| Ep 42 | Marriage is Shady

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hear you in person. Yes we do, Yes we do. Okay, So I have a reasonably Shady moment because I'm actually boiline piste off. Okay. So about a month ago, I have landscapers. I've been using them for maybe ten years, okay, and they were at my old house. Now they're at my new house. And the guy who owns the company, he came and he was like, all right, Jaselle, because you know, I told you all about the deer. Remember I told you all my folio, um and you guys, by the way, sent me all of these tips and

tricks to get rid of the deer. And I'll go over those in a few minutes. But anyway, so he was like, all right, I'm gonna replant some other things that deer don't eat. So I was like, okay, cool. We went over all of that. He was like, we're gonna do a spring clean up. Yeah, nothing has happened. I have weeds growing that are like you do. Actually it's horrible. My house looks crazy. I look like I'm broke or something like I can't afford a freaking landscape

or where are these people now? I understand that they are backed up because it has been raining, and I think they don't have any workers or something. I don't know. I don't care if ya don't come cut my grass. I can't even fire them because if I fire them, I can't get another landscaper because I think, I mean put back. I don't know. Michael might be available. Listen, listen. My people got five more minutes, and then I'm going

with Robbin's people. Okay. So I put that out there, and I even text him and said, okay, when y'all coming, no response, Oh my gosh, yes, I don't like. That's frustrating because I was at your house the other day. It was a little like the wild Wild West. It was. It was I can't even admit I'm over here looking real crazy jankie in the streets. Um. Okay, So do you have a reason? So okay, I mean I was gonna say I don't because I can't even think straight.

I'm my reason with shady moment, is it? I'm so freaking busy. I'm so busy and my head is about to explode and pop off. So that's it, Okayorry, It's all I got for you. Okay. So I want to I want to um read something because you know, y'all always send us a little like tip bits, and y'all send the stuff, um and then sometimes y'll just send me something. I laugh. Okay, so this is from Aaron Plotty and she said, Um, you helped me smoke twenty

less cigarettes a week. Oh. I've been listening to your podcast and you said something about not having to depend on things and it got me to thinking, and I want to say thank you. I don't remember saying that, but if I can help you with your cigarette habit, that is awesome. I did a good thing. So you know, we're just gonna continue down this road because obviously we're helping people out here and that's awesome also. Okay, so now now that I'm gonna roll here, let me let's

get back to the deer. Okay, So y'all sent in. I said a couple about a month ago that my dear ate my tulips, was very upset. And then all of a sudden, y'all started, Um, deem me me like things to get rid of the deer. So one lady in Tyson says she owns a salon. She said, girl, all you need to do is like get human hair and like sprinkle it all over um your your flowers, and the deer won't eat it because it's human hair.

She was like, I have a salon. You can come by and you can pick up a whole bunch of human hair and sprinkle it. And I was like, this sound crazy? Now that do sound crazy to me? I mean hair? Okay, I'm well see, I'm I'm curious to see if that works. Number one, but like, how long is that less? Because I would think if if the wind blows, maybe the hair will blow away, like or if it rains, it's something something's gonna happen. I don't know.

It was really weird. Somebody else told me to sprinkle p around human p sound supposed to pee in a bucket and just get to sprinkle it. Is that what happens? Yeah, I can't do that. Okay, don't do that out? How about do do that? Like for what? But Carly shaking like it works? Carly says it works. But how long does that work for? It works until it rains? I guess okay, okay, I'm not doing that one either. So

that's I'm still having deer issues. Bb gun. That's that's also want to say, dear, it's a product called deer off. There is so because so there's deer. It's kind of like you put it in the dirt. So you put it in the soil, and then the plant grows and it grows, and deers don't like it. Right done, that doesn't work, and then the deer off is just like the p the sprinkling the p like once it rains, you gotta do it again. No one has time for that, No they don't. So anyway, I just want to thank

you all for sending me your tidbits. Not gonna use them. I think you trying to hair the hair, but it's supposed to go to the salon and type. Maybe. Okay, next time I see Cal, I'll tell you just pull one of your wigs apart. Okay, anyway, my wigs are expensive. Okay, anyway, moving on, okay, robin um. Oh another thing. So I post it about a month so ago that Grace Brian's that would be my daughter, she got a driver's license

and she zoom zooming all around town. I want to tell you all you that was so many people responded with the congratulations to Grace, maybe five people, and so I just want to say thank you, and I just want to thank you obviously because you you guys are on the lookout for her. So if you see her on the road driving fast, tell her slow down. You had my permission, Okay. Um, alright, so we rob we gotta get into some hot topics. Alright, what are we talking?

So I kind of don't want to talk about this, but I know it's near and dear to your heart? Is it Jennifer and Benner engage? You know what I had to say? I had the same response. Actually, I think I'm like over it there because you because I was excited that they were back together. But now I'm just like, we know how this story is going to end, right, how is it gonna end? Are they getting married? They're

going to break up, They're gonna break up. They're going to break up, and then she's going to be in a relationship two weeks later, No, I'm sorry, two days later with Bradley Cooper, like it's just this not Bradley Cooper child. Like Bradley Cooper said, leave him out of it. I mean, I'm just saying, had Jennifer Lopez literally I don't know what. I had an epiphany and I was just like I don't care that they're engaged. I really don't, okay,

because I'm just like, this is a cycle. It's like a story that happens like over and over and over again with her. It's so weird, and it's so weird that like she'll literally break up with someone and then like it feels like five minutes later she's in a full fledged relationship with someone else. Yes, seen from what was it? From Mark Anthony to back up up, I mean I know, I mean, yeah, we gotta go way back. We gotta go Puffy, we gotta go before Puffy. That

the marriage the dancer guy right, Christian Christian? Okay, so before Chris. It was the the marriage that from the waiter, the waiter. Okay, so it's waiter, dancer, Puffy, the rapper, m Ben, Ben, Mark Anthony, Mark Anthony, the now back to Ben and there and there probably with somebody in between that we missed. Oh yeah, like that she doesn't talk about. Listen, listen, Jennifer, get yours? Do you Boo? I should collect them Rang. She's been doing Boo, she's

been doing her but now we're over it. It was like a green diamond or something. Oh it is, So it's a green green diamond is a that's not that I don't know. That was the thing I don't think that's a thing. So it's just like really an emerald. It's an emerald. No, it's really light, it's pale. It's a pale green. Oh it's tim ben do want you do that and save your money? But you know, it's like weird to me that, like Jennifer Lopez even cares about having a ten million dollar ring. You've had fifty,

You've had so many of them. Like, girl, what happened to the ring he gave her before? Did she give it back? I don't know, because that one was a pink diamond, right or yellow? That one was something different too. Yeah, I don't know. Okay, listen, I want him to have taken the first ring and gone to the jeweler and said, okay, I'm giving you this, put this down on it, and so it's really not ten, it's really like five. There. Maybe I'm spreading that room. He probably used that other

ring for Jennifer Garner's ring. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, oh no one. And Jennifer Garner has not We have not gotten a comment from her at all. Jennifer Garners her old, happy jolly self. She fine. We love Jennifer Garner, so I would like to talk about this Cam Newton situation. Yes, from Yeah, so I you know, Cam is an interesting guy. He seemed like, I mean, he's not in the league anymore. Right, he's a free agent. He's a free agent, and after this,

he's probably never gone back. Probably, I don't know, I mean, unless somebody signs him, you know who knows. But I think he still wants to play. But he's not he's unsigned. He's unsigned. Okay, So so tell me what happen around because I'm I don't I'm not him, Okay, So um, this this is what happened. He went on a podcast and he was speaking freely. These podcasts get people in trouble, Yes they do, because they're speaking freely about their opinions

or about their life and their experience. And then you know, all the social media gets all, you know, up in arms over what they said. So he says he made some comments about women. He was saying something like, you know, you got all these women out here who are like bad you know, they call himself a boss bitch, a

bad bit he said. But he said, now, a woman for me is handling your own but knowing how to cater to a man's needs, he said, And I think of times when you get that aesthetic of like, I'm a boss, bitch, I'm this, I'm that He's like, no, baby, but you can't cook. You don't you can't cook. You don't know when to be quiet, You don't know how to allow a man to lead. So these are his comments. So of course people don't like this comment, right, do

you see? You gotta understand his perspective, what perspective. He is a highly paid athlete who is used to having to being catered to his entire life. So if what he needs and he's like, he don't need a bad bitch that is has a career of business that's contributing financially to the home. He wants and needs a woman that's going to cater to him. He wants a woman that's going to cook, that's going to you know, just

provide what he needs from her. Now he's going to realize one day, uh, that that ship is temporary, right, but but he's still this the whole I'm him being the athlete and him being with a woman that is

catering to his needs. Okay, he's going to realize his career is over and he's gonna have to He's going to have to bring something to the table to other than money, right And okay, And if you're in a long term relationship with a woman like that and you start off that way, women evolved, So she might have started off that way, but he should expect that woman to evolve eventually and want to do something for herself.

So I just think he's still in that spoiled cater to athlete mode because he probably still wants to play in the NFL. He's very highly paid. But right now, could he rest on his money? Like, can he retire on his money? Yeah? Absolutely, okay, absolutely, So he might actually never change that perspective. He might always want a woman that's going to cater to him. And what's wrong with that? What is wrong with that? If? No, no, no, what is wrong with that? If Cam Newton wants his

woman to cater to him, that's nothing wrong. So that's the problem when people get so upset with people's comments. He's speaking from his perspective. He's speaking what works for him. He's not, but he put it out there broadly, like y'all women don't know when to stop talking. Yeah, But he's only speaking from his own experience, you know what I'm saying. So it's like, what is wrong with him saying? Yeah, you might be this, that and the other, but but

can you cook? About it? They just want you to cook the skyle, Yes, open your legs. It cater to them like And if that's what he wants, then that's what he has because I have some wants to write exactly. Okay, So so I just I just have a daughter. He got like seven kids, right, So so is this what he is? This what he wants for his daughter to um, just cook for a man and have sex with them and shut the up like that's horrible it I mean it is, but I'm I'm just saying that's his perspective.

And so if he's if he if his daughter is like, daddy, I want to marry an NFL quarterback, well he might be, well, daughter, you better learn how to you better learn how to cook and cater to that man's niece because that's what this highly paid NFL quarterback is going to want his woman to do. With that perspective, Robin, Um, fine, right, that's what he wants. But but but he has you got to realize he's out of touch he's so out

of touch. So like him him commenting on anything about you know, relationships or what he wants in a woman. It's out of touch. And so people are getting all upset with him about his perspective. But we got to realize he's so out of touch. He does not live in reality, has not lived in reality probably since he was like a twelve year old kid, and you know, watching his mother, he married or got a significant other. No,

he's not, he's not married. I know he had a long time, a long time girlfriend that he had a bunch of kids with and then yeah, and then I don't know, I don't because she talked No, you know why. They probably didn't work out because she had all these kids and she had to cater to the kids and wasn't catering at him no more, right, and then all of a sudden she had an opinion, So I had out opinion. So so this is thing, Okay, like cam Newton, if that's what you want, then just just be prepared

for what you're going to receive. You're probably not going to have a woman that's well rounded, no, or that is ambitious or motivated, or that's going to bring anything to the table, but cooking for you and having sex and making sure you're okay. Like that's so if that's what he wants, that's what he wants. I think. I think that's what I want. I don't think I've decided I don't need all your back talk, right, I don't

need all this. Oh we gotta talk about how we feel? No, we don't, but you know, I mean it's like I just hate when you know, it's just like people just get so up in arms and oh they want to drag people through the mudd on Twitter and do all this, and it's like, no, just step back and realize, like his perspective where he's coming from. I get it where he's coming from, and it's different. So it's like, ladies, if if you want to marry or date an NFL quarterback,

then that's what you got in Cam Newton's talent. That's what you got to bring to the table. He don't care if you own a business, he don't want that. And everybody to to get out here what you want now. Now, if it was Joe Joe Schmo collecting you know on the trash truck, he tripping, Okay, you're tripping tripping dude. All right, you know what I say, Joe Schmoe, I

got something. I got some back talk for you. Or even if rightly it's twelve o two, you're not home right out of here, right, but imagine like, okay, if Barack Obama said that, yeah, we got a problem saying because he's speaking for he's representing the masses, he's you know, influential. But Cam Newton a quarter ba. But let's look at Tom Brady. You know he has Giselle and she was obviously well, first of all, we know Jase got a mouth, okay because she didn't share that um. And we know

that she's like no wall flowers. She's not like I mean, she she wasn't home making having babies, but I could. I don't I see her being more of a partner for him, right, probably so, But that's what works for Tom Brady. True, you know what I'm saying, Like I think you know and and and I think it's different Tom Brady he got with supermodel Jell And what I'm saying, so his perspective, he's going to come into that relationship little, He's going to be the the one catering too her, right,

and him like just called Uber eats Cam. I mean that serious? Is that serious? I know? But you gotta understand they're used to not just their women cater to them, it's their coaches and the trainers and the parents and the fans and the like. They're they're used to everybody around them catering to them and making stuff happen. They don't even know how it happens. They don't even they don't know what goes into it. So it's just like, yeah, so like like why like y'all leave him alone? Okay,

we're moving on from camp. Okay, now I do want to talk about there was a Russian influencer, right that cut up a bunch of Chanell bags. It's a bunch of It was like a little movement apparently on Instagram, right. I don't I don't really know much of this. So so Chanel, you know, with this whole and can you believe that this Russian Russia and Ukraine war is still going on? Which is better? No? I mean it's it's horrible. Like I mean, we could go, we could, we could

talk for hours about the atrocities of this war. But so apparently the Chanel stores in other parts of Europe were denying Russian people um the ability or privileged to buy their Mergerise listen Chanelle's gang stuff. Chanel has taken a stand. I'm not mad at it, and I'm not sure if it was like one country or a bunch of countries, but somewhere a Chanel store said you Russian,

you ain't buy. No, you're not buying ourself. So the Russian influencers got mad and we're literally on Instagram cutting their channel bags. What how were they cutting them? Not just like regular senses that you buy a CVS. What were they using these bags? Because I got plenty and then you can't cut them? How you could? You could

get it? They probably had knives and they were getting in there and cutting those bags, And I'm like, damn it, y'all, why didn't y'all just like you could have just sent them, sent them the ribbing. You know, you don't have to cut them. I mean, because let's couldn't they could have taken video of them packaging their channel bags, putting it in a box and putting a shipping label on it

and dropping it off at ups. That would have made a stake, That would have made a statement because we all know channel bags are like, um, they don't depreciate, they appreciate, so you can sell your bag and get more money. But I guess those girls were like, you know what, we don't need your damn bags, and we're gonna cut this ship up because money ain't a thing, but it is. You're just a Russian influencer. Yeah, I mean you need Yeah, that's what you do for a living.

Like I mean, did they get plenty of hits? Did they what did they get to an Oligard? Okay, the yacht with their oldergarden. I've been looking for a Oligard. I'm just kidding, Okay, And you're going to be catering to that man and show I know, I know, shutting the hell up and me and all of his eight hundred girlfriends like hell no, Um, listen, that's why you know, not being in a relationship is a good thing because

then you can tell other people shut the funk up. Okay, yeah, yeah, exactly. Um, Okay, so that is insane. But I'm not mad at you now for that. But but I ben't gonna stop the war. But but what it does do is it reminds me a little bit because it's like where do you draw the line right? In all series? Because remember when Oprah couldn't go into Herman's like she got she they wouldn't let her in. She I think she was in London.

She tells a story like she tried to get in and they kind of like it was like late, like it was the store was getting ready to close, and they're happening to me and Louis Vuitton and Florida that last week. They're like, do you have an appointment? I was like no, We're like, well, you can't come in. Robert Dixon was Black Hall from Louis Vadon. What happened? Robert? Why you this is your shady moment of the week. But that was like a few weeks. That was when

that was. That was when we were on break. Okay, so they didn't let you in. No, they're literally at the door. It was the mall um in Florida. So no, what's it called? Not sorry, what's the Evan torm all in Florida? Okay? And I went my kids and we about to walk in there and the ladies standing there with a tablet and she's like, do you have an appointment? I said, no. She said, well, you're gonna have to make an appointment. You can come back tomorrow. I said,

I never mind, I am not coming back that. But I said no, thank you and walked away. Did she explain to you why you needed an appointment? I guess you need one. I don't need an explanation. I guess you need an appointment to go into the store. Probably because people run up in there and steal their ship and run out. I don't know. Oh, well there's there is that. So so I was like, okay, whatever. My kids were like, don't they know who you are? Apparently

she does not have Bravo on her cable package. Okay, I'm like, damn, I'm not about to steal a dozen ship, right, and you might even buy something right listen. But they didn't do that to me at the Gucci store. I just walked right down to the because Gucci knew who you were, and they said, move over, here comes Robin and the boys. No. I mean, I ain't buying nothing, but okay, okay, alright, really quick, y'all, and this is this is going to be our first and reasonably shady history.

I have another appointment. I need to get to so I'm going to hand my mic over to Carly. Yes, okay, so Carly is gonna take my place. But but I really wanted to be here for this topic. So we have a really cool topic to talk about. Um, it came from a busfeed article and I think this is a good discussion for people to have. So the topic is married people are sharing the brutally real things unmarried couples need to know before taking that step. This is

gonna be good. And I just think, you know, we just talked about Cam Newton and what he wants in a woman, so we know you know the truth about Cam Newton. So if you don't like that, don't marry him. Right, But anyway, so this is a really good topic. So they have a whole bunch of topics you can go over. So Carly. Everyone give a warm welcome round of applause with Carly because Robin gotta hop off and go do something else. Yes, okay, so here comes Carlie. All right, So, um,

I'm gonna read this whope this one thing. Okay, So marriage is rarely marriage is rarely too strong people, Right, in a marriage, you have like maybe one strong person the other one is not so strong, like somebody always has to take the lead. And a relationship, Um, it's about taking turns, about being strong for each other, all right.

So that's kind of like the premise. Okay. So the most valuable piece of advice that was received from a married couple in advance was you're vowing to stay together. You are not vowing to stay the same people. Oh, that's very important. That is extremely important. By the way, this is Carly, dump dump dumb. It's not Robin's voice anymore. It's Carla. Okay. So somebody told me that when I first got married, they were like the person the people

that you are now. As a matter of fact, Jamal and I went to marriage counseling, right, A lot of people don't do that. People don't do that. I think it's very important. Um. So the counselor was like, um, you know, the person that you're married now will not be that person you know down the road because you

want the person. And it's a it's a strange concept because it's like you're marrying the person in the moment, yes, and then you realize that person is not even that same person a year later, Yes, a year later, six months later, ship thirty days, damn it not so so the person says, yes, I really hit home and they found out that information. And honestly, the more I thought about it, the more comfortable I have been through all

the changes. My husband and I are not the same people we were thirteen years ago, but it's been wonderful growing with him. Now that's a good news story. Okay, let's talk about the bad because you know, let me just say this, Gezelle is not the same person that she was m M five years ago, five years ago. Like, I really like when I'm home and I'm alone. I really like when I don't have anything to do, um,

because you're always so busy, right, so I think. But I think if I was married to that same person, right, because Jamal likes to be out and about, he's all over the place, right, I would not be together because I truly like to be home and doing nothing. Like when I get up in the morning, I'm trying to figure out how many more days I have to do this before I can do nothing. So yeah, that's that's like, you need to know how the other person is growing, right,

and whether you're going to like that person. I also think that as women, we do a better job at being accommodating and understanding how they're changing where I think men got to get stuck in their ways because they married us for who we were at the time that they married us. They want us to look the same, They want us to act the same. They don't want us to be any different talk than who we were day one. Listen and I'm gonna change. Okay, I'm gonna

do something called change. Now. Treat your spouse better than you treat strangers. We are friends who were polite to service people and distant acquaintances, but skip the manners with their spouse. Please and thank you. You guys show some appreciation. Now, that is very true. But that's even true with family, right, So, like, you know, you might treat your mom or dad, or your sisters or brothers kind of like you take them for grant it, and you can't do that. Like the

pleasing thank you. It's a small thing, but it makes such a difference to make you feel appreciated and wanted and desired. All of those things are super important, and we totally lose that. They'd be like do this, do that, and they'll be like please, you'd be like no now, okay, no anybody talking to me like that. But um, I get it, Like people just get comfortable. Don't be getting comfortable with your spouse that you can't say thank you.

I mean, even in the bad room. If he does a trick or two that's new, say thank you baby. That was good job, good job that you you flipped me over and you did the special trick. Yes, good job. Let me tell you something that's very important, all right, So you gotta pick and choose your battles. You gotta learn to let no some This was advice I did get. You have to pick a matter of fact, my mother gave me this advice. Did you implement it? Okay? So

the advice is to to learn to let some stuff go. There. There will be points you are going to want to kill each other, but you will figure out, figure it out, and move on. So don't stay mad forever about something that probably isn't that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. So, in other words, you gotta pick and choose your battles. Um did I implement it in the beginning years. Absolutely, not like I was mad about everything. But but where do you draw the line?

I don't know where do you draw the line where you're not now sacrificing yourself right in your happiness and your peace. So you have to figure out what battles are. Like when I said it was mad about everything, I'm going to put this in perspective. Please, Why are your socks over there in the corner when they should be in like the hamper? But it's not really about the socks, Yeah, because I don't want to sock there, No, But I really think there was a bigger issue. Socks is just

like the straw. Okay, So why is there toothpaste in the sink? Like you couldn't have like washed that down? So was he doing that day one though? Probably was he doing that when y'all were dating? Okay? So why is there like hair everywhere? Like it's just ridiculous, Like it's just so much. So you get mad at all these things, right, and then all of a sudden one day you just go to hell off right because you've kept it in all this time you should not have.

So you gotta pick it to your battles. You gotta figure out what's important and what's not, and you have to figure out what is going to progress the relationship. Yes, but what's important to you may not be important to him, clearly, like, and that's most most maps. I think that's most men. Like they're like, what's the big deal? Like, is it really bothering you? Yes, it's bothering me. Pick up your damn stinky socks. But I'm sure there are things that

bothered him about you. Did he bring it to your attention? And how often? Um, that's that's true. I won't say what those things are, but that is very true. Because what tell you have flaws? I mean occasionally every now and again on Thursdays. I have flaws, yes, but I'm down with, like you telling me what was the issue or like what you would like to see change. I might not change it, but you could just tell me in a nice way, but you have no intentions of

changing it. Let me And how did that work out? So clearly everybody knows I'm divorced. But he had a problem. I can say this he had a problem with because my kids were very young. I was having babies, and you know, I decided I was no longer getting my nails done. I just decided I'm done with that. Was that something he really wanted? You to do. Yeah, he hated the fact that I didn't get my nails done. That's because you had small children, has small Children'm gonna

have babies. And I just was like always washing dishes, washing their bottles, you know, handling them. And I just didn't want these long nails. I just there was just something I had to let go. But where your nails looking raggedy. My nails was looking raggedy, like you were scraping them against concrete, scraping them against concrete on this one. Sorry, but I just was like I've I've had, you know, when when it comes to female maintenance, right, we've got

our eyelashes. We've got I mean, everybody's different, everybody's different, but for me, so there's hay most of us hair eyelashes. You know, you have to you know, every now and again, not as regularly. You know, you got to get your maybe go to your institution, get your face hooked up. I thought you were going somewhere else with that waxing you got. Yes, okay, so there's look like shirt was forest,

no forests over here, and then toes. Yeah, so that's and then and then nails on top of that, nails and feet. Okay, so I just decided to let one thing go. I couldn't do it anymore while the babies were small. But that that was for you know that that makes sense. Yes, And he didn't get that. No, he didn't get they didn't really care. Was he helping you with the baby? No? I mean okay, not like that. Okay, he was traveling and you know he was doing his

man thing, going his past the thing. Yeah. So and that was totally fine. Like you know, I was definitely let's get let's we're gonna circle this back to cam Newton, okay, okay, because when I first got married, I was all about like catering to him and making sure he was good and definitely not like not saying any not she just shut up. No, that was never me. You know. I was always giving my opinion as I should, but very much into making sure he was catered to. Right. Is

that because you felt taken care of? Like? Is that all you had to do? Did you have any other responsibilities before you had children? But to cater to him? Well no, I was like helping him with the growing of his church and all that. So that but in essence, that was still catering to him, okay, but that was fine, It was fine with that. But I'm there's no way I could be that person today. Oh no, no, no, So them people do evolve and grow and they become

better versions of themselves as they should be. But like Robin said, that's why you find that person that they are perfectly happy with doing that. Like, if all I have to do is that, I'm okay with that. If that's all I have to do, just I don't have to worry about nothing else all this and not talk. Well he did? He really? When I think he said when he meant be quiet, I don't think he meant like, we can't have a conversation. We can't you can't have

an opinion. I think he meant that all of that exactly. He don't want to hear all that. And I'm paying for everything, and you don't have anything else to do. What are you nagging me about? What are you complaining about? So, Carl, you could do that? I think I could what okay? But so so what about your aspirations, your businesses, whatever is you want to do again? I don't think he said that you can't do that. I just think he meant to say that that's not what he necessarily needs.

I don't think he thinks that his woman should not have any aspirations. I mean he could. I can't beat that. Well, he was like, y'all talking about y'all bitches. That's having aspirations and getting out there. And I think it's how it's presented. I could still have my business, I could still have aspirations, but I'm not bringing it to you like I'm better than you, or that I'm competing with you. Compete exactly. You can't compete with Cam. And I think

that's what he was saying. I think Cam' is whack whatever. All right, this is last, but not least. Do not get married during the honeymoon phase. Okay, wait until it's been at least two or three years and you've seen them happy, sad, glad, angry. You gotta see all all of those emotions. Yes, happy, glad, sad, angry. Listen, angry will make you break up, but you need to see that. You need to see how that person is going to handle anger and how does it affect you. How are

you handling anger with that person. It's very necessary, like you can't just oh, he's always happy, there's nothing wrong. You know, you have to know how these people are going to deal with serious situations, you know, um downfalls, Like what if he lost all his money? How is he gonna rebound from that? I hate it for him because my money is my money, and whatever is that you've got going on, you're not gonna help him yourself? Child, Please, but you know what I'm saying. I'm saying old you.

I don't know you might be like if you don't come correct and already have your ducks in order, I can't fool with you. I can't fool with you. I'm sorry. That's that's most of us at this age. Yeah, Like I need you to have your ship together. Yeah, I got people I need to have to take care of their called children. And that's the only people you should have to take care of besides yourself and right, so, and I'm going to be rocking out doing me for

a very long time. I love that. Yes anyway, all right, we've got to get out of here. So I just need for y'all to understand that you've got to live your life either reasonable or shady, or both or both. By reasonably shady is a production of the black Affect

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