One Thing At A Time

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Hey there, I'm Kaysonga, and welcome back to Radio Headspace. This week, I'm answering some listener questions about mindfulness, meditation, or just life in general. Today's inquiry is about multitasking. It goes like this. Hi, Kaysonga. I truly believe I have mastered multitasking. I even learned how to do it during my meditation practice. What do you think? And do you have any tips in general about multitasking?

is to simply rethink it. A teacher of mine put it quite simply. Multitasking is one of the biggest myths in existence. I remember asking what she meant by this. Because at the time, I thought of myself as a pretty efficient multitasker. But what she said next really made sense. It's not so much that you're doing more than one thing at once, because essentially...

We can only do one thing at a time. What we're really doing is thinking that we're doing more than one thing at the same time. And as a result, what we may actually be causing is mental clutter. This makes me think about something called the three B's. In the book, Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy for Depression, mindfulness experts Zendo V. Siegel, Mark Williams, and John Teasdale

They explain a bit about the three B's, the busy mind, the background mind, and the being mind. I'm totally paraphrasing here, but let's get into what this all means.

So the busy mind is sometimes referred to as the monkey mind. That's something I'm sure we've all experienced before. It's always looking for something to think about. For example, It worries over the future and the past. It makes lists. It fantasizes. And creates imaginary conversations like, if I say this, then the person I'm talking to will say that.

It's goal-oriented, and multitasking falls under this busy or monkey mind category. The background mind refers to the aspect of the mind that's in the background. working at evaluating experiences, judging oneself or others, and checking to see how one's current situation is compared to the idea of how they would like it to be.

The busy and the background mind together is referred to as the doing mind, which simply means everything that I mentioned is happening in your brain while you're doing something. Your mind is on overload while you're performing a task. And then you have the being mind. The being mind is categorized by open awareness of the constantly changing flow of moment-to-moment experiences. There is an interest in and an allowing of what is, rather than a measuring and pressure to change.

And if this sounds familiar, that's because we tap into our so-called being mind when we practice mindfulness. We are aware and just being in the present moment.

And I humbly believe that completing tasks well has to do with the energy that you're bringing to them. So when you're doing task A, allow yourself to focus on task A. without also thinking about how task B has to get done. So just remember that however you tackle your to-do list, don't be too hard on yourself. And if you want a tip to slow down,

Sometimes it helps me to say, okay, Kaysonga, you're totally in that doing mind state. Let's take a pause, maybe a deep breath, and gently shift into more of a being state of mind. Just the simple act of telling yourself what you're doing while you're doing it can bring you back to the present moment. And remember, the more you practice just being, the more natural it will become.

Okay, I'm going to mindfully pause there for today. I invite you to check out my meditation in the app called Switching Tasks. It's all about learning to skillfully and mindfully move from one task to another. I would love to know what you think of it. And if you'd like to hear more advice from yours truly or any of the other teachers, I invite you to listen to our new podcast called Dear Headspace.

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