was waiting and we literally it's so it's you know, it's bad when the kids are looking around and they're like, we're not gonna stay here, are we?

Like we literally checked in, rolled our stuff up to the room and like the kids wouldn't even walk into the room, like the door of the room and we turned around, went to the desk and we're like, we can't stay here. Did they give you your money back? They said we would charge you, and it was funny. The girl at the desk like chuckled, like she knew that, Like, yeah, this ain't for everyone. Okay, So that's so you've named

two hotels too, Okay, but you said five five. So then so then the third one is the one that we relocated to, okay, which was we didn't have any complaints. It was a Marriott. It was fine, it was clean, it was actually renovated. It was nice and new. Nice, but it wasn't on the beach. So it's like boring, boring Marriott. So we stayed there for like two nights. So then and now, mind you, it's not just us, it's like two other families on our team that are moving to So Robin is a road there's a road

show in Florida. I'm telling you this basketball. This vacation was for the parents, that was it was, it was for us. So so we're in this boring hotel. I mean it was nice. So then we're like, oh, we want to go back to the beach. Let's go back to the beach. So then we moved to another hotel back closer to Miami. Um, we're on the for a hotel that's a block away from the beach. Okay, nice, very nice. Now that one was just like a So I think it's like when you go to the Fountain Blue.

It's really hard to live up to the Fountain Blue when you're in Like I don't want to say all the double trade, right, so, but why would you even check into that double trade? You know that's not right. You know you're not gonna be happy, you know you're gonna leave. Why would you even do that? Because the pictures look nice, they looked adequate. You know, we're still there for a basketball tournament, right, it looked good and I don't have any complaints, but we were just kind

of like the double fishing, no our expect our. We just became bougie. So so then we were like, hey, the W has a great rate going on that right now? Okay, In other words, Robin can play no more trips. Do not travel with robbing. You know it's bad, but you know it was actually fun. So we we finished our our trip at the W, which was great. It's nice, right, it's great. The kids are living their life again. Like

I've I've created some boogie kids with these hotels and stuff. Um, I do recommend though at least I kind of enjoyed switching the hotel at least once. So if you say so you're going on a trip, you're like, oh, I'm going on vacation for five days. I think it's actually cool to like stay for three days in one hotel in two days in another hotel. I agree, especially with the kids, because they do get word. Even with the

nicest of accommodations, they do get bored exactly. So I actually like, on my next vacation or my next trip, I'm going to at least stay in two hotels. Oh wait, and I left one part out. Okay, so I actually walked into six hotels because during one of these trips, one of these switches, hotel switches, I thought I booked one hotel, one Marriott, and I really booked the Marryott fifteen minutes down the street. Okay, you are fired. You're fired. You can no longer have this job. Those all the

two families that you're traveling with. Asked one of those moms to take over your fired. We were vie, we were live with life. I literally got to the well they checked it was a mess. So I literally got to the desk and they're like, um, are you in the Rite Hotel? I was like yeah, and then I looked at my email. I was like, no, bye, and at all it's already out, you know, unpacked from the car. So yeah, we actually tried to check in the six hotels.

Say it's no, it's not even shade. It's ridiculous. Okay, Robin is ridiculous, all right. But anyway, Robin, we have so much to talk about as it relates to what's going on in the world. Oh my gosh, there's so much. Where do we begin. I think we should begin with Father's Day because that just fast and Nick Cannon was busy. Okay, he was a busy lever because every time we turn around, that guy has another baby on the way. Okay. I keep seeing these headlines and I'm like, is it around

all day? Is it? Like? Why do I keep seeing the same headline that NICKI Cannon is expecting a baby multiple and he always gets people pregnant with twins, which is very strange and I just don't understand. And I'm thinking, do these ladies know that they're over lapping? Like you know what I mean? Clearly, these relationships overlap, right. I have a feeling that he's probably being honest with them and they must not care, clearly not care. But it's

like it's so weird. I'm like, Okay, so is this more of like a Sister Wives type thing, because it does appear that like he's like dating these women, like they're like oops, babies. They're like he's literally dating them and taking family photos and pregnant and you know, maternity photo shoots and stuff random women. And I think that they think that they're gonna have Thanksgiving dinner with Maria, But I want them to understand, Mariah Carrie is not

eating with any of you baby mamas. She not. I'm just here to tell you. And I don't even know Mariah, but I know that's going Dawn. But wait, didn't didn't Nix say something like he doesn't he feels like he doesn't have long to live because he has lupus and he has blood clots and so he's just you know, living life and not wearing condoms and that is why he keeps having these babies. Okay, is this real? Are you being serious? Yes? Oh, I hadn't heard this. Yes, Okay,

this is absurd. That's upsurd. Okay, so you're going to leave all these fatherless children. Or on the flip side, what if you live, live until you're a hundred, you might have forty two kids. Yeah, I'm gonna need for Nick to get it together, get it all the way together. But I guess the good thing is, like you know, Nick is rich, yes, so he can afford them, right, he can afford them. The kids will be fine once he you know, passes along financially. But they're going to

like that fatherly figure that you know. I mean, I guess with all these kids, like, how can he be a fatherly figure to them? No, he's he can't even get Father's Day straight. No, it's forging. What what gift do you wear? Because you know how the kids can give you a gift? Remember that meme And he had all these ties he was holding up and he was

the meme was which one should he wear? Like? Because you know, but he's got like enough jobs he can wear he can like, you know, wear one on his um that was that dancer show called Mass Mass Singer Job, and one on his new talk show and then on his you know he's got one on America's Got Talent like he's got a whole bunch of jobs. He's a busy beaver. And I need, I'm gonna need for everybody to be clear, Mariah is not entertaining this. Okay, Mariah

is getting her life. Yes, she's not entertained. We are not getting together taking a family photo with all the Knicks kids. Let me tell you something. Morocco and the other one Moroccan, Moroccan and Monroe. They will not be in the Nick Cannon children family photo. I'm just thinking that Mariah is not having that. But that's just my opinion. All Right, we're gonna move on. So for me, the biggest story, because I've been following this for like a

while here lately, it's this whole Britney Spear situation. Okay, So the other day she gave her testimony and she was very clear, and it's very clear she hates her father. She feels like an indangered servant, a slave. I think she's the worst slave. She was not purchased, but so she shouldn't really use the worst slave. But we'll give it to her. First of all, how she is slave and they work for her. We'll give her that whatever. But she can't live her life. She can't even be

in control of her birth control. She they won't let her take the I U d out um. She wants to get married, she wants to just spend her money the way she wants to spend it and live her life like I do feel she didn't know that she could speak up for herself to get out of this. Why are these like, why is this going on for soul years? Could you imagine thirteen years somebody's telling you how to spend your money? Who was allowed? Right? Who is allowing a grown woman to live like this? Her father?

And it's clearly agreed, But how do the courts even allow that? I think I feel like it should have been okay. So when they established it, I understand it was around the time when she had the breakdown, and you know, maybe I guess the argument is it was for her better, you know, the whatever better judgment on her part, right health or whatever? Can you safe blah blah blah, But like there should have been a time limit on that where you reevaluate it. Yes, And and

the judge kept allowing this to happen. So I feel like the judges getting paid I noticed probably wrong for me to say, I do Judge is getting paid. Daddy is getting paid. He gets like six dollars a month, I think for doing nothing, for being her conservatory yes, um, and he gets to say what job she takes on, what job she doesn't take, which is a um conflict of interest. It's it's just I feel bad. And then she said okay, she said they put her on lithium?

Was this okay, clarify this was this while she was performing, she was on lithium. I don't like when she was in that during that Vegas residency because I feel like, how are you? How can someone who is under a conservatorship perform a Vegas residency? Right? Like that? That really that sounds like abuse. It's so it's like does she even have an option to not want to perform? And then they give her this lithium to like force her. Well, well,

she her last um residency or something. She was getting ready to do, the last thing she was getting ready to do. Remember, she walked off like they announced, oh, Britney Spears, she's gonna have another tour, and she like left and she didn't even say anything, She just rolled out. And it was because she's refusing to work because all of this is going down and she just wants to chill out and live her life. And I really feel bad, I really really really feel bad for it's really sad.

I mean, it's like bas heartbreaking, and she seems like such a sweet person. She's thirty nine years old, she's down here forty. She can clearly figure out, um where to bouy Tampa into place. I couldn't imagine, but imagine like the long term damage that has done to her, you know. So it's like I pray that, um, you know, the outcome of this is in her favor, but I also pray that she has the right people around her moving forward that will really support her and help her

become independent. And like I cannot imagine long term damage. So and what's her dad's name, Joe Jamie Jamie spears, you're wrong, sir, you're wrong, and karmas a bit, you're gonna get yours. And what's up with the mom right now? Now? She's been strangely quiet. She doesn't while she doesn't, Oh, she was okay, So she was on linthium lithium while she was performing, and okay, which is horrible because lithium from what I understand you're not even here. No, and

and that has lasting damaging effects, I believe on your brain. Um, we don't know where Britney's mommy mom is. She has been strangely like not around. That is so crap. I'm sorry, I'm sad. Like the greed, so they literally like put her on lynthium, forced her to perform, and she can't even control her own life and her own money. Like the greed, the greed of it all, the greed of it all. And she wants to have a have a family, get married, have a family, right right, yeah, And they're like,

oh no, you're gonna keep that. I u D stuck up in you so you don't have any kids so that you can perform. That's just I mean, it's feeling like borderline like Michael Jackson. How Michael Jackson's life was where he kind of wasn't really like it to live a normal life. And I wonder if that was controlled by I mean, you know, I don't know it was that by choice or was that controlled by other people? Gosh, it's bad. I just want Brittany to be free. So

I'm hashtag free Brittany. Oh hell, yes, free Brittany and pray for Brittany. Let's not just free. Let's pray for her, and I pray that she has support, the support that she needs that that will help her just move forward with Ye. On another note, black girl magic at the Olympics, let's give it up for the Olympic Trials. The Olympic trials. Yes, but I mean if they're going to kill it in the trials, which they have been, Yes, the Olympics is

gonna be hands down black girl magic. Absolutely. Yes. Well, I mean, of course some own bios, like we already know that she's doing a quadruple somersault talk, she's gonna she's gonna flip go high five Jesus up and yes and come on down and laying really softly. Yes, now, samon is everything. She's making up routines that they ain't never seen before. And then the create within the crazy part is like don't they like deduct um? Then they make the points lower something for like certain moves that

she like created like something crazy. It's just the hate ration of the Olympics. But whatever, someone's gonna kill that thing dead. Then we have some o manual small manual swimming. She qualified go girl, you don't really see a whole lot of black people swimming. And she might be like the first black woman on the Olympic female for sure. And she just debunked that myths that black people don't know how to swim. Yes she did, Yes, she did.

Real fat black people know how to swim. Thank you Simone for letting the people now, okay, and then what what what was my girl to runner Shikari Shikari Richardson, who I actually like her orange hair. Anybody talking about her hair, y'all stop hating. And I like her fingernails being long. And I cried when she ran into the stands and hugg took her a mother like she first of all, First of all, she was she started, she like, okay, you know how they do on your mark gets set

go and then they start running real fast. Okay, she wasn't looking good, right, she right, it wasn't looking good. But she zoomed past everybody, and she was pointing at the clock man like yeah, I beat that ship. She was pointing And that's when you know you, babe, when you're pointing at the clock man, like clock me, bitch. And she had her mother, her mother passed away, but her mother clearly was there with her. Yes, and I feel like, I mean, I feel like I want her

to demolish, demolish the Olympics. I can't wait to see that. And then one more we got Alison Felix thirty five, yes, with a two year old child, qualifying for the Olympics for the fifth time. So mom's out here doing it. Yes, good luck to all our girls. I'm sure there's gonna be more y'all that we're gonna be rooting, rooting, y'all on. But I love the Olympics and I'm so glad that

they're back a year later. Well, um, last year, but the pandemic just shut everything down, And it should be great because it gave all of these olympiads a whole another year to Yeah, so y'all should be amazing or get fat I wanted to do, I think, yeah, but y'all, y'all should be amazing. All right, So we got to talk about our girl, Porsche and Sigmon because you know

we love Porsche. Um, she got his name tattooed on behind her ear, like his middle name, right, Yes, And Robin, I know you and Wan have a tattoo situation going on on y'all fingers? Okay, so is this a trend? Is this a thing? No, this should never be a thing. So getting okay, getting a person's name or face that's not your child should not like that should never happen. So like my tattoo, why don't I have matching tattoos on our ring? Fingers? Um, this tattoo is actually more

significant to me than our actual rings? Why? Um? I mean we've had rings before, and what happened to that first marriage? Like y'all took them rings off with him in the trash, right, So that's so so our rings it definitely has I mean, our tattoo has significance. But if one and I were ever two part ways, guess what this tattoo represents my children? That's what you're gonna say. It represents what happened the world, Okay, the whole world. Okay,

just for y'all know who didn't see it. Robbin's tattoo is two hearts, two kids, okay, okay, And it's Robin's heart and one's hard. So if one all of a sudden loses his mind acts of food, you're gonna say that the hearts belong to your children, you don't. It doesn't have his name on it, not his name, none of that. The world saw you all because that was a season something of Potomac. I can't remember what season that was maybefore the world saw y'all, and it was

it was a robin one thing. I don't know. Okay, all right, I know, but I can still change the significance of it if I need to, Okay, but if it says one, I can't change the significance, yes of it. If it says one, that is true, Okay. I always feel like getting someone's tattooed name tattooed on you is like the kiss of death, right it? Like I think I feel like there's some survey out there that says, if you do it, you're gonna break up. It's like

you're trying to prove your love. Like and I'm not, okay, Like, why don't I've been together. We were together over twenty plus years when I got when we got our tattoos, so there was nothing for us to prove. But I feel like sometimes, especially you know, in in young relationships, people do things hastily because they're trying to prove how much they love someone, or or they're in this honeymoon phase. Everything's good. Yes, they're google gotta over each other. I

just good. I just love you so much. We'll put

your name on my body. You want to kiss them all the time, and I want you with me all the time, and then so so you do it, Like that's stupid, right, So it's either it either happens when you're like in this honeymoon phase, which is you know, lights and lovely and stuff, but like, um, you think you're so in love and you do it, or it happens like when a man's up, when a man he sucks up and he's like the girl's gonna leave him, and he's like, I love you so much, I'm gonna

tell you your name on me right. Like that's when I happen, just like stupid and you turn around. Listen, no man has ever loved me that much because the Gezelle is not written on any man that I know, Okay, and I don't. Maybe maybe I need to redo something different, because maybe I need to make a man. You don't want that. I don't want that that. So yeah, I'm not I'm not that, you know, not My cup of tea, but you know, to each their own. I guess I

don't know. Okay, well, let's let's move on, because I was watching Wendy Williams and we all know Wendy is shady, which I'm not even mad at because you know I'm shady. I love another shady person. Wendy Williams is as shady as it comes. She's a queen. She's queen, she gets the crown. Okay, So Cynthia was on her show, and you know we all have heard like there's gonna be in Atlanta shake up and I'm not mad at a shake up because you know it keeps the shows spicy,

yeah fresh and knew. So she's straight up toll Cynthia, you should not return to the Real Housewives of Atlanta. She told her, you should not return or you should not be asked to return. She said you should not be asked to return. You in other words, she said you should be fired. Yes, that's rude, and Cynthia kind of laughed it off or whatever, but she but Wendy explained it. Wendy said, you have nothing more to give.

You have already got married, you have um got your businesses, since you better get divorced now, and that's what Wendy said. Wendy was like, I don't want to see you get divorced. I don't want to see you cuss people out. I just want you to go off and just be a model. Cynthia stop messing on her check? Oh my god? Like well, and I'm like, if I'm Cynthia, I'd be like, damn, Wendy, Wendy, stop messing with people's checks. Yes, How will Wendy feel if people came on her show and told her you

don't need to show no more? Thank you, thank you, Wendy Williams, is anybody would you? Would you even accept somebody coming around saying oh? Actually, Jocelyne Hernandez did say Wendy should be canceled because Wendy's always throwing shade to black women. Wendy, you didn't like that that? Now? Did you? So leave these housewives alone? Well? Maybe Cynthia set herself up for that. Maybe I don't know. I mean, but no, that's shady as hell. That's ouch. That hurts ouch. Yes, Wendy,

your words have hurt. Robin Okay, she's over here saying ouch, okay, insane, all right, But speaking of shady, there's some men out here being extremely shady with their penises. Um person number one, Tristan Person number two, Carmelo Anthony both, We're gonna put both of your basketball players in the same category and

over and over again. What is wrong with y'all? Okay, So my theory is, um, Chloe La la way until they're retired, if you even like if if you all want to be together, if you want to be with them, but you're just like, I have to move on, like just just leave and wait for them to retire. These men, I don't I don't want to, you know, stereotype. But it's really, really, really really hard for NBA players to live a monogamous life when they are playing in the league.

It's just too much temptation. They travel so much there in the spotlight. But I'm telling you, when their career is over, nobody cares about them anymore. Okay, but but Mellow's career is almost over, but it's not so until that contract is done, until he's sitting at home board. Okay. But bore is when you would think that they would cheat because they're bored. But then they're like up under you they're like, what are you doing? Where you go?

But if they're still like living that life, you know, hey, some of them never even get past like some of them. Okay, it's not going to be like the day the first day after they're retired in their careers over, because they're gonna have a hard time, um, transitioning to the fact that their career is over. So they're still gonna be trying to like live that life and get that rush and do all that stuff. So you know, you might want to give him a good year or two after

their NBA career is over. But like, Tristan is young, Like he's first of all, he's younger than Chloe Um and he's ready. Okay, he's ready for a Let's just hope he's not spraying it like Nick Cannon. Yes, but really I think Tristan is young. He's still in the NBA, like he really Like as much as they want to be with their family, they want to settle down, they want to do what's right. The temptation is so hard.

It's so hard. And I can say this because I do have a girlfriend who will will remain nameless, and she said she slept with Tristan and she said it was amazing. Yes, now you're gonna have more of people. You know, it could be why Chloe was trying to hold on to him because he was amazing. She said. She was like, yeah, she was like trying to call him off, hitting him up all the time, like dude, you're coming through, and he was too busy hitting everybody

else up. So you know, she had to wait her turn. But she didn't want nothing from him, just that. And you know, anyway, even with the amazing penis, you gotta walk away if he's not treating you properly. It's my point of the story. But I feel I do feel bad for a lot because she's put in some years. Yeah, she's put in some years. But it's like, I mean, this story, it don't matter. This story happens over and over and over again, like and it is really not

a new story when it comes to athletes. And because they want, like I said, they want to be with their family, they want to do the right thing, they want to be a family man. But it's just it's too much. I'm a little disappointed in Mellow. I thought you had stopped with the Shenane against No, he's still playing basketball. Okay, we're gonna move on anyway. So ladies, gentlemen, who's ever listening? Robert and I started this podcast after Mother's Day, so we really didn't get to talk about

like being a mom Mother's Day. That would have been like our Mother's Day tribute if we were on at that time. So guess what to day is. Yes, we're gonna be talking about parenting moms, being a mom, and we're gonna label this not your average mama. No, no, far from it. Yes, so we are not your average mama. Alright. So first of all, Robin, I want to ask you when it comes to parenting, when your boys were babies and how were you as a mom to like now

because now they are what preteens? So Coorean Carter are thirteen and eleven. Um, so I'll just say I okay, so even before I had babies, I was never that person that like wanted a baby or wanted to be a mother. Like I wasn't yearning for motherhood. I didn't have it planned out. Um, whenever I would if my friends would have kids, um, and you know they have a baby, and I'd be like, oh, hi baby, and

that's it. Like I don't want to pick the baby up. Baby, I was like, oh, look at the baby, because most times the babies aren't cute, because you know, when babies are like you know, you borns, they look like real funny, and so instead of being like, oh, how cute, I'd be like, oh, baby, you know what I mean? All right, you gotta do better with your fake cute voice a gay because if it's not cute, I'm not gonna be like, oh, my gay, she's so cute. Did she really look like

an alien? Like I'm just like, oh baby, oh okay. So then you had children, and what did you have aliens? I did? Carter was an alien? So Corey was like really cute, Like he came out with this cute dark curly hair and just like just really cute. Carter was alien, which is like, so I can say that with like my chest because Carter is like the cutest thing right like next you know day, and he quickly grew to

be cute like a month later. But like you can ask anyone, I wasn't sending pictures of Carter out when he was first born. I waited, that is wrong, Carter, Carter, let me say something. Your mom is wrong. He knows, he knows. So so as a mom um, I mean, of course, like you know, when you have new babies, you're like worried about everything. I did have a lot of like worry about like you know, just protecting them

and keeping them healthy and safe and alive. Um. But outside of that, like I always had the philosophy like, Okay, I'm not the first mother in the world, and my kids aren't the first babies in the world. So like it didn't like everything didn't have to be perfect, right, you know what I mean, Like I used to be a perfect mom. I didn't have to like you know, run in and you know my kids cry, like jump up and and know exactly why they were crying and

stuff like that. And so I and I think that's just part of my personality and very a back, I tried not to like stress out, and so I was not a stressed out mom um when they were newborns. It was you know what I mean, It was like I was very I was um, and I made it a point to not hold them all the time because you didn't want them to feel loved, No, because I didn't want them to always have to be held all the time, you know, so I would actually like, you know, people,

it's like, what did you read? Did you read a book when you were going to what? I don't know. I just like it was like, and I want to let people hold them all the time. It's a tough love. As it wasn't tough love. It was like, no, y'all not gonna come here and hold my baby for two hours and then put it down and you leave. And then my baby's like, what I got to be held because you're held me for two hours. I'm like, no, you can hold it for like five seconds and then

put it back down. The hugs is rashing ng newborn baby hugs. Now, this is the first I heard of this. This is this is a new parenting tip. My baby's didn't cry a lot. Okay, you know when it was time to sleep, that's when they cried. Um. But I'll just I'll say, like you know, mother had the first time around was pretty easy, breezy. When I added that second child eighteen months later, I was a situation. That's when it got real. Yeah, yes, it's a situation for sure. Yeah.

So and I was a walking zombie for like two years. But you know, I passed that I had grace, and I literally was like, I don't know what the hell I'm doing. Like I felt it, like immediately as soon as I brought her home, I was like, I don't know how to change the diaper, I don't know how to feed her. The breast thing ain't working. I don't know what the hell I'm doing. I'm exhausted. I might even have depression. I was. It was just bad. It was bad. It was very bad. Um. And then all

of a sudden, it just like kicked in. Like but I did hug her all the time, and I just want you to know that, just be clear. I look like it's all the time now. Um. And then eighteen months later, I bring home twins. So I was like dying a million deaths. So I decided the only way I'm gonna make it is to be a military sergeant. Right, So I like fed them all at the same time, I changed diapers all at the same time. I fed them.

I changed diapers. It was like it was like military clockwork, clockwork to have alarms to remind you or you just like no, I just realized, like like I had it. I had it on on a routine every day. Every day. I was just trying to survive. Oh my gosh, No, did you have a nanny. Yes, I had a nanny, but I had three kids and was me and the nanny. You need more hands than that. I felt like I was always out numbered. To this day, I'm out numbered

by these children. Yeah, absolutely, absolutely, But you know what you know, once I got divorced and I moved away from like Baltimore and I moved back to the d C area, That's when I got into my stride, like my mommy stride. So when they were maybe like first grade, first grade in kindergarten, so they were young, but I was like the room mom, and I was always helping out at school and I would always like have apples for them when I picked them up from school. I

was like the mom of the year. We just still are. No. No, that went left, okay. So then when I started like working a lot and like getting into my groop and they started getting older, I just forgot about them kids. If they had Dorito's padana, okay, whatever was going on, Like I didn't. I didn't allow them to run my life anymore. Yes, and then you have to like actually make that declaration like out loud, like you know what,

Like I love my kids. I'm gonna be the best mom I can be to them, but I'm not going to let them control my life. It's like you have to have an epiphany. It's like a ha moment where you know, at first you're like, Okay, this is my life, clearly is when they're babies and stuff. But at some point you're like, you gotta get over it. I gotta you gotta allow yourself to live and to be a person again. I felt like I was only a mother and that's not healthy. It's not good for them, it's

not good for me. Right, Like I remember times when like okay, I would want to go out and the babysitter comes and the minute you know, you try to walk out the door, they're like mommy, no, mommy, And you know then sometimes you you you like, okay, well I'll stay home, and you just have to like that, right, you gotta be steadfast. You gotta walk out that door and don't call, don't say are they okay? Like, just

go and keep it moving. I remember I had a nanny that would come like three days a week, and she would talk my head off so much. That I would literally have to like, like my when I had a nanny, I was like, Okay, I want a nanny, like so so she can give me a break, so I can like chill and and just you know, relax and lay around. And she would talk my head off to the point where I was like, okay, where should

I Where am I going today? Like you know, I would like literally like you're running away from the nanny. Oh my gosh. I would literally have to like force myself to leave the house because she would literally follow me all around the house. Fired she was. I'm she was awesome. She was great with the kids, but I had like so at that point, I was like, you know what, I'm just going to put these kids in school. So that's when I started them in like a dare to get away from the nancy. I talked too much,

isn't that? Yes? She talked? Okay, So have you ever lost a child out in the streets? Have you ever lost a childe? Yes, I have. Um Carter went missing in Ocean City, New Jersey, Oyland, New Jersey. All right, yeah, yeah, So we were staying it was so scary. We were staying in a house like a shore house. With my friend and her family, so with her, you know, her husband, her two kids at the time, and then me and this was um Want and I were maybe separated or

not together, I don't know. And so I'm in the house with Korean Carter, and this is the day we're leaving. We're packing the house up to leave, okay. So it's just like a lot of you know, you're like getting your backs together and you put in the car and you're in and out. And so at some point I'm like, where's Carter. I'm like packing up the kids' carter. So we looked all over the house. He's not there. We looked all in the backyard. He's not there. We look

all in the front yard and he's not there. And he was literally probably like I mean, he was walking clearly. Um but he was younger than two. But I can't maybe two or less, right, And this is so crazy. My first thought is, oh my gosh, if I can't find Carter, one is gonna kill me. It's not like I need to find my child because I love him, because I hug him all the time. I don't um gonna kill like, oh my god, my child. It's like

wan is going to kill me. So my friend's husband literally oh so then we so we go ostside and there's a girl and stupid ass girl. So there's a girl who literally I was getting out, like had gotten out her car and maybe had some bags, and she was like, oh, um, are you looking for kid? I just saw a kid walk down the street and he turned the corner and he's literally like a year and

a half. And so my husband, my friend's husband, took off running down the street, literally turned the corner like I couldn't even see him anymore, and got and he said it was he was almost at an intersection and like Carter was gone. He had his blankie, he was pacifier. He was out of here because he didn't get hugs. That's why he was leaving, because Robin refused to hug the boy. Yes, it was. It was so scary, Oh my god, like we literally if it's like you know

what I mean? So how much time I passed for him to get down the street, turned the corner to the point where I couldn't even see him anymore. I mean that probably was a good like six minutes, right, because anything, because someone could have driven past and seen this kid walking and scooped him up, or he could have gotten hit by a car or whatever a dog could have been. I don't. I mean like it was like I was traumatized by that. I was like that

it was really really, really a close call. And Carter was always the one, especially after that, he was always the one. I'm like when I'm out, I'm like, where's Carter. Where's Carter? I have to have eyes on Carter. Did you tell one? What do you say? He probably, you know, gave me a whole you know, this is the reason why I don't when you know, just like this past weekend, they my freaking kids had to spill the beans and

tell them that they saw shark in the ocean. And he's like, you ain't telling me it was because one was he wasn't there for the whole trip. Did they tell him? Yeah, it was a shark in the ocean. And one is like terrified of the ocean. So the kids can't have fun anymore. Oh my god, They're scared of everything. They're so scared of everything because one is like scared of nature. He's scared of everything. It's so crazy.

I asked my kids, you know, before we started this podcast, how they felt about me as a mother, because they're teenagers now and so they really have formed an opinion of Giselle as mother. And they're like, oh, mom, we think that you. Um, we really liked you when you were like the room mom and when you had apples for us when you picked us up from school, Like, we really liked you during that phase. However, we like you, you know in this in this mode as well. They

were like, because you Okay, so I've done some things. Okay, I have a story so my kid that the twins were in ballet. They were about third grade, fourth grade, and I didn't like whatever whatever was going on in the ballet class. You know, the parents can't be in there. Wh when they would come out, they would tell me these crazy stories like they didn't like to teach you to teach, it was playing favorites all of this stuff. Right. So I was just like very angry, and I had

had it. Okay, so um the next class, I was like, I'm getting that teacher. I'm gonnallow her know how I feel. So I walk my kids in. I allowed them to go inside, and then I poked my head in and I was excuse me, I need to talk to you, teacher, can you come out? So she came out and I let her have it. I'll it's like my kids told me blah blah blah, and I don't appreciate you treat my kids. It's two with them, it's tour with them. You are not going to be unfair to them. So

I let her have it. It was like a very long speech. She goes back and said she was like, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. She goes back inside. So the class is over and my kids come out and then getting a card, he run to the car. They're like, Mommy, that was a substitute. That wasn't the teacher. I cussed out the wrong teacher. Okay, but they were like so happy that I was just writing for them. Right, even though I cussed out the wrong lady, it didn't even matter. She didn't stop me, no, no, she just

she just took it. She took the cussing and she was like, it's my day to get cussed by a crazy black woman. And she went on about her business. She apologized. She didn't know what she was apologizing for. She just apologized and kept it moving. But I cussed out the wrong person, and they were like, you know what, it doesn't even matter. Our just gonna stand up for us no matter what. Which they appreciate it. Um, they said, they you know, I never let them have sleepovers. They're

a little traumatized by it. I don't care, but they do like the fact that every year I try to do something different. Like five years ago, our new thing was like we're gonna have sushi, and so now they love sushi, so like we would try all these different sushi restaurants. Like every year, I try to like start a new tradition. Um. One time it was like, let's do tea parties. So we would go to all these places that you know do little tea services. And I

know you guys would go bike writing. Yes, we do writing. I mean I try to do like fun things with my kids so they know that I'm president and I'm in their lives. I just don't really cook dinner for them, and you know there they can eat whatever they can eat, like air sandwiches. I don't care. I don't care because I do other and I and they know that I love them, right, yes, and that is the most important part.

It is it is and I can say as a parent, I am like I would you know, I should go back and ask my kids what they think of me as a mom, But I think they would say that I'm a cool mom, that I'm a fun mom. Uh. We laugh and joke and giggle and have fun and you know, play around and wrestle and like I'm the one when they wrestle me. They don't wrestle wand well because they know I'm will like maybe hurt them, like you know what I mean, yes, but now you're fighting

with boys all the time. Yes, yes, So I mean it's just I and and I hug them a lot. When did the transition happens? I mean not saying okay, you misinterpreted that, right, But I do to this day hug and kiss on my kids. And I really think as a as a parent, that's so important to give your kids that type of love that like physical affection. Um, I mean, my parents are awesome, but I didn't really

get a lot of physical affection for my parents. And I don't know if that's like a generational thing, but I just think, you know, I what the most important thing for me as a parent is to make sure that my kids know that they're loved. Um, because when kids don't feel like they're loved, it can affect them negatively so much. You know, they act out for attention, or they seek attention in other places and whatever. So for me, as I'm like, as long as my kids

know they're loved, they're good to go. And I I so right now. My challenge with them is showing them that I trust them. So um, you know, minor teenagers. So just last week, we were in New York and I was like, you know what, God and I had to work, so they're with me. I'm working, and so I didn't want them to sit in a hotel all day. So I was like, you guys can do New York, right. They had their little girlfriends that are from New York.

So I gave them my credit card. I had just sign it across and pray to Jesus, but I gave them my credit card. I downloaded Uber on one of my daughter's phones and I was like, how fun do your thing? So they appreciated that. I know, they appreciated that so much. They would do stuff like oh no, we're not gonna call it Uber, We're gonna walk you know what. They're like, We're gonna save mommy some coins. Like that's their favorite thing to say, We're gonna save

mommy her coins. So and any time, like they say they would go to a restaurant because I told him, you know, food is on me, so like like I'm gonna pay for food. But if you guys want to go shopping and buy you know, stupid little t shirts or ear rings, that's the money that you got from your parents. Yeah, so you're allowing if the food bill went over like eighty dollars, they would text me and they'd be like, okay, we at the restaurant the bill is like eighty two dollars, and I'd be like, okay,

that's fine. It's fine. But for them to feel a sense of responsibility and like, let you know, they were spreading their wings a little bit in the big n y c. And I feel like that for me right now, is there our biggest um is the biggest learning lesson. I can tell parents, like, at some point in time, you gotta let go and you gotta just trust your kids.

It's hard. Were you nervous? I wasn't nervous because I knew the two girls are like New York girls like you know they're the same age as my kids, but they next know the city, they know where to go. They're about it, about it, but they oh, my funny story, my kids did go on the New York subway and there was a crazy man they said crazy put that in quotes, that was after them. They're like, this man was after us. We would keep changing cars, he would

keep coming after us, and he wouldn't leave us. We think he was trying to check Grace out. We didn't know what was happening. He was crazy. And they ended up getting off the train and then they told me that they were going to call it uber and they asked a man who had a kid with him so he was a father, to kind of like wait with them while they got the uber. So that was kind

of smart. Now, let me know, they really felt like they were in danger, but guess what is the big city, honeys and y'all went through a little right welcome And it's real world in real life. So I was I wasn't afraid or scared for them, but I felt like, you know what, it's good, it's good that you see that in because in our little world it's a bubble. And I've protected you all. But there's all kinds of crazy people out right, and that's good that they were.

You should you should be happy and feel good that they were aware of their surroundings. Yes, yes, we so my kids are actually kind of vigilant too, and we're gonna wrap up. So we were walking in South Beach, so nice South Beach we went. It's like, I don't know why we did this. I haven't been a South Beach and so long. So we we ate, you know, at a restaurant, and then with all the kids. It was a big group of us and we decided to walk on Ocean driven Beach like you know, eleven pm

at night. Kind of crazy. Yeah, bad decisions because I didn't know like how crazy it was there on there. So my kids are like all of it, were like walking and then all of a sudden they start like like ducking and they're like, what are y'all doing? And they're like, these guys just out of the car and they said, the chopper is in the back seat, and I'm like, what are you talking about? Don't even know what the hell of Choppa is. Apparently it's a gun.

It's a gun. Apparently it's a gun. All right whatever, and they're like he just said the choppers in the back seat and they're like literally like trying to run away. I'm like, y'all, like okay, but what why do your kids know what Choppa is? I don't know you tube games to these kids know what I know? I was like, what is it? Chopper? So then I had to realize like what they were talking about. But they their antenna's were like on alert, high alert down there, and they

were like Carter, my youngest, he was like, can we leave? Good? Can we? He was just looking around. He was like, this don't feel safe? Can we leave? So our kids are, I mean, they're definitely more sheltered than than we were as young kids, but they're very aware of their surroundings. Well okay, so no to South, no South Beach, and no New York Subway. Y'all are crazy up in there. Okay to so I we took. I thought it would

be a good experience for them. Okay, alright, well people, we're gonna wrap up because you know, we have talked heads off, but Robin wants to tell you about our our um. Sorry, so we we are you know, throughout the season, we're going to be taking your questions, So

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