Embracing Failure: Live Coaching with Joeli Kelly
Episode description
We’re back with another live coaching episode! This week, I’m chatting with Self-belief coach Joeli Kelly about how fears around success, failure, and everything in between can sneak into our businesses.
Joeli takes us back to her time at university, and how her experience there created a make-or-break idea of success that she carries with her to this day. We break down the cycle that happens when you want success but fear the potential failure that would come if things don’t turn out as planned. When this happens in your business it can feel paralyzing, so we map out ways to challenge it and embrace your own form of success, whatever unique and wonderful shape that may take.
A huge thanks to Joeli for sharing her time and experience with us!
You can find Joeli at
https://www.instagram.com/joelikelly/
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QUOTES
FROM JOELI
“You can't succeed forever. You will fail. So it feels like: well, if I just don't ever succeed, then I don't ever fail. Like the bigger the success, the bigger the failure. So just don't. Just be really, really small.”
“For a good number of years, [my business] has paid my bills. And so I'm like, this is what I'm qualified to do! As much as I don't believe it, as much as I don't understand it, as much as I am so sure it's going to come crashing down next week, next month, two months from now, the evidence says it's not. The evidence says: somehow Joeli, you're actually quite good at being self-employed.”
“It's safe for me to have lots of money. I will be responsible for that. It's safe for me to have success. I won't. Dynamite it at any at any moment.”
“You can be a good coach and someone can feel like their time with you is a waste of money… you can be good with money and make mistakes with money. You can be successful and feel like a failure; you can be a failure and feel like a success.”
FROM RAY
“We're talking about avoiding success, but I wonder if the fear is actually that the success leads to a failure, which means you're still avoiding failure.”
“Ask yourself, is, am I avoiding, what am I avoiding here? Am I avoiding failure? Am I even scared of that failure really? Or is this an okay situation. Just notice those things and purposefully gather the evidence to the contrary.”