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not me. No, online. Yes, yes. OK,
two totally different things,
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very different things. Here to answer your questions today, aside from Mike Chadick, the pastor of Image Church in San Juan Capistrano, California, we've got Richard Cimino, one of the assistant pastors at Calvary Chapel, Costa Mesa, and Phil Metzger, the pastor of Calvary, San Diego. We've got a full house today. How you guys doing? Doing great. Good to see these guys.
Hi guys, good to see you guys. It's Doctor Phil.
Doctor Phil,
right, not the TV. No, no,
not to be confused. We got, we got the better one.
That's right. Cool. Congratulations on that, by the way, congratulations. Thank you. Yes, thank you, thank you. Very
nice. So, uh, Flor, uh, flicked my forehead to, uh, get this question to us. That sounds
so
funny to say. Uh, her question, when women share the gospel, is it only to women and children? Is it wrong if a man asks me a question about the Bible? Do I redirect him to a man? Phil, what would you say to Floor?
Oh, to floor, I would say absolutely not. I would say preach the gospel to any and all. The Bible is super explicit on this point. That we are to go make disciples of all nations, of all people. So, um, I want our children preaching to men. I want our women preaching to men. I want our men preaching to men. We should all be
sharing the gospel with each other. The Bible is very clear on this point that, um, you know, we should be, uh, you know, encouraging each other with psalms and Hymns and praises and and all these things, and that is not gender specific, neither is preaching the gospel. Um, we need to be hearing the gospel from every possible angle that is out there, and even more so. So, um, no Floriate is not different and preach away.
Like Shattuck. Yeah, I agree with Phil and I, I think what it sounds like looming in the background is 1 Timothy 2:12, where Paul says, I do not permit a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, and I, I think that would be, first of all, there would be an issue of interpretation and then there's also, um, which is related but distinct, an issue of application, and I think Paul's talking about leadership in the church and authority in the church. It's not talking about just whether
we can share, you know, whether women can share. And by the way, technically, that would mean most men can't share with men either, because not all men are going to be pastors, elders in the church either. So, Uh, it would just be a misunderstanding. I mean, again, I can appreciate the zeal. Somebody comes across verse 2 Mimothy 2:12, and they're like, hey, I'm not sure fully
what this means, but I want to do it. I wanna apply it, you know, and I recognize the Bible sometimes is counterintuitive to the way we do things in modern America, which is largely an egalitarian society. So I can appreciate the zeal, but I think if we're gonna Engage in sound exegesis of the text. The situation is
entirely different. We're talking about church leadership, pastors, elders in the church, and not the every person commission, the great commission for everyone to go out and preach the gospel, Richard.
Yeah, and I think of the, the biblical examples of this, um, on the day that Jesus was raised from the dead, the first women to proclaim the good news of the first people to proclaim the good news of the resurrection was the women's right? And they were proclaiming it to a bunch of men. And then we think also there's Priscilla of Priscilla and Aquila, um,
mentoring together. They were mentoring Apollos and then was it Yodia and Sinchi who were the dear friends of Paul, the ladies who were having a little bit of a divisive issue going on. But he remembered them for the, the tremendous role they played in the planting of the church there in Philippi. So there's, there's plenty of example for us to see like that that it should be not a gender stra, you know, siloed kind of a thing. Flor,
thank you for sending us your question through the Kwave.com pastor's perspective page. 888-564-6173 is the number to call if you've got a question for Mike or Richard or Phil, and here's another one that was sent in online. It's from Tina. Hello, I'm a new Christian. I A year and a half, to be exact, born and raised Catholic. After a few years of marital challenges, feeling hopelessness, and maybe some depression, I was invited to church by
a coworker. I came to Christ and relinquished all control, and I'm now born again. It was a drastic change in my heart and how I live. I still strive to be nearer to the Lord, but I feel life has been distracting lately, where I don't rush to the word prayer, and I don't feel the same. I know he never lets us go. Faith is an action. I have to suffer as a Christian, and the Holy Spirit is not an emotion. But any advice for me to continue to grow in my faith and continue to
cling to Him and not stray? What would you say to Tina, Mike? Yeah, um, I'd say that's a common experience. I think a lot of people, especially, well, it's kind of the honeymoon stage we're talking about marriage, and after a few years you're wrestling with stuff. Uh, same thing happens to
many Christians. There's the honeymoon stage, you, you're first born again, you're experiencing all this joy and forgiveness is just so tangible and excitement, send word and And as you mentioned, life kind of hits you and kicks in, and next thing you know, you're not feeling, uh, the way that you were before, but I would also
say that's to be expected. Um, and I think in our culture today, we just, we put too much stock in feelings, and I acknowledge feelings are real, and I'm not saying dismiss them, but at the same time you can't always trust your feelings. Uh, Martin Luther had a a famous little jingle. Feelings come and feelings go, but feelings are deceiving. My warrant is the word of God, not else is worth believing, and I think the word disciple, which we're all called
to be, is related to the word discipline. And I think when you're disciplined, you set aside the feelings. You don't allow feelings to dictate what you're gonna do or where you're gonna go. So as far as not feeling in quotes, rushing to the word and to prayer, you do it anyway. You know, when somebody is unhealthy and they know they need to get healthy, they're eating poorly every day and they're not exercising, they may not feel like, you know,
sticking to some kind of nutrition plan. They may not feel like going out and taking that walk or getting their 10,000 steps. But you know what? When you recognize that something is good and it's a goal, you discipline yourself, you do it anyway. And so while we're totally reliant on God's grace for any meaningful change at the same time, We're called to cooperate with God, and that involves discipline. So just understand feelings. It's a part of being human,
we'll have them. They're great when they're for us, sometimes they're against us, but either way, we set our eyes on Christ and we discipline our, our flesh, our ourselves, and we walk towards the upward call of God in Christ. Phil Metzger.
Yeah, great answer. And I, I'm also thinking too, like, you know, you, you spent a year and a half now in your relationship with Christ, and a part of that growing up is, you know, like learning how we're, we're gonna learn how to, uh, we're gonna be stretched in our faith, I guess is the word I'm getting at. And so, you know, there's this, and I think, Mike, you're so right that like, we, we have to learn how to not like rely upon a feeling alone. And we also have to learn how to like really
like grow in faith. And so those two kinds of things work tandem where, you know, the Lord isn't gonna let you just feel something necessarily, but that doesn't take it to be not true. I think of the book of First John where we're told like, we gotta keep growing up, right? We, we're gonna grow in our faith, and that can't be. Uh, directly connected or linked to simply, like, I feel something. So it's like, if God says it as we're growing in our faith, if God says it, can I believe it?
Can I trust that what he says is true? And so that's a part I, I would almost say to this person, like, it's almost like a compliment if you could take it for that, like, that God's putting you in this phase now where you're not gonna just get to feel this thing, but you have to really trust him and believe Him. And that, that's a sign of growth. That's not necessarily a sign of a problem, but a
sign of growth. And see it that way, that like, OK, Lord, you don't want me to just, you know, a baby, a baby lives every day on how they feel, but, uh, somebody that's growing and maturing is learning that you can't rely upon that. And that's where faith becomes a real big part of your life. So, I would say congrats and welcome to the normal Christian life where we just We have to trust the Lord in faith, and we don't get to, I mean, I wish I could just
feel it all the time. That would be awesome. That would make things, I think, almost easier, but the truth of the matter is it would actually diminish faith. It would diminish a mature relationship. We cannot live only on those things. We do have to grow up. So welcome to kind of the grown-up version of Christian faith.
Richard, yes, and, and I wanna, I, I do truly hope you're encouraged to know that each of us here are saying like we're all in the process of growing in grace and in the knowledge of our Lord and Savior. And when we look at the at the gospel accounts, one of the things that's so remarkable is that Jesus is the initiator, but he's also the one who continues to bear with them in their lapses of faith along the way. Um, I love how God is just so good to let us see the, the, the best and the worst
of his people and the strengths and the weaknesses of them. Um, the same guy who when he saw Jesus walking on the waters, there was only one in the boat that said, if that's you, can I get out and walk with you? It was Peter. But we're so quick to think of Peter as denying Jesus, right? So Peter is this man that has this, he has this this. Spectrum of where his faith is just absolutely radically reckless
in in a beautiful sense. And then other times it's like, no, no, no, I gotta, I gotta take this into my own hands, right? And um and then he would willingly for fear out of fear, deny that he even knew Jesus Christ. And at the end he denied him with a curse. So, but he, he becomes one of the pillars of the church. So, as Phil was saying, Doctor Phil was saying, welcome, welcome to Rio Christianity 101. Yep.
Yeah, one of my favorite lines that means so much to me personally is Mark 9:24, when the father of the sick child cries out, Lord, I believe, help my unbelief. And I think he's acknowledging that every single one of
us does not have perfect faith. Even genuine faith is mingled with doubt, with wrestlings, with conflicts and all that, and And the beauty is that's where growth becomes possible, like Phil said, I think ironically, while I would wish everyone feels like doing the right thing, it just makes it easier, but easier doesn't always mean better. That's something I think we, especially in a modern world of comfort where comfort.
is king. Everybody wants to be comfortable about everything. And I think at the same time, if growth is a value to you, then sometimes comfort is an enemy of growth. And so we have to acknowledge sometimes when we're most uncomfortable, we're simultaneously in the moment of greatest growth. Tina, thank you for sending in your question through the Kwave.com pastor's perspective page. And now let's go to the phones. We're gonna be here for about 45 more minutes. We'd
love to hear from you. 888-564-6173 is our number, and here is Joe, who's watching us on YouTube in Riverside. Hey there, Joe. Welcome to Pastor's Perspective. How are you doing, uh, Brian, how are you doing, pastors? Oh yeah, and, uh, Luke 11:24. Jesus says, we talked about an evil spirit, leaves a person and goes into the desert searching for rest, finds them, comes back with, finds a place clean or the person, you know, clean and swept, and it returns to his former home.
With 7 other evil spirits.
So is this a parable just about what happens to certain people that aren't staged or, or what's the meaning of this parable, you think? Phil,
we'll start with you. What do you say?
Yeah, sure. I think it's not parable as much as like warning. Um, I think we're talking about demonic possession here and the demonic realm, and of course I think it does have implications in the other realms. So I think where we could be kind of strict literalists and say, no,
it only relates to demon possession. I think there there may be other applications to this as well, but in context, we're talking about like someone, you know, think of the concept of somebody who You know, um, there's like a demon possession, and then, but then they, they, there's a reform in their life. There's a, there's moral reform or ethical reform. And so they seem and feel like they get better, right? Oh, I, I made, I made good moral decisions and so I'm
getting better, but really, nothing changed. Thus, they remained open. To greater demonic possession, right? And so think of it like this, like when you put your faith in Jesus Christ, you are locking down a part of your life that only God He owns exclusive. He is master, he is lord, and
there's no, there's no room. Now, there's, there's, there's certain theologies that would disagree with my take on this, but my, my, my position, and I, I, I live in the realm of position that many agree with, that those who are born again cannot be demon possessed. Uh, we might be a demon, um, influenced. In other words, I can still believe lies that the devil speaks to me. I, I, I, I, tragically,
I do. Um, I listen to lies that the world are speaking, and those can be demonic and so on, but the idea of actually like being taken over, controlled, and, you know, possessed by the devil is not something that believers, people who have Have the Holy Spirit dwelling in their life, there's no room for the demonic where the Holy Spirit dwells. But the person who brings like a moral reform or ethical reform,
that they didn't close any doors. There's nothing that's changed, and thus they might think they have, and I think that's to what Jesus is speaking about. And yet, so then they're open still to greater demonic possession, even though they felt like on the outward, they were doing, they were doing well. So I'll let the other guys speak into that, but I think that's the clearest context of that passage. Mike.
Yeah, I totally agree with Phil and I think just broadening the scope a little bit. So Jesus has cast out a demon. And then people began doubting Jesus and saying the only way he was able to do that was by the power of Beelzebel, by the power of demons, he cast out demons, and I think there's a broader warning here, uh, to those that reject Jesus' ministry. There's a great danger
in doing that. By rejecting Jesus, you're opening yourself up, um, to all kinds of demonic influence and attack, and Jesus can come in. And, you know, he can perform mighty miracles and science, but if they themselves do not receive Christ and His messianic ministry, then they're opening themselves up to all kinds of demonic attack. And I think it, it highlights the biblical idea that there's no such thing as spiritual neutrality.
I think there's actually a lot of people I've talked to where they'll say, I'm not a Christian, I'm not born again, but I'm not a bad person, right? Like, I, I don't worship Satan, I don't kill chickens on Halloween and, you know, do all that kind of stuff. Uh, so therefore, I'm like, I'm kind of this neutral person, and I, I try to tell them there's no such thing. In the Bible is spiritual neutrality, you know, um, they say nature abhors a vacuum, the human heart abhors a vacuum,
and as a matter of fact, it never is. It's either full of things that are not of God or it's gonna be full of God. Those are really your two options. Regardless of how morally reformed a person might look on the outside, if they're not born again by God's spirit, they're open and susceptible to demonic influence. Richard.
Yeah, I, I love how Paul says, don't you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit? Um, we were, we were washed in the blood of Jesus. We, we are, we, he made it possible for us to be indwelt by God, the Holy Spirit, and The Bible talks about Christ dwelling in our heart by faith. We have, we have become like a living temple, right? Jesus did not redeem us, by us with a price, um, to get a timeshare, right? He he's not sharing the
real estate with any with any anyone. When he comes to live inside, that's why I, I, I really do believe like, you know, yeah, I can be horrifically oppressed. And I can get to the point where because of demonic oppression, I could have some real mental issues, and I could have some things start to crumble there, or perhaps take make weird decisions and bad choices, how to respond to these things that are going on.
That are really destructive in nature, but I can't say that it's because I'm like that that that demon possessed guy and Ghedera, you know, possessed by the the demon called Legion, who's literally tearing it himself, like he's not in control. He's not the one running his body uh this this this legion of demons is. So, um, I think it's really important for us to step back and, you know. How fine a line is it? How close does it get to where, you know, demons getting to where like
they're controlling you. I, I just don't, I just would rather take the thing like, no, I've been purchased. I, I'm, I'm off the market, if you would, that house is now sold,
for sure. Amen. Joe, thanks for your phone call today here on Pastor's Perspective. 888-564-6173 is our number. Richard Cimino, Phil Metzger, and Mike Chaddick here. And here is Mary on the telephone calling in from Anaheim with a question on generational curses. What's your question, Mary?
Uh, yes, I've been battling this for a long time. Um, what I'm wondering is, Adam and Eve, uh, were under a curse and um Uh, a lot of us have traits and things from our family of familiar curses. Um, I just don't understand. I thought all that was covered under the blood, um, you know, like the healing of the blind man. They ask who's responsible, and, uh, they were told, um, for God's glory. But, you know, um, I have a lot of physical weaknesses of my parents and personality traits and uh.
I'm sure you guys have come up, you know, and studied a lot about this. What is your opinion? OK,
Mike. Yeah, well, certainly, I mean, again, different people mean different things when they talk about generational curses. For some people, it's kind of a superstitious thing like there's this haunting spiritual presence over my family, and it ruins all of our lives, but not other people. Um, I'd certainly say the Bible teaches that the entire human race has inherited the curse of sin. Um, that's what makes the second Adam Christ necessary, is
to redeem us from the curse of sin. So, in that sense, that's why all humans, even, even if you're a Christian, you still get sick one day we're still gonna die, all that kind of stuff. Sin still is a curse in that sense, right? Um, and then I think like you pointed out, um, there's also, and again, this isn't even um supernatural per se, but obviously the kind of environment a child grows up in is gonna have an impact on them.
So you talk about like alcoholic homes, abusive homes, and things like that, and, you know, and that's not so much like a supernatural curse per se, although certainly there could be demonic influence involved, but, you know, we tend to repeat what we see. Uh, and that might seem strange because if you grow up in, in, in an alcoholic or abuse home, you, you would think, well, gosh, you more than anyone would know not to do that, but studies show that statistically,
that's actually not what happens. You repeat what you see. So if you grew up in abusive home. Alco um chances are very good, that's what you're gonna do. So I think if that's what you mean, Mary, and I know some people do mean this uh by this term, of course, there's that impact, but I would even say whether it's these more kind of natural curses, whether it's the ultimate original cursive.
Sin on the entire world, by the way, even the earth is growing out, creation is growing out under under the weight of the curse of sin, uh, humanity is crying out for, for salvation, for resurrection, for new heaven, for new earth and all that. And even insofar as there's, you know, supernatural or demonic attacks on, you know, families or or whatever it is, Christ rescues us. From all of that, that is what is so beautiful.
Christ didn't just triumph over sin, but he also triumphed over the powers and principalities and forces of darkness in heavenly places. And so I think really what Christ is doing is he's triumphing over all of that, and I think some of that we can experience immediately today by professing faith in Christ and receiving. The work of the Holy Spirit and at the same time, we're ultimately promised victory in the end and the resurrection
and in the life to come. So that's my take, but would love to hear what the guys have to say. I have a Phil, do you think curses is the best word to use because, you know, that conjures up. You know, images of witch doctors or something putting a curse on you. I mean, so is that the best word in our translations?
The fact that you use the next word of conjures up. Yeah, I know, yeah, no pun intended. No, it's, it's, no, it's a really good point, Brian, because that's, that's exactly the point that, gosh, you know, it's like words, every word has meaning and It may not be the same meaning to me as it is to you, so it's so important to to define our our terms. And I, I don't think the term curse is the best word to use anymore in what we are talking about. Let me tell you why.
I think it's for a biblical reason. I think we need to keep the word curse explicitly defined to the concept of the the curse of sin. And that is and uh that is a that is a universal curse that all of creation is under, uh, because of sin. And so when we say curse, we can confuse the concept. I think it's better to include curse for sin. And then I think when you talk about what we're, what, and I think that was a that was a great answer. It was.
Really, really complete. I think that there's, there are better words. I, I don't know that I know what is a better word at the moment, because you do have like psychological, or like, like Mike's example of like, I was raised in a home, this is what I learned, and I've repeated that. I, I parent the way I was parented, even if I didn't want to do those kinds of things.
I think even physical traits, genetically, I would, I would account to that as a part of Universal curse of sin, that there are genetic traits that I might carry into my life. So, uh, you know, cancer gene or, uh, fetal, you know, weak bones or, or whatever it might be, you know, um, these things can be transferred not as a generational curse, but as a part of the sin curse that will one day be redeemed by the blood of Jesus in heaven.
Forever, we'll all be, you know, in that place. But, um, I also like, I think that too, that, that, the example that she used, and I really appreciate it, is a reminder that there are some sins, right? This person, why is he born this way? And Jesus said it wasn't his mom or his dad. That means it's just, there is just a, a universal curse. Sometimes it is that, and Sometimes it is not. There is no way to pinpoint. It is this thing. And that's what we all want
to do because it makes us feel better. But that's a shame tactic. That's not the, that's not a grace tactic. A shame tactic says, this is why you are the way that you are. But a grace thing says, you know what? You can be redeemed no matter what, whatever it is, God wants to bring redemption. Richard Tomino. And, and I think, um, one person would like this
sin can have generational consequences, right? And um how, how certain home environments and think of extended family things and but I do think in the same way. That if if there's a um.
If there is within a family circle or within a neighborhood, um, you, you may even think of this in terms of gang life, you know, how dark and really just wicked stuff happens in those things like Really, I think there are demonic entities that have a stronghold there because it's within that context that they have this ongoing presence and influence within those things and you you just look at people that are that are caught in that and you can think you you just go, well,
this is just an ongoing thing. This has gone on for decades within this.
Particular collection of human beings, right? And you can see it in pockets, but I think there's, it, it begins with somebody somewhere, maybe some 2 or 3 people being very, very open, uh, directly to demonic influence and it but it doesn't mean like now this thing is just passed on and you can never escape it, but you can see that there's a, it's living under a big tent if you would, and, and then and again the generational consequences I think is a very real thing too, so yeah.
Yeah, and if we're, if we really wanna, uh, I think part of the problem too is the English word curse. I think like. Brian and Phil were pointing out in like Conjuring, it has all these, you know, kind of contemporary connotations, but if you were to get your definition from the Bible blessings and cursings, those terms are actually covenantal terms. It actually relates to the idea of covenant. So curses are
those penalties that come directly. There are consequences, as it were, of being outside the covenant or breaking the covenant and blessings are the benefits and the joys and the fruit. Of participating in the covenant and walking according to the covenant. So yeah, the Bible just has, it's all about relationship, ultimately is what it is. And so again, if anyone's worried about any kind of a curse at all, the answer is the blessing that is found through the new covenant in Jesus Christ.
It's brilliant. What do you think, Mary? Wow, you guys blow my mind. So many things. I never thought of. Amen, amen. Because, you know, I look like my mother. I have all her, you know, the tendency for diabetes. I mean, so many different things. It's say my personality is like my mother, blah blah blah, blah blah. And um, anyway, uh, yeah, I'm not under the curse. I rebuke it, you know.
That's right. I don't curse per se, witchcraft. I mean, just the genealogical, you know, tendencies and whatnot. And illnesses, but thank you guys so much. God bless you. I listened to you day and night. So you come on at 3 o'clock in the morning also, and I'm up many times and I'm listening to you again. Yes,
and just to be clear to everyone listening, we are not live at 3 o'clock in the morning cause, uh, none of us could be, could sound that awake at 3 a.m. Uh, John Watanabe is the only one who could sound that alive and awake at 3 o'clock in the morning, but, uh, We do our best at 3 o'clock in the afternoon, and we are here for another 30 minutes to answer your questions. 888-564-6173 is the number. We've got Mike Chaddick, the pastor of Image Church and San Juan Capistrano. San
Juan Capistrano. That's how I heard somebody say it one time. Uh, where can people find out more about your church, Mike? Uh, they can find us on Image Church OC.com, meet in San Juan Capistrano, Sunday mornings, 10 a.m. Marco Forster Middle School, and yeah, just we're a church all about the word, so decided to preach the word and get to fellowship with these guys here. It's amazing. Yeah, Phil Metzger, the pastor of Calvary San Diego, how can people find out about your church?
Yeah, we're on, we're on the interwebs, uh, yeah, we're, we're all over the, you know, in, uh, CalvarySD.com or Instagram is maybe our more common Calvary SD.
And Richard Cimino, one of the assistant pastors at Calvary Chapel Costa Mesa.
What's new
at Calvary, Richard?
Gosh, exciting stuff. uh, Char series in the Gospel of Mark on Sundays has been so rich and so deep and, um, just personally just watching the church just grow in so many ways it's great, it's great.
Yeah, Char's teaching
has been so rich and so deep.
We gave him the day off today just because he needed to like rest his brain. Just go relax, man. Uh, but we'll hopefully have you back in the studio next week. All right, it is break time. We'll be back with more of your questions. Laurie, you will be next when we come back here on Pastor's Perspective and everyone else, call in 888-564-6173. You've got half an hour. We're back on Pastor's Perspective. Thanks for listening
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Laurie. Hi, hi, Brian and thank you, all the pastors for taking my call. Um, yeah, I'm, I'm just, I'm looking for maybe just some guidance and, and some prayer. Um, I've called a few times before in the last couple of years. My husband passed away 2 years ago, I'm sorry, uh, 5 years ago, and um, I've been um just living by myself in my home cause we had COVID and all that in 2020 and um I have some uh a lot of physical problems
right now. I, I'm gonna have to have spine surgery and some different things and I'm having to sell my home that we've lived in for um almost 41 years and moving into an independent uh assisted living facility until I can, you know, have my surgery in rehab and I'm just um Just feeling really lost and um. Not quite sure, you know, what, I know, I mean, you know, I'm going from a small 3 bedroom house to a tiny, tiny little one-bedroom apartment and I'm just having trouble.
Like letting go of things to bring that I know I can't bring and um just uh. Mental and emotional part of all of it.
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Yes, and 38 years of being with my husband. Yeah.
Mike, what do you say to Laurie? Yeah, Laurie, I'm, I'm so sorry. I mean, obviously just incredibly difficult losing your husband five years ago, you know, living in one pla I mean, that's the irony. You were blessed with 41 years in a place, you know, I mean, many people, you know, have never lived in a place longer than a couple years or something. So ironically, having been so blessed with the 41 years is the very reason it's so hard.
To, to move on and to make that change. And I think you need to just receive God's grace on yourself because of course this would be hard, right? 41 years. I mean, this, that's your reality, that's where everything is. This is, you know, it, it's what your life looks like to you and that's changing and I think that
is naturally uh scary. I, I think naturally it Um, all the emotions, you know, that come with that, memories that come with that, and then even to top that all off, you know, decisions, practical decisions that you got to make in moving forward. And, um, I'm sure the guys each have a bit of wisdom and encouragement they can share with you. I mean, the, the one just super simple basic thing I want to say is that this can be an incredible time of fellowship with Jesus.
And you know, we were talking about. Yesterday in that seemingly just paradoxical verse in James chapter 1 verse 2, my brethren, count it all joy when you go through various trials, and we are saying how counterintuitive that is, because trials by definition, wouldn't be joyful. It if it was joyful, it's not a trial, right?
You know, so how in the world am I with a rational mind supposed to look at extreme trials like the one you're going through with joy, and I think it's because you get more of Jesus, you know, because I think the truth is as good as having a home is and being in the same place and having,
you know, not just even possessions, right? You know, some people get sort of superficially attached to things, but then You can, there's a lot of meaning behind, you know, the things that we have, you know, who we got them with, where we got them, how long they've been there,
the person who put them in that place. And so, you know, you're gonna be going through as you go through boxes, as you go through drawers, you're also going through the inner workings of your own heart, and you're starting to see like how, how, you know, where are the strings of my heart attached to. And I think more and more as you do that.
You'll start to have more and more opportunities just to give more and more of your heart to Jesus, because I do think it's natural, and I, I think to some extent inescapable that, you know, we become attached to things in this life. And, you know, I mean, I can speak in bits and pieces of, you know, my dad died 23 years ago at 57 years old, we had to help my mom.
Go through all her stuff, um, you know, years ago, we literally up and sold everything we owned and only took what would fit into our minivan to move halfway across the country, and just the process of selling things that you didn't even think mattered to you, and all of a sudden you're crying, you know, and you're like, what in the world is this? And, and I just, it was incredibly hard or to, you know, watch my watch my wife just bawling her eyes out over something we could not.
Take with us, but had so much meaning for her, and it just really became an an opportunity, a time for sweet fellowship with Jesus. So I just want to encourage you. Um, in no way diminishing the struggle and the difficulty and the challenge, but at the same time, I want to encourage you this can be maybe the greatest spiritual season of growth you've ever been through in your life.
And I just want to encourage you and just encourage you to, to pray that and to accept that and ask Jesus to meet you where you are day by day in what you're going through. Phil Metzger.
Thank you. Yeah, yeah, that's, that's really great, Mike, and yeah, Laurie, I mean, obviously this is terrible, it's terrible what you're going through, and um I, I totally echo, just totally echo that I wanna get to pray for you as well, but I was also thinking of something else too that like um You know, I mean, because there's gonna be so much
displacement and so much of like loss and all. I think there's a place for us in our lives and it's sad that this is the reality that, you know, we seek to avoid a lot, but it's, it's kind of this like holy reality of mourning. And, you know, I almost think like, you know, parting with things that have meant so much, the fact that like And I, I mean, I, I think I'm agreeing with, with Mike on this on such a deeper, to such a deep level of like, you don't have to be
happy about any of this stuff. Like you're allowed to mourn and you should mourn. Like, biblical mourning is a really like sacred thing in the scriptures, and the idea of, um, sackcloth and ashes, the idea of like weeping, and it's not, you're not weeping over something you've done, but what's been doing, what's happening to you. And so I, I wonder if there's not like a sacred place for like mourning the loss of that thing.
You don't have to just immediately jump to, oh, none of these things matter anyways, I'm gonna be in heaven. That's true, you are gonna be in heaven. The good news is this is as lousy as it's ever gonna get. But the bad news is, it still really stinks, and
it's terrible, and it's really hard. And so to be allowed to like walk through that and be like, I'm, I'm giving this thing up that has meant so much, and being able to mourn over that, and to commit that to the Lord and, and have those honest conversations with God about this, like, this is unbearable. This is impossible. And I think in that sacred space, God's gonna meet you in ways that like none of our words will,
will ever be able to. There'll be something sacred about the presence of God through every item that you, you, you, you hand over through the move to a new place that isn't where you want to be, to all those, you know, no one can take, no, no thing can take memories from you. Those are in you. And so, um, you know, you're gonna carry those and, and it is a time of mourning, and it's OK to mourn. Yeah, it's OK
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anymore, Richard? Right, right. Um, Laura, do you, do you have a church family? Um, not really. No, I, I haven't been able to like drive for almost a year now because of my, you know, my physical problems and neuropathy, things like that. Um, I used to belong to a church, um, but it's been many years since I've gone.
Um, all my, my siblings and their spouses, um, are all, um, you know, very devout Christians and, and they're helping me, um, and, you know, telling me how great this is gonna be, which I, I know it will be and it'll be better for me. Um, I'm just You know, but, but I do have a Bible. I mean, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I have that. I just don't, and, you know, they, they have, uh, I guess, you know, kind of church here on, on Sundays, um, and so I'm gonna, I've only been here one week, but I'm still kind of going back and forth to my house bringing things. So I wanna, you know, maybe by next weekend, um, attend
the service here that they have on Sundays. Well, that's great. Well, Um, it's good to hear that you have siblings that that are followers of Jesus, and it kind of makes this, it, it, it, it amplifies, um, the reality of the importance of the family of God. Like you have, you have biological family that is a part of the family of God and um. You know, and there are so many verses, Laurie, in the New Testament that uses this one another language to
love one another, right? And to comfort one another. And so besides the fact that they're they're they're your siblings by. By biologically, it's there's this deep deeper thing that happens and that can happen between you and them because they're they're your they're your spiritual brothers and sisters as well. And I would really encourage you to lean into that.
Um, you know, um, my wife and I, her, her mom and dad, they're, they're in their 90s now and they're, my wife and her sisters are starting to see the realities of like, you know, what, how, how are we going to care for them and um. The fact that like no matter where you're staying, no theoretically, you know, in the best sense, hoping the best, nobody's
gonna love you more than family, right? And, and, and biblically, no one should love you more than your brothers and sisters in Jesus and because we had the bond is we're we're we're blood related by the blood of Jesus. And we're in dwelt by the by the same God, the Holy Spirit, you know. So because of that unity when Paul talks about maintaining the unity of the spirit, doesn't say create the unity of the spirit, but maintain it because by the virtue of the new birth, you
are indwelled by God, the Holy Spirit. And so that family connection with your brothers and sisters in Jesus is so important at times like this, because they can weep with you, they can rejoice with you. Um, they can encourage you, they can be there and, and it really, it's, it's meaningful, and they, you know, it's not like you're, everything that's been expressed about the reality of what you're going through was so wonderful, so clear and so true.
And they're the they they're gonna be the ones that are gonna let you feel what you're feeling and walk with you through those feelings and and be there for you in those feelings. And in in time, you'll look back and go, well, the Lord was with me every step of the way, every step of the way. And I, and I know he is. I know he is. Praise the Lord.
Yeah, I just wanna, I feel like I should just circle back to what Phil said in highlight. I think um A lot of Christians who mean well want to rush through the grief to get to the joy, and I think in a way that actually undermines the joy, um,
and it undermines the sanctification process that actually happens through grief. Um, you know, scholars differ, but A rough percentage, I'd say 40% of the Psalms are actually laments, and that's so important because a lot of Christians think you got to get past mourning and grief in order to worship, but lament teaches us we can
worship in and through our grief. And so I think, well, it's great that your family, I think you mentioned this pointed out, oh, hey, it's all gonna be great for you, which again, uh, that may be true, but at the same time. And not saying they're doing this, but just want to hammer home the point for anyone else that might be listening. Um, we don't want to overlook the season of grief and suffering and mourning people are in by merely pointing to, well,
one day you'll be over this. Oh, you're, you know, your family died and you, you're they're in heaven, and one day you will be too. OK, yes, but here I am right now, you know, and, um, we want people to understand that.
The scripture says, the Lord is nearest the brokenhearted, and I think learning to walk with Jesus right now, not simply looking forward to, oh, you know, at some point I'll see the reason behind all this, and the, the result, no, the beauty is right now with all the grief, with the mourning, with the struggle, God is with you and you can actually worship, um, I think maybe even the most profound way is actually right where you are, not on the other side.
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Laurie? Love to, yep, love to. Father, I, I wanna thank you for the The the sincerity and the honesty in which Laurie reached out and shared her heart and what she's going through, and we, we do pray, Lord, and in, in our way, Lord, we just wanna acknowledge the pain and the sorrow and the loss. And there's no greater comforter.
Than you, Jesus. There's just no greater comforter and, and just uh yeah, echoing what was just said, Lord, I, I love that you, you're OK with our grief, like you invite our grief, not so that you can just say it's gonna be OK, but to allow us to just, there's a healing that happens in our lament, and I just pray for that for Laurie. I do pray for the right people to come around her to support her, to be with her.
To encourage her, Lord, I pray that if she's in a new place, that maybe she would be able to find a new level of fellowship that would not replace what's missing, but would just be, it could be sweet in its own way for this season of her life. above all, Lord, just help her to remember that she's here and she's alive and that you have, you have purpose for her life still, and that she's she matters and she's valuable. Bless her, bless her, bless her, in Jesus' name, Amen. Amen.
Amen if everybody can keep Laurie in your prayers. Thanks for calling in today on Pastor's Perspective. And now here's Mark in San Diego. How can we help you today, Mark?
Oh boy. Well, I'm, I'm got a real doozy. I wanted to just say something real quick before just trying to set it up. One night I was with the guy that 30 years ago, I stepped out of my car and said, Jesus, if you're real, come into my life. I really meant it. But, and, but then, you know,
all hell broke loose, of course. And, uh, but then one night, probably a couple of years after that, I felt the power of the Holy Spirit inside of me, and I'm saying this for a reason because I had told the girl, your girl there, that I felt an evil presence even recently, like it was inside of me, and I'm thinking, how if I'm safe. But this night I felt the Holy Spirit and Jesus, like he was there, and I, I said, thank you for saving me. I believed it. I actually threw my
arms around myself and said, Thank you, Jesus. I've never felt love like that in my whole life ever. And, and I'm 75 years old, but doggone it, it's been,
and this isn't the only time this has happened. I felt like there's an evil spirit or presence inside of me and I I'm going and I'm going, and I'm trying to, you know, Pray to get it out and you know, uh, put on the form of God, you know, and I've always hung on to Romans 10:13, but I don't even know if that's enough, so I'm going to shut up and let you talk. So I, I, I'm afraid to hear what you might say, but I need to at least throw it to you.
So you're just wondering if you're really a Christian? Are you really saved because you feel this evil spirit? Mike, what do you say to Mark?
And it's horrible. I'm totally against it. I didn't lose it to her, although one day, I had that same kind of feeling, and I lashed out at one of my friends on the on the radio that I work with, and I realized, holy cow, what are you doing? So I backed way down and I thought, what is, where is this coming from?
Yeah, I mean, I think, again, What Paul says in Romans 10:9, If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and you believe in your heart that God has raised him from the dead. You will be saved, and I, I believe that, right?
And so if you've done that, then you're a Christian, you're a believer, and God's spirit indwells you and you, as I think, I think it was Fo that mentioned it earlier, you can't be possessed by an evil spirit if you are indwell, uh, as Richard said earlier, because you're the temple of the Holy Spirit and God is a jealous God and he doesn't share his temple with another spirit. So and, and once again just reaffirming the idea that a Christian can't.
You know, be possessed or anything like that. However, um, it's remarkable how close to that it can feel though for Christians at times, whether it's Galatians 5, the struggle Paul talks about between the flesh and the spirit, and how there's a kind of an inner battle going on and and battles can get pretty heated and pretty intense.
We can actually even see it in our And ourselves as genuine Christians, there's a part of you that's like, no, God, you know, I don't wanna do that, and, and I, I, you know, it's kind of opposing the things God wants to do, and yet there's a part of you it's like, no, I wanna do this, so there's a real battle going on, and I, and I think scripture helps us understand that there's a real uh battle taking place even even internally. Now the great thing
is we already have victory. We can know that. We're not gonna lose this battle because it's ultimately Christ, the David, who's gonna have total victory on our behalf, but at the same time, we participate in that battle. We're called to put on the armor of God, there'd be no need for armor if there's no battle. So I'd
say that that's a normal thing. And then of course, um, we do believe that there's demonic entities, there's things out there, and that while they can't possess Christians, they can certainly afflict them.
And I think if you combine those two things, so imagine, you know, demonic force not possessing you, but nevertheless afflicting you, oppressing you, and at the same time, your own, you know, the, the flesh, the sin nature that's still there, kind of rising up, it can be a very, very scary and difficult thing, but once again, greater is he who is in you than he who is at work in the world, you can still trust even in those moments. Once again, if you're in Christ, you can go through.
All kinds of hell, all kinds of battles, many wonderful saints, many Christians have. I, you know, I read a lot of Martin Luther and some of his stories. He's got some crazy stories and battles with the devil and throwing stuff at the devil from across the room and, and even rebuking himself because he's experiencing his sin nature sort of rising up against testifying to Christ, which he knows
he he must do. And so, just to kind of share with you, I, I do think that happens uh to believers and is not a reason, um. To say that you're not a Christian, yeah, Phil.
Yeah, so true, and I, I think we, we definitely, especially in like the western world, we have a tendency to, um, understate kind of the, the reality of the devil and of Satan and of of demonic influence, and it is a fine line between, you know, is, is one possessed versus is one just allowed themselves to be so open to That kind of influence and, you know, it's interesting because Mark, the,
the question you're asking, we can't answer. We could tell you what the Bible says on this topic, like, this is what it means to be born again, and then you're the one that is, it's like you and God that are gonna like, you know. Discern that, like, if you put your faith in Christ, and, but that doesn't mean that there's not toil and stress
and difficulty and trial and wrong decisions. I mean, uh, uh, sometimes I've discovered that I am the worst, my own worst enemy, and I convince myself of things at times. And so, um, you know, you, you sound like someone to me who, I mean, again, I don't know you, just hearing you talk for 30 seconds. But I hope you're in like some form of like good Christian fellowship, um, a men's group, uh, connected into
your church. There can be a level of accountability, cause I think it's one thing to like, share something like this. But then there's, you need people in your life who, who will call out the, the bowl on this and say, Hold on a second. I know you're asking this, but I know that you've been doing this and this and then whatever it is. But we, we don't need to just be able to ask questions on a radio station. You seem to me like A person who needs to really be, like, call in,
keep calling in. We love these questions, but I wanna, like, as a part of your question, I wanna kind of push back at you and say, make sure you're a part of an accountability group where you're getting some, you're getting some response to where you're at with people who know you and are praying for you.
Mike. Yeah, I, I think that's such a, a good point that Phil raised, because again, I think, you know, Satan is pictured as a predator like a roaring lion, and if you ever watch, you know, National Geographic or Nature Channel like I do, um, these predators will always try to separate a sheep from the flock, you know, or
an elk, uh, from the rest. They kind of pick them off and I, I think, um, to Phil's point, that's when people are at their most vulnerable and whether it's like, oh, we're engaging in Things we shouldn't do, but even if we're not, but we're not in fellowship, we're more vulnerable. And so I think when we continue doing the things God's called us to do, the basics, we're in the word of God daily.
We're seeking the Lord in prayer. We are engaging and participating in the fellowship of the saints, even when those moments of doubts come. Oh, I had this experience, and I'm not sure I'm a child of God and as a good Protestant, I still say, well, you're saved by grace through faith alone, and yet. genuine faith is never alone. There's works and fruit, and so I think as, as we're participating in these things, they also become means of grace that confirm our faith
is genuine. They're not the means of our salvation, but at the same time, they're very important. I think sometimes Protestants, uh, kind of underemphasize that side of it. They can be very reassuring for us in moments of doubt or struggle. Yeah,
Richard, yeah. Yeah, I, I, I just, here's something that comes to my mind, um, so many times, um, we are saved to community. We have not been saved to just we can't, we, we can't conflate the the nature of the gospel and the saving work of Jesus and all of its implications and all of its outworkings with the individualism of our American culture. And I think sometimes we think we can.
We can, we can, we can see those things as compatible and nobody, we don't disappear, you know, we don't lose ourselves in in a sense of like I'm, I, I can no longer be this individual that I am, but we find that we're saved to be immersed as individuals in a collection of, of believing men and women who they're with us in our lives and they watch us and they hear us and they know us and they, you know, some one of the things sin does is it blinds us.
And it blinds us to how blind we are, and that's why I'm thankful that, you know, my wife has eyes that sees me in ways that I don't see me, and I have friends that will look at, you know, I'll say something, they'll look at me and go, let's run that again, you know, community is really important. Mark,
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