In this soul-stirring episode of Porn and the Gospel, Spencer dives deep into one of the boldest prayers ever recorded in Scripture—the moment Moses stood between God and a rebellious people and said, “Blot me out of your book.” What gives a man such courage? What kind of intimacy with God allows you to pray not just for yourself—but with fire and urgency for others? You’ll discover: Why your freedom from sin is about God’s glory, not just your relief. The missing link in most men’s prayer lives...
Jun 21, 2025•21 min•Ep. 31
In this episode, we'll discusses the struggles many men face in breaking free from destructive habits like pornography and masturbation. Based on scripture, we'll outline three key conditions for achieving spiritual fulfillment and joy: recognizing one's deep thirst and desires, believing in the truth and promises of the word of God, and asking the Holy Spirit to dwell in one's life.
Jun 15, 2025•24 min•Ep. 30
In this raw and timely episode, Spencer speaks straight to the soul of every man walking the path toward purity. He shares how sexual sin doesn’t start in the bedroom, but in the heart. Drawing from Proverbs 4:23, he explains why guarding your heart is not optional—it’s spiritual life support. You’ll hear the story of a brother facing deep relational brokenness because of compromise. You’ll hear how the slow drift into isolation and secrecy is Satan’s favorite trap. But most of all, you’ll be re...
May 25, 2025•16 min•Ep. 29
Want to join our free group of men who deeply desire to honor God with their lives? Learn more here - https://www.skool.com/modern-man-of-valor-free-6944/about Recently, I was attending a mastermind in Dallas and I wanted to share some thoughts I had about a successful investor with significant material wealth and zero debt. What can we learn, if we are payin attention, to those with tremendous worldly success in this life? 00:00 Introduction and Host Welcome 00:14 Real Estate Journey and Master...
May 18, 2025•15 min•Ep. 28
In this episode of 'Porn and the Gospel,' we look at John 15:9-10 and explore how the principles of Robert Sternberg's Triangulation of Love theory can illuminate a deeper, more fulfilling relationship with God. I want to challenge you to evaluate your own relationships with God. Is willpower enough? Or does it require something more? Does it require deep emotional intimacy and passionate desire? This episode encourages reflection on how best to cultivate a rich, holistic love for God to combat ...
May 10, 2025•15 min•Ep. 27
The Morning Hours - Prayer, Power, and Purity Psalm 5:3 ~ O LORD, in the morning you hear my voice; in the morning I prepare a sacrifice for you and watch. Let me begin this by saying, I understand that some men believe that they work and think and get energy mostly in the evening. And in doing so, they don’t give much thought to how they spend their mornings. If this is you, I want to challenge your assumptions. I want you to consider that prayer and preparation in the morning is far more valua...
Apr 10, 2025•17 min•Ep. 26
Join our free group at www.themanofvalor.com . In this episode, I'll be speaking specifically to a message from a brother who was looking for help and encouragement. This is what he said: "I feel so hopeless, I say I want to be free, ive confessed to friends and even to family. Set up accountability but I somehow end up isolating from them and going back into porn. I know it requires commitment to fight to make any progress.... I just can't seem to muster any lasting commitment. I really want to...
Apr 07, 2025•17 min•Ep. 25
In this episode, we'll explore the three characteristics of a man who experiences the presence of God. We'll be diving into Psalms 15:1-2 for much needed encouragement because, as men of God, there should be nothing more we desire than to live with integrity before the Lord in our daily lives.
Mar 14, 2025•20 min•Ep. 24
In this episode, Spencer shares a deeply personal story about the recent tragic death of his brother-in-law, Mark Meadows, a police officer and Army veteran. Sutton reflects on the fleeting nature of life and the importance of cherishing relationships over material pursuits. He emphasizes the urgent need for men, especially in the church, to engage in spiritual warfare against the schemes of the devil, particularly in the battle against pornography and sexual sin. Drawing from Ephesians 6, Spenc...
Jan 18, 2025•29 min•Ep. 23
Satan's first trick to lure people into sin is to show them the bait while hiding the hook; to offer the golden cup but conceal the poison inside; to highlight the sweetness, pleasure, and benefits of giving in to sin, while hiding the inevitable suffering and misery that follow. This is how he deceived the first humans. The serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. God knows that when you eat the fruit, your eyes will be opened, and you will be like gods, knowing good and evil” (Gen....
Oct 21, 2024•30 min•Ep. 22
In this episode, we will reflect on the importance of identity and faith by examining the story of Moses in Exodus 2:11-15. We'll contrasts Moses's actions with the approach Jesus displayed in Matthew 9:36-38. We must embrace their true identity in Christ, turn away from sinful temptations, and continuously look to God for strength and guidance. Join the community at themanofvalor.com to engage in deeper discussions and support.
Sep 01, 2024•27 min•Ep. 21
In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, we dive into the deep struggle many believers face with pornography and masturbation. Drawing from John 11, I discuss the importance of aligning our lives with God's perspective and purposes, even when it seems impossible. We explore the duality of the Christian life—both surrender and war—showing how true freedom comes from submitting to God’s will and waging spiritual battle against the flesh. Whether you’re in the midst of this battle or supporting some...
Aug 24, 2024•22 min•Ep. 20
There's nothing more hopeless than being stuck in the patter of habitual sexual sin. The broken promises, the secrecy, the shame, and the struggling relationships. In this episode we walk through the struggle and look at what God's Word and I'll share three helpful suggestions for any brother struggling.
Aug 18, 2024•27 min•Ep. 19
We all have habits. These habits either help us or hurt us. They either move us toward a life pleasing to God or aid in drifting into a life of powerful and painful regrets. In this episode, I'll share 8 helpful habits that anyone can start that will significantly impact your life over time.
Jun 02, 2024•40 min•Ep. 18
In the last episode from this series, I want to walk you through the actual process that a man of God can become free from porn. It's something that almost every follower of Jesus knows but rarely gives themselves to. I want to encourage you to take the next step in becoming the man of God he created you to be. This will result in your freedom, joy, and, ultimately, God's glory.
Jun 02, 2024•55 min•Ep. 17
The truth will set you free! This is a popular quote from Jesus in John 8...but what does Jesus set us free from? In this episode, we explore the four things that Christ sets every man of God free from.
May 11, 2024•30 min•Ep. 16
For every man of God, Jesus says, "If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:31-32. In this episode, I am going to walk you through how I became free from pornography. I hope that this will encourage you on your journey to freedom.
Apr 27, 2024•23 min•Ep. 15
Every man of God who is struggling with porn wants to be free. In this episode, I'll walk through what I see as four pillars of the man of God who finds freedom. These can all be found in 2 Samual 10.
Apr 06, 2024•34 min•Ep. 14
How does Jesus respond to our sins? How did He respond to the woman caught in adultery and brought before Him by the scribes and Pharisees? In this episode, we dive into the powerful words of Jesus in this encounter and how they apply to us, His followers.
Mar 24, 2024•26 min•Ep. 13
It says in John 7 that Jesus caused a division among those who heard him. Some believed while others wanted him arrested. But even in the life of a follower, he can cause division. He will not allow us to sit on the fence and be casual bystanders in this life. In this episode we will discuss the importance of commitment.
Mar 15, 2024•25 min•Ep. 12
Let's face it: I've made every mistake in the book when it comes to living a life of sexual integrity. And now that I speak with men every week about the same thing, I have noticed a BIG mistake that most of them are making. Listen in to find out what that mistake is and how you can avoid it.
Mar 07, 2024•26 min•Ep. 11
Jesus did not seek His own glory. He constantly reminded people of this throughout the book of John. His chief aim was to glorify God in all things. And He did that by telling the truth and having no falsehood in Himself. It had me asking the question, "How often do I seek my own glory even by telling lies of omission (not saying things I should be saying)? Hiding when I should be confessing...boasting when I should be fasting...laughing when I should be weeping." My flesh hates submission to Go...
Mar 03, 2024•11 min•Ep. 9
John 7:17 - If anyone's will is to do God's will, he will know whether the teaching is from God or whether I am speaking on my own authority. Is your will to do God's will? So often, men talk about obedience without actually obeying. And with that repetitive behavior comes a great danger - missing the truth of God's message. In today's episode, we dive into hearing the truth with the intention of obeying it. This is the man who will be blessed.
Mar 02, 2024•20 min•Ep. 8
Brothers, we want to be done forever with a lifestyle of habitual sexual sin. This means that we must follow and set our minds on the things that the Spirit has His mind set on. In this episode, I will walk you through two ways we kill habitual sin through the power of the Holy Spirit. Listen and then share it with a friend.
Mar 01, 2024•26 min•Ep. 7
Brothers, the LORD is so gracious to us and answers His children when we call on Him. Today, I want to walk you through five prayers I am praying for men struggling with sexual sin that I believe YOU, too, can adopt into your own time of prayer. These prayers have the potential to change your life forever!
Feb 18, 2024•43 min•Ep. 6
To be a single-minded man of God, we must let go of anything that would keep us from following the Lord's will for our lives. To be a double-minded man is the norm in today's world. Limping between two worlds and doing neither any good. In this episode, we'll explore the warnings we see in God's Word.
Feb 05, 2024•32 min•Ep. 5
What does it take to grow beyond our struggle with pornography? It takes faith in the promises of God. How do we grow our faith? We grow our faith by hearing, reading, studying, memorizing, and meditating on the Word of God. In this episode, we will look at four principles for approaching God's Word as outlined by John Newton.
Jan 21, 2024•34 min•Ep. 4
There is a lot we can learn from the life of Moses. Some of the most telling verses are found in the book of Hebrews that talk about what his faith enabled him to do for the glory of God. This episode will be both challenging and encouraging as we think about our own life and faith.
Jan 17, 2024•31 min•Ep. 3
The end of 2023 and the beginning of 2024 brought with it a lot of reflection. If 2023 were the last full year of my life, did I live it well? If 2024 is the last year I'll be alive in this life, what would I hope to accomplish? In this episode, we look at the Word of God's call for a life of urgency. We cannot afford to spend another year trapped, stuck, and held back by sexual sin.
Jan 13, 2024•28 min•Ep. 2
Your best life is prayerfully and purposefully preparing for the next. In this episode, Spencer walks through several passages that encourage us to develop a long-term view of our life here.
Dec 10, 2023•40 min
