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Today in gay, Biden's new Title IX rules are all set to take effect, but not in these states.

Also in gay x-men creator drama today in homophobia gay couple severely beaten by shake shack employees after kissing today in transphobia orange county board of education joins legal challenge against ban on forced outing policies also in transphobia someone has tried to trademark jules lebron's viral very demure very mindful thingy today in yas the colorado gop chair who called lgbtq plus people godless groomers just lost his job today and what the fuck mpox declared a global public health

emergency by world health organization do any of you queens know about any of these things i don't per se because i was out of town and welcome back but i did read a few of these things i've read that in homophobia about that At Shake Shack. So a gay couple, according to Advocate News, a gay couple is speaking out about the horrific attack they endured at a Shake Shack after employees reportedly saw them kissing.

Christian Dingus, 28, and his partner were at a branch of the restaurant in Washington, D.C. with their friends. Late Saturday, when their innocent display of affection sparked a physical confrontation, Dingus told NBC that he and his partner briefly began to kiss as they waited for their food when a worker accosted them. A worker came out to us and said that, you know, you can't be doing that here.

Can't do that type of stuff here. He recalled when Dingus' partner said that he had done anything wrong. He was escorted out of the restaurant, prompting Dingus to follow, follow and defend him. Dinkins said he did argument began in which the employees levished harsh words against the two. He then told them to not speak to them like that, causing the workers to escalate. And then one of them, man, pretty forcibly pushed me out of the way on my shoulder. Dinkins continued.

Next thing I know, that kind of just, I think, sparked the rest of them.

They all just kind of started attacking me at that point, dragging me back through the floor and intensely punching me in my head video filmed by another patron and obtained by nbc shows a man being pushed and punched by two people in black shake shack shirts before two others approach digas said that he does not know how the assault ended as he curled up on the ground to protect himself digas did recall one customer exiting the restaurant after employees to help

him the patron who obtained the video also offered him the footage afterwards what the fuck is this a simple assault with an anti-gay bias motivation how is that like how do you like d. Hate crime they hate crime right like a simple assault with an anti-gay bias motivation that's a hate crime bitch what the fuck sounds like they're trying not to like get these two these employees that much trouble but i'm saying like even in dupont circle like it seemed like

something Something is missing out of this story. Do you know about that place? I don't know about that. I know about that area. Explain. I don't know what is DuPont Circle. I mean, it's just a neighborhood in Washington and D.C. I mean, it's...

It's a residential area but i feel like just i feel like that wouldn't just take place it's like upper middle class like i yeah like upper middle class so but i feel like dc is so lgbtq friendly that i feel like like why the fuck is that happening right you know what i mean that just shows you it's like but well the video was just them getting attacked it wasn't like what caused it yeah better like i can't kiss my boyfriend on the cheek okay now that without,

getting fucking hate crimed or what if it was one assaulted now what if it was somebody he hooked up with on sniffies and they never the drama i don't know straight people are vicious i don't know but that's rude leave us alone we're just trying to get our shakes and burgers obviously i hope y'all get justice i guess the shake shack about to be canceled well now because y'all really any need fucking counseling well the chick-fil-a oh wait well the the the people

who own shake shack came out and said that they're taking it very seriously and they're investigating and have a zero violence policy so and there's no updates yet so i don't know what they're doing with it shake shack is from new york oh it's a new york based okay.

But very unfortunate i hope y'all are okay i hope they are okay but i hope y'all get your money too right motherfuckers for all they worth shake shack enterprises does not support governments or groups engaged in or any conflicts i asked if they fund israel they don't, only kidding gay people but that's fucked up sorry gay couple for getting beaten from shake shack employees but this is why i say like y'all need to go to the

gym and y'all need to fucking take some self-defense classes because it's just gonna fucking happen, also I'm like motherfucker give me my fucking food and quit worrying about what the fuck is going on behind this counter, worry about what's going on the other side of the counter and I'll worry about what's going on this side of the counter if anybody else get fucking offended they can talk to me until then you flip their burger and shake my goddamn shake

right go make your fucking twenty dollars. Flipping burger I'm like shit like that shouldn't even had not happened right, I just assume that people get this way just for a personal reason. But I feel like nowadays people fuckers are just...

Triggered yeah because it's like off any and everything it doesn't even matter like if it was a peck on the cheek or he was sucking his dick in the street why are you beating people up for any reason like control yourself bitch the fuck yeah like i don't have the right to go beat somebody's ass because i don't like what the fuck they're doing like if some lady kissed her husband on the cheek can i go beat her fucking

ass does that make sense right like i'm like sir and you You want to go tell your manager, right? Right. Yeah. Like, how does that make sense? I'm going to beat your ass lady because you kissed your husband. No. But I'd be interested because like, yeah, DC sounds like a very like open place, but like, right. There's still everyone. There's homophobia everywhere. Right. I mean, you are right. People are getting called groomers and there's all kinds of anti-trans laws.

There's anti-gay laws. so it's like like regardless of where you're gonna come like you're gonna you hear anti-homophobic anti-trans things all the time everywhere so i think again like you that becomes more prominent in society and it emboldens people so when they see it it fucking triggers them like a fucking, yeah yeah i mean the where you're at doesn't matter because i mean i've been accosted in la that's me too in long beach downtown long beach like right near

broadway i've been accosted I've been accosted by queer people. Like I mean you also right I just always try to look at it from two different standpoints and it's just be like you damned if you do and you damned if you don't it's just like motherfuckers it's just weird these days just let me live my life right, The Orange County Board of Education has joined a legal challenge that wants to overturn a California law that bans forced outing policies in school districts.

The first of its kind bill in the nation, AB 1955, was signed into law by Governor Gavin Newsom in July. It will go into effect on January 1st. The Safety Act, Support Academic Features and Educators for Today's Youth, AB 1955, will do three things.

Prohibit school districts from implementing forced outing policies, provide resources for parents and students to navigate conversations around gender and identity on their terms, ensure teachers and school staff are not retaliated against for refusing to forcibly out a student.

The law prohibits school districts and charter schools from implementing policies that require staff to disclose any information related to a pupil's sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression to another person without their consent, according to AB 1955. LGBTQ plus pupils have the right to express themselves freely at school without fear, punishment, or retaliation, including that teachers or administrators might out them without their permission, the legislation said.

These forced outing policies put LGBTQ plus students at risk and harm their mental health. They also lead to increased bullying, harassment, discrimination, among other issues, experts have said.

Since 2023, more than a dozen state schools, including Chino Valley, Temecula, Marietta, and Orange, have proposed and or passed policies requiring teachers to notify parents if their child identifies as transgender or asks to be identified by a different name or pronouns than listed on the one on their birth certificate.

The Orange County Board of Education is the latest on that notorious list. Blah, fucking blah, blah, blah. Did y'all see the picture of this board? They look... That's what mama said. If I ain't got nothing nice to say, don't say nothing nice at all. Oh, we found Waldo. I took, right? Okay. For real, though. So Orange County is coming in because they're joining the lawsuit against. Against helping. Against, yes. Because the governor just signed a law that we can't force out trans kids.

Yeah. Or probably any queer kids. But this was specifically trans kids.

So the orange county school board is deciding to challenge that and to doing a lawsuit of other school districts because they want to out transfer i mean they i'm quite sure they have a lot of more other shit they should be worried about in orange county at their schools than this i mean that's why i'm like we say it like all the time but like we keep flip-flopping like back and forth and back and forth it's like once the law is settled that's not settled and then once we get the right it's

taken away again and it's just like where is like what yeah like what is the point of voting for kamala and getting all our rights back when in whatever the fuck another four years they're gonna get right the fuck back away and then do the same fucking thing what is the fucking point of all of this yeah look at this like it's not even a law yet it's gonna pass and it's gonna go into effect january and they're already fighting it like what like five months before.

It goes into effect exactly like you haven't even experienced what this law is and you're already fighting already fighting it yeah don't even know like i understand okay like we do want to have like because there are some laws that are like unjust right like we have slavery right we had segregation like okay i understand that laws need to be challenged but like there has to be some like stop to it you know like what is this doing that what harm is

this law that's going to go into effect going to have on people like i just don't understand i don't know i mean it's parents rights they have the right to have their children's gender be what they decide it is i don't know orange county being orange county yeah that is also true have you guys seen this demure girl jewels yeah it's everywhere bro right what are your thoughts on her get your coin i i'm here for it here for

it but i cannot hear the word again i i'm demure now yeah my fiance was like just showing me like who she was all of a sudden yeah and then it was like i don't know 15 minutes of of all these people doing it. And I'm like, okay. Or variations of it. Right, and a lot of celebrities is even jumping on the trend. But that's crazy how. And so I heard something similar. So I heard two things.

One, I heard that like when I was in like almost like a week and a half ago that these individuals, they were able to make a lot of money and be able to finish their transition. Yeah. Then comes out that someone is trying to trademark this LeBron's viral, very demure, very mindful. The feel good meme of the year is now at the center of a potential legal headache. So after Jules uploaded the video, several news outlets seem to report that Jules had lost the trademark.

However, as pointed out in a subsequent post by TMZ through Bates filed paperwork and it has been assigned to an examiner, it has not yet been reviewed and the trademark has not been granted. Also, while the trademark is under review, other parties are able to challenge the application.

Fans of jewels and the phrase have now adopted a wait and see approach to the filing as many have noted that they would not purchase merch unless they were sure that jewel will benefit financially from the sale we will not be buying any merch from anyone that isn't you love one person wrote so sorry but if money isn't going to directly to jewels if i buy merch this is what the people are saying if i buy merch that says very demure then i'm not

buying it wrote another person on the social media site x firmly known as twitter it seems that it was just miscommunication in the media standpoint because i also she made a tiktok that i've seen online where she was like crying saying that someone is trying to trademark her saying but then like probably like a couple of days probably like almost i think yesterday she updated her tiktok saying that you know like she She has her legal team on it.

And she looked at very high hope because when she made the first one, she was crying. And so hopefully everything goes to plan with this new trademarking for you. But I would rather see it on a T-shirt than hear it again. I'm like, I wonder who this asshole is who did that. You know, motherfuckers be hate. Yeah. They're all haters.

I saw a TikTok about it. and he is someone he's done this before where he's trademarked someone else's sayings oh so this is just his yeah and I think he's pretty rich too he kind of understands like that he's just fucking he's probably looking at the money and seeing how many retweets and how many likes and everything was going up it's like oh this is about to become something. I mean, hopefully something happens and then she can get justice.

But it's kind of like, even if she did get the trademark anyways, can all these fucking people be stealing your shit and nobody takes it off of their website and everything is like copyright infringed the fuck out? Yeah. And it's like nothing ever happens. Like, you don't get that money. You never get that whatever. It's like, fuck, you're always going to get screwed on that kind of shit.

And i feel like it's kind of like you need to get your coin because i feel like, do you got no other catchphrases right but she but it's it's not like she's been saying it for a long time it's just now caught on but she's been saying in all her posts forever so it's like he probably won't let us a chance in that trademark suit anyway because it was like where's your okay let me see let the first time you read it yeah wrote in that phrase yeah let me

see because i heard there's more that is involved than just like owning it you have to like proof that you did it so she has all these receipts everyone crediting her but it's also part of it is like your not allegiance but like your branding like if it's part of your branding if it's part of like like you are necessary to make it go viral or famous like you get the trademark so like right i was hearing tiktoks where it's like their understanding she was freaking out but like there's

a lot more that she has that she has in her favor for her to witness this. That's cool. Which I hope she does. She deserves it. You know like. She needs it for her transition. And she's getting her coin. She was on Jimmy Fallon when RuPaul was hosting it. Oh, really? Really? Yeah. That's so nice. RuPaul brought her on and they were going toe to toe, throwing jokes and shade. Oh, okay. She's really funny. I think I gotta go look it up. Right. Interesting.

So she's not a one trick pony? No. I think, yeah, yeah. Well, I'm not very demure. I'm not very mindful.

No, I take the bet. i am very mindful i'm very undemure undemure i feel like most people aren't very mindful what was the other it was no it's just those two very demure very mindful very cutesy very okay, yeah i'm not cutesy i don't really rep those adjectives is that an adjective to all right what was oh i did want to talk about this but i've seen how long this article is the x-men shit yes and i said uh one thing i'm not gonna do is read all that shit but i did see i did

see well because we all remember because i think we talked about it when x-men first came back out and released on this disney plus that a black queer man written and directed or whatever, But I think it was probably like in the sixth episode or some shit, it was noted that he was not going to be returning back. So apparently the allegations against Bo DeMaio is that sources further told Variety that DeMaio had been accused of sexual misconduct.

Separately, they added some of DeMeo's social media posts had breached the terms of his termination contract, leading the studio to remove his name from the season two credits. In a paywalled newsletter, Collider senior film reporter Jeff Snyder said he was privately sent more detailed allegations against DeMeo. According to Snyder's anonymous source, DeMaio was alleged to have groped an assistant and have sent photos of himself in various states of undress to other men on staff.

DeMaio has denied the allegations against him. The truth will be revealed, he wrote in a statement on X. After their Disney Plus disaster, Marvel wants to mislead with alleged contract breaches over tweets.

It's tragic it comes to this, but unsurprising. stay tuned clear it's not clear whether the disaster referred to Disney lost over a million Disney plus subscribers over the more recent controversy over the platform's terms of service which Disney lawyers have argued should nullify wrongfully death lawsuits y'all heard about that?

So remember that guy he was at Disney Disney World and the family was going to sue Disney but Disney says since that the person who passed the way did a free trial back in 2014 or something and was like it means in that time right and those terms of contracts you he deemed not able to sue us for anything i was like oh y'all gots to be fucking joking me dang that's some shit that was and that's and i'm quite sure that's when a lot of people's like oh fuck disney i feel like you even putting that

in your fucking contract is like Like, you signing a death notice to yourself, bitch. Once that happens and people find out, you the fuck? Right. You think they're going to still want you? Right. Trust you? But shit, it's going to be like, fuck, I already got the Disney Plus now, so shit. Fuck, I'm already- Yeah, you already can't sue them. I'll fuck now, so shit. That's ridiculous. I wonder if it was all of them or the free trial, because that guy did the free trial He did the free trial.

And I think, well, you know what? Maybe it was the free trial. Dang. Imagine. Imagine. Free Disney, but you can't sue me. For seven days, but you can't sue us for nothing else. For the rest of your life We done gave you Seven days of fucking Free content What the fuck So So just cause you couldn't Sue a company For murdering your You.

In their park does that not mean that they're not liable for death of human beings i mean, manslaughter machine that you just made no one can sue no one can get you in trouble for that right now you just have a land where people can get murdered like if i'm a psycho disney employee.

And i feel like killing you man sorry bitch guess it's your time right great tv show this should come out on disney plus yeah but i mean that would not surprise me because according to the mayo lawyer my client never sent lewd videos and photos to his direct reports this is a bald-faced lie defamatory defamatory no one who reported both to hr received an inappropriate photo or video apparent apparent to confirm that the mayo had been the subject of hr complaints As a proud gay black man,

Disney knew exactly who he was and what he stood up for. Friedman went on to allege that Disney objected to DeMeo's right to free speech in addition to enforcing legal NDAs, but did not provide further details. He also claimed that a certain person at Disney got rid of DeMeo because he was becoming more successful than the other creators. Now, that sounds more on brand. Right. You know what I'm saying? Because that motherfucker was probably fucking the motherfucker who fired the motherfucker.

But also, if you're alleging that people got videos and pictures and where are they? These are not allegations. If you have that proof. It should be in my HR file. Yeah. And I should have had a meeting about this and I should have signed off saying that, yes, boom. And why isn't that employee not suing him directly? Exactly. Because they went to HR and HR said, let me handle it. Yeah. We'll fire him. We'll fire him. Right. With no pictures or videos that you're claiming to have.

Okay, if you have that, then yeah, what he did wasn't cool. But if you're saying you have these things, and you're not like, I don't know. There's a random image I see of him as like a Marvel character. And I think that's what, I think, because they also stated that him reposting shit on Instagram, fan art, of X-Men characters, is the form of him. Now, I can understand that, but I don't know what your contract looked like.

So for you to repost something they said that was that also was in lewd of a disney or a character of marvel but that's not true he's just shirtless but it wasn't like it's like i didn't make it i just fucking reposted it so like me reposting some fan art is grounds for me to get terminated purity contracts like they like you what you're talking about the fucking show is all fucking lewd exactly so that's why i'm like what are you saying is like a gay man topless like

sexualized but a straight man topless is not because and not even a man a fictional character because isn't wolverine constantly shirtless constantly did you see dead man and wolverine this what are you talking about disney like i don't well i guess that's not disney but no it is because they own yeah oh yeah i mean yeah so like it makes no sense it's all backwards like people don't understand that people have common sense like it just it makes no sense i

did find the image very sexual that he reposted yeah it was like because i i would imagine i would imagine disney is going to have and want some control of like what you post as someone that's part of their company right like look at the disney kids like britney spears like demi lovato like all of them right miley maybe Cyrus. Like they all had to act and like portray themselves a certain way. So maybe he did violate something in his contract and that pitcher did do that.

Maybe if you're thinking that it's hot, then...

Maybe it is sexual. I mean, it's no different than old dude. Yeah, we have to see what the straight people are posting. If they post similar things, he's the only one who got busted for something like that. It is no different from watching WWE, which is an official character, but a real person. That's true. You know what I mean? It's just mind-boggling. But I want to support this motherfucker, but I also want to see Susan Sue.

Let me see this picture to confirm this. Hopefully it gets, hopefully he can get his credit i mean he already got paid for season two but he's just not going to get credited on the show i mean i don't know if he's gonna get justice because if a guy can't get murdered in your park i'm pretty sure they got a dirty fucking contract i mean you also right we're gonna murder you actually bo wake up dead bo watch damn the drama said nothing then i'm gonna go and follow him on instagram later

but i also think like stories like these are easily allegations like these are easily highlighted for queer people because we are so sexualized too yeah it'd be like you know that makes sense like he's gay he would do that right you know we just had that in one of the quick teas right now yeah you know and it's also like everybody it seems that everybody is so progressive we feel like everybody is so progressive so like if you feel like

i'm quite sure disney studios is in california so i'm quite. Excuse me i'm quite sure that you will feel like oh like i should be able to be queer a professional queer in a professional setting so if he didn't send any nude acts or anything electronically and there's no proof and things of that nature this should be rectified very quickly but it comes to To show that it can't and it probably won't because the people at hand still are assholes.

I would say yes and no because I feel like when I was working in a children's themed. No, scratch that. It was like a youth themed YouTube channel. And yeah, even though it was like very liberal and progressive and like it was like the only place that I've ever been like super out at work. And, like, everybody's, like, really cool and accepting and chill with it.

Like, at the same time, it's, like, there's nothing, like, sexual that you would be doing or, like, have your mind in, like, that area to, like, be, like, I'm gonna post... A shirtless nude of me like that wouldn't come to my mind like where like like on your social media, i mean not for your youth group no but for yourself and for your friends or followers yeah but i mean i don't know if you're that big of a name and you're that in i mean if you're in disney and you're

like the biggest show that's going on it's like you and you're a director a writer like a producer some like high up like that you become kind of like without even wanting to yeah you you become a face without wanting it i feel like this lets some like purity bullshit because that what that reminds me also is like what's happening to like chaparone where she's like setting a boundary yeah her fans and their people are having feelings about that you know like i feel like there's such these

high expectations of like well you're famous this.

Is what you get right so it's i feel like that's i don't know that just feels icky to me like it feels like people can't have boundaries it's how it is though i mean it's true it is icky and it is gross but that is what is going on because they won't let you and then they're gonna get in trouble you're gonna get fucking fired yeah for like weird shit but i mean he was also saying like it's homophobic right or like some shit he's gonna like have some shit come out i mean obviously people are

doing shit that he's allegedly doing and not getting in trouble for it exactly and so there's where their homophobia comes out i guess but if you're actually doing like weird shit then that's also weird we don't know yeah still investigating so why like now that monkey pox is a global emergency they're calling it m pox and when it was like a gay thing it was like monkey pox what kind of rebrand for the straights is this homophobia like they definitely were calling

it monkey pox the fuck out oh for sure but also can we highlight that when we had the mpox in our community all us motherfucking gays lined up got our shots and that shit was done in what two three months right and then it came to the straights and is a world. Epidemic m pox no it's monkey pox bitch you're all monkeys just like how you're called us monkeys.

Game monkeys have any of you guys gotten monkey pox i have no but i also know anybody no actually i haven't either i haven't i haven't known nobody but i went straight to the department of health when they said that because i'll be in these streets i was like i'll be damned and also i went and just i don't know if this is necessary but i did it and my doctor and i already you know I went and got a second. I didn't get a second dose, but I got like a booster.

So I'm like, I'm out here trying to be safe. And I'd be down if I had to get, you know, monkey pox or COVID. Chicken pox. Chicken pox. Okay. I don't want no pox. If you ain't Tupac, I don't want it. Did you ever hear that Tupac is gay? Yeah. There's a video of him and he's like super gay. And I'm like, oh my God, he's fucking gay. I mean, he was very...

Feminine right very interesting but yeah i want to get my booster so so gays go get boosted up but the reason why it is a uh a global public health emergency is because there's like a huge infection in the congo right now so it was monkey pox came out originally in july 22 that's when When it spread in Europe and America, that's when we all lined up and got our shots.

But now, following the death of at least 450 people in the Democratic Republic of Congo, and with the virus continuing to spread across Central and East Africa, the organization has done so again to declare MPOCs a global public emergency.

So here we go again with this bullshit. So, like, they always wanted to try these viruses and drop them off in Africa. And then now it's a world, like, come the fuck on. This sounds like the same shit that happened back in the 60s and 70s when AIDS, when it's like, oh, like, AIDS. The only people who have it are gays in Africa. Right. Like, come on now. Can we get? Look, damn it. I'm sticking tight.

This shit like do we not see a pattern here right like come on cdc like y'all can y'all come up with something better and different better than fucking different than africa and the gays like we can't be the the cause of every goddamn thing and every fucking pandemic or epidemic because when i thought about that i was like that just seems like it makes sense like when i thought about that that the government administers AIDS. Because I was thinking about it like back in the day. And I was like,

maybe that's true. I'm like, there's two most hated groups. Why wouldn't they just. Right. That's just how the fucking, like the government put drugs in communities. So like the government is always trying to take somebody out the goddamn game. So we might want to watch our backs.

We've already been the targets right damn but yeah but like i think it really highlights that like we all need like all groups that are i don't want to say oppressed but like not privileged you know like we're all our struggles connected and united so we really need to acknowledge that and i think this is a perfect example right like people in congo are dying from monkey pox and we knew about monkeypox in 2002 it's been around for two

years why haven't we taken the effort to provide resources to everyone around the world to vaccinate right no no i'm tired of people, tired of the powers the powers that be anything else. Nothing that was on the, but did y'all watch the Democratic, uh, Democrat National Convention? I didn't see shit. I saw bits and pieces of it. I didn't see it because I was out of the country, but I did see bits and pieces of it. But I do know that I've seen how TMZ had got it wrong again.

The Beyonce shit? Right. But everybody, I just want to give this public announcement. Beyonce is not coming to y'all stagecoach. She ain't coming to y'all DNC.

If she if if it ain't her throwing it she ain't coming she don't want it right so just want to go ahead and throw that at us so for all the halloween parties that's about to come up all the labor day parties all the white parties you know all the circuit parties all any all the parties the beyonce is not coming so if you see it from tmz motherfucking shade room let me take a quick poll did you think she was going to show up no i didn't either no i

had i was like that bitch isn't going to no to chicago for the dnc she said baby let me go ahead feed my kids i was like kamala already paid for megan she had no more money left i can't afford beyonce okay she said i don't need to show up but yeah i just wanted to say that that shit was quite funny yeah i was like what is this star-studded event i was like is bush showing up i heard some rumor that bush was gonna show up I heard about

that rumor too that would have been so fucking hilarious that he was supposed to endorse Kamala that would have been fucking sick see that's why you can't trust or see or read anything on the internet these days I wish to happen that would have been so good it would have been funny.

I mean it's just another war criminal the only thing i heard from dnc is they didn't allow a palestinian speaker but they allowed every other speaker interesting yeah i wonder why that is like speaker of the house or like speaker speak at dnc so like they had like queer that black that asian they had like a idf soldier family so like an israeli soldier family speak at dnc talking about their right to defend oh yeah garbage okay one of you queers who

are going to the fucking dnc events can you fucking ask her about why is this shit happening every four years, and why we got to do these laws every four years please ask her on camera how do we make a stick how do we make these laws stick thank you but other than that i think i'm thirsty after this quick tea. You're thirsty of all this tea? You haven't been quenched? I have been quenched. Okay. That's the opposite of thirsty.

We're no longer thirsty. I thought I said, um, what I said? You said the right thing. Oh. See, my mind's playing tricks on me. And we love you for it.

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And we're back so today i wanted to talk about safe spaces what are they have you ever been to a safe space when when you went there did you feel safe safe from what exactly do you need safety or a safe space you little snowflake who goes there what happens there, go off queens what's a safe space have you ever been in a safe space my i think a safe space is just basically what makes you feel safe so like i feel safe everywhere i go because

if i don't then i'm out like my peace and my energy is so important to me so like if i don't feel safe i feel off like i'm out of there but other than that i'm usually safe. But so before we get into safe spaces let's consider what is actually a safe space let's consider it so i feel like a safe space is any place a republican is not that yeah the end.

I feel like a safe space is somewhere where you can be like authentically yourself and not have to hide parts of yourself right where you don't have to hide your identity you don't have to hide your race like and like people are accepting of it basically like a safe place is anywhere you can like unmask where you could be authentically yourself and not have to worry about like harm coming towards you or you being othered because i feel like places i don't feel

safe in or a place where i feel othered or like i feel like like i stand out i feel like my school that i go to is not a safe space i do not feel safe there someplace where you can let your hair down yeah i feel the same way like somewhere where you could just just like you said dr mikey, emotionally and physically safe from harm truly by being 100 authentically yourself Yeah. Without trying to, you know, act some way or differently to make sure that you

fit in with the masses. That's in that space. I'll say spaces where you could come in there and walk in and do whatever, do just be you do you without, you know, fill in.

Discriminated against about or othered as you say like yeah but i like safe spaces because you for that one reason i mean of course for that one reason but you are able to be truly yourself and could act as goofy as you want or as serious as you like but as long as you're not causing harm to no one yeah then you you know shit let the motherfucker sit in the corner and talk to himself you know this is this is a safe space you know i'm saying like shit i just

so if i want to go and twirl in the middle of the goddamn cafe so be it just to be it right that's true to motherfucker g-e-t gotta go.

Whatever the fuck that charlotte may not charlotte may that one song but yes i do love safe spaces i've tried to always visit safe spaces i feel like i'm constantly recently in i don't know because i feel like i'm so traumatized that like most places i'm on edge no matter where i go and like for it to feel like a safe space i feel like yeah there has to be no straight men there but i think i i think that brings up a point of everyone

needs something different from a safe space because everyone's idea of safety is different like we all have our own histories we all have our own traumas so everyone's idea of safety can be drastically different okay take that back not all straight men yeah hashtag not all straights there are some straight men that i have i have to remember that i have can't say i hate all straight people because there are some straight people that i've come to love come to love i've learned right.

I was weary at first of course but i've come to love them oh oh see i'm not straight phobic completely well i am but that's neither here anyways a safe space, Have I been to a safe space? Well, traditionally, safe spaces for the queer community are like the LGBTQ centers. The original ones were the bars. But I don't know how safe they were. Right? No, you know what's so funny is... I'm so stupid.

Literally, the first place I ever went to that was gay public facing was a safe space that had no alcohol.

It was the library on Broadway. in long beach and it was a coffee shop how does this oh okay i first i've talked you was talking about the actual library oh like that's right i thought so too you're talking about the cat the coffee shop is it still there yeah it's it's on third i was on third i thought it was on broadway okay no sorry that's what's up i was like what fucking no anyways the first place i ever went so when i fucking found this dude who i was going around on

my girlfriend with he took me to the library and i was like oh my god this is like oh my god i'm not even out of the closet yet and so we were scared i was scared as fuck i wasn't gonna know the midnight step foot in there that i'm gay because i was like 19 oh and then we just got a coffee i think i got a hot chocolate and then And we went on our little date and it was like, yeah, a little gay coffee shop. And I was like, what the fuck?

And like, I was like, right, still closeted. So I was like, oh my God. I still didn't even feel comfortable because I was so closeted and so like mortified that I didn't feel like it was safe. Because I obviously felt like if I was seen by anybody, I would be like caught dead, basically. Anyways. So basically, it was a safe space, but you couldn't allow yourself to be safe and be vulnerable in that moment. and it just be your true self. Yeah, even though, yeah. Right? Like, I was so scared.

But yeah, it was really cute. So if you've ever, if you ever go to a non-drink, non-alcoholic safe space, there's the library cafe. It is, but also in our beautiful city of Long Beach, we do have an organization called Safe Spaces of Long Beach. And basically, it's an organization that basically just, you know, serves, goes around to different parts of the community and have businesses, schools, cafes, churches, any place where people can go to.

And they take a pledge to make this a safe space for the LGBTQ plus community. So you can follow them or visit or you can go to Safe Spaces Long Beach and they have an Instagram, Facebook. I'm not sure about a TikTok.

But basically what it is is that you take a pledge and you have a flyer in your window space or your front door or anything of that nature, allowing individuals of the community to know that this is a safe space for them where they They can come and be safe, free from ridicule, discrimination, being othered. So hopefully, if you do have the time, follow that. And if you see those pledges throughout the city, go ahead and walk in and feel

safe for a moment while you walk these streets of Long Beach. Safe streets. I've never been to something like that, where maybe I have.

I'm quite sure you probably like if nowadays they feel like all businesses have so much shit in their windows yeah that you can't really tell but this one also sticks out because one is a rainbow flag and say you are welcome here so i'm quite sure if you've been i'm not sure if they probably did it when you was at the library then but this is roughly new newer probably about what four years ago i think they started that's cool yeah have you guys ever been to like a LGBTQ-specific...

Helping kind of event like something like that so i i mean when i've other than like a gay bar thing like yeah yeah i've been to a lot of safe spaces with it within that mindset so like especially in the black community there were a lot of groups that will meet at the lgbt center in Cleveland. And when I moved here to Long Beach, just for, you know, as Black gay males, we, you know, walk a different life. So, and we are seen in a different light as well.

So that was a safe space where we can share our stories and know that we're not alone in this queer space space that we're in with all of our brothers and sisters and it was quite you know i mean it was different to see because you usually don't even feel like you you always feel like you're alone in this world as being a queer black male so when you see others like you and you're in that safe space where you can be vulnerable and open up it's it was very you know at that point i

was like i don't give a fuck what nobody else say you know i know there's others like me and that feel the the same way but yeah it was safe you was i i opened up you know some people it takes people some time to open up in a space like that where you talk about vulnerabilities and things of that nature of being a queer black man so but i also did that but i also did the total opposite side.

Where i went to a safe space where it was and now this i won't even now this is about to be weird no okay fuck that this is a safe space right is queer LBC a safe space can I talk my shit you can't know why so basically when I was in Cleveland there used to be a, man's group where it would just be. I don't know if you... Okay, so you would just be... It was a naked man's group. Okay. And the rules were, like, there was no sex. There were no penetration. There were no kissing.

There was none of that. It was just... Like a nudist. It was like a nudist... Oh, that's cool, though. It was like a nudist type of environment. And only touching. So only hand to body. Nothing else. Not to dick? Nothing. Nope. Don't even... Not even lip to lip.

Your lip can't touch nothing. and it's only like you can't even kiss a motherfucker's shoulder so it was just like but it's also that was a time where i was able to be like oh my god like just the touch of a man's body was just like without it technically leading to sex was in a different mindset you know i'm saying so because it at this group you it was just to be touched experiencing right you know i'm saying so like it i mean ejaculation wasn't

even interesting and you know i'm saying so it was just like the touch of a body a man's body vice versa yeah so that was something different and i think you know a lot of people should do that without it being sexual yeah i mean it could i mean both ways kudos to both because i'm doing both i think that also highlights the the hyper sexuality our community gets right like i think we buy into that so much And we internalize that.

So we have a terrible, not terrible. We have a very sexualized relationship with our bodies and other people's bodies. Like I feel a lot of gay people think they have ownership over other people's bodies. Right. Yeah. So those are my two safe spaces. How did you feel after that? Were you like, I felt good. I felt, and it was also like, I felt like I felt a rush because I wasn't used to it. That was like my first time touching a man. Did you pop a boner?

I mean, well, of course, I mean, the wind blow on me, I'm popping a boner. Like, I don't, it don't really take much. So it's just like, yeah, I mean, a boner was had.

So, but you know, and nobody touched it good you know what i'm saying interesting very interesting space to be safe and yeah have you been in any safe spaces that was one mind-boggling or like was able to allow you to see something different in a total different way you know it's so funny now that you mentioned that nudist shit once upon a time our former podcaster guy took me and my ex-boyfriend now to this like gay naked theater show where like the patrons

were all to be naked watching the show of like this like naked show and we're like what the fuck are we doing. But are like you were allowed to be clothed you were allowed to not be clothed most i want to say most everybody was naked us three we did not get naked and so we were like i don't know why we didn't even just do it but we didn't i think also because my ex was like so crazy that like, He was, like, not about, like, letting that happen, probably.

For you to allow you to not do it or for him to not do it? For other people to see you naked? Both. Oh. Because you know how he just said that gay men like to own other people's bodies? So he owned mine. Oh, okay. I see what you're saying. Anyways, so we didn't get naked, but it was really interesting. I felt bad because we didn't get naked. Okay. And I was like, oh, I feel like we're intruding on, like, these naked people.

And we're being like the stick in the mud clothing people like i didn't really care about like i needed to be naked because like i was like obviously it's like i was still like body shy anyways so i wasn't like trying to be naked but i just felt like oh i felt like we're intruding on these nudists and we're like being like sticks anyways it was interesting i didn't really get anything out of it except for like an awkwardness and then well what was the show about,

I have no clue. I have no memory. Oh. No memory of what the fuck went on. Only naked people. I was probably really high the entire time, too. Oh, okay. I think we all probably took edibles. And then, I think the other thing like that. One time I worked an LGBTQ center, like, event. Like, it was, like, a fair. Like, a LGBTQ plus fair for, like, special needs, like, LGBTQs.

Btqs and so i was like basically working in this booth of like handing people like these, i want to say like darts i want to say that's what i was doing it was either something like handing people darts to throw up balloons okay like like a fair yeah or like handing them like ping pong balls to like throw in like a cup to like win like a prize type deal anyways that's what I was doing. I was working those things. And then this guy hit on me. But they already told us that we couldn't.

We couldn't flirt with any of the people there. So I had to tell him, I'm sorry. I cannot accept your invitation. So it wasn't a safe space. I guess it wasn't that safe. That one's off your list. But I mean, it was LGBTQ player. Anyways, it was supposed to be safe. They just said that we were not supposed to be like fraternizing. Fraternizing with the help?

I'm or with the with the patrons with the patrons because we're the i mean you are at work exactly but also that makes a knock your shine i'm off in five minutes right anyways and then is there any other lgbtq plus type event things that i've ever gone to i don't remember offhand what about you doctor maybe you'll jog my memory yeah i've done well i used to work at at an lgbt center Oh, okay. Yeah. So, I worked at one in Palm Springs during an internship of mine.

And then I worked in the Long Beach one for about like two years doing supervision. Oh, okay. For the mental health department. Mm-hmm. So, I'm very familiar with like the centers. And I think they're really cool because they offer so many great things. They offer groups. They offer like a space. The one in Palm Springs, they like offered a bunch of groups. And we actually did... Oh, okay.

Like anti-bullying campaign so we went into the high schools and did presentations to all of the high schoolers in that school district about just educating them on the LGBT community and like doing a lot of anti-bullying stuff so that was really cool so they do a lot of great things and they're really actively trying to make it safe around the community so that's why I really appreciate like those centers and then like i've done like little other like

events like the that the los angeles center puts on like they do like music stuff or.

Or they do like poetry nights oh like different places yeah yeah yeah so i've been to those and then um i've done like gay men retreats okay so those like i there's like a spot near like san diego and like there they do like little workshops during the day and like you do like naked yoga you go on hikes okay it could be like a naked hike so you could do like a they have pool parties clothing optional at night people go up to like the jacuzzi area usually people

are naked up there so that was like very interesting for me because like you know body dysmorphia you know all the fun things so like being in that type of environment and it it was interesting for me very it made me reflect on like we can make all the space as safe as we want but like we also need to make like our internal space safe because i was realizing like no one else cares if i'm naked or not no one else is judging anyone else's body because like not

all these bodies are like the stereotypical like standard or perfection or whatever you know like they're all they're all just bodies so like the only person that was stopping me from like enjoying this or like raining on my parade was myself and like what i thought about my body and myself so like Like, for me, that was eye-opening to be like, ooh, I need to, like, create the safety in myself first.

Yeah. In a sense. Mm-hmm. Is there a, to follow off on that, is there something that an individual can do that would allow them to...

Be safe internally within themselves to conquer that type of feeling yeah i mean you could do self-work but i think work like that would probably be best with like a professional okay just depending on like your history like your trauma history like how you're raised and all that stuff because sometimes if for people who have like a lot of trauma or even just trauma it's hard to say a lot of trauma because everyone responds or reacts to trauma differently but

But people who have trauma don't feel safe in their bodies because they get overwhelmed by those traumatic experiences and events. So they don't want to be in their bodies because their bodies provide these like not great reactions or feelings. So a lot of people disconnect from their body. They do drugs. They, you know, do sex to distract or like they just numb themselves off and not pay attention. So a lot of the process requires you just spending time with your body.

But for the reason why I suggest a professional help is because sometimes that could be overwhelming to like sit with your body, sit with sensations. So be best to have someone be there with you to kind of pay attention to that. Because like if you don't feel safe in your body and you sink in or feel it, then it get overwhelming if like something happens for you, you know. So like you may need extra support to kind of help like regulate you.

But yeah, I think, you know, if you feel you can do the work, I think it's just journaling. I think journaling is a great tool. It's paying attention to your body sensation. You know, like, oh, like I'm noticing this tightness in my chest or like I have this like feeling in my stomach. You know, what does that mean? Just sitting with those sensations and not judging it because like judging it doesn't create safety, you know.

So like you sit with that feeling, sit with the sensation and journal and kind of see what comes up. Because usually there's some tie to your past about whatever sensation you're having on your body.

Okay i was gonna suggest us get naked in the mirror and just look at you i mean that's the self-work yeah that's the self-work right i think that's what i've done to get comfortable because i don't look like i don't i mean i don't have like the stereotypical gay body that everybody strives to get so i'm like sometimes i'll just be like i don't give a fuck shit i'm still gonna go to sleep tonight i'm gonna go ahead and put this speedo on or i'm gonna go ahead and walk in this party with my shirt

off and just like i don't give a fuck shit yeah i'm still gonna go i'm still gonna get home go to sleep say my prayers and i'll be good yeah one of my one of my mentors one thing she said she was like if you ever work with someone who has like social anxiety you just give them this mantra you tell them every time they walk into the room half the people want to to be with you and the other half want to sleep with you and you'll feel better all the time,

i know that's right i'm gonna put that in my motherfucker.

One daily affirmation you just want to fuck me you can't fuck me or be me you can never be me darling i know that's fucking right let's see so what how do you guys feel about safe digital space, i don't think we are there yet as a people but do you feel like you know one day we might get this i feel like just personally when i watch like anything that's lgbtq related i feel like more relaxed for some reason i don't have no idea why when i feel like when i listen to like

a gay voice like on a like on a youtube or like a podcast or something i don't know why but it like set something off in me and i kind of like relax it's weird i don't know i have your guards up I don't know why it doesn't, but it does. And I get like, I get in like normalized mode and it can like, it can almost like take me out of like a bad mood sometimes. It's weird. So weird. I noticed it. Okay.

So that's what you be listening. That's what you listen to. I listen to gay people or trans people or whatever. That's why you just listen to Queer LBC all day. Queer LBC all day. I gotta get those numbers up. I feel so safe.

So i think we're kind of there for some people for some highly traumatized people i don't know i feel like digital world is a lot more treacherous than reality because i think people are you hide behind anonymity so you can say whatever the fuck you want with no consequences and you don't have to see the person's reaction so i feel like digital world just feels a lot lot more unsafe for me you know especially like i i yes like i know queer forums exist and they're

real but sometimes the call is coming from within you know sometimes we're mean to ourselves and to the people in our community you know so like i i think i think what sometimes lacks from safe spaces or maybe maybe not lacks but there's an expectation that the safe space is going to be be a place where you don't get harmed and i think even like i love that idea but i don't think it's realistic because like people are people and sometimes they're

dicks and they're gonna cause harm you know even in a quote-unquote safe space so i think safe spaces also need like, conflict resolution and like like what is it like repair you know also right because not every bar is a safe space like i've been to a million bars where gay people will be like telling the straight people to get the fuck out. It's not safe for everybody. That's not very everybody. Or, like, where, yeah, like, people use gay slurs on each other inside of fucking

gay bars. Or, like, yeah. But, yeah, and I think in digital world, like, yeah, they have, like, moderators. But, like, I even think that's a flawed system. As far as, like, digital form aspect, I fuck no. Like, stay the fuck away from people. That's always my motto is become a hermit. No. Unless that's your safe space. In my show. Inside your show. but how would they ever know who you are just do only fans okay all right now.

So like yeah there's a lot and that's one thing i do like about long beach is that there are a lot of safe spaces yeah here that individuals can go to and hopefully if you're not in long beach and you're listening that you're able to google to find some of the safe spaces that you are welcomed at in your communities because sometimes you need to just even if you just go there and just sit down and just take a deep breath you know that at that moment in that time you are in a safe space one time

me and dr mikey both went to the lgbtq plus center and was at west hollywood it was for we went to go see the undocumented tales oh yeah the premiere the undocumented tales great series and it was just like basically it was like a mini like hollywood premiere like at the lgbtq plus center it was like red carpet step and repeat all that it was cool it's so funny though because like when i am in a space like that i also do kind of like i'm thinking in the back of my head so where's

the mass shooter gonna come and like wipe us all out right now so it's like yeah it's a safe space but it's still a little bit anxiety yeah especially with like what happened at pulse yeah and colorado the way things are and san diego no. So it's that in the back of my head. And then we went to go see Tela Azul play there also, I think was out there. The same spot.

Yeah. And it's kind of the same feeling. It's kind of like, it's cool being around like all these queer people and we're all just like in the chairs and it's like interesting to live in like a fake gay bubble or like a fake LGBTQ bubble.

And it's like every character here is LGBT.

There's no straights. so it's fun to like do that for like a minute and then you hear reality and be like oh okay yeah, you're like oh we don't live in rainbow land unfortunately i also fear it's like very feel it's very regional as well because like i feel like true here at the the bars in long beach like i feel more comfortable compared to like when i go to like we ho and even like those events you mentioned that we went to together like i don't know like i go to

those events and i don't know i just feel like like a baby gay for some reason i don't i don't know like it's just like a very odd feeling where i'm just like i don't think we're the same people you know like they just feel like i don't know like more mature or maybe i'm having a posture syndrome there's just something about like like those events we've been to where it wasn't quite like oh it can like decompress and relax you know go deeper i don't know because i feel like because that's

why i bring up regional because like those events were in west hollywood and i feel like west hollywood has like a reputation for being snobby yeah for being snobby so maybe that's my bias so how do you feel baby gay baby because i feel like everyone that goes to those events feels like they have like their this is probably my imposter syndrome showing like they have like their shit together and they're They're like, these vacations. They just feel like very adult.

And they feel like they know what they're doing in life. What was that other fucking LGBT event where we all went? What was that thing? Oh, the one here in Long Beach? The one in Long Beach. Yeah, for the Imperial Palace or Imperial Court. Yeah, Imperial Court. I mean, I'm not trying to offend anybody listening, but it does feel like everybody has an agenda. Like a personal agenda and they all have something that they're doing.

And that they're there for a reason or they have money that we don't have.

Or like they feel like they're important for some reason i don't know what it is they feel like they're like on some other like shit yeah i don't know i think it's like but to piggyback off what you said earlier it's probably like from within it's the call is coming from within because i didn't i didn't feel that way i didn't feel that way at the period at the at that event but i do understand like if you go into like the we ho and shit like you

just feel like you out you a fish out of the pond like what is going on yeah you know what i'm saying but yeah i it could be a regional thing as far as you know that but also i thought you were talking about like you know east coast west coast but in the midwest is where i did that you know naked man thing so that was was kind of progressive but also it was kind of sketch but it also happens oh but another safe space that was going to say that happened this previous weekend

which was like i even though it was a block it was a a feeling of nothing but queer love and happiness at the lone beach big Big Gay Takeover. Oh, yeah. So it was a lot of queer and gay vendors, supporters of safe spaces. Some of those businesses on that block are safe spaces owners.

Members but it was a good time but also i feel like what you said earlier is like then you realize that like okay this is not just like rainbows and clouds because i mean there were individuals that were straight there but also you just kind of realization like i didn't i continue to be myself but i can feel like some people may have like did you feel like it's like a straight event happening in a or a gay event happening in a straight world at that moment no because within those walls and.

Those barriers oh queer shit was going down you know i'm saying like you just felt the energy now granted now when you walked out the barriers yeah downtown long beach so but you know it was still queer friendly but no i didn't feel like that was it per se i feel like some people i've i tend to watch the crowd so i i did notice there were a lot of people who maybe have not been in a safe space who didn't know how to feel in a space where there are others like them to allow them to have

a good time you know what i'm saying an example so yeah so like if if there's everybody's dancing like and you see a person and they are just not a smile not moving not dancing the the dj was killing it and you know like maybe they were maybe it was social anxiety who knows but at that moment you can see that everybody around him the whole festival is having a good time but that person i don't know what it was but was face blah and a cable you know what I mean it makes sense,

but like you know you know what I'm saying so it was like something like that or some people maybe he just wasn't having a good time maybe it was just too queer for him who knows but. But, yeah, I've seen a lot of people that was doing that. And then also I've seen a lot of people having too much damn fun. Mm-hmm. Like, some of the straight, well, you know, some of the straights are probably having too much fun in our space.

What does that mean? Well, you know, like, I don't know. Because there's one guy, like, I think he was just, like, on drugs or some shit. And he might, I don't know what he's doing. Like, he was just dancing, but also just, like, fridging in with his backpack and shit. How did you know he was straight?

You're right. I assume. soon because i mean he was because he was weird i've been hanging around youtube long that's probably why like that's a weird motherfucker oh he would have to be straight but yeah like i think and i think he may have been on drugs because i've seen the police officer started eyeing him because he was doing a lot of fidgeting and shit and so then like the officer did ask him to you know step outside of the barriers of the festival and then

like he was still just like and then he like knocked over a fence and ran it was like so maybe he was on the cake maybe he was on the cake more than the other person but yes but that was a great event in long beach to feel in this and i feel like long beach do have a lot of safe space events regardless of it if it's lgbtq or not like this week they're going to be having hispanic heritage event i believe that's going to close down pine as well and so like that would be a safe space as well so

like it's just not just for lgbtq plus it's all for all all types all types of long beach residents and, should we should we allow the straights into the lgbtq, Should be L-G-B-T-Q-I-A-S. But they are in there. They the A. They the A-L-I. They the L-A. They the A-L-I. What the fuck? I'm identified as an ally. Ally.

Speak Valentino. I mean, you can be in our space, but, you know, the one issue I have, though, is that, it's straight men because you know women come into our dance clubs and then what happens is creepy guys come in chasing after the girls i've seen that at weho like all the time i remember when i started seeing that shit in abby like this was like back in like 2000 and fucking i don't know eight i would see like the one random

creepy guy and then i'd be like i would like be like oh Oh, what's the deal? And he's like, I'm straight and I'm looking for ladies. And then I would be like, I guess that's smart, I guess. And then I guess it just turned into a fucking thing. A whole thing. So, yeah, that doesn't make me feel safe. Oh, my fucking God. My fucking coworker told me fucking last week, have you been to Hamburger Mary's? And I'm like, shut the fuck. I told him, shut the fuck up and get the fuck away from me.

Have you been to Hamburger Mary's? I was like, Why are we It just goes to show you That like it is so Like You just assume he's straight huh No he is straight Bitch that's not the point of the story, What's the point The point of the story is that Hamburger Mary's Is so fucking not even like a safe space It is like literally Just like for straight people now That all the straight people know it, nice little introduction i want to say like straight people

meant drop hamburger marys to me like all the time and then they want to be like i know about the gay place wink wink nudge nudge hamburger marys ha ha ha every single page straight people does that to me i swear to fucking god i swear to god i've never got that you don't see that many fucking straight people that is true and they all say the same thing oh my god bought so many drinks i'm like no that did not happen and shut the fuck up every straight guy always says that that whenever they

go to gay bar all they do is get bought drinks and i'm like no that never happened i've seen it happen no. The gays be lusting no not these men not these men, they look like somebody uncle tony or something i'm like a straight woman would never hit on you bitch oh like that one y'all see that tiktok i know we're getting on subject real quick but she was like for all you this is a psa for all you straight men we don't want you and

if the gays don't want you what makes you think we want you nothing it was hilarious anyway safe space so is there anything else about safe spaces that you want to talk about, I mean cafes, the library the cafe on 3rd like what would that be gay friendly dog park. Yeah. What else? But yeah, a lot of these safe spaces are, at least on the well side of safe spaces of Long Beach, a lot of those places is not just bars. So there are business owners, salons, cafes, libraries, churches.

So there are a few that is without alcohol being involved.

Walled it's so hard to because i feel like when people say like that they want like a non-alcoholic safe space what we really are desiring is a non a safe space where we don't have to buy shit buy anything because if you go to any of those things those are all businesses right like even the gay coffee shop i gotta buy the fucking coffee the gay salon i gotta get my gay gay haircut what else you can go to church without a gay church without girl what churches are letting us in but you know

what i mean it's kind of right like it's all i mean because we also are known for though that passive wait how did what they call it the the income that just never stops passive income passive income since we don't have children was since that's the the narrative that That they put out there. You know what I'm saying? Like, oh, the gays, they have so much extra money. Expendable income. Right. I wish. For real though, shit.

Like, what else could we make that's like a gay space? I guess you can just, yeah, just make everything gay. Everything gay. Gay water park. But shit, everything costs. Everything costs. Ain't nothing in here free. And gays don't have no money. And shit, even if you wanted your house to be a safe space, you still got to pay rent. Keep the lights on. Somebody's got to be making that money. Making that money, honey.

Someone's got to keep those lights on. But yeah, there need to be more safe spaces. That's why all prides should be subsidized for gays. If you're gay, you should get in for free. Right. Give me a free concert, Kylie Minogue. Right? Shit. Is that it for safe spaces? Do you feel safe? I feel safe.

Adjacent i feel what if i need to have like a concealed weapon on me to feel safe can i come to the safe space make it safe still so it's illegal what if it's texas did they then you went in a safe state i mean do you gays in texas bring your concealed weapons into the gay bar, let us know in the comments do you truly feel safe if you have to have a concealed weapon on you Probably not Well, everybody, I think that was a good one From all of us here at the Queer LBC

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