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we talking about? Let's see. Okay, So I don't really okay, this is still This is just something I wanted to share. This is you know, did not happen to me, but I witnessed it. It's another traveling story, Okay, because I have one too. Yes, um, so when we were on the plane on the way back home from Jamaica, and you know what, you gotta do what you gotta do. So that's how you're gonna start this. You gotta do what you gotta gotta do. Yeah, Okay, you gotta do

what you gotta do. So you know, they're all like, okay, the plane is about to take off. You know, everybody, put your seatbelts on. Everybody. You know, we're backing up from the gate and turn your turn. This off with whatever, all that all that ship, stay in your see, don't get up blah blah. You know, the flight attendants got their seatbuls bugle. Okay, And all I hear is this

little voice. I got a pee? I got it was a kid, yes, oh yes, So the little boys like behind me, it's like the row, you know, the other owl or the other side of the plane behind me. And I look and he's looking. He's like there with this his grandma. Right, she's just a little boy. And she's like looking like, oh, ship, Like what do I do? Oh ship? Grandma? What pulled out a cup? No? Pulled out the little penis a little way way No, and she directed that pee into the cup. I'm disgusted. I

am disgusted. This ain't shady. This is disgusting. What she but she didn't miss. I mean, I was like not trying to watch what I was watching because I'm like, I gotta see if she make it in right, they make it in the cup. He made it in the cup,

and you know grandma's shoe, you know. Chrisis averted. But it just made me think, I'm like, okay, so many things here like yes, you have to do what you had to do when you're traveling with kids and literally have to pee in the middle of take off, Like, well, don't you tell him to hold it? But a kid like literally he was like three to three, he was okay, he was real little. Yeah, he was real little. So you couldn't say just hold it until we take off. Now,

I mean, he kept I gotta pee. I got grandma a cup. I'm sure the little boy has done pete on himself. Well where did she get the cup from? What was in the cup? So the cup so I think, you know, like sometimes when you're um on a plane and they like give you a drink before you take off or something. So she had like, oh my god, let that okay, it's gone. Um. She had like one of those like plastic cups that you usually get on an airplane, right, so it was like a nice wide opening,

Oh okay, he was able to pee into. But then it just had me thinking like, oh my gosh, like that's when you get the heebie geebs, Like how much ship happens on these damn airplanes? Like how many little boys? How many little boys have pete on the seat? You know, I didn't make it, didn't have a cup and pete on the seat and now I'm sitting on it, you know what I'm saying, Like, it's just so many things to think about. So it's I mean the moment is shady, yes,

because like that's just grows. It's not Shady's disgusting. It's disgusting. But Grandma had to do what she had to do. Listen, Grandma, sometimes you just stuck it out right. Yes, Grandma, I'm not mad at you at this point, I'm not mad at her because she really was like like she had the look of like worry on her face. And then I looked at the people across, like right across the out and they were like like we were just looking at each other like what the fun like because they

knew what was going on behind them. Oh my god, Okay, I remember being pregnant and I took I was sick on the plane. I took out the the airbag and I threw up in it and then I put it back. Oh my gosh, Like, why didn't I just throw that in the trash can? Um? That that was disgusting. Pa, I'm sure somebody eventually threw it away. That's that was that was terrible that was absolutely terrible, disgusting. But that's not my shady moment. Okay, I have a shady moment,

your shady moment. Okay. As I told y'all, Ill spent some four or five days in London. Yes, okay, so outside of my kids, who walk really fast, and they had decided to like walk super fast and like leave me. That was and I like try was trying to keep up with them, and I'm like, my really, my heart started being fast because I'm like trying to keep up with my kids who are sixteen walking fast. Me and Grace are like slow out. But anyway, that's not there

the Twains being shady because they walked fast. It's not my shady moment. Okay, this is I have a shady question moment. Okay. So while in London, I decided to speak like I was from London, so you know, people would be like, you know, um so if I wanted. Oh, by the way, taxis are all over the place and like nobody really ubers and everybody takes taxis like New

York back in the day. I love and their taxis are you sit facing each other, so there's like two seats and then like a row and like you face each other. Okay, okay to like pull down seats. It's very cute. So um, I would be like, oh, I'd like to go, oh my god, oh my god, i'd I'd like to show my kids looking palace. Why why I can't even get it out? I'd like to show my my children Buckingham Palace. Why can you make sure that that you take a road so that they can

see Buckingham Palace? I was I don't know. I was talking British slash Jamaican. I mean, I don't even know what that is. So my kids were like, my, you can't do that because you're not really British. But I felt like I was paying them respect by using their same accent. That was respectful. I thought, um, no, negative, negative, Why would that be respectful? Because like, I'm speaking like

they speak. I liked the book they speak. So if you were in um, just let's say Mexico, all right, I don't know Spanish, okay, but you were speaking with an accent. I don't know Spanish. So the only way I pull this off is actually like English, because I know English and they speak proper English okay. So yeah, and they would always ask me like, what did you get into the queue? So you know, que is line right, and I'd be like, oh, yes, I cute. On the

other side, I was really busted the line. I was never staying in the line, and I would always say I cute, I cute, and oh my god, a lion anyway, so I felt like I was showing them respect. My kids were like, this is cultural appropriate disappropriation. Appropriate appropris so now, okay, So what if we're at an HBCU, right and there's a one white student in the class and every time he raises his hand to talk, he sounds like he's trying to sound like a black man. Okay,

that would be wrong. Is that okay, that's not okay? Okay, fine. So I was shady. I was shady in London, y'all. I was trying to speak like y'all. And apparently that was not good. But I was enjoying it because I feel like the way British people talk is like, so, it's beautiful. Interesting to me, it's beautiful, and you sounded

nothing like them. That's the other part. Like it what they probably oh my gosh, like lady beat it, if lady beat it, if you're going to talk like them, like, at least I don't know, make it sound good, like that's what I would in the morning. I would ask for cool songs. No, stop it, stop moving on. They don't say that CRU would like a proper breakfast anyway, Londoners, we love y'all. We know that you're a big fans

of Real Housewives and we do appreciate it. Okay, so we we last week did not talk about speaking of black colleges. We didn't talk about the fact that Zahara Jolie or Pitt. I don't know what her last name is, but Angelina is it? Julie? Oh, she's going to spell Man. I know how awesome is that? So for people who don't know what spelling is, Spellman is a historically black college, um,

and isn't all women's college in Atlanta. In Atlanta, it is very you know, prestigious, very prestigious, beautiful, amazing school. And the Jolie Pitts are sending their black daughter because she's like what I guess she like Ethiopian or clearly, um, they're sending into a black college, which I think is beautiful,

absolutely amazing. When so they had their like freshman orientation day and Angelina was there, and she was amongst all the other black mamas, and I think that they were having um dance off and Angela and Jelie didn't know what the hell was happening. They even do the electric slide. She is like electric slide. She didn't know what the want. Listen, you're not invited to the barbecue, Angelie, You're not invited. It's a hard can come anytime, but you ma'am, I'm

not invited. So do you think that she's going to come back for like parents weekend and stuff. Yes, that's her child. Yeah, but I love the fact that she was trying, Yeah, like she was trying to like fit in with the other black mamas. And but I saw Brad wasn't there. Um he's like out promoting a movie or something. Yes, he's he's he's playing the bills, but no, develment is not cheat. Yeah. I thought that's so cool,

Like that's that's Um. They did right by her, you know, because I'm sure she's lived a very strange, shelter privileged life. And you know, I wonder if it was their decision or if this if I want to came from the parents Angelina and Brad Orfree came from herself to say, you know, I want to experience something different. I want to wear my people. Yeah, I wonder how that happened. That's a good question. I'm sure she'll tell us one day.

I think, yeah, I'm sure somebody will interview her and ask her and she she will let the people know. But yes, I think that it is. She's going to get a fantastic education. It's funny because my kids were like, oh they they The question there they were asking was like, do we think she's going to be treated normally? Quote normally? And I'm like, yeah, anybody think about Angelina and Brad right.

And also there's like so many black celebrities send their children to Spellman right, Like, so they're they're as hard as not the first celebrity child either. So so yeah, she would be treated like everybody else, and she should be and that'll be the best thing for her. Now, um, speaking of being people being treated unfairly, all right, I know you don't know who this guy is, but my kids wanted me to be up on this dude named Andrew Tate. Okay, so Andrew take used to be like

a professional boxer or something. He's the guys like maybe around thirty five. Um, but now I think he's retired from this whole boxing gig. So now he has like this like one of the largest podcasts ever. I start typing in a N d R and his name comes up immediately, nice looking guys like a black No, what is he now? He's he's like a b He's American, British retired kickboxer, kickboxing internet personality and to that personality. Okay,

so his views on women are disgusting. He thinks that women once we're like over the age of twenty five, we're we're no good, We're ugly. He's like, you know, only like five percent of women are datable to him and the rest are trash. Oh and he has beat a woman with a belt. Yes, And some people allegedly are saying that he's a what do you call a sex trafficker? But I don't. I'm not saying that, So let me just say this. That's allegedly, but I can say that he has a huge following of young men

do who think that he is speaking the truth. It's kind of like a Cam Newton nish type, you know, Cam is like, I want a woman to cook and clean and have some babies. He's kind of like that too, and he's so articulate that you might even be like, mm oh, he sounds convincing. He might be saying something good.

But he was like, you know, if a woman has gone to a club before, then she's trashed to me, because I want to be able to have her experience everything the first time with me, not with you know, it's unattractive if she's like dated a bunch of people. Do you think he's doing this to get a response, to get attention now? I think he really feels his way, really, because I'm like, so, I'm googling him right now, and it's like, so he recently has gone viral. So it's

like all these articles, who is Andrew taiting? Why has he suddenly gone viral? And now there's all these calls you know, for TikTok to remove him, and so feminists have spoken out against them. So his response to feminists are where y'all are all ugly anyway, So I'm not even talking about you. So this is a feminist Giselle and Robin, and we're not ugly, Okay. I think he's doing this for attention. He's trying you know why he's doing this because he wants to up the anti for

future fights, like he wants to fight again. I don't think so, and does he looks? I think that that's kind of like your agent, Jake Paul targets fight with controversial kickboxer Andrew Tate. So it's like, now people want to fight him, Okay, but you need to ask you want to up the antie, You need to ask your boys if they've ever heard of this dude, because if they have and they listen to him, god forbid they subscribe to anything this man says out his mouth because

he is disgusting. I've never heard his name before, but I will. I will definitely ask and make sure they know that this is not this is not okay. I mean, I just I feel like people do do ship nowadays for attention. I really do, for a response for to go viral, Like I don't know, this is just like ridiculous, Okay. But speaking of on the other side of that, women's empowerment, loving yourself, loving your body, can we talk about Lizzo's new show, What's Up, y'all? It's Lizzo, I'm looking for

dancers to join me on my tour. Girls that look like me, don't get representations. Kind of pull up my sleeves, find them myself. We think, and we pretty and we know what we doubt. It's the battle of the big Girl. I don't know about show. Okay, let me tell y'all about Lizzo's Big Girl Show. Um it's something like Big Girl. Okay, yeah, it's like okay. So somebody called me while I was on vacation. They were like, you need to be like if you're like traveling or whatever, you need to watch this.

And I was like, I'm not a big Lizzo fan, just only because I don't really know a lot of her songs. So I was like, Lizzo, I'm not watching that Big Girls, like give it up for the big girls. Like you talk about I want to be a big girl, now I do. I've been watching it. I really want to be a big girl. Okay, So she needs to find she's Lizzo is doing a show at Bonaru, which is similar to like a Coachella, and she's a headliner, so she needs to find backup dancers and you know,

all of her backup dancers. She wants to be big girls. I get that. So she has auditions. She she picks like ten of them. She puts them in a big house and they have they have to do a nude photo shoot. They gotta do um learn all this choreography, I mean, all this stuff that they canna do. Because at the end of the day, Lizzo travels with these girls and they're like family. She never wants to have anybody around that's like, can't click with the fans, okay,

so she eats with them. She's like and she's always like, it's so powerful because it's all about empower and loving your body. Ever, it looks like she comes in and she's twerking and she got her throngs on. I'm like, damn, listen, I want to be a big girl. Cann audition for the big Girl. True, I'm not a big girl, but I mean I'm just like just loving the confidence. I'm

loving the confidence. And mostly girls are coming in not being obviously as confident as Lizzo, right, So that's a whole transformation that they're going through, and Lizzo is so loving to them and empowerment, empowering to them. It's beautiful. Wow. Okay, so what is this one? Amazon Prime? Check it out. Um, I'm not done with it yet, but there's like, oh and there was one girl. I'm just gonna give you all this right now. This is a little bit of a spoiler alert. She was like I hated her from

the first episode. I'm not gonna say what her name is. She was very toxic to the group, and she she thought she was on Real Housewives. Okay, so she was like fighting with everybody and listen. I was like, one of our rule says that there is no toxicity big girls, and so she was given toxicity more than noon tonight. Listen, listen, send her a package. So I was like, yes, listen, oh yes, ok so okay, So I like it all right. It's it's about confidence and being positive and supporting one another.

So I want you guys to watch it and if regardless of like what side you are, if you want to then become a big girl, because it's gonna make you want to become a big girl. Have you seen Claimed the Fame? No? Okay, it's actually it's very interesting. So it's on I want to say CBS. It's like a group of a bunch of people say, like, I don't know, twelve fifteen people in a house and they all are somehow related to a famous person. I've heard

about this. Okay, it's actually really intriguing. It's kind of funny. So it's like people in the house trying to figure out who's who, and then they have challenges and you know, somebody's at the bottle them and you know, if you figure them out, they got to go home. And if you if you guess wrong, then then you get sent

home and whatever. I don't know, so anyway, I just watched it and it was just like so like sometimes it's just fun just to watch like stupid TV where you don't have to think too much, but you're like intrigues, are you? You know, you go online and you're like Google, like, okay, who's in this house? So the ones? Okay, there's one on there and maybe she might be kicked off. By now it is one thousand percent clear that she is

simone Bows's sister. Like they look alike. She looks exactly like her, Like it's like she should not be on this show, right, but they're keeping her around. At least when I was watching it, they were keeping her around

because she's an easy guest. So it's like like they're not so when someone is kind of like it's like kind of her explained when they're like in the when they are appointed the guess or if they think they have an inkling about someone else, they're going to go for that other person instead of Mombo was a sister because they're like, well, we're gonna keep her around because at some point we're gonna need her because we know it's her. Okay, god, you know what I'm saying. Yes,

I don't know. So anyway, so it's like fun to try to like figure out like who these people are. And so like one girl when I got she got voted off. She's like Brett Farve's daughter. Um, Brett father, the quarterback, famous quarterback. Oh you know Brett, you go way back, Brett. What you said? It like, I know who that is. He's not my homeboy. Oh no, I don't know. No, he's not in any of my past. No I'm not. I think. Um, I think one girl's like will be Goldberg's daughter. No what, but we know

what she's Al Sharpton's daughter. Now she's in there, puppet she is the puppet Man's puppet. Yes, okay, I'm not mad at that. So I had to Google to figure out who she was. But she was in and she was like, you know, my father is a like they'll give you hints and stuff. Oh, they'll give you clues, and some of the clues aren't right. It's just I don't know. It's just really like it's kind of it's cute,

it's fun, it's like easy to watch. It's almost like a mystery, but it's like not that, you know, it's not like a murder mystery. It's like you're playing the game clue. Okay, So what what station is this on? I think CBS. Okay, so I'll check it out. Yeah, so I think I missed it last night. I need to catch up. But I was just like, and what do you win at the end? A hundred thousand dollars? I'll take that, right, okay? Yeah, and you're how long

are you there? Probably two weeks? You know, I don't know. I mean, so I wonder how often they have these eliminations because it's literally like it's at least twelve people. Okay, so they gotta they gotta get rid of they gotta get down to a winner. Yeah, but our Sharp's daughter she was. You know what, I want to google and see who got voted off yesterday? Okay, you google that. And in the meantime, what I do, like, what what's

the show? Um the mass singer? Yes, I'm like I'm always googling, like who is who is on this show? Who do people think it's on? Here? Well, we know Candy one one year we gotta give shout out to. So while you're googling that, I do want to bring up the fact that like up duping me, stop trying to make me believe in love. Love conquers all. Neo and his wife remarriage, we re wedding or I don't know.

They said they renewed there so they filed for divorces years ago and then they guess clearly didn't get they didn't go through with the divorce and they renewed their vows and then they had like a second second wedding all kinds expensive, and now they're not gonna be together no more. And that's what I'm just like, Neo, you knew you aren't gonna do right the first time, so like come on now, like don't stop it. That's I'm

moving on. Stop it. But how can you feel about people like so she put the neo's wife post like, you know, pretty much saying she was divorcing him or you know, breaking up because he's been like sleeping with prostitutes. And I don't know, like how everybody, how do you feel about people like making these public statements, especially when

there's children involved. I think that you should not. Um, you know, we we know a lot of people are going through divorce these days, and I think that you always have to be That's what you have to be aware of. The children are going to have a feeling about what you're saying about their parents at some point. Probably not then, but at some point if you're a public person, yeah, they can always google it and and

learn later. Yes, yes, So govern yourself accordingly and just you know, you don't have to burn people in the streets. Just get your money and go That's what I say. Just just get your if you have a prenup, get whatever the prenup says, and go the end. Um, oh she was eliminated our Sharpton. God, now I can't watch because because she was like, oh yeah she was she was pulling strings Okay, they had to get her up out of there. Okay, now I know one thing, oh,

a couple of things. Chris Brown and his meat and great. We did not talk about that, okay. If Chris Brown did not give me high school from yes, yes, okay. So if you go to Instagram and you pull up like Chris Brown Meet and Greet, you will see him taking pictures with all kinds of random people I wanted. First of all, I wonder how much he's charging for them. I heard there was a thousand dollars, a thousands and the people are able to take like any kind of

picture they want. This man, he's like, it's hilarious. He's like holding them from the back, like like from pictures, like his arms around this one girl. He was like bent down on one knee and she was like straddling the knee and then they were like all smiles, like he was really with this one. They were like all over him. But I think that's so cute. So first of all, people are like a thousand dollars, he's crazy

for charging a thousand dollars. Let's talk about that, Like, I understand why he's charging a thousand dollars, right, If he charged a hundred dollars, it would be a million people there, So right, so you gotta che like for him. He's got to charge a high amount to be able to control the crowd, you know what I mean. And he's allowing you to do whatever you want in the picture. I mean, sure there's like limitations, but like he's giving

you your full experience. But I'm sure those people didn't even know when they bought this thousand dollar meet and greet ticket that they were literally going to be able to take a picture with Chris brown and his arms would be fully wrapped around your back and your chest and your arms. It's given it to me. I mean, he looks like he's in love with every less and he looks like he's having fun. Yeah, like he's having a ball. So would you do that? So are we

splitting this if we're both given five with Chris browne? No, no, no, I'm saying if we if we had a reasonably shady show, would you take some extra cozy Why not? Now one is not allowing you to do that. Okay, let's just make that clear. I mean, I don't think want to be worried about true the people, it's true. I don't know, because they're they're up closing personal I mean, I don't I feel kind of weird about charging a thousand dollars

for it? Oh yeah, no know, I mean I don't think we would command I don't think we have not Chris Brown. I'll be honest, right, Um, but yeah, I wouldn't mind that. Yeah, yeah, even though I'm not, like, I don't really love meet and greets. I don't want to say that. I don't want to say that that's not true, but I feel like so for us meet and greets because they're so you know, you kind of like I have to you know, get through as many people as possible. You don't really get to spend great

time with them. So I think these pictures that Chris Brown is taking is giving them like the best memory of their life. Yes, And that's actually my issue with meet and greets, Like you really don't get to like

talk to the people and have a conversation. It's just like, hi, okay, picture and then you're going to see how Like I mean, if you're doing meet and greeds, so like they filed through, take a picture, you know, a little chit chat and then let them stay and do like a little intimate Q and a yeah, okay, okay, yes you know what I mean. I think then then it makes it. Then you feel like, okay, you're able to like connect a

little bit more. Yeah, And now that we're talking this out, you know, I would never want to do a Chris Brown situation because we're women. It's like man, man might start feeling your butt or something like and then a lot of like we meet women, we meet man, we met we meet straight man, we meet gay man, and so it's like, who are we taking a picture with

like that? Yeah? Now, yeah, I say no, I'm a past So if you want to if you were going to put that on that on the agenda for our next meeting, the answer is now I'm saying no. Okay. So we do have to talk about um, you have brought up to me how many photos or videos do you have in your phone? Who do you? Okay, first, do you think I have more? Do you think you have more? I think you have more? Um, And I'll

tell you even why this was like a subject. So my phone was like at capacity for storage, and when I looked at like how many pictures I had, I'm like, this is ridiculous, Like I shouldn't have this many pictures because like what do you do with all these pictures? Right? So I just I literally have been on a mission

to delete all the necessary pictures in my phone. Right. So, like think about when you take a picture, right, you take a selfie, you take like twelve versions of the same picture, right, and you just leave them there, like you don't you know, say, you just pick the one you post, the one you want to use, and then the red and then you're all these like crazy suns.

Or if like someone, if you give someone a picture of your phone, like, oh, take a picture of me, and they take like all these you have, like like so many pictures of the same outfit, the same pole, the same It's like, oh on my face is now I'm stiling Now, I'm cocking my head to the side to the right. I cocked my head to the left, Like which one do you need? You know what I'm saying. Okay, so before you started purging? Yeah, are you gonna give

me the number before you started? Because this is unfair robbing because I haven't purged, you haven't purged, and I just went on vacate and I have a million pictures in here, right, I'm sure you do. Okay, so give me the number before you decided to clear out your phone. Okay, and this so photos and videos? How many photos? Okay,

that's just start with photos, just photos, all right. So so I believe I have well, so I believe I have so far deleted like four thousand photos, so right, so that would put me at like, um like photos, okay, al right, so I only have nine thousand ninotos, so you have beat to me I have, which is crazy because like I stopped taking like I don't take that

many pictures anymore. And I think I stopped doing it because I'm like, I take all these damn pictures, I never do anything with them, yes, but nine thousands a lot. So right now, So after I've done some deleting, I have eight thousand three photos, and I have how many videos? Do you have? Two thousand, six d nineteen damn? What any videos? Because videos is like w's what's up? I mean videos you can like get into it. You can do a turn in a spin, you can cock your

head to the side and throw your ponytail. Honey. Well okay, okay, so I probably have deleted a thousand videos. So right now I have one videos. Okay, so we're about the same. But my videos are not of myself swinging my ponytail. There of my kids playing basketball and football, and like how many parents have videos of their kids playing sports and it's like, you know, they dribbled the ball out of bounds. You know what I'm saying, It's like, yes,

delete that, right. So I'm going through all that. I'm going through all the ones where it was like, okay that that was pointless. Okay, because when you're like filming your kids playing sports, you like record the video and then you stop and then instead of deleting right away, like you just accumulate all this stuff. So now I have I've got space on my phone. You do, I do, And I'm still going so, oh, I'm in year. I'm gonna tell you where I left off at because I

need to get I dropped my phone on vacation. I think I need to get a new one. Really yeah, And plus that body makes fun of me because I only have to, um, you have a ten. You have a phone ten? Yes, and listen, don't Robin Dixon is a hater, okay, because if you don't have an current iPhone because she always has a current one. I don't have. Did she lets you know? Well, no, if you have an old ass one, I'll let you know. I have a twelve. I don't have a thirteen. You know it's

thirteen out now, thirteen out now? Okay, Um, yeah, I have a twelve, but you got an old ass one. If you have an old ass one, you're gonna let you know. Like my mother, My mother must have a six. She has one camera. Oh my gosh, yes, probably listen. Ain't nothing wrong with a six. It still works. I'm trying to remember what year I think I've have paused at two thousand. Yeah, so I still got like three years pictures to delete. Okay, guys, this is this is

follow up Monday. Oh yes, this is follow up Monday. Okay. So a lot of times we talked about stuff and then we ask y'all to comment on whatever it is we talked about, or y'all just comment because y'all want to talk to us, And so we're going we're now

following up on some of the things that we have discussed. Okay, So, well, a little while ago, we were giving advice to a teacher who was an administrator, but now they're not an administrator and she wants to like hang out with her teacher friends because she's now a teacher, she's not an administrator, and the teacher friends and giving her no love, so or she just feels awkward because she's like, I went from being an administrator to a teacher, and it feels

awkward because they look at her, you know, as an administrator role. So we got some feedback from Stephanie. I won't give you a last name. Thank you Stephanie for um writing us and you say to me and Robin, you say hello, Robin and Giselle. I'm such a fan of both of the both of you, the podcast and our h op. In response to the advice that you gave to a former administrator, as a teacher that's been in the teaching game for a while, I can say that your advice was spot on. Go robb it okay.

There has always been a divide between teachers and administration, and having the former administrator be the one to not only plan a happy hour, but to be straight up about her reasoning behind it will hopefully help teachers see her in a different light or at least respect her. On some level, because let me tell you, if my current administrator all of a sudden became a former one and sent out a happy hour email, I'd be like, girl, buys um, you were never an allied to us as

an administrator, but now you're trying to do that. Good luck on your friendship endeavors. I say this is because one of my current administrators is so far removed from the classroom and is one of those persons who will put up her hand when she doesn't want to listen to someone speak anymore. That's rue, that's really, oh my gosh, And to top it off, she is not liked by

about the staff. Anyway, y'all offered great advice by putting the responsibility on the former administrator and letting people make their choice. I look forward to the next episode. So thank you Stephanie for letting us know that we we all hate giving some good advice. Were good. I'm happy to know that, yes, we told we we said, okay as the former administrator, And if you want to invite people around, tell them you know, hey, listen. I know I was in this position, but I'd like to get

to know you better. Blah blah blah, blah whatever. Yes, and you set up the happy hour and invite people. Yes, yes, up front about your feelings about it. I love that. Yes. Oh good. So yes, you did something right and listen so I got some more feedback. I continue to give, you know, say right thing and give good advice? Do I give because advice Robin you do sometimes sometimes, But on this this one, this was on me so um and I got multiple like d m s and emails

about this. I'm just going to read one of them. So this subject is over email etiquette. This is from Shannon. She says, Hi, ladies, I recently listen to your Shady Girl Summer podcast episode, and I must say I totally agree with Robin. Sorry, Jase. Okay, wait a minute, let me just stop you right here. I don't think email is where you show your personality. It's not about personality. She's about being courteous. Okay, continue on. We're going to continue.

We're going to continue, Yes, continue on. I am a reading specialist, and I actually teach my middle school students a lesson on email etiquette since the pandemic started and we were all learning virtually and at the time, the only way for the students to communicate with me was email, and their email messages were horrible. I always told my students that they write like they talk, and there's a

difference between informal and formal language. For instance, the way you communicate with your friends and emily is different from the way you communicate with your teacher. Anyway, I had an entire lesson on email etiquette. How to send the proper email message, A subject line, a greeting, the body of the message that must include why you were sending the message and any other important information, a closing, and your name. That's a lot, it is not. That is

a lot. You gotta give a greeting. You gotta give a subject, Then you gotta give a greeting. Then you gotta like talk about what you want to talk about. You got to say goodbye and thank you very much. If we're debating this, I mean, I just feel I cannot so, Robin, I agree with you. People need to learn email letter writing etiquette, but sadly it's not required as a teaching standard any longer. Sincerely, a frustrated educator. Shannon.

I also heard from a law professor who was like, yes, Robin, Like She's like, I'm gonna play this for my students, because her law students will literally like send her an email and just be like, here's my paper, and like that's it, you know what I'm saying, Like, and she's just like, Okay, that's rude. It's rude, and it's like, no, give me your you know, okay, but this, this is hello, Okay, this is what I think you're looking for in that

In that scenario, I think you're looking for. Hey, law professor, how are you hope you had a great now? How are you? Nope? Not a Hey, law professor, hope you had a great weekend. I hope you're feeling great about life. Here is my paper. I hope that you like it. Um, I would really hard on and I hope I get an a. Sincerely, Giselle. No, I'm not asking for all that, but that's what this conversation feels like. It doesn't, No, it doesn't. It should be okay, so what should it

be doing this? It can be Hi, I'm I am submitting my paper, you know, in accordance to the to the whatever was it called hands syllabus? Okay, syllabus. Thank you in advance for your time. Sincerely, Bob, why couldn't it be robbing okay or you know, hi, professor whatever. Okay, but if it was Giselle handing in her paper, it'd be like, hi, um law professor, see okay. My issue was that the person don't say hi, they don't say please,

they don't say things. Okay, but wait, wait, let me tell you what I would say, Hi, Professor so and so attached to my paper. Okay, Giselle, thank you sincerely, best best wishes. Probably probably not. It's the paper you asked for, the paper, I'm submitting the paper. Okay, what at least you said hi. I would say hi, because many times you don't say hi. Okay, So you have schooled me. So I'm trying to be better. Okay, I'm

trying to be a better person. I'm just saying, like if like my kids, if they if they were to write like that to their teachers and not say hi, miss so and so, if they're just like, um, my dog ate my homework, you know, say whatever, Like no, that's not okay, Like I'm not letting my kids get away with that. Okay, okay, very good and okay. And on the flip side, if someone you know, I have people reach out and say, oh, I'm interested in uh, you know, do you have any jobs and internships something.

If they're emailing me and they don't say hi, Like, if their first word is not hello or dear or hi or greetings, I'm not reading it. I'm not like you're you were not being considered. Okay. But this is what the other side of that looks like. I get the same d M s or emails about being an intern or whatever, and they're like twelve paragraphs long. They've given me backstory on how they grew up and their mother and where they came from. It are you freaking

kidding me? And guess what if they don't say hi, Hello, I don't want it. I don't want your backstory. If they can't start with a hello, it's not it's not going down, okay. So, so Carly has just pulled up an email that I have sent her just to try to prove for a point that I am rude, and it says, um, I needed some balloons for this event, so I said, I said, hi, Antoinette, which was going to be the balloon girl. Carly is my assistant, and I would like to see pricing for a balloon reef

for a small gathering. Thanks, just all, Brian, Do I need to get more than that? Oh? This is fine, that's fine. You said hi, oh, I said, Hi said thanks and you and you wrote your name. Okay, so I'm doing better. That's fine. Okay. Just be consistent, being consistent. Okay, all right, I just didn't get straight to the point. Okay,

just be consistent. Okay, I will do. And especially for a person, you know, if it's a student, if it's someone who's seeking a job, I mean, in a in a professional setting, always start with a hello, Hi, thank you, in a in a you know, closing all that please, thank you? Like it goes a long way, It does, it does, it goes along. But if I ever got an email that was just like straight to the point, I wouldn't be offended. We're yeah, but don't do it though,

because Robin's gonna get mad. So just everybody change your way because Robin is the email police. Hey, all right, we have got to go, We have got to get out of here. This is our episode. If you live your life, please don't ever forget to live it. Reasonably or shitty by Reasonably Shady is a production of the

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