Really understanding like why you're actually in relationship in the 1st place. And a lot of people are just in relationship to, to be in relationship because we're in the society that makes us feel like we absolutely need to be in a relationship that we literally just can't be single. Like that's just not to be single, right? But we're like, your desire to be in a partnership is really about building something more. And it's so unique to you and it
gets to be so personal to you. And when I looked at what that was and what it really felt like for me, it was the feeling of harm. Sapphics. And allies, you're listening to Queer Women Rising. That's women with an X. Because we are inclusive here. When we hear the stories of queer women who have gone before us, we see evidence that there's nothing we can't do. And yes, we can too. It's time for you to level up in life, in love, and step into your most authentic, abundant
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So we're there, one of the little luxuries of life that I'm all about doing. And if you are watching on Instagram Live, hi, we are recording for the Queer Moon Rising podcast. And if you're listening on the podcast, you might want to join me live. I go live on Wednesdays, 12:00 PM Central Standard Time. And if you're live, you might be able to ask some questions.
It gets to be fun. So right now, I'm so excited because today's guest is today's guest is Miss Jasmine B. And I'm going to read you a little bit about her right now. What happens when a lesbian's journey? I've got my laptop here. I've got my laptop here. Are you ready? This is like the most dramatic intro, but she deserves it. This is this is a good story. We're about to get into what happens when a lesbian journey through heartbreak, betrayal, and toxic relationships collide
with faith and healing. Can you really have it all? Jasmine's story is one of transformation from navigating the ups and downs of the classic lesbian storybook romances, including engagements. Cheating. Toxic patterns to embracing celibacy, reconnecting with her faith, and building a thriving business in 2022. Jasmine's journey is nothing short of inspiring. Today, Jasmine's an energy and business mentor for visionary leaders, creatives, and wild souls.
She's here to share how faith and queerness you guys know. I love to talk about faith and queerness. These things coexist and the shift that allowed her to find true love. If you're listening and you're like, I am ready for true love, keep listening. It is all about getting yourself in a state to receive that love. And this podcast is going to do that for you because when you feel Jasmine and Jasmine's energy, you are going to be elevated. She's an energetic mentor for a
reason. We're going to rise together and she's. Going to be sharing some. Strategies that brought her success Welcome to. And also, we've hung out in real life and it was a blast. We met in Florida like a month ago and we ended up having truffle fries together, so it was a great time. Hey, Queen. Hello. Hello you, I'm from like my face is literally like fried in the
best way. This is the only way we need to start doing like IG lives like this level of authenticity in 2025. It's like I'm yeah, it it like hurts to smile so you might not see that. So I've got a skin. Beard, let me. What is this process? I'm so curious of this. Have you heard of PRP microneedling where they spin your plasma and then like they put your plasma on your face and then it's like 17 Japanese needles? I want this. I do it every like three to four
months. It's standard for me. But this girl went hard and it was like the best experience I've ever had. I'm like, I think my money's worth, like this is good. I'm going to be like 10 years younger. I love this. Thank you for thank you for having me in this live podcast episode, literally live on Instagram as well as on your podcast. My energy and like my my heart
is so open today. I have I'm just so happy to be here and I feel so ripe, like I feel so ripe for this conversation, which is actually very unique as in like this is everyone in my brand in my world. Y'all y'all want to learn? We're going to talk about love. Yeah, we're going to talk about love today. It's going. To be different than what I used to hear. This is very different to what we're used to because this is not something that I shared that
much in my brand. We're going to be really just diving into this and I'm really excited because there is, there's this just felt like such a yes, a yes moment for for me to share this because having an like business in itself, like success in business is 1 aspect of the whole of the whole journey that you're here to be in. And I just came in from a 2 day retreat that I hosted with AVIP client where the conversations were mind blowing.
They were some of the deepest, most profound, beautifully expansive conversations on God, on faith, on richness, on life, on love, on intimacy, on partnership, on what it means to actually, actually have it all. And to just that you're worthy of having it all. Not just as a concept or an Instagram quote, but actually as looking at the places within you that really feels like, do you believe that you can really have it all? Yeah, yeah.
That's the conversation that's really right for me right now, so. Let's have it, let's have it. I'm gonna you feel free to go where the wind blows, where your soul carries you. But if you I want to just relax, relax into that feminine energy of being LED. I have like so many questions. I brought out my laptop. I'm like, oh boy, I yeah, no, I'm like, I I want to know the details. I want to see.
So first of all, we met hanging out in a vet and we were like you're a lesbian because like you don't we we don't quote UN quote lesbian like back and we're just like, I see you. It was the best killing ever. And so do you identify with the L in LGBTQ or like what's OK, OK, cool. Strictly no dickly ever. Not not ever, but but not not not moving forward. Not now, not not. Yeah, Wait a minute, are we talking about the Dick leaders? And we'll, we'll leave that off Instagram.
No, we're we're talking about attached to a man. Absolutely freaking not. God bless. God bless. OK, tell us your journey because you've gone through so much, so much that you've even changed your name, you've changed your identity, you've had a transformation. It's spiritual love was involved, breakups, toxicity. Where did you start? And like you're even physically in a new place. Just give us the the whole story.
In a nutshell, yeah. So this feels like this is so vulnerable for me, but I'm very excited. So the, the big thing here is I have like I've come out a long time ago, very long time ago. So it was really just like during high school that I, I really knew that I was gay when I had fallen for my best friend who was not gay. That something that is super horrible and it sucks. Yeah. And that was something that I knew, but it really didn't have anything to do with like
physicality. It obviously there was a physical element, but it it it's like I if I, if it was the physical element, I feel like I would have known in grade 8 or much younger because I was like, wait a minute, like you guys don't just you guys don't all like exploring with your girlfriend and that's so normal. And then when I found out it wasn't, I was like, oh, OK, we're just we're practicing for we're be we're going to be, you know what I mean?
Or whatever, Like, but I think I really knew when I was in love because it was a feeling, It was a it was a it was annoying. It was a very different feeling that I had never felt having boyfriends. So I mean, that's my coming out story is not necessarily like an incredibly profound other than the fact that I had to come out a million so many times to my parents who were like, no way, you're you're way too gorgeous. Yeah, I was like, you're too pretty to be gay is one that I
have heard forever. And I'm like, that's offensive, OK. What, like, what does that even mean in them? And then I started to shift it and I was like, no, yeah, like, exactly. Like, I'm way too gorgeous too. That'd be. Straight. I'm way too gorgeous to be straight. If I would share all of this with a man. A man. That's just a funny joke, but like, so, yeah. So like and then coming out to my family, but then also coming out to like, I come out all the time.
Do you know what I mean? Like it's like, it's it's continual. Like I would say pretty much like a few times a week, like all the time. Yeah. Because of it's just like natural. Like I meet so many people. I live in Saloom and I'm was sitting in the most sacred
tennis call ceremony. Like not even 24 hours ago and it was like a 2 1/2 hour ceremony, like filled to the brim with people and we were going to such deep places within ourselves and beautiful forgiveness with God and clearing and like breathing and it was work. Like there was crying and like all of these things.
And so I met all these women afterwards and like, you know, they'll be like, oh, my boyfriend or like my husband, I had this first husband and I was like, oh, you had a starter husband and you're like, you can have a starter husband too. And I was like, Oh, no, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm into women and they're like, have a starter, have a starter wife then. And I was like, I don't think we go into that thinking this life, but like, so we're all, I'm always coming out.
But the love story essentially was, it was from all of these, this, this journey of being in the wrong relationships, which I mean, this is a conversation that is like really like this is so relatable. Like this is such a relatable experience that I think every single person has is really understanding, like why you're actually in relationship in the
1st place. And a lot of people are just in relationship to, to be in relationship because we're in the society that makes us feel like we absolutely need to be in a relationship that we literally just can't be single. Like that's just not the kid to be single, right? But we're like, your desire to be in a partnership is really about building something more. And it's so unique to you and it
gets to be so personal to you. And when I looked at what that was and what it really felt like for me, it was the feeling of home. And I had been looking for this feeling of home in these other people or these experiences or like I drove across Canada like 55 hours in the pandemic. And like, like when I was let go from my job in the, in the pandemic. And for me, it wasn't even a sad thing. It was like, oh, this is my moment. Like this is this is the whole
moment. And there was that partnership and then there was this. I was in a A5 year relationship previous to that where I was actually engaged in the past to a woman. Yeah. And I was, I got engaged in Thailand and I like, it's so funny. Like so many people are the following me. They you may not even know this because it is not something that I I share about. Like my level of personal brand is very different from your personal brand. The way that you do your
personal brand. There's many ways to do your personal brand. But for me, I'm, I mean, I'm, I don't hear every update on my life, but I like to invite in this intimacy. Just recently I got back from Switzerland like 2 days ago and I was sharing a lot about my, my relationship and more. And I think I'm sharing it more from a place of like, it was never like a desire like, oh, I have to share my relationship. Like I need to share it.
It was actually just a desire of like, wait a minute, like this was actually such a piece of my success. This was such a piece of like the work that was last year. So when I look back on the success of 2024 at the end of the year, like, is it actually all just about like money and numbers and offers and what I launched and like how many people joined a program or all of these different things?
And like, what was it about like the actual work that we did in partnership together and the amount of layers that we had to shed and the really coming into divine union and having a divine counterpart and like somebody that really sees you and it's going to like blast you off to like where you want to be and also hold you in the place of like, wow, this is hard.
Like because being in partnership is about bearing witness to somebody's life, the highest, the lows, the heart breaks, the failures, the like the consistency, the, the determination, the commitment, the like the hopes, the dreams, the fuel, the, the anger that comes up all like your, your life, the, the most magical things that happen. Like that's what being in partnership is. It's, it's bearing witness, like to somebody's lived experience.
And that's so sacred. It's so special to share that. And that's like really deep intimacy and I don't know if you guys already feel this for me or not, but like we don't do surface level in my world. We just. I love it. I mean, like I'm, I'm actually pretty like surface about a lot of things. Like I just laugh things off very like people, I don't take a lot a lot seriously. And so people are like, but how can you like be so deep? But I don't think things
seriously. I'm like, I just laugh at everything. I'm like, yeah, this is funny like this fucking funny. Like it's a joke. Like relax, it's a joke, you know? But yeah, I think our partnership is a place for, like, real, real beautiful work that you can really do to be like, this is who I am and this is who I want to be.
And if you can, if you can help me come closer into that and I can help you come closer into the person that you want to be like, wow, we're doing something really special together. Yes. And I think like people, it's so intense and I think people place value in like the relationship of did it last forever or whatever, But the the value is like, did you both grow? Did you both become someone
better through this thing? And the way you just defined healthy partnership is one of the most beautiful ways that I've heard it defined. Bearing witness to someone's growth, to someone's evolution, to someone's day-to-day, to someone's trauma, to someone's vulnerabilities, and holding sacred space and being a safe space for that. Yeah. Beautiful. Beautiful. Emotional and I love it.
It's like and, and the reason like me and you, like I have such a genuine connection with you because I don't know, like there's just what the fuck is this? I don't know we're good enough fact with our hands. Instagram is weird. I love Instagram. I'm looking for this reason. This is so cool, but I've had a genuine relation like connection with you specifically because like this, the the whole partnership thing, like I always was like, no, I'm keeping that like so far away from my brand
like I was like. There's reasons you might want to, I'm just saying it's hard when you like things don't work out. Yeah, like for me, like, like, like it's, it's not a part of the, the offers and the programs and the things that I launch. Well, it, it could be it like I'm a manifester. So I when I create something, it's going to be rich, it's going to be ripe and it's going to fucking hit the spot and change people's lives.
So I'm not going to say I'm not going to create something like that because can't promise that I cannot. But it's usually not a part of the, the work that I, I teach. I'm not a relationship coach. And it, it's something that I was like, well, I don't need to share it in my grand because then if I don't share it, then what happens if it doesn't work out? And like then I like doesn't matter. As long as I, I'm building the company I have, I have my success, I have my dog, I have
my penthouse at this. We're growing, we're scaling, like it doesn't matter. Like it's just me, myself and my world. And I was really comfortable in that. Even when I was in a relationship, it was very much like, like there was this feeling of like, I, I've just built this life and it's like there's, there's me in my life and then there's this
relationship and this partner. But then I realized like how I was keeping something just a little bit like just outside of here, just in the safe zone, like, you know what I mean? Like it doesn't even matter. Like I'm good, I'm good.
Like I've, it's all me like. And I was confronted with that last year when it was like, oh, you're, you're going to be good no matter what, because you know, you have your business and your dog and your house and your world and it's, it's Jasmine's world and, and you're, you're building it. And I was like, whoa, like this really showed me the parts of myself where I was like, wow, like am I, is this just a side piece? Is it like the can I have a side
of rise more? Is this like the thing that I'm actually building? Like my, my communication changed when it was like, oh, like, let's, let's get this house like here and like have this house for six months here and like started to like be planning together rather than like, no, this is my space, my house, this is it. And then we get married. Like we'll figure this out. But like, I'm always going to just have my own world and like, that's just how it is. And it was like this safety
thing. And now it's like, OK, like it's been 2 years. It has been long distance, like off and on. But it's not because we don't both work online. It's because we're boss pitches and we're doing stuff. So there's, there's that and, and it's just about like making it happen. And I remember like I, we just had this goodbye at the airport like 3 days ago. Like, I don't even know, like
I'm so alive right now. I think normally I would be jet lagged, but I just, my flight was 3, three days late. They, they cancelled the, the flight and they had to reschedule me on the next flight. And it's like a one way flight from Switzerland to Tulu, Mexico. And I was like, Oh, my goodness, I am doing a very big, like very extraordinary retreat. Like I'm this only gonna give you one day to recover. And I thought I was gonna have three days with a close friend
of mine who was visiting. And I was like, here's the key to my house, stay at my house. And I was gonna have three days with her. I don't know if that would have been super recovery because she's she's wild energy. And then I was gonna do this retreat, but I didn't didn't happen like that. I just. I came right in. I had one day planned boom, this that places Razzo's here. They're boom everything
extraordinary. La Creme de la Creme and, and I and then the Tema skull and the sound healings and the, the, the sound pass and the, and the full moon parties and the cacao ceremonies and the brand photo shoot. And like all of these things, like all of it happened and I feel like I've completely reset my body just by the amount of deep energetic work that I've literally done in a few days because I've been like doing the experience as well with my client. And so I'm like, I don't even
feel like the same person. I feel like I'm completely blessed. I'm so happy for you. Love the very good vibes when you like have like these transformational times where you feel like you're up leveling. Do you feel like that comes from like being in partnership or the moment where you, because everyone gets their energy different? Do you feel that from partnership or do you feel it alone? Because I know you went through a celibate season as well. And like, yeah, so tell me about that.
Like getting energy from partnership versus celibacy, like. Any thoughts on? That well, for me, like I want my partnership to be a place of peace. That's something that I've always wanted because I've he used to date a lot of like I used to. I used to date the bad girls. No, haven't we all? It's the worst. They were chewing you up and sticking up way harder than dating men. I like. Honestly sometimes I'm like I wish I was by.
I wish this would be easier. And I don't seem bad as in like a bad person or anything like that. That's not necessarily fully true because like, but like there's those bad news. It's just like like relationships that like activate your like abandonment wounds, your sense of safety, like you just you're naturally like, you don't even know that it's happening. It's happening at such a subconscious level, but you're
like, wow, this is fun. I know that you're not for me, but why am I in this and understanding? I was like, oh, like I remember having a conversation with my culture on this. I'm like, I'm in a relationship that's blowing my mind right now and this isn't the person that I'm meant to be with. And I my intuition knows this. Blowing your mind, isn't it? Felt good blowing your business? No. It was not what I wanted. We're not building the same thing.
We don't want the same thing. That circle of influence and that circle of friendship is not the people that I want to surround myself with in my life. I get it. I have like a certain caliber of kind of like relationships and people and what they're doing and entrepreneurs and like the kind of like expansive kind of like, I like to be around that. Like, I don't know, I like to be around people that are up to some things. Right. I get it. I'm harsh about it.
That's why I have the queer country clubs. I'm like, I don't want to be around losers straight out. OK, great. Let's have this conversation. Let's just say it like, let's just call it spade. Spade. Like get with the program there's you either go after what you want in life. Yeah, look, everyone what they want in life can look different. OK I value it but like freaking have a passion whatever it is. Yeah, like that's, that was a big deal for me.
And it was just knowing that like we weren't on the same trajectory, but it was like it was fun. They weren't like that, you know, the, the person, you know, took me on this wild journey of like massive expansion and massive trust and massive faith. And like, we drove across Canada together and like, and the relationship before that, I was engaged and that was like 4 years of a relationship.
And that, that brought me this level of peace and safety that I couldn't even imagine within myself. And I remember that person looking at me and saying, you know, like there was a knowing that it was, it was ending. And I broke up with this person on New Year's and I didn't think I was going to get back from are we going there? I'm asking my higher self. I'm just going to sit my tea. And let you decide. I remember like going back from this is a long time ago. This is many years ago.
I remember coming back from Portugal after I quit my job like two months prior and I went traveling and I had a ring on my finger and I was engaged. And it was 2018 and we had just gone to Thailand and bought a car and we were planning and there were so many things and travels and plans. And like wedding dresses, was a healthy relationship at this time. OK, it was healthy. It was healthy at the time and I sat in a beautiful mushroom
ceremony the last time. I actually did like this whole journey like of mushrooms and I was, I was called to like sit with this in a very sacred way. And I got the message like, quit your job. And I was like, okay, and I did two weeks later and I went and I booked a trip to Portugal, but I'd never known Portugal or why or anything. And it was right on my right on my Astro cartography lines for expansion. Got certified as a coach. I went to a surf retreat, meditation, started surfing, got
like my first five clients. I it was just happening like these were people they were just finding me. I don't even have an offer. I wasn't marketing like social media, like I had a personal brand, like A blog, like I was sharing poetry and insights and wisdom and like empowering and activating people. I wasn't like profiting off of like really making content like in a like I wish I would have done when it started then 2018. But I mean, like, start now.
If you are thinking like, Oh my goodness, like I'm going to do it in five months, why like start now? Like just now is the best time because even later it will still be now. There's never like, it's always now. There's always only ever. So yeah. So I did that and I went to Portugal. When I came back, the relationship that I thought was going to be the person that I was going to spend the rest of my life with was not that
person. And I had introduced that person to someone else to make music together. And I was like, you guys are both lesbians, you should make music while I'm traveling. Like this is going to be amazing. When I came back and I was like, what did I do? Oh no, like there was a connection. Yeah, like I, I will never really know the full detail of it, but my intuition, my intuition, my intuition knew. And it was a amicable ending. It was heartbreaking. It was it was really sad.
It was very, very sad. But it was also both of us and knowing that we were not meant to be together. And I remember her looking at me and saying, you have a really big life to live. And I, I don't want to hold you back. And I'm, and I know I'm not the one and I, I, I know where, where you're going to go in your life and what you're going to do. And I, I, I won't, I, I can't live that, that bigness and, and I'm not. And I, and I knew that.
And it was this knowing of like what I was going to do in my life and where I was going to go and where I was going to live. And I live in Mexico now and like I have this whole different life. I don't work for someone else. Like I have a brand and I and I knew that like that person wouldn't be the one that can do the damn Dharma. Yeah, Dang, Dang, that is a very, very good karma coming back to you. Way to explain a breakup like that. Because I can just sense that
that was not an easy time. And when we as women have this knowing, like there's something not right. And I feel like that's when we look, that moment hurts so much with the ability to to, to witness ourselves feeling something off and to not gaslight ourselves because I'm not saying she gaslight you, but most time in situations like that, the other party would gaslight you.
And then we also gaslight ourselves into trying to, into believe that person because we've invested so much of our heart and time and energy in a relationship. We don't want to believe the person we love could be all or bad or doing something shady. And it's hard. It's it's the hardest thing, but that is like the greatest act of self love. And what happened after that? Like did your life open up where you like because people's listening might be going through a breakup?
Were you sad for a while, or did you immediately just feel this sovereign peace? I felt that I I felt like that person in my life. What? This was a long time ago, by the way. This is a very long time ago. I just want to like reiterate this. If you're coming in halfway, like this is not, this is like 2018 to 2019, like over Christmas, New Year's, This is multiple years ago. I'm like was not even the same person. I didn't even have the same name.
But yeah, at that point there was, I had felt like I lost my my piece, like I, this other person became my piece. And I realized that there was a lot of chaos within me. There was a lot of like I was like, you know, I didn't even I just wanted to work. That's it. I was like, oh, this is jobs, this is jobs. I had clients. I was working at a restaurant. I was like, I just wanted to work till 2:00 in the morning.
I stacking cash here and then marketing manager like work from my home for two days a week going like driving to the office commute. I started smoking driving on the highway like I was smoking like crazy for four months. They were flying me out all over Canada to like do marketing and branding and basically with the project manager without the project management title, I was managing an entire project
essentially. And they were just, I was just like working and I was like, and I was also creating content and like I was just like, I was all over the place. Like, I don't know. I was, I was not fully good. Like I wasn't good at all. I was not OK. Yeah, you're like, I was barely eating. I lost my period for for three months. I lost my period because I was barely eating.
I was very spoiled in terms of getting cuts for and like all of these things, it really showed me the places that I need to work on within myself to become my own piece, to become my own sovereign person. This is long time ago. And then I, yeah, then I, I decided to date bad girls after that. I was like, I, I was like, you were like, I don't want to open up. So like, let me choose someone unavailable?
Or was it? Not conscious, I was like, I just want to have fun and I want to focus on my life. I want to focus on what I want to do. I started going to like big empowerment conferences and I was in mentorship with like some well known coaches online like Alexi Pianos. Preston smiles. I I just wanted to live the life.
I was flying to Los Angeles back and forth and like doing like events, conferences with like 6 different kinds of coaches and people and like I was expanding my world like I was on fire. I was like, I want to have fun and if you're fun, awesome. And if it's serious, it's going to hurt. If you're honest and it's like you're a totally different person today, holy moly. Yeah. And so, yeah, I had to go through those those experiences
to come full circle around. And the partner that I'm with now, we've been together for two years. We met actually in Tulu, Mexico. And I only came here to come here for a few months too. And I blew up my business when I when I first came to Tulu, Mexico.
And I, I just kind of let go of most of my life and then I came back back and I lived here like with a home and a place and like a dog and like, like I have a whole life in a community and like I live in Mexico. I'm a Canadian living in Mexico. And it's when people are like, oh, but like you're like, you're stuff like there's nothing like in Canada except for my entire
stash of books that I like. I was like, I brought it to my parents house and I was like, you're not going to sell these books And you're like, this is taking up a lot of space, Jasmine. Like why are you holding on to these books if you're living across the world? And I was like, I don't know, but you're not just going to get rid of books. You don't just get rid of books. It's not that nice. You don't do that. So your problem is just going to hold on to these books for me.
You like? Whatever. They're not animals. What? They're like little animals. They have personalities, love. They've got things written in the pages like we can't toss them. I'm like, these are classic books. I'm like you, you got to put them on a beautiful shelf. And like when people come over, they look at it and you're like, wow, this is Shakespeare. Like you just you don't get rid of books. I don't know. I have this thing with books, but yeah, so I don't have anything anywhere else.
The partner that I'm with now, we've been together for two years and wow, like the the the part of that I'm with now is a divine counterpart. What was? It like when you met, did you have a knowing that it was divine counterpart? I did. I'm very intuitive. And so she but I, we were, we were both celibate. We met. How long were you had three celibate and why did you choose celibacy? I was celibate because I was really my my energy was so fucking powerful, but I didn't
want to share with anyone. I get it. I get it. I was in Tulum and a lot of people here are very like, what do you, oh, you're celibate. Oh my God. Like we're going to like touch party, like all this. That's not my world. And there was just like, I'm it's there's nothing wrong with that. I'm very sex positive. I think everyone's just, it's personal preference. And yeah, so I just wasn't in that world and I was just celibate because I was really, really like focusing on my work,
my business, my clients. Like I was, I'm obsessed. Like I'm obsessed and I'm just fucking obsessed. And that's the way it is. And we met through a friend of a friend. And it was so funny because my friend was like, oh, I knew I'm another lesbian in Saloum. And I just slid into her DMS just like, no thought about it, but I slide into people's DMS. That's a normal thing in my
world. Yeah. I'm a business mentor, so if I like really connect with someone, I will just like literally be like, love what you're up to. Like I see you like I, I don't do it all the time, but like when I do it, it's like, yeah, but I slid into this person's DMS in a little different way. I was like, hey, you. I love this. It was the ones that it was like, I think it was like, Nah. It was like the I've probably done that like three times in my life in, in that with that intention.
And this, this intention felt very like this time felt very differently. And we went to I love how she planned her first day. Like it was so hot. It was so hot. What? Did she do like? I had I just like I had just launched my mastermind destined at the time and it was like the first launch and I had people coming in, I was celebrating them coming in and I was like, whoa. And she was like this restaurant. I've made reservations. 7:30 I'll see you outside underneath
the lights in the jungle. And I was like sweet. I was like screenshot. I was like I don't even know why I'm screenshotting this but I am like. What restaurant was it in Tulu? I I actually forget the name of it and the fact that I'm creating the name of it is crazy. It's like a really like, it's, it's a beautiful. It's a gorgeous, stunning sushi restaurant in like literally in the middle of the jungle. You have to go through this path to get in it with these, like,
magical lights. Yeah. Notice off Look for the sushi restaurant with the lights in the jungle next time you go to. I will take you. We'll we'll I'll show you the way. Don't worry. Oh my God. Queer to loom, Sophia. Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding. Yeah, I'm, I'm planning some luxury retreats, Queer Country Club. We're doing like luxury. It's not gonna yeah everyone comes to be like 5 women at a time. Oh. Yeah, it's gonna be juicy, Yeah.
OK, my like manifesto antenna is like so activated right now. There's so many things we can talk about this off Instagram. That's super exciting. I love that. Yeah. So we met at the restaurant and the moment I saw her, I was like, wow, I don't even know what to say. And the, our date was like almost three hours. Wow. Kept going on and on. We just kept talking. We're like, yeah, we'll get something else.
Yeah, we're just like. But it was so funny because I she was German and she has like a very like straight up personality. Like she just says things like it is. And I remember on our first date, she said something, but I was like, I can't believe you said that. Like, I was so shocked. She said, like, she said so many things that were so bold. And a part of me was like, that's so intense.
Like I was like, whoa, if you would say things like, yeah, like, you're not actually a spean unless you eat pussy or whatever. Is this Instagram going to stay up? Yeah, yeah, you're showing good. But like. Because like this I'm like, is this legal? Like is this? Criminal. No. You can say whatever you want, it's going to stay up. I don't know about the regulations. Oh, I mean as long as you're not showing anything bad. OK. My God, I don't. But. But wait, are you a pillow
Princess? No. OK, she was talking about a lot of the. People, she was talking about a lot of the people just like the energy of like Tulum and people just, it was a very funny conversation. And I was like, wow, I just love how blunt women are when they just say the thing. Oh, yeah. And I was like, this is hilarious. This is really funny. So we had our first date and we fell in love pretty fast, to be
honest. And the actual developing of the relationship, like, actually like deepening it and like working on it. That was a lot of work. Yeah, that was a lot of work. How long did it take for you to know I'm really in love? Like this is not just someone that I'm going to date. Well, I would say, I would say
the third, the third month. OK, Yeah, the third, the third month because that was when that was when I had to get really, really real and really vulnerable with my shadows with, with the things that were happening like in my world. And there was like shifts happening in my business at the time. And I showed her, I showed her my my shadows. Like I was like, there was a revealing there. It just naturally happened.
Yeah. And instead, and I knew that she was something really special when like I showed her these, these places and she just like rolled out a blanket and like, like showed me the stars. And it was like, you're good. Like, look, we're alive. Like look where we live. Like look at the beauty. Like look at this jungle. Like look at this sunset. Like eat this food, like premium organic, like just food, like, like just feeding me. Just like having the like got me a flight to Costa Rica.
Like we just like just out of nowhere, like surprise, just like in my box, just like we're going to Costa Rica. Like it was this feeling of like, like there is no, like it was like I was always like, something's out there. Like it's out there. It's out there. Like got to get to something or we have to like achieve something. And I was in this like work phase. And she was like, I remember she said this to me. Like there's, there's a part of you that still feels like it's out there.
But like, like we actually have it all. Yeah, we literally have. It all. We're just kind of dancing along. Whatever. God has for us and if we don't stop and enjoy now, then what do we freaking have? Yeah, so many people are always like, looking for the next thing or like the next partner the next thing or like we sabotage love so much because like some people will, will some people have the tendency to like cling in and like hold on as if it's
like this is the only person. And then some people will like be like, oh, like I'm more avoid on and like I've got everything. And like when you realize like I'm good either way, like no matter where I am, because like I'm, I'm good, like I'm good no matter what because of this relationship, but also because of who I am and how I see how I see the relationship because the relationship relationships are richness in life.
Like the most, the most successful people are the ones that really, truly see how everything is happening for you and not see you. So when you can really understand like, oh, this is hard. If you're going through a breakup, if you're going through a pivot in your work and your career, if you want to do something totally different, you're in a relationship that's like here, but like you want to be over here, but you don't want
to leave this person. Like whatever, whatever you're going through, like it's actually happening for you. It's not happening to you. And if you can see it like that, you can really move through it in a different way. And, you know, being dating is very different from from me marriage. Some of my clients are married and it's a very different kind of conversation too. It's a beautiful conversation because I, I just feel like that's a whole different level of like, commitment and yeah,
just, I'm a lover. You are well, I know that the thing that's lighting you up right now is truly like being able to feel worthy of having it all. I know that's been the hardest part for me to to get to for so many women listening and you've come from like me, like this, this like hustle culture world, especially in your like business coaching industry, like that's the vibe. But I can tell you're living such a free life that isn't
tortured like that. And that's the life I came from and have been like, my biggest goal for this year is finding complete balance and peace and every moment and damn think their life and not, not letting money work for me, not me working for money, right? And they're so, yeah, like my money's always working for me and like having I believe it's so it's so crazy. Like every morning I'm waking up, I'm doing my tapping just now I'm talking to you. I'm like, oh, I see my payments coming in.
Boom, boom, bada Bing. Freaking love it. What is it for you that was the belief that you could have it all? At what point did you make that shift? And like, what were the signs that like, it was coming in, it was actually all happening? Because I think if people hear this, they could be like, oh, OK, I'm going to look for that sign and that sign. And then they build some positive momentum and then they feel they can have it all too. I was I was pushing away in my
relationship. The like a good sign. Well, like it wasn't the, it wasn't the good sign, but it was the truth. It was like over a year ago. It was like I had just recovered from having a burnout in my business, which is really normal. I thought I was just really excited. I thought I was like, I was, I was, I'm superwoman like I can go fast. I create things, I move fast. And I thought that like I'm just on a level of like, I was just
boom, boom, boom, boom. Maybe like according to me, I was, I was creating a lot and I was really inspired and really ignited, but I never really gave myself an opportunity to like pause and like reset like as a manifesto. Like, no, I wasn't working within my human design. I was always just trying to like keep up and like go like this. And I, I need moments where I'm like, I'm on and then I'm and I'm off. And when I'm off, I'm sharing my
life. I'm sharing like how things are integrating with me. And when I'm in business mode, I'm fucking like I'm launching. I'm like, but that cannot be sustained for months and months. It's, you know, I was in this cycle of like recovering from this burnout. I was healing my body. I was taking nutrients and supplements and like there was a big nervous system healing. There was a lot. My partner does breath work. She's an incredible breath work facilitator.
So if you're looking for deep trauma healing, she does it in a really extraordinary special safe. It's it's mystical. It's it's really beautiful experience. She does it on my does it in person yeah, though it's in person and online, but she has like referrals and stuff like that. So she doesn't like she she has a new breath work business and whole brand that she just started as well too recently which. Is shout her out? Present in the fluid. Yeah, so present in the fluid.
So that's, that's her breathwork business. We just, she just opened a cacao business in Zurich actually, which is amazing. And she's also an ad strategist. So she like is badass ad strategist as well too. So she just starts brands and just like kills it with ads. And just she's like, I have so many people like looking at this profile and like how you just started this and it's ads. Amazing. Amazing. Yeah. There's so many different ways
to go about your. But I almost, I almost pushed it away, like as in I almost like sabotaged it because I was like, I just need to get back to like, like I just want to be like this, this business CEO person. And, and I almost sabotaged the relationship because I, I don't really know how or why. I just, I don't think I was doing it in a rude way or mean
way. I just, it was just a level of like I was so focused on my business that I didn't see, I, I wasn't actually receiving the richness of life that was fully in my relationship. Like I was receiving it, but like we have to understand that everything that we put out in the world always has a energetic exchange. So when you feel like something actually isn't coming back in one way, it will come back in another way.
But your perception may be so tunnel visioned that you're only waiting for something to come back in this one way. That's good. That's good. Yeah. And so when we can understand and like, like replenish things out through alchemy and understand like, wow, like I, I, like, I forgave this person and this person came in here and like, I was supported by this friend and like this person showed up for me like this when I needed like this place done or like I needed this done.
And, and when you can see like how you're supported and like you're so resourced in other ways and how your partner is such a huge part of like your support. And I, I always thought I had this, I had this very deeply subconscious belief that like this is the biggest shift in my, in my, my success was the, the biggest thing that I had to really, really shift was the belief that love will not sabotage success. That's good.
That's so good. Yeah, so it was like the the brunch dates, the time like I feel working. I have to work, everything's work, but it's coming out of me. I can't stop it. It's this this whole program is downloading right now. Like it's happening now. I have to speak to the the VA this that like I got to go now and it's just always being on. But it's also remembering like this person is literally like so there and like love is not sabotaging your success. It could be, to be honest.
Like if you're. In the wrong relationship, Yeah. Yeah, Person, yes. But it wasn't. It was this fear that love would sabotage it or that I would become not like I wouldn't be as on. But I think a lot of women have this balance that they're trying
to find in their relationship. Because if you're if you are a boss babe, if you are like doing all of this, like, how can you allow yourself to surrender to be like to actually receive in relationship and to be like surrendered to your person to like the experience to the to the creating because their relationship is a ship that goes somewhere. Where's the ship going? Are not playing around in their
life. And I think whether you're working in corporate, are you working for yourself really slowing down and going, wait, I built this whole beautiful life by myself and now I'm ready for a partner. But like, are you really? Because are you willing to actually take the time? And that's something for me that I'm like, oh shit, like this year, if I want happily ever after, I kind of find balance. I've got to fully find balance. But I love that you said it starts with that belief of you
can have it all. You can have everything you want in your career and you can have love at the same time. It's work. I'm not going to say that it's easy and there's like, there's no reality where it's easy. And I'm going to be honest with you. Like I, I'm not teaching people to build businesses that leave out their love life, that leave out their partnerships, that
leave out their relationships. Like I deeply believe that you can create an extraordinary life from the codes, from the richness within that you can actually work in your own energy, that you can create a life that is mind blowing, that is out of this world for you. But it's really beginning with the belief that you can have it all. You can have it all. And it's it's not business over
love. It's the art of like, actually like the magic of being alive, like to really move, like boldly shaped the destiny that you want to create. Like this is a huge piece of my brand message, but it's also a lived experience that I like I'm very embodied in. Like I, I live this out, like I live my work. And that's why like women come to me for for this in in their life because they're like, I want to scale my business.
I want to have a six figure business and I, I have people that are scaling to multi 6 figures And it, the work of it is not just in the business. It's actually like I would look at, I would look at my client and be like, are you having good sex? And they're like what? And I'm like, well, you want to, you want your business to pop off like is your are you having good sex with your partner?
And they're like, like, right. And like, this is the, is the conversation Because like, it's just, it's an honest conversation, right? Like, is it mind blowing? Because you know, like your, your business popping off is going to be an energetic journey. It's not going to be just strategy. It's going to be you living your fucking life and actually having the codes, the wisdom, the insight, the embodiment. Like you got it. You got to be you're, you're got
to be full of ideas. You're going to be a, you're just like you, Sophia, like, what the heck?
I know, I know when you said that I want to set the intention of being like, I remember when you, you messaged me this morning and we're doing this and you were like, we're going to focus on you, Jasmine. And I'm like, so I'm like, I feel like I'm taking up so, so much space in this, but I was like, I'm receiving it. No, your story's just so good and I'm just I'm soaking it in because yeah, I know like you're speaking to exactly who my listeners are right now.
Like they're they're driven people and they're like, how do I freaking balance this? Like and I that's the whole point of crew women rising is seeing and hearing queer women who have gone before us who do have it all. And you say, look, I can do it. And I love that you're honest.
You're like, it's it's our. I don't business coach as often lately, but I would tell people if you want a fluff fluff Lulu coach that's not going to tell you the truth of the matter, it's not me because this shit is actually hard. It's hard. Yeah. So this to my client like just like just like literally like weeks ago. And like, like they're like, oh, I should know this, I should know this. And I'm like, I'm like, no, like this is hard. Like this hard work like you're, you're in it.
And guess what? It's worth it and you can do hard things. Yes, yes, and the same goes for relationships. Relationships are finding love dating hard. Queer Country Club. My offer to help women find monogamous lifetime partners that I want to make it as easy as possible. Yeah but it's hard work it's freaking harder. We just got a comment from days not days sorry blame the booth saying I just joined queer Country Club need to set up my account and start engaging yes so say inside.
Please do start engaging. We can't wait to have your energy inside, but it's it is hard work. No matter how we split it up, whether it's building your business, building your life, building love, building balance between love and business. It's challenging. I know we're coming to a close, but I have to know because I am like spiritual and nosy. We've really we really connected based off of being lesbians who are like vibing with Jesus and. Oh, we didn't even dive into the we.
Didn't. And there's so many lesbians who listen to the podcast and they love it. Like I'm very interspiritual. I'm curious how you define your faith now. This is a beautiful question. Thank you for asking this. I am not religious and I work with people that have all different kinds of beliefs. And so I work with their worldview and their, their their faith view their faith on God and I move them towards their
edge. And so my beliefs are have always been very personal to me and I, I have a very close connection with Jesus and that has been like the the Holy Spirit hat it lives in my heart. I feel it. It's the most activating frequency and feeling I could ever imagine. And I, I do, I, I have the Bible by my night stand and I feel like it's one of the most extraordinary. I'm fascinated by it.
I was just in Switzerland and I was actually walking through a library of like actual spiritual texts that were handwritten from. Stories. I was like. Yeah, Like, it was so wild to be there. Like, these were like accounts and personal stories that like, like from so long preserved and like in glass jars. I'm walking around with, like, slippers on my shoes and like, just like, like this, like this is the most extraordinary space. So I mean, for me, I don't
follow something as in dogma. Yeah. And I believe that there's a lot of things that are taken out of construct or they're taken out of construct in terms of like homosexuality in the Bible and all of these things. And I know a lot of people that have done the new age to Jesus movement as well. I know that's some it's happening. There's a lot of things happening on our planet right now that are really intense,
very intense. There is there is a very different agenda that is that is happening. The wildfires, like churches, the like, there is not a lot of things that are wild about these things. They're like I, I've seen, I've seen your post like there is there's a, a very different agenda that's that's happening.
And we're really being asked to actually really come closer to, to God and to our faith and to really level up as like a humanity because we are, we're, we're not actually in full like coherence with with, with God and our faith. And my, my faith and my relationship has always been very personal to me. But I know when I'm in an environment and in a space that is not of God. Yes, and I know how to do. Yes, I can go to a Buddhist temple and I am like in a space of God.
Yeah, I. Can go anywhere, like even in a Muslim temple and I can still, yeah. Yes, and like God is, God is with me and I'm gonna honor the great leaders of your faith too. And I love exploring it all. But like you said, I can tell when I'm in a space that doesn't feel of God and I can't stay in it long. My soul and my body rejects it so hard. Yeah. And I'm so aware, so in touch, and I love being in your energy because I can feel like the Holy Spirit, like it's, it's the highest.
Frequency I was like when I came into this, when I came into this podcast, I was like, wait, this is recorded on IG Live And like I actually like all of everything was like systemated and automated and like I have like like like this perfect time slot on my day for this. And I was like, Oh my God, I didn't know this is going to be on IG Live. And then I was like, Oh my goodness. And no, I'm just so happy because like, I, I feel the same way about your energy. We were speaking about this
earlier today too, as well too. You're like, you're like, we're going to make this like about, about you like more. And I was like, OK, I was like, OK, this is so about me. I'm like, Oh my goodness. This is your story, thank you for sharing it. I saw a comment from someone live saying like they forgot the point of the podcast because they got so invested in your story.
So am I so happy? OK, if someone else out there is listening to your energy and all the poor ladies are like I got to be in Jasmine's world, what is the best way for them to get in touch with you and perhaps work with you? Send me Adm. I have multiple. I have a few spaces. I have some really exciting things happening in 2025. I have programs that are coming up on capacity to be in the richness, like the real, real,
actual richness of wealth. So I've got some really exciting things coming up. I also have my mastermind space. If you are looking to scale your your business to 10,000 to $15,000 months. I have different programs to just send me a message and connect. I have a process and applications and like ways that I do things. So I always want to make sure it's the best fit for you and and that you're really seen and expanded in my space in a powerful way.
I love it I love it yay thank you for taking time beyond and ladies, if you're hearing this and you are single, please shoot me Adm. I'd love to connect you with the hottest, most extraordinary lesbians in the world through my lesbian dating club from queer Country Club and. Thank you for the work you do. You're welcome, Thank you for the love story we shared because people need to hear what's
possible for them. Thank you for the for showing up and like putting like I see your commitment and like in your brand and how you show up and the stories you tell and how you share your own personal relationship and like, like your, your journey. It's a lot of work. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a thank you.
Thank you for for opening your heart, for showing up, for being real, for entertaining people, for expanding people, for like creating that kind of content that makes people go like damn she right, Like thank you for creating that space, like your your beautiful soul. I absolutely love you. Thank you. I'm just gonna stop that head.
Thank you for showing us what's possible, having it all and living the most free life and showing women around the world, straight or gay, what is possible for them. No matter what, whether we are really young or we're in our 50s, looking at someone who is thriving and not just on the outside, but truly their soul is shining like yours is Jasmine. It is wild to just see if you can see it. You can't achieve it. And so many of us, especially as
queer women especially. So as feminine queer women haven't seen enough women who look like us to go, Oh yeah, that's possible. Yeah, you get to have it all and it's it's going to be a journey and it is worth it. It's very worth it. And, and anything in the external doesn't define you. You, you get to like, I'm not defined by my external. Like if I lost everything, I would get it all back because it's it's it's this, this is what it is. Yeah, yeah, it's all inside.
Thank you, ladies, for listening. If you enjoyed Crewmen Rising, go leave a nice review. Five stars leave a nice comment. And if you really enjoyed the show and you know there's a lesbian that is going to be inspired, please text it to her and have an amazing day. Bye, Joe. Bye. Bye As clear women. That's women with an X. Because of course, we are inclusive here. As I was saying, as queer women, we haven't always been lifted up
or celebrated. We have often felt left out and put down in places that historically haven't welcomed us. In fact, we have been conditioned by society to be grateful for mere tolerance. My resilient LGBTQ plus IA community, I am talking to you. I'll bet you've recognized the spark that God put in your heart, your unique calling to impact the world, and only a way that you can. A business idea brand to build, a coaching program to start, the art to create, the song to sing,
the book to write. That relationship you long to build. But that little light inside your soul has often been blown out by the people around you, leaving you conditioned to play small and not step into your full potential. You are not alone and it's never too late to truly live your most authentic dream life. I would know. I came out late in life, nearly 30 a couple years ago after being bullied for months inside a Country Club right outside of my weights class.
I was assaulted by a bigoted woman who couldn't stand my queerness. She physically pushed me so I had a meeting with management. I told them I didn't feel safe. I brought forth evidence and guess what? They did nothing. Sadly, this is normal. But in order to create change, we have to be brave enough to be the change ourselves. So I did a thing. I started my own virtual Country Club for queer women. A safe place for us to create meaningful connections and grow.
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