From hanky codes, Polari, earrings, camp, gay voice, and all the tiny clues queer people have used to find each other in public; We’re unpacking why queer visibility has always existed somewhere between safety and recognition, and why so many femmes, nonbinary people, and straight-passing queers still feel painfully unclockable today. From secret codes to modern aesthetics, this episode asks what it means to look queer, be read correctly, and finally feel seen. Watch In The Closet: https://youtu...
May 28, 2026•1 hr 43 min•Ep. 149
The adult entertainment industry has a very dirty little secret: some of its most profitable fantasies are queer, but the people behind them often aren’t. We’re diving into the strange, censored, and scandalously political history of trans and sapphic adult media; from ancient lesbian imagery and underground screenings to the feminist s*x wars, On Our Backs , and trans creators reclaiming the lens. Maggie MacDonald, and Val Webber, we follow the money, the gaze, and the fantasies we inherited to...
May 14, 2026•1 hr 36 min•Ep. 148
A diva isn’t born, she’s labeled. And usually right when she stops behaving. We’re unpacking how a word that once meant goddess became shorthand for “too much,” and why powerful, sexual, opinionated women keep getting recast as problems instead of icons. From 1800s opera stages to anti-Nazi spies, civil rights legends, and the queer community that turned them into coded symbols of survival and rebellion. Because maybe being a diva isn’t the insult we were taught, it’s the whole point. Join Our P...
Apr 30, 2026•1 hr 27 min•Ep. 147
Being trans isn’t a trend… but the world sure panicked like it was. We’re diving into the science behind the transgender brain, the rise of the “social contagion” theory, and the messy history of sexology that started it all. Let's break down what research actually shows about gender identity and biology (and what it doesn’t), why this question is more dangerous than it seems, and how the answers could be used to both validate and weaponize trans existence. This one gets uncomfortable. Fast. Joi...
Apr 16, 2026•1 hr 42 min•Ep. 146
You think your dating choices are yours… but there's invisible rules shaping your sex, love, and identity. However, there is a disruption that queer, kinky, and non-monogamous people are leading, exposing amatonormativity, and the fantasy of desire that isn’t actually yours. To break down how to unlearn, rebuild, and finally choose yourself, we put Feeld’s new Reflections tool to the test; because self-discovery shouldn’t feel like homework. The script stopped working. Now what? Download FEELD: ...
Apr 02, 2026•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 145
The Church might be one of the gayest institutions in history and no one’s talking about it. We’re diving into the hidden queer and kinky world inside religious life. From lesbian nuns to closeted clergy, and how centuries of repression shaped it all. Connecting history, theory, and lived experience to ask: does religion suppress desire, or secretly create it? Because once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join...
Mar 26, 2026•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 144
Vox crowned 2025 the year of decentering men. But lesbians were doing it first. We’re unpacking whether “man-hating” is a dead-end, a coping mechanism, or a misread of a much older feminist strategy, with Olivia (aka Olisunvia). Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT OLIVIA: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@olisunvia Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/olisunvia/ Ti...
Feb 26, 2026•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 143
Studs aren’t a vibe, they’re a lineage. We’re unpacking the history, politics, and lived reality of Black masculine lesbians at the crossroads of race, gender, and desire. From the swagger and softness, Harlem Renaissance sapphics, stud vs butch, AGs, Stud4Stud discourse, toxic masculinity, and why Black masculinity plays by different rules. Joined by Elisabeth Clarke, Nadine Wiltshire, and Kiké, we dig into stereotypes, erasure, dating myths, and the radical tenderness at the core of stud ident...
Feb 12, 2026•1 hr 37 min•Ep. 142
The feral, gender-defiant life of a Canadian WWI veteran who ditched a wealthy upbringing, lived alone in the woods, enlisted three times, fought on the Serbian front as a man, got captured as a prisoner of war, fell in love in a prison camp, and spent decades confusing barbers and bureaucrats alike. We’re queering the Great War, unpacking gender outlaw survival, and asking the spicy question: early non-binary icon or radical dissident woman? Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective...
Jan 29, 2026•51 min•Ep. 141
Stone butch lesbians. Pillow princesses. An erotic dynamic that fits like a deviant little puzzle and has been wildly misunderstood ever since. Syd and Addy give us all the details from their own personal experiences, tackle myths and misconceptions, and get radically honest about desire, boundaries, and sexual alignment. Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT ADDY In...
Jan 15, 2026•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 140
We’re cracking open the secret, censored, and wildly creative history of lesbian sex. We’re digging through ancient poems, forbidden medical texts, barroom gossip, queer zines, and the techniques they definitely didn’t teach in sex ed. Tracing sapphic desire from Sappho’s bedroom to modern queer culture and exposing just how inventive lesbians have always been. Foxers: https://bekomando.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/e...
Dec 11, 2025•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 139
Every corner of queer TikTok is on fire. Hot takes, call-out wars, and “LGB without the T” chaos, and suddenly the biggest culture war isn’t left vs. right, it’s inside our own community. We’re diving into the history of queer infighting, from Stonewall splits to homonormativity, moral panics, tender-queer discourse, and why assimilation vs. liberation is the eternal gay cage match. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 4 months FREE Surfshark: https://surfshark.com/queercollective Vizzy Hard Seltzer: ht...
Nov 27, 2025•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 138
You’re bi (or gay), and honestly? You’ve got no idea what to do with your hands. We got you. Sex columnist Bobby Box and bi icon Mark Erenberg join us for a crash course in gay sex 101. From flirting with men and building confidence to actually being good in bed. We’re talking imposter syndrome, gay panic, and the do’s and don’ts of bottoming… all with a wink, a giggle, and a lube bottle. Think of it as your guide to queer pleasure, power, and sweaty first kisses. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 4 ...
Nov 13, 2025•1 hr 32 min•Ep. 137
Pansexuality: it’s not just bisexuality with extra glitter. We’re tracing its wild origins from the BDSM underground to the free love 70s to the nonbinary explosion of the 2010s, because this label has range. We’re unpacking the bi vs. pan debate, the pan pride flag’s secret meanings, and why pansexuality has always been the sexy rebel of the LGBTQ+ alphabet. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltze...
Oct 30, 2025•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 136
Do all lesbians think the same? We’re digging into the big three stereotypes. Emotional intensity, U-Hauling, and lesbian bed death, to see if Sapphics really do relationships differently. We’re breaking down where these tropes come from, what’s rooted in history, and what’s just straight-up lesbophobic myth. Joined by hopeless romantic & poet lesbian play boy poetry, we’re asking: are lesbians too intense, too fast, and too sexless, or just misunderstood? Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% of...
Sep 25, 2025•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 135
Sexuality isn’t static, it’s a shuffle. Sometimes you’re feeling super gay, sometimes a little straight, sometimes both at once, and that ebb and flow is what we’re calling the Bi-Cycle. We’re breaking down why attraction shifts over time, the label confusion that comes with it, and how to navigate relationships when your desires don’t sit still. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW JOE Instagram: https://www.instagr...
Sep 11, 2025•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 134
Is sleeping with your friends a queer love language or just lesbian chaos theory? We’re spilling on crushes, cuddle hookups, and why queers can’t stop blurring the friendship line. With Zhané and Syd, we talk jealousy, intimacy, ENM vs monogamy, and every messy “oops, I made out with my bestie” scenario. Gay disasters, incoming. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer...
Aug 28, 2025•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 133
Femininity: feared, fetishized, and slapped with a “no fems” dating bio. We’re pulling femmephobia apart with Ms. Myles and Danielle. From its colonial, patriarchal origin story to the high school boys who think they have to one-up each other in a contest to sound the most heterosexual. CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains mentions of SA. Please take care of yourself while listening, and feel free to skip to the next episode if it’s not the right time for you. Download FEELD: https://feeld.one...
Aug 14, 2025•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 132
From Oscar Wilde to JoJo Siwa, the word queer has been called a slur, a theory, an aesthetic, and a whole damn vibe. We’re diving deep into the messy, sexy, defiant legacy of queerness with icons Tyra Blizzard and King a.k.a DJ Soundboi. Why are so many ex-lesbians saying “I’m queer now”? Can cis-hets be queer? Is “queer” just bisexuality in a trench coat?? We’re reclaiming, unpacking, and stirring the pot. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: http...
Jul 31, 2025•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 131
What do electric shocks, shame sermons, and fake science have in common? They were all used to “pray the gay away.” We’re diving into the twisted world of conversion therapy with survivor and scholar Lucas Wilson. From evangelical trauma to the ex-gay movement’s most delulu masc villains, we’re unpacking the pseudoscience, propaganda, and lifelong scars of this deadly practice, and how survivors are reclaiming their stories. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW LUKE I...
Jul 17, 2025•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 130
Monogamy is optional. Hierarchies are fake. And ‘the one’ doesn't exist? We're diving headfirst into the world of Relationship Anarchy with queer academic and certified hottie Pat. From dismantling the dating rulebook to navigating multiple partners without losing your mind, this episode unpacks radical love, intimacy without ownership, and why friendship might just be the new forever. Queer Poverty Project: https://smuniversity.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3ZO1JLxkZZC5E46 Download FEELD: https://f...
Jul 03, 2025•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 129
Black masculinity is feared, fetishized, and fiercely policed; so what happens when queerness enters the chat? We’re talking masc performance as survival, straight Black men’s discomfort with queerness, and why traditional masculinity is flopping in 2025. With Haviah Mighty and DJ Blackcat, we’re queering the blueprint and dragging patriarchy by the lacefront. Queer Poverty Project: https://smuniversity.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3ZO1JLxkZZC5E46 Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer...
Jun 19, 2025•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 128
Gay dating can be messy. From hookup culture and emotional avoidance to Grindr’s racial hierarchy, we’re diving into the chaos with guests Darynel Weekly and Mango Lassi. We’re unpacking the trauma, the body standards, the “no fats no femmes,” and giving you tools to heal, find real connection, and maybe even enjoy the apps without losing your soul. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW HUMZA Instagram: https://www.in...
Jun 05, 2025•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 127
Think all lesbians are women? Think again. We're queering the label with trans and non-binary lesbians who are redefining what it means to love, resist, and rebel. From gender euphoria to TERF drama to navigating dating apps as a gender outlaw, this episode dives into the messy, sexy, revolutionary legacy of lesbianism. Featuring archival hot takes, community tension, and maybe even a little dyke drama. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://...
May 22, 2025•1 hr 46 min•Ep. 126
If you've ever been called “exotic,” or told you're one of the “good minorities” this one’s for you. We’re unpacking the fetishization of Asian bodies, the myth of the model minority, and the tension between queerness and cultural belonging. With personal stories from two badass artists, Charlotte and Ky, we explore femme fetish tropes, family pressure, and the art of de-centering whiteness, while staying hot and radical. VOTE FUNKYVERSE: https://cgtvote.votenow.tv/ Betterhelp: https://www.bette...
May 08, 2025•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 125
You were told sex is binary, XX or XY, case closed. But what if we told you that’s just redhead math? We’re unpacking the intersex experience with two brilliant guests: Noise (the intersex karaoke witch) and Bailey (trans, intersex, and hot). We’re diving into the science, the history, the surgeries, the shame and why “normal” is a scam. Expect gay giggles, medical rage, and radical joy. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW NOISE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/t...
Apr 24, 2025•58 min•Ep. 124
Betterhelp: betterhelp.com/COLLECTIVE Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Queer. Muslim. Rockstar. Activist. Urvah Khan is all of the above, and she’s here to spill the tea on holding identities the world says don’t mix. We’re talking queerness, faith, feminism, and the fight for liberation, plus why the West needs to stop acting like all Muslim women are oppressed. Urvah breaks down her personal journey, the power of community, and how she’s reclaiming the Azaan with a mic...
Apr 10, 2025•49 min•Ep. 123
Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off https://splashblanket.com/en-ca Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Losing your sapphic v-card? Terrified you’ll fumble the bag? We got you. This episode is your survival guide to sapphic sex, confidence, flirting, and ahem hands-on skills included. We’re joined by queer sex-ed pro Eva Bloom and sapphic dating expert Zhané to break down the do’s and don’ts of queer intimacy. From navigating your first time...
Mar 27, 2025•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 122
So, you wanna open up your relationship but don’t wanna crash and burn in a fiery mess of jealousy and regret? We got you. We’re joined by three queer, non-monogamous therapists from the Polyamory Therapy Collective to give you the ultimate survival guide to ENM—how to start the convo, avoid rookie mistakes, and actually enjoy the ride. We’re unpacking couples’ privilege, imposter syndrome, and why your gut is doing backflips every time your partner even mentions someone new. Whether you're non-...
Mar 13, 2025•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 121
What does it really mean to be a lesbian? Is it a vibe? A gender? A political stance? We’re diving headfirst into the evolution of lesbian identity—breaking down butch and femme history, masculinity, queerness, and what it truly means to de-center men (spoiler: it’s liberating). With three wildly different lesbians at the table - Haviah, Pkat, and Karbon - we’re serving history, academic drama, and personal hot takes. It’s intellectual, it’s unhinged, and it’s very, very gay. Buckle up, baby dyk...
Feb 27, 2025•1 hr 35 min•Ep. 120
