Self-Care

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Podcast i'm nino local construction daddy and podcast fatty my pronouns are he him thank you for asking i have with me here my fabulous cohorts hey christoph here your city top liaison my pronouns are he him and that motherfucker dr mikey here your professional cheese muscle tell me all your secrets my pronouns are he she all of them so what do you have for us today nino. Today in Gay California blocks anti-LGBT book bans Also in Gay Joe Exotic is

engaged Today in Homophobia Gay man attacked in Washington D.C. McDonald's, Today in Lesbian, actress Chloe Grace Moretz comes out as lesbian.

Today in Trans, Sarah McBride wins Delaware U.S. House seat, becoming the first out transgender member of Congress. Also in Trans, Chase Strangio to be first out trans lawyer to argue before the Supreme Court. Also in Trans, Germany introduces Self-Determination Act, making it easier for trans people to change their IDs. Do any of you queens know about any of these things? What a light tea section i love this right kind of light well it is it's mostly positive.

But also i don't know anything about these subjects but i did i want i wanted to figure out the actress chloe grace so where was she so that's what i know her from is is kick-ass So, after five years of speculation, Chloe Grace Mortez comes out as a gay woman and endorses Kamala. All in one little swuff. I'm a more red. So, she is linked with model Kate Harrison since 2018. Her recent Instagram post in support of Kamala Harris was the first time more Mortez has publicly confirmed her sexuality.

She said, quote, I believe in the need for legal protections that protect the LGBTQ plus community as a gay woman. She wrote in the Instagram post this past weekend saying she voted for Vice President Kamala Harris in this year's presidential election. She was in Big Mama's house. I don't remember her in Big Mama's house. I think she must have been like a literal baby. She had to be. Yeah. She was like in 2000. Carrie. She was also in Carrie. Oh. She was also in Diary of a Wimpy Kid,

Neighbors 2, which has Zac Efron, Dark Shadows, 500 Days of Summer. I love that movie. Which one? 500 Days of Summer. Do you know who she was in it? No. Oh, yeah. She was a little sister. And then Amityville Horror, which Ryan Reynolds was really hot in. That was the hottest. I know. I looked really good. And Boltz. Okay. But amongst many other films, go lesbian. Yay, Chloe. Yay. I'm glad you came out of the closet. You are cute. What a cute. She is.

Cutie pie. I'm not surprised, though. But I'm glad it came out. See, Jojo, this is someone you can look up to. Yeah. It's a positive lesbian influence.

But yes, Joe Exotic. Okay. I guess I gotta go to fucking prison to find a man? Like, what the fuck is going on, man? Damn. I just saw an Instagram post of this girl being like, it's hard to date. So I just write, male to men in jail. In jail. And they respond. Yeah, because they ain't got shit to do. Right, what else? But also they are doing, it's becoming such a phenomenon that they are actually like doing like,

remember back in the day, like pen pal, but they're doing video pal. Oh. Like they're making out like, you know, putting their information out and doing like a quick little intro about themselves. Yeah, it's crazy. So I guess, I mean, shit. So if they out there finding love with women, I'm quite sure the gay ones could find love too. I'm like, do you have access to cameras and video? I mean, I'm not sure they have a library.

I mean, this ain't like prison back in the day where you just had a fucking, you know, like Shawshank Redemption or some shit. That's not what Diddy made it seem like. Made it seem like it was like that. Well, when you have millions, right. The amount of money he did. But yes, Joe Exotic. So congratulations to Joe Exotic.

The tiger king did you guys watch that show i did it i actually didn't yeah i escaped that phenomenon i yeah i'm glad i did but i know of it and i know i know the story and the premise so i know like who he is and who karen baskin is and all that but like i never watched an episode, people always tell me that i need to watch it and i'm like why though exactly like what's the right like what is this angle yeah what what is the desperation that i need to be seeing yeah because

he's gay and this is like a like a tragic gay person and i'm you're trying to make me watch him i just think that the premise of it is very outlandish and these people are like they just seem like characters rather than actual people so it's just like nah this can't be real so like it's just entertaining for the entertaining purposes i feel like right but you'll be surprised on how many human beings act like that. That's true. And they're from Florida, so... Yeah, exactly. Mental.

So did y'all hear about Sarah McBride becomes the first? Well, that's what it says. But Sarah McBride has won Delaware's sole seat in the U.S. House of Representatives, MSNBC has called. McBride has beaten Republican John Wayland III in a majority Democrat state, making her the first out transgender member of Congress. She succeeds Lisa Blunt Rochester, who vacated the post to run for U.S. Senate and also won.

Thank you, Delaware, because of your votes and your values. I am proud to be your next member of Congress, McBride wrote. Delaware has sent the message loud and clear that we must be a country that protects reproductive freedom. The guarantees paid leave and affordable child care for all our families that ensure the housing and health care are available to everyone, that this is a democracy that is a big enough for all of us.

So congratulations to McBride becoming the first out trans state senator in the nation when she was elected to Delaware City in 2020. I love that. So she is out there making history. Mm-hmm. Woo, she's cute. Congratulations. Go, girl. She's cute. Look at that picture. She's a little white girl. Wait, wasn't she on the... Did she make a... Let me not put no lies out here. Let me see if I... Okay, no. I thought she was on New York Housewives or something.

Like as a guest. Not like a wife, but like she had like some kind of like... Fundraiser or some shit but that don't look like her but congratulations at least something came out yeah i love that i think it's good to have representation of trans people i just hope she also has like a strong support system because like you're gonna face a lot of transphobia oh hell yeah in dc so i think like us people should like offer some words of encouragement to her from some time to time.

Right? Especially going into this like Republican stacked everything. Everything, yeah. Go girl, get a queen.

Germany has just introduced a self-determination act making it easier for people to change their names and genders on official records. From Friday November 1st, people aged 18 and older will be able to alter their names and genders or have gender markers removed all together on official records. There's a mandatory three-month wait between applying and making a personal declaration, but the requirement for two psychiatric assessments has been scrapped.

That's from Pink Noon. Oh, that's good. Go Germany, go GA! Yeah, that's really cool. It's interesting that in Germany, they require you to get letters in order to change your name and gender markers. Here in the States, you don't have to do that. Oh, you don't? No. Oh, that's good.

How good that they're changing yeah that's good I also love the idea that you can just not be a gender at all that's really cool like why do it fucking matter yeah nothing, that's some official non-binary that really is the official non-binary, none don't reference me ever.

I love that that's really cool I'm glad they're doing that making it easier but keeping the topic on trans mhm, There's Chase, I'm going to probably butcher the last name, Strangio, Strangio, said to become the first openly trans lawyer to argue before the Supreme Court.

Child, that's the motherfucker we need to be sending all the glory and peace to, because I can just imagine. But Chase, a renowned advocate for trans rights and co-director of the ACLU's LGBTQ and HIV Project, is set to become the first transgender lawyer to argue a case before the U.S. Supreme Court later this year. Representing families and medical providers, the case takes on the Tennessee ban on gender reform and care for minors in U.S. versus Scramenti.

The outcome could have far-reaching implications of the thousands of trans youth in Tennessee, as well as those in other states' similar bands. The stakes could not be higher for our communities. The court has opportunity and duty to apply the law fairly, which means returning medical decisions to where they rightfully belong to parents, their children, and their doctors. And that's a quote from Jennifer Pizer from La Bada Legal.

Stragio presence is critical, not only as a legal expert, but as a transgender advocate, ensuring the voices and lived experiences of trans people are authentically represented in the historic case.

He's well he quotes I certainly feel a personal connection to this case the only reason I've been able to have the rich and full and really beautiful adult life that I do have is because of gender-affirming medical care and I feel that my experience is a refutation of the arguments that are being made so I don't know if I know it's on the books I don't know they didn't state when the Supreme Court would be hearing it.

But Chase, I am sending you all of the love and joy and power while you sit up there in front of that damn Supreme Court, because I can just imagine they're going to say some stupid shit to get your shit boiling. Oh, hell yeah. But I don't think that he doesn't suspect that. I mean, right. I know he knows that. I know he's probably been in the fucking... Fire. Right. He's probably been at the fucking, you know, courthouse training like Rocky and shit.

Like, just hit me with all the bullshit. Like, hit me. Pow, pow. Like, I could just imagine preparing for a case like this. It's almost like how to get away with murder. Murder. You know how that, if y'all ever watch that show, but like, yeah, I'm quite sure they are trying their best to... Represent. Yeah. He's cute. You see the picture? He's cute. Yeah. Not that that matters. But it doesn't hurt. Excuse me go king get it well we'll behind you because you need all the support.

Let's see. California blocks LGBTQ plus book bans. Amid a nationwide push to ban certain books, California has passed the California Freedom to Read Act, a groundbreaking law that protects books in public libraries from being banned based on their content. This new law requires state-funded public libraries to ensure that books representing diverse perspectives, especially those about BIPOC and LGBTQ plus communities, remain accessible to everyone.

The law forbids discrimination based on race, gender identity, sexual orientation, and more when determining which materials can circulate.

The aim is to ensure a wide range of stories and voices are available for all readers. Unfortunately, there is a growing movement to ban books nationwide, And this bill will ensure that Californians have access to books that offer diverse perspectives, including the voices and lived experiences of LGBTQ plus communities and communities of color.

Assembly member Al Maratsuchi. On Sunday, October 20th, the Los Angeles LGBTQ plus center's annual Models of Pride Youth Summit returns for its 32nd year with social media sensation Brett Rockman and host Ruba Wilson.

Rsbpp that's from the lgbtq plus center lgbtq plus okay go brettman rock, do you know who she is who they are who he is i feel like orange county's still gonna try to ban this shit anyways i mean that's la anyways right yeah yeah i mean it's just all california right no it's all california and they're supposed to they're supposed to like honor that but that's where schools come in then they can sue and then like push back these bands or anti-bands. Mm-hmm.

So we'll see if they fight it. If they have the same back. You know, they fucking. But right now it's protected. Right now, not yet.

Anything else? Did y'all hear about the gay man that was hospitalized after a violent attack at a DC McDonald's? No. That makes me, reminds me of that one time that we talked about the DuPont Circle one. I'm like, what's up with DC? Yeah, that was. I remember that one. But I can't remember, I forgot what restaurant that was. That was like a fucking... Oh, that was a Shake Shack. A Shake Shack or some shit. What's wrong with y'all in this scene?

So Sebastian Thomas Robles Lescaro was allegedly attacked in what was described as a hate-motivated assault in the U Street corridor early Sunday. Lascario, a 22-year-old model from Colombia, was brutally attacked by 10 to 15 men at a McDonald's in Washington, D.C. What the fuck? The mob of assailants beat Lascario, shouted homophobic slurs, and dumped food on him after he accidentally brushed against a woman in line. Despite the violence, seeing no one in the restaurant stepped in to help.

Lascario was left bleeding and injured on the sidewalk, where two passerbyers finally called for emergency assistance. He was treated for facial injuries and bruising at Howard University Hospital. He said no one intervened and no one screamed stop. Lascario's husband, Stuart West, stated his disbelief over the crowd's inaction during the violent assault.

That's that's fucking crazy like i would sue mcdonald's yeah right i would motherfucking sue whoever was in that motherfucker that i can get their information for because that's like how the fuck are you not gonna call the police for a fucking crime like especially mcdonald's the manager like oh i was through the shed at mcdonald's they're for sure probably gonna get suit but 10 to 15 men right what like are they a group are they all

separate men that just are like we all hate gay people yeah i don't understand we what. I'm about to be a, so once again, I know, right? Hold on. Hold on. Let me eat real quick. Let me eat. So I could, sometimes these, now I'm not saying he's a gay for Trump or anything of that nature. But some gays be running their mouths so much that sometimes you just got to put them in their place. Now, recently, someone, I heard a gay guy call a woman of very derogatory names.

And so a guy, a straight guy, told him, like, hey, chill, this, that, and the other. He tried to calm it down. Okay, he's bi. But anyway, his sexual orientation doesn't matter. So then he continued to, degrade the woman and continued to call her the n-word this and the n-word that, and all she was doing was trying to help a friend of his who was throwing up profusely because this lady is the nurse.

So then now the dude was like look like you like calm down he said it one more time and they just start fighting in the street but at least those people like people try to break it up so that's where humanity come from so those motherfuckers and mcdonald's fuck y'all and y'all need with fucking humanity and common dignity yeah i mean you know what i'm saying like oh it just irks to shatter me well the article is alleging

that he simply brushed aside a woman well yeah that i heard right but we also that's what it says on instagram we don't know the full story that is true because that guy could easily say all i said was her to shut up, you don't know the full story, but I do understand that this individual stated that all he did was brushed against a woman. Mm-hmm. Now, I find that very hard for somebody, 15 motherfuckers, and nobody in the store is going to say shit. I can imagine that, yeah.

Oh, okay. I mean, not around me, because I don't give a fuck who it is. Ain't nobody about to do all that shit around me. I mean, I can definitely see that happening. I can see people attacking a gay person and no one saying shit.

Because, I mean, I've experienced that myself. I'm not saying what I'm saying is like I can see but there's also but there's also if it happened to you there's also things that could also happen in the other way you know what I mean so I'm not saying that I'm not saying that this would never happen, I know that but I find that very likely so it was like 15 20 motherfuckers and nobody did nothing nobody said nothing did you hopefully you suit the shit out

of anybody and everybody that was dead where it happened and every time yeah, That's all I'm saying. But yeah. Well, I hope this young man gets his justice. Yeah. I hope he does. That's insane. And start with McDonald's and trickle your way down. Like, I mean, is it that, like, is it that heated right now? That you can just get, like, 20 men on your ass? Right.

And, like, no one's going to say shit to you? I think that, I don't know, even if he did something that was just, besides, like, brushing up against someone, like getting attacked by 15 people that's outrageous is outrageous like it's not that's not a proportional response to the situation and the dc the fucking da by the fucking foul charges on everybody fucking involved yeah if they yeah they were using slurs they're they're cooked they're done on the books quick like even let's pretend like

this this person did something to this lady like let's say you push her ass down like i still don't think like 15 men attacking you is like exactly oh no it's not appropriate at all one motherfucker especially if she like you know what brush against a woman it's nothing it's nothing. People are just so fucking, like, hellbent. But what's up with D.C.? D.C.? Well, you know what's up with D.C.? I don't know. I really don't. I don't. I mean, I visited once.

But it's like a hodgepodge of people, right? From all over the country. And then that's what I'm saying. Like, DuPont Circle, to me, I thought that, well, the last time I've been to DuPont Circle, I thought it was, like, mostly, like, very safe area. Like, you know, very hip.

So maybe i could be wrong yeah but shit damn i just thought dupont circle was like a suburb yeah but dc is also like surrounded by a bunch of conservative states as well so i wonder how much that plays into account because it's like the smack dab of like a bunch of places i know like maryland is one isn't it maryland but yeah hopefully he gets his justice.

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queer lbc we greatly appreciate you now back to the show, and we're back so today i wanted to talk about self-care hashtag self-care do you do it what do you do for it what are ways you care for yourself what are things you have done or would like to do to care for yourself.

Let's say you have had the worst day ever. What do you do to unwind. Music.

What do you do to unwind? That's self-care in itself. Self-care in itself. You're right. But what I do, well, and this is like when it's during the work week, when I had like a fucking stressful fucking day, I try to like, I'll leave work and like take an edible and go get a pedicure. The pedicure, dang. Yeah. Dropping a dime. Yeah, because I mean, like, ooh, ain't nothing like a nice little buzz getting your feet in your pedicure and a medicure.

It's just a manicure. It's just like chef's kiss to me. Just be feeling good because you got the massage chairs and they get your feet in the water and the little women's just like rubbing your feet. And even though I'm ticklish as fuck, it still is relaxing to me. Because then when I'm walking home, I can feel like I'm walking on clouds. Lovely. Yeah. But that's what I do for a stressful day at work during the week. Now, for my personal, like, just razzle-dazzle self-care day.

So I take myself on a date. Dang. So I take myself to lunch and then I'll take myself to a movie. It's just me, just all by myself. Now, sometimes I might invite a friend, but that's very rare. But it's usually just me, just me, myself, and I. And I enjoy that because, one, I get to allow myself to remember that I am special. Then I also realize that, like, if I'm okay with being by myself or treating myself and being by myself, I'm not going to allow bullshit into my life.

You know what I mean? So I try to do that at least twice a month. Now, if I can just push that forward and take a motherfucker out on a date. I will be better and equipped to love life to the fullest. Nice. But yeah, that's my self-care techniques that I do personally. What about you? Dang, you have a very pricey self-care. That's not pricey, bro. If you do lunch during the day, go to a lunch special. You do a matinee. I mean, all my self-care is free. It's free. That's why.

Oh, I would like to hear some free self-care. Okay, so after, let's say it's like a super stressful day and I know that I need to literally de-stress, i will purposely put on like a karaoke playlist so that i'm like singing and like belting it out and like getting all my like frustration out screaming out in the car through song instead of like scream and then i get home make myself a gigantic fat ass bowl of weed okay and then i smoke a huge-ass bowl of weed and then i fuck

the shit out of myself in with this dildo and then i take a shower and then i'm like fuck and just go straight to sleep i could go straight to sleep after that but then i usually don't then i usually will take like the dog for like a 30 minute walk.

And then by that time i will come home and then i will play a video game and i will be so completely like like normalized that i am no longer feeling stress oh okay because it's like my boyfriend usually doesn't come home until like i don't know six o'clock maybe 6 30 depending on how late he's working so like i'm home to myself for like quite a bit quite a bit of time so i'm like okay I might as well just like fuck myself.

And just like cause I'm like so like amped up and distressed just like stressed out that I just like need that extra oh maybe I might have to try that like release yeah because I feel like when I when I when I fuck myself, like I it's more like almost like a massage and it's just like I feel like, Like, ugh. Like, ugh. Massaged afterwards. And just like, ugh. So it levels me out. Okay. That makes sense. And then, yeah. And then by the time my boyfriend comes home, I'm in a happy mood.

Best day ever. Hi. How was your day, babe? Perfect. It was fucking fine. Started off rough, ended very nice.

So that's like my super de-stress thing. that's what i it's like my routine so i guess that is very free yes free very no price. Now that's only if you're having a stressful day but how do you take care of self-care, um self-care i really don't know what it means i guess like when i think of self-care i think of like doing things that i guess care for yourself make yourself have like happy mental health whatever that means so, I ate a whole pizza to myself last week.

Not self care sir we're not gonna we're not gonna confuse our listeners now it felt like self care I felt like, I feel like, ah, I did something for myself. I ate a whole fucking pizza. Okay, let me read what Wikipedia says. Oh, okay. Self-care is. It has been defined as the process of establishing behaviors to ensure holistic well-being of oneself to promote health and actively manage illness when it occurs.

Individuals engage in some form of self-care daily with food choices. So I guess you are right. Exercise, sleep, and hygiene. Self-care is not only a solo activity as the community, a group that supports the person performing self-care. Overall, plays a role in access to implementation of and success of self-care activities. So, I guess you were right. So, Eden, a whole piece. What kind of pizza was it? It was actually just a plain cheese pizza because I used whatever ingredients that I had.

Oh, so you made it. I made it. I said, you still ain't wasting no money. You said, I am not about that life. Self-queen budget. I'm caring for my budget. Yeah, there you go. And that's double self-care. That's double self-care. Nice. All this self-care. I'm fucking myself with the dildo. Self-care for myself. Yeah. I love it. Ain't no more fucking than feeding yourself.

Nice. I also used to go on bike rides like for like just like mental health-ness just like to go free up my head i guess yeah, it's like a good way of like that's what i that's what i do when i work out i don't work out to like you know get buff or some shit i just go to clear my mind it's very mind clearing for me like i don't really give a fuck i do the same fucking exercises every time i go and not see a change in my body and not give a fuck.

Yeah, because I guess I think of, when I think of self-care, I think of like mental stress relief and that's all I think about. Not like caring for myself when I'm sick, like physically ill. What did you do for self-care, doctor? On a stressful day for you. A real stressful day is I'll go and do yoga on the bluffs. Okay. Yeah, especially in the spring. Yeah, I'll go do yoga on the bluffs and then go chill by the water and the beach because it's just down the stairs.

So it's a good way to kind of just take a break and connect with nature. I know it's very hippy-dippy. Yeah, I remember going to the beach too when I felt like I needed a break. Yeah. just walk in the sand close to the water yeah and listen to the waves on special and smelling the beach it's just like you're very present it's very nice it's very grounding there you go.

Putting your feet in the water yeah letting the stress go with the water and the waves but you know that yoga on the bluff is another good one too yeah I used to do that a lot I like yoga on the bluffs I need to get back into that yeah on a really hard day like I'll do yoga and I won't use a mat I'll just like be on the grass really connected to the grass come on be one with the earth i know i'm all my spot i used to go to i used to go to sunset beach which

is like near seal beach and then i would go after.

Work because i used to work over there in seal beach and then i would like take a little towel and i would go on the sand and force myself to actually go because like you live out here by close to the beach and like you never even go yeah like but i would force myself i'm like go you need to go out there and just like sit in the sun lay in the sun and like listen to like soft music or like read a book that i never would actually read and just like feel the hotness and bake nice it's

nice i also really like like sitting down and like watching tv oh yeah i've been to watch some shit that's some good self-care smoke a bowl or take an edible and just binge watch not a care in the world and you know one other self-care thing i do and i know this is hard for a lot of people i my phone do not stay on my body when i'm at home so like it's either in the room charging or just sitting on the the arm of the couch but it's like I don't and usually nine times out of ten

it's on do it's on vibrate anyway because I just feel like. Right. Right. You know, like, there's no need for me to be all up on here. And, like, the people that know how to get in contact with me, I mean, if I miss your call, I'll call you back. But, yeah, I think we need to stay away from our phones a lot. And that will bring a lot of more self-care awareness to us because we don't know how to be by ourselves.

Because even with this phone, we not by ourselves. We in everybody's fucking business.

We trying to see what the other body else is doing and where they at. and it's like well you were you you literally not by yourself you still looking and seeing and taking all that energy in yeah yeah and i think that's i think people confuse like the doom scrolling with self-care right you know that's just like dissociation you're just like literally disconnecting yeah that's different than self-care like i always describe self-care as things that like recharge you and get you energy and

kind of just like make you feel good overall like and it can't impact your mental health it can impact like your physical health you know like but i think it just brings you up and gives you energy and kind of like just makes you feel better at the end yeah because i feel like i do try to like relax with like a movie or something and then i just i'm like noticing that i'm just on instagram and then i close it when i notice that i'm doing it and then i find myself on it again

and i'm just like why do i keep looking at this because i'm not even interested in anything i'm looking at i don't know what it is it's just an addiction I guess I don't know I think it's all of us like how often have you been to the bathroom without your phone never I would rather I don't even know what I I don't know what I would do.

How do we live before this we used to use the bathroom and get the fuck on read the newspaper I bet you the time that humans have spent in the bathroom has increased tremendously.

Since phones cell phones became available I mean productivity is down right and speaking of productivity you know one thing that is also important, Because we said that what we do after a stressful day at work, if your job is stressing you out, it is quite important to make sure that you do find time for that self-care. Because you need to make sure that, one, you like what you do. Secondly, you don't build it up and get there and blow up, in a sense.

Because now there's going to probably be some shit that happened. You know what I'm saying? So we got to make sure that we take that into consideration too. Especially one thing that my job used to do is make sure that we did take time for self-care. So that meant like after a meeting, we got out of our meeting earlier. You know what? Everybody, it's been a stressful week for everyone. Go ahead and do some self-care.

I know it's only an hour before y'all got to leave, but look at least you know what I'm saying that helps and it counts so it's like now okay because you know shit a lot of people like we got families we got shit to do when you get home, right you gotta go and cook now I gotta go and grade some papers or some shit and like, that's why I'm kind of I go home and just be like I'm like because we have been working like 10 hour days and 6 days a week so it's like,

literally I only have one day off and that's the day I have to care for myself and I have to do all my chores and it's like don't even get time to actually relax you just have time to do.

Caring and that's also like another part of self-care is actually doing that shit yeah if i if i if i do actually relax on that sunday then it's like everything's behind and i'm like fucked for the next week and you're stressed then i'm hella stressed that's true yeah and i think it's about like like those like i think it's like flipping that perspective right it's like okay like you don't want to do laundry or fold all that bullshit you know but like that's going

to be something that's going to give you like you're going to feel good and accomplished when you're done with it and you're not going to be stressed later in the week yeah you know i feel like seeing like my my chores on sunday it's just like i could just not do them and then i could just.

Let it go and then i've done that and i've done that like i've done that one time where i've let it go like three weeks oh damn and then i was just like oh my god this is insane what did i do wrong now you're doing laundry for eight hours and shit it's like oh my god this is terrible why did i do that yeah i feel you on that that happened to me sometimes but also we have to give ourselves some grace because sometimes we do deserve to not just like do that shit like i

don't want to fucking do laundry i know i'm sorry i don't want to fucking do it i'll go and buy another fucking outfit for tomorrow i feel like i might have done that at some point yeah it's hilarious i'm also a huge advocate of like calling out from work as a form of self-care you know what because let's be real like like we need five days a week is a lot six days a week i can't even imagine you know 10 hours on top of that so like i think like.

We get pushed so much to be productive and people feel guilty for taking off work. But I think we need to like some, like a, there's so many people on the weekend, you know, when you probably have the free time. And that's not for everyone. Like some people need more like quiet and less people around. So take care of you. That's true. Use that sick time. Except for a reason. I know every time I have to come up with a sickness though, I can never think of like something on the fly. Mental.

Because I'll come up there and blow that motherfucker up. Y'all better leave me alone. Not my job. But what they want, you got to, okay, if you come up with something, they won't ask for a doctor note? You'd have a note every time. I mean, you just have to, I think you just have to come up with something that's actually believable. But do you have sick time that you use? No, we don't have sick days. Oh, you don't have sick time. Uh-uh. Okay.

Personal days? No. Y'all get anything? No. Okay. You get holidays. How's that making sense? I don't know. You do like the hardest labor.

I have no idea how the union had lost that, something about the recession I think something about the recession they lost it during the recession I don't fucking know it baffles me y'all need to get a motherfucking new union leader the fuck, don't know don't know, but yeah I try my best to make sure that self care is top notch with me but also I'm also kind of blessed with it because I have a, my job, we have a system that we have every other,

I work a 40-80 wait, how's it called? It's like a. 9-8-40 so I work 9 hour days but I get every other Monday off, I see, nice you know what I want, oh go ahead no I was going to say so I work 44 hours one week and then 30, 32 the next week. Oh, I see. I feel like a 10-hour, four-day work week would be perfect for myself. That sounds like a lot still. That do also seem like a lot. Can I just get like 32 hours a week and work four days a week?

Well, I was used to doing set life, which was 12-hour days. Oh, shit. Oh, shit, yeah.

And so when I went back to an eight-hour day, I was like, this shit is easy. Listen, girl, you're not the spokesperson for this cause.

Right, you don't know no better. yeah that was hell um what do you guys do do you guys self-care when you're physically sick do you do anything when you're ailing to care for yourself well i do is to take care of myself shit because i ain't nobody's gonna take care you know shit i gotta go get my meds go and make me some soup some ginger ale and boom that's about the only self-care i do when i'm ill because when I had COVID because have any of you had COVID?

So like when you had to quarantine yourself, I was single. So I'm like, shit, I, well, I guess order food and leave it at the door. And you're like, I just cough myself to sleep. When I'm sick, I drink this. I saw it on, I'm not a medical physician. Don't follow my advice.

But I saw on YouTube because I was just looking up like random, remedies like how to get better faster because i had some job i needed to get better for, so i was like how do i get better faster like natural remedies and then so i saw this one that got great reviews and it was like it's like lemon juice like a garlic clove ginger, and like honey and you mix it together a hot toddy almost i guess and then you drink it and you're supposed to get better and i swear it works for me like

i will feel better like really like the next day almost? My grandma used to feed that to us when we were sick. It was garlic, honey, lemon, and she sometimes would put some old granddad in it. Like that hundred proof to like sweat when we were younger. Like, you know, my body couldn't take that shit, but it's shit. And then she used to put like, used to put like a little raw onion or some Vicks on your chest and on your feet. Be brand new the next day. I still do that shit, unfortunately.

Well, I just drink a hot toddy just because it's a hot toddy. I always make sure I'm well cleaned and showered when I'm sick. Because just having that thick sweat makes me feel so gross that I feel like I'm healing faster if I'm not gross. Now, do you take a shower or a bail? A hot shower. Oh. I ain't got no time to be filling up that tub. You got all the time shit you see. What else do I do? I also try to go to the chiropractor every once in a while. Okay.

And I try to go to the acupuncture every once in a while because I have, like, fucked up forearms. I've got carpal tunnel also. Damn. I'm all messed up. You are. You need a lot of self-care. But that chiropractor, I try to do that every three months, too, just to get a, like, readjustment. Does it work? I like it. Yeah. To me, it do. I wanted to try it. Because I sit so much. It is scary. It's almost like getting a massage. Well, if you've never done it, it's scary.

Well, that's true. Because, oh, my God, the first time I got a chiropractor and then they fucking cracked my neck. I was like, whoa. Because they like, you're sitting there in between the hot man's legs. And he's got all his body pressure on you. And anyway, so he does this thing where he like basically like.

Twist your neck and then like he pops you and you're like oh god i think you're gonna like die but it's like so relieving and like when you leave you're just like you're just like oh shit like yeah like i feel like i can stand up straight in for no reason and i like it it feels pretty good and i feel like the acupuncture works also but that's when needles getting stuck in you or shit yeah it's not as scary as it seems either the needles are so small it's like i mean it's true but what do we do?

Like it's supposed to hit nerves to make you feel what relaxed or is it supposed to like? Yeah, so like I, so my forearms were like really tender and like just like sore and like raw feeling. And then they stick the little needles and then they put like a hot lamp over it and it kind of like goes like and I like, I guess like. So it's a ghost? Kind of like melts your muscles. Oh. And kind of like relaxes them and like makes them feel like soothed.

Oh. kind of like he stresses them yeah i think your body also your body also is releasing like its own chemicals in the process yeah interesting still won't do it i've only got a full body massage when i went because my boyfriend took us like for a romantic thing wait with the extra puncture no a full body massage like a like a masseuse massage okay a couple's massage yeah It was cute. It was weird. Oh. I don't like people touching me.

Well, I do, but I don't. I don't know. It was weird. I wasn't into it. I just felt like it. Because it wasn't a happy ending or because it was a happy ending? Neither. But I just wasn't, I don't know. I just wasn't feeling that. Anything. I don't like massages. I don't like, they hurt to me. They fucking hurt. I like.

You like them? I like them. i got a massage in in t it was an ensanada and she was like how hard i'm just like just me up i like because i know i have like all kinds of like knots in my back so like i love when they just dig them out and it's just good and i just like fall asleep and before i know it's over, it's very relaxing for me i feel more tense after a massage like i'm sore right now like you put your elbow all deep in my back yeah i want the the thai massage

is the one where they like walk on your back i think yeah that sounds cool, What other self-cares do you guys do? Do you ever get yourself a little treat for no reason? That's every day. How do you think I get this body? Body of treats. For me, eating out is like a treat. Yeah, I try to eat as much as I can at home, but I'm like, okay, I deserve this. I've done pottery as a form of self-care.

I went to this this place in la it was called pot la and it's really cool it's like poc owned and run and it's for the community and i went for like an incense a clay incense we essentially learned how to make incense and build an incense holder yeah it was really fun that was really cool like and then like i really like playing with the clay like i guess i need a lot of grounding because like i love tactile things so like i was playing with the clay and it was just a very nice like getting

my hands dirty feeling the yeah feeling the textures and it was cool learning something i think i also like learning as like a form of self-care so you're probably like read a good book yeah like i'm learning spanish so that's like i try to cheat the ass like self-care, Nice. What app are you using? Duolingo. Okay. I was using another one. I think, I forgot what it was called. But those lessons are long. Like, you have to dedicate like half an hour. Duolingo is like,

you can do what I want. You do like different sessions. Yeah. I was doing that during COVID when I was working. See you, Mola? See, it didn't work, but.

I don't know why i thought that like my form of self-care was getting like a red bull when i really need it i'm like i need this energy i need to take care of myself by right i mean yeah being present so i need to do it i need to have caffeine, it's forms of care i mean some people buy a starbucks right it's kind of the same point yeah but but it's also counterproductive because like points like self-care is to like,

regulate right and you to feel kind of like better but then you're pumping yourself full of caffeine which is like an up an upper you know like it feels good because like all your happy chemicals are going off because it's delicious and you're getting what you want but like also your system is being impacted by that, I feel like also going to sleep early is my self-care. And you get better at that.

I like to go to bed early, but also like sometimes I'll sleep so good and I'll wake up and it's like, damn, now it's like 11 p.m. Now what do I do? Damn, that was a three-hour nap. Yeah, I feel like I'm usually in bed by 8.30. If I am in bed at 8.30, just sitting in bed watching TV at 8.30, then I know I'm taking care of myself. Okay. So on a regular, what time would you be falling asleep?

I'll probably be passed out by 9 o'clock. And then even on a Friday night, because I've already been up the whole day for work, it's still the same thing. So it's like I'll crash at 9 o'clock on a Friday.

And i feel like so shitty because like my boyfriend's like yay we get a party it's friday night and i'm like no we don't because also like when i'll be because i'll be like oh i'll take a like i'll get a red bull and like i'll like charge up and i'll try to tackle friday, and like i can watch that movie with you even though that's a lie and i'll still fucking pass out at 9 30 and so like i guess yeah self-care is like putting

myself to bed early when i actually need the rest yeah because i do need the fucking rest and it's like it's true what you do yeah.

Yeah and also like that's like it's cool you keep it consistent because like you can throw your sleep out of whack but then you're you're fucked for the next week that's that is that's another thing that i have to do like on the weekends like i'll still kind of wake up early anyways because of my body yeah and if like i try to like sleep in on the weekends and it just throws me it fucks me all up i'm all fucked you should at least attempt to take a nap during the weekends,

When I do that, I feel guilty. Why? I feel like I'm becoming unconscious, and my boyfriend is no longer getting access to me. And I'm going to ruin his week. Well, when I take a nap, I don't fall asleep for 30 minutes. Okay. I'm talking about a power nap. I ain't talking about like... I can't. It's a full nap. Like these naps, it will turn in...

It's a four hours. so he this just happened this weekend too on saturday because i worked saturday too he was like he went to go take a nap in the in the bed like at like six in the afternoon and i was like oh i'll just like go lay down with you and then i i woke up at nine o'clock and i was like no sorry i'm this is full sleep now i was like you fucked up right let me take these clothes off i'm going too bad good night you fucked up by taking that nap i don't know why he did that you know i was

gonna wake back up yeah and he stayed up yeah he's just like awake because he's the kind of person who stays up till 2 a.m with like zero caffeine he's just like his he's always just like up nice not nice well not for you anyways enough of my self-care is sleep that's true.

I do like my my self-care is also having a good time with my friends oh yeah that's cute know being social i love like talking to people and shit and like meeting new people so like going out and having a drink or two the extrovert right you know just like talking to people like hey how you doing where you from how you doing i like that shit it and it reassures me that this is really some cool motherfuckers out here i think you're an extrovert that's why it recharges you,

but now you're right it does but also I'm an introvert because when I want my me time like I told y'all I'll go and treat myself to lunch and to a movie and boom I don't need to don't, Talk to me. You know what I'm saying? Don't talk to me. But yeah, so I... You see I'm on a date? Right, so rude. Don't you see I'm on a date? Oh, shit. But yeah, I do appreciate both ends of that, like taking myself on a date and then also being out with friends and just interacting with people. Mm-hmm. Yeah.

I try to watch like funny things, like comedic things. Oh, things that make you laugh. Oh, my God. So, like, it can be, like, healing through the power of laughter. Yes. That is most definitely true. Powerful. So, this is going to sound weird, but to follow off what you just said, I will love, when I need to do some self-care, I will put on Disney Plus and watch an animated movie in a heartbeat. Something light. It ain't, you know, it's, like, well, some of them nowadays. Old number said. Right.

Once you think about it. But, like, I'm trying to find, like, some of the goofy ones and shit. Oh, I see, I see. Yeah. I love an animated movie that just put me back into, like, a space of, like, happiness and joy. Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah. So, yeah, like, I just recently watched Wish that came out on Disney+. Oh, I want to watch that. Yeah, it was good. But I like shit like that. Like, I like, like.

Soft. yeah like comedy it's not a lot to be thinking about it's just good old child like humor my favorite childlike humor happy movie is probably like Finding Nemo I feel like that one always puts me in like a good mood goofy troop wait goof troop. Oh, a Goofy movie. I remember that. I like to watch movies or shows that I have seen several times. That's very comforting for me. Schitt's Creek is one I'll watch over and over again. Usually, comedy is like... I'll watch Buffy.

Anything that I've seen before is just very comforting. Golden Girls is another one for me.

Nino walked in on me watching golden girls or napping to golden girls i used to do that all the time i used to watch the same movies over and yeah over again i would watch charlie saint cloud oh my god i used to watch that all the fucking time and just get soothed by zach efron's beauty, what else do i like to watch i love lucy feels comforting to me oh yeah i haven't seen them forever but i definitely see that what else sailor moon kind of gives

me that same comfort no you know what else pokemon the first original season gives me like instant comfort vibes, who else i feel like any movie like death becomes her is a comforting film for me anything i saw as a kid and i yeah that's definitely a movie i saw as a kid like elvira is a comforting film for me yeah blank man blank man small robert townsend movie back in the day.

What else is self-care i think that's i mean at that point self-care is going to start rolling into things that we shouldn't be doing. Right. You know what, like a self-care that I want to probably like, just like how you said, like you go and fuck yourself. Like, you know, yeah, like self-care can be going and either pleasuring yourself or like going and hooking up safely or unsafely or whatever you prefer. But like, also I would look like at that as a form of self-care too.

To making sure that you are not pent up with the frustration to make sure you are happy and loved for at least that moment. For sure. It could definitely be a tool, but it shouldn't be like your only tool. No, no, no, no. Right, yeah, so I think that's where people get caught up. That's a treat. Treat yourself. Treat yourself with some dick. I don't think anything else. And our self-care thoughts. The only thought that I have is make sure you make

the time to provide that to yourself. That's true. Because we get so hooked up in life and we be like, oh shit, I didn't even think about myself.

But yeah, we have to make sure that we are taking care of ourselves because with the world we're living in, it's like, if you ain't gonna love yourself in the good words of RuPaul, who else gonna love you? I think that's how it goes. I don't know.

But yeah that's my thought on self-care make sure you take the time out to do it care for yourself other than just going on your phone, other than just purchasing purchases don't look at me when you say that, did you feel some kind of way i did now i gotta go and try to find a cheap way to take myself i mean i could make myself i can make i can cook and then go to a movie i do whatever you want girl there's nothing wrong with you taking yourself for dinner in a movie get it what i was

talking about was i don't i didn't mean like self-care is not scrolling through amazon and, oh you mean like oh like retail therapy like over consumption yeah oh no i'm talking about yeah get all the manicures and pedicures you want what about you doc for self-care yeah what's your less thought or comment on self-care? If you are not doing self-care and you do it, that's when you need it the most.

And then to practice, you know, there's going to be some times where you're doing really well with it and you're going to fall off a little, but you should get back on it. And it's a habit. The more and more you do it, the easier it will get. That's true. Well, Queer LBC, is that it for self-talk? I mean, self-care? I think so. Pretty self-explanatory. Just trying to give the listeners some ideas how to self-care themselves by fucking themselves properly and eating full pizzas. Full pizzas.

That's what I do on the regular, but... Hope you're inspired, yo. Eat pizza. Give into your naughty, naughty side, every once in a while. Dark side. Your dark-sided pizza side. Alright, everybody. I think that's it for self-care. But I'd like to thank myself, Nino, Dr. Mikey, and Mr. Kristoff from all of us here at the Queer OBC. Take care of yourself, self-care. That was a kiss from Kristoff. How cute. You're good enough. You're smart enough. And talk on it. People like you.

Good night. Good night. Sleep tight. Good night. Care for yourself. We'll be right back. Bye.