You know, you see masturbation in it, of itself. It oftentimes is not a real problem. The problem is that when you rewire your brain to associate sexual pleasure with poor and mess, and in your hand, rather than normal sex, Andy, because many people start to have this started this habit in the teenage years, it becomes so ingrained that it's so difficult to get it out of their head for later. So I always encourage parents to have this conversation about masturbation as, as early as well.
Hi, and welcome to Podcaster Stories each episode, we will have a conversation with podcasters from across the globe and share their story. What motivates them by the start to the show are the crucial And More will also talk about their personal lives and some of the things that have happened, I've made them the person you are today. And now here's your host. Danny Brown hi, and welcome to Podcaster. Stories where we meet the people behind the
voices of the shows we're listened to this week. I, in China with Roman Mironov host of the Be Version 2.01 of Yourself a show that helps people create amazing and enviable relationships and be a better you Roman welcome to the show. We were just chatting. They are a lot about, you've been to Toronto, so not too far from me. So well, how about you introduced yourself and your podcast? Hi, Danny, first of all, thank you so much for
having me. It's a pleasure and a privilege, and I am in a relationship coach and the life coach working from Toronto. I, in general, I help my clients build better lifestyle, a healthier lifestyle, a happier lifestyle. And my podcast has also about that is, as you said, is to be version 2.0 of Yourself and it's all about great relationships and being kind to yourself and being a real the best. What do you can be?
I know you had mentioned there that you help your clients be a better for them, and that comes through in a healthy, eating healthier live and et cetera. And I know you're also a big believer in end up yourself with your own journey and your own health journey, which will obviously talk about it as the show goes on. But how did you come up with the idea for the podcast itself? Was it natural progression from your coach at work or is that added on to it as a value on it?
For sure. I started the podcast and in order to market myself using it as a marketing channel. So I basically started growing as a coach taking my training, starting work for the, my clients. And in parallel I was, I started the podcast. So they, they sort of compliment each other because I use the ideas from my coaching
and the examples from my coaching and the podcast. And the idea is that come up when I, you know, record my, my, my show, I actually then write them down and use them in my coaching sessions, all that, because I was gonna ask you about that because obviously, you know, you have a podcast started in the summer of
2019, July, 2019 was the first episode. And originally it was just you and then the pot that are on the show, but recently you've been bringing on more guests to, to discuss their lives and to discuss their healthy habits. So what's the process of the site in which guests come on and how that sort of, he eats and to our, our, our flows over to you or your business life, so to speak.
Okay. So first of all, I decided on the topic that I wanted to cover it in to one of the next episode, then I look For for a person who is ready to talk about that episode. And especially that this is a little bit difficult because actually I want to go into, into specifics and I don't, I don't want to just chat about general stuff. I want to be very, very, like pick up one thing. I like being very good in your communication over, you know, different online channels. And I want us, I want the
conversation to focus on that. And the problem is that actually made it guests. They want to focus either on themselves or on something that they're is selling or just a general topics. So this, this makes it challenging a little bit. Right.
And, and obviously you, you, as you mentioned, you have come up with a Topics, have you ever had to like, not publish a show because of the guests has veered off of it that much to try something of a background as a promotional stuff, or is that everybody has been pretty good to get to go on that Beautiful question because he has, I have that kind of experience with, with the one gas, because I tried to keep her, I may maybe even to guests, I think, I think the, the, the first one is, it was
just completely the WWE, like when she kept going back to her, like to her products or services, and it just did not, did not offer much value. Yeah, that's true. And the, and the second one, I think, should I try to keep her on the topic, but she was, she was, you know, going to Gen things about her or a failed marriage. So it, it didn't, I, and I wanted to keep talking about a breakup, like going over the break up specifically, but she was just, you know, to all over
the place. And I appreciate it that, but I mean, I want to deliver value to my audience and I didn't feel that I could do that with her, with the interview that were recorded or not. I, I D I don't want to be, I don't want to come across as a disrespectful, but I'm, I'm all about the value. And I say it in a high, a high quality of content, rather than Josie, you know, recording one or two hours of Gen stuff that no one wants to listen to it. All right.
And, and I think honestly, because of your type of shoe as well, that the value has to be there for your listeners, because it's an in their relationships in their health and they, or their life. So if someone is giving the wrong advice or just push an agenda for want of a better word that fits into their own promotional stuff, that's not going to be equitable in, you know, lead to damage and the results for your listeners, I guess.
Mmm. Well, sometimes maybe, you know, people come, people do come off as guests with generally a positive messages and they are offering great. CA, I really good advice. The problem is that it is not a real specific to specific enough for my show or four, the topic that I wanted to discuss, that's it, it's, it's really about just, you know, being, being too general and not being too specific, not being too practical.
You know, obviously now that you've got guests, there will be bringing in a, a lot of additional information and experiences that you've been sharing as well, you know, from your own life and from your earlier types of the podcast, what what's been some of the things that maybe you've learnt from your guests that you've taken and to your own life and, and, and improved, or in an area, or to change something because of something that your
guest's brought up. I think I like one of my recent episodes with a coach or a communication coach as well. It should talk to
me a lot. What are the things that should I talk to me is to actually be on the video when, when you communicate with anyone online, if it can be on the video or do it because of the video ads too, the communication so much more, because it introduces all those nonverbal communication pieces that we miss when we just talk over a voice, however, however, don't let the things stop you like, or don't over commit to VTO to the point where you say, okay, I don't
have, like, I don't have 30 minutes to go all in on a full video call. So I won't do it at all. Now, if you have five minutes and you want to do just an audio call, do it, lets us do it. And also one, one a good piece of advice she gave was What that he actually needed to be more expressive, fun with the line of communication, because we tend to be more robotic, more reserved when we talk online versus offline.
So we need to remember about this and it really, really put in more effort than just, just be more expressive, smile, more, make more gestures, just, yeah, No, I like that advice as well. Obviously we are recording. We have SquadCast at the moment. And one of the reasons I like that, it it's got to the screen room that we were using, where it's a video option we don't use. And a video of it will be an audio show obviously, but the video option is
here. And to your point, they just seeing someone's I reaction because then you think you can tell, as you mentioned, we miss that nuance there. Oops. I may have said something there that it's actually insulted my guests without realizing it. Or you get just a more dynamic interaction between people, I think. Exactly. Yeah. It's, It's the right of word interaction. It really is. It triggers a, it, it, it helps you be more emotional and then the other person reads this off you are.
And also it becomes a more emotional and that just increases the intensity of communication makes it, it makes it more fun. So if I do, you know, your show has been gone for about a year and a half now. So July, we are mostly going to have to think, have there been any episodes that have stood out in particular for you and if so, why that episode or are these episodes? It's my most popular episode, about 81 meal a day, way more people listen to it and to watch it
on, even watching it on a YouTube. I mean, I put it on as a YouTube video right now. I think it was like 1300 people watched it, which is like really insane for at least for my show That was going to ask you about that. 'cause one of the things that you've done as you've, you've had a complete change of lifestyle from your earlier years where you are, you have changed up your eating habits, your healthy and live and habits. And you'd mentioned just know that you have one meal a day, which is you
can fall in a keto diet. Is, is that correct? Or did you snuck as well? Or are you, how did you know a snack? Is it just the one meal? And then you've just missed snacks all together because I had really missed snacks. I'm just curious though, if it's a stricter regime, if any of your life,
Absolutely. No snacks, only water, that's it just water. It won't be, If you decide to take that, was it a health issue or did you just look at how you were eating and living that you decided to change or how long A, you know, Danny, first of all, I look at this as an experiment. So I've been taking this experiment for more than a year. I felt good about it. And maybe I will change my mind. I don't know.
I don't know. There are like pros and cons for me, the best thing is that it lets me compartmentalize my life. So I started with in the first part of my day, I work that the second part of my day is I exercise. And the third part of my days rest where I actually have my meal. This is this one meal. So it helps me like really, really be effective. And it's not really affect that made
me be efficient. See, because I didn't want to break my first part of my day, which his work by Niels for me, this is the biggest benefits. And they also say there are health benefits to it. And I, I think those benefits are pretty valid. And one of them was that actually you managed your insulin better because the fewer times that you need you're in the date and the less often are you releasing insulin
and insulin, his bad for you. And is it, So is that it's so the one meter that you have is that like a larger meal to account for that, and then the non or other meals of your Lake, or does it sort of still a standard set aside? No, of course it's larger because I, I need to get the Keller's in right day to, and I know A lot of people, I'm not sure that you've tried it now. I know a lot of people are doing
intermittent fasting. So I guess that's kind of similar to, to your point, or is it a little bit different? Exactly. It is an intermittent fasting. So my, my protocol is 22 hours of fasting and about two hours of eating some of these 20, 22 to two, whereas a lot of people, they stick to this 16 to eight protocol. All right. And that's 16 hours of a, like a week's time, eight hours of downtime. When you first start, I fully got that wrong. That's a different one, right? 16, eight,
Six to 80. Yeah. It was just like this. So let's say you start eating at 10:00 AM and you finish eating at 6:00 PM, right? That's eight hours that eating window, his eight hours and the remaining window was 16 hours. It was when you were a rest from food.
No, you get your podcasts. That's about as, as you mentioned earlier, helping people on their personal journey and whatever that looks like, and this is the same for your coaching, but it's a, their health or their business goals are the goals, et cetera, but your own journey as being quite an up and up and down. One I got, I guess over the last few years, you mentioned that you got divorced in 2014 and then you moved to, like, you made a big move from a country
where you were living to Canada five years later. So I guess in 2019, you, you came to Canada. How much of a change was all of that? And, and how much of an impact did that make in your life at that time? Okay. So I always wanted to live in North America. So when I had this wonderful chance to come to Canada, I used it. I used it. And you know, my experience here in Toronto, it has been, is different, is different. So first of all, a like a lot of things. So I used to live in Russia and
Russia. He's basically a third world country. So here in Toronto, I get all of these benefits, like a great legal system, safety, secure investments, Now cleverness organization, which we don't usually have it in Russia, but at the same time, I feel lonely. I feel a little bit, and I actually feel nostalgia. I miss my, I miss my family. I miss my son, especially who is, who is they're back in Russia or with my ex-wife. So I always wanted to come to come to a country like Canada or us to
live here, but I did not. I never realized how lonely would feel and how difficult it is to do that at 36. And, and now I had a third 38. All right. And obviously, I mean, the, the pandemic at the moment, you can't help either because that really limits our interactions physically with people as well. I mean, obviously we can make up a zoom call or whatever, but you can, you mentioned out at about the, the, the video interaction that we're having and you have with clients,
it's we need that physical visual touch. So how so, how has the pandemic pantry, and, you know, you know, I guess over the last year, I'm going to work from home, which is, which is fine by me, by the way, because this is a very efficient, I actually, I tried doing in summer the summer, I worked with a client here in Toronto, we're doing, you know, just like walk-in sessions. And they turned
out that is, this is not really helpful. And my coach, and because I can really focus on, I just don't know how to get distracted by all of the things. And I were can't really do practice as like visualization or a meditation. So, I actual, I'm sort of thankful two Covid in this sense, which it doesn't mean I like it. Yeah. And I, I feel bored. I'm a little bit of stay at home field or feeling lonely, but compared to, to my clients, and then we talk about this
all the time. They go it with them, they feel much, much worse. So I feel that even though we know it is, it has lowly, it just stayed at home. I was still, you know, I'm grateful that it's not that bad for me as For, I don't feel that bad as some other people do. And I. And I'm guessing because of your own journey as well, with the divorce and you come into Canada and, and, and, and build in your life here while it's, you know, your you're not surrounded by you're family.
That must be helpful for that, the culture and that you do in an offer and people are in similar situations and help them overcome it too. Do you find that you're, or you're also learning and get in help
for the poor description? So there is a better word than that, obviously, but when you're, when you're working with your clients and they are sharing their story and you're helping them make the changes, do you find that almost a therapeutic for you as you continue to go through your door and change?
Absolutely. There's such a, such a good observation. Danny because I really feel that the, this pain that I feel from loneliness and really just any paid and even paying that ice subject myself to like hypoxia or exposure to cold showers, this helps me connect to my clients, understand them better. Because if, if, if like everything was perfect in my life, I wouldn't be just in a very different place. And it would be difficult for me to
understand that that's one thing. And another thing that I appreciate about this, let's say, be the lowland, those other, you know, ways to inflict pain on myself is that I built psychological resilience. It, it really helps because down the road, things, we will not go with the way that I want them to go. And let's say Gen, but like, just, just think about family. You you, the members of your family,
they eventually die. Right. And when I look at this, even though this, this time it was difficult for me while I'm away, it helps me realize that at some point in my life, they will pass. That's a way, and I will not be able to do, to be with them just like now. So it just makes me stronger. And of course it makes me appreciate them so much more while they're here. And I think that's, that's like a real important distinction. As you mentioned, I know a lot of people through
the pandemic, I'm kind of sad. It makes us realize it exactly what we've gotten, what we could lose. 'cause, you know, a life can be snuffed out immediately You know, and you will never get a chance to you see all these horror stories of people not being allowed, their loved ones that have to say goodbye. It they're
at the hospital was in the us, you know? So, so, so to your point, I think it's, it's a really important to, to be aware of exactly what could happen and, and how we can prepare ourselves, you know, for that. Exactly, exactly. And that's actually a very good example that you gave about not being able to see your loved ones. Let's say I have, I have a coach and client here in Toronto, and she has a sister, an older sister who is, who is sick right now. And she is in a very bad shape, really in a
very bad shape. And my clients can not see her just because of this long down restrictions. And she feels so, so sorry about that. Yeah. So I know that obviously the vaccines or starting to the roll out across the globe and, and hopefully, and some form of normality will come back or whatever that looks like post COVID, because as soon as you
mentioned is having a horrible affect on it. A lot of people are in a lot of, you know, ways of life, I guess, one of the things that, that, that made me smile to when I was chatting with you, I'm pretty sure. And we were just going back and forth on email. You had mentioned that you've given up masturbation know I was that an off-the-cuff remark where you're just like, be in that as a funder Mark
or what have you given it masturbation? And if so, what was the, the sort of your thinking behind that? Is that tied into your, your lifestyle now or something different? Yeah. Yeah. You mentioned that because this is an actual one of my biggest specializations as a coach, too, because I, I went through that experience almost seven years ago. I like, I know how to do it, and I can show my clients how to do it. And, and there isn't, I gave it up because it really was holding
me back. And I was at a lot of time at a lot of energy and how it was, felt shamed have to wear. I masturbated, especially because I was married. So I kept masturbating through my marriage and it was really, really, really, really shameful for me. I could not like, yeah, I, I could get a quick escape from feeling bored by masturbating, but there was just like a couple, a couple of minutes of feeling good and then hours or feeling bad about myself. I was really feeling that I was still in the
time from my ex wife and my little son. So that, that was my big reason. Know, you mentioned that you felt shame because you were married, obviously, so maybe you felt like I have a life they don't need to master a bit. Does that, do it, did the shame, is that come from like my PA your upbringing, or is that just something that you've felt through the, the action of, through the, the, the sort of your environment you were end at the
time? And yeah, I will say it's a, it, it came from my upbringing in my high standards, my wanting to be consistent
with my identity, have a person with integrity. So it, it never, it never really felt really, really, really never, always, maybe may be in my teenage years, it didn't feel right because I, I didn't like the fact that I was hiding and then over the years to just get, you know, exacerbate it because, you know, and now I have this wife and his son, and I was supposed to be a role model for, for my son. And I masturbating again, hiding So I I guess. So I was just, it was all about my integrity.
Right. I wonder if that, so, because, because we don't feel like our conversation, I've got two young kids are out of town in it, and my wife and I always try to balance the conversation as I get older and still, K what are we going to talk about it now? And you can see their, their change in emotions and, and maturity, if you like. And, and one of the things we were always on a par, I know when I was growing up, my, my grandparents and my
parents were always very secretive about you. Shouldn't be doing now, you know, you know, God all look down on you and I are in a bad way of You or whatever. And I was wondering, as, you know, people have moved forward on generations of move forward and, you know, its people don't have the HEID being a homosexual for example, are, you know, be in a so-called different from what's classic as a norm.
I wonder if as, as, as more people don't see something as secretive and encourage it, if, if, if it might make it more acceptable, I don't know what your thoughts are on that. Yeah. You know, when it comes to masturbation, I think that people are still pretty, pretty secretive about it. They don't want, they don't want to talk about it with their kids. They don't want to talk about, we talk
about it with other people, including coaches. So let's say that's why quite, just, just, you know, basically a handful of people that feel, find the strength in themselves to reach out to someone for help about masturbation. And this is this the right thing to do. Definitely because oftentimes it as a problem, maybe not, not the masturbation. So usually watching pornography, if it can be a problem.
And, and where that leads to, Obviously I had, there was that big story, I guess it's a bit of the last month or maybe a December. So one of the biggest ones is porn hump. And that's based in Canada of all places and its in Quebec. Umm, and they got like the government got involved in like a, a boat 70 or 80% of their content got pulled down because it was underage teens.
It was, you know, it was very specific category. So as you mention it, that's a huge issue from a legal point of view and not ranching on everything else. So yeah, it, it's definitely a, I can see like pornography is as can be like a huge issue is like sex trafficking or et cetera. Exactly. It's like just a, as a father who has a 10 and eight year old kids or are they assigned? No and our daughter is eight year old.
Okay. Yeah. So like, just think about thinking about the boy, who would you would you want him to, you know, be like stayed in his room and watching porn and masturbating and hiding this and then, you know, wasting the time and his potential on this. What would you, would you want him to do that? I guess not right. Yeah. Yeah. Well, yeah, you bet at the moment we are good. We're good. In the helix to play video games, we have myself and my daughter said, we've got
this little Tim thing going on. And so that's good that keeps them occupied here. But yeah, he's so nice. Tanny, you'll be a living in me, what you see in each others are fast approach and so maybe it will be here and we'll that maybe that'll be a new challenge. Yeah. Yeah. I challenge you to have this conversation with him, sit down with him and without shaming, just, just really explaining the perils of masturbation is a special report. You know, if you see masturbation in of itself, it
oftentimes is, is it's not really a problem. The problem is that when you rewire your brain to associate sexual pleasure with poor and mess any of your hands, rather than normal sex, Andy, because many people start to have this and start this habit in teenage years, it becomes so ingrained that it's so difficult to get it out of their head later. So I always encourage parents to have this conversation about
masturbation as, as early as possible. So I know that's for sure that that would be a bit like maybe I'll send them to Toronto for a couple of coaching sessions. I will get them on the zoom I was in line with, you know, we had mentioned that you should get it launched in July of 2019 and it is it's how many episodes are, you know? Okay. How about 40, 40 of them? Yep. So it was, so what are your goals for
the future? You have just started introducing more guests to the show, a alongside your own staff, what's your goal or are you changing it for a month? Maybe doing more video. And then she mentioned earlier on or At it at this point. My main goal is to focus on, on masturbation and porn. So maybe the next down to episodes, I want to really, really focus on that because this has like the, the, the bulk of
my work. And I really want to do find to find a niche and my marketing weight, because I say that I'm a relationship coach and it just, you know, that's, that's too broad for me. I have been trying with this, with this specific topic for an masturbation and it showed me some pretty good results. So I'm happy about those results. I appreciate them. And I think I need to develop more in this area. Okay. Okay. And obviously, you know, you'll be having guests on
too soon to like share their experiences. And what would you be able to see a lot of clients on that you've helped with this? Or would you be keeping that separate? And there are privacy, is it separate, I guess are kind of For a separate, of course my clients, they, they reached out to me, but they are very, very secretive about, about this habit of basically like if I think about all of my clients now, I think there was just one person who told about this to anyone else beside
me. So I actually feel very honored for a while. And I talk to my class because they are, I am the only person they let know about their problem. You've obviously got, get up an interest in background and with different experiences, with different people and you meet a lot of different people through your client work and through your podcast, if you had to name one passion that would be C your all time inspiration, you're all the time hero. Who would that be and why that person?
Hmm. I think that there are a lot of people who inspire me, but just the one that comes to mind right now, for some reason it is, are on it just because I was writing his biography of with my son a yesterday Over over WhatsApp, but any way that's Arnold Schwartzenegger K is first of all, he has such a great influence on me because I grew up on his movies back in the back in the nineties,
even though I was in Russia, they were translated. So he was, yeah, he was a role model for me when I started to work out, when I started to build muscle and strength. And since then, he has also become a role model for me in many other areas, including the achievement motivation, just, I mean, let's say for example, one of his principles is that to get good at something you need to do a lot of repetitions. Like you do reps at the gym, the same thing with when it comes to my mastery in any of
the areas of your life. I like his policy. I like his strategy about investments. He always, he always sad that you need to invest all the time and you need to, let's say never, never buy a house. Your first house don't buy it to live in it. If you buy a house, buy it as an investment. Yep. So he w was also a very frugal. I resonate for that a lot. I live in a minimalist lifestyle. I do my best too, you know, to cover my expenses. So this is an another, lets say he always cooked.
He has his own food. And when he, he did not a, he didn't had a, any luxury As things or ways to spend time when he was young, but what he would do if he would just, but when he came to do the United States from Australia, he would just take his girlfriend to the beach and they will just hang out there for a very cheap and very effective, Good for the half. I mean the outside of fresh air at the beach, the seat, they have their fingers.
Perfect. Right. There we go. And I remember watching the, the documentary I'm back when I was a kid put all the back in the UK on when I was by my town of 12, I can remember what it was that it was called. It was the, or something Irin documentary, but it was pumping, pumping iron. That's it. Thank you. So he was going through the, the, the readiness for the show. And I think if I recall Luther Cigna was also in the documentary along with some
other bodybuilders at the time. And it was interesting to see how they both got into act in afterwards. And they, they, they had to sort of a similar career path, you know, obviously Lou Ferrigno was the hog corn and for him for Narnia and then a Terminator and all of that. So it's an interesting to see how these, these like the, the bodybuilders to us and to the, the, the movie industry at all, but at the same time.
Exactly, exactly. And that's another, another thing I like about Arnold Schwartzenegger because he actually made this, you know, there are difficult shift in his career, right? So he used to be a bodybuilder. He has to be an athlete. And then he became a great actor, which, I mean, I guess what I'm saying is that old people have this potential. They have potential to be, to be great. And basically whatever they like to do. But so many
people, they just wander that potential. Maybe they, they get, they just get good at something in their life and they stay there, even if it gets stale. And let's say the interest in industry that they're in, like, you know, dies off, but they still stay there. Yeah. I, I know like a sports and a guy who was always, which is why are you going into politics? But it was always in the big America of the great American dream by immigrant comes in to the country
and gets to the highest position of the land. So it be an amazing story. And I was like, he was very vocal when Trump was in power, like the videos that are shared and the, you know, the, the, the movements he held back, et cetera. It's interesting to watch a move from his movie star, going to a career and to this, you know, serious politician, it's really pushing back against what Trump's stood for, what that kind of presidency stood for it.
Yes, exactly. Exactly. So there you go from a bodybuilder to a movie actor to governor, and now to this, like what media person this is. Yeah. This is the best example of the potential that everyone has and how, how we all can actually find motivation as long as we, as we find that motivation. And we can actually, you know, get great results. No, for sure. For sure. So, so Roman, This, I've really enjoyed chatting with you today as been a really interesting talk with
very different topics, right. Which is what I love about Dennis Shaw, going to meet people like yourself that can really share a diverse range of your experiences. So I do appreciate your coming on today. Thank you for that. Well, Danny thank you for having me. It's been an honor. Thank you so much For sure. Now, so for, for people that want to connect with you, either follow you online are reaching out for coaching sessions based on the topics that the fed
just discussed today. Where's the best way for them to either connect with you, to listen to your podcast, et cetera. Yeah, it's my website. Roman Mironov dot com. Spelled S a S R O N M a N N M I R I S O N O V. Kit. The Contact tab. Contact me for a free coaching session. And if you do sign up for coaching and let me know that you came off, the podcast was tourist podcast. I'll be happy to give you a 30% discount. Oh wow. I will definitely be sending to my son over a
zoom call in some States. That's amazing. Thank you so much. Yes, yes. If you sign him that that'd be great. That'd be great. Let's go out and I'll be sure to drop the links, you know, to Roman site and his podcast and to the show notes. So a whatever app you'll tend to listen to the, the show on and make sure to drop down to the show notes to click these links. So again, Roman, I really appreciate it today. Thank you for that. Okay. Thank you. Danny the pleasure was mine, you know?
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