We've all done it -- looked for an expert, or a highly recommended source, or a certain book, or a guru, or a technique, to find the answers to our deepest questions. No matter how hard we look, we end up still confused or uncertain. For many, the search goes on for a lifetime. Looking outside of ourselves for understanding will never lead us to peace and certainty. The Principles explain that we are born with everything we are looking for. Divine Mind, Consciousness, and Thought, the pure energ...
Sep 02, 2023•32 min•Ep. 135
The Principle of Thought describes the absolute power every individual has to create their own experience of life. We do not experience anything we have not thought, whether it's a memory, a fear, a desire, a pain, a recognition, a profound insight. Until it enters our mind as a thought, it has not happened for us. The good news is we have free will, and we can allow thoughts to pass, think again, look into quietude for new thoughts, turn old thoughts over and over in our mind, dwell on painful ...
Aug 19, 2023•30 min•Ep. 134
A misunderstanding that arises from talk about the Principles is the idea of "listening for a feeling" or "following your feelings." When we create thoughts, images in our mind, Consciousness allows us to recognize our thoughts and to understand whether they are helpful. Our feelings provide feedback. When our thoughts are producing negative feelings, that tells us it is time to quiet down, clear our heads, take a break from our personal thinking. When our thoughts are producing positive feeling...
Aug 12, 2023•26 min•Ep. 133
Often our clients bring up some version of, "I understand what you're talking about, but knowing it just isn't helping me." The Principles are not about "what," but about "how" life works, and SEEING what it truly means that we are the thinkers always creating our own experience. What "works" is listening for the feeling behind the words, allowing your own habitual personal thinking to quiet, so that insights can arise within you. We are pointing towards the inner spiritual nature of life, and d...
Aug 05, 2023•34 min•Ep. 132
Memories are stored thoughts, like all information we have accumulated. They have no "power" until we focus on them. Otherwise, they are like books we've already read on the shelf, unimportant unless we take them down and start reading again. They have "invisible" power only because, when they come to mind, Consciousness brings them to life and we re-experience them. If they are good memories, we call that reminiscing. If they are painful memories, we call it suffering. But no matter, memories a...
Jul 22, 2023•25 min•Ep. 131
We often encourage our clients to "reflect" rather than "think about" or "figure out" life situations. Reflection is a quiet mind in a peaceful feeling; it is when we turn off the spigot of our personal thinking and listen for the natural flow of the stream of wisdom. Wisdom comes to us directly from the unknown, before thought, and it is our source of guidance, insight, fresh ideas, and just common sense. Wisdom informs the intellect but the intellect has nothing to offer wisdom. When our minds...
Jul 15, 2023•31 min•Ep. 130
When we talk about living a happy life, we are not talking about living in denial of the facts of life events, we are not describing a life miraculously free of trouble, we are not suggesting a strategy of avoidance. Happiness is a deep feeling of well-being, of confidence in our moment-to-moment access to the guidance of wisdom and insight, of faith that we have all our resources to address life issues available from a quiet and content mind. Happiness shines from people; we are all drawn to pe...
Jul 08, 2023•33 min•Ep. 129
Unlike other therapy approaches, The Three Principles has one primary goal for therapy: Happiness. While that seems counterintuitive to people who seek therapy to address problems or resolve issues, it is the expression of the profound truth of the Principles: Before the formation of thought, we come into the world at peace and content and living from wisdom. As our intellect gathers memories, we have the free will to look for answers there and to try to figure things out. But the intellect only...
Jun 30, 2023•30 min•Ep. 128
Continuing on our last podcast, since we are not analyzing what is wrong or problem-solving with clients, what DO we do? Although every 3P practitioner works from their own wisdom in the moment, and there are no "techniques" or "processes," all of us listen as deeply as we can to clients until we "hear" their mental health in their stories and "see" where to enter to address the nature of thought. We know that everyone, before they become engaged with the content of their personal thinking, is p...
Jun 18, 2023•32 min•Ep. 127
Traditional psychologies diagnose what's wrong with clients and help them "fix" issues. To us, that does not lead clients to a deeper understanding from which they can access their spiritual power to think, and to recognize our shared origin from the intelligent, formless energy of life, the source of wisdom. We point to the deep feelings of peace and security that arise from touching our spiritual essence and trusting wisdom to guide us through life. Our intellect, our personal thinking, then b...
Jun 09, 2023•32 min•Ep. 126
Clients often say, "OK, I understand the Principles: Mind, Consciousness and Thought. We create our own thinking and then see it as real via Consciousness because of the formless power of Mind. But I still don't feel any better." The Principles are words, metaphors that explain the logic of how human beings come to experience reality. "Learning" that intellectually does not in any way change people's experience. UNDERSTANDING the Principles at work arises from finding the deeply spiritual feelin...
Jun 03, 2023•33 min•Ep. 125
For 50 years, since Sydney Banks first shared his profound insight into how the intelligent energy of creation manifests in human beings as the power to think, to create our unique experience of life, some people have called us a cult. Mr. Banks spent his life telling people not to be followers, but to find their wisdom and insight to guide them through life. He shared what he saw about the innate health within all people. He refused to give advice, and avoided any situation in which people trie...
May 27, 2023•29 min•Ep. 124
"What do you mean by 'change is one thought away'?" people often ask us. "Isn't change a hard, long process of working through stuff?" As we come to understand the inside-out nature of thought, how our thoughts create the moment-to-moment reality we experience, we recognize that change occurs when we realize something we didn't know before. For example, in 3 Principles work, many people's lives changed completely as soon as they realized their feelings were a reliable guide to the quality of the...
May 13, 2023•28 min•Ep. 123
Those who have spent their lives accumulating knowledge and working hard to figure things out have, without realizing it, gotten lost in the Memory Library. Our personal thinking, a product of active, busy minds, lives there. It can only work with already-thought thoughts, what we already know, which is why we get frustrated going over and over the same problems with no new solutions, or asking the same questions, with no new answers. Inspiration, insight, fresh ideas, aha! moments all come to u...
May 06, 2023•29 min•Ep. 122
Many people mistake excitement, high-energy, cheerfulness as "the positive feelings" we talk about in the Three Principles. They assume that having a good time, being temporarily happy, is the desirable state. The Feeling we point to is deep peace of mind, a sense of connection to the moment and to the universe, a feeling that generates quietude, appreciation, love, and contentment, regardless of circumstances. From this feeling, we find faith in wisdom, always accessible but not always accessed...
Apr 22, 2023•31 min•Ep. 121
Psychology is traditionally focused on solving problems. Right now, there is a focus on working through past traumas. We say that when you dredge up the past, you get trapped in something that cannot change. Every time you think about it, you relive it, but you can't make it turn out differently. With the 3P perspective, a Wisdom-Focused approach, we help people see we all create life from the inside-out via Mind, Consciousness, and Thought, and explain that all people have innate Wisdom, availa...
Apr 15, 2023•34 min•Ep. 120
We all have in common that we emerge into life from the power of Divine Mind, Thought, and Consciousness and we use that power to create our experience. Every single one of us uses it differently, and builds their own unique personal thought system. Even after we see that finding peace of mind and access to wisdom to guide us through life is the path to happiness and contentment, we still stumble into our own entrenched "realities." Knowing ourselves means being "onto" our long-held habits of th...
Apr 08, 2023•30 min•Ep. 119
In traditional psychology, practitioners often see "resistance" in clients. Resistance, from the standpoint of the Principles, is really hopelessness. People lose hope that they have innate mental well-being, that they always have access to their own wisdom, that they are born with the gift of creating their own reality, and that peace of mind is always within them, even though they can obscure it indefinitely with personal thinking. As we get trapped in our intellect, which only knows the past,...
Apr 01, 2023•28 min•Ep. 118
It's easy to get addicted to troubled thinking because our worst moments, or our most negative thoughts look and feel more significant to us than ordinary everyday thoughts. We get frightened, embarrassed, discouraged, upset, angry, etc. about them. In other words, they bring us bad feelings. Bad feelings get our attention. They're supposed to. They tell us we're overthinking, stuck in the past, using our memory to try to figure out what we don't know. When we find our minds racing and our feeli...
Mar 18, 2023•30 min•Ep. 117
Once we begin to notice how the power of thinking works and how we change as our understanding deepens, it becomes a thrilling lifetime learning experience to experience new insights and keep growing and changing. We are taught early on that "figuring out" is the way to learn, but very few people are taught that insight is the way to grow and find deeper and deeper peace and contentment. We learn facts that are already known from our intellect. But insight brings us fresh and deeper understandin...
Mar 04, 2023•29 min•Ep. 116
Parenting becomes challenging as children grow and develop their own thinking and start experiencing their own moods and reactions. It helps to remember that children are all individuals, with the same access to wisdom and mental well-being as grownups, and with the same free will and free thought to develop their own way of seeing life. It takes love and understanding, and not taking things personally, to help children bring out the best in themselves, and learn to use their feelings as baromet...
Feb 25, 2023•32 min•Ep. 115
Sexual abuse is a horrible experience for people of any age or gender, and often generates feelings of shame, fear of being damaged, unwillingness to seek help, hesitancy about any relationships. No trauma, not even the worst personal trauma, can break our innate well-being, which is a spiritual truth, formless and invincible. Only the way we think about trauma over time can obscure our natural well-being and get in the way of healing and feeling safe in the world. The spiritual energy of creati...
Feb 17, 2023•32 min•Ep. 114
This is part two of our discussion of brain disorders, focused on the common issue of ADHD. Many people struggle with ADHD, and how to "manage" life tasks with it. First, there are good medicines available that slow down thinking, and there is no shame in taking them appropriately. Second, over time, we have come to recognize more and more that those with ADHD use the gift of thought differently, and often to their own advantage, once they understand it and come to understand how thought works a...
Feb 10, 2023•30 min•Ep. 113
What people call "disorders of the brain" are a major source of distress for many people, handling their own different ways of thinking or trying to help their family members handle theirs. Autism, ADHD, and other Disorders of the Brain do not doom people to less than satisfactory lives at all, but they do frighten people and those around them who are baffled why they don't see the world the way most people do. Mind and the brain are not the same. The power to think is universal. Reactions to ou...
Feb 04, 2023•31 min•Ep. 112
When people hear the word "impersonal," they often think "indifferent," "unconcerned." As we use the word, it means "not personal" -- not taking things personally, not getting lost in our own personal thinking, not focused on ourselves, not caught up in our insecure, ego-thinking. That means not wondering how we're doing, what people think of us, whether we look good enough, how to prove ourselves. That means not judging ourselves, not comparing ourselves to others, not feeling bad about ourselv...
Jan 20, 2023•30 min•Ep. 111
It often confuses people to hear the expression "Listen for a Feeling." Listening is deeper than simply hearing sounds with our ears; when we truly listen, our minds are free of personal thinking; we are present; we experience the moment fully; we KNOW beyond the words we hear. That is the feeling state in which we feel connected to life, we feel at peace and in touch. We are neutral and non-judgmental. Then we can truly KNOW the feeling state of others around us. This feeling has nothing to do ...
Jan 14, 2023•29 min•Ep. 110
Many people think their body is independent of their Mind and is providing new information, beyond Thought. The Principles describe the universal, formless, creative energy behind everything. That energy is constant and infinite. In human beings, it enters the world of form through our creation of personal thoughts, which then inform the sensory system and create our feelings -- how we experience life. Our bodies are after the fact of the creation of Thought. So stored thoughts, such as memories...
Jan 07, 2023•30 min•Ep. 109
Overthinking is our memories running the show to keep us going in circles around everything we already know, hoping we'll find new answers or resolution to a perceived problem. We are the thinkers, with the capacity to access our memory when it's useful, but, most importantly, with the capacity to turn our back on circular thinking and allow space for wisdom, insights, fresh ideas to come into a quiet mind. Our wisdom is always there, like the pilot light on a stove. It isn't always visible, but...
Jan 01, 2023•28 min•Ep. 108
The universal energy of creation finds expression in human beings through our ability to think and experience our thinking. It moves from perfect formlessness into the forms we create via thoughts. We "see" thoughts come to life as our personal reality. We remember our thoughts, which become our personal "library." But each moment is a moment in which we choose to recall and reconsider memories or bring fresh thoughts from formless energy to form, so every moment offers the possibility of a fres...
Dec 23, 2022•28 min•Ep. 107
People who innocently spend most of their time in negative thinking, feeling unworthy and anxious about relationships, often dwell in wishful thinking that someone will love them and "fix" their sadness. We all tend to connect with people who share our prevailing state of mind, however, so insecure people end up in relationship after relationship with people who are just like them, caught in a loop of negativity. When we understand how and why our understanding of our power to think allows us to...
Dec 17, 2022•29 min•Ep. 106
