What it means to be you

A lot of times, coaches in the online business space throw out phrases that are yes, useful, but feel really broad in what they actually mean. Phrases like ‘aligned’, ‘multitudes’, ‘the real you’… that last one is going to be the main focus this episode! Being the real you can have a massive effect on how much money you’re earning in your business… it’s just a matter of getting down to what that actually means.

Right now I’m experiencing a lot of natural shifts in my business, and so much of it is because I’m encountering, over and over again, just how effective and intricate the idea of showing up as the real you is. We have so many versions of ourselves, and we all come with our notions of what’s acceptable, what’s profitable, what ‘the right’ version is… the ‘real you’ is certainly not just a button that we can switch on!

We live in a culture that only makes space for a very narrow presentation of identity, which means that if we fall outside of that imposed norm, we get message after message saying that we are not worthy, not succeeding, not good enough…and that’s just not true!

Tune in to dive into all the ways that this can show up, and what you can start doing about it!

QUOTES

“The idea that a human being could be so many things at once. So many supposedly contradictory elements to themselves. There's very little space for that in a culture that has a very narrow definition of who you are meant to be. And it leaves people with no space to put their feet.”

“So when someone suggests we show up as ourselves, it's often more complexity than we can hold. Or more to the point, maybe it's more complexity than we believe our surrounding culture can hold. That people are gonna say, huh? How can she be both that and that?

“You making mistakes is not just inevitable. It's necessary to you building something better that serves your people in ways that you are dreaming of.” 

“You don't want a seat at the table, you want ot create your own table. Let's not participate in this nonsense. Let's not try and bend it to our own.”

“There is no price that is going to convince everyone to buy. And that obsession will keep you so stuck. People don't buy because they're not buying into you or what you offer. You're not showing them who you are. And yes, when you show them who you are, you will lose people…that is not a sign that it’s not working. That is a sign that it is working because you will also attract the right people.”

“This is work where we are removing layers of conformity culture, conditioning that has been given to us without our permission. And it is going to take time. I'm constantly finding parts of myself.”