Episode #117 Dean McMurray's Healing Journey: From Military Veteran to Military Medium – Embracing Spiritual Awakening, Ethical Mediumship, and Unconditional Love

Reiki is a journey and not a destination , and on this Ready Set Reiki journey , I refer to myself as a guide rather than a host , as I too am traveling , supporting others and learning on this Reiki journey as well . And with that said , I am your guide , tracy C Wright .

And today , what a wonderful treat that I have I am being joined on this journey with Dean McMurray . Now he is the military medium , now he is an internationally acclaimed psychic medium , healer and ordained minister . His story is so powerful and so authentic .

It is unlike any other psychic medium out there , and this is why people from all across the globe are drawn to him for readings and personal guidance . So welcome , dean , to Ready Set Reiki .

Border in Northern Minnesota and , um , you know , right after high school , I I went off to serve in the military , like so many young men and women do across this country , and you know , I went on to serve about 15 years , uh , with the United States army and then , um , after I got uh back from Afghanistan , uh , um , I got out of the active army component

and then I came over to the Army National Guard and kind of continued my military journey , but I did it in a full-time capacity . So it was a little bit different and brought me to where I am now the great state of North Dakota , and I ended up retiring after 24 years .

And I'm really grateful , not only for the opportunity to serve the country but because this journey that I was on with the military allowed me the opportunity to meet my now wife , to meet my now wife , and it was in one of those duty positions you know , positions in a little little town in central North Dakota that , um , you know these one or one horse towns

, as they call it uh , where I met her and and , um , yeah , so now we're in , uh , we've been in Eastern North Dakota for goodness , um , probably about 15 years now .

And so , yeah , that's kind of my military background and you know , really I moved all over the state before I got married and before I even met my wife in different postings if you will , met my wife in different postings , if you will .

And really because it was part of my military background is the reason that I share it and where it made up really the first half of my military life , like so many military families or military individuals at the time . And that not that I really realized it , but I identified so much as the soldier .

If you would ask me who I was , then my first words out of my mouth , before I said a dad or a husband , would have been I'm a soldier . And then come all the other labels , right , and that's how I identified as self . That's how I identified as self .

But as I stepped into my spiritual awareness and my abilities , it was like all these labels came crashing down and of course I was retiring . So you put away those labels . Well , you're not a full-time soldier anymore . Dean , who are you ? And I was like , for the first time in my life , tracy . I was like I don't know , like , oh , I'm a husband .

I know I'm a dad , you know , dog dad , dad of two kids , great kids , but so the thing is is . But I was like , but okay , but who am I ?

And I , and you know one of the things that I always went back to in which I'll get to in here in a minute about my spiritual awakening but I was like , but I'm a medium as well and I was like , how about a student of the universe ? How about something that's not so specific that you know ?

And I was like , isn't it interesting that we have to identify by labels ? And but what I did is I was like there has to be something more to this . I got to be more and it was almost like something . Spirit was like going but you're more than labels . And by ego said I need labels so I can self identify , said I need labels so I can self-identify .

And so when spirit led me to a place where I was comfortable to let go of who I thought I was and I got closer to the true essence of who I am , and I was like , wow , I am more than that . We are this eternal being we are . We are so much more .

Yes , all the , the , the , the earthly things , the 3d things that we see here and do , and owning those labels , that's fine , but I was like there's so much more to us and I was like boy , I've been limiting myself . Why do we have to own , why do I have to be in a box ? And I'm you know .

So I'm like , well , what do I want to say that I am today , or and um , so it was kind of interesting there . There's been several journeys that I've been on . In this spiritual development journey .

I'll call it because I don't even want to call it a spiritual awakening , because after you have one experience , then another door opens and then you continually what I call continually go deeper in this beautiful rabbit hole of of awakenings , and then it's like , just when you think it couldn't get any cooler , then you like have this awareness , or hey , there's

another door , where door , where does that go ? And it's like whoa , you know , like I understand that there's so much more depth than than you know what I thought . And um , again saying you know what I thought again goes to ego , right ? So , um , and we tend to muck up our own , uh , I call it the hamster brain mentality or the monkey mind .

You know , monkey mind instead of the intuitive heart or the aspect of , you know , getting back connected spirit . But you know , going back in my spiritual development , it was right at the end of my military term . I had just come back from a last deployment . Right at the end of my military term , I had just come back from a last deployment .

I had three years to go before I retired and our last of our two children were born , and my son , wyatt , and that was 13 years ago and come or well , it'd be 14 years coming up in November .

And but when I got back from that deployment , that's when Tracy what I call all holy hell , started breaking loose in our home at the time , because clocks and pictures were literally coming up all and I was like what is going on ?

And you know , I know you shared that you , your husband , is a military as well , and so in that world , for people that have never set foot in that world , it's very black and white for a lot of them . And so if something cannot be figured out in regulations or orders or whatever , you know , usually if you couldn't drive it , shoot it , eat it , whatever .

It didn't exist , and so you know . And so we needed things that were very tangible , and I know there's people out there that serve in the military , that are very walk in the gray area We'll call it very in touch with their intuitive selves , because that's what I can speak to is that I was in this land of going what the heck like what is going on ?

And I felt I , other than my wife , I was like I felt so alone because I was like , you know , I didn't want to tell anybody at work because you didn't want to be quote , unquote , that guy and , um , the other , you know , thinking , oh my God , dean needs to go to the VA , to , you know , get admitted , or something like that .

And because there was a stigma and , um , so I was , you know , I made the choice not to say anything , but except for my wife , and I was like she had a local psychic in the area that her and a bunch of girlfriends were getting readings and different things , and so she came over to give I didn't really know what she was going to do and , quite honestly ,

in my mind I was conjuring a scene out of uh , I think it's Cinderella right , the fairy God mother with the bit . I think it's Cinderella right , the fairy godmother with the bib bobbity boo and I thought they make it all gone . You know it was my ignorance of not knowing what . You know how energy works and how different people do what they do .

And she came over and started connecting with my grandfather . She gave me evidential information later that I realized later because she started connecting to my grandpa and the first thing out of my mouth I go looking at her , like you know , she had another , you know set of eyeballs on the top of her head going why the hell is grandpa here ?

Where was he after Bosnia ? Where was he after Korea ? Where was he ? You know , I'm more like where , where , where were you ? You know , kind of give them the knife hand type deal and she goes .

She looks at me and she goes Dean , I don't know , but I can tell you he's here now and again , going back to that ego mind or the monkey mind , was it to shut up ? It shut down because it focused I was so focused , tracy on like why the hell is grandpa here ?

on . And here she's giving me all these nuggets of talking about working with veterans and like all this great stuff about veterans and like all this great stuff about hey , welcome to the party , and you know , type , deal , and and I was just like what the heck , why ? Why is she talking with , you know ?

And I was not even open to receiving them at this message , even though , you know , great , you know , grandpa was a big part of my life , my , my mom's , dad's dad , and so she left and she didn't clear any energy . She just gave me the message and so , you know , nothing changed . But , quite honestly , a couple of weeks went by and things got more active .

We'll call it more poltergeist energy , whatever you want to call it . And we know that poltergeist energy , whatever you want to call it , and we know that poltergeist is really just a German word saying noisy ghost . Right , and they were noisy . They were like damn it , Dean , you need to wake up and step into your abilities .

And literally I was washing dishes , Tracy , you know , one night , and around midnight of all things , I was washing baby bottles . I don't know why the heck .

I was up at midnight but everybody was in bed my daughter , uh , who was about five at the time , my wife and then , of course , my newborn son , and , and , um , I just had a knowing that my grandmother was standing directly behind me . Every sense of my body was tingling . If I had any hair it would be standing on end .

And but , you know , you turn around and there's nothing there . But you could just , you knew right . And and I didn't realize I was having the , the phenomena of , uh , the clear cognizance , the clear knowing , um , you know , and things , and I , I literally started talking out loud to myself . I said how the hell do I know it's things ?

And I , I literally started talking out loud to myself . I said how the hell do I know it's grandma ? And I started answering myself , going , I don't know , but she's not here to hurt us . And I'm thinking , oh , my God , I'm answering myself , we're going to , you know , I'm going to have to call my , you know , call and get admitted or something .

And but , quite honestly , you know , I didn't feel alarmed . It was different . I didn't know how to explain it , and so I went to bed that night thinking , you know what ? I'm just making stuff up , I'm too tired . I probably saw something , heard something .

And again the monkey mind trying to make sense out of things that you can't make sense out of because it defies logic .

And went to bed that night knowing that my grandmother was there , without a doubt , and so I'm laying in bed with my eyes closed , but very much awake , you know , right before you go to sleep , and my mind starts wandering , going well , hey , how you doing , Grandma , you know , miss you , love you . And then my ego .

It's like I have another part of self there and going . You know what this is just ? It's all BS . This is just BS . If Grandma was really here , she would prove it , there would be no question . She would prove it , there would be no shit , you know , no question . And as soon as those words left my own head , tracy , it was boom , the .

The temperature in the room dropped like I walked outside in the midwest in in the middle of february , and I know that you're from , you know the north northwest , it gets cold , and so when we're talking about you , you know 20 below or whatever , cold or something . It was like holy cow . If I had the lights on , I know I could have sound my breath .

And then , but ego says , ah , it's a peak power . The wife has a window open , Maybe it's a fan , right , Whatever , trying to make sense because otherwise it might be too freaky . Trying to make sense because otherwise it might be too freaky . And so then my ego kind of went back and goes . If she was really here , we can put this all , finish this .

If she was really here , she would touch me . And grandma wasn't there to disappoint that evening .

Because as soon as those words left my mind once again , I still remember it was like yesterday , Tracy was a gentle but firm pressure from the top of my head all the way to my feet and it literally I was pushed into the bed like somebody was laying on top of me and I could hear the springs compress and everything in the bed come up around me .

And I'm like holy , leap , leap , you know like . And it was like the six-year-old little boy in me came out and I was like okay , I'm officially freaked the hell out . And so I was like how do you shut it off ? Where's the off button ? And so I was like hey , grandma , love you . Like you need to leave .

You're freaking the hell out of me , Love you , Stay soon . And as soon as I said that , again , just like a snap of the fingers , everything was gone , the weight was gone , the room returned to regular temperature .

The only difference at that point now is I'm sitting up in bed , completely out of breath , covered in sweat , and I'm trying to self-analyze myself , thinking , okay , what was that ? What did I just experience ? And am I having a latent PTSD experience ? You know like , oh my God , what's going on ?

And my wife , um , who I've never known , uh , in the many years that we've been married , um , she has never slept deep and that she was like saw on logs . Like you know , she's never slept in her life and I'm like you need to wake

up . And when she finally did , she said what's going on ? And I was like there is somebody here and she's thinking somebody's breaking in . And I was in my mind I'm thinking , no , that would be too easy . Like you know , you can respond to a physical threat . You can rationalize in a sense , maybe you know , in a sense of okay , I understand that .

But I said , no , there's a spirit here . And she looks at me like how the hell do you know that ? And I said , I know , right , you need to get to that voodoo chick over here , Cause that's what I was referring to the psychic as and she doesn't do voodoo , by the way , but that was my jokingly my , my , my joking term for her .

But that was my jokingly my , my , my joking term for her . And at the time she was like Dean , it's like two o'clock in the morning , you need to go back to sleep . And I was like , well , fat chance of that . And of course I stay up the rest of the evening watching TV .

And so , really , for me , Tracy , that was my I'll call it my awakening moment , and I , you know , I jokingly refer to it as the come to Jesus moment , because spirit , the universe , knew that it's like , oh man , this guy's hardheaded , Um , we need to send in grandma , we need to send that .

We need to beat him , not not beat him , but , you know , smack him over the head with a two by four Cause some of us are very hardheaded and because I needed something so visceral , Tracy , that , no matter what I experienced or what doesn't matter , even to this day , you could have the most and people there are some out there , I've met some that are so

like you know , what you experienced is this . It's not spirit and it's like . You know , what you experienced is this it's not spirit and it's like you know what .

You can have your opinion and I totally respect that , but I know what I experienced and maybe I can't explain everything and words fail me a lot of the times to summarize the magnitude of that , but I know , like to to my core , what I experienced and so there will be never can be somebody to try to poo-poo away and explain away , right , and saying you were

having this experience , and be like no dude , this is something completely different . And be like no dude , this is something completely different . And so I went on a journey of trying , from that moment on , of going okay , why me ? Why now ? I'm three years out from retirement , we just had a baby .

Not long ago , we got a five-year-old like , well , WTF , Right . And so by trying to figure out like dad's , I mean I'm not at a place in my life where I'm comfortable having a nervous breakdown . Dad still needs to go work . Yeah . And um .

So I kind of did some soul searching and I went back to that psychic and I I was like I need to figure something out because things are starting to escalate now . And I explained to her , you know like I started getting messages and I started there was all kinds of stuff and one again , one door was opening to another , to another , and she goes Dean , I .

She goes you're a medium . And I said you are full of shit , I , literally . And she goes . She looked at me and she laughed and she goes you know what I probably am , but it still doesn't mean that you're any less a medium . And I said I don't want to be a medium , take it back , even you know harder . And she was like it doesn't work like that .

I didn't give you anything , you've always had it . However , you're reawakening and remembering the ability you have and I was like okay , like okay , nobody this wasn't in the disclaimer , right , sure , sure .

. And then my wife , my loving , intuitive wife , sometimes so frustrating , and living with a super intuitive family is as she said many years ago this is when I first started . She goes you should call yourself the military medium . So you have a military husband , you'll get it . And I said it in the most loving way that I could .

I said that sounds kind of stupid and kind of hokey . Now that was totally like a military-minded thing because I was coming at it from a military aspect of military man . That sounds so corny and I was like so I could you know whatever ?

And she was like whatever and you'll figure it out Right , fast forward a number of years and I had been doing this full time .

I was sitting there and I was like I need to rebrand myself and writing stuff on a board and I was like the military media and I just hung my head and I was like I came upstairs , I was like you're not going to believe this and she saw what I had written down , she said uh-huh , can you say it ? Yeah , you were right .

And she was like oh , you shouldn't listen to me , you know . So it was kind of one of those things of listening to your wife , but but the more it was she was listening to her intuition , she was but , the more she was listening to her intuition . She was getting those hits long before I was , but it's really more of a moniker , right ?

So , taking my many years of military service and marrying it with this new direction in life of being a medium and it was just meshing the two and I know that there's so many more , if you want to call them military mediums .

There's so many intuitives , healers , readers that are currently serving or have served or whatever , or family , and you know I salute all of them , I salute everybody . But the thing is is knowing that you know there's so many more of them out there .

But yeah , so then when I embraced the military medium I guess that that label again we get to labels it was interesting , tracy , because I had been , I did the holistic expo circuit and all that . When I very first started , as soon as I retired and got away from the military .

I did that really hard for about a year or two and it went to as many as I could in the Midwest and different things , things and and they you know , and and they were good . But when I did them as the military medium completely , totally changed the energy , absolutely and more here's the interesting thing completely changed the demographic .

Who started approaching me and more men goes military medium , huh , I kind of like that name , yeah . And then out comes the stories of my dad served in the military .

I served in the military , um , or I'm currently served , or , hey , like a good friend of mine that does paranormal investigation , yeah , hey , I was air force veteran , worked for the FBI , you know like so all of these things . And people started coming out and then I was like I'm going what the hell , what button did I push like ?

And I , you know I wasn't seeing the avenue . That when I finally connected , you know , I was like , huh , if I would have done that sooner , you know , who knows , I don't know .

But the thing that I know is that it completely , in a good way , it changed the energy of reaching more people , sure , and open more doorways to help more people , because that has always been since day one . Because I didn't know when I first connected with that psychic . She goes , you know , why do you want to be a medium ?

And I said I told you I don't want to be a medium . She goes no , why do you want to be a medium ? Think about it . And I was like , so we did a meditation and it was to help others right at a bigger level and but it came to me , was my vision statement , so to speak , was to help others heal one connection at a time .

And so , since the early , early days I call it is , that has always been when I need to keep the main thing .

The main thing when days when sometimes your ego needs to be pulled back and put in check , and when you get in the middle of life and it's like sometimes you need to get back to basics , and that mantra for me of hey , dean , are you helping others heal one connection at a time , it's like thanks for that reminder , spirit or way you know , and to keep that

as a baseline message or vision statement of hey , that's why I started this work . So if I'm not doing that in some way , then what am I doing , you know ? And so it's kind of a self-check and so it's it , but it's really opened some amazing doors .

You know , I've had some amazing opportunities , whether it's nothing has gone to TV or anything yet , but there was some opportunities for film , right , right . You're putting the positive intention and I always say this too , tracy is every time I have said I haven't experienced that , that you know , and then it comes up in spirit .

So I'm almost kind of like , well , I haven't experienced it , but the thing is , is that it has ? I had a , just a . An experience that I still remember today that really touched me deeply was a fellow veteran . He was dying .

He was in a local hospice unit and his wife was looking for mediums and she was skeptical , very skeptical , very traditional religion , which was great , and something kept on guiding her towards me and he was a career army man , you know everything .

And the whole family , I I still remember this I went into the hospice unit here in our city and , um , the entire family was there , like no pressure , right , um , and I was like , but I felt I was really nervous , but I also felt so compelled like , wow , you know just what , the honor of just being called to ask to go and where she wanted to reassure her

husband that when it's his time to go , that his mom and other people that have crossed will be there . And I did the reading and you could tell he couldn't speak but he , you know , had some you know his eyes and everything could tell the story right , the eyes are the windows of the soul , as they say .

Sure , and you could tell in the eyes that he was touched deeply and emotionally and it's something that still , when I think about connecting to our servicemen and women and when I think about connecting to the families and everything is , I remember that and she , you know , interesting enough , she ended up becoming just such a dear friend after her husband passed

and everything . She extremely intuitive lady herself , and just it's just such a treat to be around her and her family and to be able to give that . But that's something and I just don't and I also want to give clarity is just because I embrace the title of the military medium and kind of use that , as my title is , I just don't focus on military .

You know , it's like I was we were just chatting about .

You know , I was just up in Winnipeg , manitoba , and , you know , did some readings up there and , just for you know , civilians that you know step forward if you want to say just everybody , not everyday Joes , but I think everything , everybody is special , but a lot of people get confused saying so do you just do readings for military vets or families and it's

like no , I give readings to everybody .

No , joking aside , is you know , some , there's a misconception of number one , where you know , like mediums are communicating with things that are evil or dark , right , and so what I would say to that is that's a huge misconception .

But I would say , with every energy worker , with every reader , not just mediums , but psychics and other channelers or whatever , go with your intuition . What does your intuition say ? It doesn't mean that if it feels off , it doesn't mean that they have bodies I always joke and say they have bodies in the basement but means that your energy doesn't align .

So , um , but I would say , is that typically , for most readers , that is a misconception because , excuse me , for for myself , I have gone through not only a lot of training but my I set my intentions , not only with my guardian angels but my guides , um , to keep only communicate with those that are divine in nature , and it is a big .

I set a lot of boundaries with spirit because in the beginning there I was bombarded just with willy nilly , everybody and

everybody . When you kind of hang that mediumship shingle out and you light on in heaven , it's like , oh , everybody , it's just think of the Midwest during the summer Um , and you turn on a porch light , what happens ? All the bugs , right . So everything that's attracted to light , low vibration , high vibration , everything's attracted .

And the higher you raise your vibration , you know , the the better you got to be at . Okay , yes , no , it's kind of a mate . What could we use ? The definition of ? A spiritual tender ? Tender , or is it tender ? I don't know ?

So , anyways , I'm messing it up already , but left and right , to figure out what is high vibration , what you are match to and what is high vibration , what you are a match to , and , um , what is divine in nature and what's not . So , number one and number two , um , another misconception is , uh , you know , I think would be . Is that , um , mediums ?

Um , you know , a lot of people say they're a scam , they're , you know , um , lot of people say they're a scam , they're , you know they're not communicating with anything . They all do cold readings or hot I don't know hot readings , or they research .

Here's the deal is you got to do your research and unfortunately there are those , and we would be naive to say that nobody does that , because we know that there are people . But those of us that take the time to do are very ethical in their work and have those standards of doing what we do and come from a heart center place .

Don't have time for that BS and , quite honestly , I might be , I might live in a city , but it's , it's really not that big , and why would somebody ?

My dad would always say don't pee where you sleep or don't you know , take it , don't go to the bathroom where you sleep , right , sure , um , but the thing is , is that the same thing you know word of advice is work gets off fairly quick and unless you only do work online , which I do events as I shared I was just in Winnipeg you you will be taken care

of quite quickly by you know people out there because you know . So what I would share is you know , not everybody is a scam , not everybody is ethical . Do your research , do your homework , ask for word of mouth . What are people saying ? Follow them , are they doing live stuff ? Do you feel energetically connected ?

I've always loved medicine and different things and taking the EMT course and stuff , so I always had an interest in the medical field or medicine and I was like , wouldn't that be cool to combine the two , if that's something , and just , or to explore , to play and to see where it goes .

And so I started looking for a mentor , quite honestly , and I was like and I actually put that out I was like , okay , universe , if the student is ready . You know , they always say when the student is ready , the teacher will damn it , I am ready . Right , the ego . That was clearly ego , because . But the universe did send me .

I went to as I was sharing those expos and , wouldn't you know it , I would be either right next to a medical medium or these holistic nurses that deal with all that stuff . And I was like , oh my God , I would get so excited and I would read and I would talk to them and it was so fascinating .

But I was like and I was so bummed because I was like they're really cool and I love talking I didn't feel the energetic connection of taking a course from them .

And all of a sudden , one day for me , I was sitting watching TV and all of a sudden spirit showed up and goes get on , get on a social media , ask for , uh , for volunteers . And I was like uh , what's this for ? You know , like one of my kids , like you got a thing due tomorrow , you know . And it's like no , get on social media , ask for volunteers .

And I was like okay , so what is this for ? And it's like so you're going to do the medical mediumship thing . And I was like , well , wow , okay , so when are we doing this ? You're doing this , like here this week , you're going to do , you need to do it . And it's like so I did it . And within a matter of minutes , of course , anything free , everybody .

And at the time I would have people come into my home , right . And so I had , ooh , I had a like I had to put up big boundaries because there was like 10 people or 20 , you know . And I was like , ooh , man , I got too many . And so , anyways , long story short , um , spirit was like your teacher , you need to get downstairs right now .

You're going to channel your teacher . And I was like you say what ? And it's like your teachers are showing up in spirit . And in my ego mind I was thinking somebody has to show up physically . You got to take course in this , you got to crack a book . And it's like no , you're going to channel your teachers . And I was like teachers like several .

And it was like , yes , two teachers . And I was like one is a surgeon , one is a deceased surgeon and another was an angel Right , and it was like okay , so another was an angel Right , and it was like okay . So I was like so what's going on ?

And it was like okay , so the surgeon will allow you to see , and the surgeon will tell you or take you to the area of injury or interest or whatever . And the surgeon I don't know , I didn't get a lot of background information . I should have , because he was very he's , very cranky he's .

I don't know if he did , but the thing is in retirement you pulled him out , they pulled me back in and he was like you know you need to get heat like very direct . You need to go down and get yourself an anatomy book , because you do not know what you're looking at .

And then the other , as I shared , is , once the area is identified , then there's this angel that comes in and it was really kind of interesting because it's not a familiar archangel but I could tell it was very divine , it's different , and that would come in and allow the body to reset and heal what it needs to heal , naturally , right .

And yeah , and it was so fascinating because then I would see it and then I would , you know , go in the book and get one of those flip quick reference anatomy books . And in fact , my daughter this is her first year as a freshman in college and I was like take this book with you .

And because she's got anatomy , and I was like take this with you , this will work , but yeah , so anyways , and now what's is funny I got to share is she's totally , my daughter is totally a um , a closet medium , so she knows that she can do it , but it freaks her out .

And so , yeah , and when they they had their first lab with the body and I said , oh my God , I said , and there was , there was some stuff that happened and I said , oh my God , you're totally not , are you going to pass this class as far as you're just going to be chatting with the , the cadavers , and it was like so how's it go ?

She doesn't like that . Would you be nicer to her ? You , it's like , or different things .

So , um , but anyways , um , I got off subject , but I guess what I'm sharing is that , um , there are a lot of different things , but so when I connect the , the quality is that I look for somebody very ethical , um , somebody that energetically , as an empath , I'm connecting , I feel their connection , and then , of course , you're looking for .

You know , usually , if you know them , know like and trust them , you know that , their accuracy and that you know you're well , it's always curious who is the doctor's doctor , right ?

You know , I had a friend one time . They were like Dean , do you know how musicians get better ? And I was like , and they were like they play the song one more time . They play it over and over . That's how drummers know how to play the drum so well . Or guitarists , they play and tell their fingers .

But so the thing with mediumship is they continue giving more readings , or the same with practitioners of of healing . They do , they work with more and more clients and they work on developing how it works for them .

And your abilities will most certainly change and metamorphosize with your abilities as you increase in energy and um , and so it things have a way of shifting . It's like oh , I knew when I first started it was like this now I don't have to work as hard to do this , it's easier .

But also I found that I can do this , and so we unlock different parts of you know , almost kind of like a video game for maybe for some people , and it's like I didn't know we could do this . I unlocked a new level , you know .

I've done that before and it doesn't do you any good . It gives you maybe a little experience , but what you need to do is go again and do it again .

Maybe you get into mediumship and Reiki , Maybe you can marry the two . We've had talking about spontaneous healings , where you're guided to work with somebody , and I've had that experience myself . So things that you just go , you know you're just gobstrucked , you know it's just like wow , you know so .

One that really really helped me is a book by John Edwards called the Infinite Quest , and what I love about the book , that was the first book that was ever recommended to me and what I love about the book is in John writes and in a way that is very , not no nonsense , and he asks you throughout the book , like why the hell do you want to be a medium ?

And I kept on throwing her literally across the room going I don't want to be a medium . Remember the you know the psychic lady . She said read his book , it's good . And I kept on throwing it and I was like I don't want to be a damn medium , like and so .

But I kept on picking up and then I and you know , but the thing is it questions , it keeps on being that mirror for you . So that's what I find is good and it teaches you about boundaries . Anything by John Edwards , james Van Praagh , is great . There are so many now I , you know I haven't .

I need to get back to reading an actual book , but you know there's so many out there , and another one too . I'll give a shout out to my mentor , troy Parkinson .

He wrote a book as well , and about his experience and becoming a medium , and , but you know about development and everything else , so there's some , and when I'd write one , then I'll recommend that as well .

And in the aspect of saying Dean boy , real estate , that's so weird because I'm also a dowser , so that's another ability that I have . So locating and shifting energies , not only within homes but in businesses and land and everything else , finding lost objects .

So but if you go to my website at themilitarymediumcom and you just book , you know , appointment or whatever , I have a whole list of services that you can pick and choose from .

And , by the way , by the end of it's through the end of the week , but I'm doing a fall equinox sale , so I got a lot of select services on sale through the end of the month and so , yeah , All right , wonderful .

. I'm going to guide you through the second part , which is three social media questions . So here we go . Sure . We go Number one , do you ? Use any techniques to help you connect to the other side . Do you use any techniques to help you connect to the other side ?

And what I realized I was like why can't I just integrate that into my everyday life and already have that preloaded , so to speak , of this protection and everything ?

So , but some days when I'm more stressed , because I am still , I am the spirit , having a human experience , um , days that I'm carrying a little bit heavier energy , I will , um , I will meditate Some of you see the guitar in the back .

I'll play something that raises my energy because I need I know that I need to be at that higher level or plane of existence and of energy for my clients or doing the work that I do , to maintain that , to connect with spirit . So I use a very , you know , tuning forks .

I've used , like essential oil , spray , different things , blends that I like , you know whether it's Palo Santos , wood and then usually in my office down here where I am , I also like to diffuse different oils , but if you like to burn , like sage or different things , but keeping your environment this is huge .

Keeping your environment high , vibrational and very cleansed of other people and even your stuff , the , the baggage . Keep a free of baggage , because if you're there for work , how can you deal with , um , you know , being your best self if you're worried about you know , do the dogs need to go to the bathroom ? Do you know , do the kids need their baths ?

And if you know your spouse , your significant other , somebody else has it , or if you can take care of it in a way that , if you can drop the baggage at the door , come in , do your work , come back out , and so that's kind of what I have the boundaries that I've set , and my wife and I both do work from home .

She also does energy work and so we learn to work together . So there's days that when she has appointments and different things , then I'm covering down . And guess what ? Because I'm not always Dean the medium , right , we talked about labels before I got to be Dean the dad , or I got to be . Take out the damn trash , right , so . Or cut the grass , so .

It's like there's life , and you got to be able to cover down on that stuff , so you got to find the balance and , dare I say , the happy medium .

I hate saying do this because if I give somebody X , y , z and they're like , oh my God , I got to do it because Dean said it and it probably won't work for them because they're , oh my God , I hate it , and it's like , then why are you doing it ? It's just a way , it's not the way . It's like try it . If you like it , great , go do it .

But find different ways , maybe different blends of different things . I took a six-month meditation course to learn that I hate traditional meditation and there was a significant amount of money and time . And there was significant amount of money and time . But I learned that I don't need to sit cross-legged in a lotus position to connect to the other side .

I can do it while I'm painting a wall . I can do it . I can do it moving . I can do it running .

And I had gained the respect of a lot of officers and senior non-commissioned officers within the army , and here I was a senior non-commissioned officer myself at the time of retirement , and so I didn't want to be that guy and but eventually I did come out and I was like you know what ? What are they going to do ? Bend my dog tags , make me retire ?

And I was , because I was like this is who I am . And when people kept on asking me what I was going to do , I was very vague in the beginning . This is what I'm doing . So , yes and no , there's .

There's a blend of people that are I experienced people that were like there's a blend of people that are I experienced people that were like oh my God , that is so cool . And or one , one soldier that I , uh , that was in my unit . I found out that , you know , she was a Reiki master . She never said anything . Oh my God , I knew it .

I knew it , dean , that you were , there was something , and then um , but there's other people , like you know , I I'll pray for you . You know other people that just walked away and they're like , whatever , he's off the deep end Right and so , so and it's so .

It's a blend and I found that , not only in the military community but in the civilian community , people are people . It doesn't matter if you're wearing a uniform or if you're wearing a . It doesn't matter what you're wearing .

It's more of a mindset , and just because people feel that you know if they're serving in the military , it doesn't mean that they're all closed minded .

We are wrong about so many things when we have these perceptions of when the soul leaves this physical plane of existence and transitions to the spirit realm , right , and or you know the way that somebody passes . Oh , my God , they're , you know they're in hell or whatever , and we're so far off the mark . And I always say this , even as a medium .

I do the best in my puny little head . Can you know , understand all this beauty and this ? There's complexities and everything , and I try to put it into our words the best way , but I always say you know what , we do our best , but when we get to the other side , we're going to go .

Well , shit , I had it wrong , you know , because it's going to be so much more beautiful . It's going to be much more beautiful . It's going to be , and I know that already , but that's

you know . If I could say two things , and again , is that you are tremendously , without a doubt , 110% love , whether you , nobody has ever said it to you before . You were told , since you're a newborn to the time you're passing , that you were loved and that you're never alone . They're always with you . You never walk a day .

There's never a moment that , even if you feel utterly alone , know that you're not and that they're proud of you , they're supporting you . But sometimes we just need validation in life , right . Sure , sure , Well thank you for that On all levels absolutely .

Just be kind and you know , and to be cognizant of your energy You're responsible for your energy and to take ownership of that , whether right , wrong , good or bad , and so just be kind with it . Understand that there are people struggling out there . They need our help rather than our ridicule or judgment . Thank you .