| Ep 86 |  Who’s The One With The Ego?

have like snacks and stuff. You would actually offer me like an orange, some carrots. Oh, do you want a cookie? Do you want something? No, But that's not the point. You don't even offer me a sip, a sip of water, because you would always be like, no, I'm okay, No, I'm okay, I'm okay, So okay. I just want when like you invite someone somewhere or out or to a party and they always say no, and then you stop inviting them. You know, that happens to me all the time.

I know, But Robin, I still invite you. Actually, you know what's so good that happened to me recently? So I have a girlfriend and her actually her name is Kia, and so Kia never I invite her to a million things, she never comes out, never nothing. So the other day was her birthday and so I said, I hit her up. I was like, yo, you wanna take you lunch, take you to dinner? And she was like, um, okay, we can do lunch. So I said, okay, she's going to get her lashes done with Brenda and then we were

gonna go after that. Well I didn't believe her, so I scheduled something after at the time that we were supposed to have lunch. So because I straight, you haven't you haven't followed through in five years, right, So she called me. She was like okay, so you know I'll be done at like one one thirty. She put the dog in the kennel or the play date where dogs to do whatever and what a dog hospitals, dog played dog camp. She put the dog in dog camp and um yeah, And I was like, yo, because I had

an appointment with my I have like an estate. Oh I can say this, so this should be your shady moment for I had an Robbie. You cutting me off because I might say something very important. I had an appointment with my lawyer who is handling my estate. Oh sounds so regal, grand Taylor. I want you to put some music behind that, like, yes, I have an as, I did some estate planning. Meanwhile, you're gonna have like ten dollars in your account and you still have an estate.

I don't have ten dollars in my account. I'm just saying, you're just saying it like it's like unusual. Well, I mean it was. It was unusual to me until I did it. It is important. Yeah, it's very important, portant, It's very important because something might happen to me. Yes, I need to do the same. But I feel like the name when you hear the word. So you have states Wait, you have haven't done any estate planning, right,

but you're throwing shade on my estate planning. I'm just saying, yes, yeah, congratulations. Second, thank you, Robin, Thank you anyway, good for you. We all we all need to do our estate planning. Yes, okay, but that was the term sounds a lot more grand and fancy than it really is. Well, I've actually just I felt grand and fancy. Yes, yes, so did you complete it? You're done? Done? Nice? Done. Um, is that the first time you've done that? Or is it was

it like a check up on it? Like it was the first time I did all that I did so not the totality. Yeah, I had done a portion before, but this was like everything. Yeah, so it's good. Yeah. So if I if I die tomorrow, my kids are rich. Good. Good. I mean, well, let's not that I don't want that to happen. I'm just saying that that good, you know

what I mean. Yeah, but it's so crazy because that is something that's been on my to do list for like years and I just have not gone to do it, and you know, not gonna would I hope I can get to do it. Well, I'll give you my lawyers people, Yeah for sure. But that okay, So that is not my reasonably shady moment. This is so you had to cancel on her. So she's all excited to go to lunch for her birthday. Did you invited her to? This is your shady moment. This is my shady moment. It's okay,

I'm sorry, Kia and adologizing right now. And she was all excited to put the dog in the kennel And it's not my fault. She has canceled on me for five years. I get it. But if she was coming from getting her lashes done, like oh my gosh, she was ready, she probably was moving on. So I was in New York recently and the um I was in the streets and I was actually hanging out with Porscha. We were hanging out, and so she was like, I was like, oh, we can just hang out at your hotel.

So her hotel was not my hotel, and she was like, I'm staying at the Peninsula And I was like, god, damn, I know it's a very expensive over there. So let's hang out and do drinks at your hotel. Right. So we go there and mind you had to do a whole photo shoot in the streets. Like literally, we're like dodging cars to do a photo shoot. It was amazing. Wait, what this was a you were supposed you were you

were doing a photo shoot? We were in No. We Porscha travels with I think she travels or maybe she just hired this guy to day a photographer. Got it. So we was a voluntary photo shoot. It wasn't like for something, no got it. It was just for the Graham just because got it, so before we could go into the peninsula, we had to do the photo shoot. Not the point of the story. The point of the story is the shadiness of the peninsula was apparently there

was some very important dignitary in the peninsula. To the point where they cut off the street, you could not drive a car to the front of the hotel. And the hotel the front doors has like red carpet, so that's like perfect for pictures, right, So we got out of our cars on the curve, we walked over to the red carpet. We were ready for a red carpet photo moment, and all of a sudden, out of nowhere jumps Secret Service and tells us to get to step to This is not a photo shoot. Okay, this is

what y'all won't be doing. And we were like, but no, but no, give us a minute. They was like, get to step in. And you know when Secret Service gets auntcy, Yeah, this is what they do. They send a plane closed closed person first, and they send a plane close to the photographer and whispering his ear. Y'all got to move, but we didn't move, So then they send another person, same message, but do they identify should do they say

we are Secret Service? No, they don't. He was just like he was like, so, y'all got to move because it gets bad. Okay, okay, all right. Two minutes later it was a full secret Service was written on this um what do you call those bulletproof vest He had about four guns. He was walking cock des well you know how they walk, and he was like, y'all got to move, and we were like, damn that. Going into the hotel, we had to go through full metal detectors. Pat down. I got patted down, and mind you, he

was kind of cute patting me down. I was like pat me fronting back baby. Okay. Anyway, so I just the shady people right now? Is the Peninsula or Secret Service? One of the two? Wow? Okay, I mean that is kind of like rude. It's like, who are you to be telling me what I can and can't be doing? Well? They you know it was a security risk. I guess portion I were a security risk, yes, pose big booties. Yeah no, no, not all just portis booty um. And so we were trying to figure out who it was,

right and it wasn't Trump by the way. Hopefully by now he's in jail. But that's a whole nother story, right. Um. Do you know okay, wait, I just saw this. He announced that he was going to be I don't know, it was like Friday, like the Friday before whatever. He said on Tuesday, I'm going to be arrested. Yeah. Do you know between Friday to Tuesday he raised like one point five million dollars And it's called witch hunt. The witch hunt. Uh you want to You're supposed send money

to the witch hunt like organization or something. Wow, called witch hunt. Wow. This man is unbelievable, right. Um. Anyway, so I deduced that it was Barack. It was Barack Obama. That's who I think it was. Yeah, because it was a full it was a full blown, huge secure Why I mean, why would he at the Peninsula. Why would you think that was him? Because it wasn't Trump. Trump was in mar Larco. It was on the news that night.

He was in Florida. So it wasn't Trump. And Trump would go to his what doesn't have a place in New York. Yeah, it wasn't Biden. It could have been Uncle Joe, yeah, because they would have let me talk to Uncle Joe because you know, we're friends. Oh really, yes, Okay, anyway, what's your shady moment? Lord? Shoot? Um, well, I just gave you two, so you can take one of mine. Yeah,

I'll just take one of your guys. I just you know what, I sat in front of this microphone and I forgot that I had to have a shady moment, you know what. And actually this is not the first time. It's not the first I've done this, so you will be excused. But I did want to. I'm gonna give you one. I'm give you this is this is not a shady moment. This is the world might be looking

out for us moment. Okay. So do you remember when Cardi b sued Tasha k Oh yes, for four million dollars for defamation defamation, yes, and then she was awarded I thought she was awarded like two point five maybe ten. I think it's four anyway, So Tasha was like, oh, hell no, I only have four dollars, right, So I'm gonna appeal, right, and she lost the appeal. Right. So do we like this? I love this. I mean I don't know Tasha k And I'm not saying I like

this because of her. I like this because you can't be going out there on the social you're just saying anything saying and so so for people don't know what we're talking about. Believe Tasha Kay is a blogger and she said something that was false about Cardi B but it was you know, damaging and Cardi suitor for defamation. And I think up until then, a lot of people on social media would just go online and just say

whatever they want to say. They still do. Yeah, And honestly, I've had my moments where I have wanted to call our lawyer, yes and be like, you know, can you go um serve this little girl who's making up lies? Yeah, with something, because it's not it's it's just not okay. Like people have real lives, we have real families, we have real jobs, and it's not okay for people to be out there just willy nilly making stuff up. No. No,

I have definitely considered going down that route. But I'm just like, uh, my guess is that this person has zero dollars, so it's no point. But and you're didn't have to pay to get done on your side, yes, right, but but yeah, it's just I mean, and I really feel like there should be more regulation to this type of stuff like how can we regulate you know or or um like filter like criminalize yes, almost, how do we criminalize like social media bullying that needs to be criminalized?

It does, yes, it does. And even in you know this lawsuit that want is named in, the perpetrator should be it should be facing some sort of criminal um charges, but there are nothing. Yes, yes, catfishing should be a crime, right for sure, right, but there's nothing to hold him criminally you know, liable for anything, which is so it's that's the messed up part, right, um, I you know, as a part of me, that's like, okay, there is

the what is it a freedom of speech? Yeah, there's a freedom of speech act, um an act or law law something. It's a something. So we do want people to be able to an amendment. What is it freedom of speech? It's in the constitution, carl okay. Carlie looked at a side eye because Robin and I did not know, and she's side eye just and said, uh, it's in

the constitution, isn't it. Like it's like one of the amendment like the first Amendment or second amendment, right something, it's first the first Amendment and second first away, I mean, my son here, Carter would be able to tell me

all about and Angel and run it down. So so I get that because we don't want to be a country in which you have to be censored, right, but there should be something to stop people from lying right on the internet, right, lying, deceiving, all of that, checking whatever, because I would I would be rich, rich, rich and rich if I came after all the people then't lied on me. I mean it's ridiculous, right, but they don't have money, so you really wouldn't. Oh that's right, I'd

be broke, broken bro Yeah. Okay, yeah, well, speaking of lying, Yeah, we didn't talk about Jesse Schmolette and the four part documentary. Did you watch it? I didn't? Is it out yet? No? That was like, am is that airring on Fox? Or something like a TMZ special? Or is there another special? It's a TMZ special? Okay, But I saw a clip. No, I didn't see a clip of that. I saw a clip of the two tires. Yes, they were re enacting, yes what Jesse had them do? Yes, And I was like,

should I be laughing? Well, it was a comedy skit. It was a straight Comma D skit. By watching a sick because they were like Jesse, you know the whole reenactment of it. If you go on social media you can find it. It is very funny and it's sad because it's like, dude, you lied about this, and no one's coveringing this up for you. That was a mess that was that was wildly entertaining and like it was on Fix It's a fox at anatomy of a hoax.

And and he got no jail time for them, right and Jesse, I'm sorry, Yeah, this is this was horrible. So what he did was the case you guys don't remember, was he staged staged a hate crime. Yeah, so they were supposed to put a noose around his neck. They were supposed to call him gay, empire boy or something like that. This was to scream that ye and these were these were the words that Jesse, Jesse gave the trainers to do. Like they didn't make this up. The

two black African yeah men too. So if this is a hate crip, why did he pick the black Africans? It was a black on black crime, No, that would be that's different. Well apparently, well, I mean, okay, when when he goes in reports that he was attacked. He said it was white men. Oh he did, Yeah, they were. They supposed to have ski mask on, so he didn't see what color they were. I think he said they were, didn't he. I don't know. I think the assumption was

they were white men, right of course, right with the news. Yes, this is ridiculous, but this but do you know the words like he was screwing the trainer? Oh, I'm sure right, was he? You didn't hear that? Yeah, he was screwing the trainer. That's what I which one because it was two of them, and they both have majorly nice by d's. Yeah, like the main like the one that was doing most of the talking. I think I could see that. Yeah, apparently,

I don't know that that's that's that's allegedly. Yes, let's throwing no, but what he'sa gosh, I wish I could remember. It was some word that that dude use. I was literally cracking up at his reenactment. It was it was a mess. It was hilarious. Yes, so I believe that they need to retry this because he should do thirty days. Yes, he should do a thirty day jail stint, and that will stop other people from thinking that this is okay to do yes, because it's not. Carly has showed me

her laptop. Can't what is all this on your screen? Oh my gosh, she showing me her screen and I can't look at it because it's just shit all over it. Okay, but you know, Robin is bacteria. She's the bacteria police. Okay. So Crowley is showing us the screen of her computer and it says fallen. Empire star Jesse Smollett reportedly had bath house sex romps with personal trainer. He's accused of enlisting for hate crime hosts bath house sex romps. That's

a whole episode in itself. It is Empire episode. I want to go to a bath house in New York. No, that's too much bacteria for you. Okay, now we're gonna move on. This came out and I thought about you, Robin Dixon. There was an article that said that water bottles, oh have more bacteria. I agree, then, No, you use a water I use I use ones that you throw away every you drink them and you throw them away. I don't use those those use didn't. I used to

see you with walking around with water bottles. That wasn't you. No, not me. You't a green one. I have plenty of them. I have tons of them. I have a cabinet full of them. Okay, but I feel like, yes, they they collect bacteria and they end up smelling like mildew. And if you don't like wash them properly, they it gets all stuck in the lid and the top and all that. Yeah. No, that's why I'm sorry. I am destroying the planet. And I use disposable water bottles all day every day, So

I guess we should use like glasses. Oh why Oh because of the plastic from the water bottle. It's destroying. Yeah. But then if you just use a glass, you just drink pour it out, you know, you know what I mean, Like you just refill your glass. I had. This was a discussion actually I'm sharing that Jason and I had, yeah, because he he has this water bottle thing, and I was like, well, you know these can get like really like um, yeah, I didn't bacteria fied, is what I said.

I think. Anyway, he went away somewhere and he brought me back a high tech water bottle and I was like, oh, this is really nice. And I was actually going to like put this in my repertoire and use it all the time. Now, before the article, before I got a chance to do it, a door stolen from me because you know, they need that for sports. However, this is disgusting. Yes, So I told him. I was like, yo, all of these things are worse than toilets. He was like, clorox bleach.

Just use bleached giselle. And I was like, oh, I didn't think about that. That is true. Yeah, and then you're drinking bleached You're drinking water from bleached containers. We're going down a rabbit holes. No, you just have to. If you use those reusable water bottles, then you just have to be diligent and keeping them clean and keeping them open, you know, like, okay, if you use it and you just let us sit overnight and it's closed up, and that's when all the bacteria kind of grows and stuff,

you know what I mean. So you just have to, like you have to. It takes a little more effort in work to make sure it's not the bacteria is not growing. No one has time for all that effort and work. Yeah. Okay, So speaking of bacteria and something that I feel like would be gross, but you might like it. Would you eat a lab grown chicken because that is on its way to grocery store. I've seen that,

a lab grown chicken, Yeah, I've seen that. What we do is we take really high quality animal cells from like say a cow or a pig, or a chicken or a lobster, and we look for cells that can continue to grow outside the animal in a very robust and a healthy way. The part that's remarkable about it is we didn't have to raise and slaughter a chicken to get real chicken meat. I feel like the people that ate it said it tasted good, right, it's called good meat good. Yes, I saw that report. I would

prefer not to Why I don't trust it. That just that doesn't sound right to me. That doesn't sound healthy. Well, they're saying that the feature of our planet depends on how we feed ourselves, right, Okay, so I guess this would be saving chickens. Yes, But then how we get the eggs and what came first the eggs? Well, I guess we're saving We were getting the eggs from the actual chickens because we're not killing them to eat them.

Oh right, But I thought there's enough. But do you remember there was like during COVID there was like a chicken wing shortage. You know how expensive chicken wings are now, Okay, but I thought that that was just something that they created, just like they created the gas prices. Just I mean, could lose their mind, possibly, but chicken wings are expensive as hell. I don't like Still, I don't know. Okay, you don't know. No, Okay, I do sometimes, Okay, okay.

And I'm sure the boys like chicken wings. Yes, yes, so I feel like that we saw a lot of chemicals. If it's if it's lab grown, right, it's a bunch of chemicals, right, it's a bunch of I don't know what it is. Yes, it doesn't sound right. That doesn't sound right. Now, that doesn't sound But are we so? And why do you have a shortage chicken? Probably? I

mean I think it's like I don't know. Um, maybe they are going to say that it is healthier because now maybe they have they can grow without the hormones and all that. I don't know, you know, because now they're saying, like the meat and stuff that we eat is not healthy because it is pumped with hormones and all types of other chicken the non organic chicken, is right. I don't eat that. I don't know, but I eat it with the with the best organic I eat organic chicken. Yeah,

I'm skeptical. Okay, so would you eat it? I am not eating that. What if your favorite restaurant? Yes, they wouldn't. They wouldn't. But whatever happens, it needs to have a quick because an asteroid is coming to kill us all on Valentized Day, of all days in thirty years, thirty of an asteroid is on its way. Okay, it's gonna break up before it gets here, you think, So, yeah, is that what happened? Yeah? I feel like they always say stuff like this, oh really yeah, and then they're like,

I've never heard of this. So I kind of got concerned. Are you're scared well on Valentine's Day thirty years from now, because I'm gonna be still popping at that point, Like what what I mean my boo gonna do? You're gonna hold hands and die? You're gonna me and my book? I have issues? Serious? Like no, I mean you just let it come, okay, all right, I mean you know, I don't know if that's how it sounds. Okay, So

I have one more question. There is artificial intelligence. Yeah, that says, then in thirty days, it will cure you of cancer. If you have cancer, that crift created something that will cure you in thirty days. Really, yes, Robin, this is a real article and you believe it. Hell, yes, I believe real. Okay, So so what do you have to do? You said it's artificial intelligence, So what do you have to go? Live in the in the okay,

artificial intelligence world? Okay, listen, Researchers at the University of Toronto have developed a potential treatment for liver cancer using artificial intelligence, and you will be cured in thirty days. Carry on a need more? Okay. Creation of this potential drug was accomplished in just thirty days, and the AI system can also predict a patients survival rate. So listen, I'm confused. I'm not I'm not well. This is great because cancer is horrible. It has killed a lot of people.

So why on earth have we had to wait all this time to get some Really what do they mean by artificial intelligence? I don't understand. What is that robots? Just let the robots do what they do. Okay, So the robots are curing liver cancer something they're making a drug in thirty days. How listen, you take the pill, you pop the pill. That's what this is what I'm thinking. Okay, I mean that would be wonder full if that actually works. Okay, if it's true. So is it like on the market

now are people taking it? Like? What? Well, first of falls in Toronto? So okay, that's fine. A lot of drug companies are in Toronto. No, meaning like it's not in the States. Okay, So I don't we don't have further research. Okay, So I will keep you inform into this. Yeah, yeah, because as we get older, you never know. I mean, no, that would be lovely. And then hopefully and why is it just liver cancer? What do you mean? Oh oh, that's a good question. I'm going to ask the AI people,

the artificial intelligence people. When it said AI, I thought it was Alan. I were saon when I found Hi Alan speaking of Is that? Remember? Um? What is all that stuff that was happening? Not? It wasn't bitcoin. It was like the the metaverse is that it's called the metaverse? Is that still a thing? Metaverse? Yeah? As in Facebook? No, remember people are like buying um oh yeah, oh yes, the fake the fake um fake world. Yes, yes, is that so a thing? What does that have to do

with Alan Irverson? That has something to do with artificial intelligence? Oh? There we go, boom back at it. This is why we keep roving around because she is smart. Okay, So I think that that phase might be over because people realize they spending their money on nothing. What I did realize was that they said that people aren't frivolously spending money anymore. Okay, that's what they said. Okay, because about to go into a recession. Yes, y'all, best save y'all coins.

Doomsday is coming, y'all, Doomsday, it's coming. Best save your coins. Okay. So a couple of months, about a month ago, we talked about men that measure their penises and we got a look, we got a couple of people who have chimed in more than a couple they jumped into the Okay. So this one is from Nathan Trinidad because I've done my own independent research. Yeah yeah, so that's why we're

talking about Okay. Okay, So he says, you want to say something else, No to say this is a follow up to the question about on grinder, right, Yeah, yeah, okay, okay about measuring the penis right right? The question we asked the question, is there like an input section on Grinder? Oh? We did, Yes, I forgot about that. Yes. Oh this is getting good. That's that's what this is what this email is in response to we asked on Grinder, is there some sort of input for where you can say

my penis is eight inches? Yes? You know, I think people be lying, but okay, so um it says hi Robin and yourself. First of all, let me just say I love you both. I've been a RHRP fans and stay one team green Eye bandits all the way. Yay um oh speaking of green Eyes, I am all over the place right now. So Erica bad Okay, I did

an interview. Did y'all say this interview though? And I think it was Are Martinez and interviewed her and said, um, so, Erica, you know they have said over the years that people can just look at you in your eyes and fall in love. And I was like, yeah, that's me every day. I mean, I get it, I get it. So she was like yes, men and women, boys and girl, oh my god, red black and yellow, purple, and okay, she

didn't say all that, Okay, anybody, she didn't. She didn't deny, She was like, yes, this has been a thing my entire life. I think it has something to do with being a green eyed bandit because her ice cream a hazel hers are very pretty. Okay, she's she's a hazel eyed bandit. But hasn't this happened to you your entire life, Robin, that people fall in love with me from looking into my eyes? Yes? No, oh, where have you what? You

are not using the powers of the green eyes? I mean, I don't want people to fall in love with me just from looking in my eyes and it happens. I'm just here to tell you, Okay. Moving on back to the letter, it says, so I am a gay man and I used Grinder regularly. Yes, I'm a hoe. While while Grinder does not have a feel for penis size, most men will send you unsolicited penis picks. Either way, Grinder does have a feel for your position top bottom

verse V E R S. What does that mean? Oh? Versatile? Okay, you can do either. And if you accept N s f W photos. While most people don't pay attention to that, what is n s FW You wouldn't know. But it's not safe for work. Oh wow, you wouldn't know. I don't have one of those kind of jobs. Okay. I love the podcast and listen every mind day. Okay, So, I, because this was intriguing to me, spoke to a couple of my gay male friends, not cal and I asked, I said, do you measure your penis? He said, that's

a gay thing. Oh. This is a gay man that said to me that's a gay thing. So I said, well what does that mean and he said yeah, they like to play around and do that. I said, well, have you ever measured your penis? He said no, and he's a gay man. Yes, but it's a gay thing. I don't think it. I think maybe it's a funny gay thing. Oh my god, I can't. We're moving on. So Carlie has giving us way too much information. We're moving We're moving on. We're moving on. I think it's

just a men are stupid thing. That stupid but they just having fun. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't think it's just a gay thing. I don't. Okay, So is this equivalent to we know women's boob size because of bra siyes? Like if you're c D double D. Well, we need to know our bra sizes. We need to know our boom size because we need to know our braw sides. True, so men don't need to know their penis eyes to Okay, I was I was trying to figure out what side underwear they're getting, right, Yeah, they

do so big cross, little cross. I mean I think they can just eyeball it like yes, okay, But I don't. I don't think it's just a gay thing. I don't. I think I think sharing it of course, like you know, is it maybe a gay thing, because maybe that's important. But I I think I can see where a lot of males, whether there are young men from the age of fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, they might do it. I could see twenty two year old men just doing just for the fun of it. Yeah. Oh, by the way, did

you ever see Sex Life? Did I tell you to watch that? I haven't. Okay, I do want to watch that, Okay, I heard that's good. Yeah. By the way, I have been wanting to provide this update please, so on the television show, I think they I said something where I said something like, you know, Corey, I still walk around naked around my kids on the Roal Housewives of Atom. Yeah okay, okay, I said that, did you yeah? Do you? Well, I'm just giving you an update. Okay, Corey no longer

is interested in, I would hope, not in seeing me naked. Yes, not that he was interested before, but now it's like put some clothes on, mommy. Yeah, it's like, oh no, you know, let me cover my eyes. But he still barges into my bathroom when I'm in the shower or into my room like you know, so I'll just be like, but when I hear him coming, I'll be like, I'm naked, and then he'll like, he'll wait, close his eyes, turn around whatever. Good before And however, Carter is not faced yet.

Oh okay, Carter's thirteen thirteen seven, I give him six more months, right, Yeah, he's not faced, but Corey is like, yeah, I want no parts. Even my girls are like my pus of clothes one really yes, like oh or they'll say give us a heads up like boob alert or something. I'm like, but they don't know. So the three of them cover up around. No, not at all. They just don't want to see my old part. Yeah, okay, yes, sorry, okay, um, okay, I thought this. Okay. We asked you guys to send

us questions and we would answer them. This is just one We're gonna talk about her because we got a couple more emails to Yeah, and this is not my question. It's not just our question. This is from f Harris one seven one one, Okay. He said, why are educated women attractive to Pooky and Ray Ray? First of all, I don't know who Pooky and Ray Ray are? Okay, I don't know who they represent. I don't know anything

about Pooky or Ray Ray. And I don't are we talking about Pooky as in like Chris Rock's Pooky character or New Jack City the Crackhead? Right? Are we saying that people are attracted to him? Black people like him? People like him? I don't know anyone that likes Pooky from Crackhead, okay, that wants to date him? Right? Or? And who's Ray Ray Ray? Ray? Ray Ray is like on the corner, Okay, He's not the drug dealer, He's the lookout for the drug dealer. He's the lookout boy.

Yeah okay, yeah, And that's universal pretty much. I mean, I don't want stereotype Ray Rays out here. But okay, well that's you know, the ray Ray on my corner. He's the look out boy and my my own your corner. My question is is he asking us this because we're educating women or is he asked us because he just wants to know about educated women. I'm so confused by this question that that's why I had to ask. But

I am an educated woman. Huh. The man that I'm married is very educated, so I don't fall under the pookie and the ray Ray. I will say, okay, if if he's I mean, clearly, this is a you know, he's trolling a little bit. You know, he's using us

a little crazy questions. But I think if we could generalize this question, right, okay, because you do have women, good women who come from good backgrounds, and they and they would prefer to date instead of dating a nice guy, a nice educated man or nice professional man, they want to date, you know, the the bad guy. The bad guy, right, the local drug dealer he considered a bad at because some drug dealer is really nice. I'm just saying to

tell you I don't know them. Don't look at me, Carl. However, I've heard that they are very nice. You know, they say that women are attracted to bad, bad boy boys. I get. So maybe that's what this question is trying to get at. I get that, And I have actually told my children, because they're a dating age, that the cornballs are your future c yes and CFOs, doctor sars, so go on and get with them. Yes, but the bad boys don't lands long, right, I agree? Yeah, yeah,

so that that's what I've been telling me. I've been I've had a bad boy too, and I'm sure you have too, Yes, And it is extremely exciting and some excitement running from the cops now and you're in the passenger. See, but that gets old. Yeah, that gets old. They get and they run out, you know. Or even if it's the guys, it's not even just about you know, bad guys,

I eat drug dealers or whatever. But like say the guys at in your school, your middle school, you're high school, whatever, and they're like the cool, sexy, handsome ones and they're you know, the players, and they're the ones that like all the girls want, and then you twenty years later you see them you're like, oh my gosh, I can't believe that that's him, like because he's literally like working in the gas station or something like and it's a

big belly, right, yeah, he's a beer belly, right. So it's just funny to see, Like, I mean, I've seen so many guys like that. I remember when they when we were younger, and they were like fine, yes, hot, so fine, and they were everybody wanted them, and they had all the girls. And now you look at them and they're like in age. Well yeah, like I'm cool on you, tess, or you see them in a club and they have like a receding hairline and the stomach is like really fast, all of that. Yeah, and they

haven't figured out how to transition out of the Heyday. Yeah, they're Heyday gas. They're holding onto it. Yeah yeah, no, let it go, let it go boo. Yeah yeah. Not all guys transition well no it. Meanwhile, the guys that were like just being studious and minding their business and they're the ones that are yeah yeah, the CEO of the pharmacy utical company or listen, you know, listen. But like Indris Elba has remained fine over the decade, definitely has.

I'm just slashing back to him at the Oscars with his beautiful wife. Yes, and she looked really good. This was the first time and I hate to umoset try to say this in the best way possible that I ever saw a picture of them. And I looked at her because I always look at him, look at him, right, But I looked at her longer than I looked at him. Yeah, they're a great amazing they're a great looking couple. Yeah. I can't remember her name, but Sabrina, Oh Sabrina, that's right.

She looked dropped at gorgeous. But that interest yeah, yeah, oh he still looks good. That thing. I just watched a movie with him in it. It was the movie, Um, I'm gonna go back and watch the Wire again, Luther. So they oh yeah, I love Luther. So they made a movie. No, but they made a movie. Oh really, huh? Okay have you seen the series. I never watched the series, Okay, I didn't really. The movie was just just okay. I saw the series like on one of my trips, an

international trip, when I had like a whole lot of time. Yeah. So we have a good question that somebody sent us. Okay, okay, this is from his subject is what to do? Okay? Hi, I just started listening to the podcast and have become a fan. I've always been a fan of Rhop. So I am dating and he has dating and quotes a married man. I know, shame on me, but I was tricked into it. He told me they were separated, and

when I found out, I broke things off with him. Well, he is in love with me and I have turned him away on three separate occasions, but the last time I gave in and fast forward two years later and we are still together. He recently told his wife he was not happy okay, and was only with her for the kids, and she refuses to let him go. When I date other people, he gets in his feelings about it and he lavishes me with things to keep my attention on him. I guess I'm asking how can I

break this off? Or should I? Since I'm the one he really wants, don't be harsh with me? Signed sneaky link. Yes, Okay, So this is a tough one. Yeah actually, well actually not really. I mean the tough part is um Brett is Brett man. Okay. The married man is a man and the merryman is married to a woman to a woman. How did we not get that from what you just read I did Oh you got it? Yeah, I didn't

get it. Okay, I get it now. So the merryman, yes, goes both ways obviously, yes, And maybe he really wants to be gay, right, but he doesn't want to leave his wife and kids. Well it sounds like his wife doesn't want to let him go, but that's according to him. This is all one side of stores, one side of conversation, so he probably doesn't, you know. It's like, okay, you have to ask, okay, well, like is there something in

his life that's preventing him from living his life? You know, the way that he would preferred to, right, is it his job? Is it his you know, his kids, his family, um, society, whatever, society exactly at the end of the day, I don't think it's fair to the wife in the situation, and it's not fair to the what is so so you know what I know the term for like what mistress means? Like, what's the opposite for a male? Oh, misstraw, He's not a mistress. He's a mister. Oh he's a mister, A

mister he's as Like, what's the opposite? What is the opposite of a mistress? What is a male version of a mistress. I need to google. Okay, you're gonna google that. Why you google that? I feel like cheating is cheating. It doesn't matter if you're a man, woman, whatever the situation. Cheating is cheating. So should he stop dating him? Yes? And he should want better for himself than to be dating or in a relationship with a man that's married.

Paramore a paramore, So that paramore means you're a man and your personal side is a man? Well, no, no, it just means it says it's not exclusively male, but it can to apply to either partner in an illicit relationship. Okay, I have heard the term paramore a manstress, a manstress, so I said misstra, So no manstress. I like that mistress manstress. That makes sense. Manstress. I guess I feel

like the ss at the end indicates female. But okay, yeah, manstress all right, for the purposes of this conversation, is the manstress? Yeah? Okay, so you need to run. You need to because you should want more for yourself period, right, unless he doesn't, unless he's like, you know what, I'm just having fun. I don't you know what I mean? Like, let me take these gifts but I believe I agree. And the fact that the married man gets upset with him, say,

he gets upset when he gets upset other people. When the manstress starts seeing other people that he should see that are single, Yeah, when I date other people, he gets in his feelings about it. So yeah, this man that you're in a you know, toxic relationship, Yes, that you are are fooling around with is no good. No, nothing's going to change. If he leaves his wife and he comes to be with you, it's going to be the same type of situation. Yes, he's going to The

way you got him is the way he's going to leave. Ye, Is that right? That's something like that. The way you keep him, the way you where you got him, the way you keep him. Know, the way you got you lose him. The way you got him is the way you lose him. Yes. So if you were the manstress, there's gonna be another manstress behind you, right, or a mistress. Right. But if you do have a conscience, I feel like my conscience would just be like yes, karma, Yeah, I

don't want to be involved in that. The the merriyman is being super selfish to everyone around him. Yes, right, and um, you know, he can't have his cake and eat it too now, not unless everybody is informed. Like when I'm seventy five, if I have a boo, I'm gonna tell everyone you can do whatever you want, right, because I don't feel like, okay, just go for it right, right exactly. But when I'm gonna do whatever i want right, but it has to be when I'm seventy five. Seventy five, yes,

and if he's if he's younger, yeah, that's a good deal. Yeah, Hey for sure. Hey, yeah, okay, So I want to do one more Yeah, okay. This is from Sherry Sherry King hash Harry. Yeah, Hey Sherry. She says, hello, ladies, first time every email in the podcast. But I listened to you guys, and I think you can assist with my dilemma. So I've been talking to an older gentleman for six months and over the holidays, my furnace went out, so I'm freaking out. I'm telling about the situation. You know.

It came during the coldest time of the year, during the holidays, so I went and got my furnace fixed, and just a month later I had to replace it. So she's telling this older general her frustration about all the repairs she's venting. One day, I get a cash app notification that he sent me some money, and on the caption he said, put it toward your furnace. Oh that's nice, Okay, keep him very nice. Wow, this is where it changes. So immediately I'm thinking, oh my god,

what a sweet gesture. And that is a nice thing. But I didn't want to accept the money because we're not in a relationship. That's when you accept the money, right, there's no strings here. Plus I never told him how much the furnace was, or asked any asked for any help from him. Okay, I was just venting. So I returned the cash app. Sherry, you idiot, right YEA not an idiot, Sherry, but just not something that would do right, Okay. So I returned the cash app and I said, thank

you for your help. I appreciate it, but I'm good. For some reason, that hurt his feeling. Yes, he said that pride is a hell of a thing. I told him my entire life, I have supported myself and I've never depended on anybody to do anything for me. And the gesture was a surprise, and I appreciate it, and I'm sorry if returning it hurt your feeling. I hate her, Ladies. He told me that he does not accept my apology

and the fact that I returned his money. I stole his hope and I should never take away anyone's hope. So she says, I can't deal with a man with a fragile ego. Well, okay, okay, can you can stop there, because we can we can. Okay, he doesn't have a fragile ego. He just has an ego, and what she did was stomp all over it. A man is born to or they're supposed to provide. Right, he was trying to provide even when you didn't even ask him, Right,

that's what you want a man to do. I think outside of his ego, I think what she did is kind of maybe prove a preconceived notion that he might have about single, independent women. Do you know what I mean? Like, because what did he say? That pride is a hell

of a thing. So you know, I think we know that a lot of women who have supported themselves, they've been independent for a long time, they don't want to accept a man's help because they don't want the man to think, right, I need to depend on you, right, And so I think she kind of proved his point, yes, that being in a relationship maybe you know, sometimes getting to know someone in a relationship in this predicament is a challenge because the females want to let the man

know I got this, I don't need your help. So I feel like that I don't even know if it's his ego. I think it was more like she was showing him like, yeah, I don't need you, which is not that he's like I need you to need me, but it's kind of like I need you to drop the guards, yes, drop all the walls. And you emasculated him, right. He is there to help you, boo. This is what you want a man to do, and you messed it up, right, And you got to think about it. This might be

his love language. This might be the way he shows that he, you know, cares about someone. He's listening to you and he's just like, hey, I hear you, I feel you. I want to help you out. So I do think, Sherry, that you were kind of the wrong in this situation. You dropped the ball, sharing and I dropped the ball. You fumbled the ball, Yeah, yes, yeah, because what he did wasn't wrong. No, it's not a red flag, it's not all Now, what you could have done was said, hey, I really you know, that was

so nice of you, so unexpected. But I don't want you to think that I was venting to you because I was asking for money. I just want to make sure you know that I was not trying to ask

for your money. Listen, every time from then on that we go out, after he sent me the cash app, I'd be like, oh my gosh, my roof, oh my gosh, might feed her ny News shoes, I would like, right if he if he's a type of dude that wants to do that, yeah, I'm gonna let you do it now, right, and you don't have to be my boo, right, we don't have to have a quote commitment, right. Yes. Yeah. So now she says, there, I don't be quiet over here.

I don't think you're I mean, I think if if it's like a no strings attached thing, like I don't, I mean, maybe there's other stuff going on where she feels like it was a you know, let me send this money and maybe I'll slide up in there or something. I don't know. But if this is a caring man that's listening to you and he wants to be generous and help you out, like, that's hard to find, you

know what I do. There is something to be said about women that are all like and people think you and I are like this, people think I'm like this that Oh my gosh, I'm a strong independent woman. I don't need a man and I financially no for children for procreation. No, but I do want a man to like be a companion and to like hang out with me and to listen to me because I got a whole lot of shit to say. So I need to

know that you're listening to me, and that is important. Now, if it comes what you're gonna send me with with you're sending me money, that's right too, but it's not necessary. Yeah but girl, you don't ever send the money back? Right? Yeah? Yeah, that almost. I feel like I don't think it's an ego thing. I think he's probably like I can't win here, no, like if she doesn't want to accept my kind gesture, I can't really win. Yes, yes, so she says we

are going on a cruise next month. Oh it continues, Yes, Okay, yes, she said the kickers. We're going on a cruise next month, paid in full, and I'm still going. But my family is saying that's shady of me because it's his family reunion cruise. That's not my fault and he's wrong, not me, So why should I miss my vacation? Am I being shady? Any thoughts would be helpful, but truth be told, my ass is still going. Okay, So who's I'm confused about

the cruise. It sounds like, okay, it's his family reunion's cruise that I'm sure he paid, that he paid for okay, and he paid for her, and that she's still going because it's like in her name. I guess yes, and she wants to have fun but they're not. But it doesn't. But it sounds like the relationship is over over and I'm still going on a cruise. So we need to tell her all the cruise. Make it right, Okay, drop

down and get your eagle on his penis. Okay, that's number one, number two, so you can accept the cruise. You can accept the vacation, but except for the furnace to be fixed, right, girl, you got your priorities mixed up? Yeah, I mean the man doesn't make sense, that's backwards. Yes, let the man pay for everything, right, I don't want to have nothing. So I feel like go back to

him and apologize. Yes, not because you are you know, independent and you're financially stable and you don't need his help. Just apologize that you didn't accept his kind gesture. And you didn't and you know what I'm saying, like, and so take all the I can do for myself part away, yes, right, and just say I'm really sorry that I did not recognize that you were just trying to be kind out

the goodness of your right. And lastly about that is a lot of times we want support and we want um validation and we want somebody to congratulate us, so to speak on on the hard work that we do. Right, right, you do want to do a guy to like acknowledge that, right, But him helping you out financially is not him not knowledging that right. He don't need to. Maybe you got it right, We understand you got your whole money. Now

spend it on you, not your furnace the end. Yeah, yes, so don't ever forget to live your life, either reasonable or shady. Reasonably Shady is a production of the Black Affect podcast Network. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows, and you can connect with us on social media at Robin Dixon, ten, Giselle Briant, and Reasonably Shady.