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It's time with no little all right, Who the fuck is that me? What's the name Jerzy Draan?

And you are no, I'm not ship, lead me out of it. Blake's Kelly, Kelly.

What's up y'all? It's your girl lex P And it's Sugarlsrea Nicle and.

You are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mine Birthday?

Is she my bad? I supposed to say, we're a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts and we ain't got no gifts today. We ain't got no gifts today. It's my birthday.

It's it's your birthday. It's your birthday, bad bitch contest you and fire black you and fire Bla you in fire Bla, bad bitch god.

Birthday are Oh that was a great intro. You know I busted down. You did now you work it down. You didn't play no game, you know what I'm saying. Okay, another another forest season, the.

Other tourist season. You see, we got the birthday cupcakes. It's your thirty fourth years on this Earth. And if y'all didn't know, April twenty second is also Earth Day, it is. It is Earth Day every year. April twenty second is Earth Day. So you're thirty four years on this Earth. How are you feeling? You just ended your seventy five hard You've done amazing job. Thank you, thirty five days no liquor, working out, you got a six pack now I do looking good?

How you feeling? I feel great? I feel amazing, Like I feel so unstoppable. I feel so empowered. I was just saying this the other day. I just dropped another blog on my YouTube channel, or not blog but a video, and it was kind of like a life update, and I was just saying how empowered I feel and unstoppable I feel from doing this challenge. So many people when I posted on Instagram like it was my seventy fifth day and I was done, was like, oh, let me

My goals for the year, the thirty fourth year, what are your you know, Birthday, New Year, New me goals.

One of my major goals for myself is just to be more present, I would say, be more present in the moment. I'm a person who I rarely ever pat myself on the back when I accomplish things. And like a lot of my friends tell me this about myself, and they're like, you just always be glazing over accomplishments, like it's a small thing and you be doing big,

So do you feel like from thirty three to thirty four like your goals last year that you, you know, wanted for the past year.

Do you feel like you did what you were supposed to do. I feel like I exceeded my goals for thirty three, okay for sure. Yeah, like the things that I'm doing, the things that I've accomplished in this last year, because a lot of the goals that I accomplished was stuff that I had on my on my list and things that I wanted to accomplish in life. But I wasn't necessarily thinking that I was going to accomplish it

I think a lot of times people don't ever stop and smell the flowers for themselves, and you don't want to look up, and you were just always trying to reach something and you never clap for yourself. You know, You've had an amazing You're like I just told you, like, seventy five days of doing anything consistently is hard. Anything consistently, that is what people deem not fun. So you were working out, not drinking, you know what I'm saying. On top of the other things, I know you had probably

So that is a feat that not too many people can reach. So I'll applaud you for that. My sister and me, along with the poor crew, we are very proud of you. You know what I'm saying.

And that's something that I think, you know, seventy five hard. Will I try seventy five hard? Probably, maybe I'll do a thirty. Maybe I'll do a ten hard.

You know, I feel like you could do ten. I feel like you have to push yourself. I don't know. I think that I just always been a person where it's like I really like to push myself because I feel like every time I push myself and I challenge myself, God rewards me. On the other side of it, Look, I have a lot of amazing things that have happened to me while I've been doing this challenge and stuff too, Like I done got a new car, a lot of stuff, you know, a lot of good, good gud g grades.

So speaking of you know, we in our thirties, we are in our thirties, were like deep in our thirties. Now, you know what I'm saying, Like, we're not in our early twenties no more. You know what I'm saying, Yeah, we in our thirties. It's not like, oh, we just turned thirty and we're just trying to figure out things that I like, we're in the thirties. So with this topic today, we're gonna talk about shit that was cute in our.

Twenties but not anymore.

Because sometimes I give people a pass for even in their late twenties or their early thirties, because I'm like a lot of shit changed for me when I turned thirty. Yeah, but who I was at thirty is not the same woman that I am at thirty five or even was at thirty four. So I want we don't talk to today about like, shit that was cute in your twenties, But you can't.

You don't get a slide no more. Okay, you don't get a pass.

So what's something that you used to do your twenties at honestly kind of made you cringe?

It's a lot of stuff. Where do I begin? Where do I begin? I did a lot of cringey things in my twenties, for sure, I feel like Number one, some of my fashion choices, some of the stuff that I used to wear, I'll be looking back and I'd be like, you can't believe I wore that, because I think that as you get older, you gotta be like class. Class can't be bought. You know what I mean. You can't buy class. You either have it or you don't. It's something that you can learn, but it can't be bought.

I think for me, one thing that I used to do in my twenties that I definitely don't do anymore, because I know I joke a lot, because you know, I like to get my drink on. But honestly, I used to drink every day in my twenties, Like every day. It was like wake up, What a party at? What a happy hour at? Where we going to eat dinner? And where are the drinks at? Like, if I'm being one hundred percent honest, I don't keep liquor in my

Like I am not.

And I wish honestly not saying that you shouldn't drink in your twenties because you're supposed to turn up.

But I think that I truly probably would be further in life.

If I wasn't spending every I mean I used to buy a bottle of soroc on a Friday a big bottle, and by Sunday you will be gone between me and my homegirls.

Like that's the type of drinking I used to do. So I think that shit that was.

Cute in my twenties was like drinking all day, like being a turn up girl, like being the fun girl. It was cool in my twenties, but being the fun girl in your thirties, Like, there's no benefit of being the fun girl that's outside all the time for me and my goals.

Yeah, I'm not saying this.

For everybody, Like I said, this is no shade, no tea, because there are some fun girls that drink every day in their thirties and maybe that works for you, but for me, I can't do it.

Yeah, I feel like I just all I've always been a binge drinker, Like I've never been a person who drink every day. Like I never been a girl that's gonna drink every single day. But when I do drink, Oh we gonna turn up right right, we gonna take it to the moon, take it to the stars every time. But every day. That never really been my thing. What's something that you feel like was cute in your twenties, It's not cute no more now tie, I feel like

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On d Like a thing on Twitter, and they'd be like, hashtag team most sleep, We're getting it all night, were up, were.

Working, y'all? Hashtag workflow? Yeah, y'all about the work work flow? Like are we up? And we grinded? Yeah, y'all. It's like, but that's not because I'm all here grinding. Remember that song what's it that DJ? Kellyesh No forever. But that's what I'm saying.

Over working yourself is the stupidest shit ever it is. I'm all about working smarter and not harder like that. Over So that was a great point, Ty, and we actually talked about this the other day. Wait, who are you talking about?

Think about a lot?

I know, but I hate this and I don't care what y'all say, because I used to do this in my twenties, in my early twenties, and this is embarrassing for me to But I'm being real right now.

Sleeping in your makeup?

Oh, and you be thinking you can wake up and maybe like touch it up, and it's okay. I'm telling you right now. As a skincare girly, I love skincare. I'm super into my skincare and a makeup girly, I can tell if your makeup is from yesterday. I don't care how much you freshen it up. I don't care what beauty blender you got, what brushes you got, I don't care if you got Charlotte Tilbury. Uh, Patrick Starr whoever, whatever, Patrick Tall whatever.

I'm sorry, I said, Patrick Star. That's a SpongeBob. Y'all know what I am like. Patrick Starr is somebody in the beauty industry. Patrick Starr is SpongeBob is Patrick Now is somebody star who star? Jeffrey Star Jeffrey Yeah, I know it was something we don't talk about him, but we don't. We don't. But I just was trying to remember here was it was a stall Patrick Ta, it's just the birthday episode. I'm the stall. Okay, well, tash your wastop watashi wasta.

But yeah, sleeping in your makeup is a big no no. So let me tell y'all something. Sleeping in your makeup.

It ages you. It makes your skin.

You start to get layers of dead skin because it's trying to protect your skin from that stuff. And then if you keep doing it, you're that dead skin is gonna be hard to get off. So eventually you're gonna have to like laser it to get off, and a lot of people can't afford laser. Sleeping in your makeup literally will age you. And it always looks dirty. It looks dirty as fuck. There'd be some makeup pictures. I look at myself when I was younger, and I could tell, bitch,

This is the grind shit.

I used to have to go to school, So I used to go to school in like the afternoon evening, I would get out of school. By the time I get out of school, go home, maybe do a little homework.

Then I will have to go to Dreams. I'll have to go to Dreams.

I will be there till about five six in the morning, go home, maybe get a little two hours of sleep.

Then I had to be at TGI Fridays. Then I got to be there.

We would open on the weekends at ten o'clock eleven o'clock. For real, I'm telling you, I used to go to school and working two jobs. So I used to be like, oh, I can just freshen up my makeup. And then I didn't understand the beauty of no makeup. We didn't have no makeup looks.

Then.

This was when it was blend eyeshadow had to be bright orange, pink, blue, brows like.

And I'm not mad at that.

Era because that's how I really learned how to do my makeup. So but it wasn't an era where little light Mascarra light concealer and lip blost and go. It was never giving that. I used to work in the club, baby, And I'm talking about the club at its peak era where you sitting there at work on a Wednesday night

And because it used to take me like an hour, hour and a half to.

Do my makeup realistically, So yeah, I used to definitely sleep in my makeup. And at that time it worked for the time because people, let's do my makeup.

Let your face so beet. But looking back, I was like this, you look dirty. You look dirty. But honestly, in twenty twenty five, I still see some girls doing that. I still need some sleeping. Believable to me, I just cannot believe time. Yeah, Tequila, this is unbelievable to me. Literally, I cannot believe that y'all are not washing y'all face every day. Yep, yep, yep. You have to wipe that makeup off. I'm gonna white yr poores. You're gonna end

No, girl.

When we was at Dreams, I'm telling you, we used to literally like, no, that's crazy. I didn't know.

Yeah, but I think the life cyeah we lived working at Dreams, cause, like I said, Dreams was like the popping strip club.

If you was not, they're living it you.

It's hard to explain because like it was me, Jazz my girl here. We literally used to leave the club six seven o'clock in the morning. We would always go stay at one of our apartments. Whoever was closest and whoever wasn't drunk they could drive, And like I said, by the time I laid my head down, I had to get back up because.

I was in school and I had another job. So, like I said, I used to have to decide, do.

You want to wash your face and go to work with no makeup on, or do you want to get some rest. I'm twenty three years old, I'm going to sleep, bitch. Like I said, It's not something I'm like, oh yeah, that's what the bitch, that's what the fuck it was. And we wasn't living in a time.

Where you know, cute, but you're so cute without making years old.

I didn't know that though, cause twenty three year old me didn't see that. I didn't see girls showing up to the club with no makeup on, with little gloss on, looking cute. We saw that us with the middle Park bust down with the flashes on. That's what we saw. So we had to look like that. Because this was the era of the girls. The bartenders had to start looking like the dancers.

Y'all didn't lived that era. Y'all got to bartend before that or after that. You have to be a bad bitch to bar tend, So I got to compete with a bitch you got a spaghetti thone in ass and the bartenders is still like that. I think it's worse now.

Oh yeah, it's worse now, but beginning era that so it was a lot more pressure. Like I said, nowadays, if you cut you cute.

Because I used to be going to work no make up. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Y'all gonna get this natural phase.

By the time, like when I moved to Atlanta, and like I was still kind of working in the club. Oh yeah, it was, I'm showing up. I can do a little lash, yeah, a little. But when I was twenty three, that was what that was twelve years ago, twelve thirteen years ago, maybe it was a different time.

It was okay. So for me, I would definitely say being out all night and then getting up early, that's one that was cute back then. But I just can't do it now. I'd be so grumpy if I don't get at least seven hours of sleep, like I need at least a good semi. I'd be so grumpy. And you could tell like I'm not trying to be here, which well I take that bag. You can't tell. But I just know myself and I feel like my temperament be a little off when I haven't got enough sleep.

Yeah in your twenties, like people make saying, are you always gonna be at home?

Yeah, it's peaceful there. I'm safe there in your twenties, though, I do, I feel like that's a little you know, you're supposed to be outside and having fun.

Up about balance, Like I said, if I could go back to my twenties, I would be just a little bit more focused. Cause if I was focused in my twenties, I am now I'll be a millionaire by now.

You know what I'm saying. But there's people who was but to to be the devil's advocate. It's people who was focused in a twenties and a stool our meanionaires. If that makes you feel better, don't it should? Because they was real focused, then they still not really doing it.

I mean, it happens, Yeah, I guess. I just feel like I should have had more balance in my twenties, Oh for sure, because if you was out every night.

You definitely I wasn't working, because, mind you, I work at the club, so you would think on my days off, I would take a day off because I'm already baby.

No, I'm like, oh I don't work, somebody, I'm going out. That's why I say I was living a wild life. But I also think that was our culture too, right when I was in college. It was all the way turned up, swag service like all of that stuff that.

Was roside life, all my not making come on. Like we were in the in the club cleaning bottles together like that, we was leaking. We was wasted. Yeah, white, I'm wasted. She wasted. Man. The times now people are little type jeans like the white boys. Yes, man. People are a little more cognizant on what they're putting in their body there in public. Yeah. The new generation is more into drugs and other things, not necessarily getting lit and turned up like we were, because you know, they

But like the drug scene, Like, I'm not gonna lie the coke, yeah, but I'm not gonna lie. I'm not saying that coke is normal. But coke, that's they used to do that. And what's that club called in New York?

What was fifty four? Like that? That's an old school drug. No, yeah, coke was like the drug of the seventies, you know what I'm saying.

But y'all the ship that y'all doing now, like it's a little different. They got some names I ain't never heard of, and ship like that, y'all have some different types.

The kids be willing, and they do it in public. It used to be at nowadays on stream. Yeah, bitch what back in the day, she right, though, they would do it in private. The only way people would know you come out.

You got a little oh my, no listen, because that was being like when the when the that girl started doing it, it was like, oh my god. So when we used to be at dreams, like it was like, oh, let me look out for you type shit, like it was so.

Down low because it was like, oh my god. Yes, it was like, oh my god. It was. It was such a big deal. But nowadays it's like, oh, you gotta peel bitch, yeah, because you got And they looked me like that too, Oh you gotta pell you what you got that thing on you? And they'd be like they'd be doing it on the open like maybe we was ladies back ladies. We were late and I'm not gonna lie. Personally, I was always too afraid to try coke, Like I just was always scared of what it would

It was.

It was. It wasn't We probably shouldn't have said that on the show.

I mean, I think it's a life though, but we're living. But we're teaching y'all that this is not something I'm not gonna lie to you.

Did I'm out here now, probably look, yeah I did, but I didn't do it no more. But I'm telling you every knew the way over there looking shocked. I knew. I just wasn't gonna say it because I don't have nothing to be a shrap out.

But I say that to say it wasn't like something I continuously did, because let me tell you, the people that continuously do it, they not doing this right now. I got my shit together. I literally I was like, I'm not like I said to this day. I don't drink every day. I don't go out every day. I knew that that environment that I was in because let me tell you, I took some time off from dreams and I started I got a regular job, and then I had to go back. And when I went back,

To be like y'all.

There was nobody in that club that I was looking at like, wow, girl, you made it, you did that.

You ate that. It was nobody. I didn't have nobody to look up to. It was like, oh my god, you did it. You made it out.

It's a few girls that were working in the strip club that I see now that are doing well for themselves.

So when I say few, I'm talking like one or two. That's what I was gonna say, because that's all I could think. Good were talking about the club. You was it?

Yes, I can literally think of two women that I that were dancers or bartenders or anything that are doing well for themselves.

That's sick. And it was hundreds of them there, and they was fine, beautiful girls.

Beautiful that don't matter if you don't got your head on straight. And that's one thing I can say. I thank the club for teaching.

Me what not to do. Oh for sure. I always say that too, though, But I think that was always a goal that I had for myself, even looking back to like when you moved to Atlanta. I remember I used to tell you all the time. I used to be like, Licks, I'm not gonna be thirty working in the club. You did say that. I used to always say that. I used to be like, I don't know

You could not tell me, Okay, I'm this is funny. Now we can laugh at it now. I showed a weekend y'all All Star Weekend. I think I made like I don't know, like seven thousand dollars and I'm just like, and that was in like one night though, and I'm just thinking, like, I'm on.

Top of the world. I thought I was unstoppable. I had seven thousand dollars in my pocket. I'm like twenty five, bitch, Like I'm thinking, I like it.

This was the weekend Taana Taylor dropped them Adida shoes. Do y'all remember what she had that gold them golden black baby. I went to the mall, I had them holes. I had a friend that worked at her. They had them on the side for me.

I passed.

I'm walking past the line, me and Jazz, my friend, my bartender, and we like, yeah, we dropped like we really thought we was cool. That's what I'm saying. So Cau Sierra wasn't there because she was still sleep. I was like, oh, I got Kiera shoes.

Yeah, and night and work Taylor drops bitch. We thought we was egg Yeah. I thought y'all was holy. But I'm saying, what a simple time though. Used to be so excited, y'all. Y'all were so excited about them. Tell on the tailor shoes. These days, if you ain't pulling up to the club with your Chanelle sneakers on. You ain't doing nothing, no, not even the Chanell snickers. Because did you pull up in the rosewors or not? Did

And I'm not trying to talk, we're not trying to talk down on people who are in the thirties working in the club.

I think it's all about but mentality that you should you should. The goal should be to get the money to invest it or to do something else with it so that you're not thirty in the club. It's not nothing wrong if you are, but I personally just that's not ideal. Being thirty in the club is not a life plan. That's not where you should be in my opinion. It's okay if you are there, but I feel like, if you have been doing this for five six years already,

You got out and he been chilling. He don't even like how the club scene look.

Yeah, it ain't the same. The street dry streets is dry people you niggas just But I will say people.

Are trying to figure out how to get the legal money because we've realized it's no longevity in that.

I'm not gonna lie to you. I thought for a while, I was like, being a bartender, is it you wanted a trapper? What I was like, I'm finna find my nigga.

I'm finna be like d bartender, because you gotta realize that was a time where the Vegas was popping, and it was like, if you can make it to Vegas and bartend, it's a career out there. I'm like, they're clearing six figures a year. I was like, I can do that because not only am I fine and I know how to work in the club scene, I can actually make drinks.

So even with that, I still had a bigger vision. But it's like, girl, get your old ass out the club.

When I moved to Atlanta and I turned thirty, I said I and they gave me an outfit to where I said, hey, I'm gonna have to go when they try to give me the little spandex outfit, I said, hey, this was my last night work and I said, hey, you know what, it has been a fun time.

I said, I can't do this. That was probably my favorite thing though, But like I feel like you could dress up and be cute and like, couldn't nobody judge you for it? Because alady I did that.

We did that at Dreams, like we used to wear I used to be behind the bar, I used to be in the phone.

Oh I remember you. I used to see you. I remember when me and Lex versus became friends. I was like, oh, I didn't seen you before. I used to see you all the time mixed up. I used to be like, I guess she didnt used to love she was the love cover to the bar. Give her her shrink. No, that wasn't until we became friends. I'm talking about once all before before. See I don't remember that because I used to be like, Okay, I see you your little I remember you with the Medda's fool. That's why I

By my boss and said, get dressed, get every get the girls together.

We got something happening, like Baby. We went in there. It was Drake and like all like his friends, and it was like four or five dancers and just us and it was a time bitch, like we couldn't bring our phones in. But it's like if I said this, they'd be like, you're making that up. No I'm not. But if you knew dreams, this is what we used

That from time Drake said right here, yeah, Eric Recipeto Soo was DJing, yeah, and nobody was.

Doing none of this because we wasn't worried about that because that wasn't the thing to do back in because I was trying to get us one. That's when I mean, we were trying to get us one, but we was also working. I was really trying to get our money, Like you're not worried about because it is before you could get popular from cloud from recording people and some in a blog picking it up. Blogs wasn't even looking at that type of stuff. Back in the day, they was posting real celebrities.

I forgot his name. We used to have him a name one of my old bays, but that was not. I met him that night that Drake was at the club.

Time. What a time. We really used to be having a good time. No cameras, everybody was having a good time. Everybody was getting lit turned up. You wasn't worried about trying to get posty and it was just great. Now they be taking your phone, they'd be putting what they got their little ship that they put your phone. You could keep it phone on you, but you gotta have it locked. Like, what type of shit is dad? What's that man name that was on the BMF show? What mean?

We go to the comedy show. He made everybody lock their phones up. And don't get me wrong, the show was good. But we didn't have to lock our phones up for that.

It was straight no. We could have left our phones out for that one, big bro. No. So I went to I went to Dave chappelle comedy show in Houston two years ago, and he made everybody lock they phone up too. But that's what I was gonna say to me. No matter who it is, I understand because it's like if you have content, or you have jokes or whatever, it may be that you don't want to be out yet or you want people to actually pay to be

Well, I think it's more so about people editing content to make something that they said and twisting their words.

Because I'm not gonna lie. I don't give a fuck.

If you record a poor Mind's I might tell the joke again, or I may deliver it in a different type of way. We have a different crowd every night, so we interact with our crowd. Yeah, those two poor mind shows are the same. But with Dave Chappelle Kevin Hart,

Yeah, yeah, I think he'd be a little bit of both. I think sometimes they just want to be able to publicize their content the way that they want to, monetized it the way that they want to. You can control the narrative that way, they just gonna be wanted out. But I don't see anything wrong with that because we live in an era where people are constantly recording everything.

I remember the time whch y'all can go out on the era Like I said, I used to work in the era where Kim Kardashian used to host clubs.

This is the old Beaches episode that Gonna be Lady the Host all Beyonce crazy.

I was outside when Kim Kardashian was outside because I remember at one point, like the clubs in Houston was trying to book her but they couldn't afford it because she was texting like at that time it was like a hundred K. But she used to always be at the clubs in Vegas and that's why we used to be like, Oh my gosh, imagine bartending a party that Kim Kardashian is host and you know that chick finna

With Lady Got.

No, I've never been in the club with her, but during this time, Lady Gotta was in the malls, performing in the clubs, performing.

Like the gay clubs.

She was there, I know she was outside like I lived in era. We was at the club when they premiered. Sorry, I got excited when Fattie Wap and Drake's don't drop.

All I gotta do is cut my mind to his ship.

They Drake said that ship to DJ Eric and he premiered that ship at.

The club like we were at the time. That was when you what what else? That what a time to be a lot with some limes U.

They revealed that Drake in Future was coming out with a collap album and they played that album.

He was in the club when it happened. It was wild, Thank you and that's actually one of my favorite albums ever. What is time We Got Live is the massive with the world premiere premiere. We got that with the world premiere. Let's take our shade. Oh lord, yeah, you turn up, she said she before we take that trying to get white girl wasted. This is what I have to say about Big Lex p Okay, come on, gonna lie, And in junior high high school volleyball, I was cold.

My jersey's still up in the gym class clown, been that girl.

In college, I.

Did my fucking thing. I had a show on TSU network. I used to do the radio, and I worked at the most popping club. Now I got Poor Minds, the number one podcast in with the girls. I've been that bitch for a very fucking long time, and it's hard to be relevant as long as I have been.

So cheers to that. Cheers. That's how I be feeling. I don't want to go down my resume though, because I feel like I don't. I think that'd be like the Earth signing me. You know, I think I'm getting to a point to where I'm a little googleaboo. Come on, big Google, come on, Big Google. Typ what are we

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Love y'all, y'all, but no I'm saying a testament to what you were saying.

Though.

It's so oh good when people really see you, like they can get past the hooplah and what.

Everybody, but they really see you and who you are, Oh for sure. But I think that it's easy to see that about us or whatever you're like. Why, I like it's easy to see that about me. I do like people that are around us on a daily basis. I don't be giving a damn, no disrespects, but I don't be really giving a damn with people who like watch the show who have never met me in real

I was like, I think a lot of times people misjudge both of us just from watching, but you're right, but they don't know us.

Yeah, the people that are around us can really you know, they can pick up on who we really are, and like, since our real personalities, since if we being fake, since it's like we really giving off who we say we are. Because I think a lot of the time people try to say that they one way, but when you around people, they can't fake the phone. You're gonna pick up on

Ooh, this is interesting. I think it does, and I think it also has to. And I'm talking from a perspective of thinking of you just being a little girl to your body changing to being you know a woman.

You know, we're in our mid thirties.

Now, your relationship with your body absolutely has to change. You have to change how you view yourself and understand that things change.

You know, I can't eat how I used to eat when I was sixteen.

But I also have to understand that it's okay to have a jelly roll, or it's okay to have textured skin, It's okay to have stretch marks, it's okay to have cellulite.

I think that in our younger years.

You know, when you're fifteen, sixteen, baby, body was tight, body.

Was smooth, flawless. In my twenty three.

Yeah, I could go to sleep with my makeup on and wake up and then when I did wash my face, skin was still clear.

Because I was twenty three. You could, but you shouldn't. I shouldn't.

I'm not saying that I should have, but I'm saying, thirty five year old, if I would sleeping my makeup today, which I haven't done in years, but if I did that today, baby, I'm waking up with a pimple.

I'm waking up my nose bumpy as fuck.

Right, everything just suggested I can't do that now, So I think your relationship with your body, it has to change as you age, because if it doesn't, you're gonna lose your confidence.

I just think aging is such a beautiful thing, and I can't believe that at one point in my life it was something that I really was like so terrified of and ran from. It's really a beautiful thing. Like, Yeah, you're gonna have those changes, but you have to embrace them because you only get one body, and the thing about your body is you can always make it better.

Death becomes fan.

But I feel like I don't hate getting older, like I feel like I get fine as fucked, like I just get finer and finer every year. I don't hate it. It's just certain things that come with being older that I just be like, you will get this away from me, and that's one of them. Thank god. No, I don't now. I did find one on my cuci one time, though, but not on my head, on my other on my you're not getting enough sex or usually you had a maybe that's what it is. Said. Thing is it had

I just feel like the relationship with your body. Like I said, I think we need to give ourselves grace as women.

You know.

I don't know if y'all are fans of this show that comes on HBO is called White Lotus.

I'm a big fan.

Did you watch this last season? Okay, so White Lotus. I love this guy, Walton get Goggins. He's a character on White Lotus. He is the older guy with a younger girlfriend and he is hilarious. If y'all google his name, y'all will know who he is. So anyways, on the show, he has like a receding.

Hairline and a patch and a patch right, And.

They wrote an article I want to say, maybe in Cosmo or someone people magazine that were like, oh, receding hairlines are hot now check out Walton Goggins and White Lotus. And I'm just like, it's so crazy because they did this a couple of years ago with the.

Dad bod of men who have bellies.

We will change what the beauty standard is to fit what a white man looks like. But when it comes to women, white, black, Mexican, whatever, we gotta have a twenty three inch away forty inch hips, no cell you like no stress, smarks, no wrinkles. We gotta put boat tops, we gotta plump up the lips. We gotta make sure we got all our edges. Oh my god, you know what I'm saying. The beauty stead are never changes for us.

And speaking of I have a botox appointment tomorrow.

I need to hit mine up too because mine getting a little yeah, I said before the premiere, Yeah, I need It's right you, I do need a little reup myself.

Don't hit right before that.

Because you know, because comments, let's stop touching your face. I haven't seen Helen in a year and a half, bitch, leave me alone.

So any time for my reup.

Be in the comments. Time my legs stop touching your face. I'm like, I haven't gotten anything done in a year and a half.

Like literally, probably they just be looking at old episodes.

Yeah, because leave me alone. Because baby face card it rare does not decline.

All right, all right, all.

Right, but anyways, but again, like I said, your relationship with your body does have to change, because your body is going to change.

It's natural. You gonna gain weight, you gonna lose weight. Like it's okay.

And like I said, the media and social media is easier on men than it is on us. Cause, like I said, I love him, but who wants to receive in hairline?

Not me? Just go bald. Yeah, his this haircut is crazy, and that's get it's like long, it's long. It's receiving. I want to see the photo. But he doesn't really wear this in real life? Does he wear it in real life? That's how we look on this picture. It does look like this on this picture, but this is how it is on the show.

And mind you, he's hilarious. He's really fucking funny. Oh wait, I need to see the image of him on white lotus. I'm trying to show her the white Lotus picture. Okay, here it goes. Here's how he looks on white lotus. It's way back there and it's a ball spot in the bag. But mind you, he's an amazing actor. And I feel like the people, we're not here for the way you look. We are here for your talent, and he is one of them. He was in The Hateful Eight. If you are a fan of he was in Django.

So do you feel like confidence in your thirties is more about what you look like or how you feel.

I think it's a mixture of both, because you gotta I hate this, it's a little gray area, but you gotta look good to feel good, if I'm being honest. But that's why I agree with you. You think so, Yeah, because I got in the gym like I used to. I used to be like like I said, I played volleyball year round, and till like when I got to college, I just started to get into more media stuff, so I really stopped going to the gym. I didn't start getting back into the gym till like a year ago.

This is what my body is.

So it's like you come with that acceptance and I'm like, bitchy'all look good though. Yeah I'm thirty five years old and I look like this.

Hell yeah, I look good.

But it also comes with I do take care of myself. I drink a lot of fucking water. I don't drink every day. I go to the gym even if I'm not lifting weights. Like I said, I kind of fell off of the gym, but guess what I was still doing. I'm still getting up and I'm moving my ass. And that's one thing the girl the girl do. Y'all have to realize if you don't get up and move your body, don't stop moving.

I think for me, I have like my mom was beautiful. She died at forty eight, but she was gorgeous, Like she was the mom that every all my friends would be like, damn, my mama. Find type thing. So for me I didn't really I had good I feel like I had good genes, so I didn't feel like I needed to work out all the time. So really last year was the first time that I actually started going to the gym and being active. But I could feel my like my hips would be tight, my aunt. I

I'm glad that you said that earlier because you were like people were asking you to post it before and after you were like, it was more a mental thing, and that's when it will.

I realized for me, like.

I be getting like in my little dark places sometimes and I realize a lot of that. Like I was talking to my therapist. She was like, when's the last time you worked out? Like this was like a conversation that we had in December. I was like, damn, And that's what really motivated me. Like, girl, even if I'm not saying that you got to go to the gym, go for a walk, go for a walk, you just got to mock you a body past. So even sometimes when I'm satisfying, I don't even feel like going to

Yeah, And I feel like that's the thing. I've made it a happy Like to me, it's more of a lifestyle thing now because you're not gonna always. I think a good word that I can give people is that you're not gonna always have the motivation. But that's where your discipline comes in exactly, because you're not gonna want to do stuff every day. Like it's hell of days that I don't feel like working out, like yes even yesterday.

I think for me, even like like I said, at the beginning of the year, I weighed two hundred pounds when we filmed Tribal Queens, I was literally when we left, I was two o two That morning, I was like, what the fuck. I'm so mad at myself because I have to film this shit and I'm big, well not big, but I carry my weight a little different because I'm taller. And then like right now, like I weighed myself this morning, I'm one seventy two right now, So I pretty much

It's not for how y'all look at me, because one thing about it.

I can be one fifty and it'll be people in the comments like ooh Lex, what you ooh Lex?

You need to do?

It's not about how y'all view me. It's how I view myself and what makes me feel comfortable. So I think that's another thing like me losing this way. It wasn't like something I'm just.

Like, oh yeah, y'all, I lost another pound.

I lost all about cause y'all ain't gonna y'all ain't gonna do nothing but critique me anyway. So I think as we get older, you have to find what's comfortable for you. One seventy is comfortable for me. I don't give a fuck what.

Y'all see or what y'all like.

So we have to change how we view ourselves and what's comfortable to us and what makes us feel good and how you look in the mirror. Oh City, Oh, I'll be delete that hole. Titty came out. One thing about check, she gonna get that times down. Okay, let me say that again. So one thing about me is like, we gonna get it together. So I can look in the mirror and I can feel good about myself and I can feel like, you.

Know what, I like how I look, I like how I feel today.

So yeah, all in all, I feel like your views on your body should change as you get older, and that's a healthy thing to do.

And I feel like they should get better because with wisdom and age, you care more about your body. Like I feel like I care way more about my body than I did when I was in my twiny Thank God, thank God that he allowed me to live this long so that I can take better care of my body because I was not taking care. I was treating my body like whatever. When I was in my twenties. I'm talking about I was eating bullshit every day. I was drinking all the time, being drinking all the time, smoking

That's why I said, we're not judging anybody what y'all do, but we're just trying to tell y'all what we did so y'all can do better and y'all can.

Look like us when y'all get y'all thirties, Me lex and time period. What's up, y'all is your girl lex P and the Sugarls are in the call.

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What's up, y'all? As your girl XP and it's your girl drain the call and we have a very exciting announcement today. We have a brand new show dropping. Yes, we have a brand new shout dropping y'all on Patreon. It's gonna air on September second, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We're gonna be doing so much stuff on there. We're gonna be doing challenges. If you can't go to Bella Dache, where the hell could you go? If you can't go to Bello Noche, what the hell we're gonna be doing?

Well, we've beenna give it to y'all every single Monday, and it's gonna be a time. Y'all know Poor Minds has grown into its own little entity. Well, we're gonna have a lot of fun still over here.

At Poor Chronicles. So make sure y'all tune in September second. It's going down. Thanks. So, now it's time to get into the bab all the b bow about Bobo Bow came. So we're going to play a game called Unwrapped or Returning. Okay, Birthday six of these ship.

Girl.

You know, girl, you know I'm doing the background. You don't remember that? Oh, I know what you're talking about now. I was like at first first, I just thought you agree your birthdays on. You know I won't ride out in Moasy Louisy, you know my I know when he was in the studio that day, he was like, good, but I know you want to cry? Why now? Remember Trice Songs did a remake. Trey Songs used to love remixing people ship. That's why r Kelly, you know us,

R Kelly, Yeah, she loved bringing up was saying that Trey Songs used to love remixes. R Kelly didn't want to remix Trap in the Closet, and he made the character.

Gay that Trey Songs was right, you love arn't you really? We're going to find out which facility, which correctional dog facility or no, she not. She's going to come see setting on fire alrighty I do not see you and he was locked up and getting out. Okay, she don't want him to get out. I know she don't want him to have access to the other girls. I'll find out where he's at. We don't wintter where he asked, though she could be his pen pal. J I like him, Yes,

Got out of the closet And on his remax he was like when he got off the talk, he was like, you pulled that's what he said.

And R.

Kelly came back when Trapped in the Closet part two and he made that character gay and everybody was like, oh he did.

That because everybody or you take out, because that's what media takeout was puffing. Media Takeout taught me how to be missing y'all. See I'm showing my age. Y'all don't know about media takeout. I used to wake up. They was like, you know what I'm saying, wake up in the morning to get on media takeout is wild. I used to wake up and check media takeout in the cold, bitchy m That's why I love lex P is so good. The people that were real nosy be I am nosy.

I have to keep the people in the know. We have to know what's going on in the world. And like I said, said, we are not the only people in mess. They being messed too.

I be on the ass. I'm bringing back I'm restoring order in the world. I know.

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I actually reported on him a few weeks ago. Yes, I did, and you wrote him don't forget that far dreas Kelly, missus Kelly. I don't like him, then why did you report on him because I did not want to part and that podcast had with him podcast a pot name Kick Big, where we went on there one times. Yes, the PAS squad. You are a dirty bitch, that's what he called us. He said he was the past squad. I know. So why am I dirty? Because you're stupid? You're dirty, Miss Kelly. Anyway, I reported on R.

Kelly because a podcast had called into R. Kelly's jail cell and he was singing on the phone and I said, no residuals.

Yes, he was singing residuals.

And I said it was distasteful, because it is distaste.

That's how I know that's really young man, because you need a rendition of residuals yourself. Copy me. Why she know who you are? Because you'll be writing each other. You up you. You told him that you were gonna do that, and he was like, okay, babe, let's do it against This is wild and I don't appreciate this. We're gonna have a chat. No we not. We're having a cheat named miss Kelly. You do you need to do a ninety hard No, it's you need to do tin. You ain't even need a team. I'm gonna do too

No, I don't want wake up Head. And you ain't brush your teeth yet? Why that's sound fat my? That ain't got ship to the year.

I don't. We don't have to talk. You talk to her. I don't know.

I feel like I'm not gonna lie like in the morning, like if I know, I'm gonna get freaky.

Sometimes I do like to sneak off and do a little quick quick rints.

You know, I don't brush brush I'll do you know what I'm saying, because sucking dick, that's low. I'm not to wash her anyways, though, you feet I'm not gonna lie, I'm gonna return it.

I'm not gonna lie. I'm gonna okay, okay. A massage with oils that ends in a happy ending, good morning to his brick. Oh, I was thinking about good morning, then his break breakfeast.

A massage with oils that ends in a happy ending. I love massages. I think massage is just sexy. I'll unwrap it. I like a little massage, but with my man.

Not that like I'm just at a you don't like getting you be getting fabbed. No, at the massage parlor. That's where I know. I know, I know who. I already knew who he was gonna say, I don't do that.

No, but if it's a massage from my man that ends in a happy ending, cool, But not at some random like massage parlor. If it's a massage parlor on the outside, you know what they up to. You know what they up to or if they say free massage.

Parlor, I don't know. I feel like, if you like to get happy in and massages, you are a free ass n I g g A you a sixty nine guy? Because what run for your life?

Because what Kenner really went in on him, like he went a little too hard. It ain't stop, it didn't stop nothing.

But why would you do that? That's crazy. I feel like it's behind us now it is. But why would you say that? Because he said what he said? He said what he said? I said words to all right? What's number three? Draft him? Looking the sweet just to bend you over in every corner, unwrappid. I love Hotel six, me too, because I can leave that ship looking crazy andly m. Somebody had tweeted, ake sure of them on next Friday. Remember not on the window. Don't wipe it

And he shaved it into the shape of a three and the four. No, I would run for my life Okay, Dre, let me ask because water.

Hell would you even like to me? That's like serial killer type sheet? Like why would you How did you take the time out to shave your pubic hair in a three? Let me ask you this.

Have you ever been one in the two in the three until the fo have you ever been one of the man who had a Brazilian wax? No, how would y'all feel if you was like went down there and there was nothing there?

I do like that. I have dealt with like I've had a man like be here lead That's what I'm saying, not Brazilian. Wh it wasn't a whit, not a Brazilian, but y'all know what I mean. It was like nothing. Yeah, I prefer that you like that the way? Yeah, get them hairs out my way that holds more of the saliva and stuff down there and more older Yeah, get it out of here, okay, and it looks bigger. Oh okay.

I didn't mean Brazilian because I honestly I don't know. I didn't see his butthole, Okay, but I did see the balls and it was clear. I don't know if it was a wax or a shave, but I was like, oh, I'm not mad at it, but it took me by surprise.

Then if you put the balls in your mouth, you don't get like carrying your teeth or anything, you know what I mean. I'm more willing to do a little bit more. Okay, we're gonna wrap it. We're gonna wrap that. Yeah, A three four on the deep raise, I don't even know. He don't know what that means. She was saying, like if he shaved, oh in the thirty four because you're three four, Yeah, like surprise, it's your birthday. It's indeed shave. I don't know how I understood. Would you say that

I don't like threesomes, so it's gonna be a no for me. Now if it was a little freaking because I know he ain't gonna bring.

A nigga because it's two niggas. I would rather three some with two men. And see, that's not what I want. I like the I want this crazy. I want the dick in my mouth exactly exactly you want, y'all three, Someone let me get them common rolling the blunt one cook in the crack. That's too much. I got enough holes and I can take it off. And that's wild as hell. But how Hobby said, Yeah, black Cuci do

Don't want to be nowhere near you your birthday, dumb ben.

You won't be you won't be notified. Don't worry you know hearybody. You're not gonna know nobody. You don't have to worry at all. You was not gonna know a thing. Don't worry about because you would not know nothing.

Okay, okay, okay, Oh I'm gonna skip down to this one role play where he's the delivery man with a package for you.

I've actually done this before. I'm an unwrap it. That's fine. I love role play. Roleplay is always fun.

I feel like if if you can't role play with your man, y'all missing out on some fun like role play.

And it don't even matter. It don't even have to be a delivery man.

It could be anything like I had one time when me and my man, like we went and acted like we were just meeting each other at a restaurant, and it was.

So much fun. It was like we was acting. It was just like, oh, hey, how you doing it? It was a ball and we got fucked up. It was a time.

So I think role play should everybody should try role play at least once.

I think we're all playing. It's cool. I like role playing. Yeah, under rather, I agree, I'm wrap it okay, recorded birthday six, but only you get the footage. I canna do that anyway, because that's how I am. Like. I don't gotta be birthday. It ain't got to be the birthday. Okay. I think you should do maybe number nine. I can't see what you on this side. A birthday is stupid. A birthday spank for every year you've been fine cause she know her anti fine And I like the thirty four. I

I just love like I love I'm talking about during sex, during anything like I love smack and I want you to smack it hard.

I want it to be hard. I want to hurt. He was talking to me. That's your song. I love. I love getting my ass small, like, so I used to have it. Like we're speaking of role play.

I used to have this game like me and my eggs used to play, and like we would be in public and I would do something that he didn't like. He would be like that's one, and I'd be like, oh, I'm in trouble.

Or if I would do something, I'd walk off from him and I would come back he'd be like that's two. I'm like, I'm being bad at night. Do you like to be dominated? Oh? I like a little domination. Oh. It was so funny.

It was like then it got to the points where I would like start purposely cutting up because he'd be like, oh. And then when we would get to the house, he would be like, go upstairs and take your clothes off.

I'm like, I love a little paddle. Yes, we're not a paddle.

We aint never did it with the pattle, but I was like okay, yes, Like I had to go upstairs and take my clothes off, and he would be like, yeah, get on the bed. You cut up six times, smile, You're finna get six spankings.

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He's so amazing. He has a song with uh Tezo Touchdown. He's from Beaumont four o nine. Shout out to the four all golden, the Golden Triangle period. Nothing betaw us come out four o nine. I feel like when you talk about four o nine, you gotta talk about Pempcy, you gotta talk about lex Pe, and you got to talk about bun b is from Houston?

He is, yes, from Port Arthur. Is he from Port Arthur? Oh? He is from I think that you are. No, let's look it up because from Houston. But a people used to say bun Bee was from Arthur. No is it Houston Arthur, Texas? Oh? He was born in Port Authur. See that's a damn Shane. No. I got like five people he was he was born in a Houston hospital, but he is from Port arth Okay. So that's what no.

I only say that, and that's no disrespect to Bunnee. The only reason I say that is because people always had that argument.

But I guess that's the.

Same thing they do with Meg because she was born in San Antonio, but she was raised in Houston. So he was born in Houston, but he was raised in Port Arthur, So he's from Port Arthur.

Bun B.

Shout out to bun Bee. He is right right right, shout out to bunn We would love to have you come sit.

On the couch now. But gotta know where he's from. I know where he's from, damnit. He from right up the street. Like I said, bun Bee, Pipsy and and Tezo touched out, so yeah, he's from Bauma. So uh yeah. So the my bop of the week, Destin Conrad and Tzo touchdown.

They have a song called the Last Song. It's a Bob gold streaming. I just like, like I said, I love what R and B is looking like right now. It's just like it's fire, It's on fire. I don't have no complaints like I've been being fed fed fed fed love it right?

What you got? So my pop is use me by bow Wow and Chris Brown. I said, oh my god, I love Why are you looking like that? Have you listened to the song? No, that's what I'm saying when you do that. By the way, I didn't do anything looking like what I feel like when you'll be having yo viobs, I could look like that too, because you go bobs. I'd be like, m questionable. But I don't say anything. I just affecting bow Wow to have a new song. Does he have a new song? But you

The only thing that keeps me yep when I'm coming down. I don't know what but you, but I gotta keep money.

That was a good song. Oh Chris Brown was on the song though, Yeah he would remix or something. Yeah, probably like mine. Chris Brown was on it, So I feel like it's a great song. Then y'all know. Right now, the Millennium Tour is going on and I'm so sad that I can't go because I wanted to go two times, but we had something to do for work when they had the Atlanta show in the Houston show. So yeah, shout out to the Millennium Tour, shout out to bow Wow.

If you go to the Millennium tour, you will know every single bow Wow song.

He made hit after hit after hit after hit. Let's stop.

Don't do him like that. And honestly, he's been killing it the clips. I've been saying a lot of energy. Them needs still work me.

Hold you, he loves me. Hold you Brown.

You know so I was listening to the other day. I can't lie, though I did listen to Freshness.

On Me is in the car. Y ain't right, Ye ain't rye, y ain't bumping like I'm bumping. Yin't saying nothing on me. You ain't fresh as than me?

Because he was like, I'm eighteen nigga making moding your dad. Imagine your nigga's talking ship like that and your daddy can't say shit.

That's the type of shit I like. I don't like that. I don't want no nigga making more than my daddy.

But I'm saying personally, but I'm saying he could, he could do that.

He was making molding your dad. He was, well, yeah, yeah, because he's making more than my daddy too. Shit, my daddy was dead. I know he was making more of him. Yo, daddy wasn't making it. He wouldn't r ip ip he just killed. Oh my god, why I was about to say that too. That is so crazy. We don't have a mental telepathy. I was saying, our I p just killed the club. It's not funny though. I did not laugh once me neither. Or you're trying to make me laugh.

And you are no, I'm not ship Leave me out of this licks Kelly.

Kelly should That's what we're finna do. All right.

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Period. Okay, keep me anonymous. She added a photos to y'all keep me anonymous. I'm twenty three and been dealing with a thirty five year old man for two years. It's been a lot of ups and downs. I think it's a trauma bond at this point. I just started nursing school, so I'm seeing him list and honestly, I'm starting to feel the distance. Yeah, two kids doesn't help with my hair, nails, or weed, and says all his money goes to his VM. He buys groceries, but that

I'm not saying that because you don't. When I say you don't look twenty three, It's not like offensively. It's just like they just got att like when I was twenty three, I was.

Just they active. They you outside, baby, this looks like a grown woman. Maybe that's why the thirty five year old likes her too. I need you to walk around here.

And see this picture, or maybe Drake can hand it to you so you can understand what I'm saying. She's beautiful, but it's like that's not giving twenty three. That's given like thirty, right, and not in a bad way getting.

I'm saying. It's like you look that is very polished, mature. I'm mature. Yeah, sorry, go ahead with your advice. I feel like if it's a trauma bund, if you know it's a trauma bund, then I think you know what to do, Like you need to let it go. Like trauma bonds are not good things. You bonding with somebody over negative, toxic things. It's not something that you need to hold on to. I feel like it's no sustainability in that, it's no longevity in a relationship like that,

I feel like he's trying to take advantage of you, talking about he don't want to pay for.

Your hair and nail that's bear. But he giving all this money to these baby mama But he's not doing.

That because he doesn't want to, because he's thinking, I'm a date of twenty three year old. She's not gonna ask me for nothing. That's why he's not doing it. He's thinking that he can manipulate you. But you just seem, you know, a little smarter for him.

So girl, move on. He'll be alright. He gonna move on to the next twenty three year old.

Because any thirty five year old man dating a twenty three year old, I'm questioning his thought process anyway.

Chat a little weird, he a little weird. So okay, where do I eat?

I'm thirty at my now ex, the father of my kids is thirty one. We were together for seven years and I finally told him I can't do this anymore. I've been through it all with him, multiple cheating situations, physical fights, emotional abuse. He even slept with another woman in our bed while I was pregnant with our third child, after I took him back for getting me locked up.

I know no judgment zone right now. After I had our son, I lost my job and he became the only one working. But he instantly stopped.

Helping with the kids like I wasn't still healing and caring for a newborn, a toddler, and a school age child, plus keeping up with the house. He's always angry and miserable, and I finally hit my breaking point after a feed engagement. He sent me on vacations and had our kids with another woman. I broke it off the problem we still

What should I do?

You know, it's hard for me to relate to these type of situations because this is a judgment free zone. But it's hard for me to understand because I feel like you on child number three. I don't know how that feels, cause a nigga can't even get.

One out of me.

After he showed me his true colors. And that's just coming from because you already in there, you three kids deep. You have to lock in and get laser focus. That's the best thing I can tell you. Because we don't have children, We've never been in that situation.

Because y'all be.

Stop letting these men play in y'all face. I know it's a little late to say that, but when somebody shows you who they are, believe them. Okay, So all I can say for you now, because you're already in the trenches with them, y'all got three kids. It's too late. You gotta deal with this man for the rest of your life. All I can tell you now, get you a job and lock in, save up your money. Hopefully you have some friends and family that can help you out.

You made your bed. You gotta lay in it.

And I don't mean to say that harshly, but I literally I cannot give you any advice because I don't I don't know that life, and I'm not saying that to be mean, but I just hope that you can understand now that this is your chance to really move on and let him go.

He's not gonna change.

He's moping around with a sad face because he's trying to manipulate you. So I hope you can see that before there's a number four on the way, you know what I'm saying. So I'm praying that you can really lock in and save up your money, get some help from your community to get out of that house. But it's hard because I think of like if I have a friend that has a child, and if she needed to come to Atlanta and stay with me, baby, we good.

But if my friend had three kids, yikes. Yeah.

So all I can tell you is I is to lock in and try to do the best that you can to get out of that situation.

But the best thing is for.

You is to not let him fool you, because he's fooled you a lot. Focus on yourself and trying to get out. Because he's sitting around there and moping. Girl, he's not sad. He said that, he's not manipulating you anymore. All he's trying to do is real you back in.

So the best advice I can give you is stop falling for his lies so you can really move on.

Because it ain't too late to move on. There's plenty of men out here that will date you, plenty of people you can move on. You can have a life after him. I mean, look at cash Dog. Cash Dog got hu good one.

Yeah, two kids go hud outside having a ball.

So it can happen, but you have to really lock in and focus on I think when cash y'all got in her relations, she locked in.

She was working when she met her due. She was talking to KICKI Palmer.

She said, Oh, he just walked up to me and I was outside, I'm hosting a party. So sometimes you just got to lock in, focus on yourself, and that that.

Moving on will come to your child. But baby, I don't know. Yeah, I agree. I think that you just need to focus on yourself. I don't know if you have any close knit family that you can go stay in,

I was taking about heart situation. She was saying, well, I'm will you not letting me get.

To my point. Yeah, But what I'm saying is like she was just like yeah, she was like, I wanted my kids and I love my kids. She was like, so I'm happy that I had them. They're not a mistake. It's okay to have kids. But like when the situation don't work out, no when to move on? And I think the problem is it's not about a nigga tricking you. Watch your om because some women want to be mothers. Some women want to have children, and let's be real, you have a cut off age when it comes to

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