In episode 3 of In These Shoes, we interview Dawn Callahan, owner of Bags Plus Some and board member of AVDA (Aid to Victims of Domestic Abuse). For Dawn, racism was a fact of life that her parents prepared her since she was a child and a factor in her name selection. Dawn shares how prejudice is a daily encounter and how it impacts her thoughts and actions. Watch the YouTube Version: https://youtu.be/dBJQQ4xBlZo Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting,...
Aug 12, 2020•25 min
Dr. William July, a licensed clinical psychologist in Houston, shares his experiences with racism in this second episode of In These Shoes. Dr. July, a former cop, shares how his terrifying teenage experience with the police prompted him to become an officer and what it was like to grow up as a black child in the 60's. Dr. July explains how anticipating prejudice leads him to live strategically daily even still today. Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, paren...
Jul 28, 2020•24 min
***Warning: Contains the use of a racist slur during the retelling of Chris' experience with racism.*** In the first episode of In These Shoes, we interview Chris Boykins, the founder of Glory Fitness and the Boykins Youth Foundation. Chris shares his first experience with racism at age 9 on the baseball field and his everyday encounters even still today. Chris, a former college roommate of George Floyd, also shares his thoughts about modern racism and how we can make a change. Mary Jo Rapini, M...
Jul 14, 2020•22 min
Have you ever been on a date with someone who suddenly starts showering you with compliments and gifts? They don’t even seem to know much about you but quickly tell you they are in love with you and make you feel incredibly special. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses a dangerous manipulative behavior called love bombing and how you can recognize it. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/F7t-DG4bLNI Download my PDF activities for more help: http://www.maryjora...
May 20, 2020•6 min
There’s something thrilling and attractive about someone we can't have. Sometimes we convince ourselves if we could have them, we would be happy. Whether it’s your boss, your best friend’s ex, or someone's spouse, today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses why we fantasize about someone we shouldn't and how to stop it. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/UgBe7udEAIY Looking for more help? Download my PDF activities on my website! http://www.maryjorapini.com/reactio...
May 06, 2020•6 min
Honesty is always the best policy, but volunteering information that will upset your partner or hurt their feelings is often better left unsaid. Before you share something with your partner, it’s important to consider whether this information will strengthen or grow the relationship. Today on Reaction Reset, I’m sharing my list of 5 things better left unsaid in a relationship. Watch the YouTube version: Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body imag...
Apr 01, 2020•5 min
If you’re feeling more irritable lately or arguing with your partner more, you may be experiencing depression. The signs of depression are often hidden and become more likely with passing years due to changes with brain chemistry and aging. Today on Reaction Reset, we’re talking about subtle signs of depression. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VQBiqIm0QXA Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self...
Mar 18, 2020•5 min
This week, we interviewed Dawn Callahan, a domestic violence survivor and board member of AVDA - a nonprofit organization that supports domestic abuse victims. Please join us for Dawn's incredible story, starting from when she realized she was in an abusive relationship to how she escaped and recovered. Interviewer Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/TyuqTAco7yo Domestic Abuse...
Mar 04, 2020•16 min
Have you grown so distant from your partner that sex seems awkward? You’re not alone. Over time, couples often grow distant physically and became involved with their kids, personal interests, and work, and then stop having sex. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses how to start talking about sex with your partner. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4yUuYb-crSw Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relations...
Feb 19, 2020•8 min
When you marry someone, you share your lives through the good and bad times, and this is what gives marriage it’s incredible depth and meaning. You're in a position of powerful and unique influence that can either build your partner up or tear them down. Today on Reaction Reset, I'm sharing 7 crucial times your spouse needs your love, care, and attention. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/ZU3tdBkQGGg Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, bo...
Feb 05, 2020•7 min
It can be difficult to understand each other when you fall on different sides of the extroversion and introversion spectrum. Extroversion and introversion refer to where people draw their energy from. Extroverts draw their energy from social interactions while introverts draw their energy from solitude. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist shakes 4 communication skills to help bridge the extroversion and introversion divide. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/zw5LijHbGS8 Mary Jo Rap...
Jan 22, 2020•6 min
Most of us relate the word "foreplay" to the bedroom. However, foreplay is the way you talk to your partner when you first wake up and how you make them feel throughout the day. Your actions and words determine what happens (or doesn’t happen) in the bedroom. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares good and bad examples of foreplay. Watch the YouTube version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ac2TbkPs7rk Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy...
Jan 08, 2020•6 min
Maybe it’s the magazines or romantic comedies, but we all seem to believe a set of expectations or myths when it comes to marriage. If you’re struggling with your marriage or about to tie the knot, we challenge you to see how many of these myths you hold true. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares 6 marriage myths she often sees in her office. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/2ECYt9TpZyY Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, ...
Dec 18, 2019•10 min
It may sound strange to want to go back to someone who insulted, manipulated, or eve hit you, but it’s not uncommon. Trauma-bonding is the result of ongoing abuse that involved a reinforcement of reward and punishment and can be mistaken for love. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini explains the emotional tricks your brain plays that keep you attached to your abuser. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/VWYS0tZBA1g Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializ...
Dec 04, 2019•7 min
Divorces are painful, and the people going through them are confused, angry, frustrated, and overwhelmed. You’re on a roller coaster of feelings and posting how you feel on social media about your divorce or your ex can lead to more drama. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses 5 social media posts that can make the aftermath of a divorce even more destructive. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/1wjw-lADOa0 Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specia...
Nov 20, 2019•6 min
Sometimes we use relationships to cover up areas of our lives we don't like, such as insecurity, toxic family, or a lack of friends. These are called band-aid relationships. Deep down we know they are temporary, and it can create even more self-loathing and instability. On Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares some signs you're in one. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/OrQDfTC-u8I Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body ima...
Nov 06, 2019•4 min
Ever get in an argument and you’re not sure what you are arguing about? Maybe what you're saying isn't what’s being heard. Something is misconstrued or taken out of context and, suddenly, the person hearing it becomes incensed. It happens at work, school, and home. Today on Reaction Reset, we’re talking about how miscommunication happens, its effects, and how to avoid it. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/6oUWYAJope0 Need help fighting fairly? Check out our PDF assignments! www.maryjor...
Oct 23, 2019•5 min
When couples split up, everyone wants to know what happened. Was there an affair? A big fight? In truth, it’s not always the big things that cause the biggest threat. Sometimes it’s the little things – the numerous times you broke a promise, didn’t show gratitude, or forgot a special occasion. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini goes through 5 everyday things you do that ruin a relationship. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/Y6GLSN6zoB0 Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a...
Oct 09, 2019•7 min
