Once you realize how unreliable the mind is. 2 00:00:03,450.0000000002 --> 00:00:14,235 That's the way I describe to my clients "how unreliable is the mind and how reliable are you believing it to be?" and it will vary, so another one, I always loved this thing.
.0005 say someone really, really wants some cookies or some fries or some chips or something and they really, really want it. 4 00:00:20,415.0005 --> 00:00:23,445.0005 And the mind's been telling them that they need this and want this thing. 5 00:00:23,715.0005 --> 00:00:24,545.0005 So they have it. 6 00:00:25,285.0005 --> 00:00:28,155.0005 And two bites in, their mind goes, "...what 7 00:00:28,155.0005 --> 00:00:28,565.0005 are you doing.. 8 00:00:29,65.0005 --> 00:00:29,695.0005 Don't eat that.." 9 00:00:29,825.0005 --> 00:00:30,355.0005 That's bad for you. 10 00:00:30,845.0005 --> 00:00:31,595.0005 You're like, hang on. 11 00:00:31,825.0005 --> 00:00:36,625.0005 You 'mind' saying for the last hour that I should eat this. 12 00:00:36,765.0005 --> 00:00:41,594.9995 And now, two bites in, you mind are telling me I shouldn't be eating this. 13 00:00:42,135.0005 --> 00:00:46,615.0005 Yeah, we make it back about like a self thought, a self judgment. 14 00:00:46,625.0005 --> 00:00:51,724.9995 We don't see, oh, there's a stream of thinking that's a thousand percent contradictory all the time. 15 00:00:51,775.0005 --> 00:00:52,764.9995 It's not reliable. 16 00:00:52,875.0005 --> 00:00:54,735.0005 It just feels like what's wrong with me. 17 00:00:54,815.0005 --> 00:00:58,985.0005 I thought this and now I thought that, you know, I'm, I'm a real basket case. 18 00:00:58,995.0005 --> 00:01:02,355.0005 It's like another thought comes in to make it a problem with the me. 19 00:01:02,595.0005 --> 00:01:05,864.9995 And then isn't that convenient? Cause that keeps that thought stream going. 20 00:01:05,865.0005 --> 00:01:09,684.9995 Because if there's a problem with the me, I'm going to find a solution to this problem with the me. 21 00:01:10,64.9995 --> 00:01:16,684.9995 But what's funny though, isn't it? Is that when you're one or two years old, you're allowed to be really fickle and change your mind a lot. 22 00:01:17,894.9995 --> 00:01:21,134.9995 You're allowed to go from hating something to loving something in five seconds. 23 00:01:21,544.9995 --> 00:01:29,544.9975 Because that's what the mind does, it's so unreliable it just keeps changing its mind, doesn't it? Whether it wants to laugh or cry, blah, blah, blah, that's just the fluidity of what it is. 24 00:01:29,814.9985 --> 00:01:35,24.9985 But when we're older, we're like, no, no, no, you should have consistency of thinking and your mind should be reliable. 25 00:01:35,334.9985 --> 00:01:40,734.997 No!, it's still the same unreliable mind, we just believe it more the older we get, thing. 26 00:01:40,744.997 --> 00:01:50,779.998 After the age of 5 you should be able to have consistent thoughts that have a logic and a rationale to them, rather than us seeing, well, of course the mind's unreliable. 27 00:01:51,549.998 --> 00:01:54,539.998 And the other time we allow the mind to be unreliable is when we dream. 28 00:01:54,799.997 --> 00:01:58,759.998 So we're, most of us are okay with our dreams making no sense at all. 29 00:01:58,759.998 --> 00:02:01,829.998 We're like, that's the strangest dream. 30 00:02:01,829.998 --> 00:02:06,809.998 Last night I thought this, this, and then I thought this and there were time jumped a hundred years. 31 00:02:06,809.998 --> 00:02:08,939.998 And then the person who's actually dead came alive. 32 00:02:08,939.998 --> 00:02:16,869.998 And then I was 10 years old and then, and we're like, wasn't that funny? And we were allowed that to be okay 'cause we were asleep. 33 00:02:17,959.998 --> 00:02:19,339.998 The fact that the mind doing exactly the same. 34 00:02:19,339.998 --> 00:02:20,959.998 When we're awake, we don't like, no. 35 00:02:21,424.998 --> 00:02:27,324.998 It's totally that, that ownership bit, that bit where it ties back to like, these are 'my' thoughts. 36 00:02:27,904.998 --> 00:02:28,754.9975 I'm being fickle. 37 00:02:28,754.9975 --> 00:02:29,924.998 I'm all over the place. 38 00:02:30,124.997 --> 00:02:30,984.997 I'm illogical. 39 00:02:30,984.997 --> 00:02:31,874.997 That's not okay. 40 00:02:32,284.996 --> 00:02:37,84.997 When I, the I, apparent I there is a one year old, not so bad. 41 00:02:37,94.996 --> 00:02:44,754.997 When the apparent I there 50 year old sound asleep, fine, but when it's a 50 year old who's awake, that's not okay. 42 00:02:44,804.997 --> 00:02:47,434.997 that's such a good example for people to see. 43 00:02:48,154.997 --> 00:02:49,944.997 Thought's been doing the same thing forever. 44 00:02:50,454.997 --> 00:02:51,724.997 Because it's doing it asleep. 45 00:02:51,724.997 --> 00:02:52,884.997 It's doing it when you're one. 46 00:02:52,884.997 --> 00:02:54,174.997 It's doing it when you're 50. 47 00:02:54,404.997 --> 00:02:57,934.997 The only difference in that whole thread is the ownership of it. 48 00:02:57,984.997 --> 00:02:59,234.996 It's a self identification. 49 00:02:59,554.997 --> 00:03:00,134.997 It's a self piece. 50 00:03:00,384.997 --> 00:03:02,274.996 We don't self identify with our dreams. 51 00:03:02,374.997 --> 00:03:04,114.998 So it's a self identification. 52 00:03:04,114.998 --> 00:03:05,314.998 It's the ownership piece.