Just B Rant: Undercover Boss

with my texts. And I'm very big on throwing like robotexting with like okay number one, sort the garage number two? Where is this being very clear? Now? I am intense and a lot for people that I work with, but they always know where I stand and what I want, and I get what i want because I'm not scattered and I'm very clear, and it will everybody else to task.

And the weekly updates that I learned years ago when I was working at Island Pictures for a guy named Mark Berg underneath Chris Blackwell and then Linda Bruckheimer, like these processes that I've used for twenty years, that they work, like this update that once a week comes that basically has like pending and like imminent. Imminent would be like dogs need to go to vet today for a tick.

Thing pending would be like the bag that I have at the shoe repair or something at tailoring that needs to be written on an update because it lives somewhere and it's not just me in the middle of the night or on a vacation being like, wait, what happens to that bag? Like every box getting checked. And I will say, once you do the job of the people that work around you or with you, or people that are your coworkers, once you do the job, you know how competent or other people are. It's the same way

as like a wife. The husband has to do the mob's job. He has to cook, he has to clan, he has to get the laundry, get the kids to school, get the raincoat to get the permission slips, get the sports activity snacks, keep the house in order, keep the house tidy, vacuum. There was a movie years ago with Michael Keaton Mister Mom about that, and then by the

end he ends up respecting the mom's job. Well, you could be doing your assistant's job, or your coworker's job, or someone else's job and realize how hard that job is or how incompetent they are, because people move papers around the desk and they don't work efficiently and smart. And I always say, it's not how hard you work, it's how smart you work. You go go to the gym and spend four hours sweating and going in circles, but if you're not working smart and efficient, you don't

get the results. And me being on that runway and everyone thinking like I work out at the gym every single day and I've secretly got a trainer and all this shit. I walk and I'm efficient about when I walk because it makes my walk go longer. If I do work calls on my walk, if I talk to my therapist on my walk, if I talk to my business manager and go through my finances on my walk, like I'm efficient, I'm lean. I get it done and the minute I know it has to be done, I

immediately get it done. Like that's who I am, and that's working smarter. I'm not like flailing flapping my wings. I wasn't the one who used to talk at work all the time. I was the one that had my head down, get it done, then go relax and on a photo shoot it's always a brand saying it's gonna take eight hours. It's always my team saying it's not. It's gonna take her three hours and them saying no, and her saying yes, we get there. It's three hours.

I don't fuck around with lunch. I don't fuck around with a snack. We get it done. And the crew is always so grateful because they get to get the fuck out of there. And that is the critical difference between me and everybody else. It's called get it done, lean and efficient, no foreplay. So I have to say, you figure out how your staff is actually working. And again, don't cheap out. Don't hire the cheapest person. If you have people working for you or with you, make sure

you're taking care of people. If it's someone who's a babysitter, if it's someone who's a nanny, if it's someone who's an intern, if it's someone who's a dog walker, if it's someone who's a helper, whatever it is, you pay them in baked goods, You send them a thank you note, You be grateful, and you let people know that they're helping you because you're reinforcing positivity and you're also motivating

them to do the work. But if you do the job, you'll not get stolen from people that work with you will know. You know where the bodies are buried, you know how charges happen, you know what everyone's spending, you know how this gets done. And then they'll also know that they can't just overcharge you. I've had people pretend something take hours. I'm like, yeah, I just did that in five minutes. Like that's a scam. I just booked the hotel five minutes, just booked the travel on this app.

That's a scam that it took you all this time. It could be people overcharging you for design, people overcharging you for travel agent stuff, people overcharging you for landscaping. We'll pay. I don't know what it is, but check your people, check the people that work around you, with you and for you, because if you do the job, you're like you're undercover boss, and you will see what it takes. And people like to talk a lot about

getting things done. I say, get it done. The path of least resistance and the shortest distance is just a straight line between points. This has to get done. Don't tell me it can't get done. I know it can get done. How are we getting it done. We're solution based. People. Cannot tell you how many people try to whine and spend more time talking about how something can't get done than standing up and just going in and getting it done. Well, that's gonna take a while. I have to call the

this guy. We'll have to look that up. Get it done right now, Just get it done. Nike said it best, Just do it. You're welcome. I now know what love bombing is. I call it the Chia pet of dating. Like some people think you're just gonna add water and be in a relationship. And these are those people that

haven't done the work. Might be that they were in a long marriage and they're just needy and they're used to relationship and it's a disservice to themselves because they just want to just add water and there's a relationship. And I come in contact with these people where there's a familiarity and a language and a way of texting, and I don't like that. I like tradition, I like formality. I don't like when someone immediately thinks like we're in

an instant relationship. Because we had one conversation and one of the best things that I ever heard from one of the dating experts on this podcast was this is a stranger. People on both sides of dating get so familiar so quick because you get excited. It could be because you've had sex, but even before sex, you're so excited. You want to meet someone, you think you like someone,

you think they like you. You're talking in futuristic terms on the fairy tale, fictitious first date or first meeting, and you think it's all real. I've had people who are talking to me about the future and then we text like once or twice, and we never speak again. I've had people also right after meeting them because we liked each other and we had a little flirt and maybe I was gaslighting myself into thinking I like them, or maybe I want an instant relationship because it makes it

so much easier, just check the box. And then like they're messaging you like pictures of their family or kids, or like inside baseball all day, Like I don't want to get to a familiar point until we're at a familiar point. I don't want to meet your kids. I don't want to meet your parents. I don't want to see you in your pajamas, I don't want to see you in your natural habitat until we're in a relationship.

You cannot rush a process. You meet someone, you get to know them, and so if they can't control themselves, you have to control yourself. You can never put the toothpaste back in the tube once it's out. So once you kind of let this person take you for granted, think they already have you. Think you're in a familiar state, Think you're in a relationship. Think they can like just sort of show up when they want, call you when

they want, like have a booty call. Whatever. No way, do not get to the familiarity state before it's been earned and proven. For both sides. One is it's creepy and weird, and it means someone is emotionally missing a chip and hasn't done the work on themselves because they just want to do instant relationship or you too, that's how like you immediately get into what are we doing tonight? What are we doing tomorrow? Like you're like married, Immediately

the wheels come off. It gets to be a turn off. That's the love stage, and it's premature. You can't have love until you actually are really in love, and it is true love. You cannot pretend you're in love with a stranger. There really is no such thing as love at first sight. It doesn't exist. There's lust at first sight, there's oh my god, I can't believe how I feel

about this person at first sight. I could eventually see myself falling in love with this person, but you have no institutional knowledge to make that assessment, and as someone who has made such shit relationship choices, do not get to that state. We all go there in the beginning, like oh my god, you're imagining your kids' names, you're living together, you're fantasizing, you're seeing what the cadence is going to be like in your life and in your dating.

It doesn't exist. It's not real, and you're gonna get the ick, whether it's in the beginning or after, and it's almost embarrassing in front of yourself. You're like, oh my god, I can't believe last week I was thinking all this, Like do not rush. You never have that chance to really build again. And once you give it all away, once you sleep with someone in the beginning, once you're too familiar in the beginning, once you've showed them you in pajamas in the beginning, like all of it.

It's like, it's not cute. Keep the formality. For a while, people were nitpicking on social media about Kim Kardashian and law school and like why they're like, she didn't graduate from law school because I guess she didn't go to law school, but she got a degree and she took the bar and she studied, like not everyone goes to drivers at either, and not everyone goes to driving school, and not everyone goes to sit in the class of real state school to get their real estate license either.

I don't know. I don't know much about it. But she's a pretty big multitasker. I think she has a show coming out, maybe on Hulu or somewhere. I think she's proven herself. I think if she got a law degree, she fucking earned it and deserved it, and like she deserves the flowers. Okay, if she can practice law, which I don't know if she can, I don't know the rules. If she can practice law or is actually consay she's

a lawyer, then she went to law school. In my book, Travis and Taylor, I in the beginning wasn't team it. I thought it went too fast. I didn't think it was totally real. I thought in the beginning, I thought it seemed like that she a pet of relationships. I thought it was like just I didn't see them together in the beginning. But like, if you think about how I imagine she grew up and how I imagine he

grew up, I think their parents are both together. I think they seem like they have similar fundamentals, like similar family fundamentals, similar family support, and so in retrospect, I can be a Monday Morning quarterback to use a topical reference or analogy, it seems to work. But like I wonder if they're going to go the distance from someone pretty knowledgeable on the inside told me that they're going the distance, I kind of like it. I think that

would mean there's hope for everyone. And I think it's also like got a little bit of like quarterback and captain of the cheerleading squad, and I kind of like that, like Americana apple Pie aspect, just a more modern take. And I hear they're spending a lot of time in Florida together, which, of course I love. Florida is having a real glow up right now.