We discuss the role of sex during recovery from sexual addiction. We talk through if it's ok to withhold sex during recovery, how to increase emotional intimacy, how periods of abstinence can help your marriage, and more. RESOURCES LOVE MAPS CARDS by The Gottman Institute GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow ...
Aug 07, 2018•49 min•Ep. 57
We talk about our resources and groups available for young women, Behind the Mask. We discuss who the group is for and what the main message is behind the resource. We also talk through why having these groups for young women is so important, how to get groups started, how to develop leaders, and more. RESOURCES BEHIND THE MASK GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure ...
Jul 31, 2018•41 min•Ep. 56
We hear Paul Zunker's story of healing from sexual addiction. He talks through the depths of his addiction, the legal issues that it created, and what failed attempts he had made to break free from his addiction. He also shares when it all started to click, how he found freedom, and what life looks like now with freedom from his addiction. RESOURCES SEVEN PILLARS OF FREEDOM GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free...
Jul 24, 2018•36 min•Ep. 55
We talk through 6 healthy nightly routines and how they help in our overall health. We discuss device use, protecting your sleep, planning ahead, meditation, gratitude, and eating habits in regards to how they benefit our holistic health. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow us on X (Tw...
Jul 17, 2018•29 min•Ep. 54
We talk about creating healthy guardrails for maintaining sobriety from sexual addiction. We discuss why guardrails are important, what makes a healthy/unhealthy guardrail, and who should be involved in the creation or changing of our guardrails. RESOURCES 3 CIRCLES TOOL (RELAPSE PREVENTION) VALUES LIST GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIA...
Jul 10, 2018•44 min•Ep. 53
We talk through 8 tips for launching Pure Desire groups. We discuss the importance of sharing our story, establishing expectations and standards for groups, and the culture you create in groups. We also give practical tips on how to set your groups up for health and success. RESOURCES GROUP GUIDELINES MEMO OF UNDERSTANDING PARENTAL WEB RESOURCES GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consult...
Jul 03, 2018•34 min•Ep. 52
We discuss the situation where men and women find themselves in a crisis due to sexual addiction. We talk about first steps when a crisis occurs, what things to avoid, and how to help others in crisis. We also discuss the role of group members in crisis and the resources available to anyone in crisis. RESOURCES FIND A PURE DESIRE GROUP STORIES FOR MEN STORIES FOR WOMEN GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-M...
Jun 26, 2018•50 min•Ep. 51
We talk through more Frequently Asked Questions. The questions on today's episode cover topics like withholding sex during recovery, what is sexual health, what the healing journey from sexual addiction looks like, and more. Email your question to: [email protected] Use the subject line: PD PODCAST DM/Message us GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Onli...
Jun 19, 2018•48 min•Ep. 50
We give 5 tips on how to use the FASTER Scale tool. We discuss when to check the FASTER Scale, how to work it, when to talk through it, who to do it with, and it's role in life without Pure Desire Groups. RESOURCES FASTER SCALE TOOL FASTER SCALE EPISODE (PODCAST) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Ins...
Jun 12, 2018•32 min•Ep. 49
We talk about the theology of addiction. We discuss the biblically-based and clinically-informed approach that Pure Desire's takes on healing from sexual addiction. We identify where addiction is in the Bible, why "loving Jesus more" isn't the solution, and why confession isn't enough for true healing. We also talk through why identifying trauma and triggers are necessary for lasting freedom. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn...
Jun 05, 2018•57 min•Ep. 48
We hear Ernie and Jackie's story of healing and redemption of their marriage. They talk through their marital tension caused by Ernie's sexual addiction and how they began their healing journey. They also share with us how their relationships with each other and their community changed through the process of healing. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Onli...
May 29, 2018•45 min•Ep. 47
We discuss maintaining sobriety during the oftentimes difficult summer months. We talk about things to avoid, helpful guardrails, and how to maintain accountability during the summer. We also discuss the opportunities that the summer months possess for finding sexual integrity. RESOURCES FASTER SCALE COMMITMENT TO CHANGE GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire ...
May 22, 2018•41 min•Ep. 46
We talk to two of our Regional Group Leaders (RGL's) about the RGL volunteer position. We discuss what an RGL is, why they exist, and how they help churches with Pure Desire groups. We also talk through mistakes churches make when it comes to utilizing their RGL. RESOURCES FIND YOUR REGIONAL GROUP ADVISOR (RGA) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Gro...
May 15, 2018•34 min•Ep. 45
We talk about the reality of porn/sex addiction in pastoral ministry. We discuss best ways to admit there is a problem, how much pastors should share, and how a church should respond to an admission of addiction from their pastors. We also give encouragement on how to get help and how to best support your pastors in this arena. RESOURCES PURE DESIRE LEADERS (PDL) PROGRAM COUNSELING REQUEST FORM SEVEN PILLARS OF FREEDOM EIGHT PILLARS TO FREEDOM CONQUER SERIES GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Und...
May 08, 2018•51 min•Ep. 44
We talk through Pure Desire's Group Guidelines. We talk about the importance and reasoning behind each guideline. We also discuss some misconceptions about the group guidelines and some common ways we break guidelines. RESOURCES GROUP GUIDELINES MEMO OF UNDERSTANDING GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on...
May 01, 2018•50 min•Ep. 43
We talk through our Betrayal & Beyond (B&B) groups and group resources. We discuss why groups are needed for betrayed spouses and reasons why churches tend to not offer these groups. We talk about what it means to find healing from betrayal and how the Betrayal & Beyond group resource helps betrayed spouses on their journey to healing. RESOURCES BETRAYAL & BEYOND KIT COUNSELING REQUEST FORM GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Fre...
Apr 24, 2018•42 min•Ep. 42
We talk about common mistakes churches can make when addressing the topic of sexual addiction. We discuss the common approach that churches take when diving into this topic and the issues that it often times creates. We also talk about how to best start this ministry in your church in a way that is inviting and welcoming to people in all seasons of healing. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counse...
Apr 17, 2018•48 min•Ep. 41
We talk about family dynamics and how they play out in our daily lives. We discuss how to identify, address, and change the unhealthy dynamics in our families. We also talk through how discuss unhealthy dynamics in a beneficial way and what it looks like to create healthy dynamics in our families. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Fol...
Apr 10, 2018•50 min•Ep. 40
We talk about Love Addiction. We discuss how to identify if you are a love addict. We talk through why being a love addict is detrimental in life and how to address love addiction. We also give encouragements on how to find freedom from love addiction. RESOURCES LOVE ADDICTION EVALUATION SEXUAL ADDICTION SCREENING TEST (SAST) COUNSELING REQUEST FORM RECOVERY ACTION PLAN – ADDICT RECOVERY ACTION PLAN – SPOUSE 8 PILLARS TO FREEDOM 7 PILLARS OF FREEDOM GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understandin...
Apr 03, 2018•28 min•Ep. 39
We talk about Love Addiction. We talk through how it differs from sex addiction and also discuss causes and factors that cater to a love addiction. We also talk about if it is just a women's issue, or if men can struggle with it as well. RESOURCES LOVE ADDICTION EVALUATION SEXUAL ADDICTION SCREENING TEST (SAST) COUNSELING REQUEST FORM RECOVERY ACTION PLAN – ADDICT RECOVERY ACTION PLAN – SPOUSE 8 PILLARS TO FREEDOM 7 PILLARS OF FREEDOM GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trau...
Mar 27, 2018•28 min•Ep. 38
We talk through more Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ). The questions on today's episode cover topics like why masturbation is harmful, how to get buy-in for starting the Conquer Series, who can struggle with love addiction, when to pursue counseling, and more. Email your question to: [email protected] Use the subject line: PD PODCAST DM/Message us GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ...
Mar 20, 2018•45 min•Ep. 37
We talk about the reality and nature of having difficult group members. We discuss ways to avoid being a difficult group member and mistakes frequently made when dealing with difficult group members. We also talk through ways we've found success in handling difficult group members and what support is offered to group leaders. RESOURCES FIND YOUR REGIONAL GROUP LEADER GROUP REFERRAL FOR COUNSELING GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From ...
Mar 13, 2018•38 min•Ep. 36
We talk about our group Eight Pillars to Freedom. We discuss who the group is for and what the group time looks like. We discuss the differences between sex addiction and love addiction. We also give some tips on some do's and don'ts in an Eight Pillars group. RESOURCES SEXUAL ADDICTION SCREEN TEST (SAST) LOVE ADDICTION EVALUATION (LAE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Joi...
Mar 06, 2018•44 min•Ep. 35
We talk about the importance of healthy habits on the road to freedom from sexual addiction. We talk through what makes a habit healthy, how to implement lasting habits, and when a habit becomes another addiction. We also give personal examples of healthy habits that have worked in our lives. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow u...
Feb 27, 2018•39 min•Ep. 34
We talk to Ben Bennett and Jake Kissack about being single and battling sexual addiction. We discuss ways to educate and help young people address this issue, while also unpacking ways that married couples can encourage and support single friends and what resources are available for single people stuck in addiction. RESOURCESBOOKS: BEHIND THE MASK TOP GUN LIVING FREE WEBSITES: BEGGARS DAUGHTER BEN BENNETT’S WEBSITE BEN’S INSTAGRAM BLOG POSTS: WHAT YOUR SEXUAL FANTASIES (MIGHT) SAY ABOUT YOU by J...
Feb 20, 2018•26 min•Ep. 33
We talk to Ben Bennett and Jake Kissack about being single and battling sexual addiction. We talk through what it looks like to find sexual freedom as a single person and when it's ok to be in a relationship. We also talk about how to best reach the single demographic with the message of hope and freedom, and what resources are available for single people struggling with addiction. RESOURCESBOOKS: BEHIND THE MASK TOP GUN LIVING FREE WEBSITES: BEGGARS DAUGHTER BEN BENNETT’S WEBSITE BEN’S INSTAGRA...
Feb 13, 2018•37 min•Ep. 32
We talk about our event called Pure Desire University (PD-U). We discuss what the PD-U is and who can attend these conferences. We also talk about what churches will benefit from hosting or attending a PD-U. We talk through how to host or attend a PD-U and why we encourage churches to pursue a PD-U. RESOURCES Interested in hosting an event: [email protected] GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute C...
Feb 06, 2018•34 min•Ep. 31
We talk to Ben Bennett about his resource for college-aged men, Living Free. We talk about how the resource came about and what is at the core of its message. We also discuss why reaching the younger generations with freedom is so important and the benefits this freedom brings the church. RESOURCES LIVING FREE KIT GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online ...
Jan 30, 2018•40 min•Ep. 30
We talk to the CEO of KingdomWorks Studios, Jeremy Wiles, about their 10-week cinematic study on sexual addiction called the Conquer Series. We talk about the backstory/history of the Conquer Series and Dr. Ted's involvement in the project. We discuss how the Conquer Series works and what it does. We also discuss the new rollout of Conquer Series 2.0 and all the updated/new tools added. RESOURCES CONQUER SERIES KIT GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Ste...
Jan 23, 2018•35 min•Ep. 29
We talk through more Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ). The questions on today's episode cover topics like handling relapse in group leadership, who can/should watch the Conquer Series, timeline of full disclosure, healthy habits for engaged couple preparing for sexuality in marriage, and more. Submit your questions for future FAQ episodes: Email your question to: [email protected] Use the subject line: PD PODCAST DM/Message us GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma ...
Jan 16, 2018•48 min•Ep. 28
