Category 8: Reexperiencing | 'The Tinder Man'

Project Yes, Please! celebrates the erotic imagination and aims to break the taboos surrounding our fantasies and sexuality. To do so, our team interviewed over 300 people about their erotic fantasies (in a traveling caravan)and collected these fantasies in a book that was published by Dutch publisher Bruna in March 2020. In the book, we organized the 300+ interviews into nine categories of sexual fantasies. Seven of these categories were adapted from work by American sex researcher Justin Lehmiller, who surveyed over 4,000 people about their sexual fantasies to create a hierarchy of the most common fantasies. Categories include, among others, multipartner sex, BDSM and power play, non-monogamy, and taboo and forbidden sex. Each sound clip here represents one category and illustrates both the creativity of our erotic minds, as well as what we concluded is perhaps the biggest taboo of all: the taboo of being vulnerable, of ‘exposing’ our erotic desires. These audio excerpts of people sharing their fantasies were also part of the exhibition on erotic fantasies that was housed in Marres museum in Maastricht, the Netherlands, earlier this year. All participants have formally consented to the sharing of their interviews.