From logistics on positioning, to setting the stage before you step in - in this episode I talk you through the basics on how to add shower sex to your intimacy repertoire. Showering together has never been more fun, safe and intimate. Mentioned in this episode: Pleasure Practice Uberlube use code CINDY Shower sex for beginners on the blog ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden JOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good Sex FOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkey VISIT my ...
Sep 03, 2025•7 min•Season 5Ep. 121
Catriona Boffard, a Clinical Sexologist, Psychotherapist, Sexuality Researcher, Podcaster and Author joins me to share her personal experience, and clinical expertise in a discussion about women and ADHD - how it can affect your brain, sex, and life. You’ll hear all about orgasms, medications, sexual cues and solutions to common communication challenges. Catriona Boffard is an expert in the field of sexual behavior, well-being, and mental health, and is particularly passionate about working with...
Aug 20, 2025•55 min•Season 5Ep. 120
Continuing our conversation for the over 50 crowd with helpful tips including transition time, positions, pillows, vibrators and more. Listen in as we get creative with shifts in desire, and tools to accommodate our changing bodies. Learn ways to make sex more interesting. More on these topics Desire styles Embracing your desire How curiosity fuels desire Vaginal estrogen, vaginal moisturizers, and lube for sex Erectile dissatisfaction vs. Erectile dysfunction Sexual adaptations and aids for all...
Aug 06, 2025•16 min•Season 5Ep. 119
Menopause doesn’t mean your sex life is over. In fact, you may find yourself having the best sex of your life! Join me for a chat specifically for the over 50 crowd. Let’s talk about desire, arousal, and changing things up as we change. Your pleasure matters! Visit our episode sponsor Uberlube , use CINDY for 15% off Mentioned in this episode: Guide to lube Perimenopause: Hormones and Symptoms Permimenopause: Treatment Options Everything we get wrong about initiation Two ways affection can deepe...
Jul 23, 2025•11 min•Season 5Ep. 118
Community guest Kaleigh Osadick joins me to share ideas to remove shame around self-expression. We chat about challenging the norms, and reframing what defines sexy. Learn to role play with her scene creation tips, and gain the confidence to be the main character in your sex life! Kaleigh Osadick is an educator, coach and producer with over a decade of experience teaching acting, voice, and embodiment. With a background in theatre, and psychology-through play and voice, she's helped many clients...
Jul 09, 2025•37 min•Season 5Ep. 117
Self-touching or masturbation is one healthy way to be sexual, but certainly not the only way. From investigating your sexual ethics to creating your own sensual playlist, movement, and more - these ideas will help you explore being a sexual person outside of masturbation. Mentioned in this episode: 10 Ideas - no masturbation required My letter to young women Questions to ask yourself with Cyndi Darnell Sensuality on the blog Using your senses for pleasure Sexy playlist Reconnecting to yourself ...
Jun 25, 2025•8 min•Season 5Ep. 116
Throughout life, we all face changes in our body that impact how we experience pleasure with sex. Laura Glazebrook PT, DPT, specializes in neurological injuries and all manner of pelvic health concerns. She joins me to talk about adaptations, tools, toys, and positional aids - for all bodies. Whether you’re post surgery, post injury, or navigating change, this conversation is full of practical tips, products, and resources for all of life’s seasons. Visit our episode sponsor Uberlube and use cod...
Jun 11, 2025•40 min•Season 5Ep. 115
Oral sex is a highly reliable path to pleasure and orgasm for women. This episode is the second most downloaded of all episodes on the show. So, I am bringing it back for new listener's and their partner's. I talk about creating anticipation, building arousal toward crescendo and specific tongue techniques to stimulate the clitoris and vulva. Also hear tips on positioning, when to add variety, and when to stick with consistency. Learn the signs of approaching orgasm, to help your partner go over...
May 28, 2025•17 min•Season 5Ep. 114
Want to slow down and experience more pleasure in your life? Euphemia Russell, a somatic coach and author of Slow Pleasure shares practical ways to focus on sensations, as well as practices to shift your state towards enlivening. Learn to create pleasure habits and increase your capacity for pleasure in and out of the bedroom. Euphemia Russell is a somatic coach and bestselling author of Slow Pleasure . They are trained in somatic coaching, International Coaching Federation, sex-positive educati...
May 14, 2025•47 min•Season 5Ep. 113
Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, a leading expert in sex research, shares her list of ingredients for good sex from her book Good Sex: Stories, Science and Strategies for Sexual Liberation. She walks us through strategies to study our sexual satisfaction as well as tools to increase it. Does frequency make the list? Nope? Tune in to learn what does. Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons is an award-winning associate professor at Emory University’s Rollins School of Public Health and author of Good Sex . As a th...
Apr 30, 2025•34 min•Season 5Ep. 112
I’m bringing back conversations with members of our community where they share their stories and we explore what they have learned about their bodies, sex and pleasure. My new friend and poet, Sarah Jeannine Gawthrop, joins me to talk about her journey of pleasure reclamation through the sacred forest and poetry. Sarah Gawthrop is a queer, neurodiverse poet and editor on the West Coast of Canada. Her writing explores themes of place, identity, and longing, with a focus on how nature shapes our s...
Apr 16, 2025•35 min•Season 5Ep. 111
Answering your community questions: “Do I have to swallow?” “Can I get pregnant from pre-cum?” and “Are wet dreams normal?” I’ll also explain the difference between semen and sperm, why a cum cloth is a good idea and the pregnancy rate with the pull-out method. Mentioned in this episode: Can I get pregnant from pre-cum? Can men be multi-orgasmic ? Do women ejaculate? What is squirting? Cum cloth: Play Towel by Coconu use code 30PLEASURE ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual ...
Apr 02, 2025•10 min•Season 5Ep. 110
Susan Bratton calls herself the “Orgasmanaut.” She’s here to share what she has learned, along with some juicy and practical ways for you to experience more orgasms. As her mentor taught her; with sex - there is always something more! Listen to hear the ingredient list and recipe to follow for more! Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE and use discount code CINDY Susan Bratton , "Intimacy Expert to Millions" is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life ...
Mar 19, 2025•41 min•Season 5Ep. 109
If you want to enhance the intimacy and eroticsm in your relationship - this conversation is for you! Nicolas Velotta, lead relationship researcher for Arya - a couples sexual wellness company, talks about erotic styles and four specific erotic personas. This episode will help you to open a conversation about your turn-on's, desires and preferences with a partner. Learn more about Arya and use discount code CS15 Nicholas Velotta is a relationship scientist and sexologist exploring how technology...
Mar 05, 2025•43 min•Season 5Ep. 108
When I saw Michal Morrison's Sexual Wellness and Pleasure list on Threads, I thought, "Who is this woman and how did she come up with this amazing list?!" Learn about toys, tools, good reads and more to empower you on your wellness and pleasure journey. Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% off Michal Morrison is an Austin-based entrepreneur and the founder of her eponymous brand, Michal Morrison—a cutting-edge skincare company rooted in science and powered by groundbreaking ...
Feb 19, 2025•50 min•Season 5Ep. 107
Just in time for love month, I'm sharing some gift ideas for lovers, friends and something for yourself. I introduce you to Arya, a sexual wellness subscription for couples, focused on reigniting your passion and bolstering communication. You'll also hear ways to explore your sexuality and how to be a permission giver to your friends. This Valentine's Day, let's prioritize pleasure. Mentioned in this episode: ARYA use discount code CS15 Temperature Play Ways to explore your sexuality other than ...
Feb 05, 2025•14 min•Season 5Ep. 106
Do you struggle with anxiety or perfectionism? Therapist Caitlin Harrison joins me for a down to earth conversation about how anxiety shows up in our inner thoughts and the bedroom. You’ll hear discussion about purity culture, sexual shame, and how anxiety can disrupt the arousal process. Learn more about Caitlin Harrison, LMFT More on these topics: When the problematic people are the ones we love Evolving out of purity culture Untangling sexual shame Reclaim your arousal mindset Let's Go Girls:...
Jan 22, 2025•43 min•Season 5Ep. 105
Welcome to season 5 and my book launch! Join me as I share why I wrote Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden. Since we can't all gather together across the globe I am bringing the party to you. More on these topics: Spicy Audio Stories Masturbation: Let's Dig In Uberlube use code CINDY for 15% Foria Arousal Oil Arya use code CS15 ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden JOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good Sex FOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkey VISIT...
Jan 08, 2025•9 min•Season 5Ep. 104
Wrapping up Season 4 with two proven ways affection can deeper your connection. Use the practices of kissing for 6 seconds and hugging for 30 seconds to strengthen your relationships. Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden Permission to Grieve ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden JOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good Sex FOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkey VISIT my website and blog...
Dec 25, 2024•11 min•Season 4Ep. 103
Great sex is a mind and body experience. To truly enjoy the sex you're having - you have to be paying attention to the sex you are having! In this episode, I read you a short excerpt from my book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden focused on strengthening your mind-body connection. My book is available now for pre-order with a special 20% holiday discount through the month of December. Holiday PRE-ORDER discount! More on this topic Better Sex Through Mindfulness Book Review The ...
Dec 11, 2024•12 min•Season 4Ep. 102
Research shows that greater curiosity outside the bedroom leads to higher sexual satisfaction. Sex therapist and author Dr. Emily Jamea joins me to talk about her book Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Learn how novelty works as a key component for fueling your desire. Learn more about Emily Jamea More on these topics Practicing Flow State Sex with Emily Jamea Understanding Your Desire Style Partner desire discrepancies Want better sex? Ask yourself thes...
Nov 27, 2024•39 min•Season 4Ep. 101
Learn the difference between vaginal estrogen, vaginal moisturizers, and lube for sex. This quickie episode outlines what each one is, when their use is appropriate and a few frequently asked questions about each. Bite size education for everyone, but especially for those in perimenopause and the menopause transition. Visit our episode sponsor Uberlube and use code CINDY for 15% off More on this topic: Guide to Lube Lube Lube Lube Perimenopause 101: Hormones and Symptoms Perimenopause 101: Treat...
Nov 13, 2024•9 min•Season 4Ep. 100
Our nervous systems play a critical role in connection and the sensory experience of sex. Aurora Allen, a somatic experiencing practitioner and nervous system educator shares practical steps to connect our bodies and nervous systems for more satisfying sex. Learn more about Aurora Allen More on this topic: Dating Your Body with Aurora Learning to Listen to Your Body Permission to Grieve Reconnecting to Yourself and to Your Body ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden JO...
Oct 30, 2024•48 min•Season 4Ep. 99
Need better ways to initiate sex in your relationship? Vanessa and Xander Marin join me to discuss everything we are getting wrong about initiation and tips to do it better. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he's a regular dude and together they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Tune in and learn to change the communication of initiation in your relationship. Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE - use code CINDY for 15% off Learn more abou...
Oct 16, 2024•42 min•Season 4Ep. 98
Author Brit Barron joins me to discuss her new book, Do You Still Talk to Grandma? When the problematic people in our lives are the ones we love. Listen in as we talk about the role social media plays, our desire for belonging, and the importance of embracing both nuance and boundaries as a way forward. Learn more about Brit Barron More from Brit on the podcast Evolving Out of Purity Culture ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden JOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for ...
Oct 02, 2024•31 min•Season 4Ep. 97
You know that running to do list in your head? It's called the mental load. Although it is often invisible, it has a big impact on our relationships, sexual desire and stress level. Bringing back an impactful episode from the archives with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. You’ll hear communication starters and practical tips to help you ‘off-load’ and free up mental space for a healthier you and strengthened relationships. Learn more about Dr. Morgan Cutlip ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your ...
Sep 18, 2024•36 min•Season 4Ep. 96
Dr. Jenn Gunsuallus joins me to share practical tools for positive relationships. Listen in for her 4 point approach to generous listening and ways to answer bids for connection. Celebrate World Sexual Health Day with these tools that all couples can use to foster healthy connection. Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D. is a Sexologist, Sociologist, Relationship Coach, Author, and International Speaker. More on this topic The Truth About Desire: Mindfulness and the Value of Variety Conversation Starters t...
Sep 04, 2024•43 min•Season 4Ep. 95
Get ready to discover some cheeky and charming ways to turn up the fun and connection between you and a partner! Whether you're looking to bring a little fun into your sexy time or just have a laugh, I’ve got a lineup of games that'll make your bedroom into a playground. More on this topic: The Pleasure Crisis and Why Good Sex Matters Orgasm is a Big Brain Event Temperature Play Exploring Erogenous Zones: Pleasure Practice ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden JOIN my...
Aug 21, 2024•10 min•Season 4Ep. 94
Dr. Debby Herbenick wants us to know that today's trend for rough sex is different than what we might expect. Her research, as detailed in her book Yes, Your Kid: What Parents Need to Know About Today’s Teens and Sex, shows a rise in aggressive and risky behavior, often lacking the crucial communication necessary between partners. Listen in as we unpack the rise in rough sex - specifically choking. We also discuss nude images, digital safety, and the importance of having conversations around all...
Aug 07, 2024•40 min•Season 4Ep. 93
I have lost my beloved. There are hardly any words for me right now. I have tried to give you the few I could manage in the midst of this deep grief over the sudden death of the love of my life. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden JOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good Sex FOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkey VISIT my website and blog...
Jul 24, 2024•4 min•Season 4Ep. 92
