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but I was always so bad. I mean, I mean, today's Kaaba is focused on three ayats' of Surah to use of solitude surface. Of course, one long story account of the events that took place in the life of Yusuf alayhi Salam. And this is much later in the story. So I'm going to fast forward. To the part that just to give you some background of what these three ayats have to do with. Before I talk about the lessons that come from them, this is a part of the story where use of
alehissalaam has been separated. For some time from his family. He was thrown into, you know, a well from there ended up being a servant from there, falsely accused. He ended up in prison and from there, he's also been released from prison now and he serves as a minister essentially you can call him a minister of finance as he's, that's taking care of the the budget. And the, you know, the economic crisis that's happening in the country. So he's in a position of power now.
And in that position of power, because there's a famine, all the villagers, all the surrounding areas, they don't have any food. So they all come to the kingdom to receive their quota of food is basically a kind of, you know, welfare system. Now, people don't have enough money anymore. So they have to come to the government and they will supply them food for each household.
And the rule was, you have to bring all the main members of your family so that we can know the Ben can know these are. How many bags were supposed to give? You can't come. I got six brothers at home. Could you give me seven bags? You can't do that. You have to bring all the brothers with you, so they can verify that. This is actually the right amount that's being given, especially in a time of Crisis. You can't have people taking more than they deserve.
So, the brothers of Yusuf, including the youngest one are now called to receive the their share of the food. And they've come and Yusuf alayhi, Salam recognizes them while they don't recognize him. And so he hashes a scheme to keep his brother with him. He basically essentially, you know what, you can call falsifies evidence, puts a puts one of the golden cups inside, one of the bags and then accuses them, you people have stolen from the, from the King.
And then when that's where the case comes out in the back comes out. Now, this youngest brother is being held under house arrest. So the rest of his brothers have gone back to the dead and now two of them are together use of and his brother are together. They think he's been arrested. What's really happened is use of just To keep him with him. That's what was really going on. Alehissalaam.
In any case, this is a scene of when these brothers went back to their father, this is the second time they're going back to their father. The first time they went back to their father, they lost Yusuf and they lied about it. They said a wolf ate him. The second time they took the youngest brother and now they said, well, he got arrested. So this is the second time they're going to, they're dead and they're going to give him the same news.
They gave him so many years ago. We've lost another son, you've lost another son of yours at our hands. And so when he hears this news from them, this is where I'd like to begin is what was the reaction of yaqoob? Alehsalaam before I go to the reaction of yaqoob. Alehsalaam, you should understand that. The words, the beautiful words in the Quran, subroutine Jamil beautiful patients or finding Beauty in patience is an expression that is attributed directly to yaqoob
alehissallaam. So here in the Quran, is actually a model for what is it mean to show patience and what does it mean to show patience beautifully? He's a model for that. Being a model for that in the Quran, I want you to pay attention in myself to remind myself. What is his reaction when his sons tell him binyamin is also gone? He's not coming back either. He says Allah says what Allah and home he turns his back away from them. Meaning he turns away from his sons.
Well Carla. Yeah, Asif. Ali Yusuf, he calls out my poor Yusuf. What a horrible tragedy has fallen upon use of wait. It wasn't use of that was taken away. It was, when you mean that was taken away, Yusuf was taken away many, many years ago, but, you know, they say in Arabic Al Assad Yabba thalassa one tragedy Sparks the memory of a previous strategy tragedy. He was reliving the crisis of
use of in his heart. And this is many many, many years later, which tells you he's not over it before we go any further, we have To understand what we do to each other. Somebody has a crisis in their home. Somebody has a tragedy, may be a loss of a child, a loss of appearance, some some or the diagnosis of a disease, some tragedy took place. And when you B go to a janazah and we tell these people, you shouldn't be crying. You should be patient.
You should be patient. Have someone have someon? 7:30, we assume that not crying is the same as suburb or not. Complaining is the same as stubborn Yusuf Ali Yusuf. Ali salons loss has been many many years and he hasn't Forgotten it still lives inside of him. It's not just get over it. It's okay. Just be grateful to Allah and get over it. No, it doesn't work that way. Not even for a profit. Not even for a model of somebody Jamil.
This is Allah, as I was his sensitivity to the hearts of those who have been hurt those who suffer pain, those who have loss of loved ones. And so he says, first of all, yeah, sfr, and I use of mini cries out over his loss of use of, he's remembering that all over again. And then Allah says that's not enough. Not only did he speak out his complaint and cry. Outers complaint Allah says what blah blah, taina who his eyes turned white? What that means. According to some is he cried so much.
You couldn't see the pupils of his eyes. Others say, he cried so much that he became blind, which seems to be the case, given the context because later on farted a bazillion, he became someone who could see again. So, he cried so much as a result right now that he lost his eyesight, what? But I know. And so now two things have happened one, he's cried out.
Meaning he's screamed, he's Even you know, made the verbalized his pain, he didn't keep it inside of him and second of all he's crying his eyes out to the point where he's blind, it's not just some normal event, but I want you to remember again, he's not crying over binyamin first in his mind it's use of all over again. Yeah. Safale Yusuf. And then after all of this a lot actually gives us. The reason why he had such a breakdown. Why did he fall apart?
Like this all this time he was okay, with what? And with Yusuf and all of a sudden, what's wrong with you? Allah says, fa huwa kaleem. This is why we pay attention to every letter and every word in the Quran. The Ayah is not what who are kaleem that would have been Joomla, Hallelujah. But this is far, who are covering this is what's called a fat ass Suburbia.
What that means is and all of that happened, because because of what, because of the fact that he was swallowing this pain all along, he had been keeping that pain inside of him all this time and now this one little thing happened, This one more event happened. The loss of his youngest son again and he couldn't take it in anymore. What we're learning now is there are people of great patience just because you can see them smiling or just because you
don't see them. Crying doesn't mean they're not carrying a lot of pain inside of them. They may have been carrying it for a very very, very long time. And finally, eventually they erupt finally, they can't take it anymore. She can't take it anymore and she erupts and you say what happened to her? All of a sudden, why did you go crazy like that? I was you're perfectly fine last time. Last week, last month, couple of years, you didn't say anything and all of a sudden you're going psycho.
What happened to you? This is actually what we do because we don't realize somebody may be carrying pain inside of them, even if they're not letting it outside, this is a lot of telling us that this has been an ongoing thing with him for who are kaleem, it's not even Calvin. It's Colima system. Shiva to illustrate. This is a long-standing problem inside the heart of yaakov alehissalaam. But then we learned the flip
side of this equation. On the one hand, you have this man who's dealt with so much deep and profound sadness. And on the other hand, what he has is an unsupportive family. His sons are not very sensitive to him, not very respectful to him and not very caring. You know, in a lot of families because just because somebody does their physical responsibilities look, I cleaned the place or I provide I give the pay the paycheck. I support financially or I do my pie. Do my chores?
That's your contribution. The household. That's it. Don't ask me anything else. This is kind of the case with his sons their sons are. In fact, providing for the household, they're the ones who went out to get the food, didn't they? They're the ones that are taking care of many responsibilities in the house later, earlier on, in the suit of even learned that no one else but they are the power. There are powerful Bunch so they are supporting the household in many physical ways.
But that doesn't mean that you're a good member of the family or a supportive member of the family. When a member of the family is in pain. It's very common to dismiss or to find Empathy for someone, you don't know if somebody you don't know is crying. If somebody you don't know, it's sad, if somebody you don't know is complaining like all my heart goes out to those kids, my heart goes out to those Elders. Look at those pictures. But if your own brother was crying, if your own family
members get over it, man. Come on. I know this is drama. Just move on. In other words, it's very easy for us to become insensitive to our own to not. Look at the feelings and the sentiments of our own to over to just completely gloss over them. And that's what they do. Even with Father, their fathers crying at this point. And what do they say? First of all, tell Allah, he which is not translated, we swear to God. That is useful to a job.
Actually, you know, even if you know a little bit of Arabic normally the Arab says wallahi, but here the ISS done allahi ta'ala. He means I swear to God, like they start yelling at him, tough toe, that's going to use of, are you going to keep mentioning Yusuf? Could you cut it out already? We're not talking about yourself right now. We're talking about binyamin. Seriously Yusuf again and tough tattoo is also, it's not
mentioned. When I wrote a column will be Alama, Al Johan. It's never used except when you're making an argument when you're arguing and becoming upset with someone that's that when the word after we will use, are you still going to talk about Yusuf and on top of all of that, the the Asylum of the our job, in this Ayah there, first of all, table is used, which is strange.
After all, by itself is a rare word to use, then it's commonly used as Matt after all, but the my's it used, which suggests, you know, there, Anger and they're shocked and their loudness more than usual against their Father. Allah, tough toe, Tuscaloosa otaku najara. Don, are you gonna keep talking about use of get over it already. Look at this, has he been talking about Yusuf know? He was holding it inside? Quran tells us, he was swallowing it all in.
Its this, after a long time, he couldn't take it anymore, and he cried out Yusuf, but these young men are so impatient. And, so not willing to hear that. Cries of their father. They snap at him. Get over it already old man, why are you bringing it up again? And when they say this to him they say Hut that da cunha. Hold on until you become Herod Herod in Arabic is actually a lot Radu and highly commended on someone who's about to die out of disease and Levi Le Hao Yuan FEI oranje.
Well, I am moved. Well, I'm a glutton for you as you as men who in other words, not someone not quite alive that you're hoping they get better. Not quite dead that you can give them a funeral. Meaning someone who's paralyzed facet, they also say someone who's got no good in their body left. Are you gonna kill yourself? Are you going to paralyze yourself crying over him? You've already lost your eyes. You're going to completely become disabled. Get over this already.
Move on with your life. These are the kinds of things. They're saying to him and they say, you know, what best case scenario you become paralyzed. Worst-case out Akuna Minal, Holly Ken or you'll just die. You'll become of those who died. Just is that what you want? And now they're thinking, they're helping their father, this Must be tough love like they're going to talk to their dad and yell at him and he'll
snap out of it, you know. But now we learn one of what I feel after studying this Ayah, one of the most misused and I would even argue abused ayats of the Quran in the name of our team, when it comes to people's feelings and sentiments when you have, you're entitled to feel sad. If there's something bad that happened to you many years ago, many months ago, ages ago and you keep remembering it and it overwhelms, you you're not wrong. You can you should seek help for it but it's not wrong.
That it hurts, you still. Yeah. Bloo - Alam is entitled to his grief. He's entitled to cry out. But when they complained to him like this and they yell at him like this, what does it mean? Sometimes people are in these tragic situations but the loved ones around them or the family around them is not very sensitive. They don't want to hear it, they have no one to talk to. We're actually now kind of
learning. Why has he been holding it in all these years because he had nobody to talk to one time. He opens his mouth Snap. They don't give him a chance to speak. So what does he say? He says call in omashu Bethy or Hosni, in Allah.
I am only complaining about the things that I'm letting out of my heart bus actually means to spread like well, but Sofia, you know, men could lead up. But in Allah says, when he spread on the land, all kinds of creatures but this stuff really hustling is to spread something out, but it's used in conversation to describe something you're holding in your heart and now you're spreading it out, you're letting it go.
So he says, I'm only complaining about what I've been containing inside and I'm finally letting it out and even when I do, let it out and all of the sadness that I've been kept, Up inside all of that, which I've kept inside, I'm only complaining to Allah, not to you not to anybody else in the school with you, our house, until Allah. This is what I wanted to share with you is one of the most commonly misunderstood, you know, ayaat in the Quran it's not taken in its context and
when somebody says I'm having this problem or that problem people say Aki complain to a lot. Don't talk to me because Allah says in the mush kubasaki Warehouse. Need a la Jakob Elisa Lam said, I only complain to Allah I don't talk about my problems. Anybody else? What is this? Context of these ayats in these ayats, he doesn't talk to his family because his family is not what supportive. He doesn't have anybody to talk to.
He doesn't have anybody to share his grief with that is when he turns to his family whose child is that. It's okay. I'm not angry but other people can't hear the holding. His mouth is not going to help a walk. Might help a walk might help Jolla just be, you know, we are a family community here and yes of course there are going to be children in the Harbour and that's completely fine. Hey crazy kid, I'll come after you if I don't see you as he again, I'll come after you.
I'll stop the whole band come after you. Okay, so that it's completely fine. Don't feel embarrassed if I stop and correct, we should also be patients with the presence of children. It's completely fine that they're here. It's a blessing of Allah that they're here, right? But also parents should be courteous. If your kid is a little too baton in my opinion, then you should just pull them to the side, come down and bring them back and shallow, Tada Sakamoto hand for understanding.
Okay, in any case. So, I was saying, when he says, I'm only complaining about my grief and I'm letting out my feelings, and I'm only letting expressing my sadness. To Allah. What he's essentially saying is, I have no one in my family that I can complain to. I have no one in my family, that will understand my feelings. So the only one, I even, even when I do cry out, I will only a lot of cry out to even rasulullah. Sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he had a problem in his married.
Life, he's out, he's out outside counsel, he sought help from the outside. This is a Sunnah of rasulullah saw him. You would say he should only complain to Allah. You know, you have places in the Quran. Like, for example, a woman comes To the Prophet. Elijah them and says my husband is divorcing me and he's saying I'm like his mother now and she complains to him and a lot, records are complete with a sticky Allah. But before she did it stick out to a lot to John DeLuca of his OG, huh?
She argues she's debating with you about her husband and then she complains to Allah. So she had somebody to go to First and she expressed herself and of course, then she took her matter to Allah. So it's oppressive to tell someone don't seek help for your problem. You don't need to talk to. But he just talked to a line that should be good enough for you. That is not good advice. That is the advice.
That is the situation of some people who have no support around them, when you have absolutely no support around you, then of course, you still only have Allah that's his circumstance, you know? You have, you know, later on, you're going to find that. He's going to find so much comfort in his son. Binyamin also finds comfort in
his brother. So here at acuña huddled on out Akuna Mina, Holly Keen, he finally ends in the Magic School Bus Iwakuni. Allah, while I'm moving a lot him a lot and I just want to recap just a couple of quick things before I conclude this. One thing I want to highlight is it's completely okay to cry. It's complete, and this is crying is not the same as not having stubborn. Yahoo male Salam is a man of suburban Jamil and he cries so much has eyes turned white. Complaining is not the
antithesis of suburb. It's not, if you complain to her, you've cried out and you're sad over something, and you mentioned that even though it happened years ago, that doesn't mean you don't have patience. Those are two separate things. Jakub. Alehissalaam is a man of simple Jamil and he's at the same time. A man of? Yeah safale Yusuf. Oh my Yusuf. What has happened to use of so many years later? That doesn't mean the man doesn't have suffered.
So we shouldn't be insensitive to those who are suffering. Ring, especially in our families, those who are complaining in our families and say, you need to have suburb, you shouldn't be crying, you shouldn't be complaining. You shouldn't be bringing up. What happened years ago? Get over it already. We shouldn't use these kinds of words. We should have sensitivity. To those who are in pain, we cannot feel what somebody else feels. You cannot feel what your son
feels which are daughter. Feels what your spouse feels. You know what your parents. You cannot feel for them. They're entitled to their emotions. It's easy to dismiss them because we see them all the time and we don't, See what the big deal is. You will never be able to see. I will never be able to see inside somebody else's heart. That is that their pain is between them and Allah. They are just as entitled to
that as any other human being. And so, as I conclude this, I come back to the one that is, in fact, suffering from Sadness. The one who has been grieving like, you know, jakub on a salon for you. So what does he tell his sons? He says, yeah, but Nia is Habbo. Fatah has assumed a new sofa. He look, his sons, just yelled at him, you remember? It's not too long ago, they just yelled at him and then he turns to the same sons and says my son's.
Go, go go, he's kind to them again, go and go look for use of Go look for him. My goodness. Go look for use of, they just yelled at you telling you. You're crazy because you're still remembering Yusuf he's dead, get over it. And he is. So optimistic, even though he cries, his eyes have lost sight, he's crying over the name of Yusuf. He still believes in his heart that Allah azzawajal will. I will not lose. Hope use of will be okay. And I'm pretty optimistic, you'll still find him.
Sadness is not the same as Losing hope. They're not, they're not one in the same. He can cry. He can complain but he will still hope that Yusuf alayhi Salam is alive. And so, he says, the hissatsu been used over what he go, find Yusuf and his brother in that order. It's Hannah Le and then he tells them something.
It's amazing that this comes out of his mouth, he says well I think assumable hella in the hula a assume are hella he LL come we'll kafirun and don't you lose hope in the in the relieving mercy of Allah. Don't lose hope that Allah will bring relief to you because people who lose hope and a love bringing relief are none. But the disbelievers only disbelievers and ungrateful, people lose hope in Allah, has Mercy sadness, and losing hope are not the same very easily
when someone is sad. Chat on comes to them and says, there's no hope for you, your life is over. Look at what's happened. This tragedy is the end of it. There is no light at the end of this tunnel. It's easy to drown. Somebody in that pessimism A Believer on the one hand, Allah azzawajal, give him or her the license to express their emotions, to be able to feel the sadness, and shed the tears. And on the other hand, a lot does not let them fall into hopelessness on the other hand.
Once you shed those tears, you come back to Allah and you expect from Allah that he will see you through your problem. No matter how impossible, it seems how possible is it that a child that was thrown in the woods is going to be recovered. 20 years later, that's doesn't seem reasonable. You're just holding onto blind hope. Not being logical. That's why they're yelling at their dad, but he has hope with Allah.
He doesn't let that go. So we also have to have hope in Allah, you know, giving somebody hope is not the same as telling them not to be sad anymore. They're entitled to that. But at the same time to your family members to loved ones. And to yourselves we have to have people that carry hope that Allah will see us through our problems and things will become better. And if we don't do that then to
us to Allah azzawajal. This is the same as what's the difference between you and a disbeliever then. Imagine we think of Iman as someone who having Iman is somebody who believes in Allah. Prays to Allah accepts only one God and disbeliever who denies Allah. These ayaat are about an emotional relationship with Allah emotionally. We are, we are absolutely convinced that we have to put our hopes in him and he will see
our hopes through. We have to be optimistic about Allah and those who are not optimistic about Allah are as good as disbelievers. What's the point of your faith? If you're not optimistic about Allah, if you don't expect good to come from Allah, not only in the next life, but also in this life, some people shutdown comes to them and says, yeah, well, this life is going to be terrible. Anyway, I hope John Dies better. That's the attitude. They develop. This is also.
Yes, this is also hopelessness. Yeah. Whoever Islam is not saying well, I guess I'll see you soon. John de it's okay. No, he said, go look for use of not in the Agora. Go look for him right now. Go in Egypt and go look for him. That's what he's doing.
So we have to have optimism for how Allah will see us through in this life and in the next, and that's part of our relationship with Allah. And if we don't have that and there's not much difference left in our hearts and those and of those who have no faith may, Allah azzawajal, make us suffer. That are sensitive to other people's pain. May Allah azzawajal, make us truly people of suburb and people of Hope in Allah about ecology welcome Phil Colonel
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