Setting healthy boundaries can be challenging, whether it is with someone you love or someone you dislike. Sticking with your boundaries once you set them, is also difficult. Relationship expert Nedra Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, has the insight and tools you need to set boundaries so that you can thrive. In this episode, Diana and Nedra discuss strategies to overcome barriers to boundary setting so that you can set boundaries and find peace today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Ji...
Feb 24, 2021•54 min•Ep. 186
Being an ally in the workplace involves a willingness and personal commitment to take action in pursuit of justice and equality for the disenfranchised. Too often, the burden of attaining equality is placed on marginalized individuals. A good ally takes on that burden instead. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill is joined by Brad Johnson and David Smith, co-authors of Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the ...
Feb 17, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 185
Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. But this holiday can be challenging for anyone that’s been stung in their relationships. And it's especially difficult for individuals who’ve experienced an affair or other significant relationship betrayal. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon, co-author of Getting Past the Affair and Helping Couples Get Past the Affair, discuss affairs, major relationship betrayals, and how you CAN (contrary to a common cu...
Feb 10, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 184
Emotional Intelligence is not really about feeling better but, rather, it’s about getting better at feeling. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Dr. Marc Brackett, founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of Permission to Feel, discuss practical skills you can use to better understand your emotions, and respond to them effectively. Emotional intelligence is often neglected in pursuit of what some refer to as “rational thinking.” However, e...
Feb 03, 2021•57 min•Ep. 183
There's a common belief that to be more successful we need more resources — that we should earn more money, acquire more resources, accomplish more, spend more time, and expand our network of people. But when we focus on chasing down additional resources rather than using those already at our disposal, we are rarely satisfied with our work, and may in fact be less successful in the long run. Instead, could it be possible to do more with less? In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock...
Jan 27, 2021•57 min•Ep. 182
In today’s world, it’s easy to stay on-the-go. Sometimes, on-the-go behaviors are necessary and functional. But often we engage in these behaviors to avoid discomfort. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill and Matt Boone, co-author of Stop Avoiding Stuff, discuss avoidant behavior and how to address it with skills from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Make a committed action and join us in this episode to learn more about what you might be avoiding and how to respond instead! Li...
Jan 20, 2021•56 min•Ep. 181
It’s only the second week of the New Year, and many of us have already failed at (or given up on) achieving our New Year’s Resolutions. We often rely on sheer willpower to achieve these types of goals. However, willpower simply isn’t enough. On this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and Benjamin Schoendorff, co-author of The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion, discuss the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) matri...
Jan 13, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 180
Attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. These five words (Richo's "Five A’s") are necessary ingredients to any healthy relationship, but many of us don’t start off with them in our relationship pantry. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, co-host Yael is joined by Dr. Dave Richo, author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving. Join us as Yael and Dave discuss the power of the Five A’s. You'll learn how fulfilling these needs affect...
Jan 06, 2021•55 min•Ep. 179
Ending a tumultuous year like 2020 calls for slowing down and reflecting. In this episode, Diana and Debbie take a pause to answer some end of year questions. Then they share their hopes for the New Year. Afterwards, Diana chats with Dr. Stephan Rechtschaffen who is the author of Timeshifting. He is a co-founder of the Omega Institute and Blue Spirit Costa Rica. During the conversation, we explore slowing down, finding intention, and trusting the process. Happy holidays and blessings for a healt...
Dec 30, 2020•53 min•Ep. 178
We humans are pretty good at learning from experience, and it turns out, it’s not all in our heads — it’s in our bodies too! In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Rebekkah LaDyne explains how both our minds and our bodies learn from stressful experiences. Rebekkah talks with our co-host, Debbie, about how undersupported, overwhelming, and unwanted life events can dictate how we respond to future stress and overwhelm. The learning that takes place in those events can get in the w...
Dec 23, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 177
For far too long, women have been held responsible for completing an unfair share of work (especially invisible labor) at home. Even if a woman works a full-time job outside of the home, she is often also expected to complete the majority of domestic and emotional labor. What’s to be done about all the “invisible work” women do to keep partnerships afloat? In today’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do...
Dec 16, 2020•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 176
Sleep is a hot topic right now, and many health experts argue your sleep is as important as eating well and exercising for your mental and physical health. Sleep medicine research has advanced a lot, and there is new information about what it is and why we do it, and strategies that work for insomnia. We can all rest easy because in this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, co-host Diana is joined by one of the top experts -- Dr. Rafael Pelayo from Stanford Health Care Sleep Medicine Center. ...
Dec 09, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 153
Working parenthood is hard, and even the most Instagram-perfect parents and professionals have their fair share of tears, overwhelm, guilt, and anxiety. Though there are no simple solutions, learning how to work and parent more mindfully can help you build greater success and have more joy. Join our conversation with Lori Mihalich-Levin, author of Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave, founder of Mindful Return, and Working Mother Magazine's “wor...
Dec 02, 2020•57 min•Ep. 174
In his TEDx talk, Michael Herold, public speaker, confidence coach, and podcaster extraordinaire, says, “Things you will achieve in your life, you will achieve because of your disability, not in spite of it.” In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Michael talks with Debbie and Yael about confidence, self-doubt, and overcoming limitations. Limitations are all around us. These might be thoughts about how unqualified we are, feelings of anxiety, or even physical disabilities such as...
Nov 25, 2020•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 173
Performance pressure is pushing down on us and Queen was right - that pressure is terrifying! In this Psychologists Off the Clock podcast episode, Yael speaks with Dr. Sian Beilock, an expert on performance and brain science, and author of Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to. Listen in to hear Sian's insights and about her research into how our experiences, neurology, emotions, and thoughts interact to both foster and stump our ability to perform u...
Nov 17, 2020•53 min•Ep. 172
Compassion is not a passive process, but an active one. It means being aware that someone (including you) is suffering and moving toward that suffering so that you can offer help. Compassion takes courage, wisdom, and strength. And, we can build more compassionate minds with practice. In this episode, Diana talks with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch about Compassion Focused Therapy, how they apply the principles of compassion to their family and in their work as founders and director of...
Nov 11, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 171
Join Diana for a short but sweet Soothing Rhythm Breathing break! Soothing Rhythm Breathing is an exercise from Compassion Focused Therapy. It is particularly helpful when you feel anxiety, anger, or other emotional dysregulation. Soothing Rhythm Breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, increases heart rate variability, and activates the Parasympathetic Nervous System. Soothing Rhythm Breathing shifts your body/brain systems from drive and threat toward safeness and compassion. 131. COVID-19 Anxiet...
Nov 05, 2020•11 min•Ep. 170
Microaggressions. These small, often unintentional acts of racism are probably affecting you more than you know! In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Monnica Williams, author of Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces and co-author of Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings, and our co-host Debbie discuss microaggressions in therapy spaces, race-based mental health disparities, and racial...
Oct 28, 2020•57 min•Ep. 169
A great wizard once said, “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it." Humans are social animals who thrive on effective communication. However, each of us has a different communication style, and sometimes, differences in those communication styles inflict injury. In today’s world, where communication looks very different than it used to, understanding differences in communication styles and learning to re...
Oct 21, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 168
We all have unhelpful habits, and whether you overeat, use substances, or worry, you may have noticed these habits have gotten worse lately. In this episode, Diana joins Dr. Judson Brewer (Dr. Jud), neuroscientist and author of The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits, for a fascinating conversation about why stress makes our habits and addictions worse. Additionally, they talk about what’s happening in your brain when you’re ca...
Oct 14, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 167
Dr. Seuss told us, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.” But what do you do when you’re in charge of many brains in many heads? What happens when you’re in charge of steering many feet (some of which have tiny shoes) traveling in many different directions? Is there any room left to choose? In this week’s episode, Sarah Argenal, author of The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Bur...
Oct 08, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 198
How you talk informs who you are, who you group up with, and how you perceive others. But while language is a profoundly powerful influencer of how we engage in the social world, we seldom acknowledge its impact on social injustice. In this episode, Yael talks with professor and psychologist Katherine Kinzler about the role of language and accent in prejudice, empathy, identity, morality, and ingroup/outgroup formation. In Katherine’s book, How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It...
Sep 30, 2020•51 min•Ep. 165
If you are experiencing Pandemic Stress, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help! This is a stressful time for most of us; the mental health aftermath of a pandemic is sometimes called a "second pandemic" because of the rise of depression, anxiety, and PTSD. And in addition to fear of the coronavirus itself, we are currently facing other major, global stressors like climate change, forest fires, systemic racism, economic uncertainty, and political divisiveness. No wonder so many of us a...
Sep 22, 2020•59 min•Ep. 164
Women are told to be nice, but not too nice. Be successful, but not too successful. Just be likeable. Join Jill for her interview with award-winning journalist and author of the book The Likeability Trap, Alicia Menendez, as they examine the impossible bind women find themselves in: to succeed, women must be competent and likeable; but the more women are seen as competent, and the more they achieve, the less likeable they become. Alicia discusses how women can let go of old rules and reimagine l...
Sep 17, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 163
In this episode, Diana interviews Dr. Karen Suyemoto, the chair of the APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology. Race and culture are present in all of our interactions. As mental health professionals, it is our ethical responsibility to understand the ways in which race and ethnicity impact us personally, our interactions with clients, and the communities we serve. Everyone is also caught in the system of racism and oppression. It is our responsibility as mental health providers to st...
Sep 11, 2020•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 162
Modern parenting is high stakes, leaving parents terrified of failure in their parenting and in their children. But it turns out that the overprotective behaviors driven by our fears undermine our children’s—and our own—successes throughout life. Join Yael for a conversation with best-selling author, teacher, podcaster, and parent Jessica Lahey for a thought-provoking conversation about how parents can learn to relate to failure differently for themselves and their children. And why we should. L...
Sep 02, 2020•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 161
Parenting is stressful right now. This is because we are educating our kids at home while juggling work with limited childcare. We are also navigating difficult, important conversations about racism, the pandemic, and world events. How can we regain our sanity and parent in a way that is meaningful? Join us for a conversation with Jen Lumanlan, a child development expert and podcast host from Your Parenting Mojo. During this episode, we explore homeschooling, pandemic pods, and socially just par...
Aug 30, 2020•57 min•Ep. 160
Pandemic, online school, social distancing, climate change… this is an especially difficult time for adolescents, who are already in a transitional time of life. Dr. Louise Hayes is one of the world’s foremost experts on using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Adolescents. She joins us on the podcast for the second time, to talk about her new book for adolescents, and share her thoughts on helping adolescents cope with today’s challenges. Listen and Learn The unique challenges of the pandem...
Aug 26, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 159
In this episode, Jill speaks with Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and best-selling New York Times author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, about her smash hit book and the art and heart of therapy. Join their intimate discussion about ultracrepidarianism (one of Lori’s favorite words!), vulnerability, breaking therapy rules, reducing mental health stigma, and more! About Lori Gottlieb: Lori Gottlieb Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and author of the New York Times Bestseller Maybe You Should...
Aug 19, 2020•50 min•Ep. 158
Our culture shies away from talking about death. But Katy Butler, author of The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life, argues we have an obligation to think about what constitutes a well-supported death. In this episode, Yael embarks on a thought-provoking, important, and timely conversation with Katy. In their discussion, Katy shares ways we can honor the death process relationally, practically, medically, emotionally, and spiritually, both for ourselves and those we love. ...
Aug 12, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 157
