Fear Is Not Your Friend

you once again for being here with us. Yes, we've been rocking and rolling reasonably Shady straight we sure haven This has been so fun because everyone is giving us so much great feedback, which is just giving us so much more motivation to keep it going. Yes, yes, yes, and and I'm loving the feedback, So keep it going people, all right. So first and foremost, you know, we always give our Reasonably Shady moment of the week. Robin, I had a big one. What is it? Can't wait? What happened? Okay?

So to know me is to know that I hate the dentist. Like hate the dentist. I know your father was a dentist, and um, you know, so you were around drilling. I guess you were around water pick teeth, pick all that, all that stuff. Okay, So the drill and just the thought of going to the dentist sends me into major anxiety. I dream about it the night before. I have nightmares about it the night before, and I wake up like, oh my god, I don't want to go.

So by time I get there, my dentist, Marcus Tappened. He's been with me for years. Yes, so he knows my crazy, like he knows that Giselle cannot stay in the sight of him. But I love him now. But he probably, like most of his patients are probably like that. Yeah. So he I had to get a filling redone because it was old, and he was like, I'm just gonna give you gas him filling you needed gas for a filling?

What does that mean? Robbing? The robbing. As soon as he turns on the drills at that moment, he said, he said, I'm not dealing with you today. Yeah. So he's like this out from the from the jump, I'm giving you the gas. Okay. So gas is amazing. I just want everyone to know it's amazing. So he gave it to me and then like, you can kind of control it. You can tell him if you want more, or you can kind of say okay, I have enough,

they kind of cut off. So I was like, hi as a kite, this this was like amazing, and you felt really good. I felt like good about myself. I felt like I could fly. I felt like I was just like hovering over the entire earth. And it was just it was how much did you ask him? For? Goodness? They don't give you those pieces of information. They just like put it on your nose and you keep it moving, all right. So this is actually the shady moment is I didn't want to go to a dentist, and I

hate him, Marcus Tapping, but I love you. The reasonable moment is I love the gas. So if you ever go, get the gas, even when you don't need it, even when you don't need to, just get this, ask for a gas. So my father, yes, was a dentist. And because he was a dentist, and he would have so

many patients like you that were so scared. Anytime, like when I went to get my wisdom teeth done, he was like, you better not winch you better not wine, you better not cry, because now he's punking you into submission. Oh my god, he was like, because you are patients. When they're you know, screaming and stuff, they make our jobs so much harder, so you better go in there and go I don't want to hear you crap. I'm like, okay, so yeah, I literally went and got you know, wisdom tea.

When people get their wisdom teeth out, they usually go to sleep. Yes, yes, but my father didn't. He doesn't really like, you know, you're going under for no reason. So he's like, you're not going under, and you better not crap. Better not. I don't want you. Better not come lane, because thank god my father wasn't a dentist. Say so, when I go to the dentist, I'm like, I tough it out. I'm a soldier. You're a soldier. Okay, I'm a I'm a big punk, but I'm high. I

think it's good. So mine shady moment. Okay, nothing reasonable about this goes to CVS. What happened at CBS. They need to get their inventory management system corrected or just throw it in the trash. Because so Carter got a whole bunch of mosquito bites and there was this after bite product that I wanted to get for him that worked for me that a friend had had a bunch of oscuter bites. You rub it on your mosquito bite

and you can't feel anymore. So I was like, oh my gosh, like, let me go get him this after bite product. So I went to CVS. I typed in after bite. They had the product. I put in my zip code to see who what stores had it. So it was like, okay, this store has it. The store

this okay. I went to three stores that had it on the website where it was in stock, and the three stores none of them had it, and even to the point where the third store I went to, So the second store sent me to the third store because they're like, oh yeah, they put into the oh yeah, they have three. I'm like, okay, I go to the

third store. They do not have this product. So I literally spent over an hour and a half driving around that's insane, to three different CVS is for a product that's on their website that says it's in stock in those stores. And yeah, CVS do better, do better, And y'all's inventory system is trash. But right, just start away, like, don't even like because I think the problem is, you know, people steal. Who's stealing? I'm the sea bite product. But what is stealing have to do with it? Because then

their inventory system is not updated? Oh what I mean in the sty But it's like, yeah, just don't even just say you don't have it. Just don't even provide an inventory system. There's that, and shorten the damn receipts. Why is the receipts so long? I just don't want to stay it. Just keep hunting, printing, and keep printing. You don't use your cups. I don't use my cupons there? Oh okay, I don't. I don't. I don't use my cupons.

Maybe I need to so I can save two Okay, alright, But speaking of speaking of kind of like money, right, So I went out with my girlfriend the other day and we went to a place where you go up to the counter and you order your food and then then you get a little um number and you put at your table and they bring new your food. Okay, so she said, because I've been having trouble because I feel like after the during the pandemic, the whole tipping system got out of control. So she says, she's I

need rousing regulations. So if it's a place like this, like you you walk up, you order your food, you sit down. There's not a lot of services. She gives ten percent. There's a white lady. So she put that in perspective. Okay, look a little cheesy sometimes, as I would say so, but she said, you know, if I go to a restaurant and I get full service and I give okay, but she said, you know, if I

just go buy something, I'm not tipping. I'm like, well, you don't have to tip if you're just going to buy, you know, some toothpaste. Okay, Now I do feel like everybody's asking for a tip? Is it just me? No? Right? So it's like when So when it's a store like okay, a sandwich place, right, And now they have those um registers or point of sale systems that like you swipe your car and they turn the screen to you and it's like and it shows the cap the tip, like

do you want to tip? And it's like you feel like, wait, I'm supposed to tip hair. This is like Starbucks or something, you know what I mean, Like you did nothing but give me my sandwich, right, right, So it is like, okay, when should you When should you tip and when should you not? Right? And like when is it okay to not tip? Or okay? So right, like if it's just a carry out place, right, like you have to I feel like service me and I will tip you well, right,

but if there's no service involved, why am I tipping you? Right? But even okay, so we don't tip it me Donalds or Chick fil a? Right, why do we tip? Why are we tipping at a sandwich spot? I don't know, but guess what the whole I need some rules and regulations with this damn tipping because the tipping situation has tipped over right, No, it's too much, It's it's like it's all I mean, I I do try to if if I see that little screen and it's like do

you want to tip? You know, and I'll be like, okay, I'll probably give ten percent to the ten you give the lowest, okay, or you can cust if they're not like if it's carry out, or if they're not um, you know, if they're not really like serving servicing me. Um, if I'm like sitting down and they're waiting on me, then I'll give or do you give eighteen? It's easier to calculate. Yeah, I'm a twenty girl. I'm a twenty girl. Okay, speaking of things that I'm like disgusted with the disappoint Okay,

baby hair, I can't. I can't take it anymore because you don't have it. I don't have any building hair, right, I don't. I don't like I'm of the generation where we like cut our baby hair off, right, so I don't have any. But it's not even, it's not even. I don't care if I don't have baby hair. I'm sick of looking at baby hair that's twirled around your forehead and it's confused, right, people, It's like you can just like you can put a weave in your hair,

now you can put baby hair on your head. And why would you want that? Right? I don't know. It looks silly to me. It looks it's distracting. It's distracting. I'm confused. I don't know what's happening. I want to know who is actually um who actually started this? Like we made this? Okay? Like are we that board? Are we that board with like just looking like a you know, having a regular hairstyle. Let me put some baby here, all right, right? Is it? I mean, they'll go like

all your forehead and like twirl it around around. Now, don't laugh at me when one day I show up with some baby here, I'm gonna talk about you real badna. I'm gonna talk about now. Don't get me wrong. It's just clearly for the young people and young people rock out because you all are very creative and y'all do all kinds of nonsense that I would never do. But at some point, a I mean, I just see what recently the other day at the basketball game? What was

what's the what's the name Keisha? Yes, yes, yes, she had she had a whole situation. She had a what do you call it? A crooked road on her forehead. It was Now do you think so? Was that actual that was like drawn on? It? Was that her actual hair? It was? It was it was baby hair tattoos, baby hair tattoos. So I feel like, okay, or is it we've tattoo? I feel like I saw this products like on Instagram and I thought it was a joke. Kesha

didn't think it was a joke. She said, I'm I'm a stick that thing on my forehead go out in public. It's it's kind of like, I just want people to look at me like it's not like like I think this is Cardi BEA's fault, didn't she is? She's a queen of baby Hare nonsense. I don't know. Okay, it's it's sweetie, it's all. It's all of these young teams that's over our head. Yeah, this is I'm too old for this, but you know some I'm sick of it. So can we just put our hair back? Please? Can

we just? I'm just I want to say your hair to see everyone's nice, pretty face, Yes, show me your face. Don't show me twirls on your forehead. I don't want to see twirls now. Oh my gosh. All right, speaking of people being upset in these streets, by the way, what we're doing right now? I was talking about these streets. Okay. So, and this is my guy, you know, Deon Sandwich is my guy. Oh, he's your guy. I mean he's my

I mean he's my owlash. Not no, he's something like guy like that meaning I know Dion right, Okay, Yes, okay, he's your homie. He's my homie. He's my homie. Yes, So I know he's extra, but he's normally like on the right side of right, right, Okay, So we all know he's like now a head coach of Jacksonville's Jacksonville State, Jacksonville State, which is awesome because it's like, you know, that's a black college and he has decided that that's what he wants to do with his time in his life,

and you know, he's a Hall of Famer. Has he been in the Hall of Fame, he's probably if he's not, he's going to be. Okay, anyways, it's inevitable. So we love Dion's he's he's coaching up black college. And he was pressed time and the white man said, hey, Dion started asking a question. Dion said, I don't think you should refer to me that way because I'm a coach and if it was somebody else, she was saying coach, and the guy said, okay, deon Dion. Dion said, f

you ain't where you came from. Well, he didn't say that, I'm saying that, and he like moved on to the next like as he should. Then he leave. Then he could leave. He I think he went to the next press person. I think I think or he just hey, I was just wondering if you could. Oh, let's back up a little bit. You don't go Nick saving Nick, don't call be Dion. Okay, you don't know, you don't know, you don't. That's a lot you called Nick Nick. You know, you get custed out on the spot. So don't do

that to me. Treat me like ck um um. I'm not mad at him for that, not because no one would call you know um Okay, So like, let's see who are these great football Urban Meyer. They're not gonna say hey Urban, say coach or coach Meyer or you know, Mike said coach k coach. Yeah. But you know what I feel like, Okay, at Maryland, I feel like a lot of people did call Gary Williams Gary. But but if you ask for that respect, then it should be given.

That's true, And especially when is no slouch and he's doing great things right now, it's like, just call me coach. That's what I am. I've earned it, right And I think for for professional athletes who are now coaches and you don't want it's one of them. Part of the um one of the part of some of the hurdles they face is actually being taken seriously as a coach because people want to look at them like, oh, you're

just an athlete. You just think that you can be a coach president athletes, and so like they have to prove themselves. So it's like, no, you need to give me there with the same respect. Just because you knew me as a player, that doesn't mean that you can't give me the respect as a coach. So so does everyone call Wine coach? Um? You know, I don't know. Do you role play and become a cheerleader and then you call him coach and then things happen in the bedroom.

I'm just asking the people want to know all the time, all the time, Yes, Robin and Wan coaching cheerleader. Yeah, I'm the coach and he's the cheering No. No, I'm envisioning him with the skirt onder the strong one that puts him up in the air. I freaking love this. Okay, the visual um, But but again, Dione, we love you. You're doing great things and keep doing what you're doing. Coach prime. But you know what with one, he makes sure like all the time to not even just for himself.

He refers to all of his coaches as coach all the time, so they all have that at least amongst his coaching staff. They have that mutual respect, so you know everything. They're on the phone all the time and it's always like coach, coach, coachy. So I just think, you know, if it's if it's something that you ingrain in the people around you, then then everyone else around you just has has no choice but to fall in live Now, I like that now Lebron is breaking was

it not breaking news? He's breaking bank accounts these days the stratosphere. I mean, so he's the first to do what now, be a billionaire athlete while he's still playing. Oh that's okay, because so who would be close to him? Jordan, Michael Jordan's right, but Michael probably wouldn't didn't even reach that status until years later because of Jordan brand with Nike, with Nike, and I mean, the the salaries in the NBA are just like off the charts now starting a

good way, in a bad way, in an awesome way. Okay, good, good good. So he's what's do we know what? Like around about what he's making for the in the league from the league like forty million this year, just like for one year. Like they're like he might get like one year forty million lies you tell I feel like that sounds like I'm making that up, but I really think that's like, Okay, so where is he getting his money from. He's getting his money from what so Nike?

So when he first entered the league, he has like he's had you know, he probably has over like thirteen Lebron shoes through Nikes, getting a ton of money from Nike. Um, and he has like multiple businesses, like he's got a lot of He's gotten into film and TV production, um that he's gotten to he has like a sports agency, right right, Okay, just a yeah. So what I love about it is it is a motivation for these young Okay, yeah, I was right. For his most recent season, he earned

thirty nine million dollars. So, Lebron, we just googled you and google what your salary is from the league and it's listed, Like, how do you feel about that? That's gotta like be weird? Here? Care? Yeah, he's ok he's what doesn't care? I mean all those salaries are pretty much the pretty much. I don't know how. I don't know where people can get information, but you, Lebron, We're not going to hear about Lebron going broke, no better,

We're not going to hear about that. And and what I what I do love is again he's a role model for these young kids coming in the league and and we've all unfortunately heard seeing the horror stories of them blowing their money. Um so for them to be able to see an existing player parlay the money into you know, a million different things and streams, it's just mean.

And he created jobs for his homeboys, like his boys that were like always around you know when he was coming up and in high school, like he they're rich because of Lebron, like you know, not just because he's like he does. He's not handing money out. He's creating jobs for them, which is like awesome, but it's and it's so cool to see like someone like Lebron who you know, let he could live off of his NBA salary.

You know, he could feed a whole village off his NBA salary for years and years and years, but he didn't limit himself just to that. Yes, yes, no, I love that. But speaking who doesn't have um some income on a monthly basis is doctor Dre who was just told by the judge you've got to give her as in your ex wife three h k a month, three hundred, but I need to finish reading the article, he said he was he actually felt good about that. So clearly

felt good about three k a month a month. Clearly he's got plenty of money coming in for the judge to determine that he needs to give her that much. So that equals out to like three point six million a year. Yes, Robin can do math very quickly. If you don't know, he makes thirty five million a year. Okay, so she's getting ten percent of his of his yearly income and he's making Okay, he's making thirty five million a year from beats from his music, from a bunch

of stuff, a bunch of stuff. Yeah, I guess, yeah. I mean it's crazy. It's like people like that. He's just like moving in silence, like but yeah, no, he's no. We know Dred dr J is getting it and we know that. In my mind, I feel like, why don't you just write her a big check and be done with it because that money can accrue interest in his accounts.

I don't know. I don't know, Okay. So when I was going through a divorce, there was my my lawyer was telling me that, um, there's a law or or a mandate or something that states that you have to pay you if this is alimon, you have to pay the person in a check or um some sort of like a check or bank wire or something. It's listed. Because there was a man that we used to pay his wife in um pennies and literally he would drop pennies of however much he owed her at her front

door month. Oh my god, So that is petty. That that's called of petty, that is penny petty. And so you know, they informed me that if I ever got alimony, it would not be in pennies. Yes, it would be in a form of a chick. Okay, it's hilarious. But I'm three hundred thousand a month though, Yeah, but what if? Okay, so that's state by state. The penny rule is state by state. So what if in l A it's not a mandate and he can give her three hundred thousand

dollars and pennies? Would that be not crazy? Yeah? That would be ridiculous. Talk about may that would be like you have to back up a truck for that. Yeah, that's crazy, that's crazy. Anyway, I'm just happy she's getting whatever she feels like she deserves, and you know, let them part in peace. And I'm sure she deserves it. Haven't they been together like she She's been with them for twenty some years, So she deserves it, That's what

I say. Yeah, if he's making thirty five million, and if and if she was used to a lifestyle like she deserves it. Yeah, temper cent. She deserves more than that. But like she's getting tide right, So imagine, Okay, if he makes thirty five million a year and the judges like, okay, you're paying her ten per cent. That's better than him paying her half. True, I'm not mad at so he came up. Now listen, we are for those of you

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Robin and Iran the end. All right, we're moving on. Okay, So a couple other things I would like to talk about because it's happening in these streets. Is you know, we have gone through a lot in the past year and a half with this COVID situation, and that Dr Fouch he is like he's probably tired. He didn't have enough and he was like testifying in front of Congress. So he was being asked crazy, asked questions by that Paul ran Rampaul. I can't get his I think it's

rand Paul and foul. She like started moving his neck like a like a black woman. He started moving his neck to the side. He said, let me tell you something. So when he started moving his neck, I said, oh, ship, how don't you got some black in him? I said, oh my god. So then he started moving his neck and he was lying. What you won't do it is say I'm lying, and you ain't even going to imply. And the person that's lying right now is you. Did he say that? Is that word for word? It's pretty

much verbatim. It is pretty much because he's oh, he came for him the senator pool. You do not know what you are talking about, quite frankly, and I want to say that officially, you do not know what you are talking about, and you are employing that what we did was responsible for the deaths of individual I totally resented. And if anybody is lying here, Senator, it is you. So ryand Paul and Paul Ran whatever his name is.

He started like I'm in and he started like stuttering like yeah, and I was like, Foulchi get his ass, get him, get in all of them. Anyone that is trying to give foul. She pushed back on his job is listening, moron, You're an anyot. This man has been doing this for like forty years, moron, And like, hello, we're trying to get through this pandemic. We're not trying to have a repeat now. We're not now, not at all. I don't even want to get into like the wise, Like,

but what is the issue right now? Why does it feel like a certain part of the um world is trying or not world, but certain part of the country is trying to tell people not to get the vaccine. I don't know what's wrong with these people, because again, we can all get vaccines, So like, I don't what

is behind that. I don't know understand the goal because it's like, okay, don't you know, like if you're encouraging your people not to get the vaccine, then they might get sick, and then your people will will might not be here, so like you're not helping your case. I don't understand. I don't don't understand. And there's new variants, and I think that's also what they were talking about. There's new variants out there. And Fauci is like even

more pressed about everybody getting vaccinated. And he again he is a black woman inside of him, because he started moving his head to the left and to the right, and he said, what you won't do. It's called me a liar. And I said, okay, I need to look Okay, So so Robin, I know we want to talk about Erica Jane a little bit. By the way, Erica Jane is on the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. We absolutely love her. It's been a lot that has happened on that show, and I'm not up to date, but I

know you're up to date. Yes, Okay, So the latest episode, um, gosh, okay, they were like, oh wait, like, how mansion somewhere somewhere one of Kyle's mansions. Okay, um, and Eric comes late.

I guess they had some sort of court deposition and Erica starts like sharing more about what's going on, and she's pretty much I mean, she comes in, she's like you can see that she's just defeated, like this whole situation with her husband, um, you know, being sued for millions of dollars and pretty much running a Ponzi scheme and not paying his his clients the money that they're owed. Um, and now it's like carrying over into her life. It's

like totally defeating her. From what I've read kind of on social media, like people kind of still think that she's lying, that she knew that he was stealing from his clients and she's just not saying it is that was that was that was thin. So I think there's like a couple of different things that they think she's

lying about. Some people think that she just knew the whole time all along, and which I don't believe, like because like I believe that because she she's pretty m is paying the picture like I was just the wife and he was the powerful husband, like you know, he didn't allow me into like anything, you know, they went on business and I believe that, um, and he's you know, very controlling, and she almost makes it seem like she literally like had outside of the money that he would

give her. Like she has no money for her of her own, you know what I mean? Like she has no she had no say no, like no insight onlieve that that which is like so like you know it's crazy, like because no matter how rich your husband is, please just control what's going right, Be aware of the money, Be aware of the bank account. Make sure you have your own stash. Now I didn't set it to everybody,

right exactly have you? I mean you're gonna have a joint account and then you have your own account right right. You don't need to know about it. Absolutely, just stack your money. Absolutely. And my grandmother used to tell me that not your grandmother, grandmother, my grand like your grandmother's name. Juliette was dropping something not what I was like ten, and I'm like what did she say? Have your own money, baby, make sure that you have your own money. She would

tell me. I would be like ten, and I'm like, I think you only I was dropping some purls to miss her. Um so anyway, so like people think she's lying, Like so she's like sharing all this information and she

said Tom got in a car accident. He was unconscious for twelve hours and she found one the side of the road and then she said he was that This word got a little weird because I feel like she was saying, like he was in this car accident, he was unconscious, which led to his like neuro degenerative problems. Is that what I'm inter He supposedly has um dementia, right, so now that so so I feel like she was implying, like, Okay, this car accident has led to like, you know, his

neuro problems. And oh, one of the things that I thought sounded kind of fits she was like, she was like, you know, I left because this was a couple episodes. I left because he just wouldn't get help. You could tell his hearing was, you know, going bad, and the sight was going bad, and I would tell him get help, and he would just you know, push back and reject me. And I'm like, that's not that's get a divorce. Yeah,

that's not when you leave. That's when I helped him out, right, That's when you realize he's a little getting a little bit older. So I think people, I think people don't really believe the reason for the divorce, like for her leaving, like I think people think she's divorcing him because she wants to separate herself financially from all this legal mess you know that's going down with him, and that's what

she should say, right. I feel like I would be like, look, I heard something don't sound right and he's not being open, and I'm out. I don't want to be implicated in

any of this. But now it's like, so, I think that's where people are conflicted, because I do feel that she's struggling, and I don't believe she knew what he was doing, but I do think that when she got wind of it, when she got wind of like all the legal problems he was having this financial troubles, that's when she was like, I got I have to separate myself.

So it's it's you gotta watch an episode. Imagine to be in that kind of position in which you really didn't have any financial hold on the marriage, right your husband is making all kinds of katrians of dollars and then you realize he's stealing it from people. That sucks. Yeah, I wouldn't want to be in that position. Yeah, And so I mean, and she's just like, you know, you can see who your friends are when you broke. Yes, Yes, yeah I was. I was broken eighty two and I

had no friends. No, I'm kidding. Okay, So we're gonna pray for Erica. Yes, And I do feel like, um, social media is being a little shady, So social media give her a break. Just give her it is. I think people because she's so like like ice cold, kind of like she's not she's not very emotional. I think people just want to see her like really, they want

to feel that she's really league genuine, genuine. But I just think that's just her, you know what I mean, Like she's not going to be like but she's gonna like you know, I mean, she has some tears coming down and the mass gara running down her face, but she's still Her delivery is very it's very like stoic, you know. And I think people want to see her just like have a fit and fall out and just you know, curl up into a ball and cry. Lord okay, let me let me. Let me tell you what I

was watching the other day because it struck me. I was watching Naomi Osako's Netflix documentary. It's like a three or four parter. I didn't see it. She is it just came out, just came out, and she I wanted to get to know all about her because she's intriguing to me. And now we're coming to the title of this episode, which is called Fear is Not Your Friend. Fear It's not your friend. No it's not. It's paralyzing,

Yes it is. Okay. So in two thousand eighteen, and I think I got my my years straight, I'm not really good with um dates. She was winning everything, okay, Okay, she was beating the ship out of Coco, like she brought Coco to tears. Um. That was the time I think you remember that she allowed Coco she wanted to do the interview afterwards with her. It was very moving, so they did. They did the post um match interview together, which normally you don't do. She was on top of

her game. She won the Grand Slam. She was amazing. Okay. Then she said that that the fact that she was trying to get there was her motivation. So after she became number one in the world, there was no more motivation for her. So that messed with her head. Okay, so we can all kind of understand that, right, And then the whole Black Lives matter. Things started happening and the world started changing, and you know, we had George Floyd and Brian the Tailor, and you know, we had

Trayvon Martin and all these things. And she was like so conflicted about what's going on in this world and was scared fear to talk about it. She was scared to give her opinion about how she felt about what's going on in this world. And that paralyzed her tennis game because she didn't feel like she was being herself and she wasn't really standing on her own convictions. So she was getting into matches and losing, like they were like wiping the floor with her. And I was like, girl,

get it together. I'm on episode three and I'm talking to her. I'm like so like, so I think two thousand nineteen, two thousand and twenty, No, it had to be two thousand nineteen. She was losing, Okay, So she wiped the floor with Coco and eighteen and Coco beat her in nineteen. Okay, Okay. So then she realized, you know what, I can't be scared to speak up. I can't be scared to really talk about because you have

to keep them on. Her mother is Japanese. Her father is Haitian, so this whole Black Lives matter really affects her and when she can really identify with it, so she's like, look at here, we're going to the to the Friend of the US Open. I'm gonna wear the mask. You know what the people's names on it? Do you all remember that? So she had seven of them laid out on her bed because it was like seven people

she really wanted to bring light to. So it was like George Floord, Brianna, Traylon Martin for others, I can't remember um. And so the commentators and the dumbass pressed people were all like, sell, how many mans she got? She was like, I have seven because there's seven rounds, and she was like, I want to be able to wear all my all my masks. I mean, she has

to win every round. So that was her motivation, and she was finally like, I'm stepping out of my fear game and I am comfortable with how I feel about what's going on in the world, and this is I'm using my platform to speak on it. And she was killing everybody. She was demolishing people to right and I was like, go now you want me go go now yo, my god. So then, um, long story short, she won and it was all in that fear was paralyzing her. So let's be clear, fear is not your friend. So

then it made me think of my daughter, Grace. I want you all to know. Grace is now employed. She's in the streets with a job. Yes, what kind of job? What is she doing? She works at the smoothie place down the street. Okay, okay, she works at the yogurt nonsense, okay, all right, but she's very excited about her job. Okay, okay, So let me tell you how she got her job.

So she walked in there one day. We go there all the time, and she was like, she talked to someone and she was like, oh, this place is so cool. I wonder if I could work here something. And the lady happened to be the manager. The manager gave her her card and was like, you know, give me a call. So Grace texted her or something, and then the lady said, you have an interview. So Grace was like, man, I got an interview. I said, okay, let's go. So we go to the place for the interview, and that thing

didn't want to get out of the car. She was like, she was shaking her head, like I can't do this. I was like, Grace, you're going there and you're gonna talk to the lady and you're gonna tell her that

you're wonderful. Okay, So she was I said okay. So we went over like some quick stage questions that I have gone through when I was interviewing a hundred years ago, and I was like, this is what your answers are, right, So we rolled played and I was like go and she was like and I'm I'm having a hard time believing that one of your children. Yes, she was nervous and scared. She was she that fear was like taking her over. Wow. So then I said, get out my

damn car, right, just get out. So she got out the car, her sisters run the back. Her sisters got out and was like hugging her like she was going off to war. I was like, this is just dramatic and stupid. So she goes in there and like ten minutes later she's texting me talking about she got the job. This is this. We were a fear factor over the yogurt spot up the street. But my point is so much paralyzed as people, and they don't want to move forward all based off of fear and it's all in

your head. Absolutely, yeah, absolutely, I mean what okay, so so great and I'm like, so surprised that Grace, Yeah, any type of fear. She's probably mad that I'm telling the story because you know, to know my child great. She's like, oh, you can't tell her. Not that she's the baddest thing that scared confessional. Yes, she's She's made a debut on the Real Housewives at Potomac um. But but you know, there's been so many times. And I can remember when um I was starting Potomac season one.

Before we started, I told him, I was like, Hey, I'm gonna do this show whatever, and he was like, just how you know, I just really I'm concerned. I was like, what's your concern? This fool says um I think no one gonna like you. Well he said it in a nice way, meaning that you can't say that in a nice well he did. He was like, meaning, you're beautiful, you have a strong personality that can be taken any kind of way. So but that got that messed with my head and I thought about it a lot.

I did. I didn't talk about it. I didn't talk about it, but I thought about it the light of my own private moments. Okay, it didn't stop me from being me because that's just who I am, but it made me feel a sense of fear about doing what I was doing and being me. And I never want to be fearful about just being me. So take that, Jamal, take it right. Because people love me, thank you, season six,

and they love me everybody, everybody. Not everybody loves me to get horrible d ms, but some people love me, so you know, it's funny. So I, um, I have a mentality air in my head. I'm just like nobody's perfect. So if I go into this and I, you know, fall flat on my face or a mess up or whatever, then like so be it souf like that. So I never really like let fear paralyzed me from like doing something which is like very weird because I am I

would consider myself an introvert. But when it comes time to like do something in front of people, like I have no problems doing it, but I do, I would say a time when I would feel a little bit uncomfortable. Um, I was doing some like real estate seminars like speaking because I was doing real estate investing as my real estate mentor would have seminar when you are flipping houses, and he would invite me to speak to the audience

and myself myselves very attractive guys. It's just f y. I yes, he won't ask me out on a date,

but he's very attractive. Okay, anyway, moving on. So so yeah, So even though I have the mentality like Okay, if I mess that my speech, I can just be like, oh I lost my trainers, lot, let me start over, you know whatever, Like I still would sit there, like knowing he was about to call me on stage with like butterflies in my stomach and realizing like okay, I can't turn around now, like no, it's too late, or I'd be like why did I agree to do this?

Why I want to go home? But but the thing is like once I feel like with most people, it's like once you just like put one ft in front of the other and you start like talking or doing, then it's kind of like that you just release that nervousness said anxiousness. But but for the most part, like even like you know, when people have weddings and they're like the bride is like so nervous and worried about

everything being perfect. Like I you know, if I ever give someone advice, like before wedding, I said, look, don't worry about what goes wrong during your wedding. You're the only person that really knows what's supposed to happen to

your wedding. So if like, if like the song doesn't play at the right time, nobody's really going to know that, and they're not going to sit there and be like, oh my god, Katie's wedding was horrible because because her song played five seconds later than it should have been. So I just feel like sometimes people like overthink stuff when really it's like we're all human where all we all make mistakes. And I think what makes people more like comfortable and relatable to one another is when they

feel like the other people in the room are being human. Yes, you know, when people try to act perfect child that

don't work. That's really problematic for me, like because I'm just like I know my ships think like like yes, unfortunately I've smelled no. But I mean you're you're absolutely right, like you you you have to be yourself right, But it's it's okay, like being able to laugh at yourself, Like it's actually really important that you're able to laugh at yourself if you mess up, if you fall, if you trip in front of people, like laugh at yourself because it's funny, and don't be don't buy into fear,

like let that thing go, breathe it out, take that first step, like you said, you gotta take that first step and everything will work out. Um. So yeah, fear is not your friend. Don't let it be your friend. Don't talk to that thing. But you know what, it's funny when you were saying, they only like she she was winning and she was kind of like at the at the top of her game, and then she felt that it was almost like maybe the pressure to like

continue that like cause that fear. Um, I've kind of experienced it and I kind of like share this on the season, so I don't want to give up too much. But like in the in my business, which I've had a lot of success with um and belish like I actually have gone through that emotion of you know, I've had a lot of success with the business and now you know, fear sets in of like Okay, how do I keep up that success got it or not wanting to fail, not wanting to like fall from my face.

So does it make you Is it to the place where you're like talking yourself out of growing at times? It's definitely a process. It's a process that you go through. Okay, yeah, so you understand Naomi struggle. Oh yeah, I understand that. I mean, I'm not sure I didn't want like a US open or nothing, but yes you did. In the hat world, you want embellished on a US open. Yes, yes it did. But but I can see I mean

my little right, I can relate a little bit. Yes, yes, but but Robin, I'm here to tell you, fear is not your friend. I know. Yes, it's gonna get you nowhere, It's gonna get you know where. You You gotta you gotta make it happen, and you have to show that just one foot in front of the the other and you can water really change your life. Right. Yeah. Because I

didn't have the fear of starting the business. It was just once the business, you know, achieve success, It's like the fear setting of like, Okay, how do I maintain it and even continue to grow it. That's where the fear kind of like started sitting like, oh, and then it it's paralyzing. Yes, yes, yes, indeed, yes, all right, I believe that is our show today. Um, and I want everybody to have a reasonable and a shady day exactly. And hey, you know we have an email address. We

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