Pay forward your knowledge to empower others with Tory Archbold, Nicola Dale and Di Edwards

Hello, I'm torri Archbold. For two decades, I've nurtured the world's top performing retail brands and celebrities. Now I'm asking entrepreneurs, CEOs and influencers to share their own secrets to success. They're high as their lows, the game changing moments, and how they got to where they are today. It's a podcast equivalent of opening the best Little Black Book of

Talk about stories, Yes, story, We have got the Queen of stories herself. We have got torri Archbold at our back fence. And a little bit about Tory. She's an absolute dynamo.

And I'll tell you what.

My heart is happy because she's the Queen of Happy Hats too, started her own business at the age of twenty four and now she's the founder of Powerful Steps, which is an online community and platform for women making global impact. And she can just women to own this story, step into their power and take careers to the next level.

Who stories, talk about stories, powerful stories, and we want to hear your story, Tories, So welcome to the Batory.

Tory. I that that's very Catchyer, it's so catchy. Do you know what I was growing up? Everyone was like, Tory, Tory, tell me a story, and who knew I'd have a power company that I just thought of that.

We're welcome.

I just have to first show you my notes that it's number twenty four. If anyone gets to see this part of our body that Mike, I lost my glasses, so I was laughing my head off this morning printing twenty four to se. So anyway I can read without glasses while I'm talking to which is pretty amazing. And so I know I'm going to throw this out. It's like you're going to shoot a rocket over to you. Zero to hero with self belief tell us about that one.

Well, I'm sure that you have both experienced this as well. I feel like at some point in our lives we reach rock bottom. But rock bottom is actually where you want to be, because then you can go sky high. So my journey began when I was in my early twenties and really no one believed in me. I mean, I was a terrible student at school. I was definitely the talker, the disruptor, the one that was always sent outside dio. What I recognized was it was actually my superpower.

Sna you too. So sorry. Some people think we're doing something else work, we're laughing, we're laughing.

We're definitely laughing. And so self belief struck me at a really young age because I reckoned that when no one else was going to believe in my pathway, that I had the choice that I could believe in myself.

Was that your I did coffee dating or well?

My dad always said to me everyone loves a long lunch in Australia, and of course they do overseas as well, and in those days that's how you basically did business. But I didn't have the money to take people to lunch and drink you know, bottles of Ballinger as you see on ab fab. So it was like, find a really good coffee shot where you're going to be seen, you're going to be heard, ask people for coffee, and really build a sense of community and a business purpose

Oh, every week you listening to it, let's just can we just repeat that one that was someone possibly with that you can partner with.

Well, yeah, the second one is someone you want to partner, we.

Partner with us in relationship, well business.

Business relationship like partnership.

And then and the friendship was the first.

One tribe community, so someone in. And then the third one is someone completely outside your comfort zone. That was the intention, but that's the framework that actually launched my business, because.

When framework isn't it my second.

Business as well? And I truly believe like a lot of rejection came from those coffee dates. I don't want to just say it was all glossy, because the idea was, you know, I want to start a brand communications agency. I want to attract the world's top performing brands, celebrities and influencers. And of course there are a whole lot

And I just asked you there, where did you get your confidence at the age of twenty four to do this? Was it with your dad backing behind you? Was it from already life experience for traveling and you had.

That behind you self?

Belated Yeah, because you know, I'm guessing you hadn't hit rock bottom at that stage, but you had that confidence, so a lot of kids don't so necessari people that kids between twenties. Yes, So where did you think that came from?

And it just came from the fact that I knew that I could create something. And just because someone says no, it doesn't mean that you have to say no. You can say yes. So I just started saying yes. Some

But how many times when you were rejected you'd you go, maybe they're right, because it's only human nature at times to say or feel yeah, or think, of.

Course, do you know what? If I counted, we'd be here all day. So I really think that you've just got to push that aside and go what is it that I want. I don't have any competition, None of us have any competition. It's about staying in your own lane and owning what you want to do and just going for it.

And that is clear vision, clevision, and passion.

Clear intent, and also anchor everything to your value. So throughout my my entire career has been based on three so passion, creating and building brands, and now creating and building powerful brands for women. Yes, integrity because I don't like assholes, who does, honestly? And the third one is delivery. You'r own these God, is this podcast child? Or paying for you knowledge to someone else? And so through passion, integrity delivery, what you do is you get a golden

And I think that was us for the podcast, really, wasn't it.

Oh?

Absolutely? You know we're always straight away with let's do a podcast. You know what do you think Gyanta's gone straight back bang with the list this big and it just happened because we just new straight away do what you love, love what you do.

Yeah, that's that's the moss.

It really is that for us. So even when we start, so if we can help one person, yeahhoochieved God alone ourselves because we enjoyed Jay's company and we did from our very first podcast. It was just and so then it's just like we're on the path.

Of absolutely and I just believe. And it's funny. I couldn't help but think about years ago when I was in New York and I had Wendy, my sister, Wendy Heather was a designer at her range over my arm and I'm running around New York and no, no, no, you can't come in. And I walked in to Sexith Avenue and I went, Hi, I have an appointment. I

And it's getting out of your own way. And also you saw an opportunity and you thought, no one's opening a door, so I'm going to open it myself.

That's exactly that's true, very powerful. And also I guess too if someone may think shut that door or said no, you would have found another door.

Absolutely.

What tips would you say for people to build that resilience because still is not everyone has that thing of going. You can get knocked back and they can really take it personally, And even though, what sort of tips would you say for people to sort of like really get that resilience so you don't sort of like really take it too badly and they fall in a heap.

No, No, it's a great question. So you know, when I had Torsa, we were attracting all of these incredible brands, but quite often there would be brands that we wouldn't attract, and I'd send to myself for why. But then I had to switch my thinking to that door's not meant for me, that doors meant for someone else, and I wish them every success and something bigger and better is going to land in my lap. Bing go ye as that.

Well that's a lot. There's something else you was saying, Sorry, we're back to shit. I mean you're saying that there's a pile of shit. If there's a pile of shit over there, it's your choice whether some problems are like a pile of shit was it's your choice whether you choose to step in that or not. And I know that's back to shit. But it really made a lot of sense to me, Like we all have proble.

You've got the three options, but it's the same as like doors are opening, so you've got to make your mind up in forty five seconds. What door are you going to want through? Are you going to say yes? Are you going to say no?

And sometimes is it as simple as that, you know, like just with the mind shift there. So I think it's good for just listeners to hear that that sometimes it really is just that mind shift of going flick you know there, stay.

There because everyone complicates it and you got to lose, but try and go there.

That's exactly right, That is exactly you've got to try no.

So yeah, I'll try again tomorrow exactly.

And that's the beauty of it because he said to me, if you make a mistake in your mind, right, yeah, if you make a mistake in your mind, don't beat yourself up about it. Just give yourself forty five years, forty five minutes, or forty five seconds. And also, mistakes are good. We all make them. We make them every day.

The lessons in life, aren't they, No, So we have to be people appreciate honesty to you truth. That's a really positive way of saying I love that positive way of rejection too, is that it actually wasn't meant for me or maybe not this timing now, and wish them the best as well. I think that's a good thing.

You've got to pay for with gratitude, because gratitude breeds gratitude, happiness breeds happiness. But also when you're in flow and you don't look at what other people haven't say I want that, but you're actually in flow because you know that something better is coming your way. That's actually the ultimate way to live life.

When you say flow, what does flows be?

In complete alignment? So you know you hear about Matthew mcconachey in The green Light Process. Yeah, it's such a great book. He's the only one that I've ever asked for an autograph and he rejected me. No, but you know what we've got, she's so beautiful. That was not a green light.

And that's funny talking about alignment and what I don't know what that means. What's alignment alignment means?

I'll give you an example. So when I was running my agency, I pulled back because for personal reasons. I just want to spend more time with my family and I wanted to get out of that forty five years, right, So I was really focusing on what was my flow, what was my way forward. But what happened during that process was I allowed other people to run my business in which I wasn't as involved, right, so I'm not

Just throw exactly, that's massive, that is how well is a good one?

Ah in my early thirties. Yeah, so as a single mama. But it was teamwork. It was teamwork with Interdex, which is actually the number one retail brand in the world now. So I just I mean, I reminded them with those credentials. I went back to the office and I said, we're irrelevant. I don't know how this has happened, but we need

You're back to Alignment and green Light? My god, yeah, you had you and Flow. So it was just circulating coming back to you, coming back to.

But I had to step back into what I knew I was good at, and I had to tap into my connections because your connections are always going to endorse and advocate for you, and I had to stay true to what it was that I wanted to create for these brands, but I had to show them that I could.

But the motivation for all of that, ultimately you were coming back because you said I was a line. So that's self belief that I have this potential I could do that.

Because when someone says you're irrelevant and they don't know who you are, that kind of is a bit of a yes stab in turn, because especially in a Korea that you've worked so hard for, but I'd also chosen to step away from, so it was my choice to step back into it. Yeah, this is who I am.

That's really admirable and so many ways, because I'm sure there's people that are born and lived and died and never actually felt that flow. Do you know what I mean? And I'm sure the people listening go, what is that?

This?

Read Matthew's book for starters. It is red light.

With this toury, so believe, whether it's in a business or not. So you've got listeners there who might be interested in building their businesses or doing that just.

The flow of life. But that's sort of the thing too.

It's very true there friends sometimes that might have dropped away, maybe ones that should drop away at that stage of your life, and the other ones will flowing.

It's true. It's a thing.

They're like nature, real life lesson.

I've got to ask you now with George Clooney because now you're the coffee one there.

Have you met me or not? Because I want to hear a really funny story. I was appointed to look after Fossil Group in Australia with a really beautiful lady called Anime. And if she's listening to this podcasts, in fact, to Anime, I'll send you the link because you're absolutely roar with laughter. So in those days, we used to take the magazines overseas with us, as you know, and

Oh are you kidding me?

I am not kidding you. No, I am not kidding. I am not kidding. Yeah, to a castle with the managing director of Fossil At the time.

I'm trying to find the here and the stores here. So who's the joke on?

You know, the joke was supposed to be on us and the man in the business had you know, she's still in the business and she is an exceptional leader, like she's extraordinary. But back in the day, that's what men in businesses used to do with it.

Interesting yeah, so funny. I bet you made the most of it, knowing exactly I read forty two you slightly bored and thinking this isn't exactly going the way I planned. At the moment where am I at? And you redesigned your sense of purpose? Can you explain that to us?

What starts with the green lights? So I got those three brands, but then what I learned from each of those brands was something about myself, something that I wanted and something that I didn't want. So when I was at the Victoria's Secret Show in New York, my role was to get all the interviews with the supermodels over there, and what I recognized backstage then was were all the same.

So a light bulb went on your head in my head and what happened from there.

So from there we then launched Steve Madden into Australia. Then we had Drew Barrymore and I was listening to Drew speak about, you know, her whole adventurous life, and I thought, well, gosh, I've had an adventurous life as well. But she wanted to get a talk show when she left Australia, and she was really waiting for that call to come through. And I really wanted a different life. So I just met my soon to be husband. My daughter was happy, like everything was just like everything was.

And I never had a.

Photo's interesting affected by Drew, like you know, you brought it the energy and then she's helped you.

And she was waiting for that phone call.

So she was waiting for the phone call for that. And then what had happened was because we'd partnered with Mary Clare Magazine to you know, promote her because I loved Nicki Briger and Nicki had said to me toy, can I do a story on you. We've never done a story on you, but it's going to be on single moms with global careers. And something inside of me said, that's not my story, and that's an.

Interesting She repeated that to you back to you. Yeah, and you listened to that, and when that's not my story, that's not sitting right with me.

Yeah. So what had happened was four months before Drew had come out, I'd worked with this amazing journalist called Ali Pasco, and for some reason, I just opened up and I'd never ever actually opened up to anyone, and she gave me that sacred space and then she said to me, this is Jeff, not a single mom's story in the global business. She said, it's something bigger. Would you be interested in the feature?

Now?

They wrote three pages, and they interviewed Bella, they interviewed me, but I said to them, can you please put the story on hold because it's not just my story, it was my daughter's story. And I really needed her buy in because there's a lot of shame around what goes on when you are stalked for as intimidated, you know, by a partner or a father or a friend or whatever it is. And we've never publicly spoken about that before because my life was you know this glamorous publicists thinking.

A whole lot of this truth is surface, it's just coming push it down.

This life, this internal part of your life, there's a lot of suffering. There's a lot of hiding things as well and also protecting things.

Yeah, you have to, absolutely, and you were really crossroads.

I was on Complain which runway down and so so yeah, it's a really powerful time in your life. So four months later we decided yes, and then Mary Claire was like, oh, well, you know, we'll put it in the issue with Drew, and I said, no, it needs to be after Drue because Drew's the star. And then yeah, so she got her talk show and I got my new life and.

What is the new life?

So I ended up meeting my soulmate and within ten months he proposed, we got married. We've now got a blended family, we're out in business together, we travel the world. Powerful Steps Okay, so.

What is Powerful Steps?

It is an online platform for women just like you and I like all the things I've gone through. You know, you're at across the road in life.

What do you do.

You've had great success in your life, but you say there's more.

Who do I want to become?

What I want to step into? Exactly why you guys have started this podcast. You've got something to give and you've got wisdom to pay forward. So I now work with women all around the world, you know, from entreprene to you know mums had really successful careers and then decided that, you know, my kids have now left school, what do I do? I'm going to watch a multimillion dollar business to CEOs board directors. And on top of that,

October, Yaho. That's exciting, that's really exciting.

I want to be able to give Australian female leaders, entrepreneurs or women that just need to get that little bit of love in the room from a powerful community and access to other markets and.

Age because we're really like fifty plus target market. But quite honestly, you talk about Antonia Kidman like my god, she had am I right, six kids and she went yes, like tell us about that. That's pretty remarkable at that age of six kids to say it's about me. Now I'm going to go and study law.

Yeah. I had a coffee date with and in Singapore again, a nice coffee date. So she was in my tribe and she was studying when she had those kids. And now she's a family lawyer, and you know, she's had an extraordinary journey. But she just said I've got something more as well. And it was her passion, I guess because of what she'd gone through with her ex to actually help other.

People, you know what that's now it's so good hearing more and more stories like that because there's more and more people like even Jodie Spears, you know, to Ben Fordham, successful TV presenter and aka she's now studying to.

Be all lawyer herself.

Like, wow, these are people top of their game. Yeah, age is just a number. So I started my first business at twenty four, my second at forty four, and this will be the runway. And I just had a lady who runs a billion dollar business joined my business Attraction program. She's sixty six. Wow, there you go, and she's she's sixty six pick up sticks and she said, I've got more to give can you help me? And I'm like, I absolutely can. Age is just a number.

Well there you go or listeners to hear that too, So it's just great. And so can you tell us about with your master classes that you offer and you do and tell us a bit about that.

Well, we're going to offer something to your community. Actually, I really believe that if you've got knowledge, you should pay it forward. And if you have wisdom that can actually help someone else step into their power, then you should gift it, whether it's going on a podcast, showing up on LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, whatever. So we have this thing called network like a Pro which will help everyone

And it's a master.

It's an online master my master class and yeah, so there's videos, workbooks, and then it also gives you access to our community, the stories that we share with other people of what they remember at dinner parties, on podcasts, on coffee dates it's those little golden nuggets that actually give you the golden thread in life that allow you to step into whatever you're meant to be doing in

To thank you Tory.

So this so listeners, come on out.

I mean, this isn't really grot it in the show, thank you for that. You're interviewing an astrologer, and I love when she said she mentions purpose and how your purpose can change with time, you know, basically always stay tuned to universal sign backs. But see a lot of people think my sense of purpose is, oh, well, I'm going to be a lawyer and architect and engine whatever you are, and that's it. That's the end of the road.

A pivotal moment when you really got sick as well that changed? Can you just share a little bit about that toury.

So, like any good Jackie Collins novel, which we all death experience, death experience, I had death experience. So I was due on a plane to London for a high profile UK brand and I was a single mom at the time. I had twenty two staff, ten freelancers to assistants, so one for me, one to help Bella and I and of course a nanny. And there was shit flying everywhere and my appendix burst unexpectedly before I hopped on the flight. Thank goodness.

The body will always tell you, the.

Body will and I knew I was dying before it happened. I knew it, but I ignored all the.

Signs because you're too busy.

I was too busy. And then what happened was my pan burst. I felt the snap, I heard the snap, and unfortunately I was deadlocked in my house and my daughter in those days, had actually changed the code on my phone.

How old was your daughter then?

Eight or eight would have been? And I had to wait for someone to call me.

What w Yeah in your appendix have.

Burst and I could feel my body dye and had to wait for someone to call me. And so it was an ex boyfriend that was down from Hong Kong and his dad was an ex heart surgeon who called the ambulance and got me out of I had to be revived on the way to the hospital.

So you really had that full in and out of life experience.

Yeah, So two am in the morning, I was operated on by an amazing surgeon who basically said to me, who's your next of kin? What's going to happen to your daughter? You're a single mom. Like all these questions I was unprepared for. Yeah, And so basically I did see the other side, and will you see a white tunnel and then it goes into darkness.

The thing everyone, Yes, it's the same thing. Yeah, Kerry Packer, even Kerry Packer, same thing.

So I came back for my daughter and she was there for me. I was there for her, and I lost eight kilos in five days. So I always say it's good to have a little bit of extra fat.

Yes, body, and I'll run with it.

Yes, I run with it every day. But honestly, that that saved my life.

How did it change your life?

It changed my life because I was given a six month recovery, but an actual factor was three or four years, and I ended up with a dreamal fatigue, chronic fatigue. I had to rewind myself. And what I realized was I was surrounded by takers, not givers. And so it was a big thing for me. And you'll hear me speak about a lot, a mutual exchange of energy. So anyone that comes into our community powerful steps. It's sure, I've got a lot to give, but what do you

It's an even flower, it is.

And so when you talk about how do you attract these high vibrational people and opportunities like being on this podcast with you today. It's because there's an energy match, because you know that you're sharing something. So my recovery was all about who do I want to share my life with? And so that's why I decided not to sell my business, downsize my business. That's how I became

What did your surgeons say to you?

How magnificent? Because this is just we were talking about this beauty.

My doctor said to me, toy, I'm going to read meet you to a hospital unless you get rid of all your toxic family members and friends who are not allowing you to heal. And I said, I don't want to go back to hospital, but I will say no to all of them. And the surgeon said to me the same thing, and he said, I know what your problem is. You're not happy, And he had to be a piece of paper, and he goes, A happy heart is a magnet for miracles. He said, that's the way

So he was an angel that I needed.

Two am in the morning and we just had a fabulous Roberts and he was kind of similar, Oh my god.

Why we run out of time. Yeah, but it's just the hell out of me.

That's like, you're men me. It is my mattress. So if something doesn't make my happiness, it's a clear no.

I've got fifty two thousand questions for you, and we watch you don't have a few guys on my and we will continue the and I know we're going to wind up. You know what I love most of all is that you're when you thrive, you give to others. And that's the mancha we all need to do in our community over the back fence is give back very yourself the quickly.

Because last time, that's.

What does she do in the show.

Sorry, oh this is this one came from the Buddhist monk as well, he said to me, to you need to learn how to meditate, and I was like, I don't have time. I think they're going for five minutes every day. So he said to me, who do you have a shower with? So I said, it's me and that's my sanctuary. So every morning, including this morning, three drops of labond oil in how ex how it anchors me to Mother Earth, but most importantly it taps into my intuition.

It's brilliant.

So you get a beautiful light that comes and flows throughout your body, and then at night time you do the same thing gratitude.

So what you're saying, don't make excuses. Do it in the shower. There's always a moment in time when you can.

I copy you. This morning, I've got some oil and rubbed it in and.

Said we've got to do the questions. Here we go. Yes, first question, and I think I've sort of got an idea after listening to you today. But well, if you had the opportunity of saying something to your twenty one year old self, twenty year old self, twenty two year old selvent, what would you like to say to her do it all again?

Right?

Because you were so young as I'm listening to him. Thank God, she's answering this question it all again, all.

Right, yeah, yeah, absolutely, I would not change a single thing because through the rollercoaster of life, you learn about forgiveness, you learn about acceptance, and you learn that each challenge becomes a gift to make you a better person.

That's beautiful.

That's really sorry.

Thank you for that is really beautiful. And if you could share a back fence with anybody on planet Earth, who would Besides, I'm.

Actually thinking it's going to be the two of you on my podcast a neighbor.

I want to learn more.

I want to learn more. It's a fun to definitely do that parties last night. It all happens.

Well, You're more than welcome.

You're part of the tribe.

And Bella, I'd like this is I love and you'll love.

I can ask you the Ques.

Boys will bring the gang over the.

I mean, we started the Pocas because we want to inspire others. You are a walking, talking version of that. Thank you for what you do for the Earth, for everyone around you, because you are a giver.

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