A Little “Curry” In Your Life

it is a doozy for me. Okay, So, a couple of weeks ago, we had a dietitian I believe that was we were talking to. Her name was what's her name to the trainer trainer, but yes, we're talking about nutrition with yes, And she said, asparagus it's great to eat, okay, um, it helps you lose weight, it tastes good. Just put in an oven like for like fifteen twenty minutes and roasted up and you're gonna be like feeling like a

million bucks. And I was like, you know what, I was sick of kale because I've been a kale girl for like ten years. Kale, I'm done with you. Broccoli, I'm done with you. Two because Brocoli, you give me gas. Okay, so um Carly our director of operations, she said, but you know that asparagus makes your um piasting God, and I can't believe you didn't know that. Well I did know that, but to what degree I did not know.

So I went out of town with my kids last weekend and there was a whole lot that went down with the with our room that I had. I had booked a Sweet I'm in Tallahassee, by the way, I had booked the Sweet, but this hotel I don't know guests through that reservation in trash can. So we ended up in like this little small room. But whatever, We're only there for yeah, maybe maybe another episode. That would be my shady moment. So I went to go eat and my kids were like, Mom, you have funked up

the whole room. Were you farting? What did you doing there? Oh my god? And I was like, oh my god. My piece stinks. I mean like stink stinks, like horribly stinks. So long story short, asparagus, you are shady. You are shady, okay shady? So are you no longer eating it? Now? So this is the deal, guys, I actually really love it, So I'm gonna eat it, but not as much as before, okay, or just eat it when you're like when you know you're not going to be peeing around other people? Right,

when does that happen? Like you're at home, like eating for dinner and you're using your own private that's true, that's true, very true. So so if I'm if this, but this would make any guy run away from me. So if if there's any dayting going on, then asparagus, I cannot eat asparacus. You're shady. I want everybody to be clear on that. But I don't want anyone to like not eat asparacus because it's really good for you. I know exactly. So you know, just if you're if

you're around a guy or whatever, just give them the disclaimer. Okay, my piece stinks, yes, because I'm being healthy because I'm being okay, Okay, I didn't fart, I didn't go number two, it's just my pe Okay, got it because of its serious right, Yes, that's it. Okay, that's it. Now do you have a shady moment? I mean I just have a frustrating moment. So you know, we moved in a new house. The first thing my kids want is a

basketball court. Not just my kids, but my husband wanted to So it's like, we have to have a basketball court. And I was ready to like put this basketball court in and something told me this was literally yesterday something and we're scheduled. Actually they're out there doing the court now.

Something told me, Um, why don't you talk to the builder to make sure, like, you know, there's no issues with putting this basketball court in long story short, I mean it's actually like, you know, a little silver lining. Um if we if I had gone with my original plan, yeah, I would have been in trouble with the county. I would have been like building the court on on in an area for like a utility easement, a ten foot utility easement. So I had to reduce the size of

our basketball court by ten feet. So is it a half court? It was always a half court, but it was literally going to be like a court, a whole half court that would allow them allow them to like shoot three pointers from every spot on the court, from the corners, from the top of the wings, whatever. Now we have to reduce it by ten feet, so they can't get their corner three point shots. So they just

they just have a file line. They shoot, come to file so they're shooting from like what kind of corner, talking about it's still in this this thing and I have to care my son, Corey, well this why why can't you do this? And why why why and just do it and bub and I'm like no because if some and I'm like want, I mean not want, Corey, if someone from the county comes back here and sees that this court is on top of this easement that's supposed to be here, like they can literally find me

and tell us to dig it up. And he's like, well, so what just paid a fine boy? Get little boys? Exactly? He needs to get a little boys. So our dreams of having this amazing full half court basketball have been shattered. Well, clearly, Robbing, you're part of the wrong family, and we're going to talk to the right family today as it relates to basketball. Okay, we have a guest with us and her name is we'll let you introduce her Robina. So our guest today

is none other than the beautiful Saddel Curry Lee. Um. A lot of you might know Sadel because she belongs to a very prestigious basketball family. Okay, Her father is Dell Curry. He played sixteen years in the league. Her brother is the amazing Stephen Curry UM. Her other brother who plays for the Golden State Warriors. Her younger well, I guess middle brother is Seth Curry, who plays for the seventy sixers. She is also married to Damien Lee, who plays for the Golden State Warriors. I mean, I

thought I thought I had basketball all around me. But so anyway, but we're talking to Saddel not only because she's you know, amazing and beautiful, um, because she's a beautiful content creator. She also has a podcast but her UM her focus is mental space mental health. So I'm gonna read her bio and introduce her in the mental health before I talk about Saddell. The mental health topic UM that we recently discussed got such a positive response. I mean I saw emails where people said, I just

made an appointment because of you all. So people are making appointments to talk to mental health professionals because of the of the episode that we did with Meriga UM and you know, people who said thank you, I was in a really dark place. Um. My cousin told me it was the best one yet. So yes, you know when your family has given out compliments because those don't

come very easily. So anyway, um but said Though Saddel Curry Lee became known in the digital space for entrepreneurship, athleticism and taste making in the beauty community, her mission online has always been to surface the topic of mental

health to the forefront of conversation. Having struggled with her own mental health for several years, Saddel aims to de stigmatize the discussion around mental health and offer firsthand advice on how we can all discuss the subject better as well as things we can do to improve our mental health Because life, that's the name of Her podcast centers around an open and honest discussion amongst Saddel, a mental health professional and listener input regarding topics ranging from confronting

anxieties to being a supportive ally when someone close to you is struggling with their mental health. So um Saidel also recently shared her journey with IBM of her her struggles um getting pregnant and she she is pregnant with child about to burst. So we're gonna this podcast is gonna be fast because she might burst and it um with you know without further ado, welcome to reasonably Shady said, welcome, welcome,

We are so happy to her. Were cracking up. Oh my god, I just want to say that just how you already got the communication down to the relationship just off hand. And if you're gonna go into the relationship talking about I had a fagus, I'm sorry. That's great communication, is it? Or is a team too much? No, I've

never seen too much. You're like setting the standard, like, look, dude, get real comfortable with me because I'm about to share everything because and if you're not comfortable with that, then you can go yes, yes, I love it. Now I have a quick first top top of the episode questions, So your your podcast because life one? How long have you been doing it? And why the the title? I love it? Thank you? So we just started in May. Our first episode was May nineteen, two thousand twenty one.

And when coming up when I'm sorry, that's around the same time we started. So we are podcast movie? Yes? Yes? Um? And when I was trying to figure out a name or a title for it, because I wanted to health to be just like a normal thing. And I think because life just shows that should happen like stuff happens in life, and it's it's gonna throw you curve balls, and so it should not be a thing where everyone should be isolated or just surprised by it because life

is hard and what that brings mental health challenges. I feel like everyone has been to health challenges, whether or on a high level or a low level. You're gonna go through something in your life that's gonna bring you anxiety or some sort of like tension that's hard to deal with. So that's kind of where because life comes from it, make it normal. Yes, yes, I love that.

And in the church world I used to be a first lady, they would call that your test and then it's so everybody has a test at some point in time in their life. And then they got that a good old testimony, my testimony. I got so many testimonies you don't even want to get me started. So, siddel Um, you have shared that like you recently had some mental health struggles. Um, how was that? How was it to

be able to share that? Because I think sometimes when you come from a family like yours, where everyone sees the glitz and the glamour and the success and the accomplishments. You know, sometimes you kind of feel like you don't want to share that type of information because people assume your life is perfect or you know, gosh, what could be wrong with you? Or you know, why are you struggling? So how did you get to the point where or you felt like you could share your mental health struggles,

especially with you know, the spotlight on your whole family. Yeah, So to give you just a quick background on how my mental health challenges started. Um, I was in a very abusive relationship from my the end of my college I mean high school years to the first two years of college. Um. And so that brought his own set of like PHTSD. And then I also have five concussions

from playing volleyball. UM. So so that I talked about that because a lot of people think that mental health challenges just come from life experiences, which they do, but it also comes from chemical imbalances, getting hit in the head five times, like so many other things than just what's happening in your environment and how much money do you have and how much UH do you have a like all these kind of materialistic things that matter, but you know, there are other things that play into the

mental health space. And so when I just I just to talk about it, it was really because there was a lack of people with the platform talking about it

at that time. UM and I was going through it like I just was just really going through it as in a transitional point in my life, going from UM college into like the real world, career world and how to do it earlier than I thought because I had gotten my fifth concussion and my doctors were like, s up, You're gonna be a vegetable if you keep playing like you needs. Okay, So wait a minute, is that normal

in the volleyball world. No, And that's why I kept playing because after my third one, my doctors were like, what's the likelihood of you getting a fourth one? Usually, like in football, they'll cut you off at well, they're supposed to cut you off at three concussion. Um, So after I got my third when they're like, what's the likelihood of you getting a fourth one? And then my fourth one came, what's the likelihood of you getting a fifth one? So it was like the ball hitting you

in the head. Yeah. So I played against I played D one college volleyball, So I was playing against like some big, like strong girls and if you don't get your hands up fast enough, the ball is just the ball has no forgiveness, is going to come right into your face. So for four of the concussions were me getting hit in the head um down the line, and then one of them, I went to dig a ball and my head hit the ground first before the rest of my body did. I think that's just my reflexes.

With every hit in the head, my reflexus was just getting worse and worse and worse. So I have like, that's crazy. I've never really heard of concussions in volleyball, but it makes sense. Like I was explained, it definitely makes sense. Yeah, you know, so you need to bring light to that topic exactly. I mean, it's become any

more of a topic now. I think my my niece had a soccer game a couple weeks ago and she had gotten hit in the head with the ball and she got she got put on concussion protocol and I was like, you know what, I'm not mad about that, Like, she's nine. How hard are they kid in the ball in soccer right now? And not at the nine year old league? But they were taking it very seriously, which I'm so happy to see um, because I wish that I would have taking it seriously. But you know, soccer

is like the number one concussion. Like you know, people think it's all football, football, football, but from what I've heard, it's actually the doctor seymore concussions from soccer. Why because you hit your head with the ball. I guess you hit each other's head. I don't. I don't play that for me. Okay, okay, okay. UM. So yeah, I mean going into that season of life, that transitional phase of life,

I had had a platform. People were following me because of my family, but I really wasn't doing anything with it. And so we live in we live in a digital age. I was on Instagram all the time, like for people to relate to, and I couldn't find anyone with the platform who was really talking about how life can really be UM. And I was nervous because obviously you get you get the push back like you're in this amazing family, there should there should be nothing wrong with you. And

that was hard. But I think my purpose in life, I've always had a passion for like mental health and psychology, even before I started dealing with my own challenges. UM. But I always my mom always said when you find your purpose, you need to go for it and like never lose sight of it. And I feel like my purpose in life is to share my experiences, however uncomfortable

it may make other people feel. Um. So yeah, speaking of your mom, I look at her and I'm like, that's a bad one, right, yes, And look, let me tell you I think did I share the story with you? How this was? Like, Gosh, in two thousand probably three, someone I was at a Pittsburgh Georgetown game because my brother in LAWA played for Pittsburgh, and this young white dude he was like, you know, a student at Georgetown or something, was like, are you Steph Curry's mother? And

I'm like, I can't see it. It I can see I mean, but I was literally like twenty something at that time, and so in a way I was like super flatter because your mom is so gorgeous. But then I was like, do I look old enough to be stuff Curries mother? No? My mom literally is like Benjamin Button. We call her Benjamin Button. The older she gets the younger kid. I don't even know how she does that. I just hope that I have that geneous listen, right, Yes,

now I'm just gonna get right on to it. So when the family goes to dinner at an expensive restaurant and your brother Steph is there, I mean, is it just assoomed he's playing the bill? No. So we've always played a game in our family where I I always take the bill at the end of at the end of the day. No, no, no, I take the the actual ill I take it. I said, give it to me and we'll go around, Especially once Seth got into

the league and started making some money as well. They'll whoever close the grand schemer thing right, Um, they between my my dad, my brothers, whoever got the closest to the bill didn't have to pay, but whoever was the furthest away had to pay. So we would go around. You have to go around, and we make your guests on how much you have to guess on how much the bill is. Okay, and I want to get the closest okay, So okay, because I'm thinking, if if he's

not there, then we just order one meat. But if he's there, we order like the damn it, we order get the tasting menu when he When he's there, you don't hear any lip from my dad, my dad, and when it's just my dad and he has to pay, you're gonna you can get what you want. But just know that you're gonna hear a little bit of that. Noted, noted, that is funny. So speaking of your family, tell us it was it like or it hasn't been like growing

up Curry. So growing up you know with your dad as a NBA legend, I mean he played for sixteen years. Like that is sixteen years? Is that like a record? Is that a record? No? I think Vince car I know, but what about um, well ship Lebron right now is about to bust a record. Lebron is about almost pace fourteen Okay, okay unless the two thousand three he went he was in the year after a while and start did he a mellow go in at the same time, I think, I don't know, he's up there, he's past fifteen.

He's a long time. There will be a lot of people passing my dad. But he did play for that for his time, for his for that time in the league. That was a long time. Yeah. And let me tell you so one had um like when he was thirty two, his knees just went bad. I mean I think I think they're like Arthritick, they're bone on bone and he just couldn't play anymore. So for these guys to be able to continue to play, and you know, that pounding

every day, like people don't realize that. Yeah, it's not football, but like that pounding on that court, that hard floor every day like that is that's major. So for anyone that is playing longer than ship seven seven years on the body, yeah, it's amazing. So I'm like, okay, maybe you know they said what tom Brady is vegan, like maybe there's something behind that. Tom Brady is taking doing something else, Okay, a regiment, that special special plan. Yeah,

something he's popping something. But back to your family, Um, you know, your father playing in the league for a long time, your brother we all, you know, both of your brothers are super successful. But Stuff is one of the best players in the league. I mean my father, like when Stuff was hurt last year, he was like wanted to cry because he's like, yeah, thing to do, yeah, and and Stuff is like change the game totally. Um

yeah yeah. So So what was it like being you know, just the daughter in the family and then you have a daughter and a sister, a super uber successful sister in law. So would you when we get to and you have and you have a husband that plays in the NBA, So what is it like for you as you know, do you just feel like I'm just sell or do you feel do you get lost in it? Do you get lost in it? No, my parents did a really really good job at giving us a normal lifestyle. Obviously,

growing up as a daughter, there wasn't social media. There wasn't like a lot of you know, the stuff that they have now to make people even more famous. Quote unquote. Um So, I never really felt different growing up as as a daughter of someone of a guy the NBA. But when Stephan went to um well had that big breakout at Davidson, I started noticing like people were starting to treat me different, and that made me a little bit uncomfortable. I never really liked attention. I'm a very

independent person. Yeah, I just don't. I don't like it

that much. Um and So when I went to college and people would be like, oh, you can come into this party because you're sub Curry sister, I'd be a little mad, like, no, I'm want to come to your party anymore, or like stop telling people that you know, like you don't even want people to exactly, but you know what, more than anything, like I it's been a really really cool experience because I don't like the attention, but I love watching the people in my life like

elevate and like just break break records and do things that people never thought that they would be able to do, do things that I never thought that they would be able to do or could do. And I'm shocked all the time. Um, But I again, I feel like I live a very I always say I'm an ordinary girl

who lives an extraordinary or who experiences extraordinary things. And I just feel really blessed because again, I could go to the store or I could just do normal things and not feel like I'm anything special quote unquote and just living normal life, which would be a lot for me, like with my mental health and all that kinds of stuff, Like if I had the same kind of fame as stuff that, I think God really did his thing and gave the correct talents one of us, because I would

not be able to handle all the all of the attention that he gets. He just does so well with it. Even my dad and Seth do really and Damien do really well with that. I'd probably never leave my house if I had all that attention. So I'm just like, I'm like the biggest cheerleader I love. Just then that's awesome. Now.

I was on the Instagram and I saw how um Stephansha responded to you being pregnant right and then was freaking bonkers and I didn't get it, Like I was just like, why don't you screaming, yelling and going crazy like okay, the sisters pregnant? Okay. I did not know your story, so I would love for you to share a little bit of your story. But before you share your story, because you know, I know you're married to your husband who's also want the same team as your brother.

How did that go to play? Okay? Because I want to know, like, did you see him and he was like you talked? You said to your brother, can you hook a sister up? What happened? Because I want to note ahead, excuse me, because I mean from I would think your brother would be like, there's no way you're dating an NBA player, Like, hell no, I'm not having it. Find someone else, find a banker, a doctor. I didn't

go on it. Yeah, I did not want it. I always said growing up, I would never date or marry a basketball player NBA player because I don't know how they are. And I know that like the guys in my family are top notch and they're like we called them unicorns. Um. And I didn't think that that was possible. But when I met I met my husband way before he was even in the league. Um, because we went to I went to Ellen. He went to Drexel and so they're in the same conference. So he was playing

basketball in drexxl UM. But like, I didn't know if he was any good. I didn't know anything. Like he even transferred to Louisville and like hit me in my d M and I was like, who are you? Like, what do you do? Like whatever? And so we met sister. He was always he always tells me that he wasn't like pawning for me. I'm like, he was trying, you know, in the curries. He was trying to get into the curries. Okay, we understand. I mean he succeeded. Hey, that is your

brother feel about it? I mean, I'm sure he's over it now. I mean, you guys, are you know? I mean the way their best friends. Like their relationship is kind of sickening, to be honest. I'm like, they're a little too close. And then you know what I mean, look, he better, he better stay on Steph's team because Steph can keep an eye. Yes, I mean, it's definitely it's easier for me maybe, like, excuse me, who are you talking?

Who is this woman you're talking to? Right? Yeah? You know what's kind of annoying though about him being on the team is that everyone thinks that Stephen literally called up the GM of the Warriors like, hey, is my brother in law? But they he was on the team before we were even engaged. We were just dating and

like the whole the whole nepotism thing. And then I'm just like, do y'all not know how the NBA works because they're not going to give away just money to somebody because of who they're related to, Like they have to actually be able to contribute something. So your brother is married to Doc River's daughter. I know, it's very incestual. Yes, I realized that. And how the hell did that he ended up on the same team, I don't know, but no,

I like, I love it. Keep it in the family, you know, like good people when you know them, and so I feel like, hey, if if we already know the Curries are great people, so if the Curries approved of you know these Damien, then like he has to be an amazing person. And within the n b A, it's not just about your talent, it's it is almost equally about how good of a person are you? How reliable are you? How? Yeah? I mean more and more of these days, like it's more important to have people

of character in your organization than just people with talents. Okay, So so share with us you are, by the way, congratulations, you get ready? Okay, So what is your day? Can you share that orm weeks today? Yeah? Oh my gosh, okay, so what well, because I'll give you my brief because it's so weird. My kids asked me this this morning. They were like, Mom, did you have any trouble getting pregnant? And I was like, first of all, why you'll been thinking about that? Um? And I? And I did so

my first child, Grace. You know, it took me like six months or so. There was nothing that the doctors felt like they needed to do. If it had gone longer than of course, we would have done some different things, but um, you know, it just took about six months. The twins was like that, you know pregnant. Was that a mistake? That's what the twins asked. They were like, oh my gosh, we mistakes and like, first of all,

you no, it was not. It was definitely playing. So they soon because they're not even they are Grace and the twins or how many, they're eighteen months apart. So I wanted them to be wanted to torture yourself? Well, no, I thought it was gonna be one more, but it was. And I wanted the one more and Grace to be grow up together and then two stuff together. But it was two more. So yes, then I was tortured. But anyway,

enough about me. Um what to give us, like your story, because that's every woman who's been pregnant, they have a story. Yeah for sure. Um So Dammy and I got married in two thousand and eighteen. Um, and like June of two thousand eighteen, we were like, let's kind of wait a year before we start trying to have a baby. So I got I got birth control, and then we got married and then December of Tusan eighty came around and we were like they spent enough time together, like,

let's let's start trying to have a baby. Yeah. And so we haven't tried about six months pretty much. We have been trying her about six months, nothing happened. Went to my doctors. She was like, oh yeah, yeah, just like keep trying and then if the year comes by and nothing happens, and come back and we'll do some tests. I got pregnant in September two thousand and nineteen. Um, but it ended up being a chemical pregnancy, which really

really sucks. Chemical pregnancy. It's like an early miscarriage. UM. So I tested positive, and then because I was trying to get pregnant, I would test every day, every day in the positive, just get lighter and lighter and lighter until it was a false positive. I don't know, no, no, that the baby implants, but it doesn't stick long enough, okay, bible. So um went went back to my doctor. Six months later, we got test done. Uh. Two weeks into or a

week into quarantine when the lockdown happened. Twenty we get the call that we couldn't have kids naturally or we had like a really really low chance of having kids naturally. Um. Uh issues with both of us kind of yeah, which people were shoved was because like we're so young I was at that time and he was only So was the miscarriage related to the reasons why you can't why

they said you couldn't get pregnant. My miscarriages happened because I have a progesterone level or a progesterone level issue. After implantation UM, so my progesons levels didn't stay high enough. Okay, okay, And so we went into like right into partillary treatments. We tried UM three months of i U S, which is in inter uterine insemination UM, which basically is a step up from natural. They'll put me on medicasions and create more eggs and then they'll insert his uh like

they call it the good swimmers through a capital. And we tried those for three months, didn't work, took a month off of October, and then we went into IVF. Okay, and that's like pretty rigorous, right, like you have to Yes, yes, I did two weeks of three injections a day in my stomach UM. And honestly, though, like this is this is kind of like full circle right now, because it was UM this time last year's when I started watching

the House Lives of Potomac. So you guys, I took a whole month off of November to do my IVF and just would sit down every day with my husband, my mother in law and we would watch Real House Lives of Potomach everything. We watched all seasons every day, watched the whole scene if you get pregnant. We did, so thank you and it's like this literally. So anyways, Um,

we did our IVF cycle. We got a good amount of embryos um, which is as far as they can be developed outside of my body, went through our first embryo transfer in February. That didn't work. Um, it just it was a really devastating time. So then we went into my next embryo transfer, which I had asked my doctor like, can I go on some progestro and because I felt like I think I had another chemical pregnancy in the first embryo transfer, so that's kind of where

I found out. Went on progesterone for the second one, and this one stuck. Um and we are thirty five weeks pregnant with the first baby. Boy. Oh it's a boy. Jesus Christ. Girls. We have three girls, already we have that girls, three girls and boy. Okay, so now I get it. Now I get why. Um, your brother and your sister in law were super excited that you are preggers, and so like your husband, I know, he was just

like through the roof, he was so excited. I actually got to surprise him too with this pregnancy because when you go through this and there's doctors and timelines involved, like you know, every single time, I got a doctor at this day this time, so I had actually tested and found out earlier than expected that I was pregnant, and so he they were in the middle of the season last year and he was away for a road trip when I had found out that I was pregnant.

So I got to surprise him when he came home. Um, he had no idea that I was pregnant, because again we had a week to go until I went to the doctor from my blood test to see if it had worked. UM. And that was just like one of the best moments of my life because you know, I really wanted this to be as normal of an experience

as possible. UM, and it hasn't been that normal because all the doctors and all my legs and stirrups and all kinds of oh my gosh, it was great, Like how were you able to even keep that from him? Like day and my hardest thing? Every he was like, I am I the last one to know? Did you tell everyone except from me? Like? No, no, I only people I told my mom and my sister mom. Okay, speaking of sister in law, let's get back to this

dinner that y'all play Russian Roulette with the bill. Um. So, yeah, first, does she let you cook with her? Because she's got this, you know, all this cooking situations going on. It's her food really good. Yeah, that's getting there. We're not done with the question yet. Hold on, hold time. Okay, when y'all have moments at because you know, any family have some tense moments at the table. Okay, nine times out of ten she starts it right, she starts she's a jokester.

She's she's trying to do this everyone. I'm just staying her jokes. Okay. Are the jokes really not funny? They're funny, but she has a different type of humor and you really have to understand her to really like, I think it's funny, and sometimes look at her like I laugh, but like you laugh at her because she's she thinks she's hilarious and she is. Her and stuff in just feed off of each other. So that's funny to watch. Even if you don't get the joke, you know that

they're and they're all a little world. Okay, good for them right now? She food's bomb if you have bomb? Really, have you been to any of the restaurants? Yeah? Really, it's got like three or four. Where have I been under a rock? I mean they're there aren't any like over here. They're more like what isn't in Texas or something. She has one in Miami. She has one in the MGM in Vegas. Okay in Miami. What's the one that called in Miami? Because I'm about to go back down there.

They're all called International Smoke because she has It's like it's it's barbecue from all around the world though, but they have everything. Okay, mac and cheese, tried tip, mac and cheese. Okay, okay, okay, there was one in Miami, but okay, okay, I'm gonna. I'm gonna okay, So Miami, Vegas, we're where else? And and San Francisco. There was one in Houston, but Houston, they don't like the Warriors. And it was they started yelping her like before they started negative, negative,

yelping her. That is that deep. But y'all, that's not on some food, So goodad that is. Now, how is your relationship with your sister in law? You all, from what I can tell you all appear to be really really close. Yeah no, I super blessed. I was always really hard on all my brother's girlfriends, and you should be, because you know the holes out here in the streets ran. I ran a few of them, all ran a few, actually the one that ran. And that's a long movement.

And it's a lot to live up to because their mother is a bad one. And so if like the girlfriend or discali wag got a hole on the side, can't live up to the mama, it's a problem. Yeah no, but with Aasha like I was mean to her for about two weeks okay, good, and I couldn't be I couldn't be mean to her anymore. I was like, I can't not like you, um and we became like that. I was her maid of honor in their wedding. Yeah, I couldn't be with both my sister in laws are

amazing their sisters. I always wanted, Oh yeah, they perfectly. If you all have Thanksgiving dinner, I wouldn't mind being invited one day, or if y'all want, I could just like fit in. Y'all be like, oh there's cousin everyone does. Everyone does. Or going to a restaurant because I just want to go and order the home menu because I know I'm not paying it, so I'm just gonna, okay, bring me the lobster. And I don't know, you might you might have to, you might have to guess on

that on the on the bill. Just know she makes money to anyone money. Let's g get into your Instagram because it is the pictures, the way it's laid out, like everything about it. It's like clearly I look at it and I'm like, okay, what professional is doing this? Um it's it's amazing. So talk to us about like why you there's like a style to it, is there. I mean I don't try to fit any kind of style.

I think that I just try to be myself and it's a gets sometimes imposter syndrome like I'm not doing enough, I'm not good enough, because then I go look at other people's pages and I'm like, wow, that's so aesthetically pleasing. Every every filter is perfect with the other. But that's just not me. Like if I've spen hours editing a photo or thinking about, you know what I'm gonna post like,

it doesn't feel genuine and authentic. And I want everything that I do to feel genuine, authentic because that's where how I've gotten to this point. And it's much harder to be someone else than it is just to be me. And I don't have time, Like I just I don't have time. It's exhausting. So but thank you. I appreciate that. I know I want people to look at my Instagram and know that that's me, and it's there's nothing fake about it. There's nothing, um you know, highlight really like

I like to be. I like to show all the good and the bad of my life because it's normal. I think you do an awesome job and it is definitely aesthetically pleasing, but without being you know, it doesn't it does not look fake or forced. Um so in in in the content creator world, if that's really it's it's people don't really realize how hard it is actually to put out good content, aesthetically pleasing content. So you know, kudos to you for doing a great job. You're welcome.

Now are you gonna I'm sorry, go ahead. Do you have to get into this topic? Okay? Are you going to um, you know, after your son is born? By the way, do we have a name? Is it an s name? So y'all are going to have an empire of d's like, it's just fair, okay, very good. Are you going to show a bunch of pictures of him? Like, how do you feel about social media and your child? Because it's all it's it's a little tricky. It's a

little tricky. Yeah, I mean I've seen both sides of that. Um, Stefan and Aisha they show their kids a lot, Seth, Callie, don't show there's that much. Um just the back of I didn't even realize he had a child, mm hmm. Yeah,

So I've seen both sides. Honestly, when he's when my baby is first born, I'm gonna really determine on if he's cute or not because the last thing, that's what I want thing I wanted for him to be eighteen twenty years I'd like, ma, why is this picture on the online of me looking all like I don't want that. I'm not going to have problems. But if you like, wait, don't feel rushed to put your child. If he looks like an alien, you're gonna think his hand, his little foot,

wait until he fills out a little bit. I mean my my son Carter that was talking to you or he was I don't like to use the word ugly cute and look at him now so time. Yeah, but like the I got a d M one time from the phone who was like yelling at me because I didn't show pictures of my nieces and nephew. She's like, oh, you have our pictures like your dogs, And I'm like, okay, well first that's not a responsibility like my dogs. But she and I like was like, well, ma'am, I don't now.

I definitely don't feel full showing pictures of my of my nieces and nephews, because like there's people like you who are incessant on the fact that I post them and what are you gonna do with them? And why do you need them so badly? And their parents post pictures of them so and so that to me like really with a red flag about you know, the craziness of people. But um, I don't want people to dictate, you know, what I do or don't do. So it's

really game time decision on on little baby boy. But okay, all right, Yeah, he's gonna be cute, stop it. It's gonna be adorable six months from now, and he's gonna be goocy down to the socks I already know. Listen, I got them. I got them hand me downs from Stephan and Aisha. There we go, listen, there we go, There we go, because you know they only wear one time. And yes, the whole bag at Gucci hand me down,

so good, must be nice, must be nice. All right, Well, before we let you go, let's talk a little bit more about mental health, um, specifically seasonal depression, because I'll be honest. The other day it was like two pm. It was gloomy outside, and I was on my couch and I just felt this like heaviness over me and

I was like, oh my god, it's starting already. Um, So, you know, do you have any advice or remedies or just you know, any words of wisdom that you can give to people who may be around this time of year? Are alreat even feel different and they don't know why. Definitely, it's a normal thing. A lot of people who don't experience depression during the other uh seasonal months of the year, experience it during this time. So now that you're not alone.

One thing for sure, especially for us black people, we need to be Vitamin D is huge because we get vitamin D from the sun and vitamin D deficiency. So get your supple vitamin D supplement. Make sure you're taking that because it will not only help you mentally but also physically. Um, it gives your energy backup and stuff like that. Uh. And now what so why is that like not a universal thing? Why is that like geared towards black people. We're just known to have low vitamin

D deficiency. Um. I mean, I'm sure white people can get it as well during this time, but especially black people. Uh. And I didn't know that was a thing. I don't know that was a thing. So that's good to sure. It's could be very isolating too, because it's cooled outside, it's dark faster. Don't really want to go anywhere, but make an effort to if you feel safe. Obviously we're still living in COVID times. Uh. See people, go get

drinks with people, go hang out. Um, just walk around something with someone other than yourself, because that's gonna be really good to get you out of that mood. For me, Um, it's not. I mean it kind of might not be too late. I have a summer set in a winter scent. So if I'm feel like a perfume, if I'm feeling really I'm really really down or really like just depressed or whatever, I'll spray my summer set and that sen use your senses during this time. Eyes ears. Now it's

some watermelon. I don't know something that you know can bring you to summary. That's my craving right now. I mean I was gonna I was gonna ask you because I was gonna tell you my child. My pregnancy cras were ridiculous. But I love that. So either, So spray something that's gonna remind you of like the sum more time and happy and sunshine and all that I love. So throw the pumpkin spice in the trash. But I love me a little pumpkin. Yeah, life, but afraid either

during right Christmas? But opiniata really good like that. That is good. But a lot of people talk about um in the wintertime, it's like coffing seasons, like when you got to make sure you gotta boo so and but now that you kind of like broke it down, like make sure you're engaging, make sure you're going out going and you have drinks whatever. That makes sense. Like I couldn't understand coughing season, but I understand it now because

you do need somebody, are you. You should have somebody that you can just kind of like cuddle up with um, you know, hang out with whatever, go to the movies with whatever. And my thing is, you know I don't like to leave the house, right yeah, and I think you have the battle is like putting on clothes and make a little hare. Yeah, it's hard. It's hard. Self care is it's easy to talk about, but it's hard to get going. But you always feel better afterwards. Like

it's like working out. It's really hard to start working out, but as soon as you're done, you're like, I mean I'm tired, but I'm so happy I did that. So they just think about the reward at the end um of getting started. And then also, like my last advice with the seasonal depression is no, this is a season like there will beat in, the sun will come out again, the days will be longer, it'll be lighter outside longer again.

So it's just as time span. There is light at the end of the tunnel um and so it's not gonna be like this forever. Oh I love that. No, I mean I love that. It's so funny. So the other day I was talking to Wan and I was like, I'm starting to feel it and he was like, you know. He was like, I'm like, do you feel the same thing? And he was like no. I said, remember when we lived in Portland. We lived in Portland, Oregon, and he you know, it rained every day literally from like early

December until the middle of May. It literally rained like every single day. So I was like, one, you remember the feeling when we lived in Portland, Like how when it rained every day, you just it just did feel great. And he was like yeah. I was like, well that's how I feel, you know, this time of year until probably early February, right or maybe you know, maybe March. And he was like wow, like you know, he doesn't feel that at all. And I'm just like, damn, like, yes,

that must be like, so I'm like I don't. I mean yeah, I gotta really make an effort because it does keep me in the house, like told the dark, you know, just balling up on the couch, not wanting to get dressed. Now, it's but it it becomes debilitating because I do feel like I do miss out on a lot of stuff. For me to get Rabbit out of the house in the wintertime, is it's a struggle, yes, really, And I feel bad because I think people think that I'm being like anti social and it's just like, no,

I'm just a lot of energy. Yeah, or like they're taking it personal because I'm not hanging out with them, and I'm like, well, don't take a person. I'm not hanging out with anyone, right, But yes, I gotta make more of an effort because it's yeah, for sure. Um. And then my mom always said, you know, if you are having a bad day, just put on lipstick and I'll make you feel better. So I I like live

by that. Yeah, you always have to have your lips popping, like you feel bad, and so put lipstick on and just looking at yourself in the mirror and just say I'm beautiful, Like I'm beautiful. I don't care what you say. Affirmation yeah, talking affirmations will start becoming a real thing. Yes, I do say though. One of my advice is, like when you're feeling down is just to like smile and brind because when the smile, like the endorphins you get

from the smile like really changes your mood. So sometimes you just like sit there and just like put on the big, cheesiest smile and you can like feel a little bit better, like feel a little endorphin rush. So well, you have been amazing, amazing, and we got you know, you didn't mind us getting all up into the curry leaf business. All right, I'll tell all the I'll tell all the stuff nobody else talk. I'll talk. And if we ever see y'all out, I'm just coming to sit

down at the table. I'm fine. They will never know I'm not family. They won't. They won't. Me and Robert are coming to the family reunion, okay, because I think it's gonna be off. The chain always is. It's always a good time. People never want to leave us. That's so awesome. Well you have been to drink? Yeah, do you have anything you want to like um promote? Well, what's your Instagram page? You have my websites or anything else going on. My Instagram is just my name, Sadel

Curry Lee. Um. And then my podcast because life with Saddel on Instagram and anywhere you listen to your podcast. So yes, yes, you're you're I'm gonna recommend your instagram. It is beautiful, Like I just throw pictures up because it's just it's a mess, but it's fine. But yours it's absolutely beautiful. And thank you so much. Um. Always remember never forget live your life, either reasonable or shade.

You know what, we weren't even shady with you, see, I mean we tried to throw your system law under the bus, but you would like I can't, I can't, all right, I think there's nothing okay, alright, So this was a very reasonable episode people, which we probably need some of those. We got to balance it called balance. Yes, thank you so much. We appreciate you, all right, girl, thank you. Right. Reasonably Shady is a production of the

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